And he was correct. He equated masculinity with boundaries, and this is right. Unfortunately for him, he confused femininity with unlimited willingness to be badgered. We all have masculine and feminine traits and tendencies. Your feminine stops where your masculine begins and vice versa. Once your limit for receiving (feminine) was reached, the hard stop for abusive treatment was the boundary (masculine). Embrace both and master these forces within you, and you will be safer and wiser moving forward. Never let your feminine side be compromised again.
@@tarawiselovebeautiful comment ,saving it for future reference as a personal reminder when I can feel myself being pulled forced or baited into functiining in my masculine,ty for this!!
Facts I come from a toxic family and was raised by a narcissistic man,there was no boundaries he wouldn't cross and the women never stepped in,now I'm on a healing journey from all the trauma and I realize I attracted males like him, I've been single for 10yrs now and happier than I ever been I'm at peace on my journey
Women need to stop dating one guy at a time, stop letting other guys shame you for having options. That's exactly how dudes never fall short of meeting good women and having options, they always keep their options opened. The more options women have, the more it increases your chances of actually meeting good men.
@@antoinetteadame0526 Exactly! That's why it's called options, everyone has them so why can't we take advantage according to males? They hate competition
That strategy could work if you aren't looking for anything serious. It's a catch-22. Many men will 'entertain' you if we know that you're dating other men, but it's highly unlikely that he'll see you as someone he'd want to "settle down" with. When I hear that a woman is dating multiple men, I assume that she's probably sleeping with at least some of them. I'm not going to shoot myself in the foot and actually tell her my assumption. But if she's sexy and cool, Imma play the game so I can hit, but won't take her seriously as an option for wifey. I could see her as a cool person ... But probably for the streets, so I treat her accordingly. And No it's not even a competition. She can off and marry one of those guys tomorrow, and Id just congratulate her, while thinking to myself.... "good luck to that guy...couldn't be me though" 😂
Yes, I was dealing with man child. He was the worst, He truly acted like child . I can kick myself for dealing with such a monster. I was to good for his ass. Just a user , I blame myself for sticking around as long as I did.
You're totally right Ace!!! I've invested TOO MUCH of my valuable time, energy & effort to several men thus far and they all have managed to ignore, disrespect, dismiss, neglect and give me cold vibes back in return 🤔🤨! I have always given brown/dark skin men the benefit of the doubt, but they always ei d up reconfirming my suspicion of their inappropriate agenda towards me. Too many men treat good women like another name on their options list, a 3rd/5th wheel, a wing woman, side piece, standby chick, 2nd fiddle, or his just in case. Ace, why are grown men in their 40's, 50's, & 60's still playing games like they're still 20 something 🤔🤨? Why do they flirt with women they don't like and then go ice cold to her after she catches REAL feelings for him?
Cause they want their cake and eat it too. They are broken man with no integrity nor morals. Cause if they had integrity, they would leave a woman alone if they know damn well that they have no serious intentions with her. But instead they lead her on to use and abuse. Keep your eyes wide open when dating a guy. Lead with your head and not your heart. Don't ignore the red flags in the beginning. Make sure he meets your needs. Always use discernment.
Thank you Brother ❤! I honestly needed your help with my healing mentally, emotionally, etc. I love your transparency you dropped a lot of Good Gems for every woman who is watching this to Raise our standards, create boundaries, and never settle. Stop giving a man a chance all because he's attractive but he doesn't fit your standard. Looks alone just like money alone is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship Make sure he's making sacrifices first if he's a leader. Great points you touched I'm soooo grateful for you
I literally just ends things last week with a guy like that he is describing. This guy I barely gave up my time for. My motto is don't let a guy waste your time this isn't really about anything. Know your worth and stick to your standards.
