Dude, yea, I totally got no game at all when it comes to flirting ! The only thing I got or used was my eyes. I've been told my entire life how beautiful I am, and I do notice how I can get any guy I want as well as a lot of them tend to follow me around like love sick puppies. (I'll never understand in a million years as to why) but yea, if I like someone I'll open up to them more and I tend to make more eye contact. Not just regular eye contact, but a more sultry look in the eye type of look added to it.
I usually am very direct. I get the number and csll. BTW INFJ female here. I usually literally run away if someone is coming on too strong. I ran away from a guy and he ran after me. 20 years later were happily and quirkily married.
1:50 "Talk about mixed signals..." You're telling me. Six months into being friends and getting closer with an INFJ, and I still have no clue what I am doing. From the moment I met her I've been awestruck - and all this time later still I have no clue how she feels. As an ENTP myself, it is an awkward place for me to be. I've never felt so helpless.
Yeah, that has happened to me as well, where someone just assumed I had been flirting with them, when in fact, I was just being myself, and the way I am with everyone. It made me furious, because it was someone else’s partner, and I would never flirt with someone who I knew was in a relationship with someone.
I use dry humour to flirt and become quite lively. I rarely chase someone though as I wait to be chased. That could be a female thing. I don't mind being touched though. I would hug anyone. I show love and care through affection. I will give up alone time for someone I care about although I get very stressed and irritable if I can't be alone enough.
What I do is that I pay attention to small things they mention and then bring it up much later so that they can see how much I care about what they have to say :)
I will return, whether you like it or not !!! (Hysterical laughter) that was my way of "flirting" with my crush. I am such a weirdo 😂 as Infj female, i have no trouble being friendly, touchy, huggy etc with everyone. But I get awkward af around my crush. Since he is an Enfj and I am his crush, he is also awkward af. We are just two awkward idiots who will never get together lol 🤪🤪
0:17 I have no problem opening up. I just have to know i can 100 percent trust you. If you show me youre a mature trustworthy person, that is actually interested in what i have to say, then i love to share and open up. It gets easier as time goes on. The older i get ive learned that all the stuff i thought was weird about me really wasnt that weird at all and many others have gone through the exact same things i have. In turn making it easier to accept myself and easier to share
INFJs are empaths. We, i.e. I, first scan people and then decide what we want. Therefore we need several meetings. We need time to process things. Let me give you an example: I see a person who is subconsciously scanned and suggested for level two. The extraverted function immediately becomes active again and this time suggests much more. Now it's up to the external cortex to decide. This would be a possible way, but also not the right one. INFJs simply want a connection, and that takes time and a lot of trust. I told you, flirting like everyone else does doesn't stand a chance with an INFJ. It causes me enormous frustration when I try to do it again and again. Just imagine, you scan a person and see their dreams and thoughts at night - perhaps full of romance. - perhaps with love - and then you know you will never see this person again. It hurts to connect and experience a breakup and that's what happens, at least for me. I have a disorder deep inside me because I scanned too many people and never saw them again. It's like a knife in the heart. No, you have to understand, we INFJs can always adapt, yes we can be what we don't want to be. We can adapt and hide in our true nature and yes, we do that throughout our lives. But if you would once feel what it means to live completely pure within yourself.
My best flirting session happened earlier today, when I told him, "Don't worry, I won't try to get too close to you," after he grimaced when I gave him a birthday gift.
When I'm vulnerable and I don't know if I'm safe with the person, yes, I am shy and hesitant--it isn't something I can just turn off. That shows I am authentic. I'm also trying to figure out how I feel and if I really like them. It is kind of backwards to want to know before getting to know someone, but I'm so self-aware, I have to deal with my own emotions (as they come) while also paying attention to the person. Let me approach them knowing it's ok. Lets focus on something else, not each other. Anything that moves the focus off of the INFJ is the secret to breaking through their guard. Humor and playfulness also works, as long as it doesn't focus on each other. Regardless of whether the focus is on me or you, I still have to focus on both of us. Focus on something else, and I can do that while also peaking at the person, learning to read them, to become comfortable with them.
Some of these hit home hard. I recently started to crush on someone new after a long time and I'm again in a difficult situation on how to approach her. But I think that'll be more direct this time, because the passiveness from 3) was always hurting in the long run, as I couldn't say want I was thinking, especially when I noticed other people around me kept being direct to the same person.
I'm trying to form a comment - without *Slamming the Door* on this AI content generated channel! Arg!! You must know the words bouncing around in my head!!
