what women actually find attractive
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
- In this video, we discuss the female gaze vs. the male gaze and common misconceptions about male attractiveness.
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0:45 - story driven
1:48 - looks matter
2:34 - antidote
3:48 - playdoh
4:30 - relative vs absolute
5:55 - nichemaxing
7:05 - tinder dilemma
8:00 - bad boys
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I’ve come across a bunch of videos like this that are always completely off-but, as a girl, this one is actually so accurate (based on myself and most of the women I know lol). Hope certain communities end up find this video.
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Dammit
@@sophc8599 you can just edit a comment btw.
nevermind sometimes it get rid of hearts so idk about pinned comments either
Agreed usually its them thinking we just want some muscled torso.
@@aaronhotchnerzoltfbi8085An extremely buff sigma billionaire 🤣
Biggest mistake I have seen, and guilty of it myself as well in the past, is that a lot of guys view romance as trying to sell themselves, show their good parts (sometimes fake even) while hiding their bad parts in order to 'convince' the woman. It ends in a bad way most of the time. Instead its better to view it as a dance or a ritual, free of inhibitions, fears and even the world itself, where rather than convincing the other person, you just try to live in the moment with them, have a fun time and genuinely live it. If they reciprocate, good for you, if they don't, well hey, at least you have a great story with you now
@@StylePoints14 yes exactly and the looks threshold isn't as high as a model or an actor. I think that as long as you work out, do basic skin care and hygenie, eat and drink healthy, take care of yourself, and just the basic stuff (which your body will also be grateful for), along with basic sense of style and clothing, you can clear the looks requirements for most if not all women. And these things should be done regardless because of how neccersary they are for life
@@StylePoints14 absolutely agreed my friend
Agreed ....You gotta be free to show them who exactly you are both the bad and good ...because if they only see your good side they might not stay around when it's stormy......
Lol "a dance or ritual, free of inhibitions, fears and the world itself" sounds so corny. I just pictured myself dancing around like a ballerina on the streets, while turning the heads of all the women.
Yep. That’s the key to it-gotta let go of the expectations and know yourself and let others feel free to be themselves, and the people who like you for you stick around. But I do think some people are so out-of-touch, sometimes not even by their own doing but by circumstance or whatever-that having pointers or little nuggets of wisdom to remember to orient themselves socially can be helpful.
Cuz again, at times, to get someone moving in the first place-someone who has no idea where to start or how to conceptualize social dynamics-sometimes it’s good to have some knowledge of the generalities and loose “rules” of things go by, and keep them in your back pocket-you can always break those “rules” (and I’m using that rule loosely, as there will be so much variance individual to individual, circumstance to circumstance) by choice; but when you have no idea why you’re potentially getting negative (or nonexistent) reactions to you “being yourself”, it can lead to damaging assumptions and beliefs.
At the end of the day though, I do think what you’re saying matters the most. That’s how you bond with any human being. Like that Alan watts quote-“life is not a journey, it’s a dance”.
as a girl who has no idea how i ended up on this side of youtube this guy is spitting facts fr
u lying girls dont talk like this
@@clrmentinebruh read your comment again
@@clrmentine huh? 💀
As u'r teacher go to school 🏫 Kiddo
Exactly, this is the first video I watch where a man is actually pointing out how women are with average looking guys and even guys who are kinda ugly for them. We know it's like that most of the times. And still the world is full of incels trying to lower women's standards to be with guys who are just disgusting in their personalities, misogynistic trash, literally the opposite of what a woman would want.....
My best tips that I've learned through the years:
- It's not about getting with every girl or getting with the hottest girl, it's about finding out who YOU like and who you actually MATCH with. Mutual attraction is much more important than hotness.
- It's about having fun and being in the moment. If you have a (hidden) agenda you will become more stiff. Try to have fun, try to be present, and you will be the party
- Own your desires - don't be afraid to take initiative but also take care of your own emotional needs so that you don't become angry with a woman for not recipricating.
- Touch and laughter are 'base zero'. If you meet her, give her a high five or a hug or whatever. If you say goodbye, same. If you both laugh, make a little phisical contact. If you practice this skill (it will be awkward at first. Do it with your male friends as well to get comfortable with it, and with girls that are just friends if you have any).
- Just say hi as soon as you see her, even if you don't know her. That's how you meet people. Do not wait longer than 3 seconds. Just say hi. Go.
Good tips, thanks
Okay
I agree 100%. I wish I got the advice of being attracted to someone you connect and someone who likes you for you at a younger age vs. looks or where you are on the social status. Guys at a early age need to be taught that.
Always try to initiate casual contact as soon as possible on a first date. Hug, if you are walking somewhere offer your arm to hold, hand on the small of her back when sensible, etc.
As A Man Your Biological Mission Is To Give Out Your DNA To As Much Women As Possible, A Womans Biological Mission Is To Get/Choose The Best DNA Available. Combine:
Height
Charisma
Status
Presence
Style
Physique
Facial Aesthetics
Hobby
Mutual Attraction
Hygiene
Aesthetics
Knowledge/Mindset
And Youre gonna be best.
Thank you for not making women seem like unpleasable villains like a lot of other self improvement channels. :)
But women are unpleasant villains wat are youo of speakings about?
halo effect consumed u. Women ARE villains, they are root cause of most problems in the world
....@@IsraelCountryCube
Simp
they do it so that women lower their standards even more for the angry incels
If you go to a city square, you'll see average guy with a nice girl, but seeing a short guy with a tall girl is extremely rare, while seeing tall guys with short girls is common. When being short, you have to compensate a lot with other traits to be seen as attractive. No one said that life is fair, but it's just tiring.
Edit: some people ask me for my height. It's 168 cm. Most girls are my height or a bit taller.
Good luck short king 👑❤
u can say that to a dísable guys and they would swap their lives with your in a split second.
@@theisolation9108 I've never said that they have easier life than me.
It's natural selection, just because it upsets you doesn't entitle you change mother nature. Short guys exist because those traits were passed on during times of overall low average height in the middle-ages or due to less than consensual sex during periods of war. Now that women have choice and can be selective, they will.
There are so many short girls out there, just find one your height or shorter
Your video really struck a chord with me. It reinforces the idea that blending self-confidence, personal development, staying purpose driven, while also embracing social interaction and uniqueness can create a path to forming meaningful connections with those who share your vibe and value your authenticity.
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@@RR-et6zp Found the person who did not watch the video at all, and only listens to dumb grifters, who want to snatch guys' hard-earned money while they perpetuate the misery of both genders with cynical lies because it's profitable for them.
Seriously, if you're even a real person and not a bot, *WATCH. THE. VIDEO.*
Did I ask? Plus I make better vids than your entire bloodline man🎉🎉🎉🎉
Striking a minor?
ironically what I found is the most simple way to be more attractive is attempting to think and see the perspective of a woman's mind and incorporating it into your own life as a man. I think we are too focused on characteristics and forgot about the importance of genuine understanding and being comfortable around someone. The looks and demeanor of a person is just for the attention getting but what truly matters is the type of person you are and how you treat someone. In a way the best thing to do is stop trusting in a "method" and to just be as genuine as possible and spread that honesty and positivity in a way that will inspire others to drop the persona they put up and open up more to you. Don't try to "act" and just be your lovable true self and you'll find more meaningful connections along the way, even if they won't come as easily
What do you mean by spreading that positivity in a way for them to open up more to you? Im confused by that.