Thank you ace always on point, when men meet me I lay all of my cards on the table? These ninja thank I'm boogie because I let them know up front what I want, my thing is if you can't match what I have talking about home, car, bank account with money and payroll going in?? Not PayPal, chime and Etc?? Then ninja keep walking Do Not Open Your Mf Mouth buying me a drink is not Appealing to me come hard facts!!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Take as much time as you need to heal from the last relationship. Heal until you are whole! Then, if you choose to do so begin to look for an equal, not a project. You're looking for someone who takes care of themselves and has the capacity to take care of you too. Someone on your level that you can respect and vice versa. Don't fall in love with potential. My table is SET and yours should be as well. You got to bring something to my table besides a fork and knife! When you are confident in what you bring to the table, you don't have to beg and chase anyone to sit down and eat! What category do they belong in? Partner, project, parasite or pond? Putting people in the wrong category will mess your life up! Pain prevention is tied to people being properly placed in your life y'all!! A tolerable level of permanent unhappiness just won't work!!
As a woman and psychotherapist , let's do this ladies. Let's heal our daddy wound. Whar Ace is saying is just changing the behavior but unless we do some trauma work we cannot heal our beliefs that invite toxic men in.
Thank you, this is much appreciated ❤. I dated a man for 11 months, who was an alcoholic, demeaning person, and who would bread crumb me and fell for his game with every little attention he gave me because as more time we were involved, I was putting 2 together and found out he had traits loke my dad who was very emotionally and verbally abusive towards me and I quickly walked away and I'm on my healing journey, which thankfully, I am healing my relationship with my father ❤
I am so happy & blessed to watch your channel! My brothers are in Heaven and I definitely needed a reality check and know that my standards are right where they should be. I had to learn a hard unnecessary lesson and should have disqualified a fool as soon as I found out he lied, but he was begging and said/did all the others things. No! Even if you like him, termination his application! 😂
Where was this guy when I was with my ex 😂. I walked away on my own, because I did exactly this: I chose my standards over being in a relationship with him. Maybe if I would have heard this dude I would have left sooner 😂.
One day I presented your videos to someone thinking progress. That person said I don’t watch those people. I thank myself for still listening to these videos you make for motivation. You inspire me I pray everyone feels the same way. God Bless! ❤🙏thank you @Ace
After a 4 year relationship, your right when you said a lot of men don't have good intentions. I remember my ex would belittle me, after we separated things just got worse. I realized that he never loved me.
I’m currently in situation where I feel I give and give and he just takes it from me , I give my love to him but I don’t get non from him , (not enough) so I feel I’m getting to this point where I can’t take it no more and I’m started to detach. He tells me I’m a good gf , but I can’t tell the same about him being a good bf.
Ace. You're right. I wasted 12 years of my life with a deadbeat loser. He does nothing for me at all. I had to fight him for literally $10 to do laundry,for God's sake. Yeah,no. Plus,every single time I cleaned,he would utterly trash the place.had me haul a heavy shopping cart up and down stairs, BY MYSELF.
Telling myself no. I'm working on it. Encouragement anyone please? 😬 xxx I'll send you one of these 🙌 in return too if you need it xx 🙁 Keep listening and listening yall until the pennie drops xxx keep up the good self work! X
Even neurotypicals struggle with that. Best thing I can offer is to try dating within your community to avoid predators and help level the playing field. Best of luck❤
Oh hell yea ur right i work 2 jobs , and i had an alpha he put 2 engagement s ring on my finger, but he choose his family his children over his fiance then he was dumb an slow, but i left him i work 2 jobs already an own my own home he came with the money.. but dam he didnt fit my qualifications.
It’s my opinion: ~ well stated. Thank you for planting seeds in many for it is good to see” Iron sharpen iron”~ FYI: your microphone was going in and out at the beginning of the video….
My i am walking away from one now. I am masculine, I act like a man. Funny thing is, i am a strong black woman. He act more feminine and thats the problem.
Please I can u dont under stand everything ❤❤❤only God know what is going on 😊plese, l do love my self and I love him too and I know that he loves me too, but I am not God, the creater ❤❤❤❤❤peace
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Because I didn't keep accepting the abuse....put downs... triangulation.. manipulation...aggravation...I am too masculine.
