I had never heard this term until this week and I can say from my own lived experience that it feels true. It’s almost as if the trauma breaks you open to be able to experience all life’s moments in greater depth and color. You see so many things with new eyes and gain a greater capacity for sensing with your whole being- mind, body, and soul. Thanks for posting.
Theres this quote that always stuck out to me. It said, either you define your trauma or you let yourself become defined by it. Once someone can exit the victim state and regain control over their life, they can flourish in life and grow past the trauma.
Search for, and live with, a deep sense of meaning if at all possible. Surround yourself with mentors who can help you learn. And live for the fulfillment of a mission or a cause greater than yourself. This is exactly how I’ve done it. - Brian, Combat-Wounded Veteran (attacked and severely wounded by a suicide bomber in Kandahar, Afghanistan) Hope that helps.
Thank you so much for sharing. My psychoanalyst was perplexed that over the holidays where we stopped having sessions I managed to get this optimistic and managed to remove the veil to see my own resources and started loving my life and feeling gratitude. My 4 year old had a near death experience, and we also discovered he might have a congenital syndrome where his intestine is higher than it's supposed to be that might cause in time blockages and even worse, around the winter holidays he also got Covid, I was very very sick with consecutive colds bronchitis and eventually Covid, and it all finalized on New Years eve with a legal case from my step siblings for inheritance over my late father, making false accusations and calling me to court. It was like peeling my skin off, putting salt on it and boiling me. Blow after blow after blow, just over a couple of weeks. And then finally, it felt like something ruptured inside of me. Like something shifted. I realized the anxiety I felt previously was for the littlest of things and there are much worse things that can happen. I accepted that I've been through hell and I let my defenses down. I reached out to all the people I knew, and stopped isolating myself. I suddenly became very very grateful that my child escaped unscathed and his condition is treatable, I felt grateful that I recovered after being sick for so long and I realized I do have the mental resources and resilience to fight this court case. I resumed my hobby which I am now turning into a business and overall my relationship with my husband, child, mother and friends significantly improved. The hard times brought us closer. I can't explain why. For years I've been plagued by anxiety and depression. For years I only saw the glass half empty.
This video was so important to me. I am a U.S. Army Veteran that deployed to Iraq and got PTSD. I began my Growth journey in 2016 and now I am doing great. This video I showed to my parents to help them understand my journey. Thank you for this video! ❤❤❤
The most impactful thing I ever do in terms of helping my clients grow post trauma is talk about the truth behind the power of the human spirit. The fact that they have survived their trauma to the point where they are sitting here in my presence is a testament. I would say to my group that it only takes two butt cheeks to sit on a high horse but it takes immense power to crawl out of deep ditches. Clearly they have done that to be able to show up here. I ensure that I highlight how much power it takes just to show up - anywhere, and that if they have this power at their disposal, why not use it to create their best life. This was not therapy but more of a support group and the transformations were great. Thank you for the work you do in your organization🙏💝
That's not what resilience is. Resilience isn't "bouncing back to the same level they were before (in terms of happiness)". Resilience is the ability to deal with hardship, to take it, to accept it as a part of life and to find a way to keep going. It doesn't mean not being sad. It means not giving up despite the sadness.
Thanks very much for this! It's also an expression of how we can guide clients to recognize, foster and expand the resources they already have to "grow through" an event. Very much the essence of Trauma Informed synergy of EFT and NLP techniques.
I’m an OBGYN who is passionate about birth trauma neonatal and maternal mortality, chronic pelvic pain, medical student resilience building . I believe this will help me shape real treatment plans and take my patients to a more fulfilling kife
Wow, been really needing to hear something like this... it’s exactly what I’m going through again in life, only this time I have been much more aware of the many new aspects to my psychological outlook(s). ✌🏽 I really need to continue exploring into this subject matter...🙏🏽
MY life was seemingly perfect, exactly as planned..until it changed. I can't rationalize but it ties into my childhood. I am a reader, so I've hurried my head in books, got my life more organized- and, still hoping to making what I have count. I am still have growth in my- but, it's been a slow process for me as abuse was in the picture. I am grateful always.
This is why you need to be allowed a VERY personal perspective ON your own trauma. And why by not respecting that so many psychologists therapists and teachers actually ruin the potential of resilience. Trauma needs to be handled as delicately and discretely and gracefully as a butterfly cocoon process
I think this is a good explanation of how PTG works for some people, but to generalize from it would be a mistake. For many people, there is no "post" because the causes of their trauma are ongoing.
We would find it more valuable with these videos, is at the end you have practical exercises that can be used or implemented now, and then you have places to learn more about the topic.
Thank you for this great video. Very helpful. Question: How does this apply to clients with attachment trauma? To clients who have no memory of ever being happy? I have a client who experienced ongoing trauma in utero from the point of conception. She believed that the world was a worse place because she was born for most of her life. Her "normal" state of happiness is being in emotional distress. Returning to this state will not help her. Please advise. Thank you.
Hi, unfortunately I am just a customer service representative here at NICABM, so I cannot give you a proper response. I can, however, tell you that if you are interested in further information, you can check out our website and blog at nicabm.com! Hope this is a step in the right direction to finding you answers!
Most trauma are made of memories and most of them have a result in good memories why not emphasize in that all the time things that have meaning and things that have no meaning just like spring cleaning
I had never heard this term until this week and I can say from my own lived experience that it feels true. It’s almost as if the trauma breaks you open to be able to experience all life’s moments in greater depth and color. You see so many things with new eyes and gain a greater capacity for sensing with your whole being- mind, body, and soul. Thanks for posting.