And can you give some examples?
so in laymans terms put yourself out there well allow me to retort what if you put yourself out there and people more specifically women don't like your personality or you cuz of your convictions or beliefs ?
Cope
I only came to two conclusions is that women are weird and scary
I always thought my girl was out of my league. My gf is very beautiful and Im an average looking dude. Back when we were just friends, I had a huge crush on her but I gave up on the idea of ever asking her out rather quickly, because I didn't want to make her uncomfortable by declaring myself and possibly ruin our friendship as a result. And I also thought that she would never find me attractive because I knew what her type was and I didn't fit anywhere close to it. I have enough self-awareness so I didn't start acting differently and just continued our friendship normally like always. I didn't "simp" for her or started to act "nice" to her for the sole reason that she might give me a chance someday if I did. Some time later we got closer and our friendship deepend and eventually we fell in love with each other. Even when we first got together I still had that deep insecurity in myself because I didn't fit in any category of her type. In my mind, I always thought that she just got together with me because I treated her right and Im somewhat funny. That she's just settling for me...I didn't really care because I was determined to just enjoy every second of the time I got to spend with her. I never voiced my insecure thoughts to her and I just brushed off any compliment with a self deprecating joke and moved on. But then she started pointing out what she found attractive of me and I made the effort to actually listen and take it all in. And then something clicked in me.... She said that I'm socially confident, funny, kind, mature, considerate, a great listener and that I also give great advice. Also, that I'm easy going and relaxed but at the same time passionate about my interests. She even mentioned the way that I dressed. When she got to the physical aspects, she mentioned that I had very nice arms, eyes and jawline. And that was at the very end. To her, that was the least important thing about what she liked about me.
Us men tend to think that women want partners that are good to look at and will also make them look good as a unit. Or that they look for a man with a high status and even higher income. Sure there are very vain people out there just like that. Specially through out social media. But most women just want to be with someone that will make them feel good about themselves. Someone that will offer a deep emotional connection and not a surface level thing like "they're just hot". Yes, physical attraction plays a big part about liking someone but it's not the crutch of a relationship.
Lol women settle for men all the time. Just watch the video about women dating ugly guys by Quove Studio or something. Plenty of women love their male partner, that doesn't mean he is their ideal type...
i think you look great homie
This is beautiful ❤️❤️
Keep in mind what she tells you is simply what she thinks, not necessarily what is actually true
are you black?
Be the best version of yourself you can be, for yourself and not to please or attract others. If you're true to yourself and aren't trying to fake it, you'll attract someone compatible that wants you and isn't out to change you. Don't simp. Ever.
Where's the proof 🥸
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@@RR-et6zp Yep, that's an obvious one.
Basically this! What even is a point of trying to be something you're not for someone? Sure it can work for hookups, but if you're looking for something long term, you have to fake this personality for decades. And wouldn't you simply prefer not to?
You know what, I've genuinely stopped caring. I've got things to do and I'm not going to change who I am or who I will be for anyone, I'd rather be alone than weak or false in my demeanour.
Being attractive to women isn’t weak, and imo it’s not being false. Learning the female gaze isn’t something you need to do all the time anyway, just like women appeal to the male gaze by wearing heels, adding a wiggle to their hips etc, they don’t do this at any other time than when trying to be attractive to men. It’s the same with the female gaze, you don’t need to change, just understand how to appeal to women WHEN you want to
I don’t get this pathetic mindset, WHY not adapt if you 100% have the ability too or at least increase your chances of success, there is nothing weak appealing to the opposite sex, women have mastered this hence why they have so many options which is why their leagues above us in this aspect, your the example, it’s simply adapting and changing features style etc, and over time you’ll actually grow to love it, it amazes me guys like you would rather die alone then to simply put in simple work to attract WOMEN, Insane
@@Tonali211lmao since when did wearing heels become a male gaze thing? I never seen a man say women wearing heels are his type 😂
@@-SimonRiley Yeah it’s not like women wear heels for the attention of men when they go out in a positive feedback loop or anything lmao
@@xonlytyrek3601I think it comes down to what someone is willing to change. I’m not going to put on a false personality for someone or dress in clothes I’m not comfortable in. But i think there are small things people can do in general to be more attractive to everyone, like having good manners, and dressing presentably no matter what your style is. Basically don’t look/act like a bum, which many men do, and it’s not that hard to change.
This whole „it’s about the story you tell“ thing is genuinely a good frame of thinking
Women just want to be sold s fairytale. Visuals ain't enough like it's for men
rather a cope.
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How? It's more like a metaphor Mr Thunder@@jurassicthunder
for all seriousness bro, ive been adapting some of your advices on focusing on myself and actually caring for my physical and mental well being. i gotta say, it made a huge difference on me rn than i was in senior highschool. i often notice girls in my local college and even on some other busy places glancing at me when i walk past them. of course im not saying they're into me but i think when u really understand how to take care of yourself and dress appropriately, they'll definitely notice you. even on academic stuffs and things that requires working together, i notice some smart people are drawn to me even though i lack some other resources. learning how to focus on your strengths really made a difference for me and im glad and thankful for your advice. keep this stuff coming bro, it helps a lot ngl
Keep going man!! Read books, find a hobby you enjoy and just have fun! Life is in ur hands
Good job brother! Keep grinding , you got this✊
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Women want men that aren't "too much" or "too little" on every aspect.
They want someone athletic, but not too muscular or with too low body fat. Most of them like a tall man, but not like 6'6 or over. They want someone funny, but not someone who always makes jokes, someone sensitive, but not too sensitive, someone that takes care of himself, but not too much, otherwise he would be too feminine. Also too masculine isn't ideal, most women would prefer a normal dude over someone with shaved head, long beard, a lot of body hair and huge muscles.
The only thing that a man can have as too much and still be attractive is money.
yup im tall asf and its no advantage
@@marvin2678you're not using it right
Women want hot ice.
@@marvin2678 A short dude who has his shit together (job, body, sense of humor, personality, style etc) is gonna be more attractive than someone who is JUST tall. But, if you're tall and can work on the above, you can be ahead than most guys.
@@jinadumehmet6 nope im literally too tall. one girl even rejected me bc of that which looking back is understandable and i dont blame her at all
I appreciate how straight forward and to the point you are. So many creators preach for like an hour before getting to the point. You've helped me a lot so thank you
I’ve noticed something about the story driven.
Show girls an attractive guy and say “he thinks he’s the most attractive person ever. What do you think?”
They’ll say ew he’s a 1.
But if you say “this guy so self conscious about his looks because his family calls him the ugly one”?
They’ll all be like “wow no he’s gorgeous he shouldn’t listen to them!”
