Lower Your Expectations Therapist Reaction

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  • @TherapeuticReactions
    @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +25

    Hi everyone! How are you?? I hope you're doing great!
    This is my reaction to Bo Burnham - Lower your expectations.
    Reaction starts at 0:55, hope you enjoy it!

  • @BigBoi-wp7ji
    @BigBoi-wp7ji 2 роки тому +2

    I love this man. truly one of the most honest and empathetic people ive seen around this site, and thats no small feat. just wish more people could see this

  • @drumstickjohn8218
    @drumstickjohn8218 3 роки тому +49

    I really enjoyed listening about the session you had about love, we have to actively work towards all of our goals after all and love can be one of them, it must be really hard for some people to put themselves out there though, really scary but I'd say it still leads to personal growth and better understanding of oneself even without finding actual love. Great video as always, keep it coming! :D

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +5

      Thank you! I absolutely agree, we have to work towards our goals doesn't matter what it is and remember to pay attention to our actions, if it's hard to put ourselves out there we should focus on that rather then that huge thing called the search for love often keeping us in our tracks. Thank you for the great comment! :)

    • @jacksmith-vs4ct
      @jacksmith-vs4ct Рік тому

      its hard for us intoverts

  • @sample.text.
    @sample.text. 3 роки тому +7

    Bo at a very young age was already more mature than people i know in their mid-30s...
    At least he had a grasp on things really well which makes seeing him progress such a joy

  • @angelachilders2402
    @angelachilders2402 3 роки тому +4

    I’m so glad I get to experience this with you.

  • @DarlKaman
    @DarlKaman 3 роки тому +15

    Let me compliment that slooow fade-out of the screen-in-a-screen as you talked about your own story. It was an excellent piece of polish you added to the video. Nice work.

  • @smurfrise
    @smurfrise 3 роки тому +13

    Almost twenty years ago, I found myself frustrated in a relationship and realized I could not make someone else want what I wanted. I did my best to give up on finding love as my main focus in life and go to plan B, focusing on my career. I went back to school, got my doctorate in psychology, and have found some peace living alone. I met one person in 2010 who I was crazy about but it was a wild fling with someone in a different country and he met and married someone else. I have recently started a friendship with someone with whom I think I’d be very compatible, but he’s like a cat so I feel like if I come on too strong I’ll scare him off. Maybe it will develop into something. No matter how much I’ve tried not to care, I’ve always wanted a partner and not finding one has sometimes made me feel like I don’t deserve it. I keep thinking about this song and how now I’ve picked this guy, I’ll just love him. Maybe it will only be a friendship and I’m trying to be okay with whatever it might be. Here’s to a glimmer of hope. 🤞🥂

  • @Femtastico
    @Femtastico 3 роки тому +13

    Loved this reaction! It might be worth it to do an entire video on this topic, it was great hearing about that session.
    Omg turning 30 is such a bop! It might be one of the songs i relate to less just because i really enjoy growing older and getting more mature, its a great feeling imo. But maybe thats why i can appreciate the musicality of the song more. I definitely recommend it to you!! " turning 30, turning 30. Turning 30, turning 30" lmao its really great.

  • @terrigarrett1701
    @terrigarrett1701 3 роки тому +3

    Love these reactions so much that I've watched a few of them several times. Thanks so much! I would also really recommend "That Funny Feeling" but ... pack an existential meltdown bag! And you'll dig "We Think We Know You" from his earlier stuff. Can't wait to see what you'll do next!

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому

      I will definitely check out and react to your recommendations, thanks Terri!

  • @Spacejam420
    @Spacejam420 3 роки тому +2

    I love how in most of your videos you understand the entire concept of the song, and the performance, and the message so well, you expand on Bo's initial thought, and then you unpause it and he repeats your exact words.
    I also love your channel name. Brandless. (Although the titles do help with the algorithm :))

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому

      What a great comment! Thank you! Well, my name is Guy so it came naturally 😄🤗

  • @detachablereality
    @detachablereality 3 роки тому +11

    I feel like this might be cliché but once you stop looking you'll find it. In my early 20's I had a few relationships under my belt was partying a bunch, "having fun", and started thinking maybe I need to flirt more or do something to find a better relationship. All I saw at every party was how much people go through because they dont think they're good enough with out having to look and play the part. Of course after a few more bad and short "relationships" later, I decided that dont think i should flirt or try to have any meaningful connection and even if I'm attracted to them to drill it in my brain as if they were already taken. might have missed a few opportunities but I wanted someone that I could just have fun being around, who was understanding and who was just themselves because thats what I wanted to be for some one. met at a party the more we talked the less it seemed like I had to impress or prove something. so its been 9 years, I still enjoy her company, never let something small define me or her and every day can't wait for the next time I can make her smile.

