HR is absolutely not the place to go and complain. All HR does is kick the issue back to management, knowing full well that they are the problem. HR is not there to protect the employee, the corporation's reputation or anything else, but SENIOR management. HR will fight to the last man and the last dollar to protect management.
HR is one of the 3 places thru which a company may be controlled, so hatchet men concentrate on taking it over or at least neutralizing it. If urs does nothing that means it's already been corrupted. If u get the chance, read a piece titled The hatchet Man's Playbook. It talks about that very thing.
she is right on about this. This describes my boss exactly. All companies should take note of these people. She actually held up work, screwed good work up and in the end cost the company money. What I want to know is how to identify these people before you work for them
If someone criticizes you and not the others, and you brand new, complain. Right away. It will works. If you wait, it will just get worse, and then eventually if you complain, you may not be believed, because it does take time for the bully to set the groundwork up to make you look bad. So complain right away.
Thank you so much for this video, I am currently going through this, Because I stand out, go to work clock in and out do my job, and don't make friends at my job they decided to target me, I'm coming from a great location to another location where no one is organized, And the boss is friends with the rest of the employees, like I said I come in do my job and go home, when I say everyday he finds something to complain about that's exactly what I mean, my job is done but he finds other things small things to think about, I always stand tall with him, Speak my mind and make sure he knows I know my policy and he hates that, I have never been through anything in my life like this at a job, I am putting in my two weeks notice for my sake and go back to where I know I belong.. Never again, He knows I won't take his shit,The environment that I am at is terrible
And be careful because the HR will have the bully back if there longer then you, That job wasn't meant for you anyways, and 9 times out of 10 you will find better
Thank you for your details on the "Insecure Boss" type, and how that personality trait often turns into bullying and targeting. Your bulleted examples of this behavior is a great help! For "live, and let live" type employees, (such as myself,) in my experience, there is a high level of misplaced trust, understanding and latitude for their position and challenges, or just a naivety. I have been blindsided by these toxic people often in the past. It is great that you acknowledge how toxic bosses position themselves in a protected, powerful bubble- even if only for the targeted employee. For example- the "idea man" and one responsible for your success through an undefined path based solely on their opinion.
My manager only do the talking and chooses what to review and what not to review.. defeat the purpose of the review process (initial reviewer and final reviewer), say he is the initial reviewer and he doesn't do his job properly and pushes all the work to the final reviewer.
Hello I want to know how to deal with my boss? I have way above the boss and the owner and all how work in company but I'm doing the least job in the company with the less wage! But still saying And every time it's a chance to apply for a new position they hide it from me they make the hiring top secret. Finally I email my boss asking why he undermine my qualifications and abilities to promote me? His answer was I need you where you are now. OMG WHAT CAN I DO?
They are playing games with you. They do not want you in another position which means they do not really appreciate you. The company is using condescending remarks and fake praise to keep you in your current position. Either confront them with the situation or start looking for something else. They are using you.
Great discussion, but I have to say your chances of making any sort of successful action against such a boss are close to zero. Bosses have absolute power in most places. HR is there to back them up, if they really mess up and hit you, for instance, you'll be escorted out to HR on the spot, and threatened with retaliation if you press charges. HR is there to get you to sign something that you'll not press charges, and if you don't, they'll say "we can ruin your chances of getting another job."
Moraine LAKE There are definitely ways. The best approach is the approach of positive intentions. This is going to your manager and saying "I really enjoy my work and you are a great leader in so many ways. However, there are a few things about your leadership style that I haven't fully figured out and I want us to have a great working relationship. Very often I can tell you get frustrated with me and I would like to understand what I can do to help reduce your frustration." To be honest, with a bully boss you very likely aren't the issue, but this is a way of stroking the bully boss ego while positively bringing the issue to light. If this doesn't work, then you take the next step. Go to HR with this conversation. "I really love my job and the company and I want some advice on how to have a better relationship with my manager." This shows you are there looking for a solution, not just being a tattle-tale trying to get someone in trouble. In the meantime, be a top performer. Go out of your way for additional work and do a great job at it. Make yourself as indispensable as possible. Network with people who are highly valued so you can develop a relationship with powerful allies. I have worked for more than one of these bosses. Each time, I survived, they did not.
That's why in all cases, its better to move on. Do not trust HR. They are not there to protect you and don't care about you. HR are snakes and they will protect management no matter what. Just move on and let nature take its course. There is ALWAYS a price to pay.
I have a very difficult manager that uses intimidation tactics. Unfortunately I'm not the one to bow down. ..so I'm letting her know how I feel! I'm leaving as soon as I secure better employment
Before you find different employment try to "develop and emotional detachment" from the bully. Bullies behave in this manner because they know the consequences. They want you to react emotionally. Do not fall for this tactic.
Girlfriend, I'm with you... I can't even believe I looking this type of situation up because what I am personally going through as we speak, And they can't stand it because I do not bow down I stand tall and speak my mind with all facts,
@@dc9345 a lot of times it is! In my former job, a bank, the white branch manager was a bully and everybody else did too because he told them to! Once I put in my resignation, they all wanted to know where I was going and I acted emotionally unattached just like they do toward me and they were all angry!
