The Biggest Mistake Women Make During Sex

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  • @amandac57999
    @amandac57999 4 роки тому +864

    If a man is going to make you feel badly about your body, he doesn’t deserve your body.

    • @Pxndoraxhoneycomb
      @Pxndoraxhoneycomb 4 роки тому +6

      Put this in caps and bold!!!

    • @antoinettesee6531
      @antoinettesee6531 4 роки тому +6

      Yaaas! I know im not really on the sexy size, more on curvy but damn he makes me feel so wanted and so sexeeey 😄

    • @misspillai7315
      @misspillai7315 4 роки тому +2

      JP M fr it’s not nice

    • @youredumb9546
      @youredumb9546 4 роки тому

      JP M I agree!

    • @DUFFPETHAS
      @DUFFPETHAS 4 роки тому +1

      Beautiful profile picture girl

  • @Timoteo4
    @Timoteo4 4 роки тому +1522

    Women automatically think men don't realize that all women don't have this perfect figure-8 shaped bodies. We know most DON'T have bodies like that, and we don't care. We want the woman that's standing in front of us. And we're generally not disappointed in what we're looking at, because even with your clothes on, we had a general idea of what we were going to see. And we're just fine with it.

    • @nataliesolomon2141
      @nataliesolomon2141 4 роки тому +160

      This is the loveliest thing I've ever read.

    • @vagasint.4345
      @vagasint.4345 4 роки тому +34

      Literally yes

    • @nickandchrismom
      @nickandchrismom 4 роки тому +75

      I found your comment soothing and reassuring. Thanks.

    • @simplymarilyn5295
      @simplymarilyn5295 4 роки тому +32

      Thank-you, for saying this.....you have made my day sweeter💕

    • @Ivycassey
      @Ivycassey 4 роки тому +17

      I love this. 100%

  • @turnitupwithnelly-2337
    @turnitupwithnelly-2337 4 роки тому +806

    Me: *a virgin*
    😂😂😂

  • @britbrat628
    @britbrat628 8 років тому +845

    I wish I had your personality. Oh and your eyes.

    • @naiiyacollado245
      @naiiyacollado245 5 років тому +13

      Brit Brat totally agree she is gorgeous

    • @unbekanntunbenannt4189
      @unbekanntunbenannt4189 4 роки тому +5

      her eyes are reeally pretty.👀

    • @t.wynderogriffin798
      @t.wynderogriffin798 4 роки тому +3

      Her attitude is much more attractive than her eyes....facts...who cares about eye color in 2019?

    • @diani.___
      @diani.___ 3 роки тому

      @@crystalvisions818 She doesn't lol

  • @valerie4912
    @valerie4912 5 років тому +389

    I remember telling a guy after sex that I felt a bit insecure in doggy style and felt the need to flip my hair a certain way to cover my back because I have some moles .... his reply was “trust me, the LAST thing we are looking at or thinking about is the moles on your back!” 😂🤣

    • @avastars3393
      @avastars3393 4 роки тому +3

      Awwwwwww so cute😭😭😭

    • @CamilaSaurus
      @CamilaSaurus Рік тому +1

      Lol I love that! I have a lot of post-acne scars/hyperpigmentation on my back, so this made me feel better

  • @elimo3901
    @elimo3901 9 років тому +103

    "Fucking ass awesome body" YASS. Someone I adore, but who downplays herself ALL THE TIME is Mindy Kaling. I know it's part of her 'act' especially in The Mindy Project, but I see a lot of women from the United States, who are not magazine girls', do this. Make jokes, criticize or comment on their own body in a humorous way, before anyone else can. What I think is tragic about this, is that these women are FUCKING beautiful!! Mindy Kaling is a gorgeous woman. In general I think it's great to see more women of different body types and shades come forward in entertainment - so happy for shows like The Mindy Project, Blackish, Being Mary Jane, How To Get Away With Murder, Scandal, Inside Amy Schumer, Broad City etc. that show real women being badass.

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  9 років тому +11

      +Eli Mo I'm so grateful for you and your insight. Always and forever

    • @elimo3901
      @elimo3901 8 років тому

      yeah, she's def not beautiful, charming, funny, someone you want to be friends with, a "strong, talented and smart woman." at all. www.khloewithak.com/xo/1073-khloe-kardashian-damn-gina-mindy-kaling/

    • @shanboody
      @shanboody  8 років тому +1

      Ohh hey girl I was just reading the article you sent me. So good! Thank you

  • @theresastyers3619
    @theresastyers3619 4 роки тому +202

    My husband and I have been together for 20 years and we both have gained weight but our sex life is still as awesome as it was when we were younger..the only issue is we get tired faster..lol

  • @Diimondc
    @Diimondc 9 років тому +1733

    The way I've learned not to do this is that even though I have itty-bitty A cups, a guy I'm with will tell me that he loves them and through hearing that I feel no need to apologize for them with any guy I'm with. I've always been self-conscious of my breast size but through my experiences (and the internet) I've come to love my small bubbies :) I use to do the whole "oh I know they're small" thing but really, any person you're with will think you're absolutely sexy no matter what, because you are! To any women reading this, I promise you that you are sexy and fabulous no matter what the media or society says so don't worry about it, just work it ;)

    • @DIANECENAIDTV
      @DIANECENAIDTV 8 років тому +44

      I needed to hear/read this!

