Be sure to follow me on Instagram @itzkeisha_ I’m gonna be following back and messaging yall🤪don’t be shyy This video was filmed about a week ago so when i watched the recent episode (Lexis project ) I was literally annoyed with Cassie ..what’s new lol
In my opinion I think Nate is secretly in love with Jules when he had his dream while being in the hospital he saw Jules multiple times I think he does love MADDY to the bone but I think him coming to therms with his sexuality screwed with his head now Cassie is a stepping stone to Jules when they walked down the hallway together Cassie looked like MADDY then a hint of Jules and he had that nightmare of Jules and his father if he wasn’t talking about her why are you having a dream with her in it but that’s my opinion.
I came back here.. like years later to grab the song! So glad… I like girls😅 but still it’s a TIMELESS Bop and I was like “OK right now THIS is one of the things my sister needs.” TYSM… Far too Underrated
Its so sad that cassie never went to therapy for everything she endured in season 1.and then have Nate prey on her vulnerability and desire to be loved....but she deserves what coming especially with maddie
I feel like she would seem more sympathetic if she actually showed Maddy how guilty she felt, explaining why she did it and what she went through. Maddy still cared but lost even ALL respect when Cassie couldn't even face her
Cassie and Lexi did not experience the same trauma growing up. They both lost their dad but Cassie also got used by her boyfriend and had videos and photos of her leaked. I think that has more to do with her actions this season than daddy issues. And it’s weird that people don’t realize that like….are we all watching the same show? Nate made fun of her the most and I think him validating her made her obsessed with him. Also she got an abortion… I think that really messed her up.
But this is also link to her father being absent alltogheter (i hate the word daddy issues, it has been used to dehuminaze/sexualise young women with mental issues). Cassie has never have any good, decent relationship with me tbh, starting with her dad, her male relatives (in S1 one of them was literally groping her and complimenting her beauty). Then she become a teenager, and started dating. But she still did not solve any of her issues. Non of her boyfriends loved her or cared for her, they only prayed on her vulnerability and deep need for love and acceptance. I see all of her issues as a result of her absent father, but also her own choiches and inresolved mental issues. I pity her a lot, she deserve better
@@khadyadjisall5708 how is a minor, someone who society has agreed is not old enough to make decisions w out their parents, expected to magically fix this trauma cycle? I'm speaking from experience when I say that getting help as a minor w out parental support is so much harder than it sounds. You can't shame the child for what the parents are lacking.
@@cclee6987 when did I shame her exactly? I agree with most of the things yoi said, but let's not sugarcoat reality, we cannot blame all our actions on past traumatic experiences. Some accountability is necessary. She's a minor, not stupid, let's not confuse both notion. Plus trauma explains actions, but does not justify it.
right. she’s always been objectified and used for sex, reduced to her body, yet slut-shamed nonetheless. and it’s to such an extent that she herself believes that she isn’t worthy of love unless she offers sex, or that all she is worth is what her body provides for other men. she’s never had a true, loving relationship where people really care about her and that’s all she’s ever wanted. it’s incredibly sad that people dislike her so much. and her sister perpetuated those rumors about her. cassie was even coerced into things she didn’t wanna do, such as sex tapes or nude photos. people need to understand that when they say “she fucked maddy’s abuser”, maddy was fucking someone who had always made fun of her best friend. they both have their reasons for dating nate and both reasons are sad and none involve rationality or self preservation, i wish people understood that, yknow?
As a 25 year old, watching Euphoria reminds me why I'm glad high school is in the rearview. Every episode I just want everybody to get into therapy and sit down somewhere lmao
no same when Cassie said “I ruined my entire life for you” I was like “yeah… for like the next year maybe until y’all move on and can date college boys lol”
I agree I'm 31 and watching the show. I'm glad I escaped the hell hole 🕳️ of high school. Just little PTSD and tramua when I think back on it awww good times lol😅😅
i think the reason why cassie coped in a very different way than lexie was because of her appearance. Cassie was “the pretty one”, the one with big boobs and the one that was best friend with maddie. She was also the popular. She was given a lot more attention a lot earlier in her life, and it gave her the validation and attention she had just recently lost from her father. I feel like lexie went through the healing process and “therapied” it out but cassie just got addicted to validation from other males and she just replaced what her father didn’t give her.
@@gretchengeorge5302 um no, no one said that. It’s always been fascinating to me why people are the way they are. And hopefully Cassie grows from being a shitty Person in later seasons.
@@jaymanuel3396 Nate, he's an ass but what is seriously stressing me out is the fact that Cassie doesn't see anything wrong with her actions... She cries like she's the victim when she's not. Her hurtful actions toward Maddy who once considered her soulmate and her refusal to see her wrongdoings is what makes me dislike her more than Nate even though he's the abuser.
cassie's been sexualized so much that she uses sex as a token of love, which is why she's made up the story of nate loving her when all they do is have sex. plus that scene in season one of daniel telling her that anyone who says they're interested in her beyond just sex is full of shit just tore her down more than her dad, nate, mckay, being touched inappropriately by family members, and her pictures/videos getting leaked. i see alot of myself in cassie (aside from the best friend drama) from the father issues to over sexualizing myself to feel like i'm worth something. cassie is dead wrong for doing that to maddie and for trying to discredit rue based on her addiction to save her own ass, but i understand why she does the self destructive behaviors that she does. she's hurt and is acting off of what she believes will get someone to like her. she feels like sex is all she's worth and she's using sex as her basis for love because it's all she's ever known.
@@ayeilak5 Marilyn kinda relied on male validation as well, because she afraid of being alone and being viewed as “worthless” without a man by her side
The thing I'm realizing is ppl don't seem to get lexi also isn't okay either. A girl who has to make a play about everyone's trauma to process her own isn't okay
She also unconsciously is attracted to anyone that gives her a small amount of attention, like her sister Cassie. She never showed any interest in Fez during the entire first season and they barely interacted with each other on screen, so when she actually gets to know him and talk to him she starts to develop feelings for him, since he’s visibly the only boy that the audience has ever seen actually get to know her more as a person and show interest in her. When she showed up to his job, she was dressed nicely for him, not for herself. She wanted to impress him, not wear anything that she felt comfortable in. She also was super jealous when she saw Faye in the store, but tried to conceal it. Her and Cassie are quite similar in their behaviors around potential love interests. However, Lexi is way less sexualized than Cassie and even stated that she didn’t want to be known for her body like Cassie is. She can be quite judgmental or too blunt, but it’s from all of the anger that she’s been bottling up inside of her. She fights with her words, not her actions. Both her and Cassie experienced the same life altering event of their father being addicted to drugs and abandoning them as well as their mom being a former alcoholic, but those experiences shaped them in different ways and they express their trauma in different ways. This feels a lot like my relationship with my older sister. We both experienced trauma (not all at the same time of course), but she was always the reckless sibling with mediocre grades, while I was the introverted innocent kid with outstanding grades. The way that I handle my trauma is through my writing (mainly school essays bc I love to overshare) or through my art, while my sister expresses her trauma in ways that I find quite unhealthy and sometimes toxic. Sorry for the long rant lol, I had a lot to say.
it’s interesting how people ask why lexi is totally fine when cassie seems fucked, fact is tho lexi became so extremely introverted shown in lexi’s own narration like rue does as well as the play, she’s so in her head about things. Alternatively, cassie took the spotlight of attention because of how others sexualised her from such a young age and she learns that is her easiest way to earn validation from others and therefore has no need to dig any deeper. i just think that lexi is just as damaged as cassie but in a way that isn’t as obvious
Yep. Lexi is just an internalizer and Cassie is an externalizer. Most ppl just don’t recognize Lexi’s problems bc they’re not physically noticeable. Learned that in therapy actually and I’m more of an internalized myself so I immediately recognized the quality in Lexi. Ppl never realize my problems bc I’m not physically crying or expressing myself but that doesn’t mean it’s not there.
Lexi is just a bad omg and it’s crazy all season people have been calling Lexi the normal one. Like she has make up scenarios in her head to cope with life and she also like Cassie falls in love with everyone she meets.
People have to realize that even tho Cassie and Lexi are sisters they didn’t grow up the same everyone around Cassie made her believe her values came from her looks while Lexi quickly realized she was not as “beautiful” as her sister and people valued her brain over her looks
I think what made me feel bad the most was that Maddy was truly heartbroken by what Cassie did. Like maddy was not surprised that this is something Nate would do, but she didn’t expect that from her best friend, someone that she confided in. Maddy was obviously most mad at her because it was CASSIE who did that behind her back. Also, it’s embarrassing how Cassie never paid Nate any mind but the minute that she finds out that Maddy and him are not dating and he’s paying one minuscule amount of attention, she doesn’t care about her friendship and loyalty to Maddy. That’s fucked up.
Nate played on Cassie’s abandonment and attachment issues and she fell hard. She is really sick mentally and I think she does care but her desperate need for love and fear of abandonment overrides her friendship with Maddy. I think she trying to convince herself that the sacrifice of the friendship make sure that Nate never left her side but that back fired now
Also to play on that confiding thing, I think it would be one thing also if Nate was a decent person or if Maddy never confided to Cassie the shit Nate would pull but hes not a decent person and she would tell Cassie shit that would go down. I think a part of her is also hurt cause Cassie saw all the bad shit Nate did and how Nate hurt Maddy and yet Cassie still wants to be with him
She does love Maddy, she even says it while fucking Nate but she felt Nate was giving her the attention she needed and that probably helped a lot with her daddy issues and for that she’s willing to throw away any relationship. She did care about Maddy but cared about being loved slightly more.
I think Cassie is the perfect embodiment of the phrase “men use love for sex and women use sex for love” (not inherently, it’s something taught through media and our society promotes it). I also think it’s good that we’re seeing this side of Cassie. A lot of men like using the insult “fatherless behavior” towards women that are just existing with an opinion that differs from theirs, but I think Cassie is a great representation of how the lack of a parent (specifically a fatherless for a daughter due to abandonment) can cause said child to look for the validation they weren’t given by their father in intimate relationships, it’s also a great way to show that it isn’t their fault that their parent left and in turn, traumatized them in doing so, but shows how that trauma can manifest into certain behaviors. I think it’s a good way to combat the misogynistic narrative we have about “fatherless” women and the idea that the way their trauma shows itself is somehow their fault. Her abandonment issues aren’t an excuse for her behavior at ALL, but it’s definitely an explanation. I really love the show, shines a light on problems that haven’t been thoroughly talked about when it comes to family dynamics and how we internalize trauma.
