10 Steps For Fostering Authentic Self-Esteem
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- Опубліковано 5 чер 2024
- www.heidipriebe.com
Timestamps:
5:10 Step 1: Find a way to feel confident in your own skin
8:10 Step 2: Face your suffering head-on instead of avoiding it
10:15 Step 3: Set intrinsically meaningful goals and complete them
12:51 Step 4: When you mess up, take the time to deeply understand why
16:19 Step 5: Stop waiting to be saved from your circumstances
18:37 Step 6: Tell the full truth to yourself and other people
21:00 Step 7: Focus more on what you give than what you get
25:03 Step 8: Stay humble by remembering that you are going to die
27:29 Step 9: Opt out of the 'I'll be good enough when' game
29:37 Step 10: Keep your focus on what's within your control
I’m a psychotherapist in the UK, I genuinely think this woman is the best and most authentic UA-cam psychologist around. Every video is absolutely excellent. Thank you Heidi 😊
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Likewise. I stumbled across her videos on the Drama Triangle while searching for psychoeducational resources and have binge-watched her videos since then. She’s brilliant ❤️
I totally agree 100%.
Jan from Brunswick, GA
Heidi is remarkable. She unpacks so much, with such grace.
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1.) Become attractive by your own standards
2.) Integrate pain into your identity. Don't dissociate from it
3.) Get outside and do something you love. Foster relationships with the people you're in alinement
4.) When you make a mistake, take the time to understand yourself deeply without judgement
5.) Stop waiting for anyone to come and save you
6.) Start telling the truth as often as humanly possible, with yourself and with others
7.) Focus WAY LESS on what you want to take from the world and WAY MORE on what you wanna give to the world
8.) Remember that you're gonna die
9.) Stop crapfitting. Stop tryna be who others want you to be. Know what you want, genuinely. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
10.) Only focus on what you can control, right here and right now.
Ace. 🙂❤️🤗🙏
"Crapfitting" - You watch the crappy childhood fairy, don't you? 😂
@@themaggattack yeah that's funny finding somebody else that watches her
Thank you
While other guidelines are important too, however, i started to self reflect how personally "do something you love" has been one important thing to me among other these tips. I was unhappy because i didn't change the things that i wanted like hobbies, career and other life choices. I have had some nice guy syndrome not to start learning something i want to learn because other people have installed to me a negative mindset about it (it's boring, why you would ever do thing x and so on) and also i had a self doubt that i never will be good at this activity since it takes so much effort to learn. But now i just start learning the things i want step by step. I'm making great progress and i'm hooked and excited. Finally that boredom and loss of life direction is gone, i'm more motivated than ever. I can start my days with a great purpose because things are moving further. I regret a little how i was a sheep and didn't do what i want. But yeah, i have come closer with realising how it's my own responsibility to great happiness. It's interesting how i don't get so exhausted by learning doing the things i want because i'm eager to learn them. I don't want to be at the end of my life regretting how i didn't live the life i wanted and do things i wanted. Still long journey to go but going to think this stuff more trough.
Your videos have been instrumental in my development into a happy and healthy human.
🙏 THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! 🙏
i literally can’t get over how profound every single one videos of yours i’ve seen feels to me. you are an anchor in my healing journey and i aspire to be able to navigate my psyche they way you do and use it to heal. everyday i’m building new layers of awareness and excavating deeper and deeper into what i hide from myself. your discussions on limerence and disassociation have radically changed my life. i’ve realized that i have been living in disillusionment because i’ve been shaping my reality based on my expectations, but instead i need to shape my expectations based on my reality.
Couldn’t say it better myself!
So profound
I literally was about to comment the same thing. heidi communicates with such stunning lucidity and insight her videos are such a treasure
Its kind of shocking she only has 70k subs. Very good content.
Absolutely awesome videos! I just found her channel. ❤
When you said, “Stop waiting for someone to save you.” I literally started crying and thought of my dad. The fact that he’s never going to come and meet this unmet need I’ve lived with my whole life. But it’s a fact that I need to accept to finally heal. Thank you.
You can definitely do it!!
I read your comment and want to congratulate you. This is the most life-changing realization. I had to come to the same understanding, and once I did, that's where my healing journey began. I excepted my dad for who he is and what he is unable to give. I just began to love him and meet him where he is at in his handicap. This was very healing and strengthening. You'll find your new authentic self now that you have let go of those expectations. 🤍
Of course, it’s not your dad, you know that. It’s the guys in your life who are like him in some way, and something inside you wants them to step in and fix what he didn’t.