Basically. My comanager only took the job I believe because of personal reasons and she would get amazing vacation time, health care and paid a better salary than us under her. Yet what she didn't know there would be more to the job that meant the eye and she can't seem to cope, she thinks by turning into a raging lunatic she gets some sort of an adrenaline rush. It's disturbing shit.
Bullies can only be dealt with one way - Punch them in the nose. The rest is lip service and all of your actions and reactions will be used against you. So man up. If you have a Bully Boss - the moment you find out / go straight to HR. Don't sit and drag yourself through hell for money and career - because dealing with a Bully always ends one way - badly. Just suck it up now, make a fantastic HR Claim with plenty of evidence, witnesses, and testimony. Then let them fire you if that's what they want. Let your next employer know you were fired because you reported a bully and you don't ever want to work in an abusive environment. Believe me, you will make the world a better place!! Have courage and best wishes.
I know a boss who have destroyed so many careers of young nurses.Bullied, harassed, humiliated, fired so many staff. He is still there....untouchable...
Good video. I had a bully boss at my old company. Unfortunately most companies are non-union. If you are in a union, talk to your rep immediately. My old boss constantly pulled me into his cubicle for "coaching" and "performance management". Wrote me up for this and that. Never had any issues with prior supervisors in the organization. Got pulled into HR with absurd write ups. Finally stated in that meeting that I felt he was a bully in front of HR manager and that I wasn't signing any write ups and that I might be speaking with an employment attorney. It continued. I finally filed a complaint with the EEOC on the advice of counsel. At that point my boss was "reassigned" to another department. I had asked for a different supervisor and had been rebuffed. The fact these people get into management to begin with is sad. I have to say I have had many wonderful managers over the years as well.
+kevin ives One of my workmates was getting absurd written warnings. One of them was for coming into work one minute late. Long story short he quit, got himself an independent lawyer, and got an out of court settlement of around $7000.
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your consciousness, Yvette! ....you are SO RIGHT ON about this subject! ....communication that reeks of pettiness, unethical behavior; bullies are intensely uncomfortable with intelligent, forthright people and their creativity; fearful of being upstaged; they tell lies to turn people against stable, self-assured people. How sad! Speak, girl, SPEAK! ~ Oceans of LOVE to you!
These traits sounds like the boss is a type 1 sociopath. They have no conscience and they rarely do anything illegal, immoral-yet, but not illegal. Best to know the traits- Bully Bosses - most likely type 1 sociopaths,
Thank You! I feel so much better now. You perfectly described my boss to the letter! And sadly she has been at the company for 13 years..... She won, I quit....
@Bella Don't beat yourself up...you did what was right and cut the toxic poison from your life...she and the company lost a valuable employee because her ego and controlling ways got the best of her...Karma has a way of coming around...I hope your feeling better
Yup. That's why the vast majority of co's dont survive 20 years. If u get the chance, check out The Hatchet Man's Playbook. Can't recommend it highly enough.
I think a lot of the times, the boss is bipolar. No kidding. This is a real as can can be. I find that the only way to deal with them is to diffuse the situation as quickly as possible. The more it drags out, the more irate they get. Just say "I will do that way." or whatever. If nothing else works, just politely tell them you must leave and you will work on it. Sadly, there is nothing you can do to win a battle with this type of boss, and there is no justice. The system is stacked against you.
I have had my share of bullying bosses as well as bullying HR managers. I am truly praying for them because bosses should treat people they way they want to be treated. God is the head of them all, so all of those who have been bullied by your boss please know that they are not your source but God is. You will be okay. I am and I pray that you are too. Hang in there.
my bully comanager is foreign and a woman. i wouldn't be surprised why the company protects her because she would use her playbook (discrimination) to take down the company. so they shop her around other locations to protect themselves from any legal action.
(5:48) that proverb placed there makes no sense. If the boss felt superior to the employee in abilities, what makes him "vicious"? She is claiming that sometimes the boss is brilliant, so becomes impatient with incompetent workers...that's silly coz they probably wouldn't have been hired in the 1st place. Usually the boss is the one who isn't that bright but did make some good past decisions or connections that led him to his good position but he may be a creature of habit, so doesn't realize there are other ways to handle an issue so would feel threatened if a "peon" could resolve the crisis he was facing. Wish they would cover on how to handle this issue with wisdom or what to say to prospective employer when looking for another job since it is considered wrong to bad talk about last job. can you get away with saying reason for leaving was , "personal reasons"? I think it's none of their business, obviously you weren't happy...they should instead ask what would make you want to leave a job rather than almost get you to confess about a specific employer. Since most states are "At will" employees (meaning they could be let go for any reason or no reason, then if you are separated from a job, you should be able to chose to give a reason or prefer to not answer.
My manager is awful .. I am in the process of looking for another job, My manager complains about everything i do never says what i do right, she nit picks over every little thing i do , talks about me to other workers right in front of me, we work in her home so sometimes she comes down stairs in see through gowns with no panties on and flip flops with her hair all over the place and cooks food and don't clean up behind her self and complains when we don't clean HER mess , I am tired and feel like a slave, People keep leaving because of how she is and the little bit of people there are stuck with all the work when those people leave, its dirty there and she is a nut case .
leave her phone number here so we can call her and tell her to stop wearing see through gown and to wear some panties and to clean her own mess! lol This almost sounded like a porno plot. I hope you found a new job. Are you illegal by any chance, why else are you putting up with this?
