VLOG: Heart to Heart on Parenting (honest), VICI Try On Haul, Breastfeeding Journey | Julia & Hunter
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Hunter I am a high school principal and mom of 5 grown babies. My husband was the true Rockstar helping me. You two are the same age as our children and you are are killing it! God love you both. I also had no success with breast feeding until baby number 3. Be kind on yourself and all my kids survived whether breast or bottle fed.
Totally agree ☺️
Hunter you are an awesome sweet dad, lil 😮 Smoke is so lucky and Julia sweetie remember this Smoke is getting your breastmilk that’s most important don’t beat yourself up. You guys are wonderful mommy and daddy
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Donnez un biberon à son bébé est un moment privilégié entre le parent et l enfant. Ne parlez jamais à autrui lorsque vous donnez le biberon. C est un moment entre vous 2
Love the baby song and dance so much
Omg you are the best parents! Blessed too! Mine didn’t sleep until they were 5 years old
DO NOT LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLE WHO’VE HAD A SUCCESSFUL TIME WITH BREASTFEEDING TELL YOU TO KEEP GOING BECAUSE ITS YOUR BODY AND YOUR EXPERIENCE. I was the same way and when it took a huge toll on my mental health, I immediately switched to formula. I not only listened to my mind but also my soul and body. And it was the best decision to make for my family. Breastfeeding is such a beautiful thing and you’ve got to try it and experience it. It’s not for everyone and THATS OKAY! You both are doing such an amazing job with smoke it’s so beautiful to watch! This journey was made for y’all! Sending lots of love and peaceful vibrations! ✨💜💐
I had a very similar experience. Everyone around me, including my pediatri cian husband, my lactation consultatnt mother, and my baby's pediatrician telling me the wonders of breastfeeding, and how much my body would produce milk if only I would *push* myself a little more. Then whne I switched to pumping it was just worse, those were some of the darkest times in my entire motherhood. THem moment my baby's pediatrican noticed I was falling into a n emitional hole and she said " I"d rather you go with formula than continue on this path, yout baby will be just fine" I felt the permission to end all breasfeeeding efforts. THe moment I switched to formula it was like a stormy dark cloud was removed from my vision and I began enjoying motherhood finally. ONe of my few regrets from motherhood was not listening to my own toughts and feelings, and having to follow everyone else's opinion.
Huge shout out to Hunter for his recognition to us Mother’s! That was very sweet!
Hunter enjoyed the early morning chat. Parenthood looks great on you guys and smoke is too adorable. Julia give yourself grace you are still recovering from having a baby and being on the go all the time you will get little worn out faster. Just keep doing what you guys are doing and it all will get into routine for you. Hope you're feeling better🖤
Your doing so good hunter!!! The fact that you can put yourself in a moms shoes and let her rest is SO helpful. Breastfeeding is so much harder and exhausting then I ever imagined.
Hunter...you are a good man. Your parents must be proud of you... Smoke looks so much like you...
Julia makes the care of a baby a walk in the park...
You two are amazing human beings, even before the birth of your sweet baby 🥰
You said it, Julia. Learning to surrender is the key to motherhood. A happy motherhood, at least. Took me 3 kids to finally surrender 🥰
All the Smokey baby noises melted meeeeee❤❤❤❤❤ His smile is pure Julia!!! Great job Hunter being so supportive of Mama.
Aw, Hunter you had me in tears of pure Joy listening to your depiction on how hard Julia works 🤗 Give yourself credit, youre Fantastic & honestly just being there together with Smoke is God Sent ✨️ Julia, Love you're Amazing!! Please don't feel any disgrace with your solid efforts to get Smoke to latch. I understand you Wish it to be easy; sometimes you have to look at the big picture & realize how calm & laid back Smoke is! I totally believe when parents and lifestyle is Calming & Sweet natured; so is your Babyboy 💙 Also, you Seriously can't tell you just had a baby!! I'm so Happy with how far you both have adapted! Just Beautiful in Every Way 💫 Lysm 😊
The beginning was absolutely beautiful, the whole set up to the words Hunter was saying about you it was all making me emotional. Baby smoke is looking like Julia but has Hunters smile! Btw I love how Hunter ended the video with the love performance of the artist and then the actual produced song to end it
Being a mom with healing from having a baby, hormones, figuring out a new routine and taking care of yourself, house, work, dog, and husband is no joke. It’s a real balancing act. Take care!
