I think what she’s trying to say about forgiveness is that it’s healthy and healing to forgive those who hurt you, but that doesn’t mean you have to trust them or have a relationship with them anymore. Forgiveness and trust are not synonymous.
Yes, I think that is right. By forgiving someone, in a sense you are letting them go, releasing your connection with them, refusing to let them affect your energy any more. You are not saying that anything they have done is right, you are not saying that they are an appropriate person for you to spend time with or even that they are a safe person for anyone to spend time with. What is important is to realise that it is not just your right but your responsibility, as an adult, to set appropriate boundaries with others in order to protect yourself from harm. This is a necessary skill which not all parents teach their children at all effectively. Some children have never been given permission to say NO, or to stop something that someone is doing, no matter how bad, or harmful it is. As a child I was told I should always put others first & in my attempt to be 'good' & pleasing, I let others do what they wanted, even if it really hurt me. That is what I was taught to do as a child. As a result of this I suffered a great deal of mistreatment. I had been trained to feel I was terribly bad & selfish & totally unnaceptable even if I politely said no to someone doing something that actually harmed me. Which of course was terribly bad parenting. Now as a mature adult I reserve the right to make my own judgements & decisions about others & their behaviours. It is not my business to decide whether they are good or bad but it is my business to decide whether it is right for me to spend time with them or become involved in their activities. I do not often have to confront others, though sometimes it is necessary to confront bullies. I am very polite & quite diplomatic but I do not find it difficult to remove myself from situations where I am not being treated fairly. I find that when I realise that someone has not been treating me well & that I am not going to put up with it any more, the energy between me & the offender changes & they no longer want to be around me. They sense that I am no longer available to be used or abused & if they don't I just say no thankyou & goodbye.
I AM learning how to speak, command my mind to correlate with the positive person God created me to be, and, the positive person I AM. I AM changing MY life. Blessed be God. Thank you Marisa Peer.🙏🤗
Thank you. Every morning I wake up. Can't wait for my new phenomenal coping skills. I'm learning from you. Unlearning fear & hate. Now I'm reprogramming, & hard wiring new code.☮
I really admire you Marisa Peer. For being so honest and transparent, for being so assertive and loving what you do. I don't even need to know you to know that. Just looking at you makes that clear. You can see that you love what you do and truly care about your customers. Thank you for being that person. I mirror myself a lot. You are the mother I wish I had and never did. You are an example to me. Thank you for donating for us with your videos and books. You were faithful to your gifts and God honored you for that. I want to be faithful to my gifts and help other people too. You have made a difference in my life and you have made it in the lives of many people. I am not to praise anyone. I am quieter. But I really wanted to do that, because I feel a lot of gratitude.
Dear Marissa I admire you and your wonderful work! I’m planning next year to join your course and become a therapist.. I always like to help people and naturally support and guide.. my mother always tells me that I’m like her “spa” she loves talking to me .. I don’t judge her for her past Im trying to understand and look from her point of view and perspective.. and than combine my little knowledge and share with her and this is how she sometimes even finds answers to her unsolved issues from the past. I’ve learned so much from YOU my dear Marissa that helps me to cope with my life and move on! Thank you again 🙏💐💐💐💐
Thank you Dear Marisa💖The sweetest soul with soothing voice💐You are my Phenomenal Mentor during my Challenging phase( though I have nt met or spoke with You)Immense Gratitude with Intense Love for You✌😍
Thank You So Much for your Positive Gift! I found you after a very difficult narcissist relationship. I am Up & Healing. I forgive him & myself because of your words & your story....Thank You 💝
If you try to prove how successful you are to others, you will fail every time. Remember the only one that matters is you. You don't have to be the child who makes a drawing and then runs to mommy and have her post it on the refrigerator. Your success to yourself is your reward. No one else will appreciate you as much as you appreciate yourself. And yes, I'm a psychologist.
@@bobmatson7268 that's the thing that by "I'll show you" you actually get the motivation to prove it mostly to yourself! I'm a person who doesn't care what others think about me. But this spite is sometimes useful. 😊
Clueless, the movie, was requested, then rejected once the writer wrote it. She showed it to many film producers, and finally a friend who was a CEO of a film company who loved it, then the original requester (and everyone else) wanted it. 🌷 I rejected the film the first two years it was out. The soundtrack won me over, and here I am talking about the history of it 20+ years later 🙃
I love the tone of your voice it's so easy to listen too. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us who truly want to make our live wonderful and meaningful.
"Do not make yourself suffer" Dear Alvianne. If you're reading this. I want to say that you hurt me in the past. I felt really hurt. But you grew up to be successful. I want to be friends even if you hurt me. Even if thinking of you makes me hurt. Because I want to grow beyond my limits. I want to be a better person. I forgive you even if you don't deserve it. Even if you're not asking for it. I forgive you because I love myself. Because I deserve to get rid of negative feelings about you. When I think of you, I felt like a loser. I don't want to feel like this - insufficient. I want to feel complete. Even if I'm not perfect I'm gonna love myself. I deserve love. I want to thank you because you taught me to feel this way. And you're existence teaches me to grow inspite of your greatness. Your presence teaches me that even if I am less, I still learn to love myself. That I don't need to be more in order to be loved. Because I am enough. I don't need to weight my value in comparison to you. I can manufacture my own self-acceptance. I don't need to please you or people like you just so I feel that I'm valuable. I'm already enough. Thank u Marisa Peer.