I'm bullied at every place I have been employed. I live in eastern Oregon and I'm from sanbernardino CA. Most places here in eastern Oregon I'm the only black female employee. I fear of losing my job for even mentioning the tournament, I am receiving from my bosses and/ or employee's. Because I am alone and out numbered.
uncomfortable with intelligent employees who feel free to speak their minds. Do not like new ideas. Make veiled or unveiled threats. Constantly keeping tabs - calling frequently, accusatory overtones. relentless - nothing you say is right, then when you try to stand up for yourself, mildly, they CRY to HR and make you look bad. Condescending - judging, labeling, tension among everyone on the team. Employees avoid - feels trapped - behavior worsens when confronted repercussions +++
I'm targeted person by cops so I'm hit by job sabotage coworkers from hell and cults at Springhill hotel in Birmingham Alabama, she give me others rooms to clean , wait till I'm leaving to start checking my rooms and dont do others the same, give me strict rules
Bullying is just weak management. It's basically cutting corners by using intimidation. Either they want you to leave or they want you to do what they want when they want (a puppet). They can't tell you what you need to do in an objective manner, so it's all YOUR fault. Management is giving employees clear objectives and then finding out what the development needs are. That can be done without bullying.
Take action against workplace bullying. Management will not solve this problem. They are the problem. Politicians and lawmakers have to take action. Canvas them. There are petitions available through the internet. Find live petitions against workplace bullying and sign them. Alternatively submit your own petition.
I am working in a situation like this. I have complained and she seems to knit pick about my work and nothing ever seems to be good enough i always felt like this is a tactic to make the employee feel belittled like they can't do the job plus one day she is alright the next day she rolling her eyes and has negative body language towards me and she has been there for 25yrs they know her behavior they won't do anything about it and others follow along with her.
yup..my comanager is foreign and a woman...she has been at several locations over the the last handful of years I don't think she has a clue why but everyone knows...if she does know she buries it by bullying , controlling and railroading others...she's truly nasty and unstable...i wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt but she turned on me too.
HR will always protect management, they don't care aboutmost people, and once its gone the HR route, they will try to find a way to turn it back on you. If you can afford to, just leave once your paycheck hits your bank account or in the mean time find another job and get on with your life. The bullies you leave behind will eventually destroy each other.
Living in delaware, the law says, they don't need a reason to fire you. I reported harrassment, then i was wrote up for poor job performance, what can I do?
Linda C. McCrae, you had no right stealing my friends SS# off of the tuition form and using for your own lowdown hateful means. I only blame Daniel J. Rader, MD for participating and continuing the workplace harassment. But the genesis of this harassment started with you Linda C. McCrae, right after your month long sick leave in August of 2006.
That's what I went through gossip, condensing remarks, emails and correspondence that Reck of pettiness. Instead of working together for an effective solution
She is so right! I left my job of 28 years because of a bully boss. He knew not to mess with me! But treated my buddies so bad! I won't stand for that! He's running off good, talented workers, and the company will fail because of him.
As I watched the video, I could not believe someone knew what I am going through on a daily bases. The only thing I did not hear is what happens when you think the employer or executive may be promoting the bully boss (BB) behavior. I have tried to address my issues with the BB with the executive only to have her claim she supervised the BB to act in the ways she does. I felt the executive had something against me personally. I have been in this situation for 8 years because of family.
Very clever Miss; I've pointed it to my company to come in contact with her as a counselor to our management. This can be very good for a company and employee. Good job Lady.
Maybe....bully was a good boss who was shit on once too much by you innocents. The military teaches blind obedience , otherwise it's inmates running the asylum. A group of whining, jealous subordinates will stab a boss in his back to take his job. He's not your pal.
Yes many bosses / coworkers / clients are full.of sacristic talks and fully of toxicity inside them.. Which makes people go away from them... Don't be sacristic to people based on there past life It show the person cheap characters if some one always sacristic to other person bullying him or her based on past. Sign of dirty humans . Not good work places with such sacristic bosses people around ...
Yes many bosses are full.of sacristic talks and fully of toxicity inside them.. Which makes people go away from them... Don't be sacristic to people based on there past life It show the person cheap characters if some one always sacristic to other person bullying him or her based on past. Sign of dirty humans ..
It May cost you your job, but stand up for ourself, announce out loud to your co-workers what is happening. Call the bully out and tell them to flack off, and go to the top and expect management to step in. But document everything. Forget the union rep, they will not help. But face t, when that starts, it is time to go you are in a hostile environment.
I’m dealing with this now, I’m getting ready to state a different job but I have to stay there until I know a definite start date but every time I say something about what going on , I get called paranoid or dilusional
When your boss demands you do something that you know is wrong and compromises your integrity as a person and could potentially ruin your reputation or worse leave you with a criminal record, stand up for yourself and always get everything IN WRITING!!! I can't stress this enough GET IT IN WRITING!.