    • @cami1249
      @cami1249 6 років тому +9

      Yesss!

    • @DaniielaVergara
      @DaniielaVergara 5 років тому +22

      I feel the same way. it helps when the person you are being intimate with, loves your body

    • @cuteanimallover4307
      @cuteanimallover4307 5 років тому +5

      Yes girl, I love it,your comment just made my day,good luck to you too.

    • @Iloveyou-lz7rr
      @Iloveyou-lz7rr 5 років тому +12

      yup agreed! they are even more turned on by your confidence. heck, own those a cups!

  • @kaysha
    @kaysha 9 років тому +443

    Truth. Empty your mind and give and recieve energy. I do this before shows

  • @thaclicklover4u298
    @thaclicklover4u298 4 роки тому +304

    I love women period.. ugly, not so fine, so-so, fine, beauty, beautiful, gorgeous,, and endlessly beautiful..all are fine with me.

    • @gino6658
      @gino6658 4 роки тому +9

      ThaClick Lover4u awww that’s sweet ❤️

    • @thaclicklover4u298
      @thaclicklover4u298 4 роки тому +8

      @@gino6658 That's from the heart💝💝💝💝

    • @dfs5842
      @dfs5842 4 роки тому +4

      @ThaClick Lover4u....
      You are one of a kind

    • @tosinojo7310
      @tosinojo7310 4 роки тому +11

      @@nanayawterry We have some of the most beautiful women in the world in Africa, the most perfect bodies, the tallest women and the most diverse looks you will find on the planet. That's why Whitemen could not keep it in even in apartide when it was a crime, there are whole cities of mixed-race children in some parts of Africa..disgusting and a big shame really. Thankfully in My country, they were not given access to the general population and just dealt with chiefs and kings

    • @michaeladunbar9777
      @michaeladunbar9777 4 роки тому +3

      🤣🤣😂🤣😂

  • @Terptwerp
    @Terptwerp 4 роки тому +40

    That was so perfectly said! I've been telling my girl that forever. And our sex life gets better and better. And that's after 20 years. Knowing there is absolutely no judgments has boosted my girlfriend's confidence off the charts. Which is the hottest thing she can project

  • @simplymarilyn5295
    @simplymarilyn5295 4 роки тому +187

    "Can we turn the lights off?"

    • @DUFFPETHAS
      @DUFFPETHAS 4 роки тому +1

      Yes sweetheart we can turn the lights off

    • @BooksToAshes
      @BooksToAshes 4 роки тому +8

      Ew dude no

    • @toniwithani2439
      @toniwithani2439 4 роки тому +7

      Lights off a must

    • @StephJ0seph
      @StephJ0seph 3 роки тому +5

      Dim the lights instead, it hides your imperfections
      But highlights your sexy silhouette

  • @lesliegarcia7019
    @lesliegarcia7019 4 роки тому +48

    When i get intimate with my partner i do get self conscious but he makes me forget all my insecurities i feel like i am the sexiest girl in the world. I love him so much.

  • @jsoul99
    @jsoul99 8 років тому +1395

    I grab my wife pooch cause I love it. i love her imperfect body. A woman's natural body stretch marks, rolls , hair, whatever. I love it!! She hates when I do it though. I tell her all the time how much I love it but she always acts ashamed

    • @user-rr6uy7re9o
      @user-rr6uy7re9o 5 років тому +83

      J Soul Bruh I’d die if he grabbed my pooch😟

    • @saramail5168
      @saramail5168 5 років тому +41

      Can I be your wife?

    • @ericasheppard5401
      @ericasheppard5401 5 років тому +31

      my bf does it all the time!! he says it’s so sexy and he loves it i used to hate it now i accept it😂🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @ikebahamilton-beauche628
      @ikebahamilton-beauche628 5 років тому +14

      My bf is the same. He always says he loves my tummy ❤❤❤

    • @sarvaise
      @sarvaise 5 років тому +10

      Females need to accept that shitttt unfortunately that's up to their own realization😭

  • @WhisperASMR1
    @WhisperASMR1 8 років тому +991

    Wat kardashians, you are 10 times more beautiful.

  • @MsBadBody
    @MsBadBody 4 роки тому +434

    Don't stare at me lol. Makes me feel uncomfortable

    • @manreclaimed232
      @manreclaimed232 4 роки тому +9

      Ok. And please don't do anything to draw attention to yourself, it makes people look.