Giving your baby the bottle does not make you a bad mom. I had no desire to breastfeed my 2 kids, I had always planned on bottle feeding, and that does not make me a bad mom!! My kids are 13 and 16, so it’s been awhile, but it really upsets me to see how much pressure is on mom’s to breastfeed these days. You’re an amazing mom no matter how you choose to feed your sweet baby!!💗
Hunter is right about it’s bitter sweet watching your kids grow!
Mine are twenty and eighteen now and it’s cool to see them start their adulthood journey but I was just saying to my husband I feel a weird kind of yearning,missing that time when they were younger….it goes way too fast!
The way you both have transitioned into parenthood and navigated this new journey with gratitude (and being so transparent) is so beautiful and special to witness. 5 years later and I love y’all more and more! ❤️
Why am I tearing up at Hunter’s message at the beginning. I needed that, thank you Hunter.
Julia, I went through the EXACT same thing with both of my kids regarding breastfeeding. I switched to formula after months and months of trying and it changed the game in so many ways! Whatever is right for you, your mental health, and your family is the best choice!!!
Hunter you get the best dad award for that recognition. Try to always remember this and make sure you tell her!
Hunter, your moment with baby Smoke after his feeding and diaper changer was just melting 🩵
Y’all are such fantastic parents. Y’all are lucky to have each other. So sweet what hunter was saying in beginning… a lot of people without anxiety doesn’t understand how hard it is mentally to struggle with breastfeeding.. my first who is 17 I cried and struggled for months and went to formula. With my second whose 12 my milk never came in went straight to formula and it was such a better experience mentally. Don’t let people get u down . I’ve always heard fed is best .. both are healthy kids
I’m honestly just proud of you as a woman for even trying to breast-feed. It is something very very tough to do and it’s very mentally straining. I went through the same things, but I ended up choosing to exclusively pump for the first 6 months.. and then I tried nursing again and it’s been going pretty well so far but I know not all women can do that and not all babies can do that, so I support you no matter what! I know we don’t know each other but I am praying for you to make whatever decision is best for you and your baby boy! A fed baby is best no matter how they eat! ❤
Y"all are sweet for sharing your baby with us. Hes also going to thrive with 2 parents that love him🧡💛
Breast feeding is a job in itself. I had a harder time with my second baby bc she wasn’t feeling the whole latch on thing after the first couple of months.
I would encourage you to continue to pump and bottle feed him. Go as long as your body allows you to.
If you get to the point where you have to start feeding him formula, obviously pick the best one and don’t feel guilty for it! You’re doing a great job 🩷
Julia, my son never latched and I know the mom guilt that comes with wanting to give up pumping. I stopped after a couple months. He is now 2 and thriving. Do what is best for you and your mental health! I felt like a new person after I stopped pumping all the time.
Smokes little smile in his plaid outfit. So sweet. When my son giggles and we are playing it spreads a joy like no other. I finally understand when people say a child's laughter is the best medicine
White Noise will be your best friend!! We used it every night for all three of our children & it reduced the crying tremendously!! 💜
Jules you look amazing! You’re such a great mommy too! Smoke is a very lucky boy to have you and Hunter as his parents!!! 💗
Hi Juj! Please know that BF is not for every mother or every baby. You will make the right choice for you and your family and that’s all that matters. Please don’t feel like anyone will judge. I want to give you other side perspective. I chose not to BS. Many reasons why, to name a few- so my husband and I can be a 50/50 team. He got up in the night to formula feed as much as I did, we traveled the world with babies no problem, they slept through the night from birth, and best of all they NEVER got sick and still don’t. Our girls are now 7 and 9 and both crazy smart, advanced beyond in their school work. I just wanted to shine a light that there is absolutely nothing wrong with formula feeding. Hugs to you and Hunter. ❤
I so agree with this post. I did not breastfeed my daughter for a lot of reasons..being a single parent didn’t allow for me to do so for a lot of reasons. My daughter is now 28 .. finished law school with honors and is working at a tech firm. Don’t beat yourself up. Little Smoke will be awesome just like his parents!
