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GIRL. You said middle of February and I literally panicked for a minute. 😂 Thought I had blanked out an entire month’s worth or time.
Same 😂
Same lol I was brushing my hair and I capital P Paused
I picked up my phone to make sure this is a new video and not from last year 😂
Me too! My adrenaline just spiked 😅
omg yeah I had a mini panic too hahaha
Last year I wanted to draw 100 Pokémon. My mum pointed out that was a high bar, so I ended up halving the goal to 50. At the time I thought “this will be too easy” but lo and behold, she was right. I didn’t have to draw two every week and was able to catch up when I had other stuff on some months! Ultimately I drew 54, so I have a sketchbook full of Pokémon (one per page) rather than giving up when I fell behind. So fully endorse this idea.
This year, my goal is to do 25 social activities!
I'm glad that she said something and that you surpassed your goal, that's incredible!
I love these, but I want to add two points from my own experience:
1. Resolutions don't need to follow the calendar year: As a person who grew up in sunny Florida, but now live in the UK with short gray winter days, I really feel the difference in how my body feels in winter in a colder, darker climate. It makes me want to curl up with a book, paint, rest, etc. Thinking of January and February as a time to rest to bloom brighter and stronger in spring feels a lot more natural. Perhaps one could have a Spring Equinox resolution instead or let resolutions follow work patterns (resolutions for a new school year). I'm unsure where I heard this quote, but it seems fitting, "We don't expect a flower to bloom in winter;" why should we expect ourselves to?
2. When I make resolutions, I add something like "work towards" or "try to" the beginning of my resolutions. That way, I can be clear on intentions but without the stress. For example, in the example of running 10x per month, if I am working towards that, if I manage 3x the first month, that's fine, I'm working towards 10. If I manage 10 runs one month, but only 5 the next because I got sick or something, I am still working towards that consistency. I find it a helpful mental trick to combat my tendency towards anxiety and perfectionism.
Yay to embracing hibernation!
Love and agree with both your points! I also live in the UK after growing up in a sunny country and I've learned we need to cut ourselves all the slack we need during the winter months (easier said than done sometimes, of course!).
As an American, yeah… today’s not the day.
Facts.
As your direct neighbor (mexico) yeah I'm feeling it too
Honestly just using this video and its timing as a crutch to get through this day
Felt the intro that "today is the most depressing day of the year."
As a European my condolences for the sh show having that Putin fiend oh sorry I mean Putin friend of course is not exactly great anywhere must admit going to focus on community and democracy Ps. Make sure to have fun as a form of resistance. Big hugs if wanted!
i love bingo cards but not for goals, instead for "bucket list" type things to spice my life up. i do a different one each season that's themed around the season e.g. cooking an autumnal recipe, having a spa day. it helps to stop me from defaulting to watching youtube/tv to relax and to make memories doing silly things
Love this! ❤
I do this seasonally too. I make it up with the family and we all get say in what fills up the board. It goes on the fridge so we remember it. We checked off winter’s “build a snowman” and “drink hot cocoa” yesterday.
Something else I like to do, especially for goals where it makes sense to be something I do every day (like going outside or washing the dishes) is have a high bar / low bar system for tracking it. Going on a walk or to the shops gets me the high bar tick, but sticking my head out onto the balcony gets me the tick too. Having a clear sink when I go to bed gets the high bar tick, but doing a single dish before bed still gets the low bar tick. Much more motivating this way.
My government asked me a few months ago to go get a specific list of things in case of emergency. Electricity or water cuts out - I should be prepared.
I didn't prepare. Because whole-arsing a long list of items (some expensive to buy, some I use and re-stock like canned foods) is hard!!
But I need to half arse it!!
I am going to get three vital things:
1) cans for storing 20 litres of water.
2) a portable/chargable radio because my phone doesn't give emergency signals and you need information.
3) an outdoor cooking kit. I have wanted on for ever for hiking. Now I have a second reason to buy it.
Half arsing is soooo much better than nothing! ❤
For storing water you can also reuse food safe containers. I use 5L vinegar containers
@@zabmcauley5647 Also restaurants tend to have big containers of things you can wash and restore food in that they dispose of when empty. I work at one and take home the 5 L salad dressing containers to store food and other things in.
