The 20 Year Old Man-Child Epidemic
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can you do a video on men having the mindset that's it not a big deal if they get caught cheating. but if they get cheated on its of course the end of the world. cheating wrong period, dosent matter if your male or female. I've noticed that therapists and coaches have been doing a " it's takes two" kind of approach to this topic. basically coddling the cheater and sending the message to the one who was cheated on that it's also their fault, and they need to figure out what part they played in their partner being unfaithful. I think it's been contributing alot to people having an excuse for lacking integrity. cheating is selfish, entitled, and completly disrespectful to the partner. the damage it causes to all parties involved is being minimized, and blame is being shifted on the ones that are damaged the most. I'd like to hear your opponion on this topic, and any experiences you have or that you have witnessed, and if you have any advice on how to handle situations like this not just for the betrayed partner ( make or female) but for the one who does the betraying by bringing sone awareness to the damage it causes and how it erodes a person's integrity in more places than just a romantic relationship. love your content, your influence on younger generations is desperately needed in this messed up society we have created for ourselves. thank you.
This is a f*cking masterpiece. Thanks Cole
No faith, no identity, no purpose.
Compounded by inflated human value/population density stress/"behavioral sink."
Technological revolutions also played a role.
The agricultural revolution spawned extended families.
Industrial revolution, nuclear families.
Information/internet revolution, single-parent households.
Now we are going through a sort of remote work/gig economy revolution with VR and doordash, everything from schooling to therapy is being done remotely, wars are being fought by drones, etc. Children really have no place in this economic arrangement.
The good news is that the arrangement is an unsustainable ponzi scheme. The bad news is that we are pretty much all totally unprepared for the hard work of surviving its collapse and building a new (or perhaps not so new) order afterwards.
You’re a stupid f boy. Nothing significant? How about you try thinking about the over 500k sub UA-cam channel your about to upload a vid too. Your dimshit ass be a disease
Thank you for uploading this. I needed to know if anyone could relate. Did you have any relatives or friends who pushed you down or held you back? 😦
Being a dude in your 20s in 2024 is straight up veteran difficulty lmao
Oh absolutely man lol
Yes sir truth
Not gonna lie, really feels like it.
Mein Leben
I grew up really poor, and had being living on my own since 17. I'm playing on super mega nightmare mode
14:05 "When nobody wakes you up in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night and when you can do whatever you want. What do you call it? Freedom or loneliness?"
Damn
Yes sir.... like one man crew ship sailing the ocean. You can embark with family, friends, or no one at all
Depends on the relationship...people forget that a lot of relationships are simply going through the motions or worse abusive
Either interpretation can be true, and it really comes down to how you frame your mindset and how you choose to view the situation in front of you.
Hell
Taking control, learning how, is the trick. @@vrgvhteyghfb3400
It's really frustrating when you don't know which way you should go.. The more you think - the more you feel lost. So sometimes it feels like it's easier to do nothing -> and then you feel worse..
Always go back to childhood in this case. I always wanted to be a doctor, politician and musician. Now, I've got my first medical textbook, a violin (a massive childhood dream), and a few books reccommended to me about philosophy and politics (such as Meditations by Marcus Aurelius).
Nothing finds that spark of purpose like striving to fulfill your inner child's dreams.
Reason finds resolve. Excuses find exits.
I think we're living in pretty hard times (for young adults in particular.)
We're presented with the illusion, that anything is possible, we're comparing ourselves to others more due to "social" media. The possibilities seem limitless. The pace of life is too high for us to adapt. Rents are too high, "surviving" is expensive. It has become more difficult to decide on what we really want to do with our lifes. It hardly ever feels good enough. There's always a better choice.
You're not weak for feeling how you feel. I feel you, just as so many others.
@@audreydoyle5268 What if you can't remember those Dreams?
Do a business, then get psychotherapist, and with him find what you really want, and with the money you get from the business start doing what you want. Easy as f. All we have to do is do something instead of overthinking and overcomplicating
Do what makes u happy I know it's hard and you don't know right now I don't either but we all in this together I feel you. Sometimes it's better to let the answers come while you focus on day by day
The most agonizing part for me is seeing people younger than myself who seem to have their interests aligned and are doing well. They’ve decided a path, meanwhile I’m paralyzed by the many directions I could take.
Health and fitness helps anything that gets in the way of that really isn’t worth your time
Here’s something to calm the many directions dilemma, those people are probably not completely sure of what they want. Sure they “seem” to have everything together but you really never know the truth behind anything
Everyone’s too dramatic. Go make money with something practical you enjoy and have hobbies. Done. Military will put you to work if you can’t decide. Easier to be a cop or firefighter after. Nobody with clean running water and internet is “suffering.” Don’t be a sissy.
look up the Paradox of Choice
@@JayBhro I’ve seen that video, interesting perspective for sure. Recently getting out a very structured environment I.e. the military has created this sudden onslaught of possibilities. Making me feel all the more pressure due to the fact that I’m mid 20’s attempting to reboot my life. Thanks for the advice btw.
