Ordering Food with Social Anxiety
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I have struggles with ordering food, but I've come up with a way to help make ordering easier for me! :D
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I’ve worked in food service for some time and the “phone order people” are usually the most convenient ones
Jesse man you are legit everywhere. 😆
fr tho
But i agree, that if you cant say it, write it. there were times i didnt wanna talk or didnt feel like shouting so i wrote it on my phone.
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jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.jesse we have to cook.
"ALWAYS SAY THANK YOU!"
*everyone liked that*
Got it, add a line of "THANK YOU" at the end of the note
I thought I was the only person that felt this way wow! Especially the talking part, one time I was asked what size I wanted for a snow cone, and there was the really big size called “the king size” I said “Can I get a king size” and I kid you not, I had to repeat it 4 TIMES!! And I said “king” louder and louder but I was still not loud enough ☠️ the lady poked her head out with her hand over her ear just so she could hear me, Ngl I died from embarrassment that day…
istg I wouldve died too 😭😭😭😭😭😭🙏🙏
It feels worse when you’re in a drive thru and the speaker is static and glitchy
it’s bad when you have low self esteem too, because like the whole idea of feeling like you have a little bit of power over someone because they have to give u what u want makes me uncomfortable. like, “I know it’s your job, but why are You the one serving Me? you don’t have to do that! I don’t deserve you spending time and energy on me! I am but an a peasant in your midst!” Like snejidjdjd I AM LITERALLY THE ONE PAYING THEM.
Improvise, adapt, overcome.
Exactly
Im loving the amazing digital circus references, great video and great advice!
Just read the title, and i confident that I would relate this lol.
This is why i love shortcxke
Video
I have no idea why but I love ur little oc/persona :3
Because it's a really good design
Sameeeeee
the experience at the start of the video is basically every time i go to subway, it's so hard when you have a softer voice and anxiety
i also have social anxiety and i have to say it’s crazy how you just stop being anxious when you communicate in a way that doesn’t use words
At the start of the video i wondered why you dont carry something to write on, and then you did.
its great, using text is useful and I have not seen anyone angry about someone doing that
It's awesome that you found a way that works for you! I've worked many years of food service, and yeah people that write down their order very specifically are way easier! You can just scan through it and be sure you didn't miss anything as the worker, and it's easier than having to ask people to repeat themselves if they talk too fast, too quiet etc. My wife does this sometimes or has me order for her when she doesn't feel well.
Let’s goooo much awaited return. Holy crap this is so relatable. I still don’t know how to order at chipotle.
I don’t think it’s rude it’s rather smart,I’ll have to try this myself since I’m also rather quiet and have social anxiety Thanks Shortcxke! 😄❤️
Guys wake up, peak dropped
(I love that TADC reference btw)
Not fast food related, but I have a friend who doesn't talk much, and even if he does his voice is pretty quiet. So sometimes he has to repeat himself a few times just for me to say "huh" for the 3rd time 😅
The stalling was great 😭 thank you for putting my fanart in!
if you were wondering it’s 6:58 the santa one
Ohhhh I love food too! My anxiety with food is eating around other people. Idk why. It's always been that way. Amazing video as always! ❤
tysm for the unvale description, as an 18 year old still in art school who is constantly worrying about the future im very relieved to find an art sharing platform that has no ai content allowed! :)❤ ps: that part where u put in what u wanted to say in ur notes is the most relatable thing, ive done that before lol
As someone with a soft voice yeah I to feel the same
I hate having to repeat myself like 4 times just for them to understand, it annoying (or maybe they don't understand my English American accent to a bunch of Caribbean locals )
but in the end I just grab my food and leave.
Understood. I sometimes get nervous in times like this, and I know how that feels.
I'm autistic and I relate SO MUCH. I talk too quiet, I get super anxious around people (especially in noisy environments like a school cafeteria), I have to manage my energy all the time, etc. I empathize with you a lot!
It's for reasons like this. I like the order stations at McDonald's and other places. No talking and I pay at the thermals.
When the world needed them the most
this video reminded me of how in middle school i used to ask my friends to smuggle an extra chocolate milk for me at lunch because i was afraid that i wouldn't be allowed to just take a milk carton and nothing else
My social anxiety is combined with my low self esteem,and my overthinking.Just talking to people makes me panic and if I make one mistake while talking,I’m convinced they hate me and I should leave because they’re better off without me.
AAAA I LOVE THISSS!!!✨ You're so funny!!! Yk, for me I don't know, there's some days where I can make everyone laugh and I'm talking just fine, and then there's some days I can't look a person in the eye and can't even say a word. This sounds great for the days I can't speak well!!! I carry paper and pencils/pens with me a lot too so this could be super helpful!!!