    • @kevingaddis7276
      @kevingaddis7276 4 роки тому +1

      Raeleen, I am not starring ,I'm ogling.😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

    • @MsBadBody
      @MsBadBody 4 роки тому

      @@ivonaxo4779 Lol

    • @MsBadBody
      @MsBadBody 4 роки тому

      @@kevingaddis7276 Eyes closed is the best lol

    • @MsBadBody
      @MsBadBody 4 роки тому +1

      @@manreclaimed232 I'm talking about during sex

  • @vagasint.4345
    @vagasint.4345 4 роки тому +85

    If a guy is undressing you
    He literally dosent care about how you look at the moment. The only thing that would stop something is awful hygiene and even then... some won’t care

  • @ETBrooD
    @ETBrooD 9 років тому +767

    Imagine you have never seen TV, ads, the Internet, strip clubs, and so forth, not even once in your whole life. But lets say you have been to nudist beaches and in saunas. That's how you know how attractive you really are.
    You can go one step further and imagine makeup was never invented, because that's another big contributor to the distortion of reality.
    And then if you're still not satisfied with your looks, remind yourself that everyones taste is different.
    Just live healthily and you're good.

    • @zekova
      @zekova 8 років тому +19

      Shit, that's actually really good advice :)

    • @danaward9975
      @danaward9975 6 років тому +3

      Very Serious I love this!!

    • @sarahiridescent5017
      @sarahiridescent5017 6 років тому +4

      Soy Wars: The Force is Shemale I've never worn make up and I love my natural look

    • @swamp7child
      @swamp7child 5 років тому +1

      THIS!!!

    • @stressfree9780
      @stressfree9780 5 років тому +1

      What happened to that gross hair

  • @elisabethdiamond3047
    @elisabethdiamond3047 9 років тому +21

    "And I have an A-cup chest, I fuckin get it!" Lol dead!! Sameeeee

  • @thisisntallowed9560
    @thisisntallowed9560 4 роки тому +109

    I'm very lucky that I like my own body

    • @user-uh5eg6qo5t
      @user-uh5eg6qo5t 4 роки тому +3

      WisdomSeeker I’m glad that you know how lucky you are.💀 I wish I like my body but there is nothing to like, I’m kind of working on that tho!

    • @indirafranque4123
      @indirafranque4123 4 роки тому +2

      Talk about luck. 😔

  • @lexthequeer
    @lexthequeer 8 років тому +307

    Honestly I'm really glad I've never had these kind of thoughts in a sexual situation. In that moment when my lover is looking at me I feel so sexy and desired and wanted, it's truly exhilarating! For me, sex makes me feel amazing about myself and my body, and I get this almost visible glow to me. I can see it in the mirror and I'm like damn bitch somebody is a freakin' goddess!

    • @saramail5168
      @saramail5168 5 років тому +8

      I wish my bf would look at me when we do it :D
      He just close his eyes.
      Or agreed to do it with me more than once a month.
      I want him everyday but he doesnt even when I go naked kiss him and show off he's like "go away just stop" lol I suck

    • @tinymegazell6060
      @tinymegazell6060 5 років тому +11

      @@saramail5168 damn you deserve better, but if you're happy you happy

    • @themaggattack
      @themaggattack 5 років тому +24

      @@saramail5168 You don't suck, he does. Fuck that. You CAN do better than him. Don't let him make you think otherwise.

    • @Budgieterian
      @Budgieterian 4 роки тому +3

      Saraa Szaraa you don’t deserve that!!! Omg

    • @slardebard
      @slardebard 4 роки тому +2

      @@Budgieterian how do you know? She may not be a good person and treats him cruelly at other times. I've heard men make similar complaints and they get told it's something they are doing wrong. Well maybe its something she is doing wrong and she fishing for sympathy.

  • @lavayuki
    @lavayuki 4 роки тому +80

    I used to do this but stopped, I found that when other people do it makes me feel awkward so it would make sense others would fee; the same if I did it

    • @benfine2328
      @benfine2328 4 роки тому

      hi baby how are you doing now baby shower how is life treating you lg I hope you are fine I like your goodness for you are rarely seen baby get to know each other please
      Just now

    • @emanuel5944
      @emanuel5944 4 роки тому +1

      Ben Fine why do you keep calling her baby lol

  • @acassidy8465
    @acassidy8465 7 років тому +151

    you have changed my life in 4 minutes

  • @caroqt
    @caroqt 4 роки тому +6

    Sadly my boyfriend once made the mistake of saying "if your body was amazing..." to my face. It's been months and I still can't get over it.

  • @stormcrow5198
    @stormcrow5198 4 роки тому +4

    I don't see the logic. If a man puts in the time and effort to finally get you into bed, he's already checked out enough of you to not care about YOUR perceived shortcomings.

