Lisa Nichols - Don't Dim Your Light
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
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In this conversation, I want to talk about doing you unapologetically, no longer dimming your light. You know, this is something that I lived with and in many cases struggled with for years. I would unconsciously step into a room and check to see if I can do Lisa or what percentage of Lisa could I do? I rarely walked into a room and gave them 100% of me because I didn't want to out shine the room. I didn't want to out energy the room.
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Don't hold back. Shine. Be yourself. Don't seek approval from anyone. Be powerful. Be brilliant. Next time you step into the room, SHINE🌟💫⭐ you're a star,💛
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Right back at you!! X
“ if you don’t do you... you won’t get done!!” 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Lisa, you're beautiful!!!! We dim our light because we don't want to be bullied or have egoic people be jealous of us. Some people are like crows that want to peck at you because you're taking away the attention they selfishly want. People like that aren't worth anything and never will be. I've always stood out and there have been some very evil and mean people out there who have tried to break my spirit. But they never will. Good will always triumph over evil. You have to let your light shine because if you don't you're hurting yourself. And shoo away all those ugly crows!!!
This is very true. I'm admitting this to my self right now. I'm working on changing it. Thank you.
I started a new job today Lisa and I was thinking about how much I always feel I have to hide my personality and fake it ..so that they are Comfortable with me so that I don’t bringing to much attention....I think because I was bullied for so long and allowed them to create who they wanted me to be ...i never truly accepted me....I believed them!! I fell for the lies...So I hide sometimes with Out even realizing it....I just wanna be who I am and care less....Miles Monroe said “” If I love me ...and you don’t love me.... I am still loved “”.....!!!
I had a very similar experience. But now, at 40 years old I realize I just can't do it anymore. I HAVE to be me. Anything less feels like self harm. I have overcome too much to remain small. Other people are nothing to fear, but remaining the same is.
I feel the exact same way and I always wondered why did the people have to bully me, why do other women dislike me so much and it's because I intimidated them with who I was. I let all those people to think of me as not good enough when I was and they couldn't except it. I've been looking for me for years and this helped me understand that I am who I am and I should love me no matter what.
Same here omg I work in a call center environment and I feel like I can’t be my self😢 it’s the worse I feel like upper management judges me and I have to follow a script I cannot do it . Even in public I’ve also felt I had to be dull to match the energy it’s time for me to stop because I know this is part of the reason why I been so depressed and anxious
@@SharlenesJourney I’m excited for you because now you will really start to love yourself & try new things! You won’t be at that job long- shine on, siStar!
I been dimming my light for years😢 I’m talking about since elementary school 🏫 I was soo insecure and felt people energy soo I would try not to get those stares and the feeling I was making somebody feel uncomfortable soo I just sit quite and be the kind of female u wanted me to be!!! Not anymore I’m going to be me Unapologetically!!!!!!🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others". - Marianne Williamson
I ran across this the other day and wanted to share because I think it really captures what Lisa is saying here. I love this community. Lisa has inspired me to start my own business, to set boundaries for toxic relationships, and to be a better mother and a better me. I love you so much. May your burdens be light and your heart full!! ❤
Thank you for sharing this proverb. I tried to recall it but you saved me the work, lol!!
I applaud you sistah, keep doing your thing mama. And Anyone reading this should definitely take Lisa advice 😃.
#YANA
I just came out of that. I didn't realize how weird i was making ppl feel by dimming my light. Im more conscious now. Ty Queen.
Wow eye opener yes this part!!
I am a woman in wheelchair, from Sweden. I lost my children to foster care because of discrimination due to my disability, with lies and accuses of things I haven't done. This was 4 years ago. I was just today told by my children's caregivers that my life is an excuse. All of you out there Remember this; What doesn't serve you, you need to say no to. Your life is worth so much more! No one has the right to tell you things like - "you are an excuse" NO ONE! Thanks, @LisaNichols for being and sharing, and believing. AND YES I sheen up the room and my way is "giving is living"
That’s so me.. always trynna not offend anyone..
YANA LOVE BUT WE MUST REMEMBER THAT OUR LIGHTS AND VOICES ARE UNIQUE, DISTINCTIVE AND IMPORTANT
YANA!!
I refuse to do that anymore.
I will shine my light...
I refer my divorce clients to check out your video's as part of their healing and transformations during brokenness. They have given me great feedbacks. Thank you for quality content and pouring out your heart, soul and passion into inspiring people to live a better life and to find their purpose.