May you be blessed and May god bless you 😢. I feel for you
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From Self-esteem pioneer, Nathaniel Branden, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem
1. Living Consciously
2. Self-Acceptance
3. Self-Responsibility
4. Self-Assertiveness
5. Living Purposely
6. Personal Integrity
I miss this exercise
Self trust?
Typical, poor naive self-help.
"Living with integrity" only applies to good people who WANT to live with integrity. Doesn't apply to the holes of this world (unluckily)
I was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me).
I’ve had to overhaul how I approach taking care of my brain (exercise, journaling, studying etc) by practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 50-60% effort into my habits - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on YT. After a really bad depression phase I started to believe I couldn’t change and I’d feel that horrible forever.
Historically I have a habit of going too hard, not being able to sustain the Herculean effort, giving up and hating myself. So now I’m trying to give a small, consistent mediocre effort everyday. And its crazy how it adds up.
I agree and am doing the same, baby steps❤
Thank you for sharing this. I feel inspired to reduce my effort and be more sparing on myself.
Hey I just saw your channel. I hope you’ll continue making them videos. ❤️❤️❤️ I subscribed and find them helpful
Hey I just saw your channel. I hope you’ll continue making them videos. ❤️❤️❤️ I subscribed and find them helpful
1. Body positivity ( protect your inner child)
2. Face challenges head on. Work through conflict. Sit with the pain and don’t numb it
3. Pick meaningful goals.
4. Take the time to understand yourself when something happens
5. Stop waiting to be saved by others. Create your own dream life and save yourself
6. Tell the truth to yourself and others
7. Focus on what you want to give back instead of taking. Give back to the community and friends.
8. Keep yourself humble. Be aware that you will die! Accept death and use it as motivation.
9. Stop comparing yourself with others. Say yes to what matters to us
10. Focus on what you can control!
All stupid advice only a brainwashed moron that keeps their narc abuse and human trafficking cycle going would follow 😊
These are great bits of info. I am definitely one who distracts myself instead of facing things head on. I may not have a broken leg but dozens of other things in my life are in need of repair.
These summaries may be intended to help the lazy, but they are a pale, very pale, substitute for the video.
Thank you for the summary of Heidi’s excellent video. In my busy life, recaps are very helpful.
@@sethtenrec Well its good to listen to the video and save the comment for everyday reminder I reckon
Putting this on my computer desktop right now:
If you can become the person who shows up and saves you from your own circumstances the way you have been waiting for someone or something else to do, think of how much you would love yourself. Right? Think of how much respect and awe and admiration you would have for yourself.
Ms. Heidi, I don’t often leave comments on peoples’ channels, but I’m compelled to share with you how impactful your videos are to me. I think it’s important to share since community matters to you. Please know, with all sincerity you are greatly impacting your community for the better. And I hope knowing this inspires you to keep going! I greatly appreciate you. 😊
Beautifully said ❤
"It came out in the 70's. Or the 90's. I could totally be making that up"
ENFP
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On step 10, as a non-believer I've always appreciated the serenity prayer:
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference"
Same here
Add another anti-theist: knowledge doesn't have a God hey? 😊
The serenity prayer is pretty much taken straight from Stoicism's Dichotomy of Control.
I have an atheist (and marginally embarrassing) version of this.
@@joeb218 can you post it here?
wow, at the part of the video where she said, 'face your fears head on, stop opening 50 tabs on your phone and actually tend to the problem where you have to be vulnerable, or risk the fear of failure, I immediately opened a tab to buy a minimalist phone. As if that is going to solve my life haha. Time to watch till the end of the video.
#2 is so me I go straight to my phone when I feel an emotion and don't confront the actual situation or person.
I heard recently another good explanation of self-esteem: “the ability to tolerate the widest spectrum of different emotions” - which a lot of it all comes down to
Wow, this is nice! Where did you come across this? I would love to know more,
@@AnirudhJas it was Dr Becky Kennedy
@@victtayl Thank you!
Amazing
I am a giver and burned out and became resentful because of lack of boundaries. I love the point regarding giving but also be mindful of your boundaries and what you are capable of giving.