You guys are so inspiring!! Hunter, I love the way you love Julia. It is so pure 🥺 And Julia, you are literally killing itttt!! The outfits, the mom vibes, literally everything 💅🏼 I hope to be as good of parents as you guys someday❤
Hunter you are so wise. Most men wouldn’t be so involved or thoughtful and recognize the commitment it is as a good mom and a good dad as well.
I don't see many dads during the day to day, but Hunter, you're clearly a natural. The way you talked about Julia as a mom was beautiful.
Absolutely loved the intro to this with the morning bottle chat. Currently on the sofa, nap trapped (but loving it) with our first baby at 2.5 months old and it’s just so lovely to watch you guys parent and chat about it all. Makes me feel less alone as a parent knowing others’ ups and downs. Loved Smoke’s diaper change smiles. What a cutie!
I also struggled with breastfeeding my twins and I feel like I struggled the most with trying to keep up with the persona of being a breast feeder. Everyone would always ask and tell me how much better it was but once I let go of the pressure from everyone else . I realized that what’s best for my babies was just to feed them and have them happy. Regardless they are happy and healthy regardless of breast milk or formula. It doesn’t make you less than of a mother!!
I was a better mother and a happier mother once I let go of the pressure!
Smoke is SO blessed to have you as his dad...your parents must be so proud you. They did a really good job raising you👏👏👏
I have three boys. I love being a mom...it's very rewarding. However, I'm a full-time nurse as well. Some days, I have nothing to give, and I feel myself falling into a depressed state. Remembering to pour yourself is very important. Some days are better than others, but I keep going. I love how you pay attention to your wife and her needs...I always have to scream at my husband because he is not attentive at all.
I breastfeed over 1+ years, each of my 4 kids, but pumping, I could never! Your doing amazing Julia ❤ and Hunter!
When I read these verses the other day I couldn't help but think of you guys: Psalm 139:13-16 Oh yes, you shaped me -Smoke-first inside, then out;
you formed me in my mother’s -Julia-womb.
I thank you, High God-you’re breathtaking!
Body and soul, I, Smoke, am Marvelously made!
I worship in adoration-What a Creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
before I’d even lived one day.
You are not lying Julia! I always need a mini vacation after the actual vacation. It can be very exhausting!
Ahh I love how pure this Vlog was. Hunter, thank you! As a mom of 3, your words of appreciation we’re really encouraging. You’re such a great dad! Julia, you’re the best mama and it’s so beautiful to see you both flourishing in parenthood. I know it can be overwhelming constantly pivoting but you guys got this! You’re the best team for the job and God knew that when He joined you both and gave you Smoke. The fact that you made it this far in your breastfeeding journey is an accomplishment. You’ll know when the time has come to an end or you want to keep trying. Fed is best and your mental health matters. Stopping now doesn’t mean you’re a quitter or a bad mom. You are making the best decision for your family. Sending love and blessings to you all ♥️
We’re the superheroes without capes! Being a mom is so difficult but rewarding and nothing else will ever give you the feeling parenthood does it’s amazing I love it!
Don't beat yourself up about breastfeeding! You're doing awesome. My son was also tongue tied and it's bloody hard! If you just transition to formula only that's great... Just remember FED is BEST!
Julia you're so graceful. Taking in every moment feeling every feeling and allowing yourself to feel those feelings is so important.. You both are an awesome duo, such an inspiration!
