Do You Let Criticism Stop You? How To Insult-Proof Your Ego
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- Опубліковано 20 сер 2024
- Does fear of criticism keep you from putting yourself out there and shining online? These tips to deal with naysayers will insult-proof your ego.
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One thing I've learned about really critical and judgmental people is…that they love to give it, but they don't like to take it. I remember I used to work with someone who used to trash me behind my back all the time. Then if she saw me taking to another co-worker, she would immediately think I was saying mean and nasty things about her (which I wasn't), she would actually corner that person and ask "Was she saying anything mean about me?" I think it's true that people who project a lot of negativity are actually very insecure with themselves and are afraid of criticism and judgement themselves, so they project their insecurities onto others.
The 29 people that disliked this video are jealous of her hair 😂
I give a thumb up to this video but I'm still jealous of her hair :D
Lol! I love how Greg did that!😂
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42 salty ones. 😄
@@comentadoraification I know, she's got the most gorgeous hair! But I still love her anyway.
When someone takes the time to express negative words in a not so constructive way, the only thing they THINK they are achieving is taking the spotlight away from themselves for a brief moment in hopes of escaping painful, depressing, ill thoughts they have about themselves. It's their bag of potato chips! Never take it personally. Keep on doing what you love to do! Thanks Marie, for putting yourself out there! Love your style and your hair!
Greg coming in was PRICELESS!!! Love you Marie! #daymade #dropsbrush #dropsthemic
I need to hear EXACTLY this today! For the first time in my adult life, I'm letting THE FEAR of what other people think (along with their criticisms), keep me from moving forward in my life. Thank you so much for sharing your time and talents!
This was amazing! Anyone who puts themselves "out there" whether it be on UA-cam, on line or life, in general, they are going to experience the trolls or as you put it clown holes! There are days when it can be hard to avoid, getting emotionally aggravated with the comments. Some of them flat out hurt! It is up to you to get rid of them! Still a hard thing for me to deal with after six years of this YT thing. But everyday I get a little better!
2 videos on criticism, yet no redundancy - kudos, thanks for the inspiration, and cheers from Germany! :)
I have had a chronic illness for the last 2 years, ME/CFS...but because it's not very understood by people I get lots of hurtful comments...like "you're just depressed, snap out of it, get some exercise, it's all in your head, you're just lazy, you're crazy. I was so frustrated as are many others with CFS...so I posted on a FB support group I belong to..."...without anger or bad feelings tell me the lamest things people have said to you"....it was so hilarious and healing....I got so many responses and everyone was connecting and having fun with it. I know it doesn't sound like something you'd laugh about, but it made me realize that they were never going to get it and that's okay. Thanks so much for your videos...I love them.
+Kathy Ireland YES!!! I have made videos about this exact thing! Great way to deal with it girl
OMG, Karen has a lot of time in her hands...so does her "friend" :) With so much to learn from you Marie, it amazes me how can people don't pay attention to your message. Such an inspiration this episode today...once again! Thank you.
Indeedy! It amazes me how people would much rather concentrate on what is wrong that with her "hair" or "skirt" than the actual message! What did you learn most from this video?
Besides many, the one fact that called my attention the most it is the fact that we CAN delete, block, erase it all people in our lives that leave just nasty comments about us.
I’m years late watching this but laughing at the fact that her name is KAREN 🤣
someone went to the jealousy hospital right after your hair secret was revealed :D
I absolutely love these videos so much. Stuck in a fear loop over criticism, and this just pushed me in the right direction. Thanks, Marie!
I want Maries Closet! All her outfits are gorgeous!!
also her hair & face lol
I KNOW! trying to find out where she gets her clothes!
@@D1V1N315 And I want a body like hers too.
I went through a spout of depression and anxiety to the point where I was on medicine for a short period of time. Some people who I had lived with and thought were some of my best friends started saying I was faking it and just wanted attention (which is great because these are the people who are known for flaws of being attention whores) and I really took it as a learning experience. It shows who your friends are. There is such thing as pointing out someone is being negative and asking them to pick up spirits so you want to be around them. But what was happening was I was being attacked and talked about by people who were annoyed that I was taking the spot light off of them for 5 minutes. I really love what you said about not letting people walk all over you. Because I always had felt really guilty being as mean back as they were to me.. in order to defend my self.
