Getting married in the USA vs the Netherlands & a BIG life update! - American in the Netherlands
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- Опубліковано 13 гру 2022
- In this video, I wanted to share some differences I've noticed when it comes to getting married in the Netherlands vs the United States. In addition, I have a big life update that I want to share with you all, which makes clear how I've come across some of these cultural and legal differences.
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Congratulations. So glad for you that you have found your true partner. Also so cute to hear you say "she accepts all my flaws and I think she is great" . She problably feels the same about you. Great news
That's nice of you to say, thank you!
Van harte gefeliciteerd met je toekomstige vrouw, Ava! Hopelijk vangen we in de toekomst een glimp van haar op, op je kanaal! Ben erg nieuwsgierig geworden naar degene die je al zo lang gelukkig maakt!😊
Hallo! I got married in the Netherlands last february. I am originally from Mexico Stad, I just arrived last tuesday to be few months with my husband, from Gelderland :) Due to work, we haven't started the MVV process yet. Groetjes, kusjes een Gefeeliciterd!
Congrats, Ava !!! 💋 Let love rule !!
I think people often use geregistreerd partnerschap to get around certain expectations.
Basically, getting married implies a wedding, with a reception, sometimes in a church as well as city hall, wedding rings, the whole circus. Of course, none of that is mandatory, but if you're not doing it, you have to explain it about a thousand times to everyone.
Whereas in geregistreerd partnerschap, the only thing implied is a trip to city hall. Anything else is optional and you still get the same legal/ fiscal benefits.
It's a big money and hassle saver for couples who aren't interested in having a wedding
Ava, first of all: congratulations to you and your girlfriend! I wish you a long, healthy and happy life together.
I have always felt that the "geregistreed partnerschap" is "marriage, without the fuss". It is also something that is advised to people for instance when they wish to buy a house together. You have more or less the same rights as a married couple, but without all the traditional baggage.
Not "more or less the same rights", it is actually the same rights. At least in the Netherlands. As a heterosexual registered partner, I know. And yes, it makes a lot of things easier, not only buying a house, also when you're having kids: as the father you're automatically recognized as such (erkenning), instead that you have to apply for it and the mother has to officially recognize you as the father (which was the reason my partner and I registered). Only thing that's hard is deciding what to call each other in conversations: is my partner my partner or my wife? Registered a tad over 3 years ago, and I still find calling her "my wife" a bit weird. Less then 3 years ago, but still, got some ways to go there.
And Ava, congrats on the "verloving". I wish you and your soon to be wife a very happy continuation of your lives together.
That's exactly what it is. The Dutch tend to be liberal and traditional is therefore less populair. So a geregistreerd partnerschap is a quick,easy and affordable way to legalise your relationship and to be able to buy a house. And no hassle with family and planning a wedding. It's set into the nuchterheid (down to earth) of the Dutch that is very important here. The "monday morning' wedding is also very populair. So go to city hall and get married quickly. Every city here has to have a fixed timeslot every week where couples can get married for free. The couples sometimes go on bikes to city hall which is really cute.
I have the feeling that when I was younger engagement meant more in the Netherlands than it does now. Maybe because back then sex before marriage was still more of a taboo, and being engaged was a phase in which it was sort of accepted that people did it anyway. Just my ten cents, no data lol.
Oh and congrats on the marriage!
One might mention that in the Netherlands the only legal wedding is the one performed by the state.
Usually at the Municipal House by a special functionary.
Couples who want a church wedding will need to do two ceremonies, one after the other.
Congratulations Ava. The proposal story was so Dutch. Talking about it for ages, and then execute it romantically but without all the fuzz. The idea of a proposal letter is a very lovely solution. To my parents the "verloving" still was a big deal (but that was in the early 1960s). A big engagement party. Rings and stuff. And a nice photo album. It lasted almost two years before they got married. But nowadays it has become rather uncommon.
Best wishes!
When my parents got married in the early 70s, there was still a legal thing called “ondertrouw”, where you had to register the fact that you were going to get married at least a month in advance. I assume that was a remnant of official affiancing.
Edit: I just got to the part of the video where apparently that’s still a thing, huh!
I miss the flat one a bit.
He always kept you on track as it were.
Not that you are off track right now or anything.
Anyway, congratulations girl! You deserve a nice life.
Hartelijk gefeliciteerd met je geplande huwelijk.