Heidi, I will be 63 in a few days. Every decade since my 30's I stopped to take a look at where I have been and plan & commit to where I am going. After ups & downs I am happy, busy and exited because I have decades to look forward to.
A lot of what I have learned comes from mistakes, so I no longer fear screwing up... I will do my best today & enjoy. And I will look forward to tomorrow. I am living because I tried surviving and it socks.
When I read a good book, I re read it. Then I summarize it for myself and I take the key lessons and add them to my "truths & wisdom" vaults for lates use. These are documents that I have created and maintained over decades that I review and update every year. My personal "bible" or "laws" that help me craft the better me for tomorrow.
Many of your videos I have re-viewed and summarized. You are wise and have a gift for sharing your wisdom.
This is in my opinion one of your best videos.
Thanks!
Why is this such an important topic not taught in schools?! I have recently discovered your videos and they bring me so much value! Thank you! ❤
I can't help wondering if it might have something to do with there being such an incredibly large market for tools of dissociation, between social media, streaming platforms, video games, or really the internet as a whole.
I think the powers that be/‘the establishment’ prefer to have an largely unconscious & traumatised population. Much easier to manipulate and control. It is the the same way as a narcissist likes to gaslight their victims to try to prevent them from obtaining a clear view of reality in order to control them.
@@Active0BserverYes disassociation and unresolved trauma is good for business.
Because there is a fundamental conflict between what different members of society want/need, and what is actually in the best interest of the individual/family. It’s why parenting is so absolutely critical, and this can *never actually be taught properly in school*.
Society needs most people to be easy to deal with, to buy stupid things, or agree to whatever society wants someone to believe right now. It wants and needs most people to be followers.
A society without leaders is a society doomed to failure and pain, as everyone ‘follows’ without taking ownership of their own actions and saying no when it needs to be said.
A society composed of nothing but leaders and independent folks, is a society collapsing under the weight of conflict and confusion, with nothing actually being done.
Someone who can’t follow when the time is right, is a terrible leader. Someone who cannot lead when the time is right is a terrible follower.
School (at scale) can only teach someone to follow.
Words can't not show you any more gratitude. I respect your intelligence and dedication to teaching in this field of the mind
So the book 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem was published in 1994 and it was an expansion of many ideas that were written in his very wonderful little book from 1983 called Honoring the Self.
Out of my libraryof nearly 2000 books on self development, philosophy, and psychology, these are two of my most cherished books!
What are some of your other recommendations?
Who is the author of the book, Honoring the Self? I couldn’t find it. Closest title also from Nathaniel was published in 2011 not 1983.
Wow. There is so much power and truth in this video. I think I’m going to watch it about 25 times or more.
7:58 “regardless” will definitely sound better. Regardless means “without regard”. Irregardless therefore means “without, without regard”. Millennials probably won’t care, but overall, regardless is a better word. (See “anyway” for another grating misuse when it is made plural).
No shaming, as you say “criticism is often meant to help”. Totally my intention just trying to help.
All true, but the real reason people like to say 'irregardless' is because it feels more emphatic. You can lean on that 'ihr' nice and hard to create a sense of tension, which is exactly what she did. Grammatically it makes no sense but physically and emotionally it does.
The quote on ’love and understanding’ is by Thích Nhất Hạnh. Your talks are só helpful and insightful. Giving all my gratitude :) from Belgium. 🌱 You help me grow into a more secure version of myself. At last (52). 😬
Thank you Heidi for giving so much back to us. I've followed you since the magazine article days & I've always valued your piercing clarity & way you succinctly explain things.
You have a gift at putting complex things simply & getting to the root of things.
I'm very much enjoying these cascade of videos lately. I've been reading lost connections per your recommendation. It's amazing. Listening to your enlightening videos amongst the backdrop of that book... I can feel myself shifting. It feels refreshing.
Just want to let you know you are transforming lives & making waves you may not be entirely aware of. Thank you for being you & for using your voice & wise perspective. Please don't stop. In the meantime I'll be here.
Thank you.
Saving this comment ❤ It made my day.
I loved reading the sentence 'I can feel myself shifting.' I imagine I know that feeling and it is a beautiful one.
Wow. Just wow. Thank you for articulating all of this stuff and laying it all out clearly. This is giving me an idea of why I don’t feel so great, and how I can feel better. Thank you!!