✨ Tysm!!! Luv ur vids!!!💗✨
im 50/50 when ordering, sometime i just go quite and space out mid order
i used to have social anxiety but its far better after I learned that people will immediatly forget about me the second i leave their eye sight, unless i do something super out of the ordinary (which I do a lot actually, i cannot be contained) and when that happens i just tell myself "they are dumb and i dont listen to the opinions of dumb people" all this falls out the window when im trying to make a good impression on people who are looking to hire me for a job when that happens i just hope for the best.
Lol the tomodachi life music 💕
Man, I’ve known you for like, 4 years now I think? Sometimes it’s crazy seeing just how much you’ve grown and continue to grow, I’m very proud of you :D
Whether it's considered rude or not by the employee taking the order shouldn't matter, there's a small but very real chance the one placing the order could be mute, so you're not justified... it should be normalized too, to avoid being unintentionally being rude to the customer ☺️👍
I got social anxiety too shortcxke so just know you are never alone😊❤
I struggle with this too,I have a quiet and soft voice too so I usually have to yell when I'm ordering things, I get sore throats easily so thank you for the tip🩷✨️✨️
(Thank you for adding my fanart to your vid,I'll try to make more soon :3 )
Can relate to this too
To Shortcake, I feel that a way to fix or reduce social anxiety is by having the confidence to communicate with others. Speaking to others can be a good step!
Most fast food places now have either an app or a screen stand thingy where you can order food without talking to anyone. Its so nice :)
Same. I was at a Safeway deli when visiting my dad in Alaska for the summer. I ordered some chicken tenders and I had the money ready to buy. Then the lady handed me the bag. And didn’t ask for anything back. I was so confused and nervous that I just left the Safeway with the chicken and never came back.
Ive done this method and i dont think its rude. i also work in customer service and people do this to me all the time and honestly i prefer it. while talking is nice, i like the simplicity of just looking, getting it done and moving on(especially if its busy)
Always remember to get extra dip with your food you don’t want to disappoint Big Smoke
Tell me about it, I'm a gen y that looks like a gen Z and sounds like a gen alpha. no body takes me seriously and being a 5.9 FT guy doesn't help things either. I think that's partly why I love this channel so much. Thank you short cake for the information on unvale I'll check it out.
As someone in the hospitality industry, our job is to cater to our guests' needs and always strive to be inclusive. What you are asking isn't difficult for most people. However, some individuals may be dyslexic or struggle with reading-I have dyslexia myself but often use AI to help me read and write. Additionally, some people work in the service industry out of necessity and may not find joy in catering to everyone's needs-they are simply trying to survive. I believe that as long as you remain respectful and considerate, you will hopefully receive the same respect in return.
Idk if this is in other countries, but in Australia there are just screens we can use to order food at mcdonalds and it makes me happy
I'm super hard to hear too. I can completely relate.
Oh my gosh thank you for this hack I really needed this my voice is very quiet and I have social anxiety 😊 but I don’t think it’s rude unless you are shoving it in there face 😅
THANK YOU SO MUCH for that recommendation, as someone with a REALLY bad stutter, that hasn’t gone away yet, this will be really helpful!
Shortcakes videos make my day every time
5:10 must've been the wind..
Yeah, I didn't hear anything...
I think this idea is great!
But I would personally recommend using it to gain some confidence at first, and when you feel capable read what you wrote down instead of showing it, this way you can focus only on pronunciation.
I say this because I think facing your shortcomings is a way to feel stronger and more capable, so I wouldn't recommend only relying on avoiding something that's difficult when you can overcome it with the right process. This is just a suggestion obviously, we all got our demons to face and only we can chose how to deal with them.
😅👉🌮I have anxiety ordering food at Chipotle. Asking the employe for what I on a taco or burrito makes me nervous. I probably practice more on socializing with people better.
I love just listening to short cakes voice and looking at her animation style
this is so real when i was a teenager i once tried ordering something from a restaurant in my local mall which i remember specifically having from that specific place(it was a three cheese sandwich) but it wasn't there because every Big L Favourite is fated to disappear into the aether where Big L can't enjoy it because Big L is unfortunately not one with the aether. i got so embarrassed and had to order a caramel slice and like. they gave me SUCH a big one eating it actually made me feel kind of sick, but not entirely sick. i want to call that a Big L Big L but there was hardly any L to it, at least my food survived the return home. it usually doesn't.
anyway as an adult now(and a zombie, long story) i feel like ordering food would probably be pretty easy. i've died before, how bad can asking someone at a counter for lunch be? certainly not as bad as DYING, i don't think. anyway my voice's volume dropped like 10 decibals and also 10 octaves after i died so the volume thing will probably be much harder. these australian hooligans are LOUD. no respect for anybody. be ashamed, australians. ASHAMED! anyway i'm not exactly thrilled about having borderline terminator voice now because i am a trans woman and transitioning seems borderline impossible with my current situation, i don't have the dosh nor a job nor family who is willing to/can pay for hrt :(
I did that because a common lunch joint kept getting my order wrong, so I wrote it down and had them read it.