Ma'am somehow I feel good while watching your videos, because the issues you talk about ,totally relate me and I understand that is not only my problem but many.. Thank you Ma'am
Thank you so much! ❤️ We're thrilled you’re starting this journey of transforming your thoughts. It’s a powerful step, and we're here cheering you on every bit of the way! 🌟 -Marisa Peer Team
Hello Marissa I love your videos sooooo much. You helped me a lot. Would be super nice if you could make a video about healing your skin. I suffer from psoriasis and eczema for a long time now, and many other people do too. I think I healed my past and let go and forgave people but there might be still some deep rooted issues there. x Much love x
You are amazing. Thank you for what you do. As Ms. Texas and an advocate for victims and survivors of domestic violence, sex trafficking and sexual assault, I think they need to hear this. I'd love to interview you about your thoughts on healing in such areas.
Marisa I think you are brilliant, and a lot of your self esteem and confidence videos you have made empowered me. This video has good content but I must share my thoughts with you and others about something. This topic of forgiveness a narrative that too many therapists, religious people, people in other spiritual communities love to push is that people 'have to/must forgive, and forgiveness is not for the person/people that hurt you it's for you'. Forgiveness is NOT a requirement for healing. So many including myself have healed/are healing without forgiving the person/people who we suffered at the hands of. I have spoken to a lot of people who have been constantly told they must forgive and are in agony because they don't want to forgive because what was done to them is unforgivable but they are being told/forced/bullied/preached into it. This is dangerous. People DO NOT HAVE TO FORGIVE. Especially when it's something like any form of abuse, or if people break up from a romantic relationship or friendship because something terrible like cheating, murder, stealing, abuse, and abuse from parents/siblings or any other person that happened in childhood, teenage years or adult or all combined. It would be highly disrespectful for someone to keep going on to those victims about how they 'must forgive'. If people want to they can, if not they DO NOT HAVE TO. Here is some thoughts from last year about this from another therapist. twitter.com/shrinkthinks/status/1140652956980785152?s=20
There's a very famous quote about forgiveness that I love - "Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." But you're right, it's an entirely personal choice whether to forgive or not X
@@MarisaPeer Thank you for your reply Marisa. Some of the other things you spoke about I recognised from what you have said in your other videos and interviews. I wish I could say all of the following face to face. I know about the quote and it was something in part you mentioned in your video. I have spoken to a lot of therapists, spiritual teachers, religious people and have encouraged them to look at it a different way, they do not have to of course, it's an invitation and encouragement from me. Just as forgiveness is NOT a requirement for healing, people can experience peace without forgiveness. Even if people do choose to forgive, they are not going to be transported to some magical realm, (not that you said this) but so often this is how it comes across, and how certain people talk about it. People who choose to forgive will still go through pain, trauma hurt and it will take time to heal just as those who do not forgive the people that caused them so much pain and committed crimes against them. You have a daughter who you love, I wish a healthy long life, but if something similar or the same happened to your daughter which happened to George Floyd, Jamie Bulger or the 6yr old boy who was thrown off the Tate Modern roof last year and people were telling you, that you must forgive, and if your daughter's murderers came to you saying they were really sorry, I wonder how you would feel about those people preaching at you with that message. I wonder would you and others who have this belief be confident and bold to tell the families I mentioned above they must forgive the murderers of their beloved? That would be Outrageously Out Of Order. You have thousands of people who watch your videos Marisa and occasionally I do read comments and people say some lovely things about you. Although intelligent, some people are not individual thinkers, some may say/think 'if Marisa Peer says it, because she has 30+ yrs experience as a therapist, won awards then she's right' and the reality is that is not the case, just like the doctors you talk about in your videos and interviews, and you say 'just because they told you that, it does not mean it's true'. So when I have discussions with people that have the same belief as you, I explain all these things to them. Particularly people who have a wide platform such as yourself, it's really important as you know to be responsible with your message and emotionally honest. So many people who I have spoken to have been on the edge of suicide because they are having people passive aggressive people, and overtly preachy people, and other people who have good intentions but still trying to force victims to forgive. The peace for these people came when myself and others explained why they do not have to. I prefer the way this topic is explained by the therapist who's tweet thread I linked in my previous post. It is inclusive, sensitive,very well articulated and honest not saying you do not have these qualities but on this topic this therapist's tweet thread wins for me. twitter.com/shrinkthinks/status/1140652956980785152?s=20 Have a healthy week. X
@@rebeccacharles5758 It’s interesting that your very long posts lecture Marissa on one important point that she specifically talks about. Maybe you missed that part. Im not disagreeing with you, only questioning why you feel the need to lecture her on something you seem to actually agree on.
Therapy and got into a I'm not good enough I don't understand the Techno jargon I can't do this So listening to you has given me I can do this I can learn the Techno jargon I will do this RTT and be fanominal at helping people all over the world Big thank you Marisa love Yvonne x Ps I'm reading your book I AM ENOUGH XXX
Hi Marisa, thank you so much for these videos, it’s so generous of you to share your life’s work with everyone 💞 I do have question if I may…and if you have already dealt with the subject could you can point me in that direction…It’s that I am married to someone who denies the existence of body language and actually can not empathise at all…it’s like a very physical brick wall, I’ve always thought that I am just to sensitive which is probably true too, but something unbelievably awful happened to me recently and took a year to play out…he couldn’t relate or even comment or respond or be supportive in any way…how do I get over that? From listening to you I feel so much stronger in knowing how to help myself from my own perspective which benefits everyone else in turn which is great, and I will listen to you every time negativity creeps in, to regain my resolve but I know that I’m eaten up with resentment for all the times he’s made me feel worthless and unloveable…We’ve been married for 36 years and I’ve only just understood that he actually can’t help it, he is totally internalised and absolutely fine with that himself 🤷🏼♀️ Help that I have spoken to say that we should separate amicably as best we can, but friends seem to think that he wouldn’t cope without me, I’m scared of what I’d need to cope with too. I think I’m trying to gather opinions and strong advice from people who I feel that I respect their opinions in order to give me strength one way or the other…
Hi Marisa, I am very good at letting people go and yes I keep them out of my life if they seem toxic in anyway and never let them back, I just need to be reminded what bad they did and have also learnt my lessons that the people you once let go, never let them back in your life but sometimes it’s so difficult to forgive people who are long gone from your life. For example, a molester.