The reality is life never gets easier and the later you wait to start adulting the harder it is
Love it,that is a great way to put it. Short,sweet,and to the point
Your children will be slaves sheep 🐑 🤣 wake up
That’s great. I’m guessing that’s why u chose to be a watermelon slice 🍉
it gets easier when you get social security. im 43. once i hit 62. NO MORE!! you think WORKING is bad? FINDING A JOB AND SENDING OUT APPLICATIONS IS EVEN WORSE!!! I DONT WANT TO DO THAT SHIT !!! so either im gonna make big money with crypto or end up living through life until retirement and just kick it till i die. either way, i dgaf
SMH 🤦 stop being a beta simple as that
38 here. I had a good solid run from 24 to 36. Then I fizzled out burnt out and feel the same way I did in my early 20s. Just purposeless. No strong motivations. No strong desires just existing.
Welcome to Capitalism in the 21st century
What was different when you were 24? What jumpstarted that run and kept you going back then?
I wasn’t married for a start. My relationship was going well. Career going well. Got married at 28. We broke up at 35. She used me like a workhorse and atm card. I had a miserable marriage towards the end with two kids involved. She didn’t want to be a mum. She didn’t have a job and I was putting in 80 hours a week. we began to fight a lot about the kids and home. so she up and left me with two kids. That pretty much left me in the situation I am now in. Two kids. Work and provide for them and raise them.
Ever since then I’ve had to cut back on my hours in order to be more available for my kids. They’re my only purpose now. It’s rewarding but a real struggle. You have zero time for yourself. I love them don’t get me wrong. I’m very bitter towards their impulsive selfish mother who just left to live her own life without any responsibilities.
So I am lost and without purpose for myself other than raising my kids on my own. I didn’t want this situation. Did everything society told me to do. Study hard. Get good grades. Get a good job. Raise a family.
Now all I do is work and raise them. No time for anything else. It feels like a prison sentence at times. No breaks. No days off. No time to relax just go go go. But my kids are thriving in school and have extracurriculars. It’s not all bad. I love them dearly. Just wish I didn’t have to do it on my own.
I have many things I want to do, just not the motivation to do them... I feel stuck and have no idea how to fix it.
40yr here. It was a good decade plus and then 5yrs of struggle. Things are starting to look up again but it’s like a different chapter now
Ok so…I’m a 24 year old autistic woman, who hasn’t done much in life. I technically never graduated school, never got a diploma, or a degree, I never went to college, never got an actual job, never got a license, or a car, I still live with my parents, and I also never dated anyone…I’m celibate. So, I’ve had my days where I felt like a failure, felt anxious and doubtful of myself, and over thinking a lot. But…that’s ok, I just am mentally handicapped, I struggle to do most things because I am autistic. So, it’s ok that I struggle more, I’m still growing and learning, I’m still learning how to be an adult and discipline myself…become more independent. I know I’ll still need help from my family, they don’t mind helping me…because they love me regardless of my struggles. I do have some stuff going on tho…I’m a streamer here on UA-cam, I’m a digital artist, a video editor, and an aspiring music maker, game designer, and voice actor. I have a lot of aspirations and dreams, and I hope I can achieve most of them. I just wanna make great quality content for people to enjoy, I don’t wanna become famous or rich, but still successful in my own way. I wish to become…multi talented, and become bigger than myself in a way…make something truly amazing.
I'm in a similar situation as you. I did work a job and I drive. It never really got me anywhere. I'm unemployed now and extremely depressed. I never had any of my social needs met because of autism. You're not alone. I hope you are happy and find success!
It's great that you've given your life meaning outside of other peoples opinions
I'm in a very similar situation. I'm a 20-year-old man who's an aspiring artist, animator, and content creator. Well, I used to have strong aspirations, but I stopped making videos 2 years ago. I just haven't had the motivation for it.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome and ADD when I was 3 years old. I had a pretty decent social life in elementary school, probably because I was attending ESE classes at the time. Once I graduated from elementary, however, I lost contact with my friends, and people started to pick on me for being the _"weird kid"._ That's when I started getting into art, and I used it as an escape. My grades didn't suffer, but I became extremely depressed and separated from reality. I met one close friend in high school who was also autistic, and we bonded because of our similar interests and struggles. She's the one that inspired me to really improve on my art. Then when I was in 11th grade, the pandemic started, and we slowly drifted away from each other.
