GIRL TALK What's My Private Life Like? Intimacy, Anxiety, ADHD
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
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Can jack do an all guy talk? If he hasn't already done one
I would definitely be interested in that even though I’m a girl because listening to guys, they have certain guy questions makes you understand them better when they answer
Guys don’t talk about stuff
@@OligoST and thats the problem
Don’t we just sit around drinking beer and joke around? I’m down. Lol
@@michellegault4122 every man is different
I have a lower sex drive than the average guy and that caused my girlfriend to think I didn't like her enough because I didn't try to have sex constantly like her previous boyfriends who, I quote, "couldn't keep their hands off of her". It made her insecure (even leading her to think that I would've preferred to be with other girls and only was with her because I settled for less), and created a domino of problems that eventually led our relationship to fail. The irony is I didn't know she felt that way until years after our relationship ended, to me she'd always been absolutely gorgeous and I loved our "moments of intimacy", and I only had eyes for her. So yeah, communication is key, as cliche as that sounds.
Holy crap this hit home with me. I have an extremely low sex drive for a man - or I guess for anyone, regardless of gender. I'm borderline asexual, and in the beginning of my relationship with my girlfriend it reeeeally made her feel super insecure about herself as a woman, and she felt undesirable and started wondering if I was cheating on her.
We had a number of long and honest conversations about it and that luckily helped set her mind at ease. We've been married for almost nine years now so I think we managed to survive it. Communication really is key. Cliche or not, it is still true.
@@mannydcbianco Very very glad to hear that you and your wife turned out fine, that you were able to address it before it was too late. It both makes me happy for you and hopeful for myself.
@@mannydcbianco I am also asexual! Asexuals represent!
Communication is the key to anything successful.
Most of the time low sex drive in men is from low testosterone levels which can lead to heart attack. You may want to get that checked
I love her advice. It’s the practical, to the point, advice everyone probably needs, but not everyone wants to hear. We always want some magical answer rather than the truth/facts.
My wife and I have the same issue when it comes to sex. We have been married for 3 years and this year we learned that because of my adhd I have a huge sex drive, compared to her low sex drive. Trust me I totally understand. It's something we still battle with but this year we made progress by being more vocal about our needs to help us get and stay in the mood.
For more background I'm 24 about to be 25 and my wife is 23
Here's the thing, if she's not in the mood but willing to have sex, she will get in the mood within the first minute. I've heard this from women themselves. She's just got to be willing to bite the bullet for the first minute.
Uh does adhd cause sex drive? There's plenty of men with high ones who don't have adhd. And vice versa. I have adhd and I have a low sex drive.
I was bouta be like “im gonna buy everything she used for curly hair” but I already use that stuff😭
Me 😂 i love her curls
Must be a skill issue 😆 jk
I've been lucky and married for 23 years. I can confirm that talking is the key, but you must also listen. I'm a 50 year old male, and I am still learning about females from my wife. Love the video and would love to see more
I've got my snacks and drinks ready for this 🎉
You guys are so much fun watching, thank you guys for all that 🫶🏼
Love girl talk so much, please make it a series!! ✨✨
I agree!
Yes!!
I've always had the higher sex drive in the relationship and it usually caused an argument and leads me to feeling bad about myself in some way. I also have ADHD and find it difficult to focus in the moment 😂.. And I feel the same about communicating with friends. I was in a relationship where we were together 24/7 and he didn't understand the need for alone time. He always thought something was wrong with him and I didn't want to hang out with him which wasn't the case. I just needed some time to be with myself, decompress, and organize my thoughts. It gets to be too much sometimes. 🤗
It's Keely here! I was definitely on the kids train my entire life, and then as I saw folks around me have kids, I realized that the way their lives changed maybe wasn't for me. After a few years, my husband and I realized we're firmly on the no-kids train now, and that's okay! Life is great either way, and I love how you're just experiencing life as it is now and feeling out what you want as time goes on. There's no rush, and there's no wrong answer! Life motto: Always do what seems the most fun (also eat cake)
Always do what seems the most fun? That’s terrible advice 😅 quitting your job and going on vacation sounds fun but you’ve bills to pay. Doing cocaine sounds fun but that road quickly leads to disaster and ruined lives. (I’ve watched it first hand.) I am an adult so I am very aware that you may mean do the fun thing *within reason* however if a young girl sees a girl talk video, goes to the comments, and sees this advice she could begin to make some very poor choices based on crappy advice. Please be careful what you are putting online.
