Nagging Husbands?
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- My husband is never happy. He nags and complains about everything. I do my best and fulfill my responsibilities but he is never happy.
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Alhamdulillah...my husband eats it and is quiet without compliments. That way, I know it’s not my best cooking. He’s amazing, Alhamdulillah.
Would you mind 8f he took another wife?
@Izzy 😂
Great man
@King khan Great khan maybe it's a sister looking for a good husband
In a certain moment of the month, my husband, rahimo Allah, noticed that food was less tasty. So, he used to cook without saying anything.
I went through huge depression. He took care of everything untill I felt better. Maa shaa Allah.
El hamdulillah ya Allah for marrying me with such wonderful man.
May Allah reunite us in Jana.
@@cOnfidentialcOrp
Wa aleikum salam,
It's better to ask to a Sheikh.
Meanwhile, you could pray two units of prayer, make qiyyam allayl to ask for Allah's help.
I love this brother, no BS, no sugar coating, just straight to the point. Allah ybarek fik brother
@@evanbyrdmusic5088 ?
Unfortunately this is a thing in my culture where men are always harsh and strict. They don't want to be giddy with their spouse or children because they think it's weakness. It's a sad state. If you're a man and all you do is show your family harshness without just cause then you're not really tough.
Alhamdulillah I've seen my elders and I won't be treating my wife like this for no reason at all.
@imbo mohammad Indian/Pakistani culture
@imbo mohammad my experience is completely different. Almost every Indian/Pakistani family I've seen is like this. There are a few that aren't but the overwhelming majority that I've seen in my personal life the fathers were like this.
To say this is Pakistani culture is pretty ignorant. Are all or most Pakistanis like this? A bit like saying all Brits or Americans are like this or that. Please be careful how you express yourself as generalising like this is wrong and indeed ignorant and racist. It gives fuel to racists. Fact is, in the same family you will find one man treating his family well and another harshly.
@@Freedom4PalestineEndZioNazism Generalizing is a part of life. Deal with it 🤷🏽♀️
@@SinaAla You might wanna deal with your highly emotional state before letting ur fingers loose on the keyboard! 😂
I like how you start off the video by explaining that it depends on the situation going on. A lot of people give advice generally and that causes a lot of injustice.
I advise you to remove that image
@@Ahmed-pl2gb What image lol? My profile pic has nothing bad in it. It's a character from one of my favorite animes, Steins Gate. You always reply saying this. Alhamdulilah ala kuli hal.
@@datboiwadup6776 It is well known that Islam has forbidden image-making, drawing and sculpting every animate being that Allaah has created; there are stern warnings issued to those who do that.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The most severely punished of the people on the Day of Resurrection will be the image-makers.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5950) and Muslim (2109).
@@Ahmed-pl2gb But I didn't make the image. If I was the animator, then yeah, you're right. But that's obviously not the case.
@@Ahmed-pl2gb i don't know if you are someones husband, but you are nagging :)
Still watching the video but must mention one thing. I've seen a lot of people online say that a woman's housework is 'nothing' compared to the man's. In fact, these people claim they can do all of the housework while minding the kids in an hour and not break a sweat. 1. I'd like to see that high-and-mighty claim played out, 2. What makes one say that?
I don't think the men understand. Every. Single. Day., you are seeing the same mess happen in front of you(being made by the man sometimes without any regard for the one who ends up cleaning it), and you are having to do the same thing on repeat, day in, day out. over and over again until divorce or death do you part. Over. and. Over. Again.
There is no room for 'career' building in housework, there is no one to say 'wow you really went well and beyond your capabilities', there is no 'pay raise', there is nothing different to your routine, there is no higher heights to aspire to in this work, there is no 'paid leave', there is no 'holiday' and there is no validation from society that you are worthy as a citizen because you clean your house.
So sure, the men who claim this work is 'nothing' and it's easy, try doing just this for the rest of your life with all these 'perks' involved. You might begin to realise why women are stronger than the men of today. It's because they *have* to be.