The past 4 years felt like a blur... I can legally drive, but I only recently accrued enough credits to graduate from high school. The system promised me a diploma in the mail, but I'm still waiting on it. My parents won't help me get a job until I receive the diploma, so for the moment I'm just kinda stuck. Once I get my diploma, my plan is to get a basic job and save up money to move out of my parent's house, but the world's looking really bleak right now, so I'm not sure how far I'll get. I'm in a very confusing situation right now. Someday I hope to be fully independent.
I'm glad you didn't let the world stomp out your dreams and you went as far with them as you did. You have a very strong will. Just wanna let you know that you're not alone in your struggles. :)
i believe everyone has a unique path, there’s no right path or wrong one just your very own!
Ya same.. I have great life until Jan 29 hit and I got schizophrenia. It all turn downhill.. I gain weight and unemployment.
Its over for us mid-20s dudes, it's time for jazz now 😭
It's always time for jazz, whether it's over or not
jazz :)
What's Jazz? :/
"You like jazz? "
"So long as you have desires, your desires will always find a way to outweight your contemptment" very powerful quote. Stoicism and Budhism tells us to "Get rid of our desires", and that's exactly what has worked out for me the most: detatchment. Detatchment from the expectation of achievement; Detatchment from fulfilling society's expectations; Detachment from acquiring useless, empty material possesions, and in that journey I have began to find what I set out to find in the first place: Fullfillment, Freedom and, above all, Peace.
Excellent realisation and me too bro. Also, he said contentment. Contempt changes the meaning of the whole thing.
Yeah, I said contentment. But detachment is powerful.
Truthfully, I’ve given up on the idea of giving up desires and detaching fully. I know desire is the cause of my suffering, but I choose to desire anyway. I like having things to work toward. Though the things you said one should detach from are really good
@@ColeHastingsHanging out with friends will get rid of your desires. As long ad you don’t drink
@@ColeHastings I like this. I think it's always about balance between desire and detachment. If we always desire, we will never be satisfied. If we are always detached, we will also never be satisfied, because we'd just be programmed to do things without imagination or wonder. Desire is like the fire that sparks us to wonder, take action and gives us direction, while detachment from the outcome will help us be more present and focus on the process. This will help us decide if our desires are fulfilling or not.
@@diamondminerx000 very well said!
Try being +30 and still like that...gets pretty frustrating
It's hard to make a living nowdays and the system is rigged 😶
you'd be surpised how many that age are living that way
Can confirm it’s a thing at 41.
Even with everything working against you, it’s not too late to become a new identity. Keep fighting, brother
I am soon to be 33. Time goes by. I lose time thinking instead of taking action. I also feel insecure. This hinders me to change.
Remember, your path is unique. Society makes us believe that “there is one right way to live life”. Everyone moves at their own pace, there is no rush to greatness. You don’t have to have x by a certain age, or obtain x amount of whatever, or match up to societal norms to be happy! As long as you are satisfied with your journey and making it the way you want to make it that’s all that matters. Society tries to keep people in boxes but our souls long to be authentic and break free.
Soyciety
I’m turning 40 this year and feel more or less the same way. This was an excellent video. Thank you Cole :)
I'm 59 in a few days but have always felt 25 mentally
Simp smh 🤦
@@keithparker1346that’s good, stay young as long as possible, have fun
Its not your fault. I spent years and years blaming myself for being poor, even though i worked my ass off all through my 20s. I did everything i could possibly do and constantly got doors slammed in my face for years. Till one day i realized the system is designed to keep people down or keep people up. You have less choice than you think, it all depends on what class you were born into. After all this time i finally found a descent job, but it was by luck, not skill or work ethic.
It also largely depends on connections and luck. My life was much the same as yours, busting my ass only to get fucked by the companies because some lazy fuckhole co-worker had better connections and was liked by my boss. I now have a pretty nice job I like, but I won't bust my back for anyone anymore.
It's all about who daddy knows or owns
I too felt this way until I found the power of budgeting and discipline. If you can learn to practice delayed satisfaction and minimalisms then you can build a foundation that will build a much more free life
I wonder why more people don't have the mindset of "Anything that keeps me down, I will bring it down."
@derekgriffin8151What a great way to look at things man! ❤
Bro, you have no idea how fucking relatable this is. I mean, you probably do - which is why you are making the videos - but its so reassuring to know there are others going through virtually the exact same thing I am.
I wish I had this knowledge during My 20's
@@ogvelociraptor205 Don't stress it bro, im 31 lol
I'm 25 years, I really can say I'm stronger now than when I was 21, 22, or 23 years old, But it took me a long path to get through, I think that having direction in our lives is important, and you mentioned that too. Finding something to be worth to fight and to reach it is what I've just made it, I really wanna be the best version of myself, Life is what is, this may sound weird, but at my 25's I don't feel old, I feel that I didn't my best in the past, but Never is too late to start again.
its all fun and games till you hit 40. but that is 15 years away for you. in 15 years AI will be in every facet of society. you might be unemployed forever. who knows. will see.
