Ask Nick - He’s Obsessed With His Ex | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall
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- Опубліковано 9 вер 2024
- Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We start off the episode with a written Ask Nick. Then we get to our callers…
Our first caller is debating whether she should reach out to her ex, after his mom’s passing. Our second caller has been flirting with her neighbor, but he won't ask her out. And, our third caller is dating a guy who said her mom’s passing was a turn off.
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I love ask Nick but the conversations always go 5 mins longer than they should. Please cut it short
Some people want more air time!
Agree
Absolutely, the last 10 min is just a repeat of everything that's already been said but in different words. I ALWAYS fast forward
@@TheStezo83 he can even cut 5 min more because it’s just all the same stuff after he tells the person to send a text lol I’m over hearing the other person talk about “yes I should text omg but I’m so nervous omg omg ! Then he starts to repeat everything again and then the person says , yes ur right ur right i know ur right.. it’s just u know blabla … but yeh I know ur right … he just saved my life one time with this one phone call 100 years ago this is so hard … he starts to repeat 🔁 and the person is like … yes ur right ur right…it goes on and on 🫠🌊
Yessss ugh
Send the card. You were there during her diagnosis, helped support your ex, and cared for her in some capacity. Texting would send more pressure for him to respond, which he may or may not want to do. You won't regret sending a card and expressing your sympathies to a family you were once close with. Don't over think it - just go with your gut and toss it in the mail.
To the caller with the ex mother in law that passed, definitely send a card and flowers. It’s a classy move no matter what you think he might feel. Don’t text or call, because that leaves room for a direct response. I think sending flowers and a card is appropriate for someone you were once close to. Keep the card short and sweet. Don’t overthink what he might think, he will appreciate the thought and nothing more
My mom died of cancer a few years ago, and I really appreciated when my exes reached out to me after she died. It absolutely didn’t spark any new relationship wounds, it was just a kind thing to do. They knew my mom, they were part of my family’s life for a while, so it made sense for them to acknowledge her death.
I would send a condolence card ASAP, write a message from your heart, mail it and move on. I have a feeling this woman cares more than she lets on.
Ask Nick starts at: 10:54
100% mail CARD- done & done- agree with all . That is the most normal, kind thing to do. No pressure on him to respond . To the point, and kind. The RIGHT thing to do.
As someone who has lost a parent and has friends who have also lost a parent. I would definitely reach out to show your support in this hard time. If you had a relationship with his mom it would be more meaningful to show you care and honor your relationship with his mom. I didn’t reach out to a friend because I didn’t think we were that close and they were pretty offended that I didn’t. I think if your heart is in the right place it will transcend in your message. ❤
I had almost an identical experience to the caller whose ex lost a parent. Even her description of the break up sounded the same. I was also torn whether I should reach out and offer my condolences or if it would cause more disruption, so I reached out to his very best friend and asked his advice, and he encouraged me to reach out and attend the funeral service. I was very close with his parents, so I really wanted to be there for his family. My ex was appreciative of all the support and a few memories we got to share about his dad. I absolutely do not regret being there for them during that time.
i need time stamps for each call so bad
She is totally thinking about herself and the relationship. If she wasn’t, she would have sent a card or flowers to the funeral or a family house and have moved on already. She’s coming in on the backend and struggling too much over it. She’s overthinking by a lot and it sounds like she struggles over it and is still social media stalking him. It’s ok to let go and move on.
Gardasil has been around for about 20 years now. Young adults all had the opportunity to get this vaccine at the optimal time to prevent the warts and cancers from some strains of HPV. It helps prevent cancers of the mouth, throat, head, and genitals. She should talk to her doctor and they should go get counseled together. She should find out what strain he has and if she is up to date on the Gardasil. She might be protected. They can use barriers to protect too. She needs more medical information, not Nick 😅
These conversations go on wayyyy too long. The first caller reaching out to her ex … sign the public online obituary and / or send a card. Move on. I find myself forwarding to the next caller.
The vocal fry was ki!!ing me!!😬 😅
I fear that the first caller will regret ending this relationship later in life. She sounds like someone who’s been in a lot of therapy due to her issues and who has a habit of overthinking and over analyzing - probably an innate tendency that therapy made worse…. Your life partner *should* be someone who is a great friend and supports you through thick and thin. Sexual chemistry is not the most important, nor is a fiery passionate spark. This guy was who she was looking for and if she’s in her late 30s and single, after numerous passionate but ultimately short lived relationships, she will come to realize this.
This guy could be the kindest person in the world, but when you're not sexually attracted to someone, you shouldn't be with that person. Full stop. If that were the case, I would have married my male best friend. Sorry, but intimacy IS important in a marriage.
I didn’t say it’s not important- read my comment. I said it’s not the MOST important. And all things considered, chemistry often fades over time or at least it ebbs and flows with age and kids etc. Obviously you would like to be attracted physically and sexually. But too many people end relationships bc they are prioritizing sexual passion over a steady foundation.
Things I gave up when dating in my 30s: 6’5”, finance, blue eyes. Things I didn’t give up: not being judged for things out of my control
omg that first caller needs to just make a decision and go with it. Flowers and a card, just do it. That call went on for way too long, and was actually driven by her need to control, and how she turned up in the relationship. Stop overthinking, and stop thinking about yourself. think about the guy and his family.
Love ❤️ you nick! Been listening since the beginning.
Awwww caller two. NO. Awwww giiirl. He didn’t even ask for the ph#- goodbye to him.
Hpv, genital warts can lead to a higher incidence of cervical cancer in women
So good ! Learned so much and I wish I would have listened to this earlier ! Now I know. Taking notes 📝❤thanks
Honestly, the part about sending the card was way overthinking and took too much thought. Just send the card because it is a decent gesture and I think he’d appreciate it and enough time has past!
I liked this episode. Back to some more “light” relatable problems the callers have
“A nothing burger”
Where are power couples ? The ultimate match sexually, playful, do everything together . But attraction to materialistic is not equal to attraction in a male & female. Life is pecurious. You don't know a person until you live with them !
Love the new rug 🙌
Why is caller #1 so obsessed with her ex. Get over yourself. You’re not that important. He probably has not thought of you once.
Love Nick’s advice about the card. AND telling her he’s probably not thinking about her at all!
This girl. Ugh
Omg. Send the guy a condolence card and keep it moving. Geez.
How do I add my input
With the last caller 30 is kinda young, why would her friends be having problems and being sick of their husbands? I would think that is not true nor do I think they’re envying her single life with different men there is nothing to envy.😢
First caller can post on the Facebook page. Do you want to reach out for you? Or for him?
I wrote a new song it’s called 🎶 If He Wanted To (he would) 🎶
Nick is hardcore rubbing his leg...caller 1's advice went on entirely too long.
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