It’s honestly so hard to admit that I’m basically a Cassie. I’m my life I’ve changed myself for a guy who I wanted to change but didn’t so I did and lost myself in the process. My childhood trauma of my dad leaving and my mom being basically absent really affected my mental health I developed a personality disorder called BPD and the main symptom of that is fear of abandonment so I’ll go to extreme lengths to make sure it doesn’t happen and I’ll stay in toxic relationships. It also comes with self harm tendencies and rapid mood swings and a bunch of other stuff but I started to self harm at the age of 4 I attempted before I was 18 and it’s seriously something that I can’t control so seeing someone like Cassie really puts it in perspective and my heart really goes out to her honestly wish I could be there to support her I think she needs it. Also I’m so happy your being so optimistic I don’t know what’s going on in your personal life but your feelings are completely valid take the time and keep taking care of yourself beautiful your so important
Oh wow I’m so sorry all of this happened to you You really are a BRAVE AND COURAGEOUS person I truly hope you got/still getting the help and support you need and deserve. Coming back to cassie’s case, I totally agree, a lot of people are focusing on what she did but forgot that she’s a teen who clearly has a mental or personality disorder, and she NEEDS HELP and UNDERSTANDING We can show compassion to someone even if we don’t necessarily agree with their behaviour/action Again thank you sm for sharing your story Stay strong ❣️
i totally relate to you i hope things get better i know it’s hard to give yourself the value you deserve but i’m convinced you can work it through and one day you won’t need anything from anyone anymore. The key is to give yourself what you crave so bad from other people. You are a complete human, and every ressources you need can be found in yourself. I know it sounds cheesy but when you think about it it’s true, and the journey is long but trust me your brain will get used to the positive mechanisms you’re putting in place
I’m so sorry you’re going through this and wish you all the best. I suffer from bpd too and currently in a toxic relationship with someone who’s giving me attention at the wrong time. Even though he’s abusive Im afraid to leave the relationship too as I have a fear of abandonment and hate being single and alone.
@@ahlembnhm2489 thank you so much for being so kind and willing to read my story:) I completely agree I think she’s miss understood and maybe even judged by her actions but it doesn’t define who she is as a person I’m not defending her actions or say I agree but I understand the trauma behind them and like you said she should be shown compassion and love rather than judgment she’s just doing the best she can to cope with everything she’s going through or went through she definitely needs more help, support, and love from someone who’s willing to be patient with her maybe she could even be patient with herself but she’s just a teen who’s struggling with many issues shes human and has a heart just like all of us
Also one thing. I think that Nate isn't capable of love. He loves the idea of owning someone like they're his property. I also think that the closest thing came to loving a person is Jules but he won't admit that to his inner homophobia
Idk where everyone got the idea that Nate loves Jules from tho. Like, did I miss something? The only meaningful interaction between them was the whole Tyler-catfish thing, but it was fake all along, wasn’t it? 😩
@marymaddie oh I hadn't noticed those 💀 I'll have to rewatch lol. The only one I noticed was the one when he has a nightmare and then his dad is fcking him?
true i think he felt something genuine only for jules but obviously he has seen his father having sex with guys and trans so it has fucked up in his mind and he feels it's somethimg wrong he can't except that but within that he is still is toxic and abusive that is his character so even if he was with jules he would have ended hurting her too
I agree w this except for the part abt homophobia. Its gotta be a different word or a different concept bc even tho Jules is trans, she’s still a girl. So it wouldn’t necessarily be homo
I love how Lexi said “we both had the same dreams growing up but turned out so differently” I feel like it sums it up perfectly! Cause I feel like we can sympathize w her while holding her accountable. Lexi had the same trauma and isn’t a horrible person 🤷🏾♀️
Cassie and Lexi did not experience the same trauma. Hello did you miss the whole Cassie episode where she was being recorded and her nud**es were leaked? Lexi didn’t experience that.
I mean they don’t have the same trauma, Cassie was sexualized at a young age and just recently had an abortion. Obviously that doesn’t make what she did ok but she went through some stuff Lexi didn’t, and things effect everyone differently
I feel really bad for Cassie. Obviously she’s wrong for sleeping with Nate and there’s no justifying that but I understand why she did it. She wants to be loved so bad because of her daddy issues that she’s willing to throw away any relationship to have that love. And I can’t stand when people say her behavior came out of nowhere. It was stated in season 1 how much she fell in love and wanted to be loved. Plus she literally just had a abortion which obviously plays into why she’s so emotionally unstable this season. She’s trying to numb the pain of the abortion and of her dad leaving by trying to find someone to love her. Also people have always sexualized her (even her mom) and she’s had her nudes leaked which is awful and also plays a big factor into why she acts the way she does. I think people need to stop acting like she did all of this just to do it. That being said Maddy deserves so much better too. I want both of them to get the help they need.
Maddy deserves the world. It’s like she has been going freaking through it and has to observes everyone’s crap because they can’t deal with their trauma
Regarding having an absent father, my father was in and out of my life similar to Cassie and Lexi’s father. Surprisingly, I definitely related to Lexi in her lack of romantic relationships throughout high school. Perhaps that was due to me attending an all girls school but I definitely don’t see myself in a relationship…ever due to my father.
I hated Cassie's character. Like she needs therapy asap. Season 1 I felt sympathy for the girl but this season she annoyed me. She honestly thinks that any man that looks at her for longer than 5 seconds is in love with her. She was wrong as af for sleeping with Nate.
It didn’t occur to me until you said that Nate use to ignore the fuck out of her. So I feel Cassie is seeking Nate’s attention because she doesn’t get that from her father. So in a way her relationship with Nate is filling that void she isn’t getting from her father.
The moment I started to relate to Cassie a lot rather than being “damn, this bitch is so stupid.” Is what made my smile disappear. Like I won’t steal my friends bf, but the other parts where she got ready at 4 am for Nate. I started getting ready for an hour (which is a long time for me), just for a guy who just used me. I don’t necessarily hate Cassie, but she has a lot of trauma she needs to heal from
Agree with everything but Nate doesn't love Maddy. He loves to control/dominate her. His behavior towards her can never be love. That's my only thing. Abuse can never be love. Thank you for the video!
Cassie is trash for what she did to Maddie, but I think she’s suffering from an addiction, too. Like Rue, she’s willing to alienate/hurt her loved ones if it means getting her fix. They’re both desperately trying to fill the void their fathers left, just by different means.
Okay so. I grew up in a home and had an absent father my entire childhood. I did not have a high school experience like Cassie, if anything I was more like Lexie. However, Cassie and Lexie are not dissimilar in that they both highly crave attention - they just have very different ways of trying to receive that attention. For Cassie, once she hit puberty (having blossomed young), she received that attention through men. For Lexie, she did receive that type of sexualization from men; therefore, she did not learn to seek attention from men as she didn't get it there. Instead, she learned to get attention by standing out from her sister, as contrastingly as possible. In Lexie's mind, she did this by separating herself from the image Cassie created for herself, and saught attention through establishing herself as this responsible, smart, creative person and then, once she felt she was still being overlooked by those around her, wrote an entire play surrounding her life from her point of view. Either way - both girls desire attention from people to make up for their dad not being around. Even Lexie isn't free from male validation as she even tried to "reinvent" herself a bit following the first time she met Fez. It became her desire to impress him. She found someone, a man, who would put her on a pedestal and value her traits (being a "good girl", intellectual, etc), that set her "apart" from her peers. The truth of daddy issues, the most present trait of those who have daddy issues in dating, is chasing after those who don't want you. If a guy rejects you or if it is difficult to get a man, people who struggle with abandonment issues will take this and view it as a challenge. Because they weren't enough and couldn't do enough to keep their dad around, you bet your booty they're not going to allow someone they feel that they want... not want them back, as they've already felt this pain plenty of times. (This contributes to eating disorders actually. Daughters of absent fathers are highly likely to struggle with eating as they search for being perfect for a man/man, and are willing to put themselves through that physical and emotional pain in order to "win" the person they're after). And innately, saw their mom "lose" the challenge of keeping her man. For Cassie, Nate was the biggest challenge. She wanted to prove to herself that she could get this guy, this guy who is some sort of "star-crossed" lover, someone she would have to battle for, someone who has been extremely "passionate" in love in the past. Because of how she saw him love Maddie, a type of love she's always wanted, she thought that he wouldn't leave her if she fully gave herself to him, emotionally and physically. Because, in order to love him, they both had to hurt as well (because they had to go through their situation with Maddie), they had to surrender and struggle, she sees this as climbing some sort of mountain together. They climbed a mountain to be together, they love each other wholly, he loves her and even for her crazy... She wants a man, who she feels like she won, who won't leave her, and she feels that to have this, she has to give her life completely to the man she wants.
I wish that we had more on Cassies and Lexis relationship with their mom. There is a scene in season one where Lsxi basically emphasizes that their mom was much more fixated on Cassie (bc of her looks) and that Lexi tells Cassie that always gives her reassurance about her beauty. I don't think Cassie has been given space to be taken seriously or heard outside of her "appeal" to characters and the audience. This parallels her breakdown with her mom saying she can "fucking feel it" when she thinks ppl don't think she respects herself
Honestly everyone including myself liked and felt bad for Cassie in season 1. But I feel like there’s a difference between characters like ,Rue and Maddy, versus Jules and Cassie. Rue and Maddy seem to be honest about who they are as people. Rue is aware of the fact that she isn’t a good person. On episode 5 she said “You wish I was different, so do I. You hate me, so do I.” But Cassie didn’t even seem bad about messing with Nate behind Maddy back. She seemed more scared of getting her ass beat rather than losing a friendship with Maddie. I think that’s what really sealed the deal for me. And then she had the nerve to say Lexi had no self respect for being friends with Rue to try deflect the fact she been acting like a clown. Also I think daddy issues plays a part in her desperation for male attention but I can’t use that as excuse for doing her best friend like that.
You are so right! Its for sure the honesty which I think is why I like Rue and Maddy vs Jules and Cassie. Cassie tries at every chance to "justify" her actions saying "but they weren't even together at the time".
Maddie isn’t honest about who she is. She tries to justify her behavior like the rest of them. She does the same thing but people excuse it because she’s portrayed as a spicy Latina. She’s been held to a different standard. All of them are. They all go through similar experiences (SA and a need for validation) and we all have a unique unempathic blind spot with all of them. The only one who doesn’t is Lexi but she has her own set of issues because she isolates and is envious of their experiences when she shouldn’t be.
@@taylorbew1854 I disagree and I even forgot Maddie was even Latina at points considering she barely fits into that Stereotype. She gives me more “mean girl” than anything else. If a character isn’t willing to acknowledge their flaws then they won’t have any character development. Maddie actually has character development in season 2 compared to season 1. She’s a much better friend now than ever. Cassie clearly cannot grasp the idea of her being selfish and a pick me stemming from her daddy issues. Once she’s willing to accept who she actually is, then she can grow into a better person. People are allowed to have flaws but they need to be honest about who they are because that’s the only way they able to change. Also people are allowed to not like a character for having no character development just the same way people coddle Cassie because they so stuck on how she was in season 1.
Even though I definitely can relate to Lexi more, I still feel for Cassie. You see in season 1 just how badly she wants to be loved and just ends up getting used physically, then in season 2 you watch her fall even lower because of that desire. Her decisions were wrong, and her insistence that she's not on the wrong made her a bit annoying, but I still want better for her. I think sometimes its hard to watch someone who is embarrassing themselves like that because it reminds us of things we've done or even contemplating doing for someone to notice us. She's more relatable and than a lot of people want to admit, and I think that gets in the way of some people empathizing with her.