I’ve finally gotten to this stage in life at 25, it took years of confusion and anxiety, but I’m now here.The future is going to be much different than what the previous generations of young people lived through. In the coming days, knowledge and intelligence are going to be some of the most valuable attributes to have. In other words, Being smart will get you places. I would say to Master self discipline and avoid indulging in pleasures. Don’t be afraid of anything in life, and if you are, learn to confront that fear. Love one another. And listen to that inner voice deep down that always knows what’s best. You do these things I think you’ll be happy.
I was half asleep on the couch when this video autoplayed and it hit me like a rock, I shed a tear even. I am almost 18 and for the past year I've been trying to find myself and work on what I enjoy the most, my biggest fear is not reaching my goals and this video really made me feel comforted.
Ur so young man I promise u got so much time
Finding a job at 18 is a great start, I didn't find a job till I was around 20 cause I was depressed and didn't want to do anything. Its led to me not knowing a lot of adult things when I should, but I'm learning, it gets easier even from a late start. You're doing it at the proper time so don't stress about it.
@@NoahWoodard-dn3kv starting at 20 isn’t late lol
@@Tony99_xx_ I literally didn't do anything for like 3 years or even attempt to, so yes I was still young, but was late on actually doing anything
You always manage to make it so incredibly relatable. Sometimes the conclusion or message it similar to what other people are bringing but with the way you tell the stories I can actually connect to it way better
The Minecraft gameplay amongst serious discussion is quite comforting.
Top 3 best games of all time
@@ColeHastings Minesweeper and GTA3.
Towards the end when Cole mentions that the end goal you're looking for will not be there it made me rethink of a concept I had about goals in life. They are like mountain ranges where you have to climb that mountain you desire (goal) and in the summit you'll be able to see the next mountains up ahead, taller and more beautiful (next goals), the purpose is to keep going as the process is what matters most.
dude you are a mastermind and i’m so glad you are here making content like this.
The big mistake of most is over consuming information, content, opinions… life is all about getting work that pays for and provides time for hobbies, having healthy habits, having a beer with friends and laughing, and coming home at night to put a smile on your partners face…. Find the way to do those things and you won’t feel existential dread like many do.
Think about what value you provide to those around you and no matter what you do, you will feel so much more fulfilled.
why are you so relatable cole?
I’ve been thinking the same thing recently, particularly exchanging “worse problems for less worse ones.” That’s a realization I came to a few days ago and it made me realize that I am living probably the best I can right now, and it’s an interesting way to dive into the future.
Man this vid made me cry for some reason! So that means this is one of your best vids so far imo🔥
I'm 28, never really been employed, basically spend a lot of time at home reading, playing music, or writing. I like to go out for walks, and as much as I probably shouldn't, I occasionally do psychedelic drugs because I find that they open my mind up greatly and give me a personal sense of happiness and well-being.
What I've learned, since I've been privileged enough to have my 20's to figure out what I like and who I want to be, is that the rewards of life typically come at the cost of losing yourself. There are some things, like exercise, getting good sleep, having free time and friends to spend meaningful time with, that reward you without taking away your individuality and soul, but society is structured around a "What can you do for me?" mentality. If you're employed, you're doing something for your employer, and you're rewarded with money. If you make content online, you're doing something for the entertainment of the public and you're rewarded with likes and positive reinforcement. If you volunteer your time, you're doing something for someone else, and you're rewarded with some kind of acknowledgement that you're "using your time wisely".
The converse of this is depressingly true; if you do nothing, even if you're personally completely happy not doing anything, society hates you. They hate that you're not "pulling your weight", they hate that you're not "being productive". Most of all, they hate that you're happy doing nothing when happiness is supposed to come after struggle and hard work, not from lounging about in peace and contentment. They hate seeing the possibility that they're wasting their own lives in pursuit of this abstraction of "happiness" and "success" by doing things which they completely and unabashedly loathe, but even more than how much they may hate the reality of their situation, they hate anyone who doesn't participate in the struggle. They come up with all manner of social shaming to make "unproductive" members of society feel like they're "worthless", like they're "losers", or "failures", or "bums". I don't think the vast majority of people know exactly why they feel that way, other than that it's been ingrained in them that if you want to succeed in life, you have to do hard work, but there are countless examples in the modern day of "trust-fund babies" who are literally rich and "successful" from birth. There's some fraction of every generation out there right now who could live their entire lives in luxury and comfort, never lifting a finger to help their fellow man, but living like they've solved world hunger, and it's only because they have money that they're accorded some semblance of respect. Wealth seems to confer the idea that you've worked hard and "earned" what you own, but that's evidently not even remotely true anymore. If you're poor and living the high life, you're considered classless and trashy, but if you were born rich and are living well, people tend to look positively upon that solely because of their wealth, even though they're fundamentally identical in terms of what they've done for society.