    • @Aggerr
      @Aggerr Рік тому

      Well, arguably you were still looking for it. You just weren't desperately searching for it, you went out, met new people, and it came naturally.

  • @SuperMatt2112
    @SuperMatt2112 3 роки тому +4

    Another great reaction from the Reaction Guy, I too liked your little story about one of your sessions, It's interesting to me because it hit so close to my own experience, I am now 63, have not been in any relationship since I was in my 30's, never been married, never had kids or anything, these days, I very seldom think about being in a loving relationship, am for the most part very content with my life as it is. I am alone but I am not lonely,
    Sadly I often see younger people today who seem they can't stand being alone and they get into relationship after relationship that always seems to end badly. their is a huge difference of wanting someone as apposed to needing someone in your life to fill this void in peoples lives.
    I don't know really, its just an observation I see more often than not. I can't help to think the entertainment industrial complex and Hollywood just exacerbates these types of issues but it's just a hunch . IDK.. there is just so much to think about on so many levels and areas. or maybe I just think too much LOL

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому

      Thank you man! What a great comment! If you're thinking too much then I'm right up there with you, everything you said crosses my mind on a daily basis and I'm positive that as yoh said Hollywood has huge impact on the way we see things and what we expect.

  • @theresat4782
    @theresat4782 3 роки тому +6

    Just found your channel! I like the unique angle you're able to take as a therapist. There's a lot of potential for interesting takes as your channel grows!
    It looks like you've only done Bo Burnham so far (Totally fair, dude is a genius). I would love to see what you can do with other material! I could see you doing some really great stuff with other comedians, but also potentially with TV shows or movies. I look forward to seeing what you come up with for your new channel!

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +1

      Hi Theresa! Thank you for this amazing comment! Yeah I'm down the Bo rabit hole at the moment, just started but I will definitely cover more stuff as the channel grows, feel free to recommend whatever it is you'd like to see :)

  • @lonedinosaur13
    @lonedinosaur13 3 роки тому +1

    I really appreciate your insights and honesty. Thank you for sharing wisdom. 🙏

  • @QuikVidGuy
    @QuikVidGuy 3 роки тому +5

    I feel like you'd have some remarkable thoughts on the album Octet. It's about a support group for internet addiction, specifically how addiction and self harm are basically the same phenomenon of trauma. There's even a song about using dating apps which could be apropos with the session you summarized here, but that's one of the later songs. I'd recommend just starting at the first song (I. Hymn: The Forest) and going in order. Its album cover is of a yellow Tarot card.

  • @colaphoenix6849
    @colaphoenix6849 Місяць тому +1

    My standards are to high! I just want someone who doesn't lie to me and communicat with me

  • @lizdavison7798
    @lizdavison7798 3 роки тому +2

    Can I just say, you are just the sweetest

  • @bobsaget9675
    @bobsaget9675 3 роки тому +5

    If you react to 30 make sure you get the beginning set up part. Definitely sets the tone

  • @Dema_DontControlUs
    @Dema_DontControlUs 3 роки тому

    I've been looking forward to hearing you talk about this one because love/relationships are a big part of my depression.
    I had a serious relationship that fell apart suddenly after 8 years. We were engaged and I never got a proper explanation for why she left and I've never been able to connect with someone since. It's hard.
    It's Good to hear your thoughts
    Thanks for it

  • @swere1240
    @swere1240 3 роки тому +1

    ive found my problem with finding love is that when i have gone looking for it i tend to find what i think i want in disguise and it never works out. most people dont even know what love actually is anymore sadly because everyone has become so materialistic and tries to change there partner into what they want them to be or alot of the time sadly try to "fix" someone who doesnt want to fix themselves. and thats not what love should be i think it should be 2 ppl who want to help there partner be sucessfull in whatever way they can and not exspect them to change but love them for who they are not try to mold someone into who you want them to be. idk love is so complicated lol i find it to be easier cheaper and alot less stressful to be just be single lol i dont go looking for love anymore cuz ive clearly never looked for it in the right places. and i dont plan on rushing into a relastionship anytime soon because that is a recipe for disaster.