I think when girls do this to their 'bestfriend' it says a lot more about their friendship than it does with male validation. Lets be real men generally aren't picky when it comes to girls they sleep with. I think Cassie just had an intense jealousy of Maddie because Maddie is exactly what Cassie wants to be (confident, knows herself, knows what she wants).
THE LAVENDER ON YOUR SKIN >>>> Edit: And we’re all humans, I’m glad you got out of that phase and bounced tf back, because sometimes it’s hard but God only gives the toughest battles to his strongest people 🙏🏽💞
I believe that Nate was obsessed with Cassie in season one, because he couldn't get her. She knew he was off limits and she was with the man she wanted for the rest of her life. so now that McKay is out of the picture he wanted to have her way before anyone knew she was available. Hes a freak in my own opinion.
can’t watch this video yet, but i wanted to say you look absolutely stunning. i adore this look on you. the short, blonde hair just really makes your face pop. gorgeous!!
I’ve had a Cassie BFF in high school - went behind my back with an ex but tried who also tried getting back to me after all of the shade. She also came from a home without a father and I feel like deep down that ignites some kind of missing void and men become a priority over anything else. Anyways besides my high school drama from 80 years ago.. I’m literally in the zone watching u put makeup on and it’s so relaxing lol
I have had a very similar life to Cassie - it's almost eerie. I'm 24 - one of the very few differences between Cassie and I is the fact that I did fall for my friend's manipulative & narcissist ex, however, I told the truth after we went on our first date and decided to pursue things with each other. I looked my friend in the eye and told her, and I was the target of tons of social media hate from girls who had been my friend prior. I was body shamed and trauma shamed (a lot of my "friends" knew me well enough to know what I had been through prior to engaging in the relationship. I'm healing now, but the quote "He showed me all the right attention at the wrong time." really rings true. I was in a friend group of people who I knew were fake and not true friends, I was feeling extremely alone in life and my ex saw that. I had never been put through so much for loving someone before.
@itzkeisha I am in a black household and I have been told that I acted like my biological father by my step dad and mother at one point in my teens( he was a drunkard and abuser to my mom). I've never done anything close to what he did, even when I made mistakes. The verbal abuse has gotten worse over the years and you hit it on the nail when you talked about not visiting home because of reasons like mine😷
One thing for sure is I love these characters because their all so complex, multifaceted and multi dimensional, like they're actually fleshed out. Peoples development isnt linear and I think this show really puts that out there and shows that really well
The scene with lexi in the back seat of her dads car was so heartbreaking. I know in the moment she wished she was an a adult and that's why she behaves a lot more maturely than others, even her older sister.
I feel like her having abandonment issues made her merge herself with other people like with Nate but she lost her sense of self in the process. Very unhealthy coping mechanisms overall. People sexualising her at such a young age probably made her hyper sexual and thinks she needs to present herself in a certain way for validation and love
I loved this like, video essay, and to see you posting again and things seem to be getting better (personally for you)? After listening to you, I’m thinking that Nate was a predator towards Cassie in episode 1 of season 2, and Cassie… she’s in SHOCK after she leaves the bathroom and sees Lexi and Maddy jumps into hugging her. Very much stunned. So I think to justify what she did, she wants to convince herself that she’s in love. And that is very easy for her to convince herself of, given her trauma. And when Maddy wasn’t supportive of Cassie saying she wanted to try being single, that probably hit. So when she was sad, Nate saw an opportunity and basically re-accentuated what Maddy said to Cassie, by saying to Cassie, “You’re a relationship girl, right?” Kinda further pushing out her idea of trying personal growth and being single - because it’s often easier to meet people’s expectations and molds of what they see you as, it’s “safer” And maybe in a twisted way he sees Cassie wanting to give love as a polarity to what he’s experienced in his life and the trauma brought on through his father and other things and how he’s “coped”… but he’s really just recreating it by becoming his father in a sense (control). When he asked that to Cassie, it’s like, he thought he wanted a partner, but he really wanted someone who he could control and would be submissive to him. Which contrasts his connection to Jules, because she was kind to him without knowing it was him and he confided into her fully without (nullifying the whole “power and control” aspect of a connection between people; which is why I also think a Nate+Jules thing didn’t happen this season like some people felt would’ve been better… because when Nate tried to control/assert dominance over Jules at the carnival, she was like, “immediately, no”).
I have to say, many teenage girls with a penchant towards romanticism (especially in their first 'real' relationship) believe they CAN change their significant other. I include myself in this, and it's sad.
Unrelated to Cassie (I think): I think Lexi had bad intentions with this play. She kept on telling Fez that she wanted everyone to know her intentions were good. However at the end of the day she made a spectacle of everyone's problems in front of everyone. Especially Cassie and Nate. That's not going to get them to understand what they did is wrong, that's gonna make them never want to talk to you again. With that being said, it's not really a bad thing that Lexi had bad intentions. Cassie was really mean to her many times and the choices she's making right now are terrible. And Nate... is Nate. Lexi has every right to hate him, even if he never spoke to her before. He needed to be taken down a few notches honestly, and so did Cassie.
@@morguebarbie Ah yes emotionally unstable 17 year old girl with untreated trauma and who is prone to mental breakdowns is deserving of public humiliation by her own sister. I don’t think you realize what you’re advocating for. Please grow up.
In the US. I was a Cassie but didn't have a Maddy. I was used for my body a lot like her. I dated a McKay type before my Nate. I was deceived into being a side chick by "Nate", a master manipulator, psychological abuser and dark soul. I moved across the country from my Nate. Its been 3 years since I saw him. Its been 2 years since I've gone no contact with my toxic father as well (who was an addict and not around when I was little - he later disowned me in 2020). I am doing my best to heal from loving, being abused by and losing both toxic men. Its a lonely journey. Other than the side chick experience, I've been single for years. But I'm also 32 and not a teenager. Just doing my best.
In season 1 I could relate a lot to Cassie and she was my favorite character because of that. but this new season i can’t anymore. I just feel like having an absent father doesn’t cause you to go behind your best friends back to get with her abusive ex. Season 2 makes her come off as just a really mean person who victimizes herself.
I mean it isn't just the abandonment issues. I think it's people sexualizng her at a young age, acting like that's all she's worth and her need for love/attention but getting tht with her body cause maybe thts all she's worth & has to offer
16:43 "Not emotionally intelligent." You're right...but they're still kids, though. Even when kids are emotionally intelligent, it doesn't mean they'll have the nuance or experience to properly utilise that. And the point of the show is to examine how we all can be blind to our own toxicity, especially at that age, because at that age, you're too close to your own emotions to properly articulate or even understand them.
One of the reasons I love Cassie and Lexi is because I can relate to a lot of their behaviors that most likely developed because of their dad leaving. While my father has not left, he has done many traumatic things that have followed me throughout my life. I don’t agree with Cassie’s behavior, but I understand where it developed from. Even as an LGBTQ person in a same-sex relationship, I still seek validation from men in some sort of way. It sucks and I wish I didn’t feel like I need it, but it’s there.
The thing that pisses me off is the fact it seems like nobody can sympathize with Cassie without them being accused of condoning her behavior. Cassie went through a lot in season one so it’s understandable for her to be acting the way she is acting this season. Nothing that has happened in season 2 has surprised me because it all adds up with what we were told in season one. So the fact that people are treating her character the way they are is wild to me. They are treating Cassie like she killed fez grandma or something. Don’t get me wrong, what she was fucked up on multiple levels because Nate disrespected her for years and abused her best friend physically and mentally to the point that I’m concerned for Maddie’s mental health. She’s annoying as hell and be trying to play victim all the time but you cannot deny the fact that something is seriously wrong with Cassie. I don’t believe that she did what she did to spite Maddie, I think she did it because she liked the way that Nate made her feel and would do anything to keep that feeling. I do wanna say that she should’ve had enough respect for Maddie and their relationship to open the door but she didn’t and personally that shit was just sad. She fucked and continues to fuck her bestfriend’s abusive ex but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve some sympathy. If you can forgive Maddie after she said that man raped her, if you can forgive Kat after she stood up her heartbroken friend to suck some dick and if you forgive drug addicted rue for hitting her sister and threatening her mother then you forgive or at least grant Cassie a little bit of sympathy because every individual in that show has done some questionable or horrible ass stuff (except for Ethan). It seems like the only reason why people sympathize with rue is because she has drug addiction and has had it hard growing up but doesn’t extend the same privilege to the real life drug addicts and that tells me that someone has to have a “good enough” to be granted sympathy and that just ain’t right. Rue, Maddie, Lexi, Kat, Jules, etc. deserves to be granted some sympathy and forgiveness because it is not up to you or anyone for that matter to judge someone and tell them that what they have done is unforgivable. One thing that you can take away from euphoria, if you are open to, is that everything isn’t so black and white and there is more to people than what it seems.
i agree wit this a lot. the fact that the only thing Cassie did that was wrong and made everyone hate her was the fact that she went out with her bffs ex, and thats trash and i dont support it but as u said Maddie literally destroyed a persons life and people praise her like she never did something wrong. Also a lot of people think Cassie is worse than Nate which is crazy like what the actual--
@@blakesraeken4410 Whenever there is a situation of two girls fighting over a guy…….. the guy can be a killer or the worst kind of person you can think of and people will still say one of the girls (the girl that breaks the girl code) is worst than the guy…. It’s a sad truth.
Lexi and Cassie are two different people, I can relate to Lexi, my sister spent her whole life trying to justify our dad leaving, while I was just numb and tired of his ass, she always said "you don't know his reason." Or blame mom, anything but just admit that he was a careless drunk who couldn't be responsible for shit. I think lexi feel the same way I did, NUMB. My sister had an awakening when he told her he just didn't give a shit.
As a person who doesn't have a dad and with friends who don't I feel like it's different for everyone. I am fully aware of how some girls without dads seek male validation whereas some use their lack of a father figure as an excuse to give hate towards men.