I draw doodles of my goals and colour them when I get to them. At the end of the year, the entire goals page is not coloured, but it's still pretty. And I feel accomplished everytime I did something. Granted, some of my goals are "going to the cinema x amount of time" but I know I won't do it if I don't fix it as a goal. I'll instead stay home and watch UA-cam videos for hours asking myself why I'm not happy. So colouring it is !
Love this!
The book has been the self-help book I have needed!! The tone is of when you are at the pub, feeling sad and have that pep talk in the toilets with a stranger! I have spent the last 10 years of my life almost wishing it away trying to constantly seek being the best in aspects of my life and not stopping to enjoy any aspect of my life. Thank you
Reframing consistency is a good one! what I find very important is to still consistently give myself the opportunity to do the thing. For example: Ideally I would like to work out every morning. so I plan in a way that carves out 30min for working out every morning, and my gear is easily ready etc. and if I'm just too tired or get sick, or if I really really do not feel like it, i don't do it.
I love this! Prioritizing the importance of setting yourself up to do the thing mentally and time-wise, instead of prioritizing the importance of actually completing the thing every time.
I am working on letting myself not have to do things every day. I used to have a daily yoga practice for 3 years and I missed like 5 days in that entire time, but post Autistic burnout I struggle to do frankly anything a lot of the time and now I have long covid too which has made it even harder.
Reminding myself that it doesn't have to be every day to be a success is hard but helpful.
Same! It’s so hard when every bit of lifestyle/habit advice is centred around consistency and daily habits…but that’s just not how life/being a human works most of the time. Wishing you luck and improved (not perfect!) energy and health in 2025 ❤
Same! I learned a long time ago that trying to do something (anything) on a daily basis is guaranteed to make me stressed and miserable within just a few days. Now I aim for 2-3-4 days a week and don't even track it all the time. I joke that the only thing I successfully do on a daily basis is brush my teeth - that and breathing, I guess 😂
I saw your article in the Guardian! The photos of you capture your enery so well. Loved the staging and it just made me further realise you're one of my biggest role models (oops, sincerity alert). The article was right, wise is the right word for you.
I'm a new-ish parent at the moment so my capacity has decreased a lot and HAH is helping me get back some balance in my life
I had learn to drive on my new years resolution for years - new relationship, moved house and then a pandemic - definitely made it take longer.
I've now passed my test and my goal has changed to pay off my car so i can start saving for a camper van - the true dream
I KNEW they were made with MS Paint! 😂 And I agree with your editor, they were the perfect choice!❤
Thank you for being such a force of positive peer pressure in the world. We love to see it.
I finished the book and I have to say, no joke, it's gonna be a staple favorite. Your voice transcends really nicely in print, and your writing is also a bit poetic. It was so much fun but also so useful advice!
i wish my brain was in a place right now to digest this, but alas. i hope that i'll be able to come back later when this very very blue monday has (hopefully) passed over here on this side of the pond. but still, thank you for trying to be a force for good, leena!
Bingoifying your goals is such a good idea! I’m coming into more free time this year and want to do an absurd amount of things. Putting the goals on a bingo card is perfect for not feeling like failing if I don’t hit all of them
Thank you, Leena. I'm currently in terror for the state of the world in the next four years - and I'm not even American.
Leena I can't express well enough how much watching your videos helps my mental health. Sometimes I really want to give up on everything because yeah the world feels awful. And you gave me hope. Thanks for the years you put yourself out there on the internet. You make z difference at least in my s small world. Big love
the ass metaphors are the best thing i've heard in a long time 😂 i'm watching this rhe day after Blue Monday, but due to life/work, i was feeling even shittier than yesterday. You've managed to make me feel better about the day. 😊
Your book is beautiful and you 100% should be product placing it where we can see it. Especially when you are talking about it! Show everyone your lovely book!
On Monday I took my 3 year old to the park and after an hour we were so cold he said “we should’ve never come here” definitely blue Monday
I actually made a bingo card this year!
It includes things I have to do anyways, like get a haircut and do my taxes, and silly things like pet 10 dogs and learn how to metal scream, but most of all are fitness mini challenges.