Theres this quote that always stuck out to me. It said, either you define your trauma or you let yourself become defined by it. Once someone can exit the victim state and regain control over their life, they can flourish in life and grow past the trauma.
Search for, and live with, a deep sense of meaning if at all possible. Surround yourself with mentors who can help you learn. And live for the fulfillment of a mission or a cause greater than yourself. This is exactly how I’ve done it.
- Brian, Combat-Wounded Veteran (attacked and severely wounded by a suicide bomber in Kandahar, Afghanistan)
Hope that helps.
Thanks, Brian. This brings tears to my eyes. 🌈
Thank you so much for sharing. My psychoanalyst was perplexed that over the holidays where we stopped having sessions I managed to get this optimistic and managed to remove the veil to see my own resources and started loving my life and feeling gratitude.
My 4 year old had a near death experience, and we also discovered he might have a congenital syndrome where his intestine is higher than it's supposed to be that might cause in time blockages and even worse, around the winter holidays he also got Covid, I was very very sick with consecutive colds bronchitis and eventually Covid, and it all finalized on New Years eve with a legal case from my step siblings for inheritance over my late father, making false accusations and calling me to court. It was like peeling my skin off, putting salt on it and boiling me. Blow after blow after blow, just over a couple of weeks.
And then finally, it felt like something ruptured inside of me. Like something shifted. I realized the anxiety I felt previously was for the littlest of things and there are much worse things that can happen. I accepted that I've been through hell and I let my defenses down. I reached out to all the people I knew, and stopped isolating myself. I suddenly became very very grateful that my child escaped unscathed and his condition is treatable, I felt grateful that I recovered after being sick for so long and I realized I do have the mental resources and resilience to fight this court case. I resumed my hobby which I am now turning into a business and overall my relationship with my husband, child, mother and friends significantly improved. The hard times brought us closer.
I can't explain why. For years I've been plagued by anxiety and depression. For years I only saw the glass half empty.
Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
This video was so important to me. I am a U.S. Army Veteran that deployed to Iraq and got PTSD. I began my Growth journey in 2016 and now I am doing great. This video I showed to my parents to help them understand my journey. Thank you for this video! ❤❤❤
The most impactful thing I ever do in terms of helping my clients grow post trauma is talk about the truth behind the power of the human spirit. The fact that they have survived their trauma to the point where they are sitting here in my presence is a testament. I would say to my group that it only takes two butt cheeks to sit on a high horse but it takes immense power to crawl out of deep ditches. Clearly they have done that to be able to show up here. I ensure that I highlight how much power it takes just to show up - anywhere, and that if they have this power at their disposal, why not use it to create their best life. This was not therapy but more of a support group and the transformations were great.
Thank you for the work you do in your organization🙏💝
That's not what resilience is. Resilience isn't "bouncing back to the same level they were before (in terms of happiness)". Resilience is the ability to deal with hardship, to take it, to accept it as a part of life and to find a way to keep going. It doesn't mean not being sad. It means not giving up despite the sadness.
If you don’t recover from some sadness at least in part, can we really call it resilience?
Thank you for sharing. It was great to hear what we already (sort of) knew from experts. Not only validates it but actually seals it.
Your work helps to validate ours and "synergy" is an excellent way to describe that natural phenomenon that happens when things make sense. Thank You.
Thanks very much for this! It's also an expression of how we can guide clients to recognize, foster and expand the resources they already have to "grow through" an event. Very much the essence of Trauma Informed synergy of EFT and NLP techniques.
I’m an OBGYN who is passionate about birth trauma neonatal and maternal mortality, chronic pelvic pain, medical student resilience building . I believe this will help me shape real treatment plans and take my patients to a more fulfilling kife
Thank you for making this video
Wow, been really needing to hear something like this... it’s exactly what I’m going through again in life, only this time I have been much more aware of the many new aspects to my psychological outlook(s).
✌🏽 I really need to continue exploring into this subject matter...🙏🏽
❤️
MY life was seemingly perfect, exactly as planned..until it changed. I can't rationalize but it ties into my childhood. I am a reader, so I've hurried my head in books, got my life more organized- and, still hoping to making what I have count. I am still have growth in my- but, it's been a slow process for me as abuse was in the picture. I am grateful always.
PTS Growth is a new term to me. Hope to get there someday.
This is why you need to be allowed a VERY personal perspective ON your own trauma. And why by not respecting that so many psychologists therapists and teachers actually ruin the potential of resilience. Trauma needs to be handled as delicately and discretely and gracefully as a butterfly cocoon process
I think this is a good explanation of how PTG works for some people, but to generalize from it would be a mistake. For many people, there is no "post" because the causes of their trauma are ongoing.
We would find it more valuable with these videos, is at the end you have practical exercises that can be used or implemented now, and then you have places to learn more about the topic.
Thank you for the recommendation, we will try to work this into our following videos!
Thank you for this great video. Very helpful. Question: How does this apply to clients with attachment trauma? To clients who have no memory of ever being happy? I have a client who experienced ongoing trauma in utero from the point of conception. She believed that the world was a worse place because she was born for most of her life. Her "normal" state of happiness is being in emotional distress. Returning to this state will not help her. Please advise. Thank you.
Hi, unfortunately I am just a customer service representative here at NICABM, so I cannot give you a proper response. I can, however, tell you that if you are interested in further information, you can check out our website and blog at nicabm.com! Hope this is a step in the right direction to finding you answers!
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I have deteriorated rather than growing after a series of savage burglaries, and have difficulty understanding why this lack of resilience.
Most trauma are made of memories and most of them have a result in good memories why not emphasize in that all the time things that have meaning and things that have no meaning just like spring cleaning
I love what she said. She did lick her lips a lot though.