35 here. got into gaming in 1994 and PC gaming in 2004. Currently an Engineer, and have a wife. If youre having fun, it isnt a waste of time and you can have a completely NORMAL life. My grandfather used to make ships in glass bottles that took hundreds of hours, surely a waste of time to most people, but its what HE ENJOYED.
Of course, I think it depends on the person. I know for me, I take it to an excess, so for me personally it's best if I simply avoid it all together. I think the nuance is that your Grandfather actually created something, whereas to me, there is nothing physical that is manifested from a video game 99% of the time. That's how I see it
@@MashedLinux I'm the same. Listening to videos on quitting (like yours) now. I read a sci fi book my friend gave me last week. I hadn't read a new book in years. I loved it. It gave me a kind of happiness I don't often feel. Then? Back to video games and porn. Like a joyless dungeon I'm trapped in. Stay strong man. Some ppl can drink and not be alcoholics, others need to just say no and move on. Same with gaming and probably anything else.
Every young man wants to go on adventures. However for whatever reasons when most addicted video game players were young they were locked in the house all the time. What else does the young mind do but seek that adventure thrill from video games, anime or books. Now we are adults we have the ability of self control of our environment. We need to let go of this habit that helped us pass the time when we were younger as it now has become suffocating instead of the reward that it once was.
The problem with games like elden ring and sekiro it gives the illusion of progression. Because you’re levelling up in this video game it gives your brain the same type of rewards you would get from levelling up in real life. It also gives this reward points much faster and less painfully than you would from working out for example. Seeing notable change from working out could take weeks/months depending on where you are at in your journey. Also when you’re working out you’re dealing with stress both physical and mental. However these games will give you this reward almost daily/weekly on little cost. You don’t have to leave the house in an a presentable manner all you have to do is press a couple buttons and your instantly in the game.
It’s the ultimate sedation combined with corn, fast food and social media you have all your Carnel needs met: lust, gluttony and a false sense of companionship.
The worst thing is when you see a game on steam/ps store that you like that is on sale and you give yourself the excuse that your inevitably going to play it so it’s better to at least buy it now when it’s at a sale. You just deceiving yourself into thinking your making a good financial decision but your not driven by rationality because when you look back on many of the purchases you think to yourself why did I buy this.
Pls mashed tell me when you move your floating windows on dwm while holding the mod key how does it move so softly when i do the same its all snappy and feels really awful
"Oh no, I accidentally enjoyed myself for a while!" Yeah, you gotta not let unexpected "guilty pleasures" take you away from your obligations Kudos to you for approaching a sensitive topic, being vulnerable to your audience. but also, this is what a game is meant to do. Like, to an extent, we have entered into what my friend calls, "the digital age." It can be frightening. Change is like that. I'm not saying you're not struggling with addiction. But what I am saying is, it seems apparent that this is an area of pleasure and joy in your life that you don't usually let yourself have. And so you shouldn't call all of that addiction. It's more like, you aren't recognizing that you're engaged in a new form of fun and meditation. Like, it's not something that fits in the box. Anyway, though, you're probably about half of my age, and so I have an entirely different disposition and what some call compartmentalization. Anyway, immersive sims, and economic sims, and all the rest, well it's kinda like augmented reality. It's something human intelligence actually can't live without, in my opinion. It's experiencing things in a way that is much harder to achieve in reality. Like building a house versus building one in minecraft. Like getting involved in skiing or archery, versus just finding a game that does that. So in the end, doing it in real life Has genuine advantages. But, simulating these things lets you just get there a lot more simply and easily. It's the age we live in. Anyway to really say something meaningful here, you're in the middle of the pursuit of several goals, and it sounds like you were blindsided by Valheim. But life is about negotiating these kinds of things. It's about making space for yourself, for adjusting your expectations. You'll be very disappointed sometimes, or very elated, as you experience life in a resolution you never did before. It's a big world out there
I found myself during my college year actually feeling guilty for not playing games I spent my money on, whereas I was instead going to my computer, doing uni work and practicing programming. Not to say I’m really good at programming far from it but like I found myself dipping into that habit more. Now during the summer that’s much harder to do because I have a lot more time
i have a whole different issue with my gaming addiction. i sit at my computer for 12-16 hours a day maybe more I'm not sure I sleep maybe 4 hours tops and i game all day yet I'm never satisfied always looking for something new, but it only quells my thirst for entertainment for a few minutes honestly I've played 200 hours of sekiro done hitless runs where i only beat the game in an hour and 30ish minutes i want desperately to find and do new things but im so comfortable in my room finding a new hobby is unerving im bored even writing this i might sleep soon tbh ive been awake for 37 hours playing kingdom come deliverance gonna stop yapping now.