  • @NourishedWomanHQ
    @NourishedWomanHQ 8 років тому +230

    Could you do a video on talking dirty and foreplay x

    • @NoName-rf6kr
      @NoName-rf6kr 5 років тому +72

      What’s ur problem like does it make u feel better calling someone ugly? Just because you have insecurities about the way you look doesn’t mean u have the right to call someone ugly

    •  5 років тому +10

      Yes please this would be so good!

    • @yoliedmonky
      @yoliedmonky 5 років тому +20

      I’m so sorry he said that. You are so beautiful omg.

    • @megrocks3026
      @megrocks3026 3 роки тому +1

      Dont listen to him. You are gorgeous and Im sure you’re aware of that

  • @alibabyasmr
    @alibabyasmr 8 років тому +43

    I am so glad i just saw this video, me and my boyfriend have been sexual activity for quite awhile. I always felt uncomfortable because, i have a little belly. This made me feel more confident and ready to feel more sexier in the bedroom with him.

  • @ameliel8792
    @ameliel8792 4 роки тому +61

    Man society messes women up so badly. It's sad. When I think back to all those years that all us young women endured of faking orgasms and needing to tell the guy we enjoyed it even if it was shocking cos we're conditioned to support their egos over our own comfort or pleasure.... We need to cut that crap out and get some for ourselves!!!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

    • @rogerblewett5595
      @rogerblewett5595 4 роки тому +1

      Unfortunately men fake it too sometimes.. just like when we tell y'all that you are beautiful

    • @ameliel8792
      @ameliel8792 4 роки тому +14

      @@rogerblewett5595 honey you really are proving my point about fragile masculinity with this comment.

  • @JazinessCurls
    @JazinessCurls 9 років тому +252

    I needed to see this video. Thank you

    • @trarondahicks188
      @trarondahicks188 6 років тому

      Jasmine Desiree me too girl

    • @oghoghoasemota893
      @oghoghoasemota893 5 років тому

      Me too

    • @benfine2328
      @benfine2328 4 роки тому

      hi baby how are you doing now baby shower how is life treating you lg I hope you are fine I like your goodness for you are rarely seen baby get to know each other please
      Just now

    • @syamrelli2828
      @syamrelli2828 4 роки тому

      Hiiii

  • @ssjase
    @ssjase 8 років тому +386

    This reminds me of my ex boyfriend. I was 18 when I lost my virginity to him, and we would just laugh at me for making his bed super wet. I always felt so bad about it, but didn't know how to fix it. He would also never give me any oral sex, we just did the same thing over and over again, and make me feel like I was a whore for wanting to try other things. So after we broke up I was scared to have sex with anyone ever again. I'm now 24 and sorta know that there was nothing wrong with me, and I have nothing to be ashamed of. But still I'm scared to have another sexual experience with someone. I did have sex with one more person who turned out to have a girlfriend so that didn't help. But besides that, I have no other experience. Pretty weird how much effect a few comments about sex have. If only people knew.

    • @staceyj3667
      @staceyj3667 5 років тому +10

      So agree. I look at myself and give myself a compliment so far it’s helping g

    • @rosereyna8350
      @rosereyna8350 5 років тому +4

      omg I have the exact same story.. same age and details.. I know how you felt.. just omg..I'm worried now.😂

    • @valerie4912
      @valerie4912 4 роки тому +33

      Jasey Rogers
      There are men that would give their arms and legs to have the woman they’re with soak their beds 😉 That’s super sexy to most.

    • @Musicforthesaol
      @Musicforthesaol 4 роки тому +14

      Omg girl what kind of whack ass man was he🙈 there’s more men out there than not that would enjoy everything that he didn’t baby you just have to find them, don’t be embarrassed or doubt yourself because one person was insecure and pushed their insecurities onto you that was not your fault and when you’ve experienced trauma you have to find a way to replace the negative experience with a positive one, I hope you find someone who appreciates you just the way you are because you deserve it🙌🏽

    • @R0MANTiCxSUNDAY
      @R0MANTiCxSUNDAY 4 роки тому +6

      That’s crazy. A women being wet is conformation that you are turned on (besides women who may have issues getting wet). It’s like unzipping a guys pants & they aren’t hard at all. A women wants the guy to be hard so she knows she’s turning you on. As hard as it is, don’t be scared. Some guy will feel lucky to have you.

  • @petersam9066
    @petersam9066 Рік тому +3

    Thank you dr Aigboh he has the heart of gold, I was cured totally from diabetes after I drank the medicine! Thank you dr Aigboh
    ..............

  • @Angelinesekle
    @Angelinesekle 5 років тому +14

    I've learned this too. Men love confidence and find it super unsexy when you down play yourself. My boyfriend even checks me on it when I do it. I love that man ❤️

  • @commanderwaddles3483
    @commanderwaddles3483 9 років тому +44

    "what I lack in fun bags" Lolll
    Just found out about you from AskTheFeels. You got a new sub 😉

    • @butterflyqueen9260
      @butterflyqueen9260 9 років тому

      same

    • @pgplaysvidya
      @pgplaysvidya 9 років тому

      +Commander Waddles I've been watching Shannon do great ATF videos for so long and have JUST subbed. wtf :(

  • @djtaylorutube
    @djtaylorutube 4 роки тому +5

    Ladies, the NUMBER ONE most attractive thing to most men is confidence. Combine that with flirty and you've won, really. Us men, we're pretty simple and even if you don't feel confident, fake it, fake it long enough and you'll see that it works, by that time you'll be naturally confident.