We ha an old fashioned bully boss all for the company,, it was a nifht shift job,,he never let anyone away with anything ,,and no way to get back at him,, one night in the break time he was working freeing a sized hinge on his car door, when the phone rang which he run to answer, he left his car keys in the door, quick I put a pint of water and sugar in his petrol (gas) tank , that morning at 6 am he broke down,, drain it all out and wait till 9 am to get fuel, the car was never any good it give him problems after,,and a few punctures,,
@dierjran Management don't care how bosses produce. They just want them to produce. When these bosses produce, management is ok. They could careless about the mistreatment.
I am experiencing a bully boss. It took me a long time to realize it was happening. I looked in the mirror and realized I took awful. Huge bags under my eyes and I dread going to work. The hour before work if my boss has been in a bad mood, I feel like I might have an anxiety attack. I worked with the newest girl this week and it was hard to do both our jobs because she isn't fully trained. A had a customer being rude so I stepped in and stood up for my coworker. Firmly telling the customer to wait while we investigate her situation. The customers complained about me and my boss didn't say hi to me my next shift. Then when I got the schedule, she cut my hours.
I am being bullied by my boss right now. I have to follow her instructions to a T. I have a learning disability in which I have to learn a new way to do my job. But she constantly critizes me about how I am purposely not following her. I'm afraid to tell her about my problem because she might fire me.
I have just left a place because the boss couldnt control his temper, and then when i approached him about it later on he denied it and then lied. that is a person you cannot tolerate.
The question is what does the organization reward? In other words, what behavior is approved by the company culture. If your company rewards aggressive managment tactics, political games and sabotage then your issue is to recognize that. Look at it objectively. Sometimes companies have a lot of window dressing around this, like "be a team player" "act like an owner" etc. Your job is to see if in fact these behaviors are rewarded. If they are not there is very little you can do, except leave.
Also, everyone remember that all bullying bosses will reap what they sow. Martynblackburn1977, I hope you don't get fired, but if you do, please know that when one door closes another will open for you.
Wow! This is still relevant in 2022! Thank You So Much Teacher Yvette for the tutorial on dealing with difficult people! 🌷🌿🌍💖🕊
HR is absolutely not the place to go and complain. All HR does is kick the issue back to management, knowing full well that they are the problem. HR is not there to protect the employee, the corporation's reputation or anything else, but SENIOR management. HR will fight to the last man and the last dollar to protect management.
you are correct!
HR is one of the 3 places thru which a company may be controlled, so hatchet men concentrate on taking it over or at least neutralizing it. If urs does nothing that means it's already been corrupted. If u get the chance, read a piece titled The hatchet Man's Playbook. It talks about that very thing.
Sad but very very true. HR these days is full of unethical, evil people who further traumatize employees by backing these bullies.
Don’t go to HR!
Protection of management isn't there job. Protection of organization is.
she is right on about this. This describes my boss exactly. All companies should take note of these people. She actually held up work, screwed good work up and in the end cost the company money. What I want to know is how to identify these people before you work for them
+notagain I guess by talking to co workers before hand and asking how there managers are.
Doesn't matter, one of these people could move into your life at any time.
Cathie Romero
2 choices. Work your way into a supervisor position to purge these people out or start your own company.
If someone criticizes you and not the others, and you brand new, complain. Right away. It will works. If you wait, it will just get worse, and then eventually if you complain, you may not be believed, because it does take time for the bully to set the groundwork up to make you look bad. So complain right away.
Thank you so much for this video, I am currently going through this, Because I stand out, go to work clock in and out do my job, and don't make friends at my job they decided to target me, I'm coming from a great location to another location where no one is organized, And the boss is friends with the rest of the employees, like I said I come in do my job and go home, when I say everyday he finds something to complain about that's exactly what I mean, my job is done but he finds other things small things to think about, I always stand tall with him, Speak my mind and make sure he knows I know my policy and he hates that, I have never been through anything in my life like this at a job, I am putting in my two weeks notice for my sake and go back to where I know I belong.. Never again, He knows I won't take his shit,The environment that I am at is terrible
cdubb Your situation sounds exactly like mine.
I feel.you and this is exactly what i am dealing with. I like you. Can we we friends? 😁
Lol 3 yrs old comment but relevant to me today.
Good for you! Integrity and self respect is irreplaceable, jobs are replaceable.
And be careful because the HR will have the bully back if there longer then you, That job wasn't meant for you anyways, and 9 times out of 10 you will find better
Absolutely excellent informational video.
So, so, so true about my current situation at work.
Beautiful lady too boot.
Thank you for your details on the "Insecure Boss" type, and how that personality trait often turns into bullying and targeting. Your bulleted examples of this behavior is a great help! For "live, and let live" type employees, (such as myself,) in my experience, there is a high level of misplaced trust, understanding and latitude for their position and challenges, or just a naivety. I have been blindsided by these toxic people often in the past. It is great that you acknowledge how toxic bosses position themselves in a protected, powerful bubble- even if only for the targeted employee. For example- the "idea man" and one responsible for your success through an undefined path based solely on their opinion.
This woman is smart
The one thing that I don't understand is why don't these bosses get fired by their bosses?
recently someone at work went to human rights that was a game changer
THIS IS MY CURRENT ISSUE AT WORK RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I need help no matter what I do its always wrong.