I use my phone and homemade communication cards, which helped a lot! Or something pointing and using my cards to say what I want.
TYSM for introducing me to unvale i finally have a place to share my ocs ❤
I have the problem of not hearing what the people are saying at subway and when I get a pedicure. I know it's my brains fault because I can understand my family just fine
The way I clink here to so fast😭
This is really helpful! I dont think this is rude at all , but there will be some cashiers that are just mean and dont understand other people have different needs. I've been yelled at before by a cashier for not talking loud enough , it's important not to stop doing things that help you even if others dont like it !! Because your needs should always come first
Quick note! I have diagnosed GAD [Generalized Anxiety Disorder] and work over the counter fast food! We do get some people that have notes written down for orders either from being mute or a language barrier, and the notes do work! All I'd recommend for that is you should kinda memorize the order of the food on the counters! If it's not in order it's still doable, just a bit risky of a small stumble like, forgetting to put lettuce on the order because it was written too early on the note when it's at the end of the line. Most over the counter locations should have the order of their lines the same but just in case, be sure to have a few looks at the counter to analyze what's where.
my mom got stuck in a mcdonalds drive thru and it was kinda stressful for me cuz there were people behind us 😭
Hey! A Sponsor segment I WON'T skip :D No AI? Inclusive? Supports tiny independent strawberry artists? sounds pretty based.
Also regarding your problem with being quiet, have you tried using a megaphone? I'm serious btw.
Why is this so reliable. I ask them what i want, i stand there FOR 2 AKWARD MINUTES. Wondering do i look stupid, can’t they hear me, i feel so dumb, somebody help. They tell me a number…DO YOU MEAN THE MONEY OR TIME OR THE FOOD. Oki im done
yes!, my favorite animator has posted :3
7:02 Here's shortcxke, tryimg to live with the anxieties in her head.
Omori reference?!??
Ordering food with social anxiety is hellish for me. Most of the time I have to ask others to say what I want... It's really awkward.
omg no too real. i dont have a quiet voice usually but it gets quiet when im nervous. so i can relate! i'm too scared to order just like ice cream..
J’aime trop tes fanart a la fin avec la music sonic unleashed ❤
I have social anxiety and I use the Text method sometimes
I pick what I want ahead of time through the menu online (both for restaurants and café’s/bubble tea places) (cause I’m indecisive) I even pick a back up item if they don’t have it or missing something to make it (which has happened), I’ll order verbally if I can but sometimes I freeze up and can’t speak so I use the text method (I always make a note ahead of time in case I freeze up cause I never know when it’s going to happen)
There’s a Subway next to where my mom works,I’ve been going there for the..3 (oh god has she been working there for 3 years now) years It’s been a small walk away.all I have to do is say my mom’s name to comfirm she’s the one that ordered it and walk back,usually when I go down there they ask if I’m there for the pizza
Out of everyone I’ve seen work there not many of them outright called me a regular (maybe 3 or 4 at most),but all of them working there currently should know I’m pretty quiet
No way ordering with your phone is rude, I don't see anything wrong with it. It's easy to understand and doesn't bring harm to anyone.
I don't have problems ordering food or stuff myself (unless idk how the process goes bc some places confuse me, that's when I ask my friends for institutions) but I use text when my throat hurts too much to speak. I usually either text my friend on WhatsApp and they respond verbally, or I write in the notes app/on a paper and show them. It's a lot like talking trough small letters in class so the teacher won't catch u
i wish I thought of this years ago b4 I forced myself to speak to people 😭
I’m lucky I can order my food (and have a mini panic after but I still do it) but I can’t imagine how it would be for you. Technology came a long way from I’m happy a solution was there for you😭❤️ (BUT ALSO SAD CAUSE YOU AVOID SUBWAY I LOVE SUBWAY)
5:11 THAT FRICKEN SCARED ME
AND I HAD SUBS ON
😭
Good thing I let parents and friends at the time order for me even I won't learn any social skills as young adult.😅
Just saw this thumbnail and immediately loved the channel and knew I’d like your videos. They were (a little to) surprising;y helpful and related to what I want to do in life. And I was looking through your videos and came across your first animation “im the man” and saw how your oc, your art style, everything has changed! I thought it might be fun for you to try and remaster it since someone commented how smooth it was and you replied with “its lazy”, why not give it a shot? (I also saw your procrastination animation (hey that rhymes kinda) so maybe take into consideration, if you even like the idea, if its worth it to try, or not)
I think I used to be nervous ordering food and then I realized that no one’s cares. It’s just random guy out there trying to do there job and get paid. How I talk won’t make a difference and I probably won’t remember and they probably won’t remember me.