  • @luissaponce4681
    @luissaponce4681 4 роки тому +36

    Ok this hit me like a truck. I love her.

  • @Matthew7772005
    @Matthew7772005 4 роки тому +5

    The truth is as a man I'm just grateful and honored to be with a woman who is wanting to be sexual. Every so called imperfection is what makes you unique. It is what turns us on. Noone says well your flaw whatever it is self perceived to be is just so bad I dont want to be intimate. No, we are excited and grateful you choose to be with us. Ladies please hear this.

  • @akirasmiiith
    @akirasmiiith 5 років тому +11

    Shannon, never stop what you're doing. if you are ever feeling stagnant or purposeless know that you are the complete opposite of that. You really inspire me and thousands of others. Love you!

  • @BlazeKennedy100
    @BlazeKennedy100 9 років тому +47

    I really needed to see this video. Wow.

  • @mitchmclean3898
    @mitchmclean3898 7 років тому +122

    Yes, women over think it.... stop over thinking.... I'm a guy, the first time I had sex, I was so self-conscious of how I looked (I had just lost 15kg at the gym and still had no confidence), and I was worried about how I was performing, that it took me 1 hour to finish and the girl was over it! .... when it comes to sex don't over think it, just put those self-conscious thoughts away and just let yourself enjoy it.

    • @lisa5567
      @lisa5567 4 роки тому +2

      @@_Leah_Nicole_ dont worry, there's no shame in being a virgin. It can be good to tell him though, just so youre on the same page about everything, and knowing that he is aware might make you feel more safe too. And dont do if it you dont feel safe and excited to do it. Im 20 and I didnt feel ready to have sex until very recently. Dont rush it, no one should care if youve done it or not.

    • @_Leah_Nicole_
      @_Leah_Nicole_ 4 роки тому +1

      @@lisa5567 Thank you!❤

  • @AzazelHash281
    @AzazelHash281 6 років тому +9

    If I’m with you it’s because I want you
    All of you

  • @jvranches
    @jvranches 9 років тому +32

    I personally think you're perfect in every way and you're a goddess in my eyes.

  • @hlytee
    @hlytee 8 років тому +4

    why am i just now watching your videos? fuck.....

  • @Mel-bm1tu
    @Mel-bm1tu 5 років тому +22

    Damn it! I told my boyfriend one time he does a face when he finishes. I asked if I did too... i regret ever saying that and asking him.

    • @franciswhatchumean7805
      @franciswhatchumean7805 4 роки тому +20

      Gurl at least he makes you finish haha

    • @ladyyrose
      @ladyyrose 4 роки тому +1

      Franziska Gehrke right. Lmao

    • @jumpstreet2425
      @jumpstreet2425 4 роки тому

      @@franciswhatchumean7805 yall cold hearted lol, ima just say I aint blessed down low, i dont believe. And women got it made, yall can choose to get changes and surgery if wanted and not happy with it. Which yall dont be needing it- u beautiful without/with it also. Plus sometimes it gets outa hand. But guys just dont get the option. Some women are definitely hypocrites talking down on man when they aint natural. For me personally being attractive- i guess and a D1 football player, its hard because women will not like me after. Which sucks, alotta beautiful women want me, but i dont want to feel broken.

    • @franciswhatchumean7805
      @franciswhatchumean7805 4 роки тому +1

      @@jumpstreet2425 First of all no one was discriminating small dicks. I think a small dick isn't an excuse for not being able to make a woman finish since almost all women don't orgasm by penetration.
      Secondly, I'd say that my vulva/vagina doesn't look like that pornographic stereotype neither. I never had a problem with sex and no one ever complained but probably women have higher standards when its about genitals.
      And last but not least men can get it done too. Also you could use a penis pump (I'm not kidding). I want to suggest that you really think about the reason why these women cut you off. Tbh my experience with small dick guys is that they are the biggest show-offs and it's kind off ridiculous when you find out about their dick size.

    • @neoloanderson6676
      @neoloanderson6676 3 роки тому

      @@jumpstreet2425 You need for changes 😔

  • @bubbie23jw
    @bubbie23jw 4 роки тому +8

    I would tell you men deal with the same issues, yes we may talk a good game but we still wonder if we are big enough does she like me or is she faking it! But ur BEAUTIFUL GREAT VIBE❤️❤️❤️❤️💪🏼🌟

  • @Lexmorningstarnz
    @Lexmorningstarnz 4 роки тому +29

    I do this all the time. I don’t say anything, but I know my husband picks up on it. He always says “why do you keep bringing that shirt into the bedroom”. I just nervously laugh while (reluctantly) taking my shirt off.
    So pregnancy ruined my boobs. I’m incredibly incredibly self conscious of them. There’s nothing anyone can say which will make me like them. I feel sexier wearing my husbands oversized shirt to bed with him versus being in my birthday suit.