❤❤❤❤ Thank you for being in the world
I sign under the “putting words together efficiently” - she has that gift. only one of my friends was this succinct, this is a rare gift
"I respect myself" is the phrase I want to confidently tell myself eveyday.
Dusk and Summer! Also, the way into consistent exercise for me was setting the bar super low at first. Exercise is a lifelong habit. I now have a relationship with myself and running. Some days I can't wait to go, and other days I take it easy. We need to show compassion for our self around exercise, too. But, it's always worth it - best medicine there is.
Thank god you are back!
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The best
I think communicating clearly with my loved ones about anything and everything humanly possible has been a great help. I’ve been sleeping better and have been able to think as clear as day.
I have found each of these addressed very effectively in the gospel of Jesus Christ. Other faiths may also find much agreement. Knowing your identity, that you are a beloved child of God, created for a glorious purpose is foundational for all the rest! But not everyone believes that foundation, so thank you Heidi for making your teaching so relational to the mere mortal within.😀
WOW! Can I just take a moment to say that, I have spent most of my days for the last 7 years listening to psychologists, shadow work coaches, self help leaders, audiobooks upon podcasts upon UA-cam videos...
And the echo chamber became really apparent.
You are hitting notes that a lot of other people seem to be missing, and it is SO APPRECIATED!! This is only the second video of yours I've seen but my mind and heart have been overloaded with "Aha!" Moments. 🎉🙏 thank you so much for being a voice in this movement!
So helpful and incredibly timely! The part where you say “self trust is doing what you said you’d do for yourself” is something I’ve been trying to integrate for a few weeks now, hard but worth it
I for years had debilitating headaches lasting 2-3 days, about two weekly at one time (hormones). That exhausted my brain so much that it took about 5 days to get back on track, only for it to happen again. My self confidence was almost non existent. I completely lost faith in myself, never knowing if I would be able to do what I planned. Only now, early 50s, with menopause and no headaches do I find myself better mentally.
True, I found I could not trust myself.
When she said “if you’re a halfway decent parent you would not leave the child alone in their distress… if you were a loving parent you would not berate them…” that’s the first time any therapist has said anything to “call out” my parents. It’s been a long journey reparenting my inner child. I feel like I’m making up for generations of poor parenting. Reparenting Generations of emotional neglect and psychological abuse. I’m doing it though. Doing the work For ALL of them, my ancestors as well as my descendants.
Heidi I can't thank you enough for all your help in my own self-discovery learning journey. Thank you for all you do!
This was exactly what I needed thank you, I did experience a NDE earlier this year and initially I wanted to help change the world but after the nde, a miscarriage, the end of a relationship it sent me into a spiral and being a INFP I guess i got stuck in the loop.
Time to dust myself off and keep on going thank you 🙏💖
The path you describe, Heidi, reminds me of a book by James W. Fowler that I read long ago: Stages of Faith.
The last stage (the “grandpa” phase, where I now reside) is marked by a desire to give back. Perhaps that is why our older years are often our happiest years, unless of course we resist the transition and insist on chasing kids off our lawns.
I think it is very powerful when a psychological pathway, such as the one you describe, and a spiritual pathway such as the one Fowler describes, combine and complement one another.
There's such a thing as being too honest, open and transparent. I do all these ten things, and most of them really do work very well, but I don't have good self esteem because I over share compulsively, I have good self esteem despite it. I actually really dislike this about myself, but I forgive myself and love myself anyway, because I can't help it (yet).
an insight I had after blowing a job interview after being asked "tell me about you..."
was realizing after the fact it is good and ok to be truthful, and ok to not try to tell the "whole truth" (whatever that means for you". the trick is figuring out the right levels of discernment...that is right for you.
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Another great video. Thank you for this content. I hope to be a patron sometime this year.
I'm not a troll, but she said irregardless. My dad says that. Did that become a legitimate word?
The one that hit home the most is not being ignorant to the fact that we’re going to die. After spending time with my grandparents recently, and hearing this step, it’s reinforced my appreciation for life and the simple things, as well as the hard. I will rewatch this video as many times as I need! Truly a godsend.
Yo! Heidi's on! Time to take notes for therapy 😁
Thanks, the part of giving back more than taking resonates with me a lot these days. The mere act of giving involves thinking about what you can offer and putting it to action, which, I think, grounds one to the world.
