For the girlies who get it, eternal hugs for you 🫶🏽 For the ones who don’t I hope this brings perspective. I don’t bear this weight anymore because I’ve grown to love myself. To think my phenotype would cause me so much pain seems unfathomable to many uabw out there. But my story isn’t for them, it’s for us in this community who are healing and loving themselves again. 💛💛💛 Click here to listen on Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/3b45mmuvSFlCyDmadJQ24o
Also quick disclaimer: It wasn’t bad 24/7 my mom sat in at the beginning and would sit in on some of the appointments randomly. Things really picked up at the end and it started slowly with rude comments and the last few appointments were the worst. But yeah sorry for the trauma dump I blame the new hormones 😂😅
Wow! Your hair reminds me of mine with the different textures. I had women accuse my hair of being damaged, so much so to the point that I went to the hair salon and had her look at it . The lady told me that it’s very common for multi racial women who are mixed with people of different curl patterns to have those patterns reflected in their hair .
Your story brought me to tears. How can people say some grown black women didn't bully younger MLS girls about their looks, when so many black women say the first instances of colourism they experienced where from the older black men and women when they where children.
Exactly! If they did it to the little girls who look like them then of course they did it to us too! But so many uabw have gaslit me saying that I don’t understand what it’s like to be told that my hair and skin are ugly. On the contrary, I know all too well.
I’ve had black women styling my hair say “you got some good hair.” And I had never let them touch my hair afterwards bc I didn’t want them to end up taking any anger/jealousy out on my “good hair.”
This story is so similar to my own story down to being teased for being skinny. The biggest difference is it was my father’s mother who did this to my hair. I had so much trauma and the worse part is no one understands when you confine in them. A therapist has no understanding of why an adult would intentionally damage a child’s hair. Well welcome to the jealous side of the black female community oh but wait there’s no jealousy right? To test a child this way is absolutely evil and our stories deserve to be heard.
I’m so sorry you went through this too and from your own family no less. That’s who we’d think would protect us first. When someone has hate and jealousy in their heart it’s like they stop being human. Our stories definitely need to be heard, especially when we’re always told we’ve never experienced any hate for our phenotype!
This title hits home. I just died my own hair and gave myself a trim last night. Thoughts were running through my mind the entire time of how healthy my hair is and that it grows so fast. Then I remembered how when I used to go to a hairdresser they would chop all my hair off every time. I didn’t have split ends or any reason for always taking me back to short when I came in long. My hair thrived when I was able to find a white stylist. Now taking care of my own hair I’m super happy.
And another note, I'm willing to bet she was also terrible to her daughters too, but her jealousy was so strong that she put on a show to make you feel worse. Narcissist.
I would not be surprised at all! I couldn’t even be mad at them, they were repeating their mother’s words. Their mother lived in her own world of self hate and that must have been awful to live with. I hope those girls are healing too
I realized at one point that going to these women made my hair not grow.. Instead my hair would fall out. This one lady left the relaxer on my hair for too long that I started balding and I had to cut my long hair 😞 it was tough but now I'm growing it out. I have been watching MLS women taking care of their hair and I'm on that journey of loving and taking care of my hair
@@michellemarshall4710 it's pure jealousy. And if they don't tell us to cut it, they will do something that will cause damage to it. These are the same women who think they can tell white women how to do mixed women's hair 😒
I had a hair dresser put glue directly on my hair when doing a ponytail hairstyle whenI lived in AL. It took me so long to get the glue out with certain products but it took a lot of my hair out. My hair is fine/ wavy. That wasnt my first experience either, i had another rude African lady braid my hair and she braided it so tight to where my edges broke off really bad. It grew back, but I dont let everyone do my hair anymore. Some women are jealous when you have a certain hair type or long hair…
See I am not going crazy 😭 People will go out of their way to sabotage our hair and that’s why I’m very picky now. I only get Dominican blowouts, everything else I do on my own
This kitchen “stylist” sounds like an absolute monster and my soul is crying for younger you. My mom has always had long type 2c/3a hair and she had some trauma stories from her youth, so she never allowed anyone to do our hair or even touch it. However when I was about 19 my sis found a stylist in the new city we lived in and she did such a great job on my sis we all went to her. I have been natural most of my life with type 3b hair and the first few silk presses were good, but the last one left my hair so dry and brittle that it kept breaking off until it was chin length and it started around armpit length at that time. (Happy to report I’m past bra strap length now!) My mom was furious and none of us went back to her after. And no matter what treatments we did, it wouldn’t stop breaking off. My mom said something that stuck with me, she was like “people put energy into everything and she put negative energy into your beautiful hair and that’s why it’s shedding and breaking so badly.” I don’t know if she did it on purpose, but she always insisted I had a texturizer when I was fully natural and the only chemical service I ever requested was a semipermanent red rinse over my naturally sun bleached hair. But anyhoo. As a natural I’ve heard the myth from people with kinkier hair textures that you will get split ends and damage from wearing your natural hair, which is psycho babble to me. How is conditioner and a satin scarf at night destroying anyone’s hair? Again, I’m so sorry you dealt with this trauma and it definitely sounds like she was causing you harm on purpose. I’m glad you have moved on from all of that!