Loved this comment 🙌
Beautiful ❤
Yes. YES! Girlfriend! I've been dimming my light my whole life! Every job I've ever had, I've been told things like "slow down. You're making us look bad." I would think "I'm not trying to make anyone look bad, I'm just trying to do my best work." I've hated and tried to change myself but loved everyone else exactly as God created them. God is showing me that while I believed I hated myself, I was simply reflecting like a mirror the few voices who called me too much, too loud, too talkative. I was simply reflecting my own negative self-talk that I was not pretty enough, thin enough, or educated enough to step into my calling. In the words of Lisa Nichols, if I'm too bright, girl, you're gonna need to put on some shades!
I lived my whole past life dimming my light. That changes now forward💛
The reason why you dimmed your light is because you wanted to accommodate others, someone had made you feel unsure of yourself, someone was threatened by your presence. Light shuts out everything dark and at times that is the problem. We dont have to deny ourselves to be polite , we deserve to shine.
Lisa you are changing my life on a daily. I love you, the full version of you!!!!
Yeah we need to live out loud, every day, all the day and everywhere for everything we want in our lives!
Thanks Lisa, I never knew that it even had a name "dimming your lights". I will give the world the best version of me, blessings on you
#YANA. Thanks always Lisa for the regular wake up calls. #DING DING. I'm learning a lot from you and growing out of my shell bit by bit.
I am afraid to walk into a big room and share, so I am the wallflower. I sometimes leave early! I don't network like I'm suppose to, this I know for a fact. I have a wonderful gift, a wonderful business that impacts my community in a positive way, customers leave great reviews often.
I love you, Lisa. Thank you for allowing God to use you to motivate & encourage us all🤗
I’m so happy I played this. I’m going through a self development & emotional health journey so this entire episode is a BOL. I struggle with living in my pure, unfiltered, unapologetic self. I tried to fit in everywhere as to not stand out. I wasn’t comfortable in my skin. But this is a beautiful reminder that my light is beautiful in its own right & how I am is how God created me. The quirky, empathetic, sensitive, goofy self. It’s me. My story matters, my testimony matters. I love this! I am an unrepeatable miracle!
I watch this every morning it’s a perfect way to start my day
I fear rejection and I used to think it was others rejection of me but after listening to this I realize I am the one rejecting myself, dimming my light because that’s what I feared shining bright beyond measure because I don’t know what will come of it but I know that is what God has put me here for. My purpose is to shine bright for all to see and to in turn shine their light. Thank you family 🙏🏾😌❤️
Big sMile here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Love you, wonderful and inspiring Lisa!!!!!!! :D Thank you!!!!!!!!
Thank you thank you thank you dear Lisa!!! OH MY GOD YOU'RE AMAZING!! I love you sooo much!!
What I found helpful in times when I didn't want to stand out was to realize that in essence we are all equal.. nobody is inferior or superior.. those are just roles but basically we come from the same source.. the more we show our light and be the light and love we are the more others are inspired to do the same and then the real fun begins... blessings
" I wanted to be accepted more than I wanted to do me" UGGHHHH so gross to say it out loud but that was/is me!! Working on it though thanks so much Lisa!
Tears running down my face as I type this!! So powerful!
Yes yes step into that room and drive your passion. You just have to believe in your passion no matter how stressful it is to deal with the uncertainties around. Because your passion is not just a passion it's a mission to engrave.
I resonate with this. I was definately dimming my light for a long time. I felt guilty for having successes, even small ones. Not anymore though..accept me as fabulous me or step aside.
Thank you for reminding me of who I am cause sometimes in our busy life we can forget... yes yes
OMG Lisa, you are my sister!! I love you. You helped me clean house and helped me realize I was stuck. Thanks to you I am making major changes in my life. Glad I have your videos to guide me thru and lift me up. TY.
Lisa, you are incredible. Your light shines so bright that I can feel it in my soul 🖤 and I believe in you and I love you too 🥰
I was raised to believe that I had to dim my light and that I had to be someone other than me in order to "keep the peace" and I've struggled not to be a slave to that all of my life. A slave to those beliefs that who I am is wrong and that who I am is a problem and that keeping other people happy is my responsibility even if it makes me miserable and then carrying the guilt that snuffing out my light STILL wasn't enough to keep people happy and every single time that I listen to you I KNOW that is not the way I want to live. So thankyou eternally for taking the time to acknowledge that we are not alone and that our light was meant to shine at its full capacity. 🙏🥰🖤
Thank you, I was chatting about this, this morning, I am moving and I was scared how I will be at my new home, new place and new area!! I am going to be great, as my light will not be dimmed, and I will be me!! Thank you!