It's so weird we can be cary grant if we want but most of the time just see what's going to happen in a few weeks by knowing who they are looking at and say naaa that beautiful girl has a nice nature but is still in their ego ill only dim my light feel guity and ghost them, ill do the right thing and walk away🙏💓😇
I totally go quiet. This guy I want to ask. When he severs Me must think. I’m as I’m as rude and heartless. Lately I’m trying open body language and eye contact. But he seems as on interested. Before I’d got an eyebrow flash. I wanted to speak so bad to him. But gotten to much in my own head. He was just been nice cos it’s job working with the public. Or I wanted it to mean attracting. Months have pasted and I can’t stop thinking of him.
very very difficult and, to be honest, completely wrong. If you want to describe the chameleon then you are in the right place. You describe our adapted behavior or the conflict between us and the chameleon. Simply explained. I could play sports, I could go to a strip club and I could also flirt in many ways, which would be very self-confident and very effective. I am very self-confident. I could also approach any woman on the train, kiss her and actively court her in a dominant manner. This is certainly what women want. But the knowledge and skills do not change our personality and with respect it is completely different and this contradiction hits us really hard in our youth. A simple example, my first girlfriend said to me, why don't you want to have sex with me? Why don't you want what you want? Yes, INFJs are different.
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Infjs can flirt like pros with anyone they don't fancy! A crush however I can barely make eye contact 😂
INFP SAME
My flirting method is to run away 😂
Dude, yea, I totally got no game at all when it comes to flirting ! The only thing I got or used was my eyes. I've been told my entire life how beautiful I am, and I do notice how I can get any guy I want as well as a lot of them tend to follow me around like love sick puppies. (I'll never understand in a million years as to why) but yea, if I like someone I'll open up to them more and I tend to make more eye contact. Not just regular eye contact, but a more sultry look in the eye type of look added to it.
@@Mrs.T-y3f Ha, funny, I have done that and it has worked a little too well! You don't even have to be beautiful, because they are basically puppies.
I usually am very direct. I get the number and csll. BTW INFJ female here. I usually literally run away if someone is coming on too strong. I ran away from a guy and he ran after me. 20 years later were happily and quirkily married.
What’s his type
So true. Me too. I’m still running from people who “liked” me 30 years ago.
1:50 "Talk about mixed signals..." You're telling me. Six months into being friends and getting closer with an INFJ, and I still have no clue what I am doing. From the moment I met her I've been awestruck - and all this time later still I have no clue how she feels. As an ENTP myself, it is an awkward place for me to be. I've never felt so helpless.
This channel helps me to understand and appreciate myself so much more. Thank you for that.
Yes, this
100%
I have been asked before "are you flirting with me?" My response? "Oh, honey. If I was flirting with you, then you'd know."
I wouldn't.
I'd probably say "what do you think?" 🌝
Yeah, that has happened to me as well, where someone just assumed I had been flirting with them, when in fact, I was just being myself, and the way I am with everyone. It made me furious, because it was someone else’s partner, and I would never flirt with someone who I knew was in a relationship with someone.
I use dry humour to flirt and become quite lively. I rarely chase someone though as I wait to be chased. That could be a female thing. I don't mind being touched though. I would hug anyone. I show love and care through affection. I will give up alone time for someone I care about although I get very stressed and irritable if I can't be alone enough.
What I do is that I pay attention to small things they mention and then bring it up much later so that they can see how much I care about what they have to say :)
And they don’t even notice, I’m guessing?
@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied Most people do, they feel like they are not forgotten.
I will return, whether you like it or not !!! (Hysterical laughter)
that was my way of "flirting" with my crush. I am such a weirdo 😂 as Infj female, i have no trouble being friendly, touchy, huggy etc with everyone. But I get awkward af around my crush. Since he is an Enfj and I am his crush, he is also awkward af. We are just two awkward idiots who will never get together lol 🤪🤪
0:17 I have no problem opening up. I just have to know i can 100 percent trust you. If you show me youre a mature trustworthy person, that is actually interested in what i have to say, then i love to share and open up. It gets easier as time goes on. The older i get ive learned that all the stuff i thought was weird about me really wasnt that weird at all and many others have gone through the exact same things i have. In turn making it easier to accept myself and easier to share
❤ absolutely spot on
INFJs are empaths. We, i.e. I, first scan people and then decide what we want. Therefore we need several meetings. We need time to process things. Let me give you an example: I see a person who is subconsciously scanned and suggested for level two. The extraverted function immediately becomes active again and this time suggests much more. Now it's up to the external cortex to decide. This would be a possible way, but also not the right one. INFJs simply want a connection, and that takes time and a lot of trust. I told you, flirting like everyone else does doesn't stand a chance with an INFJ. It causes me enormous frustration when I try to do it again and again. Just imagine, you scan a person and see their dreams and thoughts at night - perhaps full of romance. - perhaps with love - and then you know you will never see this person again. It hurts to connect and experience a breakup and that's what happens, at least for me. I have a disorder deep inside me because I scanned too many people and never saw them again. It's like a knife in the heart. No, you have to understand, we INFJs can always adapt, yes we can be what we don't want to be. We can adapt and hide in our true nature and yes, we do that throughout our lives. But if you would once feel what it means to live completely pure within yourself.