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому

      Great smart comment, the chase after love teaches us what it is we don't want often and I thank you for that important point

  • @Zara-tt7rh
    @Zara-tt7rh 3 роки тому

    Great social commentary for those paying close enough attention

  • @MethuselahWinter
    @MethuselahWinter 3 роки тому

    Funny thing was, the guys I love and am with now, I wasn’t even looking for him. I had given up on love, only talked to him because he seemed like a cool guy I could hang with, then bam here we are, planning to move in together and have a wedding in a few years. Like, sometime love really does find you when you least expect it.

  • @betha.ostrander4127
    @betha.ostrander4127 3 роки тому +1

    How do we find a therapist like you in the states? Seriously. My ATL was months ago.

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +1

      Same as I can't find a second Beth like you, can't be done but maybe you'll find even better! I hope you will!

  • @kookiescream9840
    @kookiescream9840 3 роки тому +2

    You're reactions are great!

  • @ApsaraMenaka
    @ApsaraMenaka 3 роки тому +2

    i just discovered your videos an already subscribed. If you want to do another bo burnham reaction "nerds" might be interesting. it touches on topics like bullying, growing up and so on.

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому

      Hi Carmen, thanks for the great comment! Happy to have you here with me 🤗 Added to the list! As a nerd, I appreciate your recommendation 😄

  • @Franseven
    @Franseven 3 роки тому +1

    i have been out looking for new people but i can't really relate with them, we are too different, i can't seem to find people similar to me, i found a bit love years ago but that didn't last long, again, too different, i searched for years, i let myself go but still i only drink rarely, i don't smoke, i don't do drugs, i don't drink coffee, it's really hard to enter society... then i'm stuck home alone, watching youtube, movies, tv-series, always learning new things and stuff... never bored but i know there is more out there.... but now the only thing i can think is that people similar to me have probably gone out aswell, tried, but just like me they gave up and are now stuck at home too? i don't really know but going out is not fun anymore, it's repetitive, and frustrating, i gave up university because it was trash and i wasn't stimulated, right now i have no job, basically no "relatable" friends, basically no success ahead... people like me are often called hokkikomori apparently, but i don't feel like it, i happy to go out of my room, meet my family at family dinners, or go to the cinema occasionally, or go for a small walk, while hikikomori it's supposed to have trouble going out at all. i just gave up. i happy and depressed at the same time, on one hand i think that i'm having fun wasting time gaming and shit, i always wanted to do that, and i think that if i will end up poor or anything i can always kill myself at around 35/40 (i'm 24) but on the other hand i'm depressed because i experienced love and i know i'm missing out, i always been kind to girls, caring, honest in general, but apparently, girls don't like this "good guy" type at a young age. i always been intellectually older than my peers... for good of for worse... i think i reached maturity at 14 or so, since then i didn't really changed much, now i still behave like a retired old man. even when i had love, during bed i felt nothing compared to me jerking off, i had shivers and for this and other coincidences i never had actual sex, so i also have the fear of dying virgin... i don't even know why i'm writing all this but hey... i think i need help but i feel i can't be helped.... i was always called smart and i think i am at this point but maybe not since i am a total failure in life, i feel costrained by the usual loop of existence that humans have [born, go to school (paid by your parents)(you must to be able to work) then work (to make money)(you must to be able to live) then maybe make a kid and pay his school then die...] like i don't feel freedom at all... also i had decision paralysis when it came to choosing a "college path", since i'm very ecletic, choosing one thing it's not only 1 choice but 100+ denials on other thing i love... so i'm stuck i every possible way and people get to university at 17 or 18... here i'm 24, i'm getting fat, i also never been that good looking, i'm paralised, depressed, i have no future and i'm intelligent enough to be too much selfaware that this is a cry for help, among other things my head always hurts cause i think too much, always did... they say smart kids are like this bud damn, i always thouht that "ignorance is bliss".... i wish i was ignorant, the more i know, the more i'm aware of social beheaviors, patterns, history... and news... i get angrier and more frustrated, i would like to be ignorant like a bull that eats his damn grass. i'm tearing up as i write this last line...