Forgiveness is always a personal choice, there is a saying: "Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." But of course it is up to you x - Marisa Peer Team
Kripleen Ks I will share this, in hopes that it helps.. Someone said recently to think 💭 of it like a train 🚂, you are the engine, and you have all these cars (issues, people, baggage 🧳 from the past, etc.) attached. Every time, you start it’s hard and harder to pull all the cars connected to the engine (you). Then, think 💭 of disconnecting one, by one, by one, and then all that is left is just, you, the engine. Now when you start, every time it’s lighter! No more pulling those cars with you. And that, feels really, really, good! Or, try a ceremonial burial. Pick a place you know you won’t have to go by. Pick a tree. Imagine that tree is the person. And let them have it. Then, bury by that tree, not necessarily literally, the person, the incident, the pain, the whole entire thing with its ramifications. Make sure you pull the roots out from inside of the deepest of your soul, body and mind. Never ever to come back to it. This will help you start fresh from the moment you walk away. However, this takes extreme awareness to the fact, that you have not left ANY whatsoever roots behind in you that one day will come back as a small weed/bush. It may take you a few days, weeks to gather up and digging. The idea is to uproot it all. To let it out of your life. To get your power back. You, are God’s perfect creation. Hope these are helpful. Blessings🙏🤗
Rly dislike when ppl ask how you are (not that they actually care) and you say something really positive and out of good manners ask them back and they're like "not bad" UGH. That's so lame. These are ppl who have a LOT to be thankful for
I have reservations about this Not everyone will win the gold medal. Sticking to that may be a waste of time when you could have been pursuing what is your passion. I did this with something and it felt abusive. I felt like a failure because I couldn’t do it but stopping lead me to discover what I really want to pursue.
Marisa , when I was young , I kind have rough childhood emotionally , then I learn to be alone , when I grow up I realise that every time I got relationships , friends , I leave early for any reson , sometimes , it is not big things , though I know I love those people still I just can’t stay , I can’t see my self being with them in rest of my life or even dreams , except my family , my family is my blessings , but I can’t let my self being with other people? Why is that ?
Our relationship with our family is amazing, they never leave or give up on us no matter what. Also, we can do terrible things and get away with this. On the other hand, our relationship with other people isn't always like that. We don't get away with a lot of things and they push us to level up. Also, it could be that you are scared of leaving your comfort zone for fear of judgment. There are a lot of possible reasons, you need to be willing to dig deep to unearth the true reasons. Let me know if you need help.
Marisa, can you talk about constantly comparing ourselves with others. I am doing that all the time lately and it is giving me hard time. Why do I compare myself so much? Lots of love. xxx
Hi DV, watch some of the videos in this playlist, they discuss how to let go of the fear of being different to others which is strongly linked to what you have mentioned 😊 ua-cam.com/video/cM14xcrSJBA/v-deo.html - Marisa Peer Team
Have you at least seen a movie scene where the man comes begging for forgiveness? Usually after the lady has an affair with dump someone but he does it and begs to be heard. Or the woman goes behind her husband's back thinking it would benefit him and it backfires and he finds out about the harm. Then she explains and begs to be heard because she was really trying to help him.
Have you got support? It's important to get help if you are struggling. Try to stay positive and give yourself time to process the situation. Things may change, if you can keep some form of contact in a non-intrusive way, letting your child know that you still love them is important, but respect their need for space and time to process things. Try to empathize with their pain and understand their point of view, learning from whatever mistakes might have been made in the past, so that going forward hopefully you two can improve your relationship. - Marisa Peer Team
Why does Marisa Peer use regression ... 9 Answers I feel that within every experience a purpose is served and lessons learn t. A lesson for the client undergoing a regression session, for the therapist facilitating the session and for whoever is recipient of the information and passing judgment. Integrity of the facilitator is at stake whenever she / he facilitates any form of hypnosis. Discernment is for the client to seek for themselves someone who they feel can handle the issued that want to be explored. However, depending on the soul's chosen lessons they wish to experience, in this incarnation, they may choose a facilitator who will fulfill their needs. These lessons can come in many forms, learning trust, self- worth, loss, acceptance and many more lessons, where a person who would take advantage of them, would be the chosen candidate for their experience. As the question is concerning instilling false memories; is the facilitator responsible? Yes, possibly, if she / he was deliberately leading the session and wanted to, as Jon Miles mentioned ... You are so beautiful, Czech show motorcycle, Sprite Spiderman,Pipo I love you.
Hello Marisa. I feel I keep on making mistakes at my job. I'm always afraid I'm going to lose my job. Please make a video on how to let go of this fear and enjoy my job.
Intrusive thoughts, in your mind imagine those very same thoughts on a piece of paper crumple that paper wad it up then in your mind make that paper burst in to flame gone for ever
Hello Mr. Gallegos! I really like that idea and have heard of it, or ones just like it over the years. I was just curious to know if it took several tries for you or did you find that it took only once...
@@louistulloch1159 Thank you for your reply, This does take practice and to add imagine a window by you opening the window when any intrusive thought bothers you you yourself in your mind opens the window and the intrusive thought gets sucked out into space then in your mind close the window. Replace intrusive thoughts with positive thinking focus on something that you really like . like a field of beautiful flowers stay focused walk through the field concentrate on your surroundings in the field flowers every where roaming hills. This is your quiet place. Focus on some one you 💘 love.. You are in control of your mind. 😃 smile. Read your Bible New Testament Mathew, Mark, Luke, John, and so on build your faith go to Church. Study Gods word fill your mind with Gods word.