It’s all about the story that gets auto generated in their head BASED off the guys looks rather than the literal look of them. Once you realize this, you won’t go back.
For a guy, it would be like “she’s a terrible person but she’s still objectively hot”
Or
“She’s a really nice person and she’s hot” lol
What women say they like in terms of looks in public is a solid waste of time. They will never say what actually does it for them, you always have to look at who they are with or who they cheat on their man with
@@jamiethomas3122yup its all about height and face
@@jamiethomas3122 either that or simply look at who they FOLLOW on social media, this is something most guys don’t even look into, it INSTANTLY tells you what type of guys their into,
@@Catchcookie and having a big schlong
The worst person you can ask about what women find attractive...is a woman. You'll never understand what they tell you.
I couldn't care less about the female gaze. Learn to love yourself and don't settle for anyone who can't love you the way you love yourself
Also its not worth it man. Women are very draining and dont bring much to the table anymore.
@@KoroushRP You don't eat own a table you eat on the ground lol. If you feel that way just simply stop pursing, thinking, and talking about us.
That's how women should be about the male gaze
@@letgo4331 I agree, the male gaze is bullshit as well. A lot of men like women who aren't necessarily "hot" according to current standards anyway. Same thing with women
You got to travel outside of your neighborhood@@KoroushRP
This one is so true. Specially the "Niche maxxing". I tell you, when I'm talking to a weeb girl I feel like the rizz master, but I feel completely clueless with non weeb women or offline women. You will appeal to your group if you stay true to yourself.
so basically you need a bath
i cannot believe the way english has changed in comparison to just a few years ago
if you talked like this in 2010 no one would have been able to understand you
@@datguy2061 already did that
Being a fit weeb already puts you in the top 10% of weebs
@@martinjugolin2087 the new terms are just "Rizz" and "Maxxing" and and that one is pretty self explanatory. Everything else would've been understood in 2010.
The 1990 would've been a better choice.
Yep ask anyone who goes to conventions, or events like Model UN, there's a lot of hooking up. Or look at Agent and Jalon. It's real. Mating is assortive.
The McDonald’s vs French cuisine analogy is really good at explaining why there’s always hope. I’m gonna use that for my friends
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None of the example of the female gaze have bald guys or guys with a bad hairline.
No. No offense.
A bald guy with a beard can be hot
balding + short + cant grow facial hair = over
I am very attracted to bald guys. Bad hairlines aren't great for either of the sexes. Just shave it all off.
@@bro918
Agreed. We need part 2. Its a good topic especially about the misconceptions about gaze
"I am the way and the truth and the life." (John 14:6)
The best advice i can give you is to read the bible and follow Jesus Christ. It will absolutely change you life in a positive way.
@@Lukas_Graceyeah. Because you’ll become more delusional.
he really needs to pronounce "women" correctly lol...
@@Lukas_Grace Amen brother! Women don't know what's good (nor do men) but God certainly does!
@@thequant2817 This world needs god fr. Satanist worshippers are running everything, and most people join them .
Fitness model/bodybuilder here - I had many shapes and sizes experimenting with my body what women wanted. In very short detail
- Big and muscular - You'll get lots more bro attention, lots, too much.
- Skinny muscular - receives most female attention as you're not anywhere near as intimidating I assume but this size was the best bait I found
- Medium - much more female attention than big/muscular
These are major benefits too
- Good straight white teeth
- Clean skin
- Great jaw
- Good eyes
- Great smile
- Decent shoulders
I find those attributes are the most obviously noticed features a woman picks up first. I hope this has helped.
Arms all day man. Women look my arms as if they are cleavage.
So just win the genetic lottery and then hit the gym every now and then.
Got it, let me just go help my bros be reborn.
By the way, you forgot the BE WHITE part of benefits too but that's okay, it was implied I guess.
@@fiethsing9988
Nah bro it's not like that, you may not have it all above but you can definitely achieve a good portion of it man.
- Bracers and brushing
- Moisturising massage regularly for improved skin
- Gym for the most of fit
- Your improved skin and teeth will have a huge impact on your smile and your overall health and gym going will impact your smile and jawline too and now there are tools like that chew thing to help, I've never tried that but that's the trend now it seems.
and I'm actually Pacific Islander, not white or African.
I was a really fat guy for years, joined the army, they got the fat out of me real fast because I didn't have a choice especially in infantry.
As a woman, for me, the first things I notice about a man is their mouth and their forearms. Most men have strong-looking forearms, even if the rest of them aren't built.
It's funny that this whole video is explaining women do NOT care that much about looks in men and you only focus on appearance lol
I remember when i was young i just got started with weightlifting, there was a huge bodybuilder in my small local gym, me and my skinny friends looked up to him and every time we asked him about getting big he just kept saying just get 6-pack, just get 6-pack, it will be much better for you with life and women.
Today im 30 and i know 100% he was right, the build women get aroused by is the thin just slightly muscular type, imagine like a bush man, if you go to africa and see them they are athletic looking, thats what women are biologically aroused by, this modern style gym build is not as attractive as guys think, its pleasing to the male gaze only.
here girls i see girls with athetic mens all the time , obvious the bloated buff is male gaze but i for what i see on daily base being thin without some muscle is not ideal
@@rafaelamorim3527 exactly most like a bit of athletic and muscles not too m uch but alos not thin
I live here in East Africa and often see guys working in the fields with their shirts off. They are striated as fuck with a 6pack and have never spent a day in the gym (modern gyms don't exist here)
Yeah, that's the look I'm going for. Shredded but strong.
yuppp... as a straight woman I literally want to vomit when I see men that look like that hahaha. it actually repulses me. I'd rather date dad bod than that body type. hahaha
I think age plays a factor, most women who love BTS and other feminine looking guys are girls in their teens or early 20s, your preferences can change when you get older
Feminine lol. Girls are attracted to youthfulness. I'm in my mid-30s and still get women ogling me much to the dismay of my wife. Clean cut and slim != feminine. I must assume you think being an overweight neck beard would be masculine?
@@luminouslight3579 yeah thats what I mean, clean cut, i didnt know how else to word it
@@luminouslight3579Euhm yeah considering how many girls have daddy fetishes or think that men reach their peak in their 30s, I wouldn't say youth is what MOST women look for. That's more of a male thing. The attraction towards boyband members stems from a very specific demographic like the commenter said and it has more to do with appreciation of artistic talent and gentle personalities which then turns into physical attraction. I can assure you if these boyband members looked the exact same, but had non artistic professions, they would not receive as much attention.
@@luminouslight3579lol i don’t think that’s true….Most women women want a mature masculine guy
Yep younger women want pretty boys, older women want more masculine men, give or take
As a 5’6 bald guy who’s on a fitness journey (lost 30 pounds got 20 more to go), this video was sooo encouraging! 🙌🏾
what weight you started at and aiming for my guy? I am a 5'6 guy too and Im having trouble understanding what kind of weight i should be at
No women ever love you, but they use you
Convert your height to centimeters, take out 100cm from it and that’s about how many kg you should weigh (but lean).
@@waow6623 I started at 225 and wore size 38 jeans which was very big for my height.