I never knew what was going on with me. So much anxiety and depression. I have had numerous turbulent relationships throughout my life and divorce. Constantly feeling disconnected and angry. I was attracting bad partners and I gave up on the idea of romance.
Did a deep drive into myself and I had to reparent myself.
I am a recovering fearful avoidant.
I love your channel it makes complete sense- this video is my favorite bc your so right! I really appreciate your honesty and respect you. Authenticity is hard to find! Thank you!
You are much more younger than me, and you teach me so much! Thank you, you are incredibly good in what you do.
I agree with the previous comment. I listen to lots of psychologists and what is different with Heidi is that she breaks the information down in simpler terms and makes the effort to make it clearly understood. She also does diagrams sometimes and that helps me too. Thanks, Heidi.
Heidi - I've been watching several of your videos over the past year, and I just want to say how incredibly grateful I am for your work. You have helped me get through some real challenges and helped me build toward peace in my life. Thank you!
Could you possibly do a video in the future about healthy ways to go about communicating with the people around you what you're feeling, and how to cope with a situation in which those people might not understand/want to see your perspective? I think the biggest thing that keeps me in a dissociative state when it comes to not sitting in and confronting my emotions about things that happen is my track record of bad experiences of the people close to me simply not caring, or sometimes the worst case scenario-completely misunderstanding me and villainizing what I'm saying as things that deeply offend them. I'm unsure of how to alleviate this.
I was talking about this exact struggle with a friend earlier just today. You managed to put my very thoughts into better words here than I have ever been able to speak. Thank you.
Well, accepting yourself and your feelings is an important first step before you share them with others, IMO. Practise with yourself first. Be your own best friend and comfort yourself like you would a teenager with a similar problem (ie, without blame). If other people can't offer support, if doesn't mean your feelings are wrong or you are bad. The reaction you are describing, imo, is probably a trigger response where you are triggering the other person's inability to sit with uncomfortable feelings. So it;s not really to do with you at all. Not everyone is good in a time of crisis. I think friends are better than family because even though we have a belief that family "should" be able to look after us, they are also the most likely to get triggered if we are dis-regulated. Newer friends are better than old friends, old friends can become a bit like family and take you for granted. Newer friends are usually flattered when you open up to them. Pick conscious people who you trust, who don't have big nervous walls up around their vulnerability. Start with small annoyances and then it wont be inappropriate to talk about bigger stuff later. Really tho. When you are regulated I think every problem becomes an annoyance (as opposed to disaster) in the end.
You are a beacon of hope in a dark place. I am on my healing journey from 30 plus years of unthinkable trauma. You have definitely helped me so much. As I navigate college to become a trauma therapist I will continue to take down your nuggets of truth to share with my clients ❤️
Irregardless . nope. I do love your lectures. Thank you very much. I wonder at your grasp of ideas at such a young age. Good for you!
babe you are my therapist seriously thank you, you are going to be the reason i finally heal
I realized how my neurodivergent brain can play a big role in my self-esteem and it's something I should keep paying attention to. Gosh! listening to the song "VINDICaTED" again reminded me of my emo days as a University student. I was alone in my self-esteem journey. I'm just glad that I have the opportunity to share this with you at this moment :) Meeting a complete stranger you've recently met in a public forum and have a conflict with and resolving it as a proper adult is a challenge. I know that opening up your dark side is terrifying. Terrifying because of what I've seen people(the mob, the mob can be scary) do in the media unless you have some level of awareness, accountability, and eloquence. My profession has allowed me to connect with different people abroad even though I was carrying a facade of my self-esteem I was able to make someone smile who was in a dark place. It created a positive impact on my psyche. I'm guilty of not practicing memento mori.
I love the way Heidi Priebe presents topics. I've listened to at least five videos so far, and find the material very helpful. She comes across as genuine, educated in the subjects, encouraging and kind.
Thank You Heidi!!!
You make me feel like I want to bake a cake for you. You are simply AWESOME!
I definitely have to rewatch this and journal along. I love your videos, they really make me feel so compassionate about myself and the people around me. Thank you always ❤
Thank you so on all your video they have made a major impact of change and looking at myself to heal better ways n more ty healing from childhood abandoned and narcissistic relationship ty for open my eyes on my journey May GOD bless you ❤❤❤❤ 3 years on this journey its been awesome and now much needed information to understand better ty ❤❤❤
I would love a deep-dive on social media and self-esteem from Heidi!