BaarakAllahu fiki my dear sister for your message.
Sub'hanallah! True words my sister! True words!!!!
What are you talking about ??? It's not a company..be a wife, a mum, a Muslimah, do your duties, educate yourself in the Deen or anything beneficial to women, and be content. But most of all be pleasent, have manners, be humble, have hayah and be obedient to your husband.. know your place and why Allah gave you that role.
I understand that we can be underappreciated and housework can be monotonous. But we don't need validation from society, we only need validation from Allah and if we get it from our husbands that's a bonus. Take pride and satisfaction from your duties at home. Do you not feel a sense of fulfilment seeing your children thrive and develop under your care? They are the fruits of your labour. I would not want to swap being a homemaker for my husband's day job, staying at home is much less stressful. May Allah make it easy for you
My mother actually more or less said the same thing as you whenever she complains to me. It was until she becomes the sole provider for a family of 5 for 2 weeks where she realized it's easier to be at home, she complain less to my father after that.
Long story short, it started with a fight that goes on for years, my mother got a job offer by her friend as an accountant and my father decide to risk everything to save the marriage by telling her to go be *the man* for a month and feed and take care all 5 of us while he stays at home. She gave up after 2 weeks and my parents marriage is saved.
AlghamduLillah my late father use to compliment my late mother's meal she prepared for us , even when my mom fried an egg my dad whould complement my mom , my dad were very much appreciating everything my mom did ,
Maa shaa Allah my dear sister !
Your father is a good and wise man.
El hamdulillah.
@@FG-lr8rf Jazaakah Allah for your kind words sister , may Allah bless you always Ameen
But do women compliment their husbands?
This is a valid issue to address since there's a hadith where it's said one of the reasons for women being majority in Jahannam is that they are "ungrateful to good treatment" and "ungrateful to husbands"
Dont worry about these people saying you're "simping" for taking the Side of a Woman who is sincere and has the Sahh in the situation. You are taking the side of Allah swt and standing for the Just. You represent the Ummah brother not these silly MGTOW redpill internet boys.. Keep doing what you do!
I'm very lucky because my future husband is quite open-minded (but I would not choose a close-minded man tho) and he cooks and clean better then me. So we decided that we will do everything togerher: work and take care about home and children. I hope it will work for us well. Because I hate cooking and cleaning, I'm working in IT and I love my job so much. I cannot imagine to be at home all the time and cook and clean. Thanks God my fiance is agree with me
Divorcing over biryani? What a spineless individual.
Or spiceless indivisual?
@@kingsentertainment786 The door is to your left
@@aspiringkamikaze1894 And the spice trail is right outside 🤣
Some men make marriage seem like a chore .
Some women make marriage a hell
@@aatif7518 Well then don't get married, red piller.
My father is a complainer. I guess many Arabs, especially from the Levant, are complainers. Some of my friends from Syria asked me once for advice because of marital problems. The problem was basically that he was the one who complains about things he shouldn’t. But the thing is that he himself noticed it and admitted. And that is a good sign because that’s the first step towards progression and improvement.
"The biryani was not good" ...would you laugh or would you cry 🤭🤭🤭
I would be angry, lol.
Biryani isnt tht easy to make either :(
If biryani is a first world problem then Alhamdulillah I make good biryani lol but all jokes aside I don't think someone's cooking should be a reason to get angry. This is the problem in our current society that we just want ourselves to be satisfied but we never want to understand the other person's situation. How can marriages work with this "me myself and I" mindset?
Thank you so so much , brother! I got the answer to my problem finally.
Very true and relevant in this day and. Real problems real solutions. May Allah subhaana wa ta Ala make all husbands and wives the covering and protection for eachother in order to benefit together in the hereafter. Ameen
Asalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh! Jazakallahu khayr wa barakallahu feek! Brother Gabriel how do we contact you for counselling?
@@ibnamanot jazakallahu khayr.
@@phoenixknight8837 wa iyyakum.