I have already walked every day for a week and I notice I feel better when I go for a walk, so I have mostly continued. The biggest goals are to get 1 pull up and 1 chin up this year, when I don't remember ever doing those before.
For me November is the worst. The moment the winter solstice rolls around, I know I'll be fine.
Same fr lol
Leena. I am absolutely blown away by this video and can’t wait to read your book. I feel so called out in the best and most timely way. I am that person, I set myself extreme challenges, realize I can’t follow through, then procrastinate and give up even my already established “good” habits until I feel I can start whatever challenge it was again. What a waste. And you’ve broken this pattern. Thank you ❤
leena i'm so glad i bought this book, i'm only halfway through but i can already tell that i needed it. thank you, thank you, thank you!
Xxx
Oh it was def very depressing for me, i have a flu from hell, spent it either writhing in pain or shivering under 3 blankets. But! I managed to eat two meals today so far! So hopefully the curse is broken.
Covid/ flu test, drink a bunch of water (like at least a gallon), get antivirals if u can
I'm feeling great about half arsing my training because it's better to show up and do what I can, rather than try to do everything perfectly, struggle, hate it, feel bad about how mediocre I am, and maybe quit. I just adapt the workout to what I can do, and maybe in the future I won't have to adapt it, who knows!
It's amazing to get the book, read the first 2 chapters, and on the next day, the author to talk about it 🎉
literally just read the first chapter of HAH, then opened youtube to see this video pop up 🎉 happy blue monday, thank you for trying to help us not try too hard
These diagrams are GORGEOUS. I love this!! You are a gem and this is such a delightful reframe. Thank you!!
I cannot tell you how badly I needed this video today. Can't wait to get my copy of the book!
The only goals I set for each year are a reading goal and some experiences I'd like to have (last year it was to try different food stalls at the market!)
I also tend to do it around my birthday as it feels less arbitrary and more personal :)
Can't wait to read half arse human once I'm done with this intensive course of psychotherapy - don't want to take on too much self improvement at once!
I find your videos so motivating :) I'm trying to read more widely this year after a long time in survival mode not having the capacity to stretch my reading muscles, as well as my usual numeric goal. I haven't figured out an experience I want yet as I have some big holidays planned unexpectedly, but lately I'm feeling like I'd like to do more long walks on weekends 🤔 we shall see!
Happy blue Monday! Hope this year treats us all well :)
I love the thought of using your birthday as a check in and goal setting marker instead of using the first of the year!!
My copy of the book just arrived and I'm so excited to start it!
And just generally America today. Thank you for posting a video today.❤
As someone who's birthday regularly falls on Blue Monday it's socially a terrible time of year! Everyone is skint and noone feels like celebrating 😅
Did I pause the audiobook so I could watch this video on my little solo date? Yes. Did I realise the opening is similar to to book and continue watching away? Yes, yes I did
😂👏I'm laughing so hard I'm on the edge of my seat becoming one of Leena's illustrations when they came up on the screen.
By complete chance I found your book on the shelf of my local bookshop on the day it arrived in-store last Thursday! So I had to pick up a copy and look forward to reading it!
I agree! Those are hilariously perfect illustrations! Also, I adore the colours and fun of this bedroom. And your Bingo card gave me a fun idea 😄
Your set-up is so gorgeous, you have impeccable taste!!! Love the bed covers and the wall colour together
I’m having quite a success with this year’s resolution, to watch less ads.
I think in part because it’s not an absolute, it’s just less ads, not no ads. But more importantly this is my first resolution to place the blame outside instead of inside. It’s not me that’s wrong, it’s the media, it’s the system.
Side tip. When I get too many ads on UA-cam I close it and don’t pick it up the rest of the day, when I open it the next day there are way less ads. I’m not sure if it’s coincidence or the algorithm, just thought people could test it if they wanted.
I finished your book last week and loved it! I can't think of a better book to read at the start of a year, it really got me out of my funk around setting the same goals over and over. The chapter on health and exercise was a life saver as someone who hates exercise. Now I'm finding fun ways just to move my body 20 minutes a day. Maybe I'll join a gym one day, but it's okay if i"m not there yet
I am already a couple chapters in (feeling pragmatically inspired!) but this is the perfect companion with a reminder of the overall framework. Love the Paint graphics btw haha.
