My 14 month old demonstrates some of these behaviours when with his cousin who is 6 months older. I've found that being in play groups at day care has made a world of difference to his mood and personality. Plus he was just getting a bit bored and at that age where he needed constant activity and entertainment which he was just not getting enough of at home. He's learnt great patience at day care and such a happy boy now. If he does have a temper tantrum I take him to a calm spot and have a couple of Minutes of one on one cuddle time which always calms him down. Great book recommendation is calm parents happy kids - has great tips and tricks for all things behavioural! All the best!!!
Ah the TERRIBLE TWOS... I heard a lot about it, but actually going through it is a whole different ball game. 😩 In this video I talk about and ask for your advice on how to deal with toddler temper tantrums, an extreme case of separation anxiety and how to help your toddler welcome a baby into the family.
My brother had the same problem with his two kiddies. Now they have introduced quality time with mummy and daddy separately. Basically, once a week, my brother only gets to spend one afternoon with the older child, while my sister-in-law spends time with the smaller one. On another day, they exchange the children: my brother spends some hours with the smaller child, while my sister-in-law then spends time with the older child. They often drive to the cinema or visit an indoor playground. Those "special afternoons" function as special quality time for each child, in which they decide what they want to do (or dad/mum suggests smth.). By doing this, they want to respect and value their needs, i.e., the activity as well as the attention and affection of each parent
Hi Ysis! My son is 2 y 8 m and he has been going through a similar period since he turned 2. It comes and goes, but all that you described (especially the hitting, the frustration when not managing to do smth). And he has no siblings. It is just the terrible two's. What works with my son is explanation, again and again. He might not get all we say, but he appreciates that we treat him like an "adult". And stay calm. Losing it doesn't solve anything. Concerning separation anxiety, some kids need more reassurance than others. I would say it is totally normal given the birth of your daughter. Things were a certain way, day in and day out, and all of a sudden mommy is gone for a few nights, with more changes following. Children get stressed in the face of change. Just wait this one out, he will understand you are not going anywhere and relax a bit soon.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I am expecting my second baby aswell and it really helps to realize that it may be the same aswell. You are doing so well and you are so strong Ysis. Every beginning is hard but will soon be all better. ❤🌹
Ysis, you are so doing great!! This will pass over just keep giving him lots of love and boundaries. As his verbal skills grow he will be able to express his feeling easier and hopefully feel less frustrated. I had separation anxiety as a small child and I still have it at 35 so I'm not sure what to say about that one. Lots of love Ysis!! Xo
Congratulations Ysis for second baby. Ya its quite difficult to take care of two children at a time. Your Babies will truly distress you whenever you are at too much stressed. U r lucky Ysis. Good video. And as well awesome spoken English
i'm going thru the same thing right now with my 18 month old. I'm also pregnant and i'm preparing myself for the worse once baby number 2 arrives mid june more like terrible ONES >.
All toddlers go through this as you know it's definitely not him it's just his age and the sibling. My son was 3 when the baby was born and while we were mostly past the terrible twos he played up something else & that is normal too - he did things like purposefully go to the toilet not in the toilet (he was fully potty trained for a year). Just hold in there it will pass - you are doing a fab job.
Omg yes !!! my daughter has started her terrible twos a couple months ago and to be honset there are days i wish i just dont wake up ! im usally like oh no here we go again 😩 its making me super depressed me and my husband cant seem to keep up anymore its really really hard ! its like your talking about my daughter !! she will scream about anything and every damn little thing !!! i felt like im the only one suffering ! i feel like a failure most days ! shes pushed me over my limits !! unfortunately at the moment i cant walk due to an accident and she is pushing me to the limit she knows i cant run after her so she will purposely do things to drive me crazy !!! its been really hard for me and my husband puts alot of pressure on our marriage ! its really hard 😢 im constantly yelling i cant help myself i try to stay calm but the more calm i am the more she dose !!! its been putting alot of tense in the family home i really hope it gets better i hope u read this and know that ur not alone 😔 goodluck !