BIRRRYYAANIII!! NOT GOOD !! Really??Man Biryani is the tastiest of all dishes !! no matter who it is!
Don't marry a biryani guy!!! Ahhh!! English Italian food easier to make
@@KINAQUDAM Good!!! I dont agree with you!
Women have so many responsibilities! Men won’t understand there out working and come home don’t see what women really do while there at home
Subahanalah!!! The problem here is!!! The men don't follow up anymore!!! Our Prophet Muhammad used to help! They weak!!!
@King khan Great khan they should help! In house work! Anything!
@King khan Great khan If get good one then yes
@King khan Great khan that still ok! But what I meant also if maid not around a man needs to help his wife!
@@kulsumessop5306 he can HELP but primarily it's woman's duty
@King khan Great khan I will stand with the truth
I don't care what the misguided feminists squeak
About the biriyani type guy , shouldn't he have made that requirement clear before marriage like tasted her biriyani ? If it is a matter of marriage and divorce?
I was picturing the scene of Mr Biriyani Warrior testing her biriyani before marriage! I find it hilarious. I think the arranging family would have prepared for him that biriyani to make believe! Such things happen in some cultures! I've seen it in real life!
@@seekfactsnotfiction9056 That's hilarious! Some people need to get a life
@@seekfactsnotfiction9056 I mean it happens .... different men and women have different likes and dislikes but if it is a matter of life then it needs to be customed to them the pre marriage stuff
Biryani can be learned. It's not that hard. The wife should be willing to learn
@@umerjavednisar yeh sure but if the guy has been bought up in the village having gourmet biryani with fresh spices and vegetables it's not gonna exactly taste like that in other parts of the world .
I don’t think that this is fair. I agree that both parties should be pulling their weight. But I think you need to acknowledge that the house doesn’t clean itself the food doesn’t cook itself and the kids don’t raise themselves. Looking attractive can be very uncomfortable. These things are huge tasks and require a lot of effort. Sometimes we go through hardship and sometimes we get sick and we don’t just want a man to understand the food is not ready and house is not clean, but we also want emotional support. We can’t just be superwomen all the time...
Yeh...we should stick it on the door outside IM ON STRIKE!!!
Need a few days off. If the husband can go to his mums for few days until wife feels better and refreshed.
Those are the duties of the wife
And the reward is with Allah
Aatif I’m not saying that I disagree with these duties. Both husbands and wives have roles and responsibilities. The only thing I had a problem with was labelling it as “simple” or “easy”.
@@SarahDot-ls2kv I agree
It's not an easy task
Yeah, he's sugar coated the issue, and even on a mans issue he's talking about wives speaking properly doing her duties on loop even after he said if she's doing all thats needed, he didn't exactly reprimand the husband like he does on the issues of women. Clear bias. But thats his mentality so its expected.
I'm just thankful to Allah SWT that my wife makes a great biryani !
I’ve been following this guy for a while now and It’s actually very funny if u think about it. His logic is that a woman is born and raised only to end up a slave in another mans house and serve until the day she dies. While he has the option of marrying other women when she begins to age or lose her physique and looks.
Women please apply for careers . Become doctors ,lawyers, bankers . Make money to also contribute to ur children’s growth and development.
If the husband is such a hard-worker and hard earner why can’t he pay for house keeping and a chef and treat his wife like a queen. Instead he grouches and complains about her cooking and raising of kids both of which are meant to be joint effort.
With all due respect but things have changed lots since the time of the prophet. I am not saying abandon his doctrines but Im saying adapt to the times while still being respectful to his teachings.
And it’s funny because this slave treatment of women comes from the Arab world culture and Africa culture not islam. Women plz make it clear before marriage that u need careers too and you need a life ( if u want to) if u choose to be a house wife that is also fine. But u need to have a choice. You are nobody’s slave except Allah’s.
MEN, WOMEN ARE NOT YOUR SLAVES
Your advices are wrong. If you're really into Islam, then you should know the Noble Prophet Pbuh urged women to stay in their houses.