And he was correct. He equated masculinity with boundaries, and this is right. Unfortunately for him, he confused femininity with unlimited willingness to be badgered. We all have masculine and feminine traits and tendencies. Your feminine stops where your masculine begins and vice versa. Once your limit for receiving (feminine) was reached, the hard stop for abusive treatment was the boundary (masculine). Embrace both and master these forces within you, and you will be safer and wiser moving forward. Never let your feminine side be compromised again.
@@tarawiselovebeautiful comment ,saving it for future reference as a personal reminder when I can feel myself being pulled forced or baited into functiining in my masculine,ty for this!!
So tired of abusive men using this excuse
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Some of this applies to toxic families that don't respect boundaries too.
Facts I come from a toxic family and was raised by a narcissistic man,there was no boundaries he wouldn't cross and the women never stepped in,now I'm on a healing journey from all the trauma and I realize I attracted males like him, I've been single for 10yrs now and happier than I ever been I'm at peace on my journey
Prayer is the key
Women need to stop dating one guy at a time, stop letting other guys shame you for having options. That's exactly how dudes never fall short of meeting good women and having options, they always keep their options opened. The more options women have, the more it increases your chances of actually meeting good men.
Exactly 💯
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I keep several in rotation. We must quantum date. Or otherwise called circular dating.
@@antoinetteadame0526 Exactly! That's why it's called options, everyone has them so why can't we take advantage according to males? They hate competition
That strategy could work if you aren't looking for anything serious. It's a catch-22.
Many men will 'entertain' you if we know that you're dating other men, but it's highly unlikely that he'll see you as someone he'd want to "settle down" with.
When I hear that a woman is dating multiple men, I assume that she's probably sleeping with at least some of them.
I'm not going to shoot myself in the foot and actually tell her my assumption. But if she's sexy and cool, Imma play the game so I can hit, but won't take her seriously as an option for wifey.
I could see her as a cool person ... But probably for the streets, so I treat her accordingly.
And No it's not even a competition. She can off and marry one of those guys tomorrow, and Id just congratulate her, while thinking to myself.... "good luck to that guy...couldn't be me though" 😂
I had someone ask me why going in a first date was a priority when I said we needed to date before I “hung out” at his house.
Yes, I was dealing with man child. He was the worst, He truly acted like child . I can kick myself for dealing with such a monster. I was to good for his ass. Just a user , I blame myself for sticking around as long as I did.
🙏 AMEN
I appreciate your responses. A lot of these men on dating apps will state “going with the flow”. I hate that damn statement. Too many men play games.
Whew… I needed to hear this. I thank you.
You're totally right Ace!!! I've invested TOO MUCH of my valuable time, energy & effort to several men thus far and they all have managed to ignore, disrespect, dismiss, neglect and give me cold vibes back in return 🤔🤨! I have always given brown/dark skin men the benefit of the doubt, but they always ei d up reconfirming my suspicion of their inappropriate agenda towards me. Too many men treat good women like another name on their options list, a 3rd/5th wheel, a wing woman, side piece, standby chick, 2nd fiddle, or his just in case. Ace, why are grown men in their 40's, 50's, & 60's still playing games like they're still 20 something 🤔🤨? Why do they flirt with women they don't like and then go ice cold to her after she catches REAL feelings for him?
Cause they want their cake and eat it too. They are broken man with no integrity nor morals. Cause if they had integrity, they would leave a woman alone if they know damn well that they have no serious intentions with her. But instead they lead her on to use and abuse.
Keep your eyes wide open when dating a guy. Lead with your head and not your heart. Don't ignore the red flags in the beginning. Make sure he meets your needs. Always use discernment.