I am SOOO happy you did the hair thing. People are obsessed with hair. But Marie, you know that 100% of the criticism coming your way is from jealous people who grew up thinking that the are the law of the land. Trouble is, they want YOUR land, or what they 'think' you have in your life. They want what you have. Also I think all of those harsh comments from EVERYONE to you is abuse rather than criticism. Criticism for me has an air or feel to it that is very different from those stupid, awful idiotic abusive comments. So glad you did this video. Love the Eddie Murphy message:))
I just binge watched all the Jimmy Kimmel tweet videos on youtube after this. I have had such a laugh. They are brilliant. On a sober note, dealing with criticism is one of the hardest lessons in life, I find. I am constantly in need of improvement on that subject and I found this video very helpful.
Humour and being able to laugh at yourself is one of the great strengtheners and protectors in life. Basically you are saying "I know what anyone says is more about THEM than me and I trust life and my real value anyway". Once you know your true value and both contrast and creativity will show you this through your life journey) you can have compassion for critics who are operating from a place of hurt/jealousy and/or misunderstanding. Keep up the great work Marie
"You cannot take me down. I will not give you my power." ❤️ And I LOVE your hair!!! I've always assumed it's natural. 🙌
I just discovered this show because i am a french guy and i was looking for a show in english (obviously about subjects i care about as life coach and business) to learn and improve my english skills.
And i felt in love with your show Marie. That's very interesting and thank you for what you do :) I watch each day a new video and i learn so much things.
I actually really like constructive criticism, not only does it give me clarity to improve my artwork but I also know that it's coming from a good place in their hearts. Thanks for being awesome Marie!
Omg! This happened today! My boss joked about leaving me in charge and I turned and said hey I'm the boss of me and started laughing and so did my coworkers. She just said well yeah I guess you are everyday. Ha! Gave her no power. Thanks sweet beautiful lady. Btw I'm letting my hair grow out as well.
I absolutely love this video !!! For the past two weeks I have been watching your videos everyday and wow I absolutely love it! It's been so inspiring and motivational!
Agreed, grow a thicker skin and brush off the stupid. Everything is a learning experience.
Also, I can't find the link to that celeb vid in the description.
THANK YOU Marie!! This is an excellent video! I am about ready to put myself out there in a new business venture. Creativity does come with criticism, but that doesn't mean you should allow it to affect you and you can definitely learn from "constructive" criticism.
Thank you a million times! I badly need this today. Two Japanese Students are mean to me because I became honest with their real English level. Then they made comments on our website and said horrible things that can destroy my name and my career. Your videos are very helpful, please keep on inspiring us. You go girl! More power!
Precious advice. It is true, I used to be shock by people's behaviour or words, now I am like people can say whatever they want and think whatever it is they are thinking but I do not have to listen or let it bother me. In Japan harmony is a big deal but now people who abuse the system get the Eddy treatment!
Thank you for this! This is pure light in a world of darkness. Thank you for being this strong. No one ever taught me how to deal with criticism properly. Trying to ignore it is not as effective as your demonstration. And since we all have an inner critic, the ability to keep your power is a tremendous lesson. Thank you!
Loveddddd this video! I get comments and criticism all the time. My favorite one was once, someone told me I needed to lose weight. I happily ignored her comment and then posted about it on Facebook. But not in a negative way towards her, but in a positive way towards me. I love my body, and I am happy and content. Her comment did not affect me, as it shouldn't, it only empowered me to feel happy with myself.
HAHAHAHAHA LOVE Gregg for strolling on with such power and brushing your hair out like that! YOU GO GURL! ROCK THAT BEAUTIFUL MANE!
This post was so timely for me! Thank you for sharing. I recently had to decide what to do with personal, unconstructive insults (not towards me, but towards another commenter) in the comment sections of my videos. I want to encourage discussion but hateful remarks do not contribute to the loving, respectful environment that I'm trying to create. Finally, I decided that I want to protect my viewers by removing these types of comments and banning the offenders.
#3 is a life changer! Owning your power is so well...powerful:) Thanks Marie!