In the breastfeeding trenches with you!!! It’s so hard and mentally draining! Praying for you! You are doing amazing 💗💗💗
If you all are struggling with sleep I would HIGHLY recommend a sleep training specialist! I’ve been a professional nanny for 14 years and sleep train all the babies I watch. Hiring a specialist is LIFE CHANGING especially when they are going through sleep regressions- and yes they can sleep train this early on. Love your content and so happy to see the both of you happy :)
You are both doing an amazing job with your newborn. He is adorable! Hunter you are awesome for calling out the jobs that moms do. You are a good man! Julia is an amazing mom. ❤
One day you’ll rewatch this video about BFing and wanna give yourself a hug Juj. You are doing amazing, trust your instincts and whatever you choose is best!! The pump life is insane and your an absolute warrior! Xo from one mama to another
Sisss!!! Unsolicited breastfeeding opinion: You do you and what works best for you and your mental state!
I was allergic to my own hormones when producing milk (breastfeeding and pumping)
My kids are healthy and thriving!
Second baby I breastfed in the hospital to avoid flack for lactation consultants and dropped it when we got home!
You’re killing it mamma, and that baby boy is thriving!
Sobbing at the beginning while holding my 7 week old. You’re a great dad Hunter!!!
I went through the same thing when I was nursing my baby years ago. Do whatever works best for you and Smoke. Every family has to find their own way! ❤
So realistic! I love the deep thoughts on parenting and what Hunter had to say in the beginning- such an amazing husband and dad! And Julia- you are doing amazing! Breastfeeding is so hard! I understand wanting the bond, but like you said, whatever works for you and baby is best!!
You guys are my FAVORITE UA-cam couple. Love your videos. So genuine and honest. Just real
People living real life. I love you as a couple. ♥️💗♥️
Hunter: WOw. What a man you are!! Your mama and daddy must be so proud. Bravo to them for raising such an incredible man that you have become. Loving compassionate understanding sensitive I could go on and on. I am blessed too I also have a husband with all those qualities. We have been together since high school. High school sweethearts. Together 26 years and married 19 this September. Our kids are 18,16,11,5. One with special needs. It is a lot of work but so so rewarding. Best thing in life is being a parent and watch them grow up and be their own persons. You are doing incredible. Both of you. Incredible parents. It’s a learning process and it all comes together. No worries. There will be tears laughs and giggles and tempers will rise at times. Give yourself grace. You have each other to lean on and love. Communication is key let each other know each other’s 3P’s. ( partner percentage placement). We teach this to couples. If Ju is at 20% and you’re good to take on the 80% of the day to get her through the day. And some days you may both be at 20% and that’s ok. When that happens it’s time to sit as a couple and come up with a plan so each other is getting along no tension and it will work out. We send so much love and strength from our channel Kimberley & Scooter Jamieson/ 6breakingloose ❤. YOU GOT THIS!!!!
Not being able to breastfeed does not define you as a mother, Julia. I wish I could hug you! Rejoice in the blessing of being able to birth a child, as not every woman gets to experience that joy. Shout out to Hunter for recognizing what an already amazing job YOU, and all mothers, do/are doing. The struggle is REAL, so give yourself permission to slow down... you'll look back and be grateful you did. I promise.
Seriously these videos keep getting better and better. Loved hunters convo in the beginning. Thanks for sharing yall!
I felt the same way with breast feeding. I did not realize how much of a physical and mental toll it took on my body until I stopped. I breastfed while going into the office full time so I had to pump at work and it was very emotional. Once we got him on formula and the bottle, our whole family literally felt a burden lifted. I’m pregnant with my second now and have already decided I’m going to do formula and the peace I feel is amazing.
Girl you got this. I totally understand the breast feeding journey. It’s so much.
My first never really latched. My second did. But sometimes you can wait until they are not that hungry to try. Sometimes bath time is a great moment, where you are both are calm. But yea keep enjoying you are doing amazing MAMA!!😊
Don't be hard on yourself Julia you are doing an awesome job....both you and Hunter are fantastic at parenthood. Smoke is thriving and growing and changing everyday all in good way.