@@samanthaprince2835she gave great advice. Having kids to then realize you can’t go back to an old way of life that made your happier would be devastating. She just said she thought about this for YEARS and then came to a conclusion based of everything she learned. You’re taking what she said the wrong way.
AAAAAND, my sex drive has always been kiiiiinda a problem 🤷♀️ I tend to be pretty needy and aggressive in that department lol but I’m with someone now who gets me and sorta matches it but it has been a problem in the past. Always being honest about it and how you feel helps. Transparency girl
Meghan I love that you have created a space for women to talk about life. This is what we need more of! Women supporting women! Love it!
I've really realized after being in a relationship for almost a year that I just really want to hangout with my girl in my free time since we don't see each other everyday currently. I have a hard time making plans with other friends because I want to make memories with friends but also I want my girl to experience the fun things too. My girl never feels disappointed when I spend time with my other friends, I just personally feel like I'm giving up time with her if that makes sense.
Wow I’m so glad to hear some women feel the same way. I definitely have a higher sex drive than my husband… I don’t think we have talked about it much. I feel bad asking him for more , or always initiating.
Thank you for being a huge advocate for those of us with ADHD meghan! Love both you and jack's vibes and humor!
Honestly this video was so awesome! I love how honest you are and no bs. I love how confident and inspiring your vocabulary is. I learned a thing or two from this video!
I didnt realize that my adhd would mean im seeking sex more for that rush but it makes sense!! I have that very hyperfocused attitude towards other things that give me a rush like books or movies i obsess over where I'll then go on a months long binge of only really focusing on them, rewatching or finding fan art or fanfics of it just so i can keep feeling that high.
And thank you for speaking about doubts and communication in relationships that was very very insightful actually! Way more helpful than some people who think you just give up on a relationship. I feel like you do, that a relationship is more about the work you put in every single day with the person you choose than having some magical thing with no fighting or anything ever
I just freakin love you!! I relate so much to you on so many levels. My mental health is shaky (at best) but I LOVE that about myself!! You radiate positivity and just straight up authenticity! Thank you for being you!!! 🫶
I didn't do this with my wife, because I was ignorant. But, before you get married, have what I call the non-romantic marriage talk. That's where you tell her what you expect and she tells you what she expects. If you can come to an agreement or compromise on most things, I think you'll have a better marriage.
Thank you for dispelling the myths that often lead ppl in believing "Instagram relationships" are real 🙌🏼 relationships take real work!
Love that you are doing this Meg! Love you and Jack!
Being the female partner with a higher sex drive can be confusing and frustrating at times. The expectation being that your man would want you as much if not more can make you feel unwanted, rejected etc. It is 100% a need and requires communication to get to a place that works. Married 11 years. We're 35 with 2 kids. And as a mom, I'm gonna say that having children definitely changes life. In some ways, for the better - if you're the kinda person who enjoys having kids. And in some ways, for the worse. Depending on your lifestyle, personality, background, support system etc. And that IS reality. Would I have chosen otherwise? No. But would I try to talk someone else into wanting kids? No. You do you and take your time and be uncertain and make whatever choice works for you! Love your channel! Would definitely enjoy more content like this 😊
as a fellow adhd er i related so much to your view on talking with friends and commitment to plans. Luckily my friends also have adhd so they get it
Omg girl I can 100% back up the adhd sex drive! I'm so glad I'm not alone I have such a high sex drive and sometimes I'm like why though lol and yes my partner is low sex drive so conflict definitely happens! I love watching your videos and feel like I can relate to you alot ❤
I can relate so much with you, the hair and the adhd. we definitely need to get another girl talk vid
Oh I disagree with ' the one', I've met and been with lots of other men before, my current boyfriend is the one, I honestly didn't realise love like this existed ❤ I also have literally 0 doubts I can't wait to marry that man 🥰 4 years in and I miss him as hard as I always have and I'm just as crazy about this human ❤️
Hey meghan. I am a wavy haired guy in a relationship, with adhd and I really relate to the sex drive dynamic in my relationship to a certain extent. I love watching ur guys shorts every once in a while, cause it makes me feel seen theough u guys on a global scale. Makes me feel like my cookiness and goofiness is understood by people. Im lately dealing with steps towards an autism diagnosis, and maybe an ocd one as well, but I feel like I am dealing with it ok lately.
Just found this couple and I think super highly of yall. Glad I found this channel.
You're a crazy nut, Meghan! You both are loved by so many people. Keep up the hard work you and Jack do.