Heidi, you are amazing! My life has improved significantly since listening to your videos. Iv been struggling so much and I feel like you picked me up from the ground and walked with me until i felt ready to walk on my own. Thank you! Its safe to assume you have helped countless people with your knowledge! 👏
This is an excellent video. Amazing advice. Gen Z take notes.
Researching your roots and staying rooted in your culture helps! When I learned about the Celtic culture and what they stood for, that helped me jump in to my warrior mindset!
I love that book 😊 have it on audio. He even reads it himself, he has the perfect grandfather voice 😂
Huge thanks, Heidi. I'm in a healing process, and I'm getting so much from your videos. The examples that you give, make me get things so much easier. Mental health can be so damn complex, and it's wonderful to have it so lovingly "distilled". As Einstein said "You dont understand a subject well enough, unless you can explain it to a child in plain terms". Yu da bomb.
My take on psychology has always been that the underlying mechanism in everything is this pivot on which the attention can swivel either towards the outside world of society and stimulation and activity, or the inside world of our own thoughts and feelings and responsibilities. And what you said about the explanation of why there is a crisis of self-esteem today, due to technology and social media, fits into that because all that it is, is the outside world and stimulation but in a convenient instant pocket size form.
Also, that many of the lenses that we have been taught to use for these focuses are either useful or not useful/healthy not healthy, and how to challenge delusions without hurting ourselves.
As if I couldn't love you anymore. Dashboard confessional! Nice!!!
My journey has been filled with many sources of wisdom. Be it from a philosophical or religious angle or from a psychological angle such as yourself. I work as an electrician, and if I'm not listening to music in my earbuds I'm typically listening to things that either keep me on the proper path or push me to the proper path that I need to be on. And your videos continuously do that. I'm extremely grateful to have stumbled upon your channel.
And everything I learn, I pass on to my peers and friends. I seem to be the go-to guy that people come to and talk to about issues. Simply because I'm able to see it from almost every angle. I'm able to be empathetic as well as logical in the situations because of the education I received from people like you.
So even though you were helping me out and others one video at a time. Some of us are taking what we learn from you and helping others. So don't let the numbers your videos receive be the only reflection you have of success. Because it reaches far past your videos. Just from me alone, you've at least reached multiple more people. At least 50-100 on my end, and climbing.
"The Denial of Death" changed my outlook. Thanks to Dr JBP for the recommendation. Great book!
I love that advice that your mum gave you about giving back. She must be a wise woman!
What came up for me was my surprise on your view on some people not being aware of death and the probability of it.I am going to be a 'grandpa' now too ;) On the contrary a lot of teenagers I see around me gravitate towards energy drinks and snacks so much these days, gravitating towards negativity and death in my eyes because these foods are having a big effect on their health and happiness.
About death...my brother left this earth at 33 years of age. It happened a few months ago. He ended his own life, shockingly. He was in over his head on heartbreak, toxic relationships, toxic family patterns, psychosis and what not more. We do not even know the answers to why and how he came to his decision.
However, I am grateful for what I am learning from his decease. That there is the need for more videos to help heal people from toxic relationships and to set their own boundaries. Thank you for making videos on those topics. I am also very grateful for my own life and for choosing life. And then now after you mentioned death meditation, really I am intrigued by your account on the death meditation. It is almost halloween and I do not mean to feast a 'stupid' habit but I seriously I am willing to honor death and by honoring death I might appreciate life more but also mourn. So I am gonna try do a death meditation. Who's with me?
28:30 I enjoy playing the success game. It’s something I’m good at. I would probably become very depressed if I quite because it’s truly who I am. I’m never disappointed by the things I don’t have but I am proud of my accomplishments.
💖 you are wise beyond your years ~ Thank You
My goal was to form a community of friends, it was lacking in my life, I was too committed to coaching, now retired, and forgot to keep a strong community. It’s taken me about a year to really step into friendships, I had to relearn. I’m so blessed to say I have the most amazing women to live life with!!
You sound very genuine and authentic, thank you for sharing the ten steps. I wrote them down and I am going to go over them consistently to remind myself and build self-esteem.
