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Get over a breakup
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- Опубліковано 14 сер 2024
- Dealing with heartbreak. How to heal from heartbreak and stop thinking about your ex. This is how you get over a breakup.
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Yo it's Rene here, to answer your question I'm 23 years old and have been watchin since end of 2016/beginning of 2017. Thanks to you Elisha and the tribe for making a video about my comment. Many good points and thoughts were made, which I'll definetely remember. Thanks a lot guys.
Going through exactly the same brother. Subconsciously focused on her too much instead of my studies, work and more important things in life. She could probably feel that and left. First heartbreak of my life, went through a lot of pain but like Elisha says, we have to go through this at least once in our lives. I feel much more of a man already, even though I'm not entirely over her yet. She left at exactly the right point in my studies, because I was slowly falling behind and now I found the motivation to get back there and pass all my tests! Let's go get it together and break through life's challenges to get stronger and stronger!
Yo Rene, as far as your situation goes, I can promise you that this issue your having will pass. I understand when you told us you’ve been dreaming about her, I’ve had the same issue as well. I would go on with my day, first and last thing I’d be thinking about her in the morning and the night. I don’t care if that’s beta, you are a human being, I’m not going to pretend it’s not happened to me or anyone else either. This person was once important to you but life eventually goes on. For me personally I would remove them from all my social medias, do not memorize numbers and let yourself go through this pain because it will pass, if your worried that this breakup will haunt for the rest of your life, it won’t. Don’t let this experience ruin other relationships you will be building in the future. Hope you feel better bro.
Rene, from my own experience, 23 is a critical age in a man's life. This is when you developed into a man. Your girlfriend leaving you is the best thing to have ever happened to you because now you must become a man. This is the ignition that will lead you there, so see it as a huge blessing.
Go on the hero's journey and achieve your goals in life. The universe/god will present the right woman for you when it/he thinks you are ready again. Don't worry about women now, focus on building the life you want. The order that the bible states (I'm not subscribed to any particular religion but I like this principle) are good as a reference
1. Mission/purpose/god first
2. Women
3. Children
Never leave this divine order above, and you will do well. Women like men who are mission-oriented and can lead. They don't want you to drop your mission for them, that is very unattractive. You should always be ready to leave a woman for nr.1 listed above. That will always benefit you and conversely attract and keep women attracted to you. Never pedestalize women. You are the prize. There are multiple women out there that are suitable for you. Nothing to worry about. Lead and win. Time will heal the pain but chose to become stronger, not degenerate into depression. Use negative emotions to produce positive results in your life.
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I feel you bro, the breakup is roughly 8 months for me now and the thoughts about her still creep in mostly at the evening when I lay in my bed alone. It got better over time, you have to go through the stages of grief, I am finally through, but If you really cared for that person this will stick for you, but it wont hurt as much anymore, because life will move on and you will have other things going on. GL Bro
We're with u bro, but no point putting your energy into someone who doesn't care about you
One word of advice for the youngsters is to not go into relationships thinking "she is the one" the one you will marry. You get your winky wet one time and fall in love. Meanwhile she's got 5 other dudes on speed dial. My point is just have fun and let relationships grow organically.
This isn't even for the youngsters, this can be guys even in their 30s. No matter the age and experience you have, women can drop you out of nowhere and replace you within days.
In my experience, losing a girl is similar to going through a drug withdrawal. Time does heal, you just have to suffer through it as best you can
Yea. It’s a hard pill to swallow. You’ll feel like absolute shut, but time does heal eventually
the way he said beta cured my women related issues 💀💀💀
I swear dude you live inside my brain. How do you always know what i'm dealing with
The power of a tribe. You talk to other men and relate on a deeper level. We all deal with the same shit.
for real
Dreaming about her weekly? She must’ve had that fire. Nah but really rise like a Phoenix from the ashes brother, do not avoid the hurt. Use it.
Facts. I went through a messy break up and on the other side I can safely say I am feeling stoic. I’ve built my relationship with friends and family, I’ve pushed my career, I’ve started jiu jitsu. I have renewed purpose.