Hi Meghan! I absolutely adore ya'll! As of 4th of July 2023, Bryon+Ginger, have been married 30 years. You are spot on!!! I was 20 and he was 21 when we got married on a very, very hot and windy day. Everything that could go wrong went wrong lol. From my 3 tier wedding cake collapsing the night before our wedding to no one bringing any batteries for the wedding music to play. His beautiful family stayed up all night making me another cake which was so much better than the original and thankfully there was a plug so we got to play music. We have a very amazing marriage and I would do it all again and again. I love him so, so much. Love ya'll xoxoxo Ginger from Wills Point, Tx.
This is probably the most honest q&a. Love
Yup
Committing to plans is an adhd thing! I struggle with as well . Love the honesty megan :)))
late to train but this video was so refreshing to watch 💕 you are so awesome meghan!
OOOHHH MMMYYY GGGOODDD!!! DOPAMINE!? I was diagnosed with A.D.D. as an adult 21 years ago and-MAN! This answers SOOOOO MANY QUESTIONS! Thank you so much for sharing REAL "honest-to-god" down to earth transparency of REAL AUTHENTIC REAL HUMAN insights of your self and your relationship with Jack. WE need more people like you. And as a guy, no have NO IDEA how much this helps. Thank you ❤🎉!
Do more of this girl talk !! I adored it 😍
I love that you are doing this you need to keep doing this I watch you constantly I love you and Jack always showing people your videos I would love one of my questions to actually be when do you think that you and Jack are going to have a child you would both be beautiful parents
I can relate to not being sure if you want to have kids (you guys would make awesome parents BTW). I have a disability called Apert Syndrome, which is a abnormality of the hands, feet and face. I've had numerous surgeries to correct it, and it's also genetic too, which means if my future wife has a kid, the odds of me passing it to them are at least 50% last I checked. I also have to find someone that likes me for what's inside as opposed to what's outside.
Love the video Meghan! Great advice
You guys are just the best, I really enjoy watching your videos. Just the cutest couple ever 🧐💕. Cheers from Cuba guys 👋
I think with the long distance thing what a real expectation is, both people set a time, could be 6 months, could be a year, could be a year and a half. But, if the couple isn't a lot closer to each other within that set time frame, then both people need to walk away. It's a tough thing to do but if two people see each other twice a year in person, without that presence people start to drift apart. Sure there are maybe some exceptions to the rule but in all reality talking to someone in person is much more beneficial to bonding than watching someone on a screen or just texting.
I am a leo and I so disagree when people say astrology is fake because ALL US LEOS HAVE THE SAME PERSONALITIES. I relate to you so much your energy is so fun I love it keep doin you!!
Go ahead and believe what you believe, but note that one of the quickest ways to get a guy to think that you're crazy is to bring up astrology. The guy might not run right away, but it's a huge red flag. If he agrees with you about astrology, he's lying. He still jots it down as a red flag, but it isn't a deal-breaker alone to him.
astrology is fake
I like hearing your prospective about Jack.
Good video, Meagan. Continue on your road on getting the gold play button
Yes I have a higher drive than my husband as well! I think it’s convenient for him than it is for me because I just want to make him feel good and if we end up doing it together then great 😅 but yeah sometimes when it’s just me that’s in the mood I either distract myself or I just pleasure myself
I also struggle with having a higher sex drive than my boyfriend and it's just not fair lol glad to hear I'm not alone! It does not cause arguments but it does make me feel like I have a problem. Getting personal.. does jack not get aroused often? You feel like you have to initiate things
9:17 as a mother of two you are RIGHTTTTTTTTT
Lol 😂 There you go guys, I tell men that women make the first move and usually we do not notice it. Also, most people do not realize but if someone likes you they will go out of their way to get to know you.
I love how people talk about this. 😂
omg im the exact same when it comes to friendships and making plans, my friendships never last long because of it
I too have ADHD and with my boyfriend, it’s switched. My drive is high and his is low. And we do argue about it LOL
I’m not sure about complimenting clothes/material for guys. Maybe we’re different but I think complimenting behaviour or skill works better for guys. “You’re pretty good with computers!” “You handled that perfectly “. “You’re funny, you’re making me laugh!”
Stuff like that. It also aligns with what you said about our egos.
12:47 oh my gosh I’m so glad someone has a similar experience. I thought it was just me bc me and my partner are also flipped! I never realized maybe it was also my ADHD serotonin seeking, but it makes so much sense now that you say it! Do you have recommendations about what to do in these kinds of scenarios bc obviously if one of us doesn’t want sex, we’re not going to push the other, but for me it is difficult not having it often at no fault of my partner at all!