Thank you Brother ❤! I honestly needed your help with my healing mentally, emotionally, etc. I love your transparency you dropped a lot of Good Gems for every woman who is watching this to Raise our standards, create boundaries, and never settle. Stop giving a man a chance all because he's attractive but he doesn't fit your standard. Looks alone just like money alone is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship Make sure he's making sacrifices first if he's a leader. Great points you touched I'm soooo grateful for you
I literally just ends things last week with a guy like that he is describing. This guy I barely gave up my time for. My motto is don't let a guy waste your time this isn't really about anything. Know your worth and stick to your standards.
Ace is so brutally honest... Exactly what I needed! 💯 Ty!
So true!!!! ❤ Boundaries in place. Just say NO to the BS.
We must be held accountable. Setting boundaries, knowing that we choose wrong when we are not patient. Thank you Ace💯 I love you to life 💜🙏🏾
😂😂 Such Profound thoughts!! You are on point. Standards Of the Living Sacrifices!!! Not easily accessible
Thank you ace always on point, when men meet me I lay all of my cards on the table? These ninja thank I'm boogie because I let them know up front what I want, my thing is if you can't match what I have talking about home, car, bank account with money and payroll going in?? Not PayPal, chime and Etc?? Then ninja keep walking Do Not Open Your Mf Mouth buying me a drink is not Appealing to me come hard facts!!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Ace you are always on point! Thank you Brother for being so Forward! Much ❤ to you
Take as much time as you need to heal from the last relationship. Heal until you are whole! Then, if you choose to do so begin to
look for an equal, not a project. You're looking for someone who takes care of themselves and has the capacity to take care of you too. Someone on your level that you can respect and vice versa. Don't fall in love with potential.
My table is SET and yours should be as well. You got to bring something to my table besides a fork and knife!
When you are confident in what you bring to the table, you don't have to beg and chase anyone to sit down and eat!
What category do they belong in? Partner, project, parasite or pond? Putting people in the wrong category will mess your life up! Pain prevention is tied to people being properly placed in your life y'all!! A tolerable level of permanent unhappiness just won't work!!
Miss Jackie you are a gem with your comments. Thank you for light!
Thanks. Just speaking the raw truth. Protect your heart!!@mieshadashae5718
As a woman and psychotherapist , let's do this ladies. Let's heal our daddy wound.
Whar Ace is saying is just changing the behavior but unless we do some trauma work we cannot heal our beliefs that invite toxic men in.
Thank you, this is much appreciated ❤. I dated a man for 11 months, who was an alcoholic, demeaning person, and who would bread crumb me and fell for his game with every little attention he gave me because as more time we were involved, I was putting 2 together and found out he had traits loke my dad who was very emotionally and verbally abusive towards me and I quickly walked away and I'm on my healing journey, which thankfully, I am healing my relationship with my father ❤
Lol you make me laugh 😂! You’re describing me! 🤣🤣🤣
So much wisdom in you sir
I just allow my actions to speak for me..time saver.
I am so happy & blessed to watch your channel! My brothers are in Heaven and I definitely needed a reality check and know that my standards are right where they should be. I had to learn a hard unnecessary lesson and should have disqualified a fool as soon as I found out he lied, but he was begging and said/did all the others things. No! Even if you like him, termination his application! 😂
7:27-8:43 is a whole video/message/sermon in itself! You went off! 🙏🏾
I learned so much from listening to you thank you my brother
Where was this guy when I was with my ex 😂.
I walked away on my own, because I did exactly this: I chose my standards over being in a relationship with him.
Maybe if I would have heard this dude I would have left sooner 😂.
L❤ve This....I have this video on 'repeat" and will send to all my friends.
Thank you very much!
One day I presented your videos to someone thinking progress. That person said I don’t watch those people. I thank myself for still listening to these videos you make for motivation. You inspire me I pray everyone feels the same way. God Bless! ❤🙏thank you @Ace
oh yes...God send this man🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Truth bombs galore. 💯🙌🏻. Thanks again for all you do. We are the prize. Keep remembering that
You are so right!!!