Just move on, its far easier.
Preach Sister.
the boss cut your hours you want to work more hours and they will not let you start looking for a new job
AHHH...HOW ARE YOU DESCRIBING MY BOSS
My manager only do the talking and chooses what to review and what not to review.. defeat the purpose of the review process (initial reviewer and final reviewer), say he is the initial reviewer and he doesn't do his job properly and pushes all the work to the final reviewer.
Hello I want to know how to deal with my boss? I have way above the boss and the owner and all how work in company but I'm doing the least job in the company with the less wage! But still saying
And every time it's a chance to apply for a new position they hide it from me they make the hiring top secret. Finally I email my boss asking why he undermine my qualifications and abilities to promote me? His answer was I need you where you are now. OMG WHAT CAN I DO?
They are playing games with you. They do not want you in another position which means they do not really appreciate you. The company is using condescending remarks and fake praise to keep you in your current position. Either confront them with the situation or start looking for something else. They are using you.
Lol I go for hearings every 2 weeks every little mistake I do is a big deal..it sucks m looking for another job
Great discussion, but I have to say your chances of making any sort of successful action against such a boss are close to zero. Bosses have absolute power in most places. HR is there to back them up, if they really mess up and hit you, for instance, you'll be escorted out to HR on the spot, and threatened with retaliation if you press charges. HR is there to get you to sign something that you'll not press charges, and if you don't, they'll say "we can ruin your chances of getting another job."
Moraine LAKE There are definitely ways. The best approach is the approach of positive intentions. This is going to your manager and saying "I really enjoy my work and you are a great leader in so many ways. However, there are a few things about your leadership style that I haven't fully figured out and I want us to have a great working relationship. Very often I can tell you get frustrated with me and I would like to understand what I can do to help reduce your frustration." To be honest, with a bully boss you very likely aren't the issue, but this is a way of stroking the bully boss ego while positively bringing the issue to light. If this doesn't work, then you take the next step. Go to HR with this conversation. "I really love my job and the company and I want some advice on how to have a better relationship with my manager." This shows you are there looking for a solution, not just being a tattle-tale trying to get someone in trouble. In the meantime, be a top performer. Go out of your way for additional work and do a great job at it. Make yourself as indispensable as possible. Network with people who are highly valued so you can develop a relationship with powerful allies. I have worked for more than one of these bosses. Each time, I survived, they did not.
That's why in all cases, its better to move on. Do not trust HR. They are not there to protect you and don't care about you. HR are snakes and they will protect management no matter what. Just move on and let nature take its course. There is ALWAYS a price to pay.
Would love to network. How can I contact you?
5:00 My current boss. She's so rude and annoying -_- This is my current situation.
I have a pill popping bully boss that's miserable she's actually pathetic and I feel very bad for her.
There is always a price to pay, and they WILL pay that price. Maybe not today or tomorrow but they will pay it someday. I have seen it so many times,
Lol this sounds way to familiar.
Bullies should leave the bully personality at home and bring the professional at work
I have a very difficult manager that uses intimidation tactics. Unfortunately I'm not the one to bow down. ..so I'm letting her know how I feel! I'm leaving as soon as I secure better employment
Before you find different employment try to "develop and emotional detachment" from the bully. Bullies behave in this manner because they know the consequences. They want you to react emotionally. Do not fall for this tactic.
Girlfriend, I'm with you... I can't even believe I looking this type of situation up because what I am personally going through as we speak, And they can't stand it because I do not bow down I stand tall and speak my mind with all facts,
@@dc9345 a lot of times it is! In my former job, a bank, the white branch manager was a bully and everybody else did too because he told them to! Once I put in my resignation, they all wanted to know where I was going and I acted emotionally unattached just like they do toward me and they were all angry!
I hope you've found that by now Felicia.
My situation right now
some people in authority are truly title struck!
Some people in authority aren't meant to be managers like mine.
Basically. My comanager only took the job I believe because of personal reasons and she would get amazing vacation time, health care and paid a better salary than us under her. Yet what she didn't know there would be more to the job that meant the eye and she can't seem to cope, she thinks by turning into a raging lunatic she gets some sort of an adrenaline rush. It's disturbing shit.
Bullies can only be dealt with one way - Punch them in the nose. The rest is lip service and all of your actions and reactions will be used against you. So man up. If you have a Bully Boss - the moment you find out / go straight to HR. Don't sit and drag yourself through hell for money and career - because dealing with a Bully always ends one way - badly. Just suck it up now, make a fantastic HR Claim with plenty of evidence, witnesses, and testimony. Then let them fire you if that's what they want. Let your next employer know you were fired because you reported a bully and you don't ever want to work in an abusive environment.
Believe me, you will make the world a better place!!
Have courage and best wishes.
+gkornegay Document every incident that happens
I like the statement to the next boss!!🤔
YES...YES...YESSSSSS!!!! G, YOU TOTALLY "GET IT"!!!! EXCELLENT ADVICE... YOU HIT THE NAIL(s) ON THE HEAD!!
@G, you can't punch the bully because you will go to jail.
I know a boss who have destroyed so many careers of young nurses.Bullied, harassed, humiliated, fired so many staff. He is still there....untouchable...