I’m mixed, my mom is white, dad is black. I’ve always been thrown into that stereotype of not having a dad. And it didn’t help that in high school my mother would tell me certain things about him. He did leave during that time but it was for a better job, he never really left me tho. Fast forward to right after I graduated my mom (who was abusing drugs at the time) straight up left me do deal with her apparent and jail debts. Legally I didn’t have to because I was underage when we moved in/when she went to jail, but the point is she left. I haven’t spoken to her since and it’s been almost 5 years. The people in high school who used to call my dad a deadbeat deserves to be slapped,because he’s always been her for me. He’s always tried to to the best for me, and he always tells me he’s with me supporting me in everything I do Nice little rant over, I absolutely love you and I can’t wait to watch more of your videos (as a new subscriber usually does I plan to binge watch everything). I hope everyone who took the time to read this has a lovely day!💕💕💕
Looking deeper/beyond the surface level to why people are the way they are and why they act the way they do is levels to remaining empathetic towards the trauma people have endured, & struggles/pain they have faced. It doesn’t mean you condone or excuse their behaviour but like with Cassie, you can see some insight and gain understanding to why she seeks so much validation, and is constantly looking for love outside of herself. Praying for her to recognise this in season 3, and seek the help she needs 💚
I have a really hard love/hate relationship with Cassie, mostly because I relate to her so much. Before my mom walked out on me and my sister, her love was always conditional, so I spent most of my life being the daughter she wanted me to be, rather than who I wanted to be. Because of that, I find myself trying to change who I am in desperation to be loved. I feel so much for her trying to change who she is to be loved. I obviously don't condone what she's doing, but I understand where her heart is in this, and it pains me so much to see what she's doing and going through.
i wouldn't be surprised if cassie's repeated disdain for rue because of her drug addiction is because it runs in her own family. her mum's a functioning alcoholic, her dad's an addict and left the family - i think despite her craving for male validation, she just can't yet bring herself to feel angry at her dad for leaving and i think the beginnings of that show in her vitriol towards rue. not healthy beginnings, for sure, but i think she needs to learn to be angry that she was abandoned in favour of drugs and stop clinging onto these false happy memories of her father. i don't want to compare how they deal with their trauma, but the difference in perspective from cassie and lexi is astounding. cassie's memories of her father are light and happy and from a time when she was doing better and was somewhat healthy, but from lexi's perspective - seeing her dad driving drunk and sleeping during the day - i can't imagine how terrifying that is to see someone you love become that way and it must have hurt a thousand times more when rue OD'd too. i think lexi is just a lot more logically and perceptively driven than she is emotionally driven and she can pick up on certain things others don't because, as she would describe herself, she's a passive observer whereas cassie is an active doer. cassie is so much more emotional by nature, she clings onto happy memories and craves male validation so hard that her attitude towards drugs and people who are addicted to drugs is incredibly toxic. everyone except for her dad, well, because everyone has a little nepotism to give away. i just don't think cassie is very good at reconciling the fact that she clearly and dearly loves her dad and the memory of this perfect man in her life who would guide her (hence why she so easily folds and submits to men in return for validation) and her anger at her abandonment in favour of drugs. she does everything she can not to let go of those memories because from her perspective what other happiness has she got now? she digs deeper and deeper and deeper and becomes addicted to that validation and in the process she physically can't get out and can't reasonably find out why she should so she keeps going until she's pushed all of her friends away, her family away and her boyfriend breaks up with her. there is no happiness left for her, no validation at all, there is no validation for her actions from anyone and nobody sympathises with her and rightfully so. she's an asshole and ruined her friendship so she could get with a man. not just any man, but a closeted abuser who she should know for a fact falsely had those DV charges dropped. nate's actions even mirror her dad's later on when she knew him - not paying her much attention up until the garage visit, the drunk driving, the meeting or conversing on the down low, the fact that once she even gets a drip of validation she latches onto it like a lost puppy. she is a pathetic wet rag of a woman and i think in more ways she's been the primary antagonist this season moreso than nate. while nate is definitely the main antagonist of the show (which, even then some people could sympathise with him because of the irreversibly deep trauma he experienced so young and his internalised homophobia), his abuse continues this season primarily through cassie like a catalyst. cassie is essentially the product of what nate jacobs does to women, on the blankest, most vulnerable and traumatised and depraved canvas he could find.
That bathroom scene of Cassie having like a breakdown and then trying to compose herself…great acting right there, I was going to choose Jacob Elordi too as the best actor, but Sydney Sweeney kind of raised the ball there with that scene 👌
My mother stopped my dad seeing me so I grew up without a father, and then my mother is a raging narcissist and she doesn’t like me, so the only person who I felt loved me was my grandmother. All of that defo caused me to have attachment issues in my relationships
Thank you for being vulnerable. You are right, sometimes we just need time to be sad and low before we jump back into the work of life. I am happy to hear when influencers take breaks for their mental health.
This is the first video I watch from your channel and I just wanna tell you, you’re LITERALLY so gorgeous 😍😍😍 And you’re funny, and confident, and your essay was so entertaining to listen to! I’m definitely subscribing 🥰🥰🥰
You’re 100% correct. I was on track to become a soccer player professional but I stopped because my dad passed away. I’ve never touched a ball since bc we used to train together. And he was my best friend. As for Lexi when my dad passed I put my all into school I’ve never dated because I am still chasing those goals. I’m about to graduate from university and I have worked super hard to be successful. I mean I have a job lined up right after but I say this to say I worked so hard after he passed to keep my family together and work hard towards my future.
not the one to deep euphoria, but I can't help but feel like Cassie resembles Katherine Howard (yes the fifth wife of Henry VIII, and no not just bc of the surname). Both of their proximity to the male gaze took ahold of their emotional vulnerability and has ultimately destroyed them. Ofc Katherine's stakes were on an astronomically higher level and was undeniably sexually assaulted (that's not up for debate she was a CHILD), however their downfall and them being pushed into feeling of being trapped which is only enforced on them by a narcissistic abuser is just incredibly reminiscent. I also must say I despise people who shit on Cassie over Nate and Cal and use the excuse it's expected behavior from them???? what you can excuse the behavior of an abuser and a pedophile but cannot sympathize with the girl who falls victim to said abuser??? sounds misogynistic to me.
Cassie is not a victim of Nate. She had a front row seat to his abuse of Maddie and she didn’t care because in her mind her being validated was more important to her.
@glitterbussy provide evidence Cassie did not know of the abuse. Cassie is Maddie’s best friend. She doesn’t have to witness him choking Maddie in order for her to know he’s trash. You sound like a Cassie honestly
I’m a Cassie , not exactly but I definitely have seeked validation for guys , my whole life has been about men . My father was abusive to my mom and she stayed , and I see the patterns …. But I’m seeking help and I hope I can just live life for me as it should be .
i acc love cassie's character and i relate to her a lot. I don't agree with some of her actions, but I love how complexicated she is, even though she doesn't admit to her wrongs, she does what she wants, and stands for what she loves and wants. Also, I feel like I've seen at some many times people put on facades for the sake of friend ship and are never happy, even though what she's doing is wrong, she will end up reaping the consequences, and she will without the pressure.
Nate and Cassie are definitely the best actors. That's why I be mad that the writers keep making nude scenes for Sydney Sweeney beacuse they could be giving her more chances to show her range and not just her body. Nate really took it up a notch this season. Maddy dodged a bullet. Literally.
Zendaya would be one of the best actresses in this show in my opinion, cause in a lot of scenes she’s just improvising, like the fight with her mom in season 1
Gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous 👑!!! Have fun and play with those temporary colors like a dark purple that will wash and fade out to a lilac color, ugh ur skin tone, that color, you’ll be killen em!!! ❤️🔥 so beautiful
I love every character in Euphoria, even Nate, yes NATE. They're like a sibling or friend you have this love-hate relationship with them, one minute your rooting for them and another you just can't and I think that's what makes them so realistic. Can't wait for Ep 8.
Of course abusers get love. Also, while Maddie is responsible for what she’s done, let’s not forget she was in an abusive relationship and that includes emotional abuse. Framing that dude was hugely on Nate, he literally pulled a “if you don’t do this you will ruin my life”
Cassie is my absolute favorite character. Why? She’s complex. She isn’t a villain she’s a victim of hyper sexualization of a teenage girl and also exploitation. She has daddy issues, trauma, had her photos leaked, was bullied by Nate where hint hint guys that’s probably why she went for him, etc.
I hate people who always come for girls for having Daddy issues, not saying that's what Keisha was doing, but Boys have daddy issues too. And why come for the girl, I've been watching period shows and men never change, they do the wrong, and women are held accountable.
I love your hair. If you ever feel inclined to, I would love to see what your hair would look as magenta or green! Otherwise, I'm glad you did what you could to take care of your emotional wellbeing and rest. :) Love the track btw! I would love to hear your other thoughts on the other characters. I don't like Lexi much but I would love to understand the character better. I think this is because the way I cope with my own abandonment flavored daddy issues is closer to Cassie than to Lexi. Also, missing McKay this season and I wish we could have explored his relationship with masculinity more. :( Sorry; I'm trying not to write an essay in the comments but nonetheless, I love the vid.
Be sure to follow me on Instagram @itzkeisha_ I’m gonna be following back and messaging yall🤪don’t be shyy
This video was filmed about a week ago so when i watched the recent episode (Lexis project ) I was literally annoyed with Cassie ..what’s new lol
You should do Maddy, Fez & Nate
off topic but you're so beautiful
In my opinion I think Nate is secretly in love with Jules when he had his dream while being in the hospital he saw Jules multiple times I think he does love MADDY to the bone but I think him coming to therms with his sexuality screwed with his head now Cassie is a stepping stone to Jules when they walked down the hallway together Cassie looked like MADDY then a hint of Jules and he had that nightmare of Jules and his father if he wasn’t talking about her why are you having a dream with her in it but that’s my opinion.
I came back here.. like years later to grab the song!
So glad… I like girls😅 but still it’s a TIMELESS Bop and I was like “OK right now THIS is one of the things my sister needs.”
TYSM… Far too Underrated
4:14 🙏🏾
Its so sad that cassie never went to therapy for everything she endured in season 1.and then have Nate prey on her vulnerability and desire to be loved....but she deserves what coming especially with maddie
I feel like she would seem more sympathetic if she actually showed Maddy how guilty she felt, explaining why she did it and what she went through. Maddy still cared but lost even ALL respect when Cassie couldn't even face her
@@nagisamizuno872 right.. like she would be redeemable is she showed an ounce of care for her ex best friend. It’s like did she ever care at all?
She never cared about hurting Maddie, she was scared of Maddie finding out.
@@kanwalh580 that’s the worst part smh
@@taylormade9748 FRR
When she said 'you can control what i eat, wear etc' i was like girl no-
PICK YOURSELF UPPPP CASSIE
Homegirl becoming 2013 wattpad y/n LMAOOO
SHE WEAK IN THE KNEES LIKE GET UPPPP GETTTTT UUUUPPPP
It's a dominant/submissive relationship that definitely shouldn't exist. It reminded me of 50 Shades. Huge yikes.
@@lbierman21 bruh 50 shades was less controlling than that LMAO
Cassie and Lexi did not experience the same trauma growing up. They both lost their dad but Cassie also got used by her boyfriend and had videos and photos of her leaked. I think that has more to do with her actions this season than daddy issues. And it’s weird that people don’t realize that like….are we all watching the same show? Nate made fun of her the most and I think him validating her made her obsessed with him. Also she got an abortion… I think that really messed her up.
But this is also link to her father being absent alltogheter (i hate the word daddy issues, it has been used to dehuminaze/sexualise young women with mental issues). Cassie has never have any good, decent relationship with me tbh, starting with her dad, her male relatives (in S1 one of them was literally groping her and complimenting her beauty). Then she become a teenager, and started dating. But she still did not solve any of her issues. Non of her boyfriends loved her or cared for her, they only prayed on her vulnerability and deep need for love and acceptance.
I see all of her issues as a result of her absent father, but also her own choiches and inresolved mental issues. I pity her a lot, she deserve better
@@khadyadjisall5708 how is a minor, someone who society has agreed is not old enough to make decisions w out their parents, expected to magically fix this trauma cycle? I'm speaking from experience when I say that getting help as a minor w out parental support is so much harder than it sounds. You can't shame the child for what the parents are lacking.