You are not just gorgeous. You are extremely wise. 🙏🙏
Thank you for this, Marie! I'm just starting out with putting myself "out there" online, and I just recently came into contact with a sort of popular blogger saying something negative about me during a webinar, which effected me more than I thought it would (or should). Eventually, I came to forgive her within myself, and although I still think of it from time to time, deep down I know that her comment only effects me if I allow it to. Love your videos!! I also LOVE those celebrities read mean tweets by Jimmy Kimmel. Oh, and your hair is absolutely fabulous! Those people are just jealous ;) xo
What did she say if I may ask?
Hey, I just skimmed through your channel; it's seems fresh but it sure looks like you're on to a great start!
"I'm just starting out with putting myself "out there" online"
>> So here's just a little support: Keep going! :)
*****, Thank you so much! Its so nice to see that there are such kind and supportive people out there in the world! I checked out your channel as well, and your piano music is beautiful! Seriously, keep it up because you are very talented :)
*****, hmm, I'd rather not say. I believe this person said the comment in a joking manner anyway, and I don't believe he/she meant any harm by it really. I just took it to heart because I tend to be a bit sensitive when it comes to things like that. Its doesn't matter, though. Just water under the bridge :)
The Dance Grad
You're very welcome and thanks for subscribing! I just think we have enough critics around and too few friendly supporters and allies, especially in the beginning of our creative journeys. :)
"Seriously, keep it up because you are very talented"
>> Will do!
I can't believe people insult you like that Marie! I think you are the bomb diggity!
You are awesome Marie! Thank you so much! LOVE you!
I am so glad I came across this video, I feel like a weight has truly been lifted. You are so right, I've been so caught up on what people say about my business, I've put more time into worrying about the mean comments I lost focus on the real goal. Thank you
I love you Marie. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there, with grace, style, wisdom and fantastic humour!
For such a young lady you have soooo much wisdom, thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are beautiful inside and out.
The "hot steamy dump" part really drives it home! Thank you so much for everything!
This is so darn true! I have gotten to the point I tell people to piss off if they feel it necessary to criticize. Who has time for that mess?!
This is like gold, Marie. Thank you so much.
I love your hair! And what I like the most is that I have tons of hair just like you!!! Isn't amazing all the hairstyles we can do with it? Straight, curly, up does, etc! Our type of hair takes any style and keeps it ALL day!!!!! We get up in the morning and if we don't do our hair, it doesn't even show because our hair is a 24/7 gorgeousness!!!!
I DIED, I DIED, I DIED. Marie, I luv ya, truthfully I thought you had a few extensions BUT I just busted out laughing when Greg went crazy on your hair lololol
Great video, Marie. I got hateful tweets from a former friend that I discovered a year later on my time line. It was painful to read. It stayed with me for a while. I made a choice to let it go. When people attack you personally, it says more about their character than you.
Swanofdreamers no true-er words spoken! From your lips to God’s ears! 👍🏼 Peace xoxo
To Marie: thank you for being a mentor in my life :)
As I am the only child, it was a blessing to come across your channel and to learn great tips (business, mind and soul) from you.
I definitely needed this. Unfortunately, in order for me to remove this person from my life, I have to remove myself, but then again, that's not a bad thing and very doable.
I`m a big fan of Marie Forleo, but that`s is the first time I actually comment in a video!! I love this episode and would love to leave a big thanks as it helped me open my youtube channel and engage more with my business as a photographer on social media!!!! Happy 2017 everyone!!!
This is the best video ever! Thank you so much for hitting so many great points. This has been a sticky issue for me for the last couple of years promoting my art online. Thanks for sharing some of the criticism that you receive!!!! I would never think people would criticize you since I think you are divine.
Thank you so much for another great video, Marie. It was great to be reminded that criticism comes with creativity. I'm not as sensitive to criticism as I used to be, but sometimes I still catch myself worrying too much about what others might think of me. What has really helped is realizing that there's probably no way to make everybody happy, but when I do what I love and what really resonates with me, I naturally attract people who like my work. The most difficult part was figuring out what really is me and what isn't. In the end, the answer was quite simple: If it feels good, you're on the right path. What everybody else thinks doesn't matter :) Lots of love & have a wonderful week! Anna
"If it feels good, you're on the right path. What everybody else thinks doesn't matter"
I certainly like this one, Anna! I will definitely walk around with it in my head. Someone once said, if you are doing something you love, and nobody is responding to it, it's their fault, not yours. Lol... I still find that one a little hard to believe but I am reminded to put more energy on the process, not always on the outcome and the feedback. Like you said, those who love it will be attracted to it!