I think it's good to try to find meaning in life, and even though I may be a "bum", I am still in search of meaning. I have things I'm good at and would like to do, like writing novels and making music, but I have no profit-motive. I have no desire for my work to be either praised nor condemned. I just want to be able to do what I love and do my best to do it well. But I cannot find meaning in the sacrifice of my identity and soul for others, and even if there's good money involved, even if the business is lucrative and I could be good at it, nothing would make me feel more like a failure than compelling myself to do something because "other people" want me to do it. I want to own my own life, I want to be able to define my own self-worth, and I don't need anyone to evaluate what I'm worth to them. I want to be able to define my own sense of purpose and meaning, and whether that makes me a "success" or "failure" in the eyes of others, I genuinely could not care less. I know some people are desperate to fit in, they're desperate to avoid ostracization or humiliation. They want others to judge them to be "good enough", as if they're wholly incapable of defining their own self-worth on their own terms, and for all my friends and peers who I see absolutely slaving their lives away, I see very little happiness. I see people with good jobs, nice homes, financial stability, completely and utterly devoid of meaning and purpose in their very souls because everything hinges upon how they're perceived by others, and I have made my decision, whether it brings me rags or riches, to maintain who I am, control what I want to do, and live in accordance with my own independent pursuit of happiness, because all around me I see people doing what is "prescribed" by society for them to "succeed' suffering day-in and day-out from anxiety, depression, and lack of self-worth. Worst of all, I see people coming to the end of their lives, having sacrificed their big dreams for a modest list of "accomplishments", owning a home, raising a family, running a business, etc., and while those things may have contributed to their happiness, I don't often see that they had much choice. They were forced to live in accordance with their situation, forced to work, forced to provide, forced to abandon what they really wanted to do for the long list of responsibilities that were foisted upon them by unfortunate circumstance, and now they have to live out what life they have left hoping (and this seems to be a near-universal hope) that at least their children or grandchildren do better than they did. I am choosing to be the child who does better than my parents did, and I hope more people out there learn how to choose to be this person too.
gotta love psychedelics, perspective is a hell of a thing ;}
Same bro
Thank you cole its crazy to realize the upgrade you achieved through all of the pain and lessons, your a great guy cole this I will be the startup to this new chapter in my life.
Thank you Cole, I appreciate you're candidness❤
The most important thing in life is the community around us and loved ones; if those relationships are healthy and fulfilling then almost nothing else matters.
I, m 22 but still heavily dependent on my parents bcoz my real life sense is too low as I waste my day on virtual media😢😢
Hey there! That is okay, you know what will help? Slowly detach. Step by step. Start a new job, earn your own money. Work out a little bit, start once a week. And if you can, start reading once a week. And slowly level that up. Thats the obly thing that really helps, no nees to turn around 180 degrees all at once! Youll get there eventually man :)
@@G73Serveryeah get a job and work all your life away just trying to afford basic needs like food and water.
@@LIVEMETRIX187 bruh im an anti capitalist who are you telling this, but just being at home earning no money is worse than jobbing a bit
@@G73Serveralso I would say that one should restrict oneself to a traditional job if it’s not one’s thing, today is much more flexible than in living memory
@@MysteriousFuture wdym traditional job and why?
at the end of every video of yours that i finish watching i always end up just sayibg wow. your videos enlighten so many thoughts, so many ideas, so many feelings, that it just blows my mind every time. great video.
Makes me so happy to hear that. That’s always the goal. Thank you for watching
You're alive and healthy in a world filled with beauty. Just got to get out there and enjoy the scenery.
At 20 everyone is a child.
this video format is sooo amazing
really appreciate that cause i really enjoyed making it
As a millennial in my early 40s, you give me some degree of hope for the next generation in a sea of despair. Keep spreading your message and thoughts, you are making the world and our country better.
Amazing video watched till the end.Learnt a lot. Thank You
WE LOVE YOU COLE. HUGS FROM BRAZIL ❤
This is exactly what i needed right now
Thankk youuuu ❤
Coal you have improved a lot. This is amazing
Thank you
What a great video man I have been through the process just recently and my whole life and thinking process is completely different!
Hello, Cole! I am 19, on the verge of reaching 20s. I am currently in college. INSTANT GRATIFICATION is our primary killer of our TRUE POTENTIAL. I don't give a serpent talk of what my pack thinks of me (A--hole, Omega, Rogue Wolf... [You can think of it even more.] ) I woke up to reality of how this age range fails to grasp their potential. As I am majoring in Computer Science, I am also applying internship positions to begin my financial independence but also grind work.