My best flirting session happened earlier today, when I told him, "Don't worry, I won't try to get too close to you," after he grimaced when I gave him a birthday gift.
When I'm vulnerable and I don't know if I'm safe with the person, yes, I am shy and hesitant--it isn't something I can just turn off. That shows I am authentic. I'm also trying to figure out how I feel and if I really like them. It is kind of backwards to want to know before getting to know someone, but I'm so self-aware, I have to deal with my own emotions (as they come) while also paying attention to the person. Let me approach them knowing it's ok. Lets focus on something else, not each other. Anything that moves the focus off of the INFJ is the secret to breaking through their guard. Humor and playfulness also works, as long as it doesn't focus on each other. Regardless of whether the focus is on me or you, I still have to focus on both of us. Focus on something else, and I can do that while also peaking at the person, learning to read them, to become comfortable with them.
And just to me, you caused me a huge disruption. I basically don't know a way out of this. I have to heal myself.
Oh please, you are fine. Stop over thinking it.
I am the biggest flirt in the world but never ask for a date because I am a introvert 😂😂😂 ❤
INFJs don’t need to flirt. They are just themselves. That makes people attracted to them.
Some of these hit home hard. I recently started to crush on someone new after a long time and I'm again in a difficult situation on how to approach her. But I think that'll be more direct this time, because the passiveness from 3) was always hurting in the long run, as I couldn't say want I was thinking, especially when I noticed other people around me kept being direct to the same person.
i love how’s there’s only 5 comments. way more realistic ratio 😭 too many clear isfj’s or infp’s claiming infj
I'm trying to form a comment - without *Slamming the Door* on this AI content generated channel!
Arg!! You must know the words bouncing around in my head!!
@@JanineKlingele i honestly didn’t even care to watch. they all have that same thumbnail color scheme and look 😫 im just here to see the real infj’s
Amen! I'm almost 60 and it's like I've finally come home to my tribe!
@@JanineKlingele I LOVE THAT FOR YOU! 💕 it’s never too late to find your true people
@@JanineKlingele welcome home my brethren!
BOLD OF YOU TO ASSUME I CAN FLIRT. 😉
No wonder why my brain hyperfocused...the voice sounds like Stewy in Family Guy ❤😂
I definitely identified with the touching thing,lol. And when I “ran into “ Sam Kinison, I acted like an 8 yr old at the zoo🙄🤦🏼♀️🤣😂
And if you want to briefly summarize it again. The way to flirt with an INFJ is simply to talk. That's all.
That’s scary accurate
It's so weird we can be cary grant if we want but most of the time just see what's going to happen in a few weeks by knowing who they are looking at and say naaa that beautiful girl has a nice nature but is still in their ego ill only dim my light feel guity and ghost them, ill do the right thing and walk away🙏💓😇
You sound kind of in your own ego, here.
I don't flirt. Ever.
I totally go quiet. This guy I want to ask. When he severs Me must think. I’m as I’m as rude and heartless.
Lately I’m trying open body language and eye contact.
But he seems as on interested.
Before I’d got an eyebrow flash.
I wanted to speak so bad to him.
But gotten to much in my own head.
He was just been nice cos it’s job working with the public.
Or I wanted it to mean attracting.
Months have pasted and I can’t stop thinking of him.
Ahhhhh I feel exposed....shit
What happened to the art of flirting?
I am awaken.... u haven't seen best moves yet lol
And yes i stir the mind of my chosen victim
I am the best of the bestest
Dare and bet your life
Victim?
Or a letter or a surprise. Yes, there are many ways to Rome.
Shhhhhhhh! 🤭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Honestly I feel like as an INFJ if you were to have a crush on me, there’s a pretty good chance you’ll never even know 😂
Llllloooooollllll 😂
very very difficult and, to be honest, completely wrong. If you want to describe the chameleon then you are in the right place. You describe our adapted behavior or the conflict between us and the chameleon. Simply explained. I could play sports, I could go to a strip club and I could also flirt in many ways, which would be very self-confident and very effective. I am very self-confident. I could also approach any woman on the train, kiss her and actively court her in a dominant manner. This is certainly what women want. But the knowledge and skills do not change our personality and with respect it is completely different and this contradiction hits us really hard in our youth. A simple example, my first girlfriend said to me, why don't you want to have sex with me? Why don't you want what you want? Yes, INFJs are different.
You again. I don’t think you are an INFJ. We would never go to a strip club.