Als ras Amsterdammer volg ik je al jaren en zie met bewondering toe,hoe jij groeit.
Vr.gr.F.
Congratulations, I'm happy for you and your partner.
Congrats kiddo. That You two may be happy for a long, long time!
Hartelijk Gefeliciteerd Ava!!
My husband and I lived in Philly PA when we got our marriage license and if I recall correctly it was valid for a month. As Pennsylvania is a Quaker State we used self-uniting marriage papers. Not all States offer this. We just had to fill out the dates ourselves sign at the bottom and have two witnesses sign as well (my MiL and my sister) and then hand it in at City Hall. We had a lovely small ceremony with flowers and a dinner for 8 people at my parents house. We partied regularly with our friends anyways so we celebrated with them the next time we saw them. We saved money this way so we could buy a house. And also got married right before the end of the year so that it would help with taxes!!
The way you described the simple marriage decision of "hey let's do this? Ok!" is exactly what my parents did in the Netherlands. In the 70s it was registered marriage before you were allowed to marry in the church. My parents skipped the religious path. I think my Catholic grandmother wasn't too happy about that. Then they basically had a small wedding day like my husband and I did, but for my American mother no one from her side of the family was there. My mother didn't speak much Dutch yet so my father nudged her to indicate when she needs to respond with "Ja." They celebrated later in the summer when my moms side flew over for a visit.
We have yet to register our marriage in the Netherlands. Life got busy to sit down and get it done.
When you are officially married in the Netherlands will you be allowed Dutch Citizenship? My mother did and was able to keep her US citizenship. Hope you'll be able to look into that. I have heard the NL is keen on making people choose one citizenship and lose the other. I have to renew mine very so many years or it's lost. And a name change in the NL is only allowed once in your life compared to in the US you're allowed up to about 10 and then after that it'll cost a bunch of money.
Congrats to the both of you! So lovely to hear.
Congratulations, such great news and we wish you all the best!!
Congratulations!!! So glad to hear this!
Gefeliciteerd Ava, all the best wishes for the both of you!
Van harte gefeliciteerd Ava! Heel veel geluk en plezier samen💖
Congratulations Ava! I’m happy for you that everything is going so well.
Great news! 😍😍😍 Congrats to both of you, Ava. 🍾🍾🍾
Van harte gefeliciteerd !!! Happy for you both 🎉
Congratulations Ava! :D
This is wonderful news, and can clearly see you're shining because of it! :D
Hope the both of you will have many more amazing years together!
Gefeliciteerd! I always love the way you point out the differences between Netherlands & USA. You're so spot on!
Congrats!! All the best for the both of you!!
Congrats to you both! ❤
Van harte gefeliciteerd Ava en aanstaande vrouw ! Helemaal goed !
so happy for you two. congrats.
Geweldig, van harte gefeliciteerd allebei! Ik wens jullie een heerlijke dag en een uitzinnig feest toe met daaropvolgend natuurlijk een des te meer geweldig leven tezamen!
Gefeliciteerd Ava! Very happy for you both.
Great news Ava! All the best and I hope for a great future! May you and your girlfriend have the best of times! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥂🥂
Congratulations Ava!!
Hi Ava congratulations on your engagement. And was a fun and educational video.
I very much enjoyed this video, thank you for sharing. 🤗
Van harte gefeliciteerd Ava en toekomstige echtgenote!
Gefeliciteerd Ava met je verloving. Ik ben ontzettend blij voor jullie beiden.
Eerlijk gezegd dacht, toen ik voor het eerst naar je vlog keek, dat jullie al getrouwd waren.
Dankjewel voor de update. Stay healthy.
Congratulations to the both of you, Ava!
Very happy for you. Communication and confidence is one of the building blocks for trust. You and your partner have a solid foundation for the marriage.
I’m so happy for you. Always love your videos.
Thank you!
Congratulations to both of you!! I hope you'll have a long, loving and wonderful life together.
Congratulations! All the best to both of you!
Congratulations Ava, very happy for you and your bride!
Van harte gefeliciteerd! I hope you 2 have many happy years together.
Woho!!! Congratulations! Van harte gefeliciteerd!!
Congratulations, Ava! I'm so happy for the both of you!
Gefeliciteerd Ava! Ik hoop dat jullie er een fantastisch feest van maken!
Gefeliciteerd!
Veel geluk ♥️
I saw the titl and knew right away.... Yee happy for you both. Congrats!!!!