Yes some people are so negative I 100% believe the energy they put into us can impact us physically. It was such a crazy time and looking back I can’t say how long we went to her. It definitely didn’t start out terrible but she showed her true colors in the end.
@@AllMixedUpMGM no shade to you and your mum at all! These kind of relationships have highs and lows and before anyone started having these conversations in recent years, we all thought the best of everyone who was considered a “friend/auntie/tante,” we endured nonsense and pain because we never thought someone we considered to be that close would hurt us. And also consider that when it’s good, it’s amazing but even it’s bad it’s soul crushing. And that is confusing. People with ill intentions know how to keep people off their game and confused. That is peak gaslighting. Again, so happy that you are not in that and can reflect on it and share your story. Sending hugs.
My mom has 3b-c hair, and mine is 3c/4a. I'm so fortunate that my mom went to cosmetology school and she and my grandma are the only people who have ever styled my hair. When I was a teenager I started learning to take care of my hair. Now I can wash, cut, style, braid, weave, add extensions, and slay a wig on my own hair. And I care for it the way I want.
You are so strong! I can relate because I have type 4a/b hair and I definitely have experienced texturism from other Black women. It's just self-hatred and jealousy. Let them hate you and keep rocking your natural hair. Healthy hair is good hair.
I'm so sorry you went through this😢💕im crying so much right now when u started talking about the braiding part because i feel ur pain sis 😢😢😢😢. I am multigenerationally mixed and grew up darkskin and had so many bad experiences like this and worse. My situations weren't really to do with my hair texture or skin tone it was to do with my loooks and my beauty. I'd often have hairstylists be really mean to me and very rough on my head, cut off inches of 'damaged' hair when i asked for a 1cm trim, use excessive heat and leave me under the dryer for soooo long and tell me that it was the products working when i was clearly almost getting a heatstroke from the heat. My mum used to leave me with this Nigerian lady and she was so bitter to me because i was prettier than her daughter. She would always braid my hair in ugly styles amd charge my mum so much money and she'd make her daughters hair so beautifully and she always had long hair and my hair would always break and never seemed to grow. She was also like a nanny to me so id have to live with her and her family and she would often not feed me and make me sleep like on the floor outside the toilet with just a blanket and would just be so horrible to me I can tell from ur responses and how you'd tell the lady u were in pain that ur a strong girl who would stand up for herself unfortunately i was too scared of the hairdresser to say something
I’m so sorry that happened to you. They say jealousy is a green monster, but actually, it’s oftentimes black 😂. Ps. I feel you on the mixed hair type. I had mine personally typed by Mehisha Delinger (the creator of the Curls hair product line) back when it was a new company and small enough that she offered personal curl typing. She typed me as having 2c/3c hair lol. I often can’t tell if my hair is wavy or curly, because it changes so much.
@@AllMixedUpMGM yea I don’t think she does that anymore, this was back in 2010/2011, and it was a brand new company so she probably had the time then (and was trying to promo her products of course, so a free curl typing was smart).