Wish you luck.... Awoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
If your in college your cooked buddy
How so? If you dare chastise me, I will find you! @@andypope9222
@@andypope9222keep you negativity to yourself buddy
@@Chicken_Eyes university’s are scams
Amongst all the videos that are made on these subjects, you always manage to stand out.
Thank you for your work!
Cole, thank you for always keeping us open our eyes dude! cheers to more awesome improvement tips!
this is beautiful cole
It's videos like these that make me believe that you are the best self help channel on here. Everything is relatable and down to earth unlike alot of these other "self help gurus". There's alot of hypocrites and contradictory people out here but you, my friend, are not one of them.
Thank you so much for this video. Truly.
Gods bless you
i love the everyday philosophical relavent wordly knowledge
3:33 "consuming content to get my brain to be quiet" I'm sure there's better things I could be doing at 2:51 AM than binge watching UA-cam but hey it's not like I have to go to work in the morning
Thanks, just turned 20 today. I will achieve what you’re talking about. I call it “adventure” the fine balance between pleasure and work where you are never working or pleasuring your self which ultimately lead to more dreadful work. This cycle is too common amongst people and the reason why “life sucks” in my opinion. Achieving adventure, is what you basically did. By increasing your ability to make ur own decisions, and reducing the amount of choices you’re able to make, your in an adventure state. Limited in pleasure and maximum freedom with what’s left, resulting in success.
how you don't have 10= million subs is outrageous, great video!
He just have lost at least one, the overthinking and overcomplication in his attitude is just depressing for me personally.
bro was FLEXIN that hickey
Not a hickey
Great video
Been awhile since I watched a video glad to be back
Life is basically a game except it’s rigged in the favor of certain people so hard and you just need to be ok with that
Real
I agree that it's like a rigged game and easier for certain people, but we don't have to blindly accept it. We can fight against it and try to rewrite the rules.
@@aurora_skye Also real. I actually have alot of hope in future generations when they get into positions of power
@@ColeHastingsAgreed.
Yes, after 7 years hard work and self improvement, fittness, diet, hard work, investment, earn a lot money, got fit, lost the dicipline and motivation. I back again now. I more and more bieleve in free will
I was in the army active duty 4 years. (20 years old to 24). When I left I thought to myself “I can’t wait to get out”, I was so annoyed with getting told what to do. Little did I know it had me stuck when I got out, everyday I have a task, even if it sucked I was told to do it. I am now 25, I stream on twitch trying to find my purpose, so yes this video helps so much. I’m slowly starting to work on myself and life is catching up to me so I have to move up. So again I say THANK YOU ❤️.
Find a woman you can tolerate and establish dominance early. I'm a single 40 year old man child and my father is a pushover for my mom. Learn. Adapt. Overcome.
The fact he predicted my age tho is too funny
I looked at my audience demographics 🫣
@ColeHastings funny, esp considering youtube is horrible when it comes to recommending me content im interested in
Same lol
I enjoyed this video very much and i think your story clicked with me 🤝
Glad it resonated!
Man, you could one day write a book just about this topic, I would certainly buy it.
I fidnt realize that this was your channel i accidentally unsubscribed because i was going theough a subscription cleanup I'm very happy i found it again. I used to see a lot of your videos but i stipped getting notifications.
I’m 36 still live at home
Parents disabled while people enjoyed being 18-30 I worked 2 jobs to support them and I hate them for it
I was still a kid but life is hard for them.
But when does my life start 50-?
Lmao I’m hapless and just ready to die and get life over with
Thanks for realize some points in my life!
Thank you for that
as someone who decided to be an engineer at 16, eventually went to college at 18 and got my degree at 22. now im 40, i have been engineer for 18 years and financially independent now, and still making alot of money. all my life people around me looked down on me as someone who is chasing money, who is always working, always doing something. but now looking back, i see all those people who did nothing with their own lifes and they work dead end jobs. and yet they judge me as someone who is "all about money". their favorite question to ask me is "what you gonna do with all that money you have, when you die, you are not gonna need it anymore", meaning im just wasting my life being successful as i will never spend all the money i earned in my life.
The man-child epidemic is great honeslty. Thanks, zoomers. As a trades worker in my 30s, literally, 0 young workers want to, or are even capable of working in my field, it has been making my worth go up exponentially, and my pay as well.