Been struggling for a while and having a VERY blue January but I always walk away feeling oodles more happy after one of your videos (especially this one!) Excited to see everything you make this year 💜
Such a good talk. I feel so much better on this dreary day with a list of goals of which I just failed the first one. But now I now: I did not fail, it really was a sh... goal. Very mean to myself. I will change it to a goal that is nice to me. Thanks, Leena!
Great advice, I heard you and I find myself making amends with myself more and more every year
A lot of things you said I already believe in, but hearing from another person was really validating 💖 it took me two decades to really understand that half arsing is way better than not arsing at all in fear of failing or shame of judgement - the only thing I will full arse will be half arse everything that really means something to me, like making art 🎉 thank you for the video :)
Hearing you read this is a great promotion for the audio book
Just finished the book yesterday and still watched (and enjoyed!) this video 😁
I can't wait for your book to get to my place, I've just bought it from Spain
As someone with ADHD the stuff about consistency is so on point, because essentially I have a brain that doesn't LET me be consistent. I'm medicated for said ADHD and it does help a lot and I'm generally doing a lot better but it's still just like yeah I'm still dropping the ball a lot.
For an added complication I'm also autistic and dyspraxic so I've basically got a brain that's constantly fighting itself, and it's exhausting. And yeah due to various factors my life has been quite 'Look the main goal right now is continuing to exist' for a good while.
I'm also AuDHD as well as chronically ill and was starting to build up my life a little past "the main goal is to continue existing", when last year my partner suggested having a theme to the year instead of a goal.
We had "the year of enrichment" where the idea was to try to do more things that fuel curiosity or just... Make you genuinely feel a bit better.
So stuff like: take photos, go on a walk and notice what everyone is doing with their gardens/weird decorations, try a new recipe or a new cafe, go to the library, listen to a bit of new music, learn a type of origami, learn some plant names, see what happens when you try something hard and lose your shit at it... Like it can literally be anything that you personally find enriching to your life.
Idk there was something that worked about it cause it didn't feel like a restrictive goal or something to fail at, but it gave me a bit of momentum!
I'm convinced. Book ordered and on the way.
I had to pause the video at the half arse diagram. Bravo Leena, a true masterpiece that brings forth nothing but joy 👏
Can't wait for the audiobook in the U.S.!
5 minutes in and enough to decide to finally buy the damm book. Love u Leena!
(the audiobook actually)
I love the idea of a bingo, this idea that I just need a row! and luck has a hand on it, my goodness, yes, yes, yes.
This video was so fun and uplifting to watch, thanks for the treat!
love this, this will make goals more achievable and sustainable :)
Needed this. Thank you!
half-arse illustrations are perfectly on point i love it. i oscillate between freeze response and overwhelmed by the possibilities arse-hole.
Lina Ican`t believe you made all these things up to axplain the half a* concept. You are genius!
Just got my copy at the local bookshop 😊 greetings from Germany ✌️
Oooh I love the jar idea! Thanks, Bert and Ernie 😅❤
I was not expecting to resonate with this as much as i did! It actually works for my ADHD brain.
I live in America. Hopeless would be optimistic compared to how I am feeling.
I love so much of what you’re saying. I listened to the audiobook the first week of January and so many aspects of it resonated with me! From work to attempting veganism to crafting to friendships.. yeah, I need to buy the book and highlight all the bits I want to go back to (actually seeing you in Nuneaton this week so will grab a copy then!). I especially love the idea of half arsing veganism, I’m slowly trying new things like oat milk in my tea and eating out vegan and like the idea of doing one day on, one day off. And with crafting, I love dressmaking but get overwhelmed with all the project ideas until I’m so overwhelmed I don’t make anything because the thought of all the tasks gives me a kind of decision paralysis. But love the idea of halving the amount you want to do and not overloading yourself with tasks. I am guilty of feeling like I have to match the output of the people I follow on social media and it makes me resent my hobby so definitely looking to change that this year 😊
This is a rare book of advice that doesn't sound like it was written to make me ick.