Omg I would have told my mom. I had almost the same experience where this lady was pulling my hair and gossiping about me and how awful my hair is AND I WAS 10!!! I told my sister and she gave them hell. I'm so sorry for your experience. I'm a LSBW and I totally empathize with you.
Thank you for understanding! I should have told my mom, I still wonder today why I didn’t! Then again, that time in our lives was so crazy that I don’t think I wanted to burden her with having to find someone more expensive. Either way, speaking up is so important and a skill I’ll make sure to instill in my child. I definitely had an issue speaking up when I was younger and it took a lot of work for me to improve that.
Hated going to salons growing up, they always would cut my pretty long hair and make it so short and lie and say it was damaged. I was a kid and wore my hair in protective styles. They just hated to see a pretty girl with long hair. It was always UABW running those salons. I still have bad experiences when going to get my hair braided. They rip my hair on purpose.
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This storytime made me cry. I am so sorry this happened to you and it’s beyond valid to only get your hair done by MLS women regardless of having this kind of traumatic experience or not imo. For context, my mom would only take me to MLS hairstylists because we come from a MGM country. I’ve only had UABW do my hair twice my whole entire life: once back home and everything went perfectly fine and the second time once I moved to France as an adult and the woman was a bit too harsh with the way she was cleaning my scalp, however I don’t think it was done intentional. It genuinely seemed like she wasn’t really used to dealing with my curl pattern. I think that alone is a good reason to prioritize going to MLS hairstylists because they know what our hair needs and how to style it better. But on top of that, potentially ending up with an unambiguous hair stylist who envies your curl pattern and might do something to damage your hair or potentially cause you harm or a chemical burn is just not worth it in my opinion. I know she did those things because you were a child and she chose someone who is easier to intimidate but some people are so evil & sick it’s not worth the risk so I would recommend MLS women prioritize MLS hairstylists regardless of their age to be safe, and obviously to not have to educate people about their curl pattern. Someone who can potentially envy you shouldn’t be trusted with anything related to your beauty imo. I’m so sorry this happened to you. This is literal child abuse and I also understand why you didn’t tell your mom because I’ve been in similar situations with my UADS sister and other DS family members my whole life and assumed she wanted me to be in those situations as well so there was not point in telling either of my parents.
Aw thank you! It’s nice when someone understands. You get exactly what I mean when I say I’d rather have an MLS hairstylist because it is much safer than wondering if someone secretly envies my hair. Which I know not all UABW are this way, but I literally JUST read a comment from an UABW calling her biracial friends mid and not that special under a video making fun of biracial girls. So like…it’s not far fetched to think some might not have the best intentions.
@@AllMixedUpMGM Absolutely! I think it’s even more valid for us as MLS women because the way UADSBW will project their internalized misogynoir without holding back is absolutely insane. They obviously also envy women of other races. The only difference is they see themselves as too far down the social hierarchy to put those women down the way they put us down. Those women are safe from being punching bags due to their inferiority complex, we aren’t. They see themselves in us in a way they don’t in other women because of our racial ambiguity. Instead of addressing the self-hate that comes to the surface in their interactions with us, they’d rather harm us and pretend we’re the problem for literally existing. I’ve been living in the US for a few years now and my hair has literally never been envied by black people to this extent in my whole entire life. Every single UADSBW I’ve had as a roommate in college has always been jealous of it and a lot of the time has gone as far as trying to prove that their hair could somewhat look similar to mine ☠️
I swear I’m in tears right now. 😢 And no you aren’t the only one that’s been through similar experiences. Just know they’re JEALOUSSSSSSS of your hair. When you have a moment could you post a video of how they dragged Tia Mowry about her beautiful hair. ❤
This story honestly also makes me angry at your mom, how could she see you come home crying after being in another house and not think something was wrong, or see your hair be cut significantly and knew you didn’t need it. My mom always fought to have my hair cut less in hair salons unless she saw with her own eyes it was damaged. I guess it might’ve been because she went with someone she considered a friend.
I used to be angry with her too, but I know she trusted her “friend” a lot and never would’ve guessed it was abuse. We talked it out and everything is great between us now.