Nothing in life is free. There will always be a price to pay, and one day he WILL pay that price whatever that price may be.
Bring to EEOC
Lots of places self governing skills are corrupt
Good video. I had a bully boss at my old company. Unfortunately most companies are non-union. If you are in a union, talk to your rep immediately. My old boss constantly pulled me into his cubicle for "coaching" and "performance management". Wrote me up for this and that. Never had any issues with prior supervisors in the organization. Got pulled into HR with absurd write ups. Finally stated in that meeting that I felt he was a bully in front of HR manager and that I wasn't signing any write ups and that I might be speaking with an employment attorney. It continued. I finally filed a complaint with the EEOC on the advice of counsel. At that point my boss was "reassigned" to another department. I had asked for a different supervisor and had been rebuffed. The fact these people get into management to begin with is sad. I have to say I have had many wonderful managers over the years as well.
+kevin ives One of my workmates was getting absurd written warnings. One of them was for coming into work one minute late. Long story short he quit, got himself an independent lawyer, and got an out of court settlement of around $7000.
Kevin, did you file online with EEOC? How did it go?
Actually it seems the unions don't do much about this either. They're not EEOC or employment lawyers. I really don't know what they do.
kevin Poo I’m going through the same. Just filed with EEOC...this is all such a nightmare.
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your consciousness, Yvette! ....you are SO RIGHT ON about this subject! ....communication that reeks of pettiness, unethical behavior; bullies are intensely uncomfortable with intelligent, forthright people and their creativity; fearful of being upstaged; they tell lies to turn people against stable, self-assured people. How sad! Speak, girl, SPEAK!
~ Oceans of LOVE to you!
These traits sounds like the boss is a type 1 sociopath. They have no conscience and they rarely do anything illegal, immoral-yet, but not illegal. Best to know the traits- Bully Bosses - most likely type 1 sociopaths,
Thank You! I feel so much better now. You perfectly described my boss to the letter! And sadly she has been at the company for 13 years..... She won, I quit....
You won baby, U left and got a peice of mind,
+Bella AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!!!
+cdubb EXACTLY!!! You never lose when you stand in your truth and take away their so called power.
I'm sorry she won.🙁
@Bella Don't beat yourself up...you did what was right and cut the toxic poison from your life...she and the company lost a valuable employee because her ego and controlling ways got the best of her...Karma has a way of coming around...I hope your feeling better
Some corporations big and small are like cults. They reward destructive methods.
Yup. That's why the vast majority of co's dont survive 20 years. If u get the chance, check out The Hatchet Man's Playbook. Can't recommend it highly enough.
I think a lot of the times, the boss is bipolar. No kidding. This is a real as can can be. I find that the only way to deal with them is to diffuse the situation as quickly as possible. The more it drags out, the more irate they get. Just say "I will do that way." or whatever. If nothing else works, just politely tell them you must leave and you will work on it.
Sadly, there is nothing you can do to win a battle with this type of boss, and there is no justice. The system is stacked against you.
I have had my share of bullying bosses as well as bullying HR managers. I am truly praying for them because bosses should treat people they way they want to be treated. God is the head of them all, so all of those who have been bullied by your boss please know that they are not your source but God is. You will be okay. I am and I pray that you are too. Hang in there.
AMEN!!! GOD IS IN CONTROL!!!
Bully bosses are not just lurking in the " Offices" its rife in the Workplace
or if companies had back bones they would work on making anti workplace bullying policy.
It is much worse when the bull boss is the one running HR!
+The Oracle Oracle I feel you , my situation
I had this to happen to me. The HR Mgr was the bully
My situation as well
That's NOT an accident! One of the classic strategies for corporate domination is to take control of HR. Read The Hatchet Man's Playbook.
My situation right now
My bully boss does all this things to me. I do not know why the company protect him.
Document everything and be ready to fight one day or even better, go get another job,
my bully comanager is foreign and a woman. i wouldn't be surprised why the company protects her because she would use her playbook (discrimination) to take down the company. so they shop her around other locations to protect themselves from any legal action.
If u get the chance, check out a piece titled The Hatchet Man's Playbook. You'd really appreciate it!
(5:48) that proverb placed there makes no sense. If the boss felt superior to the employee in abilities, what makes him "vicious"? She is claiming that sometimes the boss is brilliant, so becomes impatient with incompetent workers...that's silly coz they probably wouldn't have been hired in the 1st place. Usually the boss is the one who isn't that bright but did make some good past decisions or connections that led him to his good position but he may be a creature of habit, so doesn't realize there are other ways to handle an issue so would feel threatened if a "peon" could resolve the crisis he was facing. Wish they would cover on how to handle this issue with wisdom or what to say to prospective employer when looking for another job since it is considered wrong to bad talk about last job. can you get away with saying reason for leaving was , "personal reasons"? I think it's none of their business, obviously you weren't happy...they should instead ask what would make you want to leave a job rather than almost get you to confess about a specific employer. Since most states are "At will" employees (meaning they could be let go for any reason or no reason, then if you are separated from a job, you should be able to chose to give a reason or prefer to not answer.
The CEO can and will promote bullying.
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LOL ...EXACTLY!!