Love this talk ❤❤
Didn’t know the sex drive thing about adhd. Very helpful stuff.
Love you guys ❤️
🇿🇦Hello Meghan and Jack I'm a new subscriber I bumped into your channel because I loved the comedy.💔🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭 It's good because things are way too serious. 🤔Thank you for the lightness🙏🏾 🇿🇦South Africa in the building
Love you all. You guys are great.
Do you ever get jealous or mad about some comments ppl leave
I am a mother and I 100% agree with the children answer.
I’m gonna tell something a lot of guys won’t admit. We are terrified to make the first move or initiate the conversation with a pretty
girl/woman. Generally guys like that and myself are really the kind ones and who’ll treat you right.
No to blow my own trumpet lol.
Any guy who acts like a playboy or something is generally someone who doesn’t care about you.
8 kids and still trying to figure it out and the last one just graduated from HS, so good luck planning for when you will be ready to be a parent.
I feel bad for the guys that I talk to because I give some mad mixed signals. A lot of the time, I meet a guy who I think is really cool, and I just really want to be their friend. I get a friend crush, start constantly talking to them, saying complements, and then they understandably interpret it as me flirting and everything gets awkward. That being said, if you want to make a move without being too pushy, I do agree with Meghan, that is a pretty good technique.
6:57 What I say is follow your heart, my and my Wife met online during covid, we live 13.000km from eachother and weren't able to meet for over a year because of covid.
we are now happily married.
I think she said something in another video, if you both want it bad enough you WILL make it work. Never give up.
You are so beautiful. You have a flawless complexion! You seem like a friend I'd like to have. I am also a Leo, July 23rd 🎉 I'll be 30 this year 😬
You’re such a cutie and you give great advice 🫶🏽
Can we talk for a sec about her nails matching her fit? Yaaassssss!
i am not sure this video is a "girl talk"... i mean, some of it, but not all...
also, i have a feeling, that in their relationship Meghan has the wisdom, and Jack has the stability, kinda :)
love them! ;)
This was very enjoyable
Your very wise for years 😊
As someone who’s never been in a relationship, is sex really that important? I feel like I’d be hesitant to do it regardless if I’m in the mood or not and wouldn’t want to disappoint my significant other more than I probably would to begin with. I feel like in this day in age, it’s hard to find people who think that way too
Make it known early on in the relationship. If they arent down with how you function then they arent worth the time.
It all completely depends on you and your partner. Make sure to communicate your feelings well, so that no misunderstandings happen. It all depends on so many factors, it may just not be your thing which is completely okay, or you may not have met the right person that would make you want such things. Just don't worry about it too much, and make sure to communicate well with any possible partners in the future. And definitely make sure to think long and hard on it before coming to a decision as well, doing that with someone can be a huge step and can alter or end relationships if the relationship hasn't had time to properly develop. It's a thing you can never take back and can have great regret if it's rushed.
I've been there. And I had to break up once with a girl because she wanted and expected it at least w or 3 times a day every day.
Whatever. Those two are meant to be together. It is amazing that they've found each other. I can't even believe they found each other. At first I thought he was lucky because she seems so perfect but after paying more attention to him seems he matches her almost perfectly. And here I am steadily searching in this 6 billion female mess. never finding my person I actually give up. I'.ve actually accepted being alone and don't even care when girls like me anymore I don't want to do it.
Thanks
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Megan I just adore you lady.
So I can prove to you that soul mates do exist and that my wife is my soulmate... I only knew her three days before I asked her to marry me and we have been married for ten years ... On top of that I met her when she was 12 and I was 15 and I walked out of a door and I thought wow that is such a pretty girl I'm going to marry her ... Then I felt weird cause you know she was 12 never spoke to her I left... Several years later I had been of drugs for a year... But I still had a drinking problem and I couldn't keep a job ... One day I woke up from a drinking binge and I looked around... I was in a filthy house dog poop all over the floors, mice was running around, and cockroachs was in the thousands... I realized how bad I was and that I was going to get back on drugs... So I got down and I prayed and I asked for help... 2 days later I was set up on a blind date 3 days after that I asked her to Marry me she said yes .... A year later I found out she was the 12 year old girl I said was going to marry me .... She is everything that I am not she's my total opposite but every where I fell she picks me up and I do same for her .... She is without a doubt my soulmate and without her there's no way I would be where I'm at now
The woman making the move to make the guy think he's making the first move, happens a LOT. There's even an anthropological term for it, which eludes me right now, nowhere near the tip of my tongue, actually.