Thx as i was looking in all of this and i am doing great. as this is the right way really simple it is ( and thats the best) . even with Love .... x thx . although alone i want a person who love,s me simple .
Glad it helped you Rene, and you will find someone once you fall in love with yourself you will attract someone who is drawn to a naturally comfortable confident you 😊 - Marisa Peer Team
Hi Marissa, thanks for this beautiful video. This is a life changer. However, I had certain restrictions about the sense in which your idea of forgiveness may actually be highly misunderstood as when people can't really notice the difference between forgiving for their own sake and forgiving and letting someone back in. If possible, do sometime make a video on that. The problem lies when someone cannot understand their need for self-preservation and forgive and let people back in, only to face the same issues over and over and again try to forgive them. I believe that that forgiveness has an impersonal nature to it as it let goes of the victim/wounded self in you for good, but then that may invite compassion for the other which may make you invite them back into your lives and before you blink you might just realize that they are still the same, which then makes you want to doubt the effectiveness of your exercise of forgiveness.
Rajiv an isness yes, those toxic people mostly stay the same. You forgave them and they'll hurt you again and again. May be it's better to forgive them, but I would recommend to stop contact or at least not to spend much time with them. First and foremost we must protect ourselves! (Sorry, Marisa... hopefully you don't mind ... I answered the question on your behalf... if anything is wrong, please feel free to correct it...)
You missed out on what I am prescribing here, the need for compassion and the perplexion it brings. Compassion may well hinder your more tribal sense of self-preservation.
"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." That doesn't mean to say you have to let them back in your life once they have wronged you X
Not to discount what is being said, but this is not applicable to everyone. You know, sometimes, ppl actually have something wrong with the body that is causing the pain or migraines that are debilitating. These are that things that so called medical professionals would think of me when I companied of the pain I was having. They always sidelined me, made an excuse when they could not figure out what was wrong with me, it suddenly became my fault. I was too weak, I could not handle the pain, I was lazy, over reacting or did not try hard enough or even I wanted the pain killers because I liked them. It prevented them from properly diagnosing me and it kept me ill and in pain for too long. Then I finally had surgery, and then they were all 'ohhh this is what was causing your pain!" My 1st surgeon had left something in me that she should not have, I had surgery 14 years later. SMH Do you get the picture & yes I used swear words. Question: Do I forgive them?
"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." However, forgiveness is of course your personal choice x - Marisa Peer Team
Hi Saleha, if you search "fertility" into my channel there are some other relevant videos that I think will be of interest to you :) - Marisa Peer Team
I'm 62 and I'm only just beginning to learn this way of thinking. Thank you Marisa.
Me too. I didn't grow up with positivity. My daughters suffered
Besides her teaching being beautiful and inspiring, did anyone else notice how good she looked here?
"I have phenomenal coping skills" , I love that
Yes, it is time for us to focus on healing ♥️ Enough suffering.
I love u u
I like u
I am alone
I am single
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Awesome advice! Also, her voice is so soothing and calming. Every time I listen to this, it immediately calms me down and gives me hope.
I think what she’s trying to say about forgiveness is that it’s healthy and healing to forgive those who hurt you, but that doesn’t mean you have to trust them or have a relationship with them anymore. Forgiveness and trust are not synonymous.
Yes, I think that is right. By forgiving someone, in a sense you are letting them go, releasing your connection with them, refusing to let them affect your energy any more. You are not saying that anything they have done is right, you are not saying that they are an appropriate person for you to spend time with or even that they are a safe person for anyone to spend time with.
What is important is to realise that it is not just your right but your responsibility, as an adult, to set appropriate boundaries with others in order to protect yourself from harm. This is a necessary skill which not all parents teach their children at all effectively. Some children have never been given permission to say NO, or to stop something that someone is doing, no matter how bad, or harmful it is.
As a child I was told I should always put others first & in my attempt to be 'good' & pleasing, I let others do what they wanted, even if it really hurt me. That is what I was taught to do as a child. As a result of this I suffered a great deal of mistreatment. I had been trained to feel I was terribly bad & selfish & totally unnaceptable even if I politely said no to someone doing something that actually harmed me. Which of course was terribly bad parenting.
Now as a mature adult I reserve the right to make my own judgements & decisions about others & their behaviours. It is not my business to decide whether they are good or bad but it is my business to decide whether it is right for me to spend time with them or become involved in their activities. I do not often have to confront others, though sometimes it is necessary to confront bullies.
I am very polite & quite diplomatic but I do not find it difficult to remove myself from situations where I am not being treated fairly. I find that when I realise that someone has not been treating me well & that I am not going to put up with it any more, the energy between me & the offender changes & they no longer want to be around me. They sense that I am no longer available to be used or abused & if they don't I just say no thankyou & goodbye.
This was pure GOLD!!!! Marisa, you are brilliant, and you have completely re-taught me how to use my 🧠 again! 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
I AM learning how to speak, command my mind to correlate with the positive person
God created me to be, and, the positive person I AM.
I AM changing MY life. Blessed be God.
Thank you Marisa Peer.🙏🤗
I'm so happy I've discovered Marissa. My hope is renewed.💕
Had a stroke nearly 3 yrs. ago. Watching your videos to glean the healing nuggets I can use. Much healing needed. Your videos are terrific!