Do you have facial hair?
You know what works for me. Having fun, the gaze will come when you are enjoying yourself. You know how people say go for coffee dates or dinner? Yeah its boring. Convo is boring unless your aim is just pump and dump, which relies solely on appearance and game. You know how i end up with gfs or girls interested in me, go for a fun 1st date filled with activity. My successful dates were going to play vr, trampoline park, art jamming. U do that and all the inhibitions and nervousness go downhill. You just have fun and worry about gettin to know each other later 😂 that in itself is attractive. Vibe. No cap.
my first date is to challenge them to a duel
@@moneywalrus2069 perfect.
What is art jamming
@@pumitriii6160 just painting things like tote bags, etc, while drinking coffee or chocolate.
Its all vibes at the end of the day many ppl hold themselves to expectations and a script like mindset which is really holding back the situation. Just be yourself and vibe out
Part 2 needed
Think this is the part 2. Or I watched another channel.
100 likes and I’ll make part 2
Did you know when you come in early to a reply thread of a popular comment you get a lot of likes?
@@OnPointFresh on it
*Makes a hundred alts*
@@OnPointFresh1k already
The only study I recall was one done with woman on birth control vs woman off birth control. The study had a bunch of woman rank men while on birth control and they tended to favor the more boyish featured men. The study then had the woman rate men off birth control and they ranked the masculine lumber jacks more favorable that time.
Estrogen Poisoning will be to modern civilization what lead plumbing was to the Roman Empire.
now yuo see ...
Its weird since I am definitely in the pretty boy category for sure and women like me even if they arent on birth control so I dont know. I think hyper masculinity is out.
@@Alex-bl8uh any sort of masculinity is out. Jazz Jennings, Alan Alda and Barack Hussein Obama are male role models now. Hillary and "Big Mike" Obama have more testosterone. Fortunately, it's curtains for the West and not a moment too soon. Men have no reason to care about this society.
I wonder if age range has something to do with it?
Bumping 40's myself and find no liking to the soyboys of the modern times with the lumberjacks getting first place.
One thing I noticed is that a lot of times the " female gaze" is a bit of performative activism with attractiveness. Especially with regards to women I know personally and reading comments sections. A lot of times women will exaggerate the attractiveness of someone because it makes them comparatively feel more attractive, and because they like to patronize as a form of kindness. On one of these posts I'd seen girls claim Henry Cavill wasn't handsome, and gas up someone with a comically large hooked nose as hot. They do this, yet the people I meet with said features irl struggle with dating. It's a paradox a bit. Also, it is true that the physique may not be what women are seeking, but if you believe for any second those men are not probably vastly mogging average joes in sexual partners you're lying to yourselves. Also, many of those kpop stars are actually ripped under their clothes. Seen many posts thirsting over Jungkook's physique etc. They're not average guys. There's also data that suggests the rise of birth control actually leads women to be attracted to more feminine features. (Sounds strange but look into it). Men DO tend to misconstrue what women like. My friends who are males tend to think Michael B Jordan is ugly or average, but he's seen as a sex symbol to women. Variance is indeed true. You also didn't mention one of the reasons artists and athletes have been loved by women is the concept of hypergamy.
Yeah that's an important thing to understand. Largely, men give compliments because they really believe them unless they are transparently just superficial things like "nice haircut". But women constantly give out compliments to each other as social lubrication. A compliment from a woman is totally different than from a man. This is one of the hardest things for men and women to understand about each other I think, men say what they mean and women often don't. I don't mean this in a negative way, it's just a fact of life. It's also (imo) the source of the whole disconnect when women want to talk about their issues and just have the man listen and agree with them, whereas men when they hear someone in trouble want to offer fixes and solutions, we are direct and solution-oriented which drives women crazy when it feels like they are not getting any validation but just suggestions about how they are doing things wrong.
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I secretly believe most if not all women love a guy who will do anything for something he finds right in his heart, either morally or spiritually. Be wise but never stop being fun. I've become so high alert that it's hard showing the more fun part of myself to people I don't know that well that also has my interest. The truth is I need a balance of all emotions and willingness to succeed at different things to feel more satisfied, I'm sure some of you can agree with your own life.
Because careful sometimes they become entitled and not grateful and take advantage
Younger women value "being fun" because they live their life on recruit difficulty. So, being fun works out for them, at least in their 20s. So, they think they are innately superior to men who are actually taking their life seriously and building towards something. So, they find men who are like them "living in the moment" and wasting their own life like them(girls). After passing 30, the older they get, the more reasonable they become, as they watch their male attention, options, free dinners and life prospects dwindling. At that point the good guys are soulless corporate sharks, the women are barren and emotionally drained and the fun guys are broke and directionless in life.
Modernity sure has created a dysfunctional society by rewarding recklessness and punishing productivity.
As for me, I am in the same boat. I now instinctively do cost benefit analysis on almost all things I do. Doing stereotypically fun things and chasing girls never makes sense that way. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
I think I may have caught someone’s attention. I am not sure exactly what I did but she just seems to love that I treat her with respect. At this stage I can still totally fumble it. I am still a bit of a mystery to her. It’s just very bizarre to me because I never had anyone express genuine interest in me.
@@andrewrivera190 Bro you fs gotta spend more time with her and get to know her more! I know what you mean because it happened to me pretty recently too...the way she was looking at me while we were talking def made me feel like she was interested. By the look of things mans it seems to me like you're already in the door 💪
lmaoo go back to reading your novelas
When you said "most people are meeting through dating apps," that made my heart drop. I had like no matches and I don't even think I look that bad :(
Are you a man that's in decent shape?
That's why 34% of young women re single but 63% of young men are single, and that number will only rise higher and higher. You can't negotiate real attraction through charisma and confidence if you're not already insanely good looking. The average woman has hundreds if not thousands of matches to choose from, so it is 100% about looks first and personality/charm later.
If you don't have good looks, it is completely over for you. No women will swipe and date you when they have 200 other better looking guys doing exactly the same thing.
People use dating apps because they are convinience, and guys sometimes use it to compensate for their lack of confidence. I say buck the trend, and start talking to women in your circles, like maybe at your job or the gym or whatever. It doesn't even have to be about dating. Just normal small talk to make women feel less intimidating.
Most of females and your crush that you see around are getting ducked by same guy in other words of other commenter.
i’ve never met someone on a dating app. they’re always in school or work. or old crushes that hit me up after years without seeing each other. don’t worry, you don’t need a dating app. just be nice and funny and eventually a woman will fall in love with you. the person i loved most out of all my exes was, i’ll admit, not physically attractive. but i actually thought he was the most beautiful person to exist, because of the way he made me feel. the female gaze being like playdoh is the most accurate way i’ve heard it described.
Im lean, tall , athletic, pretty much all the traits u mentioned
My confidence is so much boosted now
Ill be more open and confident around girls now
Thanks man
Ill work on myself!...i already am actually but yeah
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Boys, I'm gonna admit if she doesn't find you physically attractive, it really doesn't matter how confident, funny or smart you are. She's not going to stick around the find out. All the women who found me attractive I have made terrible jokes, acted like an idiot and was shy around with zero changes to their attraction, where as women I was confident with didn't care about me at all.
