HI i'm a women, and this is sooo helpful. I'm trying to figure out what a man wants, desires/needs in a relationship. i want to become a wife my future husband would be proud of. hearing the male side is very humbling and insightful. I also wanna ask if you guys can do a video on joseph and him as a model for men. or something along those lines. Thank you. I appreciate this channel and you guys.
Thanks this is helpful. I still don't know why my husband hates me or he acts like it after 26 years of marriage. I try very hard to be a good person and wife, mother, cook, caregiver, housekeeper.
Few men hate their wives. Many, though, resent their responsibilities and the sacrifices they've had to make for their family. Not your fault (probably) but explore that route.
Thank you for not making this just another hour-long sermon of "men are inherently broken and sinful and wrong and need to cede even more ground and understanding to our poor, pitiful, angelic, long-suffering women"
You characterized men as being competitive. And this brings to mind women who are very career-driven. It would be interesting to hear your insights on wives who are very career-driven and competitive, and the idea of professional jealousy between husband and wife especially if they are in the same field. Thank you and God bless.
I'm sorry but I think the hyper sexual drive stereotype of men is largely cultural, not biological. My husband is from India, devout Catholic, and sex is NOT a critical part of marriage in Indian culture. Most couples sleep apart, especially during when they have very young children (bed-sharing is the norm) or when the couple is past child bearing years. Sex doesn't equal intimacy for them and is mostly thought of as biological, not relational. When I see even well-meaning Catholics push this whole "sex is so critical" message, I think they're missing the point that this is a cultural value, not a universal religious truth.
This is good, but I want to add, from a woman's perspective, to the animal nature portion of a man's sexual drive. You gave the example of elk bulls fighting over a female and it goes back to the strongest, the largest, the best. Well, if your wife has plummeted in her desire for you, perhaps it is because you've ceased to be her strongest, largest, and best. You ceased to be the bull elk who won. You aren't leading the family according to God's command for you. You are adding to her workload. You aren't wooing her. This one is a biggie: you aren't treating the children well and your fatherhood is lacking. Women don't want to engage in the biological act of procreation if she can't trust you with the offspring. Men have a strong biological drive towards sex, but women have one towards preservation. Our very physiology will quit cooperating if we do not feel safe, protected, and relaxed to do so. If we are overworked our body is going to say, "this is not the time to make children." If we are scared, same thing. So don't think she is just clamming up out of resentment and punishment. The husband who came home from his business trip and wanted intimacy, what he should have done was given her the opportunity to want it, too. Instead, he only thought of himself and his needs and didn't realize that she was in a position at home of being overworked and unprotected. She needed to rest, relax, and be cared for so her mind and body could be receptive. Because at that moment her body was saying after all I've been through I can't be risking getting pregnant right now. The stress level is too high. That is unsafe for woman and for baby. Men are not naturally monogamous: i wonder if that is an intentional drsign of God because women change so much diring the course of a marriage. Maybe it is a design to keep men attacted to the changes their wife endures. I also think it has something to do with it isn't good for man to be alone, in that most men, at the loss of their wife, will seek to remarry, and usually more quickly than a widow does. I don't think this means, smd correct me if I am wrong, that husbands hate monogamy and wish for more sexual partners, but just resign themselves to God's order in this
You guys are AWESOME - thanks for another great episode. Cheers from one of your sisters in Christ ;)
@Mimse79 Thank you so much. I pray that your Advent is blessed. - John
@TheCatholicGentleman Likewise!
HI i'm a women, and this is sooo helpful. I'm trying to figure out what a man wants, desires/needs in a relationship. i want to become a wife my future husband would be proud of. hearing the male side is very humbling and insightful.
I also wanna ask if you guys can do a video on joseph and him as a model for men. or something along those lines. Thank you. I appreciate this channel and you guys.
Thanks this is helpful. I still don't know why my husband hates me or he acts like it after 26 years of marriage. I try very hard to be a good person and wife, mother, cook, caregiver, housekeeper.
Few men hate their wives. Many, though, resent their responsibilities and the sacrifices they've had to make for their family. Not your fault (probably) but explore that route.
Thank you for not making this just another hour-long sermon of "men are inherently broken and sinful and wrong and need to cede even more ground and understanding to our poor, pitiful, angelic, long-suffering women"
Great discussion and sharing of insights. Thanks for this episode.
You characterized men as being competitive. And this brings to mind women who are very career-driven. It would be interesting to hear your insights on wives who are very career-driven and competitive, and the idea of professional jealousy between husband and wife especially if they are in the same field.
Thank you and God bless.
I'm sorry but I think the hyper sexual drive stereotype of men is largely cultural, not biological. My husband is from India, devout Catholic, and sex is NOT a critical part of marriage in Indian culture. Most couples sleep apart, especially during when they have very young children (bed-sharing is the norm) or when the couple is past child bearing years. Sex doesn't equal intimacy for them and is mostly thought of as biological, not relational. When I see even well-meaning Catholics push this whole "sex is so critical" message, I think they're missing the point that this is a cultural value, not a universal religious truth.
Isn’t India where the whole tantra sex thing started?
@@JewelBlueIbanez which is part of the ancient Hindu tradition and not part of current Indian culture, especially not Christian Indians.
This is good, but I want to add, from a woman's perspective, to the animal nature portion of a man's sexual drive. You gave the example of elk bulls fighting over a female and it goes back to the strongest, the largest, the best. Well, if your wife has plummeted in her desire for you, perhaps it is because you've ceased to be her strongest, largest, and best. You ceased to be the bull elk who won. You aren't leading the family according to God's command for you. You are adding to her workload. You aren't wooing her. This one is a biggie: you aren't treating the children well and your fatherhood is lacking. Women don't want to engage in the biological act of procreation if she can't trust you with the offspring. Men have a strong biological drive towards sex, but women have one towards preservation. Our very physiology will quit cooperating if we do not feel safe, protected, and relaxed to do so. If we are overworked our body is going to say, "this is not the time to make children." If we are scared, same thing. So don't think she is just clamming up out of resentment and punishment.
The husband who came home from his business trip and wanted intimacy, what he should have done was given her the opportunity to want it, too. Instead, he only thought of himself and his needs and didn't realize that she was in a position at home of being overworked and unprotected. She needed to rest, relax, and be cared for so her mind and body could be receptive. Because at that moment her body was saying after all I've been through I can't be risking getting pregnant right now. The stress level is too high. That is unsafe for woman and for baby.
Men are not naturally monogamous: i wonder if that is an intentional drsign of God because women change so much diring the course of a marriage. Maybe it is a design to keep men attacted to the changes their wife endures. I also think it has something to do with it isn't good for man to be alone, in that most men, at the loss of their wife, will seek to remarry, and usually more quickly than a widow does. I don't think this means, smd correct me if I am wrong, that husbands hate monogamy and wish for more sexual partners, but just resign themselves to God's order in this
@MrsScott-bx8sb . So truly written.
The male sexual drive is not shameful. Thank you guys for stating reality.
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They are beautiful, smart and sweet. ❤
Might just be me. May be just my wife. I had to explain to my wife for years that my mind works like more like a calculator than kaleidoscope.
Re: the video title, you did in one sentence what the guys couldn't in an hour of beating around the proverbial bush.