🙌🏽Ace Thank 🫵🏼 Youuuuu‼️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🥰 #FACTS
Thank you for the knowledge 😊
After a 4 year relationship, your right when you said a lot of men don't have good intentions. I remember my ex would belittle me, after we separated things just got worse. I realized that he never loved me.
I gave him a dear John letter, thank you so much for your information it will help me
This is a big slap in my face ! true facts iam hearing as it’s me I relate I was dating a guy who was not !
You are SO on point!
I am so happy Ace for you.! Everything's you're saying is so on point. I have been there done that!!
Nothing but facts! Can't make exceptions because you will regret it.
This is the realest relationship advice on UA-cam! 💯💯
Right 💯
Ace you ATE and left NO crumbs.
Great Commentary. The truth.
I’m currently in situation where I feel I give and give and he just takes it from me , I give my love to him but I don’t get non from him , (not enough) so I feel I’m getting to this point where I can’t take it no more and I’m started to detach. He tells me I’m a good gf , but I can’t tell the same about him being a good bf.
Absolutely the truth!
You speaking facts 14:00 and I needed to be reminded of this thank you
I found out the hard way I'm not about that life ,but lesson learned
Thank you for this message darlin❤
Oh hell yea ur right love im writting a book
Real talk
Oak Park MI in the house. BK now but Im not a city girl either.
Ace.
You're right.
I wasted 12 years of my life with a deadbeat loser.
He does nothing for me at all.
I had to fight him for literally $10 to do laundry,for God's sake.
Yeah,no.
Plus,every single time I cleaned,he would utterly trash the place.had me haul a heavy shopping cart up and down stairs,
BY MYSELF.
Telling myself no. I'm working on it. Encouragement anyone please? 😬 xxx
I'll send you one of these 🙌 in return too if you need it xx 🙁
Keep listening and listening yall until the pennie drops xxx keep up the good self work! X
Thank you, Ace. I was disappointed in Tony Gaskin's comments to you.
Damn, Derrick Jaxn got a brother...
Love this
THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤😢😢😢😢😢😢😢❤
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I am mentally delayed and I don't know what a relationship should be like
Even neurotypicals struggle with that. Best thing I can offer is to try dating within your community to avoid predators and help level the playing field. Best of luck❤
Damn all that...stand 10 toes down on what you want
Oh hell yea ur right i work 2 jobs , and i had an alpha he put 2 engagement s ring on my finger, but he choose his family his children over his fiance then he was dumb an slow, but i left him i work 2 jobs already an own my own home he came with the money.. but dam he didnt fit my qualifications.
I dont go on a man telling me what to do... at all im the boss of me
It’s my opinion:
~ well stated. Thank you for planting seeds in many for it is good to see” Iron sharpen iron”~
FYI: your microphone was going in and out at the beginning of the video….
Good Stuff❤
I’m ROLLING 😂😂😂😂
Ace continue to do these tonight conversations
Right
The last 3 minutes. Owwwwww. Come on wit it!!
VULNERABILITY=STUPIDITY
My i am walking away from one now. I am masculine, I act like a man. Funny thing is, i am a strong black woman. He act more feminine and thats the problem.
Dude START ON 10😂
Should I lower my standards because he loves me BUT has less then what I have
I am not a city girl and I can't go looking for anyone
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This is good
😂😂😂 I'm no city girl at all!
What part of the game is this!!!!!! Gave me goosebumps...
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I am a beginner with relationship I don't know what to do
I believe that you shouldn’t just settle is because u never no who wand up with
Why do men decide to have a side chick even though they say they love their girlfriend?
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How can handy cap lady find a man when I am very I'll with seizures and I stay home, I am 61 and I like to cuddle and watch cowboy movie
Please I can u dont under stand everything ❤❤❤only God know what is going on 😊plese, l do love my self and I love him too and I know that he loves me too, but I am not God, the creater ❤❤❤❤❤peace
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