Thank you but I still feel hopeless
My manager is awful .. I am in the process of looking for another job, My manager complains about everything i do never says what i do right, she nit picks over every little thing i do , talks about me to other workers right in front of me, we work in her home so sometimes she comes down stairs in see through gowns with no panties on and flip flops with her hair all over the place and cooks food and don't clean up behind her self and complains when we don't clean HER mess , I am tired and feel like a slave, People keep leaving because of how she is and the little bit of people there are stuck with all the work when those people leave, its dirty there and she is a nut case .
leave her phone number here so we can call her and tell her to stop wearing see through gown and to wear some panties and to clean her own mess! lol This almost sounded like a porno plot. I hope you found a new job. Are you illegal by any chance, why else are you putting up with this?
Lol what job do you have? See through panties!
I'm bullied at every place I have been employed. I live in eastern Oregon and I'm from sanbernardino CA. Most places here in eastern Oregon I'm the only black female employee. I fear of losing my job for even mentioning the tournament, I am receiving from my bosses and/ or employee's. Because I am alone and out numbered.
I'm a free thinking employee experiencing exactly what you were describing in this video
uncomfortable with intelligent employees who feel free to speak their minds.
Do not like new ideas.
Make veiled or unveiled threats.
Constantly keeping tabs - calling frequently, accusatory overtones.
relentless - nothing you say is right, then when you try to stand up for yourself, mildly, they CRY to HR and make you look bad.
Condescending - judging, labeling, tension among everyone on the team.
Employees avoid - feels trapped - behavior worsens when confronted
repercussions +++
this is brilliantly described. I'm amazed because almost always HR is on the side of managerial bullies not subordinates.
I'm targeted person by cops so I'm hit by job sabotage coworkers from hell and cults at Springhill hotel in Birmingham Alabama, she give me others rooms to clean , wait till I'm leaving to start checking my rooms and dont do others the same, give me strict rules
These managers are just plain employees as well! Majority of them got their position just because of their inside connection.
It is scary to have bosses that are sufferings from Schizophrenia or other ego delusional mental illnesses! 🕯🌍
There is a permanent solution to getting rid of a bully boss, but why risk going to jail just to rid the world of a nasty parasite?
WOW,,,Did the lady in this video visit my work place or what
Bullying is just weak management. It's basically cutting corners by using intimidation. Either they want you to leave or they want you to do what they want when they want (a puppet). They can't tell you what you need to do in an objective manner, so it's all YOUR fault. Management is giving employees clear objectives and then finding out what the development needs are. That can be done without bullying.
Take action against workplace bullying. Management will not solve this problem. They are the problem. Politicians and lawmakers have to take action. Canvas them. There are petitions available through the internet. Find live petitions against workplace bullying and sign them. Alternatively submit your own petition.
best way to stop a bully boss smack him in the mouth
I am working in a situation like this. I have complained and she seems to knit pick about my work and nothing ever seems to be good enough i always felt like this is a tactic to make the employee feel belittled like they can't do the job plus one day she is alright the next day she rolling her eyes and has negative body language towards me and she has been there for 25yrs they know her behavior they won't do anything about it and others follow along with her.
yup..my comanager is foreign and a woman...she has been at several locations over the the last handful of years I don't think she has a clue why but everyone knows...if she does know she buries it by bullying , controlling and railroading others...she's truly nasty and unstable...i wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt but she turned on me too.
Very true scenarios ....the unpredictable bully
Btw this tactics usually played by boomers
HR will always protect management, they don't care aboutmost people, and once its gone the HR route, they will try to find a way to turn it back on you. If you can afford to, just leave once your paycheck hits your bank account or in the mean time find another job and get on with your life. The bullies you leave behind will eventually destroy each other.
Yup bullies and bully business go out of business so fuck the bully workforce
Living in delaware, the law says, they don't need a reason to fire you. I reported harrassment, then i was wrote up for poor job performance, what can I do?
I'll catch a case over my livelyhood
Linda C. McCrae, you had no right stealing my friends SS# off of the tuition form and using for your own lowdown hateful means. I only blame Daniel J. Rader, MD for participating and continuing the workplace harassment. But the genesis of this harassment started with you Linda C. McCrae, right after your month long sick leave in August of 2006.
Interesting video. I've had a few of these types of bosses. Never fun.
Bully employees are probably harder to deal with
True, because they spread slander, but the are harder to detect.
+Bobby Brothers especially if they're girls. But hey, eventually they will get a dose of their own medicine
When that happens it means your boss is failing and is not held accountable.
That's what I went through gossip, condensing remarks, emails and correspondence that Reck of pettiness. Instead of working together for an effective solution
Betty, sounds like we worked at the same job. I JUSSSST went through the EXACT same thing!...SMH!!!
She is so right! I left my job of 28 years because of a bully boss. He knew not to mess with me! But treated my buddies so bad! I won't stand for that! He's running off good, talented workers, and the company will fail because of him.
As I watched the video, I could not believe someone knew what I am going through on a daily bases. The only thing I did not hear is what happens when you think the employer or executive may be promoting the bully boss (BB) behavior. I have tried to address my issues with the BB with the executive only to have her claim she supervised the BB to act in the ways she does. I felt the executive had something against me personally. I have been in this situation for 8 years because of family.