I'd wager 80-90% of your attractiveness to women is purely looks. No personality required because if a girl is into you from the start, she will ignore or look past your personal faults.
I agree, looks are important. Just like men ok with dumb hot girls women are also ok with dumb hot guys.
But guys can take it far and marry those dumb girls and then regret it afterwards when dumb people make dumb choices. Women are smarter/choosier. That's why they fk the top hot guys but marry the average but stable.guy.
Exactly
Bro speaking facts
wise words
Exactly. This video is Total bs. If you are tall and broke you will still bang lmao. Money stuff is for banged chicks after 30+
too many copes
Women like good facial features. People use Vinnie Hacker as an example of "prettyboy" that's "not too much masculine" and yet that guy's jaw is bigger than 90% of the people.
People that say you need a "balance of masculine and feminine features" are wrong, thick lips are not feminine, good skin quality is not feminine, good hair is not feminine, those are HEALTH INDICATORS. It means you have good genes.
Even the "masculine" men you show have all good features.
Skin quality is fixable, hair is fixable, fucking hell even jawline is fixable. There’s no excuse
No thick lips and full thick hair are feminine cause estrogen causes that. And men with tbose feautures look so hot. So this video is right you need to balance masculine and feminine.
@@sainisaha5023 you don’t even need estrogen to get that. A simple coconut and castor oil mix overnight twice a week can do that as long as you’re consistent
Women and men both like attractive people, is this news? Maybe its 'coping' but if you are just not blessed in the looks department you absolutely need to work in everything else, because people hate ugly people, and hate ugly, boring, useless, poor people even more. If you can't rely on your face for a free ride in life, do anything and everything else.
How would you explain BTS? Or the asian male beauty standard at all?
Growing up with severe acne, I was used to being ugly. Girls either rejected me, roasted me, or just genuinely felt bad for me.
As a grown man, I have no idea if a woman is interested unless I ask. Smiling and being nice isn’t a sign, it’s just being normal.
I feel you so damn much, it clearly affected my confidence and still does
@@Nocturna.bounce back hit the gym find God practice semen retention focus on urself and heal bro I know what ur talking about
@@Monke_boi13 yeah im clearly doing better, Im in good shape and try to put myself first as much as possible
@@Nocturna. 💯💯
Yeah when you enter adulthood everyone have their customer facing face. Polite and distant.
I agree women find different types of males attractive
However if a guy is ugly nobody will find him attractive
Same with women being ugly
I think its important to mention these things
Thankfully being ugly is mostly self inflicted because of bad hair styles, lack of hygiene etc.
@@saisameer8771 true
@@saisameer8771em no sir,looks are genetic,especially if we are talking about face because the features that the face has are the most important thing so no you can be presentable but nothing more
So women evolved to be attracted to who can lie to them the most convincingly. Man this is depressing
Well it's true. Doesn't matter if it's depressing . If someone is good at lying he has better chance of surviving 🤷♂️. It's survival of the fittest, women choose fittest guy it's nature. Nature can be depressing, well it is depressing
@@pushapraj2819bullshit.
Only depressed people think this way,
brother.
Life is a competition,
yes,
but not survival of the fittest.
@@AWarriorFromNature anyone who don't fit in socially or morally or physically or intellectually find it hard to survive. 🤷♂️ look at other animals, those who weren't fitting perished away.
@@pushapraj2819 I know that you are Indian.
Please brother,
do not think negatively.
@@AWarriorFromNature it's reality, stop living in Disney fantasy world
To address the first part:
Women aren't attracted to huge muscular guys but the reason that guys want to be like that is because it intimidates other males which indirectly gives them access to women due to other males giving them the right of way due to intimidation. Once you gain enough life experience and you realise that being able to make money and friends in the right places is way more valuable than bing big an muscular. As long as you arent a dweeb then girls will like that.
The issue is..... the kind of female you attract depends on what environment you wander in....
You go to MIT you're gonna attract study focused woman.
You go to Gym you're gonna attract muscular betches. (Which most certainly gonna hop on another dudes dick within 7months)
You go to music class and you're good at it, you will attract a piano head.
So basically _AS A MAN_ the grinding never stops and you have to be at the top at whatever you do to attract your dream woman.
_But a real queen is the one who has no hidden motives, or planned agendas to be with you.... And this goes both ways._
Judging couples on the street is a terrible way to gage what women look for in terms of looks. We don't know their story or power dynamics within the relationship, and who women are seen with in public and who they are likely to cheat on someone with might be 2 very different types of people.
Women will cheat with uglier but more hung guys. It's a status thing. No men and women want to be seen publicly with ugly people whether as a partner or a friend, because it lower their perceived status. So side dudes and side chicks are all ugly but more sexually satisfying people
also this doesnt mean they dont care about looks, they just care about different things, for example timothee chalemant is considered attractive by a lot of young women, but not by men....
@@marvin2678 He's got that lush pretty boy hair, smooth skin, big eyes and facial symmetry that i expect appeals to many girls, especially in their teens and early 20s
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The girl who said she wants 150 to a quarter of a million?. Did you see her face when she was asked would she equally contribute?!!!
Her eyes opened wide in absolute shock, then she regained her composure and said yeah absolutely, this is women they just lie, she’s probably a waitress or barista good luck with 50/50. And I think generally men don’t lie about height it’s not as if you can hide it, unlike weight that can be kinda hidden or is harder to estimate just by looking at someone.
A lot definitely do lie, though I would say tall guys wouldn't in general. Like I'm 6'2... what's the point in lying?
@@conorneligan7694 exactly I am 6'3 and I don't think I have ever lied about that. Why would I do that? You don't need to lie when you tower over most men anyway.
Her eyes never opened wide in shock
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I think it's mostly men under 6' who lie. Anyone at or above that don't really need to as they're already tall
I feel almost everything in this video applies both ways. If you're a kind, confident, rich or attractive person, people will like you.
I'm not confident nor Rich , although I'm average attractive.
I used to consider myself ugly but I started reading people's body language, you can see people act strange around you ...
Like your presence alone makes them feel uncomfortable ....OR..... some people really open up to you , they directly trust you ,approach you first for any help
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"Female gaze is story driven.", "women don't view male attractiveness as a purely physical equation." Meanwhile, the vast majority of men on the cover of romance novels, female gazed videos, etc, are attractive men. Even the men shown at 0:33 to show what the female gaze is are still facially attractive. The reason why men, when they go to any busy downtown square, see "average girls with average guys" is because men don't know how to rate other men's looks. The average man will probably think a pretty boy is less attractive compared to giga-Chad. So, yes, the female gaze is mostly about looks, but what men think is physically attractive to women is different to what women actually find physically attractive.
Additionally, the whole confidence, mysteriousness, charisma, etc, is mostly cope. These things are most often tied to looks. The better looking you are the more likely you will be perceived with having these qualities. Good looking people are literally perceived to be kinder, nicer, less violent, more outgoing and overall better people.