Gosh yes I know exactly what your going through. My little girl will be 2 in May and I had our second daughter 13 weeks ago. At first she seemed fine and really take it in that the baby had arrived kissing her wanting to hold her bringing her over food and her water bottle. We have had a few incidents where she has hit her or tried to sit on her but generally she's been good then 2 months ago her behaviour has got really bad constantly whinging being really upset all the time which is not like her. She was such a good sleeper 7:30-7 now she's been waking up at 5 or not going to sleep so had to sleep with us. All day long I hear mama mama mama hold mama hold it's so draining and tiring. A lot of it is I think she is frustrated with communication but I just dnt know what to do either 😫 sending lots of love and I'm right there with you your not alone xxx
my little boy is 2 end of June and he sounds to be doing the same behaviors! I guess it's a stage where starting to understand more but unable to communicate that knew knowledge as well as they want to xx
You will never get your lovely little babyboy back, it's gone. Your son is nearly two and not a baby. And he now has to learn, his first life lesson. Sharing his parents, not being number one anymore, not getting as much attention. Is he scared? Yes! Is this normal? Yes! He wants to hurt you, because he can not hurt his sister- he knows that by instinct. When he hurts you, don't explain everything to him. Yes, he can understand you, but that works on an emotional base, it's not about words. Take his hands, tell him that he's not allowed to hurt you and leave the room, when he doesn't stop. Tell him that you will not allow him to hurt anybody. The anxiety thing- My kinds where screaming when I had to leave them with anybody, exactly untill I was out of sight. They learn very quickly how you"tick" and what they have to do to make you stay. Don't make a thing about it! When you have to go and he is in good hands, show him that it is ok and go. It hurts to see them cry and scream, but it doesn't help to do everything to avoid that. When you don't panic, he also won't. You know, why he's always doing the opposite thing? Attention! Try to avoid "no", "don't "..... Allow him to fail, he will learn from it. He will come to you for comfort. You are struggling? Allow yourself to struggle . Life is not perfect. You are a " head" person, obviously. Trust you instincts more, you can not prevent or plan everything. You try so hard to be perfect, you don't have to. You put a lot of pressure on you. So, that was a long post. I don't want to make you angry, everybody has his own life. I wish you all the best with you little family 👨👩👧👦
Oh, thank you for this video, I've got a child the same age as yours and similar problems. Read or listen to the book "No drama discipline", it helps a lot for baby's behavior and mum's calm and happiness. It's really great. There should some time pass till a parent change their reactions and learn to cope with tantrums another way.
i know it's hard and draining, try giving him gifts saying it is from your sister, and try taking him to play groups as mixing with other kids will make him realize it is actually fun to have someone else to play with , and even if he does not like staying without you but once in few days leave him with his granparent and go have a massage and ice crem and eventually he will accept that mum can not be always with me and i have to deal with it, it will take few weeks but it will be ok 💗💗💗
Well 😅 , these kind of behaviours are very common in toddlers at that age , in my country Perú are called "berrinches" , my mom told me that once I did it and she knew from her family and Friends that these kind of things don't use to stop if you don't put limits , so she talked to me in that moment in a firm way and I never did it again. I don't mean that you have to shout him only let him know that he lives in a lovely home with family that deserves peace and love c: good luck with your two children 😇
Oh gosh! I have a 6 & 4 year old boys. They always fight especially my 4 yr he never leaves his bro alone. He's also so attached to me it's always mum and that can get very tiring. I'm also pregnant with my 3rd (26) weeks.. he knows that we having another baby so he's got worse he's anger and tantrum. It's very hard but I get thru the day some how I'm just worried when baby is born he's gona get jealous. I don't want him to feel left out and I do tell them that I love them everytime and the baby.
He's angry with you because he misses you. I've seen someone in the same situation where the baby started hitting mom and it was because she started working. Instead of giving her hugs when she got home the baby would throw tantrums and hit and push her.
Well ysis i love ur vids for first,secondly i have no advise for u but my daughter is exactly the same every point you mentioned and i hate to see hwr upset i want her to Play and be happy and she knows mummy is around but like u said she screams when i move around the house,its exhausting and makes my cry as much as she does and we also had a new baby who is 16 weeks so we are going through same phase 😣if u find anything that works for u please make a video about it😔.ps love ur videos
And with the sepertion anxiety you just have to give him a kiss and a cuddle and just leave him and pick him up at the time u tell him your going to or it wont get better and just tell him when you leave where going to come back once he realises mum and dad will all ways come back to get me he will carm down
I divide my attention for children in such a proportion that the elder one inspite of all gets more. I guess the elder child should get more attention from us because he has to transfer it to the younger ones. Sorry for my English.
Get a porta cot or play pen and pot him in time out about 5 to 10 mins when he hits or test you it will give u time to carm down and teach him not to do this things let him scream and shout and once his carm down go get him and tell him why he cant do these things
Hi Ysis! How is the sleeping situation going with having two children? Im very curious because I have a poor sleeping child (15 months)as well who sleeps with me and breastfeeds all night on and off(basically using me as a pacifier to go back to sleep).
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My 14 month old demonstrates some of these behaviours when with his cousin who is 6 months older. I've found that being in play groups at day care has made a world of difference to his mood and personality. Plus he was just getting a bit bored and at that age where he needed constant activity and entertainment which he was just not getting enough of at home. He's learnt great patience at day care and such a happy boy now. If he does have a temper tantrum I take him to a calm spot and have a couple of
Minutes of one on one cuddle time which always calms him down. Great book recommendation is calm parents happy kids - has great tips and tricks for all things behavioural! All the best!!!