Oh wow thank you!! I was so nervous to share this moment that I almost immediately made the video private. I’m so glad I didn’t though because it seems so many women relate. I will definitely share more!
I had the same experience when my mom would send me to a stylist with a childhood fiend. This friend was mixed and had curly straight hair as compared to my kinky curly hair. The stylist would be gentle and always compliment the other girls hair but when she got to my hair she would be complaining about how thick my hair was and how it takes so much time on top of being rough with my head. So yea I feel your pain. The reason I don’t get my hair done today.
I just had a terrible memory, when I was stationed overseas my friends, who had very thick hair like myself, got silk presses by someone who “specialized in natural hair” and so I automatically trusted her seeing how their hair turned out, she heat damaged mine😅and I eventually just cut it off and then when I told her, she told me my hair follicles went into shock🥴I even remember that lady’s name because the woman who big chopped my hair for me, told me that a lot of ladies were coming to her because she was damaging folks’ hair😭😭
She asked me about it and the lady said it was just a tight hairstyle/I scratched my head with the relaxer in. I was also afraid to speak up. That was something I had to work on over the years.
For the girlies who get it, eternal hugs for you 🫶🏽 For the ones who don’t I hope this brings perspective. I don’t bear this weight anymore because I’ve grown to love myself. To think my phenotype would cause me so much pain seems unfathomable to many uabw out there. But my story isn’t for them, it’s for us in this community who are healing and loving themselves again. 💛💛💛
Click here to listen on Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/3b45mmuvSFlCyDmadJQ24o
Also quick disclaimer: It wasn’t bad 24/7 my mom sat in at the beginning and would sit in on some of the appointments randomly. Things really picked up at the end and it started slowly with rude comments and the last few appointments were the worst. But yeah sorry for the trauma dump I blame the new hormones 😂😅
Wow! Your hair reminds me of mine with the different textures. I had women accuse my hair of being damaged, so much so to the point that I went to the hair salon and had her look at it . The lady told me that it’s very common for multi racial women who are mixed with people of different curl patterns to have those patterns reflected in their hair .
Omg the constant accusations of heat damage were so tiring. We’re just mixed!
Your story brought me to tears. How can people say some grown black women didn't bully younger MLS girls about their looks, when so many black women say the first instances of colourism they experienced where from the older black men and women when they where children.
Exactly! If they did it to the little girls who look like them then of course they did it to us too! But so many uabw have gaslit me saying that I don’t understand what it’s like to be told that my hair and skin are ugly. On the contrary, I know all too well.
EXACTLY!!
I’ve had black women styling my hair say “you got some good hair.” And I had never let them touch my hair afterwards bc I didn’t want them to end up taking any anger/jealousy out on my “good hair.”
This story is so similar to my own story down to being teased for being skinny. The biggest difference is it was my father’s mother who did this to my hair. I had so much trauma and the worse part is no one understands when you confine in them. A therapist has no understanding of why an adult would intentionally damage a child’s hair. Well welcome to the jealous side of the black female community oh but wait there’s no jealousy right? To test a child this way is absolutely evil and our stories deserve to be heard.
I’m so sorry you went through this too and from your own family no less. That’s who we’d think would protect us first. When someone has hate and jealousy in their heart it’s like they stop being human. Our stories definitely need to be heard, especially when we’re always told we’ve never experienced any hate for our phenotype!
This title hits home. I just died my own hair and gave myself a trim last night. Thoughts were running through my mind the entire time of how healthy my hair is and that it grows so fast. Then I remembered how when I used to go to a hairdresser they would chop all my hair off every time. I didn’t have split ends or any reason for always taking me back to short when I came in long. My hair thrived when I was able to find a white stylist. Now taking care of my own hair I’m super happy.
My hair is doing way better now that I go to a Dominican salon. They understand my hair perfectly.
And another note, I'm willing to bet she was also terrible to her daughters too, but her jealousy was so strong that she put on a show to make you feel worse. Narcissist.