0:29 - "What women are attracted to has huge variance. What guys try to do is distil it down to a science": Just because women have variance in what they find attractive, doesn't mean you can't distil looks to a science. Looks are both objective and subjective. Certain features are seen as good looking/more desirable like jawline, cheekbones, eye shape, hair type. The men women often do find attractive will still be physically good looking and possess features that are seen as scientifically desirable. Some may prefer pretty boys over more masculine types. Some may prefer a man with a mix of feminine and masculine features. But they're still going to be physically good looking. Babies can even tell who is or isn't good looking. People, on average, can tell who is or isn't good looking.
Using Pete Davidson as an example of the female gaze being like playdough isn't a good one either. Pete Davidson is above average in looks, tall, and lean.
You also mention how you only need to be a few inches taller than the women. Well, according to surveys women are most often happiest when their husband/boyfriend is much taller than her. Search: "The key to a happy marriage? A tall husband: Couples with the biggest height differences found to have best relationships." Also, taller men have had the most reproductive success throughout history.
Additionally, when it comes to "bad boys". Women like them because the one's that exhibit these "bad boy" traits are physically attractive. Literal studies showed that when looks were held constant, dark triad traits didn't make a man more attractive.
He said as "purely"
@@sugarzblossom8168 Then what percentage of male attractiveness is looks driven?
I agree it's not 100% looks driven, just like the male gaze isn't purely looks drive, but both are still 90% looks driven. But this guy in the video, and other women describing the female gaze deem it as not really looks driven, it's driven by other factors just as much, if not more. When in reality, when the examples of female gaze is used, it's 90-95% of the times good looking men.
The male and the female gaze is 90% looks driven, it's just that women don't care as much about alpha masculinity, stoic manly man as much as men do.
@@wanking3432 of course in books they would try to give you a man that is attractive in every aspect and sell a fantasy.
You said that dudes aren't good are judging another man's attractiveness so they may look average just to them but what if they also look average or even not attractive to the women?
Not sure if there is any statistics but story may make up for a lot.
@@sugarzblossom8168 Right, why would you put a schlubby guy on the cover if you are selling an ideal? Also, the "bad boy" types tend to be consistent, whereas the "Nice Guy" (tm) is wishy washy and has ulterior motives. If you approach some woman like you worship the ground she walks on and then call her a bitch as soon as she rejects your fumbling attempts to woo her, that makes you look like an unpredictable lunatic and she's going to run for the hills. Guys have to figure out who they are and stick to it, before worrying about women.
@@Darksphere101 I think with nice guys people often get the wrong idea what I think most women refer to are guys who say they are nice but aren't.
3:08 Those 'average' guys are what are called 'placeholders'. The women aren't really attracted to them. They women have basically latched on to them until they(the women) can find a replacement.
Yeah just like a chad fucking becky who thinks she is his wife now, but it’s until he find new Stacy
AFBB
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truthnuke
Redpill cope
4:05 - When Ryan Gosling qualifies for the "He's alright category" 🤣
I was like "bruh"
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@@RR-et6zp 😌😂🤣
I've always felt I am unattractive as a guy since maybe I look at things from the male gaze. I am not a 6 footer and neither am I muscular. Yet still I have had to do my fair share of rejecting girls. When you said women love someone self assured that struck me since I am not actively finding a relationship, I am happy with myself. For me my personality is the only thing that carries me but I have been told I am good looking by girls too lmfao.
6ft thing is not true imo. Amongst my friends we don't mind shorter guys (tbf being below 6ft isn't short 5"10 and 5"11 is tall). And this is coming from a relatively tall girl (5"7) whose never seen the importance of height so I don't mind guys who are shorter than me. :). It's down to personality fr. Also I've noticed it's always the shorter girls who enforce this standard (I think it's because they want taller kids lol).
@@ohohpelia2166You know , I am not point at you. But height matters , consciously no human will accept it cause everyone things they aren't a horrible person while 90% of human population is horrible. Height basically rules your sub concious , people talk back to short dudes more than tall guys , leaders are mostly tall and imposing , girls subconsciously find the opinion of smaller men insecure cause smaller men tend to be insecure. Height shouldnt mean anything but you are lying to yourself if you think height isn't something.
@@ohohpelia2166 - besides, it does NOT make sense for a short woman to want a tall man, since genetics is not a wish concert - you don't get what you want (short daughters, while sons being tall) - you get random deviations and you do NOT want your daughters come out 6'5 and be struggling to find a man, but your sons to come out short and also struggle to find women.
@@Koldyuki have you ever read history or opened a book in your life.... You would understand that the way you look has nothing to do with anything .... Short tall fat thin ugly handsme they all have their advantages and disadvantages but in the end its always your personality or i may say your intellect because thats what saparates us from animals or our instingts.... If we keep thinking that a shallow thing such as height is realy more important than personality then we will not go anywhere....
You can trust a compliment from a woman only if she jumps at that moment on your penis. Otherwise, it's just general politeness.
3:28 all these things matter only when you are a handsome guy. If you're all of this and you're unattractive, then you'll be labelled as a creep.
“Just be taller than the girls you like” well yeah, that’s kinda hard as a 5’2 male
Over at birth
Maybe relocate to Asia where women are even shorter
not really, the girls around me are usually 4'8 or something and theyre older then me
plus my 5'0 friend has told me before she only wants like 1-2 inches taller so, women like that exist
over for you
"We are a generation of men raised by Women. I'm wondering that if another woman is really the answer we need. "
-Tyler Durden.
As a girl myself, I can confirm that this is what we want in a romantic partner: how they dress and how they act is what I (and probably most other people) look for. Do you treat women with respect? Did you offer the elderly your bus seat that day? Small stuff like that. Personally, being jacked just adds some extra brownie points, you just have to be fit (even just semi fit will do for me, I’m not asking for u to look like the rock lmao), nice, and know how to treat a girl right. That’s it. My standards are literally just that. No flashy cars or luxury homes (even if that is really ideal), just a modest guy who can provide for himself and, if needed, me.
When walking around a city square, you can see attractive women with average men, but also attractive men with average women. I guess, in simple terms, it boils down to "the best available option" (in terms of balance between attractiveness and personality) for men and "the most secure available option" (in terms of balance between being a provider and being attractive) for women.
Above average guys coupled with average women are suspect
Women care about personality more than men do
@@Shreya...1 That sure is what they tell themselves.
suuuuuure@@Shreya...1
@@CatotheEy’all forget that lesbians do exist so yea some care more about personality than face
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 👁️ Focus on the female gaze when aiming to be attractive to women, as their preferences vary widely and are not purely physical.
03:17 💪 Confidence, security, self-validation, and mystery play significant roles in attracting women. Physical attractiveness alone doesn't define how appealing you are.
05:17 📏 Height, income, and status preferences are relative, not absolute. Being slightly taller and having a somewhat higher income than a woman can be appealing.
06:38 🍔 Embrace your niche and unique traits instead of trying to appeal universally. Find your own unique attractiveness in a crowded world of dating.
