Husband Leading A Double Life (You Won't Believe What His Wife Did)
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A wife calls Dr. Joe Beam and shares that her husband was leading a double life. You won't believe what this wife did when she found out her husband was leading a double life. Take note of Dr. Beam's response and thoughts on the topic of double lives and his take on how this wife dealt with it.
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I think it's far easier to say what you would do in this situation..but you may do something completely different if you find yourself in this situation...
If that was my situation Dr Beam and my husband was having an affair, and to top it off he would give me an ultimatum to come back home only if my parents had to leave. I would tell him to stay with the other woman and never come home simple as that. I don't tolerate betrayal.
If that would happen to me,im sorry i wont waste my time asking him to come back..im not gonna loose my value for such a man..he choose to leave and be with other woman so why bother to ssk him back?
My husband's parents were controlling and his mother was passive aggressive towards me. I can totally understand why someone wouldn 't want to live with the parents.
So he is still shacked up with side piece ? And he's demanding what terms to return home? He's showing his priority right there...let him stay with side piece...find a new more loyal man
Yep!
Yes!!!!
Tell him to "STAY", "Why don't you stay! I don't have to live that way! ( Sugarland)
If he had integrity, he wouldn't have done it n the first place.
Yes, I accept that my husband "had" affairs in his first 21year marriage.( Then he had a four-year relationship in between where he was true and loyal.) He openly told me this info. on his own when were dating and deciding to move forward. But both he and I know that I won't tolerate any affairs in THIS marriage. We have been married for 23 years (together 24 years.) And there have been ZERO affairs on either side we have both been total and true in this marriage.
Once a cheater always a cheater
1st. Story..maybe a husband doesn't want her parents around because they see through his BS when his wife can't. Especially a wife whos willing to do anything to get him back. They need a counselor to diagnose the real issues
I would not take him back !!
He will leave u again And again
If he moved out (because her parents were there) to be on his own is different than if he used that to move on with another woman! Sounds like a convenient excuse to have an affair....
I'd leave them....I can tolerate a lot but not financial infidelity....
Wouldnt taking out a loan in your spouses name still be fraid?
My wife has done the same thing on on line gambling game which also turned in to a Limerence affair
Yes I'm in same situation marie for 35 years. Just impossible move after all this year very confuse.
I can accept the person, but not his put downs , name calling at cussing at me in front of kids
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Hi. Some feedback. Your video volume is rather low. I strain to hear you. Thank you.
We have a family business that is struggeling financially. My wife has put me before an ultimatum that she will only come back to me once i get another job away from the family. She has clinical depression and the therapist says its me and the situation that is causing the depression. She is living with the children at her parents house at the moment.
I hoped you man-ed up and got a job to save your family. Your wife and your child need you I hope you didn’t let them down.
Oh yeah defienetly there. Husband and I where living with my parents which his addiction turned the good relationship with my parents bad. His choices left us broke well now more me than him after he left. My issue is us trying to get a place together and now he says he feels like he needs more money before we do that after blowing the whole savings on a lawyer and still has his alcohol problem causing him to spend more money I feel like where stuck
Where is the double life mentioned in the title? Double life = having another family with a very different career, identity, etc Having an affair known by the legal wife is not a double life. Complicated life, immoral life, etc but definitely not double life
Mines had a double life. I had no clue that he was paying bills and introduced her to his friends family and co workers and I had no idea
Yeah that first story of the in laws living there.... I think that's bad advice and contradicts what they preach previous ( be careful of whose advice you listen to). Her parents are absolutely biased towards their daughter no matter what. I'm on the guys side... in laws are always such a pain n stressful no matter the situation, and then moving back AFTER infidelity and separation.. that's tough. My current in laws are super nice but I would not feel comfortable moving back in (currently separated). And this guy saying oh, if she sits down and tells her parents you need to show him respect wont work... why? Because u cant guarantee other peoples actions. She can ask them all day long, but if they have strong emotions towards the husband (which I suspect cuz of his hesitancy), they won keep their mouth closed for long and it could ruin any chance of reconciliation.
No
Has she shamed him for previous behaviors and communication broken. What all needs to be fixed. Is the gambling a means to get something outside the marriage he’s not getting
Why do you care what the audience suggests? This requires expert opinion and care, not a bunch of comments that could be unintentionally damaging.