Thank you. Every morning I wake up. Can't wait for my new phenomenal coping skills. I'm learning from you. Unlearning fear & hate. Now I'm reprogramming, & hard wiring new code.☮
You have a great job to make others happy. Because you see them. So that people can see themselves how they are.
This came at the right time for me today Marisa thank you 🙏
I really admire you Marisa Peer. For being so honest and transparent, for being so assertive and loving what you do. I don't even need to know you to know that. Just looking at you makes that clear. You can see that you love what you do and truly care about your customers. Thank you for being that person. I mirror myself a lot. You are the mother I wish I had and never did. You are an example to me. Thank you for donating for us with your videos and books. You were faithful to your gifts and God honored you for that. I want to be faithful to my gifts and help other people too. You have made a difference in my life and you have made it in the lives of many people. I am not to praise anyone. I am quieter. But I really wanted to do that, because I feel a lot of gratitude.
Thank you for watching and I'm glad it has helped you 😊
- Marisa Peer Team
Thank you for sharing
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"Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
Anne Lamott.🙏❤️Selfhelpchampion
Hi Marissa
Honestly I have been enjoying every bit of each video..in such a short period I feel a huge difference in my life..thank you so much
Thank you Marisa, my daily dose of broadening my thinking. ♥️
Dear Marissa I admire you and your wonderful work! I’m planning next year to join your course and become a therapist.. I always like to help people and naturally support and guide.. my mother always tells me that I’m like her “spa” she loves talking to me .. I don’t judge her for her past Im trying to understand and look from her point of view and perspective.. and than combine my little knowledge and share with her and this is how she sometimes even finds answers to her unsolved issues from the past.
I’ve learned so much from YOU my dear Marissa that helps me to cope with my life and move on! Thank you again 🙏💐💐💐💐
This lady is incredible... i LOVE her !
I love u
I like u am single 😍😍❤❤
Peace, love and gratitude.
Thank you Dear Marisa💖The sweetest soul with soothing voice💐You are my Phenomenal Mentor during my Challenging phase( though I have nt met or spoke with You)Immense Gratitude with Intense Love for You✌😍
Thank You So Much for your Positive Gift! I found you after a very difficult narcissist relationship. I am Up & Healing. I forgive him & myself because of your words & your story....Thank You 💝
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I am single 🌷😍❤❤
Same for me! X
Marisaaaa you don't have límites to IMPROVE YOUR SELF to help this World!! Thanks!
Thank you. So true. Marisa , you have changed my life. I love your techniques and it works for me. ❤
Wow, this "I'll show you!"!!! It has really worked for me so many times! I know I can everything if I just want it strong enough!! Bless you! 💖
If you try to prove how successful you are to others, you will fail every time. Remember the only one that matters is you. You don't have to be the child who makes a drawing and then runs to mommy and have her post it on the refrigerator. Your success to yourself is your reward. No one else will appreciate you as much as you appreciate yourself. And yes, I'm a psychologist.
@@bobmatson7268 that's the thing that by "I'll show you" you actually get the motivation to prove it mostly to yourself! I'm a person who doesn't care what others think about me. But this spite is sometimes useful. 😊
Clueless, the movie, was requested, then rejected once the writer wrote it. She showed it to many film producers, and finally a friend who was a CEO of a film company who loved it, then the original requester (and everyone else) wanted it. 🌷 I rejected the film the first two years it was out. The soundtrack won me over, and here I am talking about the history of it 20+ years later 🙃
I need u am alone 😍😍❤❤
I will start talking to my mind clearly and respectfully as you suggested.
Abundant blessings to you 🙏
Thank you Marisa, again hugh encouragement and support when I need it ❤️
A healthy mind = A healthy body.
Gurudra - Emotional Health & Peace and the other way around. As Latins said: Mens sana in corpore sano. 😊
That makes alot of sense. When you think negative thoughts and speak negative words You have a negative life.
Marisa you look stunning in this video. You are always stunning but your hair and makeup looks incredible.
I love the tone of your voice it's so easy to listen too. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us who truly want to make our live wonderful and meaningful.
"Do not make yourself suffer"
Dear Alvianne. If you're reading this. I want to say that you hurt me in the past. I felt really hurt. But you grew up to be successful. I want to be friends even if you hurt me. Even if thinking of you makes me hurt. Because I want to grow beyond my limits. I want to be a better person. I forgive you even if you don't deserve it. Even if you're not asking for it. I forgive you because I love myself. Because I deserve to get rid of negative feelings about you.
When I think of you, I felt like a loser. I don't want to feel like this - insufficient. I want to feel complete. Even if I'm not perfect I'm gonna love myself. I deserve love.
I want to thank you because you taught me to feel this way. And you're existence teaches me to grow inspite of your greatness. Your presence teaches me that even if I am less, I still learn to love myself. That I don't need to be more in order to be loved. Because I am enough. I don't need to weight my value in comparison to you. I can manufacture my own self-acceptance. I don't need to please you or people like you just so I feel that I'm valuable. I'm already enough. Thank u Marisa Peer.
Ma'am somehow I feel good while watching your videos, because the issues you talk about ,totally relate me and I understand that is not only my problem but many.. Thank you Ma'am
My pleasure 😊
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Thankyou Marisa you are changing my life god bless you
Thank you for all your videos they are so beautiful and professionally done. Your content is amazing
I adore you Marisa♥️. Thank you I also am just beginning changing my way of thinking!
Thank you so much! ❤️ We're thrilled you’re starting this journey of transforming your thoughts. It’s a powerful step, and we're here cheering you on every bit of the way! 🌟 -Marisa Peer Team
Hello Marissa I love your videos sooooo much. You helped me a lot. Would be super nice if you could make a video about healing your skin. I suffer from psoriasis and eczema for a long time now, and many other people do too. I think I healed my past and let go and forgave people but there might be still some deep rooted issues there. x
Much love x
Some people may not have a vision of where they want to be or goals. Just wondered how they create healthy goals for themselves thanks
Thank You Marisa, You are an extraordinary friend, Bless You.