The issue with wanting children or not is a conundrum. Because you might not think you want children then you become pregnant and you have the baby and it's the biggest most unexpected blessing of your life!! For the most part I can venture to say it's a blessing but I can understand if people don't want children, everyone is different. I have family who don't want children or in one case even a relationship and he's happy!
But if you have children yes you give up some things but you have insurmountable memories with your child to make up for it. So you lose nothing, you only gain much more. Imagine your child's first word, first smile... you just went to Disney imagine that adventure with your child! The memories are an extension of the memories you have now. If you don't have children or you can't have children there's still a world of memories you can create, so don't get me wrong.
My parents were married when they were 19 and they had me when they were 20. Two years later my brother came along. It was the best years of my life growing up! We had so much fun, so many many wonderful memories!
I was in Jack's spot, as a dude with a low sexdrive it has caused quite a few arguments. I dated one girl who even if I was not even close to the mood, she would wait until I was asleep and then basically molest me and I'd wake up in compromising positions. We ended up breaking up due to a weird shared hallucination. But she also had a neurological disorder and couldn't feel a lot of anything. So sex was one of the few things she could still enjoy. We just weren't compatible. And ever since my ex wife tried to kill me I still can't even approach women, so I do appreciate if the woman makes the first move.
That last part is where I’m at today. I’m done trying cause I always get friend zoned or get looked like that I’m a 🤡. My friend told me I should join him in that and sure enough he found someone. Stay strong!
I'd love for guys to laugh at girls jokes in return when it comes to flirting.
Hi Meghan, what country do you live in? Super happy to see we are the same age & adhd girlies. I relate to almost everything you said 😂
You should do another video like this
My sister and brother n law made the decision not to have kids. They like kids, and neices and nephews, but also enjoy traveling and coming and going as they please.
My partner has a much lower sex drive than me, and I've honestly had to learn how to be my own partner sometimes. I am very monogamous so even though I have the higher sex drive, running off to sleep with someone else just to scratch that itch makes me feel icky. So really, my best solution has been to lean into my me-time. And I also have a new collection of, uhm... "accessories" to help with my me-time. It's not like it's a perfect solution, but I can definitely say that it makes the times I do spend with my partner feel a lot more special and intimate.
I have adhd as well, which also causes me to have a very high sex drive. My boyfriend on the other hand has also has adhd, which is VERY different in men, and causes him to have an extremely low sex drive. He doesn’t mind if we go even weeks sometimes without sex. I however can NOT do such a thing 😅 It causes me to get angry more than I’d like to admit lmao
Soooo girl lmk what you do cause I’m struggling 😂😂
(Btw baby if you see this ilysm😘)
Evidently the person that asked about if you waited to marriage isn't a big fan. Because if they were they would know you told Jack at the first meeting OH I'M getting me some LOL . Megan you are beautiful. And yes I used to have that problem in my marriage where I was wanting it all the time and he was too tired from working all day😂😂
Preach, ADHD is so misunderstood by "normal" people
I'm telling you: I'm from brazil and in the last years, dollar are TOO FUCKING EXPENSIVE, but I would DF BUY you guys merch if you make any 🥺❤️
Your skin 😍😍😍😍
I definetly DONT believe in zodiac signs but girrllll i got such a leo vibe from u like? Im a leo too and u just can tell a leo from their hair like literally.
CAN WE GET A FULL CURLY HAIR ROUTINE PLEASEEEE
The way I keep a healthy relationship is by always being single. That way, I won't have any problems.
“Guilty pleasure”, you said friends? GIRRRRRRRL! NOOOOO. Omg, friends is just one of the best things in the world! It is not “guilty pleasure”. Omg, i’m a bit hurt right now
... I didn’t know this was because of adhd … 😂 it all mf makes sense now. I thought I was just a freak
11:30 yea I had to delete those apps. People were so fake and just made my mental health issues worse than it already is. Literally got blocked for saying I like football 💀💀
Do story times!!!
It’s completely fine for a woman to NOT want kids!!!! People treat us like criminals for not wanting to spawn. I’m good with my dogs and cats, thanks 👍🏻
You look beautiful today😊😊😊😊
question 5 : be pushy, be direct. You know the meme c. can't tell ? it comes from somewhere inspired by the truth, most of the time girls are too subtle.
We're a lot alike 😂😊
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How did you get diagnosed with ADHD? idk if it’s in a different video but i would love to hear your experience with it!!