I really experienced this when I gave birth to my second child!😢, my first child will always be crying, and the jealousy was way uncontrollable!
Ah the TERRIBLE TWOS... I heard a lot about it, but actually going through it is a whole different ball game. 😩 In this video I talk about and ask for your advice on how to deal with toddler temper tantrums, an extreme case of separation anxiety and how to help your toddler welcome a baby into the family.
My brother had the same problem with his two kiddies. Now they have introduced quality time with mummy and daddy separately. Basically, once a week, my brother only gets to spend one afternoon with the older child, while my sister-in-law spends time with the smaller one. On another day, they exchange the children: my brother spends some hours with the smaller child, while my sister-in-law then spends time with the older child. They often drive to the cinema or visit an indoor playground. Those "special afternoons" function as special quality time for each child, in which they decide what they want to do (or dad/mum suggests smth.). By doing this, they want to respect and value their needs, i.e., the activity as well as the attention and affection of each parent
Hi Ysis! My son is 2 y 8 m and he has been going through a similar period since he turned 2. It comes and goes, but all that you described (especially the hitting, the frustration when not managing to do smth). And he has no siblings. It is just the terrible two's. What works with my son is explanation, again and again. He might not get all we say, but he appreciates that we treat him like an "adult". And stay calm. Losing it doesn't solve anything. Concerning separation anxiety, some kids need more reassurance than others. I would say it is totally normal given the birth of your daughter. Things were a certain way, day in and day out, and all of a sudden mommy is gone for a few nights, with more changes following. Children get stressed in the face of change. Just wait this one out, he will understand you are not going anywhere and relax a bit soon.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I am expecting my second baby aswell and it really helps to realize that it may be the same aswell.
You are doing so well and you are so strong Ysis. Every beginning is hard but will soon be all better. ❤🌹
just try to give him more attention and love, he misses that. u r so genuine n u will get through this. love u!
Ysis, you are so doing great!! This will pass over just keep giving him lots of love and boundaries. As his verbal skills grow he will be able to express his feeling easier and hopefully feel less frustrated. I had separation anxiety as a small child and I still have it at 35 so I'm not sure what to say about that one. Lots of love Ysis!! Xo
Congratulations Ysis for second baby. Ya its quite difficult to take care of two children at a time. Your Babies will truly distress you whenever you are at too much stressed. U r lucky Ysis. Good video. And as well awesome spoken English
i'm going thru the same thing right now with my 18 month old. I'm also pregnant and i'm preparing myself for the worse once baby number 2 arrives mid june more like terrible ONES >.
Thanks for sharing your experiences lovely! Jack is 14 months now and starting to test the water with being rebellious xxx
All toddlers go through this as you know it's definitely not him it's just his age and the sibling. My son was 3 when the baby was born and while we were mostly past the terrible twos he played up something else & that is normal too - he did things like purposefully go to the toilet not in the toilet (he was fully potty trained for a year). Just hold in there it will pass - you are doing a fab job.
Omg yes !!!
my daughter has started her terrible twos a couple months ago
and to be honset
there are days i wish i just dont wake up ! im usally like oh no here we go again 😩
its making me super depressed
me and my husband cant seem to keep up anymore
its really really hard !
its like your talking about my daughter !!
she will scream about anything and every damn little thing !!!
i felt like im the only one suffering !
i feel like a failure most days !
shes pushed me over my limits !!
unfortunately at the moment i cant walk due to an accident
and she is pushing me to the limit
she knows i cant run after her
so she will purposely do things to drive me crazy !!!
its been really hard for me and my husband puts alot of pressure on our marriage !
its really hard 😢
im constantly yelling i cant help myself i try to stay calm but the more calm i am the more she dose !!! its been putting alot of tense in the family home i really hope it gets better
i hope u read this and know that ur not alone 😔
goodluck !