Good reflection. However my friend you know that you evolve as a person when it comes to vices when you learn how to use them in moderation. If you take candy away from a child that child will not eat candy however when candy is there the chances of that child eating a large quantity due to a relapse are very high, the same can be applied to video games where instead of you completely cutting something off you choose instead to work on your discipline, games should never take precedence over the most important things on your life so you have to learn when to play and when to work. That in essence is discipline having the object of your desires right there but having the will strength to control the amount of times you use it. Learn how to control yourself in the presence of something instead of completely removing it from your sight. Good luck on your self improvement journey my friend.
I feel like the main reason Sekiro is so addicting at least in my opinion is the combat. It's so smooth and clean, landing a perfect parry is so satisfying and to finally beat that one boss you were stuck on is such a rewarding feeling. The combat is genuinely memorizing when perfected.
for me it feels like video games and things like them can be really good and really bad for you depending on how you indulge in them. like video games can be very bad if youre playing 15 hours a day but an hour or 2 or even 3 some days can be a great way to spend time with friends who many be far away and to just kind of let go for a little especially when youre stressed. especially when youre able to find something else that you enjoy and love doing in the real world that you can also do to take your mind off of things or to enjoy life besides video games can be a great way to balance it and still be able to enjoy video games.
great video had an addiction to video games but stopped because I played them so many times . I was thinking of buying sekiro but from what you say it's better if i don't. I have a hard addiction to youtube rn
I feel you brother, it is rough. But you are not alone! Remember that God will not tempt us more than that which we are capable. Each day better than the last, compare who you are today to who you were yesterday and you'll see you've made amazing progress to who you were before. Take courage in the fact that you can do this. Finding something to do with your friends that you find worth your time is great even if it is online like D&D where you get to talk to each other more and be more human (but that's just me). I found out about the easy peasy method book from you and that was a fantastic help for me and my addictions. Thanks for making videos!
I'm not a religious person in the slightest, but the frame of mind that I will not be tempted beyond my capabilities is really resonating with me. That's gonna be echoing in my head for a while, thank you!
35 here. got into gaming in 1994 and PC gaming in 2004. Currently an Engineer, and have a wife. If youre having fun, it isnt a waste of time and you can have a completely NORMAL life. My grandfather used to make ships in glass bottles that took hundreds of hours, surely a waste of time to most people, but its what HE ENJOYED.
Of course, I think it depends on the person. I know for me, I take it to an excess, so for me personally it's best if I simply avoid it all together.
I think the nuance is that your Grandfather actually created something, whereas to me, there is nothing physical that is manifested from a video game 99% of the time. That's how I see it
@@MashedLinux I'm the same. Listening to videos on quitting (like yours) now. I read a sci fi book my friend gave me last week. I hadn't read a new book in years. I loved it. It gave me a kind of happiness I don't often feel. Then? Back to video games and porn. Like a joyless dungeon I'm trapped in. Stay strong man. Some ppl can drink and not be alcoholics, others need to just say no and move on. Same with gaming and probably anything else.
Every young man wants to go on adventures. However for whatever reasons when most addicted video game players were young they were locked in the house all the time. What else does the young mind do but seek that adventure thrill from video games, anime or books. Now we are adults we have the ability of self control of our environment. We need to let go of this habit that helped us pass the time when we were younger as it now has become suffocating instead of the reward that it once was.
The problem with games like elden ring and sekiro it gives the illusion of progression. Because you’re levelling up in this video game it gives your brain the same type of rewards you would get from levelling up in real life. It also gives this reward points much faster and less painfully than you would from working out for example. Seeing notable change from working out could take weeks/months depending on where you are at in your journey. Also when you’re working out you’re dealing with stress both physical and mental.
However these games will give you this reward almost daily/weekly on little cost. You don’t have to leave the house in an a presentable manner all you have to do is press a couple buttons and your instantly in the game.
It’s the ultimate sedation combined with corn, fast food and social media you have all your Carnel needs met: lust, gluttony and a false sense of companionship.
The worst thing is when you see a game on steam/ps store that you like that is on sale and you give yourself the excuse that your inevitably going to play it so it’s better to at least buy it now when it’s at a sale.
You just deceiving yourself into thinking your making a good financial decision but your not driven by rationality because when you look back on many of the purchases you think to yourself why did I buy this.
Sorry of the wall of text I just felt passionate about this as it also is a big problem for me.
This is really well said. Never heard gaming put it in that perspective before.
Pls mashed tell me when you move your floating windows on dwm while holding the mod key how does it move so softly when i do the same its all snappy and feels really awful
"Oh no, I accidentally enjoyed myself for a while!"