08:16 🦸 Traits like confidence, social skills, setting boundaries, and standing up for oneself attract women, not necessarily the "bad boy" label itself.
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Thanx bro
@@immogirl7262google it, they used it to summarize the transcript of this video with key notes.
Harpa AI, chatgpt, claude2 are options
@@immogirl7262 yeah, I'm interested too.
Standing up for what is right is very attractive to us women along with these. We hate selfish guys.
You know its over when ur using AI to make notes on how to attract women 😂
“Don’t be McDonalds, be French Cuisine” that’s the dopest advice I’ve heard
mc donald’s will only bring unhealthy relationships 😂
It only just reminded me again that looks DO matter :(
They do but don’t think you need to be 6ft, 8% bf w abs, and cheese grater jaw. Fit, clean, style and passionate hobby is all you need. Only caveat is that this takes time. Cant do it in 3 months.
Yeah... just another blackpill video disguised as a whitepill kek
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BlackPill is Law
Nah always improve
Who said you can't improve? You may roam/cope inside the confines of the BlackPill. You don't escape the laws of physics by going to the gym, now do you?!@@mohamedsaid9416
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Black pill is defeatism
Depends on what day it is, but most of it revolves around resources, social status & instant gratification.
Thank you for explaining this.. I've been trying to understand this concept for some time now.
It's like what we think they like VS what they actually like
yeah, you're a good looking dude, but a lot of women will probably look at your profile photo and just think you're vain. i'm sure you will get plenty that you can talk to as well though. look good bro. lol
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It's over boys. It has never been over like this before.
As a guy, I can only say never, never follow others and firstly think for yourself. When it comes to physic, appearance and style arrange it in a matter how you want it and in a way that it looks natural on you.
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1.2M views in just 4 months is indicating that lots of my brothers are insecure about themselves...just rock it boys, u good.
*"We've all heard the phase 'six figures, six feet, & a six-pack'."*
I've actually never heard that phrase before.
I really needed this video, I've been getting to much stress and have been thinking and trying to hard with this, thanks to this video it breaks everything up and makes it easy.
You don't need women validation. That makes u a bit*h
Watch tails, he breaks down how to appeal to the female gaze better than anyone
Skin color also plays a factor.
Bro in India it's one of the biggest factor. If you're white you'll it's high chances you'll get a girl
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As a girl this is the only dudebro channel i've seen that's gotten it right- like we aren't a hivemind lmfao
we incels are right,women are the judges of a man worth in this society,making dating almost impossible for young men.
Here are some reasons why dating is impossible for young men feel free to dispute me:
There are more men than womeb specially below 40
More female asexuals than male asexuals
Women are much more picky,choosy,judgy specially in dating
Women They are much content alone than men, due in part to the little society punishment that single women have,single men suffer humiliation, degradation and displacement specially virgin men
Virgin men are unattractive to most women
Short guys(5'6 and below)are unattractive to almost all women
Men have to do the approach
Women have much lower sex drive than men and are more harder to arouse.
We are right in almost every point yet people like to lie.
Men are in the most risky jobs and also more men die in much more numbers and also die younger wtf,and women tell themaelves they are the ones that are opressed If Elliot rodger had been a woman I am 100% sure wouldn't have a any problem having a partner, women have it so easy its infuriating 😡😡😡😡
Unrelated but if you've seen BTS members outside of their artistry/performances, they are masculine guys. Most kpop boys are jacked but people prefer to see the softer face to comment on them being feminine males over their muscular bodies, serving in military, and having a traditional mindset which meets not only the Korean masculine standards but of most cultures worldwide.
(I'm not talking about attractiveness but putting them in opposite categories with masculine men which ain't true. The common argument against it is that they wear makeup which is for camera and lookism in Korea.)
- Confidence in the eyes when speaking.
- Humor of your surroundings with appreciation.
- A sense of self.
- Dad material.
David Gandy is the ideal guy most women find attractive. Tall, lean with muscles but not bodybuilder big, strong face, ideal stubble, facial asymmetry, certain aura to his eyes etc.
If you got similar features to him, incorporate things from his look
no im a girl , I don't find him attractive he is not viril and masculine , actually woman crave for military man and fireworker and bikers man
@@skate3635You've shown a clear misunderstanding of the topic.
So YOU like people that you see as outgoing risktakers, men who value their lives based on the excitement and satisfaction they can generate based on their own enjoyment/helping others.
Which isn't a bad thing, they are relatively good qualities for the most part. But military/firemen/bikers don't have one body type or personality type, so saying "women are attracted to xyz" isn't correct.
I'm a slim, hard working, determined guy, I can't grow much facial hair but I have strong masculine features but I have large (potentially feminine in some people's view) eyes.
I manage a shop and work in the customer service sector and care about people, I care about animals and care about others, but I am by no means a buff risk taking guy who will do anything for an adrenaline rush. But I am extroverted, confident and social.
I get plenty of attention based on how I approach people/hold myself.
People are attracted to different things, but aesthetics are borderline irrelevant. A woman I am seeing at the moment was in a 5 year relationship with an extremely jacked dude that spoke her native language as he is the same ethnicity. Yet I am a white british male who is slim (slightly toned) but I have infinitely more confidence than he had, I am more outgoing and I am not self conscious in any way.
So by your logic, she should not find me attractive as her typical type was the polar opposite of myself.
In short.. "types" are bad. "types" are based on lust for a superficial ideal and not anything with substance.
Vinnie Hacker, BTS and Damien Kater are good to copy if you’re going after young attractive girls. If you’re going for 23+ then Michelle Morrone is pretty much the archetype that still appeals to the female gaze. Old women want more hypermasculine, it depends who you’re selling to
Great point, and even then they still have types. David Gandy is not the ideal man, as he will not appeal to all women even 23+. Women have types just.
@@skate3635You don’t speak on behalf of all of us…
More evidence as why you shouldn't take advice from random dudes trying to sell you something
the editing for this video is out of this world!
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This channel is a gem bro, really appreciate these videos
Dude i swear your videos are the best, most videos like this i find are not as good as your's cuz u break each information apart to help us understand more, whilst others just probably make some random crap
FACE and LMS channel explains it all with data and studies...its all biological and hard wired, there are certain things that EVERY woman will find attractive.
Precisely. What people find attractive is mostly looks. All this other stuff like charisma, game, mysteriousness, etc, is mostly tied to looks. Women may have variance in what they find attractive, but the men they do find attractive are going to be good looking, which means looks can be broken down to a science.
@@wanking3432 Data also backs that up, the more attractive you are, the more positive things are pinned to you (the halo effect). If you are not attractive enough, you wont even get your foot though the door to show the charisma, charm, intelligence etc. plus being the most attractive also will do other thing, women only show their true self to those guys, I speak from experiance, a beta guy would be slapped in the face even from his GF if he told her to bend over cause he wants to make a photo, meanwhile a guy like me can say that and the girl bends over all wet without second thoughts. Not to mention things they do in bed.
Yeah that's obvious. Every one find smooth unblemished skin attractive, but no one based their decision on this alone. That's the point of this video.