I would not be surprised at all! I couldn’t even be mad at them, they were repeating their mother’s words. Their mother lived in her own world of self hate and that must have been awful to live with. I hope those girls are healing too
I realized at one point that going to these women made my hair not grow.. Instead my hair would fall out. This one lady left the relaxer on my hair for too long that I started balding and I had to cut my long hair 😞 it was tough but now I'm growing it out. I have been watching MLS women taking care of their hair and I'm on that journey of loving and taking care of my hair
I’m so sorry you experienced that! I think a lot of women know exactly what they’re doing and purposely harm us. Healing energy out to your hair 💛
ME TOO! And what’s up with them telling us we should cut our hair when we go to the salon? SMH
@@michellemarshall4710 it's pure jealousy. And if they don't tell us to cut it, they will do something that will cause damage to it. These are the same women who think they can tell white women how to do mixed women's hair 😒
I had a hair dresser put glue directly on my hair when doing a ponytail hairstyle whenI lived in AL. It took me so long to get the glue out with certain products but it took a lot of my hair out. My hair is fine/ wavy. That wasnt my first experience either, i had another rude African lady braid my hair and she braided it so tight to where my edges broke off really bad. It grew back, but I dont let everyone do my hair anymore. Some women are jealous when you have a certain hair type or long hair…
See I am not going crazy 😭 People will go out of their way to sabotage our hair and that’s why I’m very picky now. I only get Dominican blowouts, everything else I do on my own
This kitchen “stylist” sounds like an absolute monster and my soul is crying for younger you. My mom has always had long type 2c/3a hair and she had some trauma stories from her youth, so she never allowed anyone to do our hair or even touch it. However when I was about 19 my sis found a stylist in the new city we lived in and she did such a great job on my sis we all went to her. I have been natural most of my life with type 3b hair and the first few silk presses were good, but the last one left my hair so dry and brittle that it kept breaking off until it was chin length and it started around armpit length at that time. (Happy to report I’m past bra strap length now!) My mom was furious and none of us went back to her after. And no matter what treatments we did, it wouldn’t stop breaking off. My mom said something that stuck with me, she was like “people put energy into everything and she put negative energy into your beautiful hair and that’s why it’s shedding and breaking so badly.” I don’t know if she did it on purpose, but she always insisted I had a texturizer when I was fully natural and the only chemical service I ever requested was a semipermanent red rinse over my naturally sun bleached hair. But anyhoo. As a natural I’ve heard the myth from people with kinkier hair textures that you will get split ends and damage from wearing your natural hair, which is psycho babble to me. How is conditioner and a satin scarf at night destroying anyone’s hair? Again, I’m so sorry you dealt with this trauma and it definitely sounds like she was causing you harm on purpose. I’m glad you have moved on from all of that!
Yes some people are so negative I 100% believe the energy they put into us can impact us physically. It was such a crazy time and looking back I can’t say how long we went to her. It definitely didn’t start out terrible but she showed her true colors in the end.
@@AllMixedUpMGM no shade to you and your mum at all! These kind of relationships have highs and lows and before anyone started having these conversations in recent years, we all thought the best of everyone who was considered a “friend/auntie/tante,” we endured nonsense and pain because we never thought someone we considered to be that close would hurt us. And also consider that when it’s good, it’s amazing but even it’s bad it’s soul crushing. And that is confusing. People with ill intentions know how to keep people off their game and confused. That is peak gaslighting. Again, so happy that you are not in that and can reflect on it and share your story. Sending hugs.
My mom has 3b-c hair, and mine is 3c/4a. I'm so fortunate that my mom went to cosmetology school and she and my grandma are the only people who have ever styled my hair. When I was a teenager I started learning to take care of my hair. Now I can wash, cut, style, braid, weave, add extensions, and slay a wig on my own hair. And I care for it the way I want.
You are so strong! I can relate because I have type 4a/b hair and I definitely have experienced texturism from other Black women. It's just self-hatred and jealousy. Let them hate you and keep rocking your natural hair. Healthy hair is good hair.
Thank you so much! I love my hair as it is so they failed at making me hate myself 😊
I'm so sorry you went through this😢💕im crying so much right now when u started talking about the braiding part because i feel ur pain sis 😢😢😢😢. I am multigenerationally mixed and grew up darkskin and had so many bad experiences like this and worse.