Just simply working and showing up puts you leagues ahead of so many young people. I should be training new workers constantly by now but nothing. Literally nothing. If you all want money and purpose join a trade and buckle down. You'll be rewarded
And of course this entire video is a skillshare ad lmao. Tell these kids they don't have skills, then lead them to a website filled with more worthless / oversaturated skills. This video exists solely to capitalize on you and make you feel inadequate with you skill set so you sign up and give this guy a kick back
Which trade do you recommend, and is this video unhealthy
epic storytelling
Another Cole banger. Also I see that handarbeit on your keyboard 👀
Real recognize real
I'm currently 16 and I have a soft plan for my future. If I relatively follow it (as it adapts) I reckon I should be alright, and have a good foundation to provide for my potential future kids- It's not completely thought out or intricate but at the end of the day I don't think i'd want it to be; life never really goes 100% according to plan anyways lol. Also, this was a pretty good video bro, the main points were an interesting perspective I don't think I've fully thought about yet so I appreciate it lol
14:50 Always having this in mind is so relieving
Another great video Cole🙏🏻
No wonder young people prefer virtual worlds to the real one. You go to the dating market with 50 other guys, and she prefers to choose a child rabist or a criminal who has the most attractive face with a teardrop tattoo under his eye. You go to the job market and no one wants your degree because of college degree inflation, AI development, the shitty global economic and political situation, and other things you have no control over.
The number of lonely and desperate people among Gen-Z, and the number of male suicides among young men will be unimaginable by 2030 if nothing changes in this society. And it seems like it's only getting worse every year.
*P. S.* I'm neither complaining nor projecting my own life experience here, i'm just describing of what the young folks going through right now in US.
Luckily, i was born a little bit earlier before the world has lost its marbles. But i have a nephew and a younger brother, and i know what they're going through right now.
I now regret taking a hiatus from completing my tertiary studies, I could've dodged most of the mess right now that got kick started by a certain virus, but at that time I was so tired and burnt out from high school and college that I couldn't keep pushing on. Things just don't work out for weak people like me, no loving partner, struggling at my studies and can't even get an internship let alone an actual job.
you have 2 choices 1 . level up irl 2. level up in game you choose. remember everyone has oppions but also everyone plays a role in society eating up taxpayer dollars and doing nothing is only gonna result in a net negative for that activity, just food for thought
Love it!
Thank you
People used to be more religious and stay married, as well as valuing community over the individual because it gave life meaning. You didn’t have to think about this shit as much, there was more peace
i admire the beauty of it all, the spectrum of grayness.
I read the spectrum of gayness 😭😭✨
That’s what I realize. Shit was mad weird when It hit me. Being in situation where it made me realize Im blessed to say I went through a change to notice and fix what I needed to do.
I loved this video. I inherited financial stability from my parents with a paid off house and car at 21. At 16-20 i resembled this character with no real work or idea of what I wanted to do with my life.. add drinking and other substances and I was spiraling to nothing but managed to quit the drink and now I work with my dads company full time and deliver pizza on weekends for bonus money. All any of us can really do is work as hard as possible and be frugal. Isolate, form a contrarian idea, execute on it massively and success will follow.
You have a great sense of humor. 5/5stars cheers
“One must imagine Sisyphus happy”
After going through probably the worst two years of my life AKA highschool. I have recovered and actually gained a lot of confidence. I used to be extremely shy and quiet, now I bet I could make friends easily, it’s just that after going through that much stress alone my ego is too high and I used to low key be a hater so it still feels uncomfortable to interact with people
This video just pissed me off even more 😂 but I still appreciate you Cole.
I feel so lonely dude, I know you're not supposed to base your life experience off of someone else, but I can't help to notice that all the girls I dated are in happy relationships and have kids and getting married. I had so many chances and yet it just feels like my life is passing me by and no matter how hard I try to change myself and find someone to love, it never bears fruit and I just don't wanna do anything anymore. I can't do it anymore
It's not you man, it's the gals. They're overwhelmingly materialistic, they choose jerks over loyal men, and get laid every Sunday. It's not about "how do I attract the good girls?", it's "how can I avoid the bad ones?" I don't even bother trying to spark a conversation with the opposite sex, cause I'm 90% sure I'll get ghosted for some Tik-tok hotshot who will leave her for the next-best body. And even if I run into a girl that isn't promiscuous, she'll be typing away on her phone while we're at a restaurant. I'm not even 30, but I feel like a boomer at this point.
Trust me around half those relationships are NOT happy and more likely running on empty with no one leaving because they are scared to find someone else
Yah bro they are not happy they just show the happy side on the net 💀
Don’t feel bad dude.. I gave up when i realized my reality was catheterizing myself everyday emptying out bags of urine night & day living on social security disability so it’s like how can i get myself out of the situation that I’m in realistically? I barely get sleep because of my medical condition & when i do get sleep, they’re mostly nightmares dealing with cptsd as well.
There’s billions of us living on this planet… never feel alone in this.
@@keithparker1346You can’t certainly know. You can only assume.