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +1

      So much of what you wrote I relate to, thank you for sharing that, really not just to say it. That endless cycle, you were saying what I think about on a daily basis. Can I ask you something though? If staying indoors with yourself (a very smart person who knows exactly how to dictate the depression routine and how to keep you in the same place because that's our nervous system job) does you wrong the more you do it, why do you do it? What are you protecting? What does that give you? Really, the advantages and disadvantages, sometimes we're stuck with ourselves so long that we forget that any step in any direction is a success in our current state

    • @Franseven
      @Franseven 3 роки тому

      @@TherapeuticReactions thanks for listening to my delirous confessions. So you are asking why don't i do anything at all since even one step would be good. well because my brain tells me that i'm gonna fail. i have a very well devoloped "prediction mechanism" that basically calculate every chance of success of anything happening, and having no high degree papers, or social contacts is basically a sentence that will not allow me to have success. even tho i have skills and i fix stuff all the time, i like a lot of things, and i do them quiet good, being eclectic means i don't excel in anything, i am mediocre in everything. what i do, i do it cause i can predict a small success. but doing what you call steps, is a way too big thing and based on the data my brain has, it's predictions are bad and it will not let me fail more than i usually do... (Note that when i say "brain" i mean me, i am self aware and can separate from myself to analyse, and i also have the solutions to all my problems in advance, but since i know it in advance, "my brain" is always ahead of me and will not those solutions work for me) it's like i am a therapist that knows all the card tricks to cure people but to be cured peoole need to believe that the Tricks are not tricks but magic, then if you are the person with that problem, how can you believe it's magic if you are perfectly aware that those are just tricks) i hope i can convey some sort of sense out my mad speech

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +1

      @@Franseven I believe you're smart and because of that a conversation here won't solve the problem, I do encourage you to use that brain and aim it towards personal development. Doing so might drive you to try and challenge the beliefs you're talking about and actually see who's right, you? Or you 😄

    • @Franseven
      @Franseven 3 роки тому

      @@TherapeuticReactions unfortunately i'm not that smart since my n1 priority is self enjoyment and self development is last...

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +1

      @@Franseven We are creatures of habits, try breaking one of them

  • @jasonrogers1752
    @jasonrogers1752 3 роки тому

    thank you

  • @alyshaharper8730
    @alyshaharper8730 2 роки тому

    I found my hubby on a free app, but it took me until I was 34 to find him. And there is a reason I didn't let my mother fix me up, her taste in men sucks. She is on her third racist abusive husband and doesn't care for my gentle giant or my biracial in-laws. So yeah, it is not always the best ideal to let other people set you up.

  • @genostellar
    @genostellar 3 роки тому

    For some, "searching" for love is literally putting "single" on your facebook profile and hoping someone you're going to like notices. The equivalent of fishing without bait.

  • @madiesfirstadventure5536
    @madiesfirstadventure5536 3 роки тому

    You should react to his Kanye rant song it's kind of an emotional rollercoaster

  • @FlufferSquirrelUK
    @FlufferSquirrelUK 3 роки тому

    Great reaction

  • @marsjaninka7261
    @marsjaninka7261 2 роки тому +1

  • @RandiPie71
    @RandiPie71 3 роки тому +1

    Very wise. Do you have any other social media to follow? Thank you for another great video, as always! So very intuitive!

    • @TherapeuticReactions
      @TherapeuticReactions  3 роки тому +1

      Hi Randi! I love your comments thank you for being you ❤️ I need to set one up, other people asked me as well but didn't think it will be necessary so soon 😅 So I will give you an update on that 🤗

  • @kerrychristensen7204
    @kerrychristensen7204 3 роки тому

    🙂

  • @milamaster131
    @milamaster131 3 роки тому +2

    pls react to art is dead

  • @Johnjohnthejohn
    @Johnjohnthejohn 3 роки тому +2

    4654th