@@cclee6987 when did I shame her exactly? I agree with most of the things yoi said, but let's not sugarcoat reality, we cannot blame all our actions on past traumatic experiences. Some accountability is necessary. She's a minor, not stupid, let's not confuse both notion. Plus trauma explains actions, but does not justify it.
right. she’s always been objectified and used for sex, reduced to her body, yet slut-shamed nonetheless. and it’s to such an extent that she herself believes that she isn’t worthy of love unless she offers sex, or that all she is worth is what her body provides for other men. she’s never had a true, loving relationship where people really care about her and that’s all she’s ever wanted. it’s incredibly sad that people dislike her so much. and her sister perpetuated those rumors about her. cassie was even coerced into things she didn’t wanna do, such as sex tapes or nude photos.
people need to understand that when they say “she fucked maddy’s abuser”, maddy was fucking someone who had always made fun of her best friend. they both have their reasons for dating nate and both reasons are sad and none involve rationality or self preservation, i wish people understood that, yknow?
Exactly I still like Cassie people literally get so fucking mad whenever I say I like her still like she's been through so much and I feel bad for her
As a 25 year old, watching Euphoria reminds me why I'm glad high school is in the rearview. Every episode I just want everybody to get into therapy and sit down somewhere lmao
no same when Cassie said “I ruined my entire life for you” I was like “yeah… for like the next year maybe until y’all move on and can date college boys lol”
I agree I'm 31 and watching the show. I'm glad I escaped the hell hole 🕳️ of high school. Just little PTSD and tramua when I think back on it awww good times lol😅😅
i think the reason why cassie coped in a very different way than lexie was because of her appearance. Cassie was “the pretty one”, the one with big boobs and the one that was best friend with maddie. She was also the popular. She was given a lot more attention a lot earlier in her life, and it gave her the validation and attention she had just recently lost from her father. I feel like lexie went through the healing process and “therapied” it out but cassie just got addicted to validation from other males and she just replaced what her father didn’t give her.
Except for Lexi is the prettier one 😹
Are you kidding me? Both of them are very pretty lmao. They both had different ways of coping. That is all.
@@DeePeeZee oh shut up you know what they meant
@@DeePeeZee hi cassie
@@DeePeeZee no was said Lexi wasn’t pretty, stop assuming shit
I’m really loving the conversations on WHY Cassie is the way she is instead of just talking shit about what she’s done and dismissing her 🤷🏾♀️
Same
No one dismisses what’s happened to her. For whatever reason, y’all think that trauma is an excuse to be a shitty person…
@@gretchengeorge5302 um no, no one said that. It’s always been fascinating to me why people are the way they are. And hopefully Cassie grows from being a shitty Person in later seasons.
There are no other characters that have ever stressed me out the way Cassie does...she's a piece of work🥴
not even rue? lol
Or Nate????
@@rodeogirl8459 Nope, not even her🥴😂
@@jaymanuel3396 Nate, he's an ass but what is seriously stressing me out is the fact that Cassie doesn't see anything wrong with her actions... She cries like she's the victim when she's not.
Her hurtful actions toward Maddy who once considered her soulmate and her refusal to see her wrongdoings is what makes me dislike her more than Nate even though he's the abuser.
most stressful characters, in order =
1. nate
2. cassie
3. rue
cassie's been sexualized so much that she uses sex as a token of love, which is why she's made up the story of nate loving her when all they do is have sex. plus that scene in season one of daniel telling her that anyone who says they're interested in her beyond just sex is full of shit just tore her down more than her dad, nate, mckay, being touched inappropriately by family members, and her pictures/videos getting leaked. i see alot of myself in cassie (aside from the best friend drama) from the father issues to over sexualizing myself to feel like i'm worth something. cassie is dead wrong for doing that to maddie and for trying to discredit rue based on her addiction to save her own ass, but i understand why she does the self destructive behaviors that she does. she's hurt and is acting off of what she believes will get someone to like her. she feels like sex is all she's worth and she's using sex as her basis for love because it's all she's ever known.
Very well said I would Compare Cassie to Marilyn Monroe who was over sexualize and treated horrible in her life.
@@ayeilak5 Marilyn kinda relied on male validation as well, because she afraid of being alone and being viewed as “worthless” without a man by her side
@@Miscellaneous_master the society we live in taught her that also the wag gap men still make more then us women.
@danielle which is why the title says "hopeless romantic"
THANK YOU!!!
The thing I'm realizing is ppl don't seem to get lexi also isn't okay either. A girl who has to make a play about everyone's trauma to process her own isn't okay
YESSS
She also unconsciously is attracted to anyone that gives her a small amount of attention, like her sister Cassie. She never showed any interest in Fez during the entire first season and they barely interacted with each other on screen, so when she actually gets to know him and talk to him she starts to develop feelings for him, since he’s visibly the only boy that the audience has ever seen actually get to know her more as a person and show interest in her. When she showed up to his job, she was dressed nicely for him, not for herself. She wanted to impress him, not wear anything that she felt comfortable in. She also was super jealous when she saw Faye in the store, but tried to conceal it. Her and Cassie are quite similar in their behaviors around potential love interests. However, Lexi is way less sexualized than Cassie and even stated that she didn’t want to be known for her body like Cassie is. She can be quite judgmental or too blunt, but it’s from all of the anger that she’s been bottling up inside of her. She fights with her words, not her actions. Both her and Cassie experienced the same life altering event of their father being addicted to drugs and abandoning them as well as their mom being a former alcoholic, but those experiences shaped them in different ways and they express their trauma in different ways. This feels a lot like my relationship with my older sister. We both experienced trauma (not all at the same time of course), but she was always the reckless sibling with mediocre grades, while I was the introverted innocent kid with outstanding grades. The way that I handle my trauma is through my writing (mainly school essays bc I love to overshare) or through my art, while my sister expresses her trauma in ways that I find quite unhealthy and sometimes toxic. Sorry for the long rant lol, I had a lot to say.
it’s interesting how people ask why lexi is totally fine when cassie seems fucked, fact is tho lexi became so extremely introverted shown in lexi’s own narration like rue does as well as the play, she’s so in her head about things. Alternatively, cassie took the spotlight of attention because of how others sexualised her from such a young age and she learns that is her easiest way to earn validation from others and therefore has no need to dig any deeper. i just think that lexi is just as damaged as cassie but in a way that isn’t as obvious
Yep. Lexi is just an internalizer and Cassie is an externalizer. Most ppl just don’t recognize Lexi’s problems bc they’re not physically noticeable. Learned that in therapy actually and I’m more of an internalized myself so I immediately recognized the quality in Lexi. Ppl never realize my problems bc I’m not physically crying or expressing myself but that doesn’t mean it’s not there.
Lexi is just a bad omg and it’s crazy all season people have been calling Lexi the normal one. Like she has make up scenarios in her head to cope with life and she also like Cassie falls in love with everyone she meets.
@@lauren1211 Lexi isn’t “just as bad” she’s just quiet and introverted
@@tizzbabe4386 i see myself in her wtffff
@@冬天-c7m you aren’t alone
People have to realize that even tho Cassie and Lexi are sisters they didn’t grow up the same everyone around Cassie made her believe her values came from her looks while Lexi quickly realized she was not as “beautiful” as her sister and people valued her brain over her looks
I think what made me feel bad the most was that Maddy was truly heartbroken by what Cassie did. Like maddy was not surprised that this is something Nate would do, but she didn’t expect that from her best friend, someone that she confided in. Maddy was obviously most mad at her because it was CASSIE who did that behind her back. Also, it’s embarrassing how Cassie never paid Nate any mind but the minute that she finds out that Maddy and him are not dating and he’s paying one minuscule amount of attention, she doesn’t care about her friendship and loyalty to Maddy. That’s fucked up.
Nate played on Cassie’s abandonment and attachment issues and she fell hard. She is really sick mentally and I think she does care but her desperate need for love and fear of abandonment overrides her friendship with Maddy. I think she trying to convince herself that the sacrifice of the friendship make sure that Nate never left her side but that back fired now
Also to play on that confiding thing, I think it would be one thing also if Nate was a decent person or if Maddy never confided to Cassie the shit Nate would pull but hes not a decent person and she would tell Cassie shit that would go down. I think a part of her is also hurt cause Cassie saw all the bad shit Nate did and how Nate hurt Maddy and yet Cassie still wants to be with him
@glitterbussy she knows that maddy got abused, I don’t think that she’d talk and joke about it if they didn’t know
She does love Maddy, she even says it while fucking Nate but she felt Nate was giving her the attention she needed and that probably helped a lot with her daddy issues and for that she’s willing to throw away any relationship. She did care about Maddy but cared about being loved slightly more.
I think Cassie is the perfect embodiment of the phrase “men use love for sex and women use sex for love” (not inherently, it’s something taught through media and our society promotes it). I also think it’s good that we’re seeing this side of Cassie. A lot of men like using the insult “fatherless behavior” towards women that are just existing with an opinion that differs from theirs, but I think Cassie is a great representation of how the lack of a parent (specifically a fatherless for a daughter due to abandonment) can cause said child to look for the validation they weren’t given by their father in intimate relationships, it’s also a great way to show that it isn’t their fault that their parent left and in turn, traumatized them in doing so, but shows how that trauma can manifest into certain behaviors. I think it’s a good way to combat the misogynistic narrative we have about “fatherless” women and the idea that the way their trauma shows itself is somehow their fault. Her abandonment issues aren’t an excuse for her behavior at ALL, but it’s definitely an explanation. I really love the show, shines a light on problems that haven’t been thoroughly talked about when it comes to family dynamics and how we internalize trauma.
It’s honestly so hard to admit that I’m basically a Cassie. I’m my life I’ve changed myself for a guy who I wanted to change but didn’t so I did and lost myself in the process. My childhood trauma of my dad leaving and my mom being basically absent really affected my mental health I developed a personality disorder called BPD and the main symptom of that is fear of abandonment so I’ll go to extreme lengths to make sure it doesn’t happen and I’ll stay in toxic relationships. It also comes with self harm tendencies and rapid mood swings and a bunch of other stuff but I started to self harm at the age of 4 I attempted before I was 18 and it’s seriously something that I can’t control so seeing someone like Cassie really puts it in perspective and my heart really goes out to her honestly wish I could be there to support her I think she needs it.
Also I’m so happy your being so optimistic I don’t know what’s going on in your personal life but your feelings are completely valid take the time and keep taking care of yourself beautiful your so important
Oh wow I’m so sorry all of this happened to you
You really are a BRAVE AND COURAGEOUS person
I truly hope you got/still getting the help and support you need and deserve.
Coming back to cassie’s case, I totally agree, a lot of people are focusing on what she did but forgot that she’s a teen who clearly has a mental or personality disorder, and she NEEDS HELP and UNDERSTANDING
We can show compassion to someone even if we don’t necessarily agree with their behaviour/action
Again thank you sm for sharing your story
Stay strong ❣️
Same for me and seeing it now on tv I’m like damn is that us in our 20s early 30s? Yessss fuck yes….
i totally relate to you i hope things get better i know it’s hard to give yourself the value you deserve but i’m convinced you can work it through and one day you won’t need anything from anyone anymore. The key is to give yourself what you crave so bad from other people. You are a complete human, and every ressources you need can be found in yourself. I know it sounds cheesy but when you think about it it’s true, and the journey is long but trust me your brain will get used to the positive mechanisms you’re putting in place
I’m so sorry you’re going through this and wish you all the best. I suffer from bpd too and currently in a toxic relationship with someone who’s giving me attention at the wrong time. Even though he’s abusive Im afraid to leave the relationship too as I have a fear of abandonment and hate being single and alone.