There are some things overlooked in blackpill community. Mystery, games are real things even though they're tied to looks they are seprate from looks too. The thing is that these mysterious guys with good games have high iq, which is genetic. If an ugly guy is high iq it's not attractive but if an attractive guy is high iq he gets a tremendous boost in his smv. Suppose if chico has 160 iq, he would have been way more popular among girls, however no girls care about a bald fat scientist with 160 iq🤷♂️
@@pushapraj2819 I don't think the blackpill overlooks these aspects. The blackpillers I've come across take these things into consideration. A good looking guy haloes these other qualities (like intelligence, charisma, etc).
Also, a good looking guy who's average in intelligence will come across as somewhat intelligent simply because he's good looking.
Women aren't always attracted to tall jacked muscle man, however, many men are. So if you're spending 5 years trying to get ripped just to raise your sexual market value, your wish will be granted lol. You'll have many suitors on the right kind of parade.
Gymcelling is an epidemic. Guys would raise their SMV more in 10 minutes by wearing elevator shoes, learning how to do their hair and putting on jewellery than years of diet and training.
Exercising is healthy in general tho and every man should be doing some form of fitness to stay in shape. Going to the gym doesn’t automatically mean going to look like Hulk Hogan. I’m muscular and 100% natural and it’s also something enjoyable
@@Zzzzzzzxxxxxxxx that’s some giant bullshit. Having a muscular physique can change a mens life. It’s much more than how you look. It gives off a social status that nothing can alter. You cant borrow, steal or inherit it. It says a lot about you without even speaking. It shows your work ethic,
dedication, discipline, passion, ambition. All male values.
@@gabrieles2848 &? We’re talking about attraction through the female gaze. The main positives of having a good physique are chiseled jawline, visible veins and abs with v-lines. The rest is for bros
@AAb-gf4bv where are you getting that the rest are for Bros? Women like this type of physiques too.
Wow this is One of the Best Videos on the Topic ive ever seen. It deserves Every Single view.
If I like a guy physically, I don't care if he's shy and insecure. Another thing is that he is so insecure that he gets jealous if I have friends and stuff. I wouldn't like that anymore
Appearance. End of story. Thats why 10 are with 10 , 8 are with 8 and goes on.
Only thing that seriously matters
Exactly this video is pure cope
Nah , u are wrong , ive seen many ugly guys with hot chicks ..personality plays a huge role ,stop coping and improve urself , will ya
Great video. I wanted to add something. Apparently I am very attractive to the female gaze and I can tell you that women get boring quite quickly. Having access to lots of girls etc doesnt make you happy at all. What you truly want and need is one kind girl that you want to connect deeply with and thats possible for nearly everyone of us♥
So even if you are in a tough spot currently. Dont lose hope. You will get there for sure.
I know how you feel, it's almost like a womanizing mindset but unintentionally so. I've noticed many girls who I found attractive clearly eyeing/sizing me up over the years but I just didn't have the drive/interest to try and make a move. Even when I did make moves and have girls in my company, some really conventionally attractive, it just never lasted very long
But here’s the thing, WHERE ON EARTH CAN YOU FIND THAT “one kind girl”
Developing carisma is such a boon tbh,it helps in pretty munch helps you anywhere
Learn to spell before please
read the unplugged alpha by richard cooper. Gilrs date guys who they deem are better, higher value than themselves mate
@@RR-et6zp idk if you should trust male gaze perspective,i say this as a gay guy myself dude and i share some atraction traits as a woman sometimes,we want ppl on the same level as us,as it can make it unreacheable
You missed so hard on the wealth part my guy. Talking about traits that make you wealthy as attractive, but then literally show someone who was born into wealth lmfaoaoaoaoaoa
A lot of people shame men for the "male gaze" basically putting men down for being attracted to women's bodies. It's normal to be attracted to physical appearance, lots of women do it too. It's normal to glance at a woman's body, if you're attracted to them, but it's weird to stare. Women glance too, but it's also weird if they stare. Having preferences such as "big booty" or something like that is not wrong. I'm tired of women shaming men for this.
Feminism perspectives on males attractiveness are mostly hypocrites.
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@@Alex58355 Hypocrite
According to feminism, the female gaze is not looking at the physique of men, the female gaze is looking at other women, in short, being a lesbian.
Alot of women are following trends, fads and impulse. It's not as complex as the video makes them to be. Plus its just not even be worth even trying to understand them.
Thank you for this video man. Also make a part 2❤️
Women like men
Are not a monolith
Attraction is on a spectrum and some like masculine feature more than feminine
he's video was very on point altho i wish he would have mentioned other types of mens women actually like instead of just explaining the bad boy traits. there are plenty of other traits that can make u attractive whilst still being confident etc but not a bad boy at all.
Having huge bicep and chest should be at the bottom of the looksmaxing list..the top 5 is lose fat, perfect hair, good skin, fashion and perfect teeth.
Simplicity difference between a man and a woman is insane
BS. 😂 only looks matter.
Nah. Its called infatuation.
I had that female gaze similar to the one in the thumb nail. Went to ask for the number, she said no lol.
That means she was a attention whore lol or you did something in the approach to turn her off
Another problem with dating apps is that it's like 75% men 10% women 15% advertisement and spam bots. That is why dating apps are a trap to make men pay money for a sausage party.
4:05 Ryan Gosling falls in the "yeah, he's alright category" 💀
This is the first video that actually explains everything right imo as a woman. Well done.👏🏻
What straight women find sexually attractive:
1. A tall man with broad shoulders
2. A man with resources (money)
3. A man who is popular and well liked by many, specially women (sociable and extroverted)
4. A man who is dominant and confident (genuinely gives off a sense of security)
What straight men find sexually attractive:
1. A healthy looking woman with visible curves (it just needs to be barely noticable for it to be attractive enough)
2. Personality (subjective to every man)
Anyone making it more complicated than this is either confused on this subject or is being dishonest
You didn't mention face, jawline, hunter eyes, cheekbones
don't forget hairline@@jakonjhn
Honestly doing all of this sounds too much to get a girl ngl i think i'll keep to myself
The dating world is honestly more like a Shakespearean play at times than reality.
This is one of the greatest videos I’ve seen, so helpful and I’m not even done
Love how he put keanu reeves when he says kindness.
This just made me more depressed lol. I'm just going to be myself but also take care of myself for ME. And if later I'm able to talk to the right women then awesome because the chances of them coming up to me are slim.
cope
This is probably one of the best videos I've seen on the subject.
The female gaze truly does see things that the male gaze doesn't.
Nop 😂😂😂
Yeah it's because we women and girls got raised to value other things than looks and keep themselves in contact with our emotions
2:01
Okay....a new crush has been developed
4:06
Aaaaand another one
5:09
The 300 lady is the only legit one
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Wide appeal vs niche maxxing
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Huh would you look at that? Now my new crush makes sense.
bro really put Chris Pratt in the "ahh hes alright" category
Thank you for making such a nice video. Too many men get stuck in this rat race of impossible standards, and to see a content creator be genuine and take a honest approach to things is really refreshing
No 😂😂😂😂