I have just survived 2024 and that was enough but a lot of those responsibilities have gone now. I think I need to think about what choices and agency I have again.
I'm 34 now and my goals for the new year have actually been achievable over the last few years 😁 I've gotten better at planning, clearly 🤣
Loved this video! PLEASE ALSO I'd love you to do some audiobooks, your reading is simply wonderful to listen to and I'm so exhausted of having to choose between american audiobooks or overly pompous british accents. Thank you!
😂 yes I must admit when I was listening to the audio book, I was shocked when you straight up called me an arsehole. Not just one, but multiple types 😂 Alas, here I am, now quite accepting of the fact I have been a hovering arsehole for years 😂😂
Loved your book! I don't think I ever read anything that made me (almost in every chapter) want to grab a phone and talk to the person who wrote it, so we can exchange thoughts and ideas and exclamations.
This was actually so so helpful. I now really want to buy your book!!
Love the bingo card philosophy for personal goals!
Excited to read the book!
Just received my preorder
I like to make five-year goals instead one one-year. Not much more than i would aim for one year but with a lot more latitude and scope for new things to come in
Hi Leena! I just wanted to let you know that your book was the catalyst for me trying a half-arse-veganuary, and now I'm really enjoying it and I think I'll stay (half-arse) vegan.
I just bought the audiobook! Love your view on goal setting
So excited to see you in Sheffield tomorrow! x 🧿🍉♥️🇵🇸🏳️⚧️🇸🇩🏳️🌈
omg that bedding against the pink wall is rad as hell
I started watching feeling navy blue about myself, but I ended up at a nice purple. Thank you!
As a perfectionist to the point of never finishing anything (oops), this extract was super comforting, thank you Leena!! 💜I do have a Q: will your book be in libraries?! 👀2024 was my year of rediscovering the library and I would just love to read your book!!
January in my opinion is the worst time to start planning your year-end maybe because my birthday is January 2 so I'm used to everyone being in another co u try or depressed for my only celebration of January! No, I give myself theDecember month to start trying new ideas as others are likely to support this cheer too and so there is room in January to not feel like a failure as well as blue because I've already trialed and errored during the more festive time and if I'm doubt I just start again in Spring! 💗
Sorry typing on old tablet,nightmare to edit,correct and type!
Im totally going to try the bingo card with a mix of goals and a mix of fun things.
Omg bingo card is such a good idea. I don't do NY resolutions because I think it's destined to fail, but creating a bit of a fun card summary of what I want seems like a useful but non pressured way of keeping track. Thanks Leena! When will the book be out in paperback?
oh the bingo card idea might be genius...i saw you do it with your Year of Make Do and i dont know why i didn't consider applying that format to other goals! I night try like a monthly low-impact bingo goal card 👀
My 4 year anniversary of quitting smoking is coming up soon. Because my new years resolution for 2021 was to quit smoking. Not at midnight at new year. But at some point during the year. I contacted the NHS stop smoking service in december in advance. Had my first call with them beginning of january. Got my nicotine replacement sorted etc. And then I quit. And then when I slipped up, I hadn’t screwed up the resolution- I could start again immediately.
Yay! My local library has it! Love my local library!
I love the intro and outro. I think it's gonna be the video I first recommend to my friends when I tell them about you because it starts completely hilarious and turns serious without you even noticing it. I loved it. Thank you for the chat and the book :) Speaking of events, I'm going to England in october/november, do you think you will still be doing events by then?
This motivated me to finally buy your book
I’m so obsessed with this whole take… no more ass hovering in 2025
That is some exceptional MS.paint work
This video is so helpful
You know how people have presentation evenings with their friends, imagine finding a cute fun way to play bingo with your friends using all of your individual bingo cards
Half arsed illustrations!! It totally works
I think this is the first time I'm not watching a video by Leena through to the end. I actually feel pretty good about my 2024 and also not like an a-hole, but now I kinda feel like I should? And I'm starting to question my perception. I don't think that was the intention with this video. So I'm leaving. See y'all next week
Loved this!
Brilliant ❤
Please I need to know where you got those bedsheets!😮