I was in the same boat. It’s tough. I decided to turn the emotional pain into physical pain in the gym, took care of my diet/sleep, and get serious about my golf handicap. I’ve never felt better and the thoughts of her are fading. I don’t want her back anymore, but the next time I bump into her I’m going to be in the shape of my life.
It’s all a lesson my friend. Same thing happened to me. There’s always the one. The Amy. I promise you the pain will go and you will find one even better . Go workout and work hard. Keep moving. Never ever let her back in your life.
Amy?
Or the Emma 😂
It gets easier over time I just got over mine (still getting over her) but I couldn’t sleep right for a whole month. Since yesterday I’m much more adjusted after I faced my true thoughts. Had a breakthrough
I have to disagree with one thing. It’s not always what you could have done better to make her stay in the relationship. Sometimes if not often it’s better that she is gone! Sometimes a guy does way too much and just takes all the shit because he thinks he is the wiser and more mature one in order to help her. That’s what I did. I wanted to save her, because I saw a small weak beautiful creature, who happened bad things to. I thought I can fix her. She had bordlerline tendencies. I started a business, got us an apartment, planned into the future. And then I got absolutely fucked, absolutely discarded from one night to the other, blamed for everything, because I always took the blame for all during the relationship! I was so devastier because I have so much for her, went through so much with her. Only to be so ducking disappointed in the end. Tell me, what should I have done better than leaving when I knew I should!
I actually agree and felt the same way, alot of times it has to do with the woman and not even you. Maybe she missed the streets and wasn't ready for commitment after all, maybe she can't pick good men and didn't realize she had a real one, she thought she could do better, or maybe she just didn't like you as much as she thought.
My most recent ex I did damn near almost everything right. Never simped, never broke frame, was always on my purpose doing my hobbies and such, had a good job, in good shape etc and she still left me.
This same exact thing happened to me but with much less commitment. I let her go after 6 weeks just because I did not enjoy feeling discarded, it made me feel unloved
Its weird how you build their egos just so that they can use it against you..... perfect combo of "main character" and "grass is greener" syndrome
Men need a callous heart, a thick skin dude! Part of growing up imo
This one is a fuckin banger. Lotta guys need to pay attention and listen to this video
I feel you bro. The girl i lost my virginity to broke up with me in February. Feels terrible
She will hit the wall and want you back stay on your grind
@jiggle of existence bruh im experiencing it in real life right now it is no cope not everyone is an incel like you and theres no context of the OP post of age demographics etc… please take your incel behavior somewhere else 😂
@jiggle of existence Sometimes? Yes. Most times? No not really.
@jiggle of existence According to real life experience and divorce stats.
@jiggle of existence Not really feeling it because you seem low test and even if I were to explain it to you and toss out every statistic under the sun it would be a waste of time
I may be a little late to this video, but trust me Eli...this right here definitely works
Realest shit I’ve heard. I needed this man.
Dude, this came just in the right time for me.
I'm not in a break up, but I'm stuck on a lease with a girl that I accidentally developed feelings for. She's a terrible person (breaking boundaries, coming to the kitchen with nothing but a bra and yoga pants, coming out of the shower with nothing but a towel, bringing one night stands to the house without permission) yet I can't stop her from living in my head rent free. I gotta get over these simp behaviors.
What is wrong with you dog? Do you talk to her?
Wtf bro, set boundaries. Also, she'd be hooking up with you if you were better
I know it's a buzzword, but she's a narcissist. She established the rule before me so I was happy we were on the same page. I reminded her three times and eventually she brought a guy regardless. After that, we had a conversation and she told me she would comply with the rules, but today she went at it again and brought a stranger to the house. I've established boundaries for each and every one of these issues, but she gets off on breaking boundaries. I don't know what to do.
She wanted to hook up with me, but I don't believe in premarital sex (my parents did it that way and so will I) and she's been with every guy so I fear for STDs.
@@THEDRAWINGSTUDIO1 Why the fuck do you even associate with her at all? This comment just seems like bait
Thank you Assyrian Brother
Gonna be returning to this video in a week to a month, I can sense it.
Damn.