Cheers Anna!
Sheila Makena
Thank you so much for your reply Sheila :) The thing is that for as long as you do things to please others more than making yourself happy, you may be successful in the traditional sense, but it will be hard to enjoy what you're doing. If you just focus on what you love for the sake of doing what you love, it may take a while until you get noticed, but it won't matter because you're having fun anyway. Once you reach a certain point where people do start noticing your work, there will be no stopping you :) You'll see consistent growth because you can just keep doing what you're already doing anyway, and you'll also be likely to get a lot of support from those who love what you do. And if you do get criticism, it won't bother you much because deep down you really believe in what you're doing. It can be a bit of a healing process for sure, but it's totally worth it! :)
I'll remember your words, Anna, because there will be days I will need to read them!! Enjoy your weekend!
I died of laughter when Greg threw the brush! I feel like trolls come with visibility, and take as a sign of flattery, then delete the comments, person, subscription etc. :)
Marie, you and your hair are awesome! Thank you for putting yourself out there for all of us!
Tara Sofia Moore writes the best work on criticism on the history of women receiving criticism and it being part of survival
"Don't trust this skirt" hahahahha omg you have me laughing hysterically by myself. Thank you thank you thank you, this video came at the perfect time, my sincere and beautiful BFF is being criticized and abused at work in a non-constructive way. So glad I was able to send this her way to supplement the reality check I gave her this morning.
this is a topic that is experienced by everyone at one time or another in their life and i think your advice is very good! it is important to understand that there is always someone who doesn't like you for one reason or another! even albert einstein was criticised at times! a very good saying that i use is 'do your best and then forget about it'! thank you for your advice it is very helpful!
Love love LOVE how you got Greg to show your hair is your real hair! That is classic! And there's nothing wrong with extensions, but when you have a nice hair of real stuff and people have been trying to bring you down saying it's not, I say Go Girl! Show those haters! Haha! You are my positive spin Guru Marie :)
Your content, just like your hair is full, rich, amazing and AUTHENTIC! Yes!!!!
Brilliant video. I love the advice to stay positive while still being about to kick the negative fools out. Too many coaches just say to ignore those people and they will disappear without deleting them.
LMBO!! when he brushes your hair I died! ..then came back to life of course;) get'em Marie !
The hair brushing slayed me. I never thought you wore extensions- and your arms are fabulous!
Hyper-critical people are usually wounded people, and their judgement says so much more about them than about you.
I usually just shut them off by delete the comments. We do not need it in our life. Move on and focus on how beautiful we are to be alive!
Thank you for this video! It made me smile.
Julie Mateus me too!!! 😊🌼😊
Classic Marie :) Made me laugh! You addressed (or undressed) those little people aptly ... you go girl!!!!!
Hi Marie, Fantastic advice! Critical people can be such a stumbling block and interference to our calling and path in life. Negativity is soooo destructive and I believe these negative, critical, attacking people are very unhappy and jealous deep inside. I love how you bring a sense of humor into your videos!!! LOL!!! Cheers!!! GGG
Great advice on dealing with criticism. On a side note, it boggles my mind that anyone would care even if you did have hair extensions. Wouldn't that be your choice and business? How does that possibly affect their lives? Crazy! Lol.
Too funny. You have fantastic hair AND style. Keep on keeping on sister.
Thank you Marie! That was awesome! I would get mad at people leaving rude comments to other people and wondered why they did that. Even though it wasn't toward me it still angered me. Just like the comments you read about you. I wanted to go back and tell those to people off. But you made a good point. People like that have nothing better to do, their lives seems to be filled with negative stuff so that's what they will be projecting out toward others as well. Thank you for the wonderful show. You and your hair are amazing and kind. That's why you are where you are and the "haters" will only make wave by leaving negative comments. Sad life. Love you!!!!
Brilliant strategies!!!!!
It depends what mood I'm in, if I am caught unaware, then I ask "Why do you say that?" casually, and they sorta run off. Otherwise if I am in normal state of mind, I kinda follow what you do, take a moment and see why they would be saying this right now, then see if any of it is useful, then say "Thanks for sharing".
Marie, you are amazing, everything you advise is always so insightful and completely true. I love the fact you can give specific steps on improving yourself even if you know this inside, its positive reinforcement that you sometimes need from someone which you provide so well!