Gosh yes I know exactly what your going through. My little girl will be 2 in May and I had our second daughter 13 weeks ago. At first she seemed fine and really take it in that the baby had arrived kissing her wanting to hold her bringing her over food and her water bottle. We have had a few incidents where she has hit her or tried to sit on her but generally she's been good then 2 months ago her behaviour has got really bad constantly whinging being really upset all the time which is not like her. She was such a good sleeper 7:30-7 now she's been waking up at 5 or not going to sleep so had to sleep with us. All day long I hear mama mama mama hold mama hold it's so draining and tiring. A lot of it is I think she is frustrated with communication but I just dnt know what to do either 😫 sending lots of love and I'm right there with you your not alone xxx
Ysis, you look beautiful! I love your hair. It's ok, little James would definitely get used to the change soon. It's a phase, and you are not alone ❤
my little boy is 2 end of June and he sounds to be doing the same behaviors! I guess it's a stage where starting to understand more but unable to communicate that knew knowledge as well as they want to xx
You will never get your lovely little babyboy back, it's gone. Your son is nearly two and not a baby. And he now has to learn, his first life lesson. Sharing his parents, not being number one anymore, not getting as much attention. Is he scared? Yes! Is this normal? Yes! He wants to hurt you, because he can not hurt his sister- he knows that by instinct. When he hurts you, don't explain everything to him. Yes, he can understand you, but that works on an emotional base, it's not about words. Take his hands, tell him that he's not allowed to hurt you and leave the room, when he doesn't stop. Tell him that you will not allow him to hurt anybody. The anxiety thing- My kinds where screaming when I had to leave them with anybody, exactly untill I was out of sight. They learn very quickly how you"tick" and what they have to do to make you stay. Don't make a thing about it! When you have to go and he is in good hands, show him that it is ok and go. It hurts to see them cry and scream, but it doesn't help to do everything to avoid that. When you don't panic, he also won't.
You know, why he's always doing the opposite thing? Attention! Try to avoid "no", "don't "..... Allow him to fail, he will learn from it. He will come to you for comfort.
You are struggling? Allow yourself to struggle . Life is not perfect. You are a " head" person, obviously. Trust you instincts more, you can not prevent or plan everything. You try so hard to be perfect, you don't have to. You put a lot of pressure on you.
So, that was a long post. I don't want to make you angry, everybody has his own life. I wish you all the best with you little family 👨👩👧👦
Oh, thank you for this video, I've got a child the same age as yours and similar problems. Read or listen to the book "No drama discipline", it helps a lot for baby's behavior and mum's calm and happiness. It's really great. There should some time pass till a parent change their reactions and learn to cope with tantrums another way.
There's a channel called CloudMom here on UA-cam. She has 5 kids and gives some really great advice on life with kids.
i know it's hard and draining, try giving him gifts saying it is from your sister, and try taking him to play groups as mixing with other kids will make him realize it is actually fun to have someone else to play with , and even if he does not like staying without you but once in few days leave him with his granparent and go have a massage and ice crem and eventually he will accept that mum can not be always with me and i have to deal with it, it will take few weeks but it will be ok 💗💗💗
My daughter is the same age and she is doing the same things! I also don't know what to do..((
Well 😅 , these kind of behaviours are very common in toddlers at that age , in my country Perú are called "berrinches" , my mom told me that once I did it and she knew from her family and Friends that these kind of things don't use to stop if you don't put limits , so she talked to me in that moment in a firm way and I never did it again.
I don't mean that you have to shout him only let him know that he lives in a lovely home with family that deserves peace and love c: good luck with your two children 😇
Oh gosh! I have a 6 & 4 year old boys. They always fight especially my 4 yr he never leaves his bro alone. He's also so attached to me it's always mum and that can get very tiring. I'm also pregnant with my 3rd (26) weeks.. he knows that we having another baby so he's got worse he's anger and tantrum. It's very hard but I get thru the day some how I'm just worried when baby is born he's gona get jealous. I don't want him to feel left out and I do tell them that I love them everytime and the baby.
He's angry with you because he misses you. I've seen someone in the same situation where the baby started hitting mom and it was because she started working. Instead of giving her hugs when she got home the baby would throw tantrums and hit and push her.
Nice vid baby
Well ysis i love ur vids for first,secondly i have no advise for u but my daughter is exactly the same every point you mentioned and i hate to see hwr upset i want her to
Play and be happy and she knows mummy is around but like u said she screams when i move around the house,its exhausting and makes my cry as much as she does and we also had a new baby who is 16 weeks so we are going through same phase 😣if u find anything that works for u please make a video about it😔.ps love ur videos
And with the sepertion anxiety you just have to give him a kiss and a cuddle and just leave him and pick him up at the time u tell him your going to or it wont get better and just tell him when you leave where going to come back once he realises mum and dad will all ways come back to get me he will carm down
Hey Ysis how do you say that material soda cans are made out of.
I divide my attention for children in such a proportion that the elder one inspite of all gets more. I guess the elder child should get more attention from us because he has to transfer it to the younger ones. Sorry for my English.
Get a porta cot or play pen and pot him in time out about 5 to 10 mins when he hits or test you it will give u time to carm down and teach him not to do this things let him scream and shout and once his carm down go get him and tell him why he cant do these things
Hi Ysis! How is the sleeping situation going with having two children? Im very curious because I have a poor sleeping child (15 months)as well who sleeps with me and breastfeeds all night on and off(basically using me as a pacifier to go back to sleep).