My situations weren't really to do with my hair texture or skin tone it was to do with my loooks and my beauty. I'd often have hairstylists be really mean to me and very rough on my head, cut off inches of 'damaged' hair when i asked for a 1cm trim, use excessive heat and leave me under the dryer for soooo long and tell me that it was the products working when i was clearly almost getting a heatstroke from the heat. My mum used to leave me with this Nigerian lady and she was so bitter to me because i was prettier than her daughter. She would always braid my hair in ugly styles amd charge my mum so much money and she'd make her daughters hair so beautifully and she always had long hair and my hair would always break and never seemed to grow.
She was also like a nanny to me so id have to live with her and her family and she would often not feed me and make me sleep like on the floor outside the toilet with just a blanket and would just be so horrible to me
I can tell from ur responses and how you'd tell the lady u were in pain that ur a strong girl who would stand up for herself unfortunately i was too scared of the hairdresser to say something
I’m so sorry that happened to you. They say jealousy is a green monster, but actually, it’s oftentimes black 😂.
Ps. I feel you on the mixed hair type. I had mine personally typed by Mehisha Delinger (the creator of the Curls hair product line) back when it was a new company and small enough that she offered personal curl typing. She typed me as having 2c/3c hair lol. I often can’t tell if my hair is wavy or curly, because it changes so much.
Making me laugh on this video 😂💛 And wow! I didn’t know they did personal curl typing. Some days my hair doesn’t know what it wants to be either lol
@@AllMixedUpMGM yea I don’t think she does that anymore, this was back in 2010/2011, and it was a brand new company so she probably had the time then (and was trying to promo her products of course, so a free curl typing was smart).
Btw great job on making long videos because that helps you to go up in the algorithm. UA-cam rewards creators who keep users on UA-cam longer lol
Thank you it was easier than I expected to hit 40 minutes! I felt like I could’ve extended it to an hour but I was so tired 😂
Omg I would have told my mom. I had almost the same experience where this lady was pulling my hair and gossiping about me and how awful my hair is AND I WAS 10!!! I told my sister and she gave them hell. I'm so sorry for your experience. I'm a LSBW and I totally empathize with you.
Thank you for understanding! I should have told my mom, I still wonder today why I didn’t! Then again, that time in our lives was so crazy that I don’t think I wanted to burden her with having to find someone more expensive. Either way, speaking up is so important and a skill I’ll make sure to instill in my child. I definitely had an issue speaking up when I was younger and it took a lot of work for me to improve that.
Hated going to salons growing up, they always would cut my pretty long hair and make it so short and lie and say it was damaged. I was a kid and wore my hair in protective styles. They just hated to see a pretty girl with long hair. It was always UABW running those salons. I still have bad experiences when going to get my hair braided. They rip my hair on purpose.
Same!! I'm so sorry that happened to you!
This is why I hate going to salons. If I go there my sister or someone has to be there cause these women are something else 😵
The insanity is so real!
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This storytime made me cry. I am so sorry this happened to you and it’s beyond valid to only get your hair done by MLS women regardless of having this kind of traumatic experience or not imo.
For context, my mom would only take me to MLS hairstylists because we come from a MGM country. I’ve only had UABW do my hair twice my whole entire life: once back home and everything went perfectly fine and the second time once I moved to France as an adult and the woman was a bit too harsh with the way she was cleaning my scalp, however I don’t think it was done intentional. It genuinely seemed like she wasn’t really used to dealing with my curl pattern.
I think that alone is a good reason to prioritize going to MLS hairstylists because they know what our hair needs and how to style it better. But on top of that, potentially ending up with an unambiguous hair stylist who envies your curl pattern and might do something to damage your hair or potentially cause you harm or a chemical burn is just not worth it in my opinion. I know she did those things because you were a child and she chose someone who is easier to intimidate but some people are so evil & sick it’s not worth the risk so I would recommend MLS women prioritize MLS hairstylists regardless of their age to be safe, and obviously to not have to educate people about their curl pattern. Someone who can potentially envy you shouldn’t be trusted with anything related to your beauty imo.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. This is literal child abuse and I also understand why you didn’t tell your mom because I’ve been in similar situations with my UADS sister and other DS family members my whole life and assumed she wanted me to be in those situations as well so there was not point in telling either of my parents.