    • @MuhammadImran-ln4fz
      @MuhammadImran-ln4fz 4 роки тому

      💑💑😍😍😍😍😍😍

    • @jumpstreet2425
      @jumpstreet2425 4 роки тому

      Im not trying to get disrespectful to relationship, but i betting big time u are beautiful and body still very wonderful. Cheer up.

  • @OriginalMaster16
    @OriginalMaster16 9 років тому +18

    awesome video!!!!!!!!!! I just saw a vision in my head while seeing this of you doing a show where things like this happen and u bust out of the closet and start talking to people right before they have sex about the wrong things they are doing. like a fairy sex god mother

  • @AlexDeLarge77
    @AlexDeLarge77 3 роки тому +1

    A woman’s insecurity is in her head not a mans.
    Men have different tastes and different preferences. If they want you, they want YOU.
    The biggest turn on for men isn’t perfection but enthusiasm.
    We like to know you want us too!

  • @gilarylozano4968
    @gilarylozano4968 4 роки тому +18

    My boyfriend always tells me I'm chubb as a joke but it has made me feel even more insecure than I already am.

    • @sidew8ys
      @sidew8ys 4 роки тому +5

      Then get in the gym chubbs

    • @ahlam8181
      @ahlam8181 4 роки тому +27

      girl that’s lowkey toxic :/ tell him it genuinely bothers u and if he continues to then girl leave him because the person ur with should make you feel like ur the baddest bitch on dis earth and if they don’t then you don’t need em 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @paulsciria8921
      @paulsciria8921 4 роки тому +2

      Yes a man shouldn’t tell a women, that tell him to stop or leave.

    • @gaiaelan9898
      @gaiaelan9898 4 роки тому +3

      'Jokes' like that aren't jokes honey.... If it hurts you it's not a joke. It's just mean.

    • @gemmsp441
      @gemmsp441 4 роки тому +1

      Nah uh girl. Tell him how you feel, if he doesn’t apologize and stop doing it, leave his toxic ass

  • @staceyj3667
    @staceyj3667 5 років тому +29

    My ex had insecurities about his body and I loved it! Men go through it too.

  • @flukyreview9128
    @flukyreview9128 3 роки тому +1

    I always compliment my lady partner on how her natural feminine aroma is so heavenly alluring. When I’m going down on her love flower also tell her how beautiful it is and how good she taste. She loves that and brings her to a strong multiple climax. 🥰😛

  • @slardebard
    @slardebard 4 роки тому +4

    A big problem is women think they know what we think but really dont know. They put all this pressure on themselves and then blame us or society, when it's really them. Men love women all different kinds. One thing I've seen is when a good guy comes along, I've seen women who say they can do better than him and complain that guys are not attracted to them when their "dream man" doesn't come along.
    Just my personal observations.

  • @exceptionalmug7221
    @exceptionalmug7221 4 роки тому +5

    Shan: "Do not insult your partner or critise them."
    Me and my strange fetishes: "I actually get hard of being insulted in bed, and get harder the more swear words are used, lol."

  • @SnazzyJazy0719
    @SnazzyJazy0719 9 років тому +6

    I'm here for it!! This isn't just for us (women) it's for guys as well!! My Guy is a larger guy and when we do it my clothes are off and he has not one but 2 t shirts on. So true about that thought of insecurity, if you critique the small stuff the wall of comfortably gets higher and tougher to break down..
    I know it's been a while since I last said something but I'm back in the comment world for sure!! :) xoxo

  • @anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788
    @anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 4 роки тому +12

    Just have a good time! They'll love it no matter what your body looks like

  • @adrianaevaristo3487
    @adrianaevaristo3487 9 років тому +7

    Guilty as charged!! i never have had the issue with being too heavy but an insecurity of mine is how small I am in the "goods" department.I always feel like bringing up this when Im being intimate with someone. You rock so hard! My goods may be small but they're just as precious and valuable as any other! Keep making these great videos. Love ya!

  • @dinkdaplaymaka
    @dinkdaplaymaka Рік тому +1

    Men are simple and I’ll keep this short. We don’t understand the self conscience.
    We accept how y’all feel tho but still don’t agree lol. Women embrace them flaws cuz really Fawk them flaws too 😂👌🏾

  • @ShaVaughn
    @ShaVaughn 5 років тому +6

    I can see myself doing this whenever I become sexually active. I have to stop before I even start.