@@ahlembnhm2489 thank you so much for being so kind and willing to read my story:) I completely agree I think she’s miss understood and maybe even judged by her actions but it doesn’t define who she is as a person I’m not defending her actions or say I agree but I understand the trauma behind them and like you said she should be shown compassion and love rather than judgment she’s just doing the best she can to cope with everything she’s going through or went through she definitely needs more help, support, and love from someone who’s willing to be patient with her maybe she could even be patient with herself but she’s just a teen who’s struggling with many issues shes human and has a heart just like all of us
I think Nate actually only ever had a real connection with Jules. He liked the status with Maddie and he likes how Cassie helps his ego.
Also one thing. I think that Nate isn't capable of love. He loves the idea of owning someone like they're his property. I also think that the closest thing came to loving a person is Jules but he won't admit that to his inner homophobia
Even with Jules I feel he would end up abusing her too. Like how he did with Maddy.
Idk where everyone got the idea that Nate loves Jules from tho. Like, did I miss something? The only meaningful interaction between them was the whole Tyler-catfish thing, but it was fake all along, wasn’t it? 😩
@marymaddie oh I hadn't noticed those 💀 I'll have to rewatch lol. The only one I noticed was the one when he has a nightmare and then his dad is fcking him?
true i think he felt something genuine only for jules but obviously he has seen his father having sex with guys and trans so it has fucked up in his mind and he feels it's somethimg wrong he can't except that but within that he is still is toxic and abusive that is his character so even if he was with jules he would have ended hurting her too
I agree w this except for the part abt homophobia. Its gotta be a different word or a different concept bc even tho Jules is trans, she’s still a girl. So it wouldn’t necessarily be homo
Love how cassie is so hellbent justifying her actions, then denies them and cries, proving she's aware of the immorality of them💀.
She’s very sick
She wants to be loved so badly that she’ll do anything for it unfortunately, Nate showed her what she thought love is and fell very hard for him
@@non_conformist4229 yup And ifs very sad
I love how Lexi said “we both had the same dreams growing up but turned out so differently” I feel like it sums it up perfectly! Cause I feel like we can sympathize w her while holding her accountable. Lexi had the same trauma and isn’t a horrible person 🤷🏾♀️
Exactly it also shows that people react differently to trauma, bc of individual differences
True !
Cassie and Lexi did not experience the same trauma. Hello did you miss the whole Cassie episode where she was being recorded and her nud**es were leaked? Lexi didn’t experience that.
I mean they don’t have the same trauma, Cassie was sexualized at a young age and just recently had an abortion. Obviously that doesn’t make what she did ok but she went through some stuff Lexi didn’t, and things effect everyone differently
@@ollieno971 yes exactly. i like how people are pointing these traumas out as well because there's always more to the story.
I feel really bad for Cassie. Obviously she’s wrong for sleeping with Nate and there’s no justifying that but I understand why she did it. She wants to be loved so bad because of her daddy issues that she’s willing to throw away any relationship to have that love. And I can’t stand when people say her behavior came out of nowhere. It was stated in season 1 how much she fell in love and wanted to be loved. Plus she literally just had a abortion which obviously plays into why she’s so emotionally unstable this season. She’s trying to numb the pain of the abortion and of her dad leaving by trying to find someone to love her. Also people have always sexualized her (even her mom) and she’s had her nudes leaked which is awful and also plays a big factor into why she acts the way she does. I think people need to stop acting like she did all of this just to do it. That being said Maddy deserves so much better too. I want both of them to get the help they need.
EXACTLY
t h i s
Maddy deserves the world. It’s like she has been going freaking through it and has to observes everyone’s crap because they can’t deal with their trauma
Exactly. Something I don’t understand is why they both can’t get better? Why is one girl worthy of finding help and the other is not?
Yes
Regarding having an absent father, my father was in and out of my life similar to Cassie and Lexi’s father. Surprisingly, I definitely related to Lexi in her lack of romantic relationships throughout high school. Perhaps that was due to me attending an all girls school but I definitely don’t see myself in a relationship…ever due to my father.
I hated Cassie's character. Like she needs therapy asap. Season 1 I felt sympathy for the girl but this season she annoyed me. She honestly thinks that any man that looks at her for longer than 5 seconds is in love with her. She was wrong as af for sleeping with Nate.
She needs help
FR she needs SPECIAL help😊
It didn’t occur to me until you said that Nate use to ignore the fuck out of her. So I feel Cassie is seeking Nate’s attention because she doesn’t get that from her father. So in a way her relationship with Nate is filling that void she isn’t getting from her father.
The moment I started to relate to Cassie a lot rather than being “damn, this bitch is so stupid.” Is what made my smile disappear. Like I won’t steal my friends bf, but the other parts where she got ready at 4 am for Nate. I started getting ready for an hour (which is a long time for me), just for a guy who just used me. I don’t necessarily hate Cassie, but she has a lot of trauma she needs to heal from
Agree with everything but Nate doesn't love Maddy. He loves to control/dominate her. His behavior towards her can never be love. That's my only thing. Abuse can never be love. Thank you for the video!
YESS and the only reason he fell in love with Maddy is her looks AND how she was okay with being pushed aurond while Maddy had boundaries
Cassie is trash for what she did to Maddie, but I think she’s suffering from an addiction, too. Like Rue, she’s willing to alienate/hurt her loved ones if it means getting her fix. They’re both desperately trying to fill the void their fathers left, just by different means.
Okay so. I grew up in a home and had an absent father my entire childhood. I did not have a high school experience like Cassie, if anything I was more like Lexie. However, Cassie and Lexie are not dissimilar in that they both highly crave attention - they just have very different ways of trying to receive that attention. For Cassie, once she hit puberty (having blossomed young), she received that attention through men. For Lexie, she did receive that type of sexualization from men; therefore, she did not learn to seek attention from men as she didn't get it there. Instead, she learned to get attention by standing out from her sister, as contrastingly as possible. In Lexie's mind, she did this by separating herself from the image Cassie created for herself, and saught attention through establishing herself as this responsible, smart, creative person and then, once she felt she was still being overlooked by those around her, wrote an entire play surrounding her life from her point of view. Either way - both girls desire attention from people to make up for their dad not being around. Even Lexie isn't free from male validation as she even tried to "reinvent" herself a bit following the first time she met Fez. It became her desire to impress him. She found someone, a man, who would put her on a pedestal and value her traits (being a "good girl", intellectual, etc), that set her "apart" from her peers.
The truth of daddy issues, the most present trait of those who have daddy issues in dating, is chasing after those who don't want you. If a guy rejects you or if it is difficult to get a man, people who struggle with abandonment issues will take this and view it as a challenge. Because they weren't enough and couldn't do enough to keep their dad around, you bet your booty they're not going to allow someone they feel that they want... not want them back, as they've already felt this pain plenty of times. (This contributes to eating disorders actually. Daughters of absent fathers are highly likely to struggle with eating as they search for being perfect for a man/man, and are willing to put themselves through that physical and emotional pain in order to "win" the person they're after). And innately, saw their mom "lose" the challenge of keeping her man. For Cassie, Nate was the biggest challenge. She wanted to prove to herself that she could get this guy, this guy who is some sort of "star-crossed" lover, someone she would have to battle for, someone who has been extremely "passionate" in love in the past. Because of how she saw him love Maddie, a type of love she's always wanted, she thought that he wouldn't leave her if she fully gave herself to him, emotionally and physically. Because, in order to love him, they both had to hurt as well (because they had to go through their situation with Maddie), they had to surrender and struggle, she sees this as climbing some sort of mountain together. They climbed a mountain to be together, they love each other wholly, he loves her and even for her crazy... She wants a man, who she feels like she won, who won't leave her, and she feels that to have this, she has to give her life completely to the man she wants.
I wish that we had more on Cassies and Lexis relationship with their mom. There is a scene in season one where Lsxi basically emphasizes that their mom was much more fixated on Cassie (bc of her looks) and that Lexi tells Cassie that always gives her reassurance about her beauty. I don't think Cassie has been given space to be taken seriously or heard outside of her "appeal" to characters and the audience. This parallels her breakdown with her mom saying she can "fucking feel it" when she thinks ppl don't think she respects herself
*everyone
Not UA-cam removing my other comment😭
Honestly everyone including myself liked and felt bad for Cassie in season 1. But I feel like there’s a difference between characters like ,Rue and Maddy, versus Jules and Cassie. Rue and Maddy seem to be honest about who they are as people. Rue is aware of the fact that she isn’t a good person. On episode 5 she said “You wish I was different, so do I. You hate me, so do I.” But Cassie didn’t even seem bad about messing with Nate behind Maddy back. She seemed more scared of getting her ass beat rather than losing a friendship with Maddie. I think that’s what really sealed the deal for me. And then she had the nerve to say Lexi had no self respect for being friends with Rue to try deflect the fact she been acting like a clown. Also I think daddy issues plays a part in her desperation for male attention but I can’t use that as excuse for doing her best friend like that.
Exactly, I understand a slip up, but they way she kept skipping her way back to Nate behind Maddys back is just infuriating.
You are so right! Its for sure the honesty which I think is why I like Rue and Maddy vs Jules and Cassie. Cassie tries at every chance to "justify" her actions saying "but they weren't even together at the time".
Maddie isn’t honest about who she is. She tries to justify her behavior like the rest of them. She does the same thing but people excuse it because she’s portrayed as a spicy Latina. She’s been held to a different standard. All of them are. They all go through similar experiences (SA and a need for validation) and we all have a unique unempathic blind spot with all of them. The only one who doesn’t is Lexi but she has her own set of issues because she isolates and is envious of their experiences when she shouldn’t be.
@@taylorbew1854 I disagree and I even forgot Maddie was even Latina at points considering she barely fits into that Stereotype. She gives me more “mean girl” than anything else. If a character isn’t willing to acknowledge their flaws then they won’t have any character development. Maddie actually has character development in season 2 compared to season 1. She’s a much better friend now than ever. Cassie clearly cannot grasp the idea of her being selfish and a pick me stemming from her daddy issues. Once she’s willing to accept who she actually is, then she can grow into a better person. People are allowed to have flaws but they need to be honest about who they are because that’s the only way they able to change. Also people are allowed to not like a character for having no character development just the same way people coddle Cassie because they so stuck on how she was in season 1.
Even though I definitely can relate to Lexi more, I still feel for Cassie. You see in season 1 just how badly she wants to be loved and just ends up getting used physically, then in season 2 you watch her fall even lower because of that desire. Her decisions were wrong, and her insistence that she's not on the wrong made her a bit annoying, but I still want better for her. I think sometimes its hard to watch someone who is embarrassing themselves like that because it reminds us of things we've done or even contemplating doing for someone to notice us. She's more relatable and than a lot of people want to admit, and I think that gets in the way of some people empathizing with her.
