6 Habits That Make Your Ex Dislike You In Seconds
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
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Are you unknowingly pushing your ex further away? Discover the habits that can instantly create a negative impression and hinder your chances of rekindling your relationship. In this insightful video, Clay from Modern Love Life explores six common habits that people inadvertently engage in, causing their ex to develop unfavorable feelings. Learn to avoid these habits to foster better communication, connection, and understanding with your ex. Clay offers practical advice on shifting your mindset, addressing emotional needs, and breaking free from damaging patterns. Don't let these habits sabotage your efforts - watch now and pave the way for a healthier relationship.
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Knowing you’re going to be ok, is so critical. I think it also feeds into being outcome focused. If you know you’re going to be okay, I think you’re less likely to panic and scrutinize every little thing your ex does or doesn’t do and you can instead make a better effort at being present.
It I saw these videos before I panicked and lashed out (saying you “don’t love” and things like that) I could’ve saved myself a lot of heartache. Sadly we’re often better at calling the firefighters when there’s a fire instead of routine inspection to prevent one.
The best thing I did was go, and go through the pain so I could see I would eventually be ok. But we’re talking again and I’m taking it day by day. My preference is to be with her. But I recognize I can’t control her actions. I can only control mine and so i have to show up as the best version of myself with the best intentions, put in the work and see what happens.
Thanks for sharing. Yes, knowing that it's all going to be okay one way or another can help keep you grounded and centered through a lot.
There was a huge thing I did that made my first wife dislike me...... I married her.
If she really started disliking you after the two of you got married, and this isn't just a joke, then it sounds like she was more invested in the idea of getting married than in actually being with you. Her true colors came out after checking "getting married" off her list. I'm sorry you've had this experience.
How can you meet them where they are at if you really don't know where they are at?
Hey Clay! My ex and I broke up last week. She then contacted me saying she was sorry and needed to work on her healing from her past relationship. We met up and it was really well, our emotional connection is amazing. She told me she wanted to go on another date soon. When I texted her if she wanted to go, she said she was really busy and wanted to maybe go next week. What can I do?
How can I be sure that I’m not so attached to outcome tho? I know that being focused on the semantics of whether or not it’s a relationship are not as important as simply being able to connect, and I know that I would much rather have her in my life as just a friend or as just something casual rather than to not have her in my life at all… but how can I be completely unfocused on a relationship with her when I know that that’s what I hope happens in the end?
The same way you probably met her. You probably weren't trying to get into a relationship right off the bat. You probably thought, this is an attractive person. Do we have anything in common? Let me get to know her and find out.
You might think that you already know her, but the truth is that she's shifting and changing a lot... as you probably are as well, in a moment by moment basis. Approach her with curiousity and get to know who she is becoming.
@@ClayAndrews that’s fair. It’s just that I know that there are a lot of things that need to be addressed and cleared up from our relationship/breakup and I know that she’s apprehensive about opening up to me, and I’m trying to do that while also taking off the romantic pressure and being in the moment
Thank you very much for doing this video. I love my ex very much. But he broke up with me because he is on a mid-life crisis. Out of the blue, he said he wants to take a master degree so he can get a better job possition.
Multiple times he said that “we will never be together” or “i dont think i can be with you”.
1 month after that incident, He reached out and want to be friends. And as your other video said to “take it slowly”, so i talked with him and treat him “as a friend”. I never bomb-text him or anything and out of the blue, he texted me and said “i could use some space”.
As of today, we havent talk for 2 weeks. 😢
Hi Clay! Great job! Do you have any videos where you explain what you mean by "golden bridges"? Thank you!
My wife cheated then left me same day. Then 3 weeks later is in a rebound with a childhood friend. She keeps saying she will never get back to me no matter what every time we meet, even when I don't mention us. Yet she calls me for help, or talks for hours about her day. She started off stonewalling, now we talk a lot and I even hung out at her place for several hours. She still keeps saying never again and she wants to see where things go with this guy.
If you want to see what's possible with the two f you, drop the romantic pressure with a Same Team Conversation, then push the comfort zone and see what happens. Essentially what is described here: ua-cam.com/video/pOPiamJV_Mo/v-deo.html
@@ClayAndrews Thank you so much, that wee bit of guidance was enough to narrow down where I am with my wife (hard to remain objective sometimes when I'm in the middle of it all) and what I need to focus on now. I got your New Beginnings course as well as Connect and Commit a few days ago. I plan on going through more of them soon, yet your youtube videos are very convenient for me in this short ~10min format with a wide spectrum of subjects and anecdotes. They have been comforting during rough times because you appear to be talking like a friend or counselor to me directly.
You want unconditional love,,, get a dog your life will be a lot better than any relationship with a partner...
I went 90 days no contact, started talking to her again and agreed on being friends. Over the course of 4 months we got close again and intimate. She was hesitant because she was fighting her feelings, but ultimately agreed that she wanted to have me in her life. I went on a 5 week trip in Europe this summer and she reached out to me everyday. Then out of nowhere she felt like we shouldn’t be doing things with each other and that it felt wrong since we were exes. I gave her the space she asked for and we haven’t talked for 3 weeks besides one day at the gym I saw her and we kind of caught up. I’m not sure what to do about the situation now.
She told me hanging out was enjoyable for her and she really did love the time we would spend together. It was after each time we hung out she would get incredibly stressed out about what it meant and that it felt like we were dating again when she didn’t want to be dating anyone at the time. I was cool with what we had going. It was kind of unsaid and there was no pressure to commit. She told me she felt like I was being led on by her and she didn’t want to be doing that to me. She proceeded to say sometimes it’s best to let go of the people you love. I’m fine without her but I know how we are together and what we bring out of each other. I see her once a week in the gym and she always lights up and smiles at me when she sees me and looks like she wants to talk to me.
Sounds like she's feeling too much romantic pressure. Yeah, you may not be adding any directly, but that doesn't mean she doesn't feel romantic pressure from your history together, her attraction to you, her own thoughts, etc. I'd try having a Same Team Conversation first and following this strategy: ua-cam.com/video/pOPiamJV_Mo/v-deo.html
I saw my ex this weekend and we had a good time but I think she is still riding the dragon because she felt the need to say that a photo posted on social media of us sat next to each other there was nothing going on and that we was just talking about her kitchen and that wasn’t code for anything else. Odd when she even went out of her way to meet up when cash is tight and was considering drive to the even that was a beer festival.
Sounds like she likes you but doesn't want to get anyone's hopes up until she's certain how she feels.
@@ClayAndrews that’s just what she says that she doesn’t want to lead me on. And she has accepted an invitation to go abroad for a weekend for my 40th next year with a group of friends but she did make it clear there was to be no funny business.