@@joshwilliams6517 it's coming bro. Found a solid chick but I don't think she's feeling it long term. 🤷♂️
@@sb2h Give us some details man
@@sb2h I’ve been through that where you know it’s coming to an end but you stay until it ends and all I can say is that if she isn’t feeling it long term then she isn’t solid for you. Don’t waste your time with a girl who isn’t all the way down for you bro! Wish you all the best going forward and don’t let it bring you down, it’s not worth it! You’ll find a better girl, trust me.
Both in college, she's a little older than me but not by much. She's in a sorority, but she's actually got her head screwed on straight. I'm not doing much other than work, school, lifting, and a few hobbies. Neither of us have much free time and we're seeing each other less and less. She's a solid woman, good wisdom, some desirable traits. I think she knows she's a rare breed these days and is looking for someone further along. Just speculation. If I could demonstrate my drive/potential I think I could bag her long term but I'm not around her much to get the opportunity.
Thank you Elisha
i still dream about my ex- It was 5 years ago and I haven't been with another since
Good God man what has happened to you. Time to change that.
@@ElishaLong it's nothing I can control. I don't miss her but subconsciously she is just there I guess. She was the last girl I was in a relationship with
@@godswill2527 5 years ago is insane though man. You gotta find a new girl to fall in love with
@@xFlamingTacos Yeah brother I know. I have had ONS with 2 other girls in this time but not a relationship. I have had personal things I have struggled with but 5 years is quite some time
You haven’t changed at all you’re still clinging to her like hard drugs
She is not yours…. It’s just your turn.
shoutout Skepta
The older I get and listen to "advice" from everyone on ALL side of the growing _checked out_ young men issue, the more I'm realizing they're all just saying the same thing: _"Yeah, being a man sucks. Deal with it and shut up."_ Then how is self-isolation not taking that EXACT advice? Lol. Also why would it not be the correct one? You mean to tell me my existence is completely disposable and my chances at reproduction or just a general contentment is a roll of dice even of I try my hardest? And if I lose the dice roll, I'm now objectively worse off (in some way) than I would've been simply just not playing the game? I'll stick to not playing that game, I never asked to be born. So I choose to cope with my own existence and future in my own way. I'd rather be sent back in time and die in a tank somewhere during the European theater of the war.
Thank you for this video 🙏🏿
How is it when you are the one to break up with them? I find it very hard to stand by my decision even though I know it's the best for both me and her. Everytime my mind revisits memories we had, it's extremely hard not to go back to her and "relapse".
Honestly this is one of the reasons I’m 25 and never had a girlfriend. I’m afraid of getting too attached even though I’ve been single my whole life…
Even though I’ve always wanted a girl but never, literally never tried to get one. Idk. It’s hard being alone all the time with no companion sometimes, you have to become your own companion. Become comfortable by yourself, with yourself most of the time. I think I’ve passed that level lol. The problem I have is how to meet girls, where, when, what circumstance, I feel like the only way I can really get a girl is destiny, and I think that’s stupid still, lol.
My ex caused so much drama and emotion I coudnt think clearly, I unintentionally hurted her feelings by trying honest by sms, it was early in the morning and hadnt slept. She dumped me on text. I am very stoic but I fucked it up anyway.
thanks Elisha
Only men can understand men... it's just not women's cup of cake
You helped me a lot Thank you
2 days ago my current girlfriend got married. I’m 22 and she’s 26.
She couldn’t wait any longer and I wasn’t ready for marriage yet.
her parents force her to marry because of her past relationships, the guys didn’t come thru.
So she chose her friend to marry who loves her for the past 10 years.
I knew this day would come but I’m willing to suffer and yes it hurts like a bitch.
She called me after they had sex she said he’s got a small penis. Not sure if I should be happy or sad.
Don't need to get over a breakup if you've never been in a relationship lol.
Cope or dope?
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Back, as predicted 💀
It happened aye?
@@ElishaLong yes sir. Pretty stoic about this kind of stuff but it's a bit tough to watch this one go. Chick was solid, didn't think they made em like that anymore.
Thankful though brother! Meeting her made me realize there's still some gems out there. Straightened up my path a bit
@@sb2h Time to get serious now man