Yeah,
you gotta not let unexpected "guilty pleasures" take you away from your obligations
Kudos to you for approaching a sensitive topic, being vulnerable to your audience.
but also, this is what a game is meant to do. Like, to an extent, we have entered into what my friend calls, "the digital age." It can be frightening. Change is like that. I'm not saying you're not struggling with addiction. But what I am saying is, it seems apparent that this is an area of pleasure and joy in your life that you don't usually let yourself have.
And so you shouldn't call all of that addiction. It's more like, you aren't recognizing that you're engaged in a new form of fun and meditation. Like, it's not something that fits in the box. Anyway, though, you're probably about half of my age, and so I have an entirely different disposition and what some call compartmentalization. Anyway, immersive sims, and economic sims, and all the rest, well
it's kinda like augmented reality. It's something human intelligence actually can't live without, in my opinion. It's experiencing things in a way that is much harder to achieve in reality. Like building a house versus building one in minecraft. Like getting involved in skiing or archery, versus just finding a game that does that.
So in the end, doing it in real life Has genuine advantages. But, simulating these things lets you just get there a lot more simply and easily. It's the age we live in.
Anyway to really say something meaningful here,
you're in the middle of the pursuit of several goals, and it sounds like you were blindsided by Valheim. But life is about negotiating these kinds of things. It's about making space for yourself, for adjusting your expectations. You'll be very disappointed sometimes, or very elated, as you experience life in a resolution you never did before. It's a big world out there
I found myself during my college year actually feeling guilty for not playing games I spent my money on, whereas I was instead going to my computer, doing uni work and practicing programming. Not to say I’m really good at programming far from it but like I found myself dipping into that habit more. Now during the summer that’s much harder to do because I have a lot more time
i have a whole different issue with my gaming addiction. i sit at my computer for 12-16 hours a day maybe more I'm not sure I sleep maybe 4 hours tops and i game all day yet I'm never satisfied always looking for something new, but it only quells my thirst for entertainment for a few minutes honestly I've played 200 hours of sekiro done hitless runs where i only beat the game in an hour and 30ish minutes i want desperately to find and do new things but im so comfortable in my room finding a new hobby is unerving im bored even writing this i might sleep soon tbh ive been awake for 37 hours playing kingdom come deliverance gonna stop yapping now.
Good reflection. However my friend you know that you evolve as a person when it comes to vices when you learn how to use them in moderation. If you take candy away from a child that child will not eat candy however when candy is there the chances of that child eating a large quantity due to a relapse are very high, the same can be applied to video games where instead of you completely cutting something off you choose instead to work on your discipline, games should never take precedence over the most important things on your life so you have to learn when to play and when to work. That in essence is discipline having the object of your desires right there but having the will strength to control the amount of times you use it. Learn how to control yourself in the presence of something instead of completely removing it from your sight. Good luck on your self improvement journey my friend.
personally i have a coca cola addiction and i can't stop 2L everyday im gonna die by 40 but can't stop
same
2L a day is wild but you can do it.
same
every single day I go to the store to pick up coca cola then go home or a walk
Did you manually make those subtitles or did you use some kind of program?
Kdenlive has ai generated subtitles
I feel like the main reason Sekiro is so addicting at least in my opinion is the combat. It's so smooth and clean, landing a perfect parry is so satisfying and to finally beat that one boss you were stuck on is such a rewarding feeling. The combat is genuinely memorizing when perfected.
for me it feels like video games and things like them can be really good and really bad for you depending on how you indulge in them. like video games can be very bad if youre playing 15 hours a day but an hour or 2 or even 3 some days can be a great way to spend time with friends who many be far away and to just kind of let go for a little especially when youre stressed. especially when youre able to find something else that you enjoy and love doing in the real world that you can also do to take your mind off of things or to enjoy life besides video games can be a great way to balance it and still be able to enjoy video games.
great video had an addiction to video games but stopped because I played them so many times . I was thinking of buying sekiro but from what you say it's better if i don't. I have a hard addiction to youtube rn
i really like the way you think about life and make connections.
I feel you brother, it is rough. But you are not alone! Remember that God will not tempt us more than that which we are capable. Each day better than the last, compare who you are today to who you were yesterday and you'll see you've made amazing progress to who you were before.
Take courage in the fact that you can do this. Finding something to do with your friends that you find worth your time is great even if it is online like D&D where you get to talk to each other more and be more human (but that's just me).
I found out about the easy peasy method book from you and that was a fantastic help for me and my addictions. Thanks for making videos!
I'm not a religious person in the slightest, but the frame of mind that I will not be tempted beyond my capabilities is really resonating with me. That's gonna be echoing in my head for a while, thank you!
great video bro, keep it up king.