Very clever Miss; I've pointed it to my company to come in contact with her as a counselor to our management. This can be very good for a company and employee. Good job Lady.
Maybe....bully was a good boss who was shit on once too much by you innocents. The military teaches blind obedience , otherwise it's inmates running the asylum. A group of whining, jealous subordinates will stab a boss in his back to take his job. He's not your pal.
Yes many bosses / coworkers / clients
are full.of sacristic talks and fully of toxicity inside them..
Which makes people go away from them...
Don't be sacristic to people based on there past life
It show the person cheap characters if some one always sacristic to other person bullying him or her based on past.
Sign of dirty humans .
Not good work places with such sacristic bosses people around ...
Yes many bosses are full.of sacristic talks and fully of toxicity inside them..
Which makes people go away from them...
Don't be sacristic to people based on there past life
It show the person cheap characters if some one always sacristic to other person bullying him or her based on past.
Sign of dirty humans ..
It May cost you your job, but stand up for ourself, announce out loud to your co-workers what is happening. Call the bully out and tell them to flack off, and go to the top and expect management to step in. But document everything. Forget the union rep, they will not help. But face t, when that starts, it is time to go you are in a hostile environment.
I’m dealing with this now, I’m getting ready to state a different job but I have to stay there until I know a definite start date but every time I say something about what going on , I get called paranoid or dilusional
Lamora s Beauty you are not paranoid. You have the right to feel how you feel.
Poker Fong thanks for that. I have gotten a new job and I feel much better now. Thanks again😊
Lamora s Beauty i hope you are happy with your new job. Don't forget to pray before you head out to work :)
Holy Shit! I think she met my supervisor!
When your boss demands you do something that you know is wrong and compromises your integrity as a person and could potentially ruin your reputation or worse leave you with a criminal record, stand up for yourself and always get everything IN WRITING!!! I can't stress this enough GET IT IN WRITING!.
Exactly. HR leaders work under the thumb of the executives and other managers. They are a team.
We ha an old fashioned bully boss all for the company,, it was a nifht shift job,,he never let anyone away with anything ,,and no way to get back at him,, one night in the break time he was working freeing a sized hinge on his car door, when the phone rang which he run to answer, he left his car keys in the door, quick I put a pint of water and sugar in his petrol (gas) tank , that morning at 6 am he broke down,, drain it all out and wait till 9 am to get fuel, the car was never any good it give him problems after,,and a few punctures,,
thank you for this ! clear psychologie about people in powerplaces they shouldn't be in.. don't belong in.
Or going into your e-mails. They do this to me at work. What do I do? I mail myself links to videos LIKE THIS ONE!!!!!! It makes the point.
Covert bully bosses make sure that they do their bullying one on one or stupidly on email. Not much happens when the boss is leading the bullying.
one of the better videos on this subject
Indeed!
Have a girlfrtiend call his house and yell to his wife "tell him if he doesn't call me back I'm gonna have the baby !!"
My last supervisor seriously....They don't allow thinkers to think
@dierjran Management don't care how bosses produce. They just want them to produce. When these bosses produce, management is ok. They could careless about the mistreatment.
I am experiencing a bully boss. It took me a long time to realize it was happening. I looked in the mirror and realized I took awful. Huge bags under my eyes and I dread going to work. The hour before work if my boss has been in a bad mood, I feel like I might have an anxiety attack. I worked with the newest girl this week and it was hard to do both our jobs because she isn't fully trained. A had a customer being rude so I stepped in and stood up for my coworker. Firmly telling the customer to wait while we investigate her situation. The customers complained about me and my boss didn't say hi to me my next shift. Then when I got the schedule, she cut my hours.
I am being bullied by my boss right now. I have to follow her instructions to a T. I have a learning disability in which I have to learn a new way to do my job. But she constantly critizes me about how I am purposely not following her. I'm afraid to tell her about my problem because she might fire me.
I have just left a place because the boss couldnt control his temper, and then when i approached him about it later on he denied it and then lied. that is a person you cannot tolerate.
The question is what does the organization reward? In other words, what behavior is approved by the company culture. If your company rewards aggressive managment tactics, political games and sabotage then your issue is to recognize that. Look at it objectively. Sometimes companies have a lot of window dressing around this, like "be a team player" "act like an owner" etc. Your job is to see if in fact these behaviors are rewarded. If they are not there is very little you can do, except leave.
lol upper manager are usually the bullies and the wanna-be psychos imitate.
Also, everyone remember that all bullying bosses will reap what they sow. Martynblackburn1977, I hope you don't get fired, but if you do, please know that when one door closes another will open for you.
It is so sad am being bulled by my boss and he is making my life so difficult
thanks for sharing this video. proved very helpful. keep producing more videos like this. xx
My first encounter with a bully boss!
Disrespectful of your scheduling needs
I was constantly reporting issues with bullying to the ethics hotline
Felicia Redmond there's an ethics hotline?! I hope one's in my state.
understand your rights and the laws. Speak in clear tones, Do not worry about being a creative individual, and know the law!!!
Such as?
I have one right now a loser.smh bipolar for sure
Excellent video. Thanks .
Thank you for this; much confirmation!!!
You have to watch 👀your co-workers too!👁