Thank you! I needed to hear this for myself and my family towards me
This is the most beneficial video for me 👏🏻☺️ thank you Marisa.
Thank you Marisa . really helpful and wonderful video 💖
You are amazing. Thank you for what you do. As Ms. Texas and an advocate for victims and survivors of domestic violence, sex trafficking and sexual assault, I think they need to hear this. I'd love to interview you about your thoughts on healing in such areas.
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OMG I’m going crazy. This helped me so much!!!
"Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”
Anne Lamott.🙏❤️Selfhelpchampion
Marisa I think you are brilliant, and a lot of your self esteem and confidence videos you have made empowered me. This video has good content but I must share my thoughts with you and others about something. This topic of forgiveness a narrative that too many therapists, religious people, people in other spiritual communities love to push is that people 'have to/must forgive, and forgiveness is not for the person/people that hurt you it's for you'. Forgiveness is NOT a requirement for healing. So many including myself have healed/are healing without forgiving the person/people who we suffered at the hands of.
I have spoken to a lot of people who have been constantly told they must forgive and are in agony because they don't want to forgive because what was done to them is unforgivable but they are being told/forced/bullied/preached into it. This is dangerous. People DO NOT HAVE TO FORGIVE. Especially when it's something like any form of abuse, or if people break up from a romantic relationship or friendship because something terrible like cheating, murder, stealing, abuse, and abuse from parents/siblings or any other person that happened in childhood, teenage years or adult or all combined. It would be highly disrespectful for someone to keep going on to those victims about how they 'must forgive'. If people want to they can, if not they DO NOT HAVE TO. Here is some thoughts from last year about this from another therapist. twitter.com/shrinkthinks/status/1140652956980785152?s=20
There's a very famous quote about forgiveness that I love - "Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." But you're right, it's an entirely personal choice whether to forgive or not X
@@MarisaPeer Thank you for your reply Marisa. Some of the other things you spoke about I recognised from what you have said in your other videos and interviews. I wish I could say all of the following face to face. I know about the quote and it was something in part you mentioned in your video. I have spoken to a lot of therapists, spiritual teachers, religious people and have encouraged them to look at it a different way, they do not have to of course, it's an invitation and encouragement from me. Just as forgiveness is NOT a requirement for healing, people can experience peace without forgiveness. Even if people do choose to forgive, they are not going to be transported to some magical realm, (not that you said this) but so often this is how it comes across, and how certain people talk about it. People who choose to forgive will still go through pain, trauma hurt and it will take time to heal just as those who do not forgive the people that caused them so much pain and committed crimes against them. You have a daughter who you love, I wish a healthy long life, but if something similar or the same happened to your daughter which happened to George Floyd, Jamie Bulger or the 6yr old boy who was thrown off the Tate Modern roof last year and people were telling you, that you must forgive, and if your daughter's murderers came to you saying they were really sorry, I wonder how you would feel about those people preaching at you with that message. I wonder would you and others who have this belief be confident and bold to tell the families I mentioned above they must forgive the murderers of their beloved? That would be Outrageously Out Of Order.
You have thousands of people who watch your videos Marisa and occasionally I do read comments and people say some lovely things about you. Although intelligent, some people are not individual thinkers, some may say/think 'if Marisa Peer says it, because she has 30+ yrs experience as a therapist, won awards then she's right' and the reality is that is not the case, just like the doctors you talk about in your videos and interviews, and you say 'just because they told you that, it does not mean it's true'.
So when I have discussions with people that have the same belief as you, I explain all these things to them. Particularly people who have a wide platform such as yourself, it's really important as you know to be responsible with your message and emotionally honest. So many people who I have spoken to have been on the edge of suicide because they are having people passive aggressive people, and overtly preachy people, and other people who have good intentions but still trying to force victims to forgive. The peace for these people came when myself and others explained why they do not have to. I prefer the way this topic is explained by the therapist who's tweet thread I linked in my previous post. It is inclusive, sensitive,very well articulated and honest not saying you do not have these qualities but on this topic this therapist's tweet thread wins for me.
twitter.com/shrinkthinks/status/1140652956980785152?s=20
Have a healthy week. X
@@rebeccacharles5758 It’s interesting that your very long posts lecture Marissa on one important point that she specifically talks about. Maybe you missed that part. Im not disagreeing with you, only questioning why you feel the need to lecture her on something you seem to actually agree on.
Thank you so much for your incredibly compelling talks! Learning a lot, beginning to understand myself better.
I like the "shopping cart" analogy very much 👍
Thanks Marisa for giving great information all in one amazing video. You are the best. Much love..💕🤗
Marisa you look amazing!!!!What a transformation!!!!Before you looked good but now you are killing it :D
Thank you darling
So inspiring. You saved my life 😊💖
Glad I could help, thank you for your support Reynante 🤗 💖
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I have completed your book “ you can be thin”. It’s so so helpful!
I really needed these videos right about now. I am truly going through it these days and I am legit just... LOST in a rut.
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Awesome thank you lovely 😍 Your great 💜
Thank you Marisa
Excellent. Thanks for sharing!
Here's how a person is a Univers gift for humanity just like Louise Hey another gift life for us! !