  • @SILK97
    @SILK97 5 років тому +7

    This vid is so damn real. It’s actually really sad when I hear my lovers or women friends mention a flaw about themselves because they think I’ll mention it first. Plus it’s also kinda a wood killer 😂

    • @lovelylove6193
      @lovelylove6193 4 роки тому

      Lol damnnn my guy said, "Lovers and Lady friends." 😂💯

  • @markhill4366
    @markhill4366 4 роки тому +7

    Your hair eyes and lips and personality is enuff for me

  • @tuneit3
    @tuneit3 4 роки тому +4

    Well said Shan. Intimate time is never the time to be spotlighting your partner's flaws, inadequacies or lack of knowledge.
    As you said, give them pointers and tell them what you like, don't like so much.
    It's awkward enough and maybe a little intimidating for both parties. Make them feel good about themselves. It's a win, win kinda situation

  • @lillyhosie1093
    @lillyhosie1093 4 роки тому +1

    This is irrelevant but you remind me of Luna from the 100. No one will probably know who I’m talking about Hahahaha oh well

  • @MonaMinetteAnimation
    @MonaMinetteAnimation 4 роки тому +5

    OMG I do this in casual conversion, I'm an A cup as well and almost feel like I need to tell people I'm ok with it because obviously they must be feeling sorry for me. Hopefully after this I won't be doing it anymore

  • @shawnlove4502
    @shawnlove4502 2 роки тому +1

    Yes this is true. It took me years to be comfortable with my body. I still cover up sometimes lol but I know how to work my angles and look fantastic.

  • @evanskaci5736
    @evanskaci5736 Рік тому +1

    Women who complain about men making them feel bad about their bodies, what about the other way around as well? Women do that to men ALL the time.

  • @destinystarr3837
    @destinystarr3837 4 роки тому +1

    Yeah, that sucks. One of the reasons why I haven't lost my virginity yet is because of how self conscious I am of my saggy breasts. It's embarrassing because I know it can be a turn off to men.

  • @docvalentines
    @docvalentines 2 роки тому +1

    i dont know i think women should stop being pillow princesses, men like me that are just used for sex dont get anything from it other then a workout.

  • @beabellido6116
    @beabellido6116 5 років тому +4

    That is so true. I've made an sarcastic comment about my body when being intimate with someone before. I just didn't realise that unconciously i was put myself down.

  • @claudebaron9525
    @claudebaron9525 4 роки тому +1

    I think what your saying is totally much more a mythe than real, and first it takes all kinda type of peoples for many different tastes , me honestly I prefers a lot a small thighs sporty package , and all the pepoles who knows me know that I’m really not a big fan of big breast and in way more with small high semi-hard ones and about the Kardashian like you say my response to that is 🤮 it’s a shame because if it was just her face I know she wear a half a tones of makeup’s but she look beautiful but as I look down it’s deteriorating when we reach the butt , sorry I’m already gone, so don’t try to change yourself and be as you are , there’s always someone who gonna think your perfect for him , anyway if you change what will eventually happen is you natural self will be back like a Hurd of horses , as long as your good with yourself you’re gonna be sexy for some, it’s like the laws of gravity, what goes up, must come down

  • @EsotericElle
    @EsotericElle 5 років тому +5

    Imagine EVER comparing yourself to the Kardashians 🤣😂

  • @TS-mentalhealthmatters
    @TS-mentalhealthmatters 8 років тому +14

    I don't know you Sis but YESSSS GURL, you were in my head!! YOU SAID it ALLL!! . .... We as women do this all the time...and YOU'RE SO RIGHT, STOP FEEDING THAY DEMON that's already big enough... we are beautifully made, WE don't need to remind ourselves during what should be such a sexy morning, noon or night with our boothang😉 by sharing with our partner how fat we've gotten since the Blizzard in January 2016, Lol ... confidence is the sexiest trait. Thanks for the affirmation 😍😉

  • @haizekhaze8868
    @haizekhaze8868 7 років тому +13

    at 2:16 she is right straight up

  • @Firefenex1996
    @Firefenex1996 9 років тому +6

    the more I watch the more beautiful she gets.. this is like the 7th video straight

  • @fuzzypicklesgaming439
    @fuzzypicklesgaming439 4 роки тому +3

    Just don't pull a starfish 🙃

  • @Piecesofthepie
    @Piecesofthepie 4 роки тому +4

    The only thing wrong im doing is the person im doing

  • @saaraamupolo6164
    @saaraamupolo6164 4 роки тому +1

    Shan thanx hun.. My sex life is gonn chaaaaange honey.. I'm learning so much from your videos God bless your heart.. I'm looking forward to lots of educative videos this year 2020.. Kisses all the way from Namibia Africa 😍

  • @ANNABFRESH1
    @ANNABFRESH1 8 років тому +6

    Wow I totally do this I'm glad you made this video!!