I always write what I want on my notes in my phone so that ordering is easier. I understand that the workers are often w overwhelmed and have a lot on their plate so I want to make everything easier for everyone!
(Also Sonic Unleashed music I hear? :3)
I stutter so much when I talk, boy am I glad that mates here somehow understand me!!
I've done the phone thing at bars coz I sometimes like to mix my own drinks and it gets so loud in there I have to type it out lol great vid, Shortcxke!
Idk if this is a weird comment but ur voice is calming
wait this actually seems so helpful. I swear I'll be standing in line practicing my order in my head over and over again so that I don't screw it up, then I'll get up there and they won't hear a word of what I said so I have to repeat it five times!!!
I feel this ;-;
Btw I love the tadc reference :3
Sonic generations ost rooftop run classic sonic
7:05 the black and white shortcxke is an omori reference ❤ I love omori the game
It's also a good advice for people who are dysphoric over their voice
The editing and character cuteness is so good! Epic vibeo ^-^
i love that doordash is a thing no stress easy 👌
I don't think it's rude, as long as you are being polite about it.
Had me dying at the stalling part 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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babe wake up, new shortcxke video just dropped
It feels worse in a drive thru and the speaker sounds static and glitchy.
Man i love your content :]
no way this has full backgrounds in them this is peak
I don’t think it’s necessarily rude to show someones phone about what you want to order, I think showing your phone in texts about what you want to oder is one of the most helpful things you can do, and this is coming from someone who used to work in food service. It’s the most convenient way to do so, and it helps to save so much time when ordering that, in the end of the day, I would prefer it if people just had pre-written texts to let me know what it is they want to order. In certain cases, you can’t really do so, such as when your’e in a drive through, or when you’re at a sit-in buffet.
I suffer from the same issue to where, I don’t like to be loud, and I don’t like to speak with an outward voice, to where people people end up not being able to hear me very well. As a matter a fact, that was a big thing I suffered from years ago, first day on the job, to which I ended up adapting from with… severing degrees of success? Sometimes I don’t know how loud you can be inside and outside, so sometimes I end up being to high and to low, vocal wise, depending on the situation.
Now in days, because of my personal situation, the last time I’ve ever went out was summer of last year for my birthday, and that was to eat with family. I’m hoping in the future it changes, but I’ve had enough life and work experience to know that, people that work in food are just, people, like me and you, making ends meet, and the more convenient you can make their lives work, the better.
This is to say that: when you use the text method of ordering, it’s how you take out a message and perceive said message. I can tell you, there’s a lot of old/grumpy people, that are so stubborn, that they’ll never accept your order through said method, and would rather have you talk face to face, and will literally shut the door or walk away in front of your face if you order that way, and when speaking vice versa, if they were to do so, they get very grumpy and confrontational. Neither of which I would ever want to encounter again, because “Oh, you messed up my food” and then they throw food at me, like how one time I worked at a smoothie restaurant, and a old guy threw his smoothie at me.
Idk, some people just shouldn’t be going out when they have that kind of mentality when going out. People don’t owe you something when they’re making your food, you just go out, eat, and that’s it. You should only have that viewpoint where you get food poisoning, or something equally as harmful, but not in an, overall general sense, where someone who’s young makes your food wrong and then you throw the food in their face; that actually makes them less likely to want to meet you in the same establishment out of fear of the same thing happening to them again.
I do overall, think the text method is the best method, it just depends on the scenario you’re in*.
earliest ive ever been to a video wow
NOT THE AMONGUS TWERKING AT THE END!!! (Stalling bit was great.)
The only time I eat out is when I go to subway, which is not too often, and I always get the same thing and say it in the same order, so I don't mess up. This was very helpful though, thank you!
i think i fall in the middle of this, i prefer not to talk and avoid things like this. but if i really feel like i need to or should talk for situations like this i do. also i deeply relate to the people not hearing me part😭. people never hear me when i talk and it’s so embarrassing but i am slowly getting better with it over time ❤️🩹.
Coffee is just Bean Soup
REALLY Amazing job with the Fan Art Everyone~. An the Right Animation Really Reminded Me Of Team Rocket a LOT!!:D!!
Also To Answer Your Question shortcxke I think Your Fine Unless YoU Ya know Shove your phone really Close To There Face, like I Would Shake My Phone a bit and then move it a little Closer after A momentto and Yes Say Thank You For the Food or Just Thank You~:).