Thank youuu Lisa 🌹✨💖 You are Amaizing!! We All are Amaizing 🥰✨🌹🌹
BTOL: Shine your light, share your light, & Own your light! Thank you Lisa!
I love that! Thank you. Taking ACTION NOW!
When you shared that you shine because of the things that make you different…. This spoke to me 🙏 ❤️
My goodness !!! The day this video came up, I was sitting with my beautiful friend and talking about our dreams and this exact topic, about shinning our light ! So beautiful ! Thank you
I walk through obstacles with my head held high. A sound mind, and pure intentions for authenticity is my formula. SHEgo is not for me, however until I put her done - My authenticity will prevail. 😇💅🏽♒️☔️🦋🙏🏽💃🏿🧞♂️❤️ I put the shego down and I know now, how to stay in my excellence!!!!
Much love from Kenya Lisa, I'm not dimming my light anymore, I'm doing me!! Unapologetically.
She has gorgeous skin... Dripping gold...
Thank you for sharing this incredible video! All of what you said resonates with me and I'm stepping out of my comfort zone to shine brighter. I've been holding myself back for so long that I realized that was the reason why I never became as successful as I am today. I walk with confidence and I always let my light shine. Even on those days when I have on some sweatpants and a hoodie, I still make others smile! This video is truly the confirmation I need to keep progressing. One day I would like to meet you just to say thank you!
Much love to you and to everyone reading this!!
This reminded me to be unapologetic about knowing my power and wanting to own it.
THIS IS ME..
QUIRKY
ENERGETIC
DYSFUNCTIONAL
SILLY
BRILLIANT IN SOME WAYS
THOUGHT-PROVOKING
SPIRITUAL
BLACK
FEMININE
This made me cry. Thank you for this Lisa. I know what I have to do now.
Being unafraid to "be brilliant and confused". That is powerful
Both hands raised...surrendering...and vowing never to dim again. Yes. Yes!
Thanks for this Lisa! I always tended to dim my light thinking that will help me being liked, being approved and I can fit it. However, I have begun to realise that placing so much emphasis on external validation made me so anxious. I recently made a decision to like myself more and value myself more. Also I realise that by not showing up in full, people could not see my brilliance in its entirety. Being only a half version of me does not serve to benefit me or anyone. Owning one's own light allows others to also do the same so that we all can together be a beacon of hope and change in society. I have taken steps to do that now. Thanks for this beautiful message once again. #BOL
All I can say again and again when I listen to you, you speak directly to me and to my heart like noone else. So grateful for that.
This brought me to the space where I see myself as the true leader I was born 2 b !!
YANA, Thanks for showing us how to shine our light.
This was a reminder. I stopped dimming my light about a year ago. Permanently. Best thing I ever did. Peace and Blessings
Yes YES omg seriously checking the temperature of the room! I’m trying to listen to my inner voice omg YANA SHEESH
I just love listening n seeing u,,i just feel happy n confident.dont know what i can incorporate in my life,,,but just in tht moment i love what you say..👏
Yes, yes! I have Aspergers and as a teen my vocabulary was advanced. My male parent said to me, “You think your sh*t don’t stink but your farts give you away.” So I dumbed myself down. In my 20 and 30’s I always wore hats and scarfs but stopped. Now at 63 I have scarfs and hats again but never wear them as I feel I will stand out too much. This changes today. Thank you, Carol
I step into ALL of me; owning my light and shining my light brighter than Ever!
Lisa. This is exactly what I needed to hear. I am studying my Masters in Occupational Therapy... I am literally right on track to where God is aligning me to be. But guess what? I am the only black woman in some of my seminars. Today I was on online discussion group and the subject was on isis, extremist, black lives etc. The amount if ignorance that came out of not only the students mouths but the tutor too. I had to stand in my spirit of God and speak. I always articulate myself well, but I found that I was always saying at the end of my sentences "if that makes sense".. as a way to down-play my intelligence. Last night I wrote a sign and I put it on my wall saying "DO NOT SAY IF THAT MAKES SENSE - YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL CHILD OF GOD - IF IT DID NOT MAKE SENSE GOD WOULD NOT HAVE CALLED YOU TO SAY IT!". And today I tried it... I did not apologies for voicing my views. ooh and you should have seen the look on the professors face when I spoke very clearly about what it is to be a black woman in a society that finds it difficult to accept our intellect or promote us to be the decision makers in systemically racist institutions... I stood in my light, I shone at 100000 watts and I did not downplay any aspect of my essence. You really inspire me Lisa, and I am on my journey to being an un-repeated miracle just like you. Thank you x
I was told this last week. She asked me why are you so afraid to shine as brightly as the jewelry you wear!! I had no answer, just felt safe dimming my light. It was a way for me to please & appease others
I started doing this from middle school and can vividly remember making the choice to not answer teachers because my classmates shot me looks everytime my hand shot up in the air... I lost myself , still trying to get back to that brilliant little girl who saw possibilities in everything... Thanks Lisa for reminding me that I am not alone.