  • @earthtear9586
    @earthtear9586 3 роки тому +2

    Whoah I didn't expect this at all. Your advice is spot on, to the point. I was doing exactly that and didn't realise how harmful it was. My humour is almost always self deprecating. That's just how I get by, but we should not be taking that into the bedroom. 10/10

  • @yoliedmonky
    @yoliedmonky 5 років тому +3

    So how do I undo this? How do I be confident and kinda take back what I’ve said to the guy? How do I undo whhat I said in his head?

  • @Slipknot_for_life2010
    @Slipknot_for_life2010 Рік тому +1

    The only thing I care about is personality

  • @jterry742
    @jterry742 4 роки тому +2

    OMG as a bloke this is soooo true!! I can’t tell how much more sexy a woman is when they don’t care how they look. The irony is most of us blokes think the ‘perfect’ girls in the public are not sexy anyway. Greet vid 👍😃 x

  • @MsDiva96
    @MsDiva96 6 років тому +2

    Nothing but the truth. We have to learn to love ourselves, to tell ourselves that we are beautiful and, most importantly, believe it. That self-love will radiate from you and there’s nothing more attractive. The energy you put out comes back to you, if you doubt yourself too hard that will be sensed and returned to you!! Btw that pink lip brings out her green eyes soooo much.

  • @purp621
    @purp621 4 роки тому +4

    Well you know that’s kinda hard when you’re 24 with a unilateral mastectomy 😩😭🥴

    • @BeeRavie
      @BeeRavie 4 роки тому +4

      Tiauna Pratt a real man will adore those battle scars honey. They symbolize your strength. You’re still a goddess

    • @purp621
      @purp621 4 роки тому +1

      BeeRavie thanks for those kind words!❤️

  • @ericanaynaynaynay8232
    @ericanaynaynaynay8232 5 років тому +2

    This makes me sad... your a beautiful woman. Being a dance instructor taught me that very few people are happy with their bodies. Even the most beautiful

  • @AshleyD39
    @AshleyD39 3 роки тому +1

    You are on point thanks girl!!

  • @janicehull8017
    @janicehull8017 Рік тому +1

    I really wish that i had this video years ago.

  • @infodwheels623
    @infodwheels623 2 роки тому +1

    Your body type is nice Shan!

  • @bonolomokhara2267
    @bonolomokhara2267 5 років тому +3

    Your green eyes... gorgeous ❤❤❤❤! Thanks for the advice cause I always do this🙊🙊🙊🙊

  • @lovelylasean
    @lovelylasean 4 роки тому

    This was great. I appreciate it and will keep this in mind.

  • @Meauxbley
    @Meauxbley 3 роки тому +1

    I agree. Once you’re there, you’re there.

  • @nkechi216
    @nkechi216 9 років тому +3

    👏😂😁 you're so hilarious with the "we don't all look like the Kardashians" statement, lol. Done. Great video, good advice in general, 💋

  • @sacredtarotbysophia2543
    @sacredtarotbysophia2543 3 роки тому +1

    On point!! love yourself fake it till you make it! What attracts me is a man who likes him self! So I’m sure Men in turn love a woman that loves and accepts her self! And if you haven’t fully managed that yet ( and that’s ok, also most of have not mastered that yet) fake it till you make it

  • @janallismith2775
    @janallismith2775 4 роки тому +3

    Your eyes are beautiful, just saying

  • @missblessedbellablessed
    @missblessedbellablessed 5 років тому +2

    Short and sweet 😅 someone tag sauti sol .....kenyan music

  • @seandesilva8186
    @seandesilva8186 5 років тому +2

    I’m a guy and this video is so perfect. I hope a lot of woman see this and realise that woman are all perfect in their own skin!

  • @brandyyolidio4213
    @brandyyolidio4213 6 років тому +2

    You have awesome hair btw. And yes you are right, the minute negativity creeps in, it is harrrd to get rid of

  • @okeilvaccianna2139
    @okeilvaccianna2139 3 роки тому +1

    99.5 percent of the females I dated did that b4 sex,state there insecurities.huge turn off🔥

  • @NotEvenOverThere
    @NotEvenOverThere 2 роки тому +1

    The Kardashians ain’t cute

  • @repete2362
    @repete2362 Рік тому +1

    nothing wrong with the A team

  • @armadasinterceptor2955
    @armadasinterceptor2955 3 роки тому +1

    My girl used to be down on herself all the time, until I told her straight up "If you keep calling yourself ugly, I will start believing you are ugly", 😂 she started to improve her self image after that. On top of that, she knows I take offense if she calls herself ugly, after I just called her sexy. Dont contradict me, thats the equivalent of saying my opinion doesent count, that I would purposely be with a bum, and even worse, that I dont say what I mean.

    • @rejectionisprotection4448
      @rejectionisprotection4448 2 роки тому

      True dat. If you can't accept compliments graciously, then people will be less likely to give them to you.

  • @dynickalee7905
    @dynickalee7905 4 роки тому +1

    Didn't know this was an issue! I do not have the perfect body the body i do have is mine im healthy and i love myself unconditionally so i do not do this. My husband gets the body i give him periodt!