Julia....you are doing great...Awesome! I too had to pump because my baby only latched one time. The lacatation specialist said it wasn't coming out fast enough for my baby.....LOL so it can depend on the baby...And yes the pumping was a struggle. I made it 6 month's but it was a challenge. The fact that you keep trying is commendable. Just don't be too hard on yourself as long as he is feeding you're getting the job done. Also, Hunter is a rare gem...Its awesome how much he is hands on and you guys make quite the team. Smoke is so blessed to have 2 loving parents that love and care for each other. Keep positive you guy's are killong it.😊😊
You guys are doing so amazing with Smokey! 👏🏼 Thank you for sharing your lives with us. 🫶🏼
Hunter you are such an amazing husband!!! I can tell you and Julia are already the best parents and you guys are amazing souls…so happy for this stage for you guys!!! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 sending you love… Julia get well soon! 🥹🥹🥹
Pumping is a lot, mama. Def do whatever works for your fam 🥰 I went to lactation meetings hosted by my hospital several times a week. It was helpful to be with a lactation consultant and other moms figuring out breastfeeding. Wishing you all the best ❤
I'm here for the intro! Love the little crying. I used lanolin for mine it was a big help
Loved the live music. ❤your vlogs always hit!! ‼️🫶🏻
You guys are the best!!!! Thank you for sharing! Would you do an updated registry list now that you have seen what you’ve used and what maybe isn’t necessary? Helping my sister with her registry right now 😊Thank you 🥰
Smoke is absolutely adorable and growing so fast❤
Awwww at the very end that baby looks so comfy and loved. Y’all are great parents! That boy knows his routine 😂 he’s like oh yeah it’s bedtime
I love your videos so freaking much! You guys are amazing parents. Hunter you’re SUCH a sweet husband and Dad. The way you talk about Julia is the sweetest. Love u guys ❤
Hunter true papa ❤ love the vlogs. Ty for the content! Julia such a blessing watching you both grow into parenthood. Made for itttt!
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Hello loves🤗 don’t worry about the breastfeeding, enjoy this time & do what works for you & him; everyone’s experience is different. Sending love & prayers on this beautiful journey.🙏💜
Love this parenthood chapter of you guys.
I had a very similar experience breastfeeding with my first, and at the end of the day we were both more frustrated trying than pumping and bottle feeding. Just had my second, and it's been such a different experience - latched right away and I've gotten the experience I longed for with my first. Every baby and journey is different. You're doing great 🤍
I'm not a mom, yet, but I sure hope my partner gives the same recognition to me as Hunter gives Julia. Beautiful relationship. Smoke is getting so big already! Julia, the yellow and white dresses look amazing on you 💛
Hunter you are AMAZING!!! I wish all Husbands/Dads were just like you.....Julia you are AMAZING also, hang in there, my daughter had a struggle with breast feeding also, you two are wonderful parents, I always look forward to watching you all....
Smokey is so darn ADORABLE!! 🥹🥰🥰
Hunter, just have to give my 0.02 here. You grabbed your role as dad with ease and grace!! I am so impressed and so happy for you! I agree Julia is an AMAZING mom (not to mention smokin hot) and you two complement each other so well. BEAUTIFUL FAMILY! Thanks for sharing!!
Wow this was so real and raw, thank you for sharing the beautiful journey of being parents. It’s not easy revealing that vulnerability. I always feel this stage that y’all are currently in, to be the hardest one, physically and hormonally taxing. So be encouraged that this is a HARD stage, and y’all are doing AMAZING. But also seriously no pressure to keep up the amazingness 24/7 😆🤪 The nursing journey was hard for me too, not so much with the feedings(although that was hard) but the weening. it took a while for my hormones and body to adjust. The fatigue is a killer, it attacks your confidence in your parenting and how well your doing at life like no other. Don’t believe it, you’re doing aMAZing❤❤❤ look at how healthy and comfortable that baby is ❤❤
The beginning of the video 🥺 That was beautiful
I know it was more acoustic set at the listening room . Could not see if baby smoke had ear protection on but please make sure he does. ( own a hearing aid company) protecting hearing is so important
So many things your saying I’ve felt. Mom of two and your reflection is accurate Julie! You definitely have to slow down.
New mom here as well!