This was something I needed . I am learning how to let me shine (light).
Yassss!!!! Turn the light up!! Spotlight shines from within!👏🏾😁
It is because of you that my light will keep on shining from today onwards till infinity
COME ON LISA !!!!I don’t care how many years late I am for this I needed this right now!!!!!!!!! _~BREAKTHROUGHOUTLOUD
We where born to shine!!! To be different than other people!!
l needed to hear this Lisa .Love you gal
Oooooomannnn!!! Ooooooooooo!! Some moments call for sounds cause words simply fail....ooooooLord!
YANA!! This happened to me last might. I let my light shine! And it felt AMAZING! I’m stepping up so I can be the light for someone else! Building a tribe of empowered women.
Sometimes the person would love to shine, but the environment may try to pull you in.
Thank you 😊. Needed to hear this!
Because my All “ can feel Like it a lot to others! But I appreciate the fact that you said bring and do it confidently, and in hopes that I may help another to possibly shine , or feel at ease . 🙏🏾🙏
Outside the room‼️‼️‼️‼️ Do you over acceptance. 🔑🔑🔑
I started doing this when I went to college. I'm stepping out of it and being unapologetically me. It feels good to let the confidence I have shine
MY BOLs
Wizzow!! 💕🔥🙏🏾👊🏾
Lisa! Lady... Sistah Sistah, you did me a HUGE Awareness, AHA "I get it", an "OMG I've been doing that all my life" Favor with this dialog. It's a new day and although I know it's going to require intentional practice for me to stop dimming my light when I'm around others that they might feel bigger, I'm stopping it. . I like the way that you made it clear that just being my authentic, loving, and brilliant self should be inviting - never intimidating (I believe I can do that) I think I can do it and thank you so much young lady! For decades I have refused to let others be made aware of my excellence through Awards or anything that could be made public I'd ask whoever to not say anything publicly as a way for others not to feel lesser. I've actually discounted them and myself.
Lord knows I'll be 62 years Young in July and This Is My season for the plans that God has for me to come into fruition. I really know it from the depths of my soul! There's decades of experience, Excellence, uplifting of others, and encouragement I've given and it's helped perhaps thousands of people go beyond who they'd initially saw themselves to be and allowed me to help them go a little higher and further. It's my turn and I HAVE TO Live out this thing.
Wuuuuu! I'm going back and listening to this teaching/dialog as many more times as necessary to get this in my soul. Thank you, baby
So excited and am probably rambling like a babbling idiot but prayerfully somebody will pull the gist of what I was trying to say out.... I truly hope so. 💕🫂🙏🏾👊🏾
Thank you for reminding me that I’m not serving anyone by shrinking myself and my light. From here on out, I will walk in all my beauty, intelligence and kindness no matter what. I really need to here this message. I appreciate it. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much. BOL!!!!
I was in a group discussion yesterday, I was trying so hard not to be a know it all and was all over the place. Woke up this morning to see notification of this video. Thank you
I love you Lisa. Please don’t stop sparkling your greatness. Your voice is therapy to my soul🤍
This is where I am now. Being comfortable and confident to be genuinely all of me all the time
Yes. This is what I feel like the message what I’ve been hearing from the universe and GOD for a couple weeks. To stand in my light, to be seen and heard. This episode has really touched me and makes me feel motivated to give my grace and stand in my light more. Thank you Lisa 💕🫂
Oh the looks. Oh the stares, but someones gotta do it. Learning to shine my light. And if its too bright, not my problem. They will adjust accordingly.... Thank you Ms. Lisa!!!
Ms. Nichols, I just want to tell you that I love, like, respect, admire and appreciate you as well as your message.
I appreciate your transparency; your willingness to put your personal story and your private moments, the good, the bad and the ugly out here in the public square. Your willingness to expose your flaws and weaknesses gives me hope and encourages me.
One day, I am going to get brave and collect my sheets of blank papers, write down the lies and confront each one with a truth. I need to do this very soon.
Yesterday, I read a verse of scripture at the bottom of the page of a devotional journal that literally blew my mind and felt like it knocked my socks off.
"Let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think." Romans 12:2
It took many experiences for me to step into my truth. Living in my truth is embracing my light.