Congratulations Ava, have a wonderful party and wedding!
My Dutch parents were engaged for over 5 years and did use the term 'verloofde', this was from 46 to 51 so a long time ago. The engagement dragged on because my dad was send of as a soldier to Indonesia for what turned out to be 3 years. He came home in 1950.
Congratulations, Ava! I'm so happy that you're going to be somewhere safe and friendly and warm and most of all happy. Your "popping the question" part was really funny and sweet. I think today 14th of December the Us passed a bill to protect same-sex marriage. So evertthing ought to go smoothly.
Cheers from the Pacific West Coast of Canada.
Gefeliciteerd, Ava !
Wooo! Congratulations to you and your girlfriend! I hope you have a wonderful wedding day and the paperwork goes smoothly! I hope you give us another update when it's all done because you've made me curious. Also curious about your outfits (2, 1 or zero white dresses?). And as someone who's technically been engaged since 2015, I hope my partner and I manage to follow in your footsteps in the next few years. We may need to hire a wedding planner to actually make it happen 😅
Congratulations!!! a real life wholesome lovestory. I wish the best for you both!
Congrats Ava!
Congrats Ava!!! What a giant leap you and your gf are going to make forward. I know this is ur vlog but maybe we can get a glimpse of her looks at the wedding. If not: fine as well. On the other hand: weddings are a private thing. Just make it and share it the way you are comfortable with. Again: congrats to the both of u. ❤️😘 Grtz. Arjen
Ik heb stiekem de eerste tellen van je filmpje bekeken. De rest is voor vanavond.
Gefeliciteerd!!!!
Many Happy Congrats for the both of you !!!
gefeliciteerd Ava en aanstaande . 😍🥰
Congrats Ava and partner!
Congratulations getting married together, i wish you both a great live together full with love and happiness
Gefeliciteerd en heel veel geluk samen! x
No matter how the dynamic between you dictated who would “pop the question”, CONGRATULATIONS AND JUBILATIONS! I wish you both every happiness.
Congratulations for both of you!
First of all CONGRATS..... and the way you get engaged is whatever you together decide... as long as you are happy together... that's the goal and very personal.... not peer pressure..... Love you're vids, keep them comming.... Best of luck in you're combined relationship with you' significant other.... maybe she will participate in future vids.... lots of good wishes...
Congratz...!! Lots of love from Amsterdam....!!
Gefeliciteerd Ava!
Congratulations to the both of you 🎉🎊🥳, I wish you both a long, healthy, happy, fortunate and prosperous life together, may you both feel loved always 💖
I can't help it, just so happy for you two!
Gefeliciteerd jullie allebei!
Congrats and amazing video
celebrate love ! good for you guys, hope youll be happy forever!
Awww... while you radiate happiness a quick congratulations to you and yours ! And now back to the swooning...Cheers.!
Congratulations and have a merry married life 🎊 🎉
Congratulations to the two of you. Hope ye continue to have a great life together.🍾🥂
Congrats to you both !
Congrats Ava! :)
Gefeliciteerd Ava - Congratulations :-)
Congratulations Ava. I hope you and your fiancée will continue to be happy.
CONGRATS!❤
Congrats guys, it's awsome.
Yay! Congrats! ❤️
Congratulations Eva! All the best wishes! I'm also gonna get married to a wonderful Dutch/American lady. Hope everything works well for all of us. Best of luck!❤
Allebei hartelijk gefeliciteerd! Prachtig!
Gefeliciteerd allebei !!😃
Gefeliciteerd!!! 🎊
WoW, congratulations Eva!
All that matters is love, doesn't matter how you label it.
In NL most couples are not married btw :-)
Gefeliciteerd, dames! Leuk en goed nieuws!
And inevitable, once you mastered the art of kamperen.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. Lots of happiness and lots of love together. 🤩🤩🤩
Congratulations Ava! I've silently (don't worry, I'm subscribed haha) enjoyed your videos since the beginning :D It's been awesome to see you enjoy your life here in these low wetlands. All the best!
Congratulations, Ava...! :D I'm happy for you and your partner ^^
Congratulations! 🎉
Congratulations!!
Congratulations Ava.
Congratulations! I'm happy for you.
Wow, great news, congrats!!!
Gefeliciteerd Ava en Ava’s vriendin!
Congrats on the wedding!
Congatulations. May your marriage be long and happy.
Wat leuk. Gefeliciteerd!
Congrats!! 🥰