Take care of yourself Keisha, i'm glad you're optimistic!
I think when girls do this to their 'bestfriend' it says a lot more about their friendship than it does with male validation. Lets be real men generally aren't picky when it comes to girls they sleep with. I think Cassie just had an intense jealousy of Maddie because Maddie is exactly what Cassie wants to be (confident, knows herself, knows what she wants).
yes but I’m the first few episodes nate was so picky with his girls. Judged them by what they wore and how they looked and acted.
YAS! The queen is back
PURRRR SIS
THE LAVENDER ON YOUR SKIN >>>>
Edit: And we’re all humans, I’m glad you got out of that phase and bounced tf back, because sometimes it’s hard but God only gives the toughest battles to his strongest people 🙏🏽💞
this hair with this purple, no one can't tell you nothing. Looks amazing
I believe that Nate was obsessed with Cassie in season one, because he couldn't get her. She knew he was off limits and she was with the man she wanted for the rest of her life. so now that McKay is out of the picture he wanted to have her way before anyone knew she was available. Hes a freak in my own opinion.
Prior to season 2, I questioned: doesn’t Cassie fit his ideal in the looks department?
I love Cassie's character they really wrote her so well and multifaceted
can’t watch this video yet, but i wanted to say you look absolutely stunning. i adore this look on you. the short, blonde hair just really makes your face pop. gorgeous!!
I’ve had a Cassie BFF in high school - went behind my back with an ex but tried who also tried getting back to me after all of the shade. She also came from a home without a father and I feel like deep down that ignites some kind of missing void and men become a priority over anything else.
Anyways besides my high school drama from 80 years ago.. I’m literally in the zone watching u put makeup on and it’s so relaxing lol
I have had a very similar life to Cassie - it's almost eerie. I'm 24 - one of the very few differences between Cassie and I is the fact that I did fall for my friend's manipulative & narcissist ex, however, I told the truth after we went on our first date and decided to pursue things with each other. I looked my friend in the eye and told her, and I was the target of tons of social media hate from girls who had been my friend prior. I was body shamed and trauma shamed (a lot of my "friends" knew me well enough to know what I had been through prior to engaging in the relationship. I'm healing now, but the quote
"He showed me all the right attention at the wrong time." really rings true. I was in a friend group of people who I knew were fake and not true friends, I was feeling extremely alone in life and my ex saw that. I had never been put through so much for loving someone before.
@itzkeisha I am in a black household and I have been told that I acted like my biological father by my step dad and mother at one point in my teens( he was a drunkard and abuser to my mom). I've never done anything close to what he did, even when I made mistakes. The verbal abuse has gotten worse over the years and you hit it on the nail when you talked about not visiting home because of reasons like mine😷
Sis your makeup is always on point🥰
One thing for sure is I love these characters because their all so complex, multifaceted and multi dimensional, like they're actually fleshed out. Peoples development isnt linear and I think this show really puts that out there and shows that really well
The scene with lexi in the back seat of her dads car was so heartbreaking. I know in the moment she wished she was an a adult and that's why she behaves a lot more maturely than others, even her older sister.
I think people should stop thinking about Cassie like a "bf stealer" and start thinking about her like an "abuser sympathiser"
I feel like her having abandonment issues made her merge herself with other people like with Nate but she lost her sense of self in the process. Very unhealthy coping mechanisms overall. People sexualising her at such a young age probably made her hyper sexual and thinks she needs to present herself in a certain way for validation and love
I loved this like, video essay, and to see you posting again and things seem to be getting better (personally for you)? After listening to you, I’m thinking that Nate was a predator towards Cassie in episode 1 of season 2, and Cassie… she’s in SHOCK after she leaves the bathroom and sees Lexi and Maddy jumps into hugging her. Very much stunned. So I think to justify what she did, she wants to convince herself that she’s in love. And that is very easy for her to convince herself of, given her trauma. And when Maddy wasn’t supportive of Cassie saying she wanted to try being single, that probably hit. So when she was sad, Nate saw an opportunity and basically re-accentuated what Maddy said to Cassie, by saying to Cassie, “You’re a relationship girl, right?” Kinda further pushing out her idea of trying personal growth and being single - because it’s often easier to meet people’s expectations and molds of what they see you as, it’s “safer” And maybe in a twisted way he sees Cassie wanting to give love as a polarity to what he’s experienced in his life and the trauma brought on through his father and other things and how he’s “coped”… but he’s really just recreating it by becoming his father in a sense (control). When he asked that to Cassie, it’s like, he thought he wanted a partner, but he really wanted someone who he could control and would be submissive to him. Which contrasts his connection to Jules, because she was kind to him without knowing it was him and he confided into her fully without (nullifying the whole “power and control” aspect of a connection between people; which is why I also think a Nate+Jules thing didn’t happen this season like some people felt would’ve been better… because when Nate tried to control/assert dominance over Jules at the carnival, she was like, “immediately, no”).
I have to say, many teenage girls with a penchant towards romanticism (especially in their first 'real' relationship) believe they CAN change their significant other. I include myself in this, and it's sad.
Unrelated to Cassie (I think): I think Lexi had bad intentions with this play. She kept on telling Fez that she wanted everyone to know her intentions were good. However at the end of the day she made a spectacle of everyone's problems in front of everyone. Especially Cassie and Nate. That's not going to get them to understand what they did is wrong, that's gonna make them never want to talk to you again.
With that being said, it's not really a bad thing that Lexi had bad intentions. Cassie was really mean to her many times and the choices she's making right now are terrible. And Nate... is Nate. Lexi has every right to hate him, even if he never spoke to her before. He needed to be taken down a few notches honestly, and so did Cassie.
THIS.
the only people embarrassed were cassie & nate, who are due for experiencing some public shaming. lexi was doing god’s work
@@morguebarbie Ah yes emotionally unstable 17 year old girl with untreated trauma and who is prone to mental breakdowns is deserving of public humiliation by her own sister. I don’t think you realize what you’re advocating for. Please grow up.
@@God-jx5og Cassie is 18
@glitterbussy lmao also an adult
In the US. I was a Cassie but didn't have a Maddy. I was used for my body a lot like her. I dated a McKay type before my Nate. I was deceived into being a side chick by "Nate", a master manipulator, psychological abuser and dark soul.
I moved across the country from my Nate. Its been 3 years since I saw him. Its been 2 years since I've gone no contact with my toxic father as well (who was an addict and not around when I was little - he later disowned me in 2020). I am doing my best to heal from loving, being abused by and losing both toxic men. Its a lonely journey.
Other than the side chick experience, I've been single for years. But I'm also 32 and not a teenager. Just doing my best.
Congratulations for taking control of your life. I’m a decade further along than you and still healing from those old traumas.
In season 1 I could relate a lot to Cassie and she was my favorite character because of that. but this new season i can’t anymore. I just feel like having an absent father doesn’t cause you to go behind your best friends back to get with her abusive ex. Season 2 makes her come off as just a really mean person who victimizes herself.
I mean it isn't just the abandonment issues. I think it's people sexualizng her at a young age, acting like that's all she's worth and her need for love/attention but getting tht with her body cause maybe thts all she's worth & has to offer
The hair , the top… ITS GIVING WHAT ITS SUPPOSED GIVEEE !! 😍🥰
The fit and the hair is giving me fantasia vibes and I’m here for it !
16:43 "Not emotionally intelligent." You're right...but they're still kids, though. Even when kids are emotionally intelligent, it doesn't mean they'll have the nuance or experience to properly utilise that. And the point of the show is to examine how we all can be blind to our own toxicity, especially at that age, because at that age, you're too close to your own emotions to properly articulate or even understand them.
Ugh omg how do you look fly with literally any and every style "sigh" I'm jealous. You deserve it all though.
The way I jumped when I saw the notification lol.
Yess this energy all year round pls and thank u‼️💋
Right off the bat… “ I look GOODT!”
Yessssssss ma’am with this new look!!!
One of the reasons I love Cassie and Lexi is because I can relate to a lot of their behaviors that most likely developed because of their dad leaving. While my father has not left, he has done many traumatic things that have followed me throughout my life. I don’t agree with Cassie’s behavior, but I understand where it developed from. Even as an LGBTQ person in a same-sex relationship, I still seek validation from men in some sort of way. It sucks and I wish I didn’t feel like I need it, but it’s there.
The thing that pisses me off is the fact it seems like nobody can sympathize with Cassie without them being accused of condoning her behavior. Cassie went through a lot in season one so it’s understandable for her to be acting the way she is acting this season. Nothing that has happened in season 2 has surprised me because it all adds up with what we were told in season one. So the fact that people are treating her character the way they are is wild to me. They are treating Cassie like she killed fez grandma or something. Don’t get me wrong, what she was fucked up on multiple levels because Nate disrespected her for years and abused her best friend physically and mentally to the point that I’m concerned for Maddie’s mental health. She’s annoying as hell and be trying to play victim all the time but you cannot deny the fact that something is seriously wrong with Cassie. I don’t believe that she did what she did to spite Maddie, I think she did it because she liked the way that Nate made her feel and would do anything to keep that feeling. I do wanna say that she should’ve had enough respect for Maddie and their relationship to open the door but she didn’t and personally that shit was just sad. She fucked and continues to fuck her bestfriend’s abusive ex but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve some sympathy. If you can forgive Maddie after she said that man raped her, if you can forgive Kat after she stood up her heartbroken friend to suck some dick and if you forgive drug addicted rue for hitting her sister and threatening her mother then you forgive or at least grant Cassie a little bit of sympathy because every individual in that show has done some questionable or horrible ass stuff (except for Ethan). It seems like the only reason why people sympathize with rue is because she has drug addiction and has had it hard growing up but doesn’t extend the same privilege to the real life drug addicts and that tells me that someone has to have a “good enough” to be granted sympathy and that just ain’t right. Rue, Maddie, Lexi, Kat, Jules, etc. deserves to be granted some sympathy and forgiveness because it is not up to you or anyone for that matter to judge someone and tell them that what they have done is unforgivable. One thing that you can take away from euphoria, if you are open to, is that everything isn’t so black and white and there is more to people than what it seems.
i agree wit this a lot. the fact that the only thing Cassie did that was wrong and made everyone hate her was the fact that she went out with her bffs ex, and thats trash and i dont support it but as u said Maddie literally destroyed a persons life and people praise her like she never did something wrong. Also a lot of people think Cassie is worse than Nate which is crazy like what the actual--
@@blakesraeken4410 Whenever there is a situation of two girls fighting over a guy…….. the guy can be a killer or the worst kind of person you can think of and people will still say one of the girls (the girl that breaks the girl code) is worst than the guy…. It’s a sad truth.
You wrote this long fat paragraph filled with stupidity
Lexi and Cassie are two different people, I can relate to Lexi, my sister spent her whole life trying to justify our dad leaving, while I was just numb and tired of his ass, she always said "you don't know his reason." Or blame mom, anything but just admit that he was a careless drunk who couldn't be responsible for shit. I think lexi feel the same way I did, NUMB. My sister had an awakening when he told her he just didn't give a shit.