Aw thank you! It’s nice when someone understands. You get exactly what I mean when I say I’d rather have an MLS hairstylist because it is much safer than wondering if someone secretly envies my hair. Which I know not all UABW are this way, but I literally JUST read a comment from an UABW calling her biracial friends mid and not that special under a video making fun of biracial girls. So like…it’s not far fetched to think some might not have the best intentions.
@@AllMixedUpMGM Absolutely! I think it’s even more valid for us as MLS women because the way UADSBW will project their internalized misogynoir without holding back is absolutely insane.
They obviously also envy women of other races. The only difference is they see themselves as too far down the social hierarchy to put those women down the way they put us down. Those women are safe from being punching bags due to their inferiority complex, we aren’t. They see themselves in us in a way they don’t in other women because of our racial ambiguity. Instead of addressing the self-hate that comes to the surface in their interactions with us, they’d rather harm us and pretend we’re the problem for literally existing.
I’ve been living in the US for a few years now and my hair has literally never been envied by black people to this extent in my whole entire life. Every single UADSBW I’ve had as a roommate in college has always been jealous of it and a lot of the time has gone as far as trying to prove that their hair could somewhat look similar to mine ☠️
i actually love long videos like this! i hope you make more like this in the future
Wow, sounds like jealousy to me. She shouldn’t do that to a child. People should be proud themselves what they look like. That why I do my own hair.
I swear I’m in tears right now. 😢 And no you aren’t the only one that’s been through similar experiences. Just know they’re JEALOUSSSSSSS of your hair. When you have a moment could you post a video of how they dragged Tia Mowry about her beautiful hair. ❤
Thank you ❤️ and absolutely! They made her claim black forever and then turned around and insulted her for calling her hair black hair. So annoying
This is just pure evil.
This story honestly also makes me angry at your mom, how could she see you come home crying after being in another house and not think something was wrong, or see your hair be cut significantly and knew you didn’t need it.
My mom always fought to have my hair cut less in hair salons unless she saw with her own eyes it was damaged. I guess it might’ve been because she went with someone she considered a friend.
I used to be angry with her too, but I know she trusted her “friend” a lot and never would’ve guessed it was abuse. We talked it out and everything is great between us now.
Wow! This may be your BEST video so far! I can't wait to hear more of you personal stories, and how you overcome persecution from bitter people.
Oh wow thank you!! I was so nervous to share this moment that I almost immediately made the video private. I’m so glad I didn’t though because it seems so many women relate. I will definitely share more!
I had the same experience when my mom would send me to a stylist with a childhood fiend. This friend was mixed and had curly straight hair as compared to my kinky curly hair. The stylist would be gentle and always compliment the other girls hair but when she got to my hair she would be complaining about how thick my hair was and how it takes so much time on top of being rough with my head. So yea I feel your pain. The reason I don’t get my hair done today.
People who take their personal feelings out on children are disgusting. I have no sympathy for them
And they always have that look.
I'm sorry you went through this.
I just had a terrible memory, when I was stationed overseas my friends, who had very thick hair like myself, got silk presses by someone who “specialized in natural hair” and so I automatically trusted her seeing how their hair turned out, she heat damaged mine😅and I eventually just cut it off and then when I told her, she told me my hair follicles went into shock🥴I even remember that lady’s name because the woman who big chopped my hair for me, told me that a lot of ladies were coming to her because she was damaging folks’ hair😭😭
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What does UABW means?
Ooh I cringed just reading the title, ouch.
😭 Girl… why didn’t you show your mother the burn marks or the scars on your scalp??
She asked me about it and the lady said it was just a tight hairstyle/I scratched my head with the relaxer in. I was also afraid to speak up. That was something I had to work on over the years.
@@AllMixedUpMGM 🫢