I had the same exact experience as you with breastfeeding, you are not alone! Do what’s best for you & know that either way you are doing amazing & only YOU know what works best for you guys 🫶🏼🤍
Julia pls give yourself grace to adjust to motherhood. Take care of yourself and continue to pour into your cup so you can take care of others. Happy mommy= happy baby. sending positive vibes your way. Love seeing your maternal side ♥️
Both of you are such wonderful and loving parents❤Lucky Smokie🎉
Most people have maternity leave for 6 months to a year and you are both still working full time after such a short time period after giving birth. You’re doing so well so don’t be so hard on yourself 🙌🏻🙌🏻💕
He’s so beautiful!! He looks Julia. Lucky baby to have the both of you!!
I ended up exclusively pumping with both of my kiddos! I never knew nursing could be so difficult. I ended up investing in the willow used both the reusable containers and the bags- you can even nap if you’re using the bags! You can get so much more housework done too.
Plus I was able to cuddle the baby more or at least feed while pumping easier 🥰
love you guys🫶🏻not hunter making me emotional in the beginning. couple goals!
You three are absolutely adorable
Breastfeeding is hard!! We had a nicu baby so started out rocky and trying to learn…we eventually got the hang of it around 3 months and ended up going 15 months. So glad i stuck it out but it was a mental battle alot of the time! Definitely have to do what is best for you, mentally. As long as he is fed - thats all that matters!
The best thing I did for myself was stop pumping/breastfeeding and switch fully to formula. I KNOW all the benefits of breast milk…but there are even more benefits with a happy and relaxed momma ❤ give yourself grace. You’re doing a great job! And it will all be okay.
❤Hunter from what I see you are doing a great job as a father and husband. You both have such great nurturing skills. And Julia if u decide you don’t want to breast feed anymore that’s ok. One thing you did was try and those first 6 weeks are so important and u did that and then some. I know us mothers totally understand. Thanks for sharing and Smoke grows so fast every time I see him. Hang in there! The fun is only just starting.
I jus love you guys and Hunter you are jus a dope hubby and daddy love this video and hearing ur heart is so sweet and loving❤❤ Smoke is gettin SOOOOOOO BIG!look at that smile🥹🥹🥹 now the saying that seemed so cliché “Enjoy them while they’re small because they grow so fast!” Is facts and not so cliche is it😊 the song is sooo cute. Hows his mouth?? Yall are a beautiful little family to watch ❤❤
Hola 👋 🌟 You are rocking parenting guys! Sometimes we’re so hard on ourselves that we don’t see the value of our efforts. I have a 2 months old baby girl. I’m living the same experience simultaneously. My advice one day at a time. That how I see it. The best thing we have is a day after another day. Sending love from Pensacola, Florida. 🤗🏝️
Gorgeous baby, you & Julia are doing great, thanks for the shoutout to us mother’s Hunter much appreciated x
Smoke is so like you Hunter and Julia; he is getting so big bless him and has the most gorgeous adorable smile 😊 hope Julia feels better soon, big hugs 🤗 your doing so well as new parents sending lots of love to you all 💙💗💙
It was sooo hard to breastfeed my son that I decided why keep doing that to myself and I chose to pump and give him my milk which to me helped sooo much mentally because then I knew how much milk he was drinking which gave me peace of mind. No matter what you’re doing great Momma!
Julia your flower arrangement looks beautiful! As far as breastfeeding are you wearing any lotions or perfumes he might not like? just a thought.
You guys are doing great..give yourselves allll the credit in the world..pat yourselves on the back..
God knows you two have what it takes...for sure!
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Your feelings regarding BF/pumping are so valid! I wanted to BF so badly but my girl wouldn’t latch so I switched to exclusively pumping after about a week and continued pumping until my daughter was 6 months old. I had an oversupply so she got my milk until 9 months but I ended up having to stop pumping due to moving and my husband being gone so much that I literally had no time. The fight is hard but when we switched to formula, I was a HAPPIER mom so just know that is all Smokey needs. You WILL still have that bond with him even without BF so take a breath and know it will be ok❤
Love your vlogs, love how honest and real use are, thank you
11:40 Julia would you do a cozy clothes closet tour sometime? You are the cozy queen and I need to know what this hoodie is & how it ranks among all your cozy clothes, haha!