The fact that you made a whole video about this….proves I chose the right choice in fav UA-camr👏🏽
As a person who doesn't have a dad and with friends who don't I feel like it's different for everyone. I am fully aware of how some girls without dads seek male validation whereas some use their lack of a father figure as an excuse to give hate towards men.
I’m mixed, my mom is white, dad is black. I’ve always been thrown into that stereotype of not having a dad. And it didn’t help that in high school my mother would tell me certain things about him. He did leave during that time but it was for a better job, he never really left me tho. Fast forward to right after I graduated my mom (who was abusing drugs at the time) straight up left me do deal with her apparent and jail debts. Legally I didn’t have to because I was underage when we moved in/when she went to jail, but the point is she left. I haven’t spoken to her since and it’s been almost 5 years. The people in high school who used to call my dad a deadbeat deserves to be slapped,because he’s always been her for me. He’s always tried to to the best for me, and he always tells me he’s with me supporting me in everything I do
Nice little rant over, I absolutely love you and I can’t wait to watch more of your videos (as a new subscriber usually does I plan to binge watch everything). I hope everyone who took the time to read this has a lovely day!💕💕💕
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Looking deeper/beyond the surface level to why people are the way they are and why they act the way they do is levels to remaining empathetic towards the trauma people have endured, & struggles/pain they have faced. It doesn’t mean you condone or excuse their behaviour but like with Cassie, you can see some insight and gain understanding to why she seeks so much validation, and is constantly looking for love outside of herself. Praying for her to recognise this in season 3, and seek the help she needs 💚
your hair and your skin looks amazing. Keep growing and glowing
Keshia your hair OMFG ! You look so beautiful ahhhhdgsj 🥺😩
you look beautifull keisha, hope you get better :*
Even though I don't like Cassie, I still feel sorry for her and hope that she can get the help she needs to heal.
I haven’t watched this show but I’m so invested in these characters bro 😭😭 especially Cassie. GET UP 🗣🗣
I like McKay tbh because his storyline reminds a lot about of the Black community and on Mental Health with Identity within their self
I have a really hard love/hate relationship with Cassie, mostly because I relate to her so much. Before my mom walked out on me and my sister, her love was always conditional, so I spent most of my life being the daughter she wanted me to be, rather than who I wanted to be. Because of that, I find myself trying to change who I am in desperation to be loved. I feel so much for her trying to change who she is to be loved. I obviously don't condone what she's doing, but I understand where her heart is in this, and it pains me so much to see what she's doing and going through.
Have missed you and the content! Glad you’re back!
The girl really needs therapy, now I see why he can handle maddy and cassie but couldn't handle jules??
i wouldn't be surprised if cassie's repeated disdain for rue because of her drug addiction is because it runs in her own family. her mum's a functioning alcoholic, her dad's an addict and left the family - i think despite her craving for male validation, she just can't yet bring herself to feel angry at her dad for leaving and i think the beginnings of that show in her vitriol towards rue. not healthy beginnings, for sure, but i think she needs to learn to be angry that she was abandoned in favour of drugs and stop clinging onto these false happy memories of her father. i don't want to compare how they deal with their trauma, but the difference in perspective from cassie and lexi is astounding. cassie's memories of her father are light and happy and from a time when she was doing better and was somewhat healthy, but from lexi's perspective - seeing her dad driving drunk and sleeping during the day - i can't imagine how terrifying that is to see someone you love become that way and it must have hurt a thousand times more when rue OD'd too. i think lexi is just a lot more logically and perceptively driven than she is emotionally driven and she can pick up on certain things others don't because, as she would describe herself, she's a passive observer whereas cassie is an active doer. cassie is so much more emotional by nature, she clings onto happy memories and craves male validation so hard that her attitude towards drugs and people who are addicted to drugs is incredibly toxic. everyone except for her dad, well, because everyone has a little nepotism to give away.
i just don't think cassie is very good at reconciling the fact that she clearly and dearly loves her dad and the memory of this perfect man in her life who would guide her (hence why she so easily folds and submits to men in return for validation) and her anger at her abandonment in favour of drugs. she does everything she can not to let go of those memories because from her perspective what other happiness has she got now? she digs deeper and deeper and deeper and becomes addicted to that validation and in the process she physically can't get out and can't reasonably find out why she should so she keeps going until she's pushed all of her friends away, her family away and her boyfriend breaks up with her. there is no happiness left for her, no validation at all, there is no validation for her actions from anyone and nobody sympathises with her and rightfully so. she's an asshole and ruined her friendship so she could get with a man. not just any man, but a closeted abuser who she should know for a fact falsely had those DV charges dropped. nate's actions even mirror her dad's later on when she knew him - not paying her much attention up until the garage visit, the drunk driving, the meeting or conversing on the down low, the fact that once she even gets a drip of validation she latches onto it like a lost puppy. she is a pathetic wet rag of a woman and i think in more ways she's been the primary antagonist this season moreso than nate. while nate is definitely the main antagonist of the show (which, even then some people could sympathise with him because of the irreversibly deep trauma he experienced so young and his internalised homophobia), his abuse continues this season primarily through cassie like a catalyst. cassie is essentially the product of what nate jacobs does to women, on the blankest, most vulnerable and traumatised and depraved canvas he could find.
That bathroom scene of Cassie having like a breakdown and then trying to compose herself…great acting right there, I was going to choose Jacob Elordi too as the best actor, but Sydney Sweeney kind of raised the ball there with that scene 👌
Lol the Whitney soundbite took me out 😂😂😂 anyway sis, you’re not alone with everything happening ✨all at ooooonceeee✨
I don’t even watch Euphoria, but KEISHA your story telling makes it interesting 😂!
My mother stopped my dad seeing me so I grew up without a father, and then my mother is a raging narcissist and she doesn’t like me, so the only person who I felt loved me was my grandmother. All of that defo caused me to have attachment issues in my relationships
Thank you for being vulnerable. You are right, sometimes we just need time to be sad and low before we jump back into the work of life. I am happy to hear when influencers take breaks for their mental health.
Someone said that Cassie is literally one of those girls that would send Ted buddy love letters and like yeah
Ted Buddy was that manipulative so yeah
This is the first video I watch from your channel and I just wanna tell you, you’re LITERALLY so gorgeous 😍😍😍 And you’re funny, and confident, and your essay was so entertaining to listen to! I’m definitely subscribing 🥰🥰🥰
You’re 100% correct. I was on track to become a soccer player professional but I stopped because my dad passed away. I’ve never touched a ball since bc we used to train together. And he was my best friend.
As for Lexi when my dad passed I put my all into school I’ve never dated because I am still chasing those goals. I’m about to graduate from university and I have worked super hard to be successful. I mean I have a job lined up right after but I say this to say I worked so hard after he passed to keep my family together and work hard towards my future.
“His manipulation tactics have worked so well on others, they’re starting to work on him” DAMN.
not the one to deep euphoria, but I can't help but feel like Cassie resembles Katherine Howard (yes the fifth wife of Henry VIII, and no not just bc of the surname). Both of their proximity to the male gaze took ahold of their emotional vulnerability and has ultimately destroyed them. Ofc Katherine's stakes were on an astronomically higher level and was undeniably sexually assaulted (that's not up for debate she was a CHILD), however their downfall and them being pushed into feeling of being trapped which is only enforced on them by a narcissistic abuser is just incredibly reminiscent. I also must say I despise people who shit on Cassie over Nate and Cal and use the excuse it's expected behavior from them???? what you can excuse the behavior of an abuser and a pedophile but cannot sympathize with the girl who falls victim to said abuser??? sounds misogynistic to me.
Cassie is not a victim of Nate. She had a front row seat to his abuse of Maddie and she didn’t care because in her mind her being validated was more important to her.
@glitterbussy provide evidence Cassie did not know of the abuse. Cassie is Maddie’s best friend. She doesn’t have to witness him choking Maddie in order for her to know he’s trash. You sound like a Cassie honestly
@glitterbussy she frequently used their toxicity as an argument for why she’s not wrong
I’m a Cassie , not exactly but I definitely have seeked validation for guys , my whole life has been about men . My father was abusive to my mom and she stayed , and I see the patterns …. But I’m seeking help and I hope I can just live life for me as it should be .
omg keisha the hair color and the shirt color looks so good on u , buzzed cut suits u so well im obsessed. much love from the uae xx
i acc love cassie's character and i relate to her a lot. I don't agree with some of her actions, but I love how complexicated she is, even though she doesn't admit to her wrongs, she does what she wants, and stands for what she loves and wants. Also, I feel like I've seen at some many times people put on facades for the sake of friend ship and are never happy, even though what she's doing is wrong, she will end up reaping the consequences, and she will without the pressure.
i absolutely gorgeous with that hairstyleeeee 😍
Nate and Cassie are definitely the best actors. That's why I be mad that the writers keep making nude scenes for Sydney Sweeney beacuse they could be giving her more chances to show her range and not just her body. Nate really took it up a notch this season. Maddy dodged a bullet. Literally.
Zendaya would be one of the best actresses in this show in my opinion, cause in a lot of scenes she’s just improvising, like the fight with her mom in season 1
the top is giving.. modern cheetah girl~
cheetah girls universe meets euphoriaville glam
There are many girls like Cassie, they value male attention regardless if their treated well or not.
omg that hair style and outfit looks great on you! :)
Gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous 👑!!! Have fun and play with those temporary colors like a dark purple that will wash and fade out to a lilac color, ugh ur skin tone, that color, you’ll be killen em!!! ❤️🔥 so beautiful
You randomly singing "1+1" by Beyonce just sent me lmao
I love every character in Euphoria, even Nate, yes NATE. They're like a sibling or friend you have this love-hate relationship with them, one minute your rooting for them and another you just can't and I think that's what makes them so realistic. Can't wait for Ep 8.
Of course abusers get love. Also, while Maddie is responsible for what she’s done, let’s not forget she was in an abusive relationship and that includes emotional abuse. Framing that dude was hugely on Nate, he literally pulled a “if you don’t do this you will ruin my life”
Cassie is my absolute favorite character. Why? She’s complex. She isn’t a villain she’s a victim of hyper sexualization of a teenage girl and also exploitation. She has daddy issues, trauma, had her photos leaked, was bullied by Nate where hint hint guys that’s probably why she went for him, etc.
Since season 1 for me aswell
I hate people who always come for girls for having Daddy issues, not saying that's what Keisha was doing, but Boys have daddy issues too. And why come for the girl, I've been watching period shows and men never change, they do the wrong, and women are held accountable.
i love how keisha randomly breaks out singing
I love your hair. If you ever feel inclined to, I would love to see what your hair would look as magenta or green!
Otherwise, I'm glad you did what you could to take care of your emotional wellbeing and rest. :) Love the track btw!
I would love to hear your other thoughts on the other characters. I don't like Lexi much but I would love to understand the character better. I think this is because the way I cope with my own abandonment flavored daddy issues is closer to Cassie than to Lexi.
Also, missing McKay this season and I wish we could have explored his relationship with masculinity more. :( Sorry; I'm trying not to write an essay in the comments but nonetheless, I love the vid.