Thank you for helping me heal 🩵
I would be cautious about judging somebody’s internal state by their appearance. I am in the autism community, and a lot of the folks cannot adapt to conventional grooming and clothing for disability purposes. While I understand that this video isn’t targeted towards me, if somebody reads this comment, I hope it helps.
Thank you! I just bought the Branden book so I could do some work on my self-esteem and this video came up. I love your authenticity and knowledge. Thank you for doing what you do.
I really like the radical self responsibility you mentioned about noone coming to save you. I have taken a lot of responsibility in my life but I am currently struggling with feelings of low self efficacy or that I just can't do it because I don't know how. Maybe this is also because I have struggled quite a bit with nihilism and lack of faith and I don't really know what I want. I have thought a lot about it and I can't figure it out.
Thank you for breaking this down like this. Just what I needed.
As above, so below. Always. Truly wonderful and I have the outmost respect for you Heidi how you approach your content creation and give all you got to improve peoples lives. You are doing it right. Because not only are you showing and talking from your own experience. But also point towards natural wisdom on the matters high and low. Thank you, I look forward to more adventures with you.
Wow, I'm so lucky to have discovered you Heidi! One of the most truly authentic, knowledgable and no bs psychology UA-cam channels out there!
You blow my mind. U speak so thruthfully. I try everyday to hear one of your videos in the morning. You change my perception.
I just downloaded Becker's "The Denial of Death". More book recommendations, please! 😊📚
At the end of every year I make a video full of book recommendations! So that'll be out in December but I will definitely keep dropping relevant ones as I go. Another one you may like if Denial of Death interests you is 'Who Dies' by Stephen and Ondrea Levine.
'Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul', by Stephen Jenkinson is a good one :)
Thanks. I've given up on trying to change other people. If they demonstrate toxic behavior (disrespect) I don't feel the need to "fix" them. They have shown me who they are. I'm out.
God, I needed to hear this today. Thanks Heidi.
Oh my god!!! The saying about love is understanding - it’s what I’ve always defined for myself and it’s at the core of my existence, honestly. Love hearing it here
This was exactly what I needed to hear - thank you for sharing all this!
These videos are THE BEST! Thank you!!! 🙏🏼
Heidi, this is such a great video. Thank you. ❤
Thank you! Your videos are SO helpful to me!
Brilliant-thanks again, Heidi!
Just spitting straight facts with this one . Thank you 🙏🏻
heidi i had already been liking the other videos i've been watching throughout the last few days from you, they are speaking to me in a very terrible time in my life when I am having to face up to my entire life up to this point. but when you got to the section about death, i went beyond liking the sparkle and cogency of your videos, and knew you were a real one. bless you
You are absolutely amazing. Very few people online are able to integrate these ideas so succinctly
This was beautiful. Thank you for this video Heidi ❤
Thank you Heidi
Wow I needed to hear this!! Thank you! Very helpful 💪💖
Your perspective is so incredibly helpful. So grateful for your content.
Hugely grateful for this- what an extraordinary video and delivery. THANK YOU ❤
Heidi, I cannot overstate how mind-blowing your videos are. Thank you.
Heidi you are absolute gold. How lucky you came to me on UA-cam. Thank you 🙏
I absolutely love your content because it all feels so personal to me. I’m sorry that I only just found your videos now, but I am grateful that I did.
I left a comment on another video that I started a journey of self discovery about 25-30 years ago after gaining some self awareness and realizing that “it was me”.
The first book that changed my life was The Road Less Traveled, and I never looked back. Shortly after that I found The Six Pillars of Self Esteem (probably ~1995-ish). It was my life manual for years. I recently pulled it out of the attic, and bought the kindle version so that Alexa could read it to me. I even asked Chat GPT to bullet point it so I could have a cheat sheet.
Anyway, this of just more reason for the strong connection I have to your content.
Thanks very much!!
This is so fantastic. Thank you Heidi. :)
I so enjoyed watching this! You are similar to me as an ENFP and it is helpful to see myself reflected back in another person. I'm learning to be myself and appreciate what drives me but has been somewhat unappreciated in certain environments. My current life season had been filled with many hard yet empowering decisions to ensure I stay grounded in my values and authenticity. It has been painful. But I've walked the process through instead of avoiding. I'm beginning to see my self efficacy and self respect return. I'll circle back to this video for ideas again.
So that's all you have got? That made me chuckle, given how much you offered. I'm truly amazed at your content which is sincerely appreciated.