Like yours
I am sad because I chose to separate from my husband before watching this and now I know that it was not the right answer. He still comes back and forth, but I believe he spends most of his time with his AP and their "baby" (I put it in quotes because I do NOT believe it is his baby). I have asked him to reconcile, but he refuses, tells me he wants more time and then in another breath he wants me to beg for him back since I told him we needed to 'separate' and then in another breath he will tell me that he does not know what he wants right now. Yet, we are still intimate and he hugs and kisses me goodbye and he also texts me a lot. I am so confused. Still wondering how I can get him to reconcile back to me so that we are not 'separated' anymore. I miss him a lot. I know he is in limerence and in the valley, but I cannot help but feel me choosing in that moment to 'separate' from him was such a bad decision and that it is too late :(
@@meganlucas6883 don’t take him back and don’t be intimate with him . He is choosing her and using you. Let go and live your life.
Do you know the difference between in laws and outlaws?
Outlaws are "wanted"! 😆
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Lol
Love them but definitely counseling
Depends on what it was spent on?
I could set those boundaries he wouldnt actually do that.He wont even answer why he took out 700 or 18 he syarts shouting hangs up pjone or walks into snother room closes tge door!
In laws are trouble. So true. And I have discovered my husband is a Narristic he prefer his mother over me. Advise please
Is his name Norman?😂
@@westcoastbred7745 and his last name Bates? 💀
You should not take him back. He has a bad character. It's an excuse for cake! Go and do better for yourself!
Hey Pamela Rangel, thank you for your comment. However, we disagree. We believe there is ALWAYS hope for a marriage no matter what. If you have had a bad experience in the past that has caused you to feel this way, we understand wholeheartedly. But there is always hope. If you change your mind and decide you would like to seek help for your marriage, we would love to talk to you and will always remain a safe place for you. You can call us directly at 1 866 903 0990 if you'd like to chat. Blessings,
Maybe there was an issue with leaving and cleaving from the get-go. I would have never wanted to live with my in-laws!
What about the other woman? Is she out of the picture?
I would be angry but we would work threw it. Trust would need to be reestablished.
Ask to see the credit card statements
The really clever ones never join bank accounts and spend their cash no evidence, receipts or proof with that. Because my husband will show me the card statements even when I never asked to see them.
He's gonna say No women!
Stop dragging out the story ...very annoying.
Depends....
I need help
If the parents were living there when he met this other woman, maybe she was just a convenient out... Who the Hell would wanna live with their in laws? I actually adored my in-laws, they came to stay from time to time, but small doses lol. Also, you'd wanna have a big house with two separate, closed off living areas. My parents are half deaf and so are my ex's... we'd never get any rest.
As for Mr Meth addict, cut your loses or let him have a controlled amount of meth... It's virtually impossible to kick that habit and if by some miracle, they can get clean, they lose all their libido... so sad
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*Explanation
This ended really strange.
Dr Beam's body language and tone of voice, and to a lesser extent the host's, indicates that it's a big deal for the wronged woman to work through a hidden gambling/spending problem that interfered with how nice of a place the couple could live in. Meanwhile, on the dozens of hours of videos of theirs I have watched, they breeze past problems like communication, sexual infidelity, sexual withholding, abandoning of children, physical abuse, emotional neglect, and substance abuse, to name a few, like they are speed bumps you can easily handle if you just slow your roll emotionally and get some counseling. It's even more strange knowing that the Christian denomination Dr. Beam comes out of has very high standards for condoning divorce. I'm not surprised that some women would not give the guy even a second chance, but his shock that any woman would implies a very low opinion of women, or what constitutes a good reason to give up on one's wedding vows.
Overall still liking the videos though. Otherwise I wouldn't complain when something jumps out at me like this.
Hi Jason,
I'm sorry that you felt like we have "breezed through" problems like communication, infidelity, and abuse as if they are easy to handle. That is not our intention and we do not advocate for people to stay in an abusive marriage. If a person is abusing his or her spouse or children, remaining in that marriage is unwise. Abuse may be physical, sexual, emotional, or a combination thereof.
We also know that marriage problems are not easy to 'roll past'- from our own experiences, as well as the thousands of couples we've worked with. It's hard, it hurts, and it takes a lot of work. Still, we've seen so many marriages saved, even in the worst of circumstances. That is why we encourage people that there is hope for their marriage!
Again, thank you for your feedback so we and can be mindful of our conversations in future videos.
Dr. Beam has helped me so many times, especially understanding limerence. He can only do so much during the show and that's why he encourages getting marriage counseling, either through Marriage Helper or other professionals. I'm so glad I discovered him.
For richer or poorer
And forsaking all others!!
I like it when the lady is talking but I don't pick anything from the man's explanation probably his ascent I don't really know
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And....If YOU wanted to fix the marriage, but he/she doesn’t? Automatic dump!
Love them if the expansion is acceptable by you
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