Hello Marisa I could listen to you all day every day I have joined your Rapid Transformational
Therapy and got into a I'm not good enough I don't understand the Techno jargon I can't do this So listening to you has given me I can do this I can learn the Techno jargon I will do this RTT and be fanominal at helping people all over the world Big thank you Marisa love Yvonne x Ps I'm reading your book I AM ENOUGH XXX
Great to hear, is a pleasure to have you on board. I really hope you enjoy the book and training 💖 Thank you for your support 😊
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Thank you for your wonderful advice 💕🥰👍🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️
Hi Marisa, thank you so much for these videos, it’s so generous of you to share your life’s work with everyone 💞
I do have question if I may…and if you have already dealt with the subject could you can point me in that direction…It’s that I am married to someone who denies the existence of body language and actually can not empathise at all…it’s like a very physical brick wall, I’ve always thought that I am just to sensitive which is probably true too, but something unbelievably awful happened to me recently and took a year to play out…he couldn’t relate or even comment or respond or be supportive in any way…how do I get over that?
From listening to you I feel so much stronger in knowing how to help myself from my own perspective which benefits everyone else in turn which is great, and I will listen to you every time negativity creeps in, to regain my resolve but I know that I’m eaten up with resentment for all the times he’s made me feel worthless and unloveable…We’ve been married for 36 years and I’ve only just understood that he actually can’t help it, he is totally internalised and absolutely fine with that himself 🤷🏼♀️
Help that I have spoken to say that we should separate amicably as best we can, but friends seem to think that he wouldn’t cope without me, I’m scared of what I’d need to cope with too. I think I’m trying to gather opinions and strong advice from people who I feel that I respect their opinions in order to give me strength one way or the other…
Marisa!!!! I LOVE U!!!!!
Do this exercise every time you have an intrusive thought. You are in control .
Thank you so much for unlocking our beleifs
Thank you!
Great one again thanks....self love Best life ever...!
Hi Marisa,
I am very good at letting people go and yes I keep them out of my life if they seem toxic in anyway and never let them back, I just need to be reminded what bad they did and have also learnt my lessons that the people you once let go, never let them back in your life but sometimes it’s so difficult to forgive people who are long gone from your life. For example, a molester.
Forgiveness is always a personal choice, there is a saying: "Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." But of course it is up to you x
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Kripleen Ks I will share this, in hopes that it helps.. Someone said recently to think 💭 of it like a train 🚂, you are the engine, and you have all these cars (issues, people, baggage 🧳 from the past, etc.) attached. Every time, you start it’s hard and harder to pull all the cars connected to the engine (you).
Then, think 💭 of disconnecting one, by one, by one, and then all that is left is just, you, the engine. Now when you start, every time it’s lighter! No more pulling those cars with you. And that, feels really, really, good!
Or, try a ceremonial burial. Pick a place you know you won’t have to go by. Pick a tree. Imagine that tree is the person. And let them have it. Then, bury by that tree, not necessarily literally, the person, the incident, the pain, the whole entire thing with its ramifications. Make sure you pull the roots out from inside of the deepest of your soul, body and mind. Never ever to come back to it. This will help you start fresh from the moment you walk away. However, this takes extreme awareness to the fact, that you have not left ANY whatsoever roots behind in you that one day will come back as a small weed/bush. It may take you a few days, weeks to gather up and digging. The idea is to uproot it all. To let it out of your life. To get your power back. You, are God’s perfect creation. Hope these are helpful. Blessings🙏🤗
Your voice so soothing
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Love u forever
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Rly dislike when ppl ask how you are (not that they actually care) and you say something really positive and out of good manners ask them back and they're like "not bad" UGH. That's so lame. These are ppl who have a LOT to be thankful for
Thank you... Have a Merry Christmas... Best regards from Catalonia!!!
Merry Christmas💖🎄
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Thank you❤
I love this channel.
Brilliant! Thank you.
I feel like you made this video specially for me.
One to forgive mom and overcome rejection from her.
Love u Marisa. 💖
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I have reservations about this Not everyone will win the gold medal. Sticking to that may be a waste of time when you could have been pursuing what is your passion. I did this with something and it felt abusive. I felt like a failure because I couldn’t do it but stopping lead me to discover what I really want to pursue.
You're absolutely right, follow your heart's desire and you'll never work a day in your life.
the key to Ill show you is not knocking over and over on closed doors.
Marisa , when I was young , I kind have rough childhood emotionally , then I learn to be alone , when I grow up I realise that every time I got relationships , friends , I leave early for any reson , sometimes , it is not big things , though I know I love those people still I just can’t stay , I can’t see my self being with them in rest of my life or even dreams , except my family , my family is my blessings , but I can’t let my self being with other people? Why is that ?
Our relationship with our family is amazing, they never leave or give up on us no matter what. Also, we can do terrible things and get away with this. On the other hand, our relationship with other people isn't always like that. We don't get away with a lot of things and they push us to level up. Also, it could be that you are scared of leaving your comfort zone for fear of judgment. There are a lot of possible reasons, you need to be willing to dig deep to unearth the true reasons. Let me know if you need help.
Thank you🙏💞
Marisa, can you talk about constantly comparing ourselves with others. I am doing that all the time lately and it is giving me hard time. Why do I compare myself so much? Lots of love. xxx
Hi DV, watch some of the videos in this playlist, they discuss how to let go of the fear of being different to others which is strongly linked to what you have mentioned 😊
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Magnificent, Imperially Beautifull! Thank You. Be blessed, Happy and loved
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You are sucha lovely and beautiful person. I feel secure because of you ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so happy to hear that 💖
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@@MarisaPeer hi,Are you talking about mental health?
Unfortunately, I've never heard of a spouse willing to talk about why they hurt you.
Have you at least seen a movie scene where the man comes begging for forgiveness? Usually after the lady has an affair with dump someone but he does it and begs to be heard.
Or the woman goes behind her husband's back thinking it would benefit him and it backfires and he finds out about the harm. Then she explains and begs to be heard because she was really trying to help him.