You will find me traveling through your past videos because I have only just discovered you. But I love your message. You are the voice that I need to hear to help me out of this deep, deep hole that I am in. ❤
Sometime we just blend in so people can accept us. But that is not why God brought us here for. We are here to leave the mark that was not been Left before. Each and everyone of us are here for a special reason. Leave your mark brothers and sisters!!
Yes yes!😭 I remember being a very enthusiastic student and engaged in classes and one of my teacher told my parent that I was egocentric. From that point I kept quiet in class and didn't ask any questions to her.😂 That's what I've been trying to do all my life. To be the quiet one and play for average. But I'm trying to change 😁 #yana
This upset me so much. That teacher was out of line and unprofessional. That was their personal opinion and not a professional one. I don't know how old you were but it seems that your mother may not have delivered this in a way that benefitted you. Put yourself first and be yourself. Journalling is a good start, reflecting on what you said Vs what you wish you would have said x
@@jp2497 Aw thank you! The funny thing is that I've actually started journalling from mid January. I'm finding it very helpful as a coping mechanism during lockdown at the moment and also to help me with my anxiety. It has also help me to self reflect.
Lisa everything that you spoke about resonate with me. I'm learning not to dim my own, base on the temperature of the room. It's a challenge because I usually don't want to be seen. I have some work to do.
We appreciate your wise words and vulnerability! Thanks for shining light on this topic.
Beautiful and poignant as always, it is hard though to shine, especially when you feel like your going to make others feel insecure but the way you said shining can be an example for others and also brighten up their day or life, felt really good and makes me want to shine to help others 🤗
Thank you Lisa! This has made me question what is my truth! What's required of me to be able to show up as my full self and to allow others to experience the greatest version of me! Thank you Lisa
"YOU are an irreplaceable miracle!" YES I AM!!!
BOL. When you said "I realized I wanted to be accepted, more than I wanted to do me" that's me rite now. But I'm learning how to be myself around people. Because once you start acting like your someone infront of a certain crowd , ever your with them your gonna have to keep up the "ACT". And just life draining
Yes, YES! If you don't do you, it won't be done! I totally recalibrate based on the energy in the room!
Lisa as much as I love your message, I love your outfit. You go girl.
This has reminded me of how much I I love myself and enjoy being me and how living fully in that place has been too much for others. I recognize times when I have dimmed my light for them.
I was hurt today by a family member who I was trying to help. I was left feeling fed up because part of the problem for this person is that I am moving closer to realising my dreams, instead of her celebrating me, she feels that it only highlights what she isn’t doing. Your message brought me to the realisation I keep holding myself back out of fear of upsetting people with the fullness of who I am. Thank you for helping me to see who I am. I am a blessing and I am enough.
Hi Lisa! Yesterday I "discovered" you, kept listening to many of your speeches all day. I'm not a Public Speaker, I'm a Public Health Engineer, but I think I might be in the wrong place here, and I'm 42, you might think I should have figured it out already! :D Funny thing is that when I listen to you, each word you say fits exactly in my mind/soul. I also discovered we're sisters of birthday, on 18th May! That makes you a Right Cross of Contagion in Human Design, just like I am... Having the knowledge of Human Design, and watching you, everything falls into place! I see what a Cross of Contagion can do to the world, and it feels I should do the same sort of things in some way... Be you, you're amazing at this! :)
Yes lisa!!!! I will enter every room being ME!!! I feel inspired to be more me without expecting to be liked by someone that I don't even know jajaja or by people that are not important for me 🙌🙌🙌 thanks lisa, i feel warm when I hear you. Blessings!!!!
I needed this...I'm still learning to shine my light. And I'm gonna get there
I never comment on UA-cam but I must say this video was superb. I am a Black female physician and often felt like I had to dim my light in many ways - not for my patients - but in the boardroom, classrooms and other spaces. I loved when you said that it's important for us to shine our light so that it can be reflected onto others who may better see themselves and then shine their own. Love it! We need to share our gifts so we can help others share theirs. Thank you. Very powerful! Bless you!
OMG!!!! So very much of my life this has been me!!!! Let me shine!!! Thank you!!!
Thanks, Lisa you have been such an inspiration.
And yeah I'm not going to Dim my Light.
I will burn so bright so that they can put their glasses on as you said.
It reminded me that I have to let myself ME the way I am..not just how people around me will accept me..Thank you Lisa, you're my mentor..I come to your videos..when I feel low..to borrow your faith, energy, enlightenment, enthusiasm..
God bless you Lisa Nichols abundantly ❤️
Anne ❤️
Australia 🇦🇺