Men are not either
A prime example what the misandrous f£minist movement does to people. Nobody said you are a slave. Islam is perfect and you don't need to change anything. You are probably one of those rainbow Muslims
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:
Zayd ibn Thaabit said: The husband is the master (sayyid) according to the Book of Allaah, and he recited the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“They both found her lord [sayyid] (i.e. her husband) at the door”
[Yoosuf 12:25]
‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: “Marriage is slavery, so be careful with regard to whom you give your daughter for enslavement.” In al-Tirmidhi and elsewhere it is narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “I urge you to treat women well, for they are prisoners with you.”
You are a feminist loser
*guys dont need so much to be happy, other dont get half of what this guys getting, a raw food speech, tell her food is not good but in a nice way, thats personality disorder go for some therapy, i kinda understand this personality, but the women can do more communicate more she can inflate the situaiton or deflate it*
Levying the burden on women isn't the solution, if the fault lies with him, he didn't quote ahadith about the importance of respecting and loving a wife and the best of you are those who are best with their wives, nor did he cite examples of the Prophet drinking from the exact same spot of the cup as Aisha RA [which in todays time would be considered cucking Naothubillah], being gentle and patient with her, even when she was angry and had occasional outbursts. Nothing. When the script is flipped and the issues are about a nagging wife, he cites all the Hadith evidence with great glee and relic. None of that energy here. Even turning it to the woman when she's doing everything right. We men aren't femboys, my Dad would come back from work and iron his own clothes even when my Mother insisted, if he'd snap at my Mother he'd make it up by cleaning the windows of the Kitchen [Kitchen being her sanctuary and cooking] make breakfast for her, and she'd behave like nothing happened even when she didn't want him making breakfast because she wanted to. Now we're supposed to be tired and get our women to take our shoes off and be over pampered with fragile egos, because we're too emasculated. And that mistakenly gets projected as being 'red pilled' which is being propagated among men today
Thank you brother (I think) for this. It's good to know there are men that see these types of "advice" for what they really are.
@@deedeee6271 Yeah sister, it's actually pretty obvious I just seen some of his other videos now. May Allah guide us upon the Sunnah
I totally understand this. I have noticed it with him. He is on the one hand trying to get men to-become real men and take responsibility. ( which I respect) but on the other hand trying to make it seem like the only way to do that is by subjugating your wife to a life of chores and hard labor Until ur tired of her and then u get a new one or three more. He is constantly attacking women and even when he goes after guys sometimes he finds a way to twists it and heap the blame on women for not being sexual enough or not cleaning enough or not cooking better. The guy really needs help. I feel sorry for his wife.
@Sohaib Siddiqui your’e obviously from the Arab world for having such a shallow mindset. I am a muslim . I grew up in a house where both my parents worked. They have love and respect for each other and they treat everything as joint effort.
@Sohaib Siddiqui
Do you take your parents shoes off, clean their house and wash their dishes as they raised you for so many years. Answer for most men is probably no but they misuse their power and don't act upon this for their parents who have authority over them( they do more for a child than a husband would do for their wife). The prophet sallahu alai wa salam would mend his own clothes and help his wives as most men don't work all day. However women especially looking after newborn will work all day and in the night exhausted without husband help.
Women nowadays can have a job all day, cook/clean and look after kids without help whilst men complain how difficult their one role is working in the day.
I think man complaine over this things when they are not emotional furfilled! He don't know if his wife is feeling that she is priciate him and really love him, thats what I think
I think everyone should know what personality their spouses have. Are they extroverts, ambiverts or introverts. Because "two extroverts when they are clash it doesn't go well must of the time cause they both want to talk", two introverts too when the clash is dangerous, they let things build up because they are both quite and they just don't want to talk about it and two ambiverts it depends on the mood because if they are both in the same them it will either be the extroverts side or the introvert side but if they are in different moods then the one on the introvert mood will be the one to be calm. So the best thing is know your spouse personality causes it will help a lot. Know their personality strength and weakness and know what they might take and might not take. E.g1, extroverts are never scared of confrontation, they will give u fire by fire cause they will never be quite and they are ever ready for it. Cause they are being build to not pretend but to tell you how it is whether u like it or not. They are just straight forward.