It's funny Marrisa, I live in America but when I start saying the things that you're saying it comes out in an English accent. I love it! X O
I now know the meaning of a broken heart, my chest aches with love, how can you grieve for someone who Is still alive, PLEASE help me someone 😭
Have you got support? It's important to get help if you are struggling. Try to stay positive and give yourself time to process the situation. Things may change, if you can keep some form of contact in a non-intrusive way, letting your child know that you still love them is important, but respect their need for space and time to process things. Try to empathize with their pain and understand their point of view, learning from whatever mistakes might have been made in the past, so that going forward hopefully you two can improve your relationship.
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Why does Marisa Peer use regression ... 9 Answers I feel that within every experience a purpose is served and lessons learn t. A lesson for the client undergoing a regression session, for the therapist facilitating the session and for whoever is recipient of the information and passing judgment. Integrity of the facilitator is at stake whenever she / he facilitates any form of hypnosis. Discernment is for the client to seek for themselves someone who they feel can handle the issued that want to be explored. However, depending on the soul's chosen lessons they wish to experience, in this incarnation, they may choose a facilitator who will fulfill their needs. These lessons can come in many forms, learning trust, self- worth, loss, acceptance and many more lessons, where a person who would take advantage of them, would be the chosen candidate for their experience. As the question is concerning instilling false memories; is the facilitator responsible? Yes, possibly, if she / he was deliberately leading the session and wanted to, as Jon Miles mentioned ... You are so beautiful, Czech show motorcycle, Sprite Spiderman,Pipo I love you.
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Hello Marisa. I feel I keep on making mistakes at my job. I'm always afraid I'm going to lose my job. Please make a video on how to let go of this fear and enjoy my job.
Hi Shilpa, have you had alook at the other videos on my channel? There are some already in there that will help you with this 😊
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Intrusive thoughts, in your mind imagine those very same thoughts on a piece of paper crumple that paper wad it up then in your mind make that paper burst in to flame gone for ever
Hello Mr. Gallegos! I really like that idea and have heard of it, or ones just like it over the years. I was just curious to know if it took several tries for you or did you find that it took only once...
@@louistulloch1159 Thank you for your reply, This does take practice and to add imagine a window by you opening the window when any intrusive thought bothers you you yourself in your mind opens the window and the intrusive thought gets sucked out into space then in your mind close the window. Replace intrusive thoughts with positive thinking focus on something that you really like . like a field of beautiful flowers stay focused walk through the field concentrate on your surroundings in the field flowers every where roaming hills. This is your quiet place. Focus on some one you 💘 love.. You are in control of your mind. 😃 smile. Read your Bible New Testament Mathew, Mark, Luke, John, and so on build your faith go to Church. Study Gods word fill your mind with Gods word.
Stop "catastrophising" and talk it down is a good rule of thumb to go by.
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Thx as i was looking in all of this and i am doing great. as this is the right way really simple it is ( and thats the best) . even with Love .... x thx . although alone i want a person who love,s me simple .
Glad it helped you Rene, and you will find someone once you fall in love with yourself you will attract someone who is drawn to a naturally comfortable confident you 😊
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Hi Marissa, thanks for this beautiful video. This is a life changer. However, I had certain restrictions about the sense in which your idea of forgiveness may actually be highly misunderstood as when people can't really notice the difference between forgiving for their own sake and forgiving and letting someone back in. If possible, do sometime make a video on that. The problem lies when someone cannot understand their need for self-preservation and forgive and let people back in, only to face the same issues over and over and again try to forgive them. I believe that that forgiveness has an impersonal nature to it as it let goes of the victim/wounded self in you for good, but then that may invite compassion for the other which may make you invite them back into your lives and before you blink you might just realize that they are still the same, which then makes you want to doubt the effectiveness of your exercise of forgiveness.
Rajiv an isness yes, those toxic people mostly stay the same. You forgave them and they'll hurt you again and again. May be it's better to forgive them, but I would recommend to stop contact or at least not to spend much time with them. First and foremost we must protect ourselves! (Sorry, Marisa... hopefully you don't mind ... I answered the question on your behalf... if anything is wrong, please feel free to correct it...)
You missed out on what I am prescribing here, the need for compassion and the perplexion it brings. Compassion may well hinder your more tribal sense of self-preservation.
"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." That doesn't mean to say you have to let them back in your life once they have wronged you X
Thanks Marisa...
Not to discount what is being said, but this is not applicable to everyone. You know, sometimes, ppl actually have something wrong with the body that is causing the pain or migraines that are debilitating. These are that things that so called medical professionals would think of me when I companied of the pain I was having. They always sidelined me, made an excuse when they could not figure out what was wrong with me, it suddenly became my fault. I was too weak, I could not handle the pain, I was lazy, over reacting or did not try hard enough or even I wanted the pain killers because I liked them. It prevented them from properly diagnosing me and it kept me ill and in pain for too long. Then I finally had surgery, and then they were all 'ohhh this is what was causing your pain!" My 1st surgeon had left something in me that she should not have, I had surgery 14 years later. SMH Do you get the picture & yes I used swear words. Question: Do I forgive them?
"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace." However, forgiveness is of course your personal choice x
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My migraines are debilitating, cause nausea and vomiting, and on occasion an emergency room visit.
Marisa you look so good in that black shirt
Plz make video on fertility meditation
Hi Saleha, if you search "fertility" into my channel there are some other relevant videos that I think will be of interest to you :)
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-dile a tu mente lo que quieres que haga.
-tu solo tienes el presente
-tomar acción todos los días en dirección a tu meta
-regresa después del rechazo
Gracias por tu contribución !