Incredible video! Life is freakin crazy 🤣
Life was better before the internet…meaning was easily known and accepted, whether it was really true meaning or not. There were less decisions and less things to think about.
That is bluepiller logic.
I don't know what i desire.I am just existing.How can i improve?
Find something worth desiring
oooooh,that's the most interesting part about the problem
Who's asking?
Why do you want to improve in the first place. It is good to be free from desire as desire is the cause of suffering though you say I do not have desire though you do in the natural survival sense which is all u need
U only need to desire in the moment. You hungry u eat, u tired u sleep. Life is simple, people's egos make it complicated.
I WISH I was 25 again..
@imgonakickurass72 26
first time I've ever seen someone say that lol
_Everyone has talent at twenty-five. The difficulty is to have it at fifty._ ― Edgar Degas.
I don't. I was kind of an idiot 10 years ago lol.
i wish i was 18 again
good call. might try this myself....
Spent all my teens Isolated in my room playing video games,Now im 20 and slowly fixing up my bad habits. I dont know what life might have for me in the future but ill try to enjoy everyday and give my best possible. like Dale Carnegie says "living in day-tight compartments".
I've felt this many times. Except I'm a lot younger and am prone to experiencing crises.
I think people are piggybacking on others genius, but in reality they forget to be authentic and hence can't make genius thoughts on a regular basis hence if u see Einstein he was very alone and focused all on physics, if u live what u wanna be the rules come to you naturaly . People lack the wisdom to be genius all the time hence being a God like buddha is the fittest way to live, we all believe that nature is genius hence it will live and take out the fact that a astriod can wipe it out no matter thc genius of nature hence buddha transended all of that by detaching and acceptting all that is this moment because if u are alive you have a chance to be a God alive = god if people understand this we all can start producing our own authentic life it is not hinging on genius systems like social media, people have understood this but they don't practice it because they think they don't have time but without this what are they doing they don't realise this, if everyone realise this everyone will behave more concerned about their own genius life, it takes time to be genius hence start with the only state of achieving it by being a God
I'm a 30 yo man-child by choice atm. I worked hard 18-28 but saw little to no reward for it. Now I've decided I'm not going to contribute any more to a system that hates me and I'm going to wait for the collapse. Good luck out there.
soooo many people compared my life to theirs when i got arrested at 19, and then ACTED like they didn’t know me. now i’m never going to like other people since they all decided Andrew isn’t a real person.
Thank you.
The problem with modern society is how powerful we let fatherless men be. By not having a proper guidance and love of a father, those men don't have proper values and start following some red pill influencers who are also fatherless and spread hate, like in every sentence you can hear their insecurities.
Being a proper man is way different than making lots of money and having a great carreer.
I highly recommend a channel called "Better Call George", his understanding of human psichology is on another level.
Fatherlessness is a growing, massive problem
@@ColeHastings Many men nowadays are hysterical, loud, vulnerable and vengeful. A man must learn how to be tough and dangerous and use that power to protect good people. A man that can do that will always be a good company and can be genuinely happy.
lol when you realize this is essentially an ad..
erh well yeah judging from the description
THAT BERSERK TAT ON YOUR LEFT FOREARM IS SOOOOO FIRE W
Can we please stop acting like life is a race? Can we also please stop talking like playing video games is the source of all evil? Who even cares what others think about you?
depends on what you value, and just cuz our values are different don’t make either of them any less important, if your happy doing the things you enjoy and being with family than theirs no issue in that, if you wanna be and athlete you have to put in work to be better than the rest, everything in life is a competition it’s human nature but you get to choose the difficulty when it comes to your challenges, video games have taught me a lot of valuable things in life so i agree with you that their not evil, it’s all about intention, if you use video games to escape reality than it’s no different than the mom that walks her dog every morning for peace and clarity, my point is do what you wanna do dispite what others are or aren’t doing, you can and will be great and it is okay if your greatness is just being able to brush your teeth everyday if it’s something you want your future to hold take action now any step small or large is one step to shaping your environment into one you can enjoy
As someone who just got out of the army, i feel this so hard. Everything in this video i relate to so much. I have no idea what to do, i want to do something that i enjoy, or thag helps people, but in this economy i also need to make good money. Its all so frustrating, but i dont know man.
This is very beautiful
You can't be a "man child" when you're still an actual child.
I don't care what the law says. If your brain isn't fully developed, you're still a kid, and you'll have the emotional maturity and decision-making of a kid
In other words, there's no such thing as a "20 year old man child"
A 20 years old is not a child.
It’s not a child but a 20 year old isn’t an adult, 18-24 year olds are adolescents
I believe that social media has to blame for our generation cause it's like a addiction for us cause back in the days, we talk to our friends and family on the phone, hanging out at the park and play sports, video games etc social media is worse than anything