E.g2, introverts don't like confrontation at all and the are very sensitive. So you have to be careful of what you tell them because they will be holding it in. They will never confront you but know that they didn't forget what you told them and that is dangerous cause it can build up. E.g. 3, Ambiverts are not scared of confrontation but they don't like it so they avoid it but remember that doesn't mean they are scared of it, if they get into it they also don't mind. They only confront only when they think they need to or only when they think the confrontation is important. They don't mind being told what to do but they are sensitive too so you have to be respectful when confronting them just like an introverts. Is not easy to know them because they are confusing. Don't repeat what you tell them b4 if they don't want to do it they will let you. Don't force them when they give you no as an answer because if u force them even if they do it u will not be certified and u can't complain because they never want be their in first place so won't be happy.
It's about the roles. One leads and the other obeys. No clashes, no conflict
@@jubairomar2676 Obedience is not blanket. There are paramaters to obedience in Islam. Husband and wife can disagree, like different things. Doesn't mean the marriage should end.
@@deedeee6271 The Noble Prophet Pbuh *cursed* the woman that disobeys her husband.
"Woe on the woman that disobeys her husband"
Disagreeing and disobedience is not the same thing
@@jubairomar2676 You have some serious issues with women. You keep quoting Hadith the authentication of which are questionable or Hadith that are taken out of context. You really like to think of yourself as the high and mighty leader, right? But guess what? Ultimately, it is a woman that has the power to remove your leadership. So now go cry some more red pilled tears because that's the only thing you and a lot of others here seem to be proficient at in life.
6:09
God!! This is a advicer God help us: I watched couple of videos and he is nercistic who likes to enslaved women. Women are not your property which are to bleese and serves men, doing house work isn't women's responsibility in Islam so plz don't use the deen in a wrong way ,what you are talking about is un Islamic
What is a woman's responsibility? Everyone keeps saying this but they don't explain, what is their responsibility?
@@yasinfazley8313 no she isn't sitting there, rather we as moms carry child for 9 months with pain and hardship and deliver that baby with the pain and hardship as Allah states in the quran.after delivery we then raise that child and spend most of our nights sleepless in order to care the baby,so you men expect us to be super human and be ready whenever you need us in bed while all you do is to go 8 to 12 hours of work which involves taking breaks and sleeping your whole night. Come on give me a break. I don't understand when men say oh when men comes from work you have to be ready for him,food and the children so let me ask you what sort of person am I. That's why Islam don't make it papering food and maintain the house for women's responsibility cause only Allah knows how hard our job of bringing baby to this world is,that's why the prophet (csw) said Janahh is beneath of your mother's feet
@@saidohn8126 So your responsibility includes raising a child right? There was no need for a paragraph I know the hardship a mother goes through 🤣, it's not easy. But if you're raising a child are you gonna cook and clean the house for them? Or are you gonna let them eat rubbish food and live in a dirty environment? Or are you gonna let them starve, and live in a disgusting state?
@@saidohn8126 Explain the aspects of a woman's responsibility, you're just getting emotional now. I know the hardships of a mother it's not easy, but describe all the responsibilities a woman has, you're still not explaining your just getting emotional
@@saidohn8126 The prophets wives used to cook, used to clean, used to raise real men and women, they would educate their children as well, and they would also please the prophet too, and the prophet used to help out in the house whenever he could, not 24/7 because he would be out most of the time, and his wives would be inside most if them time raising real men and women
See from 1:20
The husband complaining is wrong IF the wife does her 100%
But the husband complaining is JUSTIFIED if the wife lacks behind, examples given in the video :
Wakes up at 9, doesn't do house chores, always in pajamas, doesn't beautify herself, gains weight, doesn't exercise to keep in shape, etc
(Except with valid reasons such as sickness)