Your hair is beautiful. They just jelly. 😄 That part where Greg came in and then left saying "its real" ... that whole part was hilarious.
Great video. I have people in my life that are trying to define me and hold me in what their beliefs of me are. I don't even know them, but a pretty nasty character assassination has been following me around for years. Its a hard situation, but I am determined to not let them define me or hold me in their issues. I am doing so well and its the best. It totally doesn't fit with their gossip and rumors.
Another hit, Marie! I love how you handle any situation with grace and wild humor. You are so insightful and of course, always fashionable ;) Thank you for sharing some of your "hater's" comments to inspire the rest of us to be less afraid to put ourselves out there. Hugs to you, sister!
Agree with ya Marie..but disengaging with someone whom we love is really tough...in case they don't like us..thanks for raising up this matter of criticism..criticism to me is "a path unexplored within us" :)
Marie’s videos are worth 10 visits to the psychiatrist. In 8 minutes, she has everything sorted out for you. Greetings from Malaysia 🙌 - 6 May 2019
That's so kind of you to say, Jeffrey. We're so glad that you share your time with us. - Team Forleo
I was born with what my family calls Frog Fur. Ever seen a frog with fur? ??? I love Marie's hair.
marieforleo, it's so weird that this is the video you put up today. I had a day where I let the negativity get to me. Someone essentially tried to sh*t all over my plans for the future and say that I couldn't do it. I just said "That's my issue to deal with" and walked away but I could feel the sting after the event.
Thank you so much for this video, it definitely helped. I'll be sharing this video. Hopefully one day our videos will inspire people the way yours has inspired me.
With love,
Steven Farquharson of 2HelpfulGuys.
You are So amazing. Your Style is Incredible and so is everything about you. Thanks for doing what you do, girl. You F*cking ROCK
As an empath, I find that I can't escape the bad feelings and the self doubt and I have to let myself FEEL them and be upset because of them but the best way to release bad feelings is to let yourself feel them.
You are one awesome woman. 'Nuff said :)
You know, even if your hairs fake (or not)and the rest...
Your vidoes and advice are awesome ...
They are very helpful in pulling a person up..and giving the burst of positive vibes and feeling ,that is important.
So ,in the end, your goal accomplished.As your awesome videos and style of presentation does its job.
great tips :) I also think that for the most part when it isnt constructive criticism, but rather mean and rudeness - they really are the ones who are coming from a worse place and spending too much time being negative. xo
HA HA HA!!!!! LOVE, LOVE, LOVE THIS!! I had to watch it twice! Best video to date! marvellous Marie, simply marvellous! xx
I was told that I am patronizing because I make clients sign a contract before starting a project. Just didn't know what to think of that! Thanks for this video.
You are amazing Marie Forleo. Best regards from BRZ/São Paulo State. His fan
great tips! so much value! thank you
I loved this video! So much so, that I actually took notes! (but, I'm a nerd, so that's kinda expected of me)
Next time, though, we'll need a "No Pants Dance." Those are my favorite!
I enjoy your personality so much. In fact, I feel like I steal little bits of your gig for my teaching (I'm a biologist, and teach huge classes of 600 students), and I'm working it into my videos. You come across as caring, kind, funny, smart, and relevant. I just love it.
I just wanted you to know, I consider you one of my mentors. You rock, sister!
i lv u Marie u r so inspirational to me and each viewer of yours.U r the Perfect combo of beauty with brain sweety
This video literally just shook my entire existence.
Late to the party but what I try to keep in mind is that often when I put myself out there, if I do it because I believe in what I'm doing, no criticism can hits me. If I do it because I (consciously or unconsciously) seek validation, any comment that isn't praise burns like hell. So I try to check-in with myself every time: do I do it for my ego or for the greater cause?
Oh my gosh, the forceful hair brushing made me laugh out loud. Genius! Love you, Marie!
You are so stinkin' entertaining!!! Love it!!! So the hair criticizers probably have short/thin hair and they're just jay-lous of your lush lox. The chic that said you're obnoxious and your style is deceiving is probably holding back more in life and not saying the things she really wants to say and she's also jay-lous of you that you are able to do what she only dreams of being courageous enough to do!! But I'll bet you've already concluded that you sharp laday ;) Your hair is flippin' gorgeeoso!!!
I am super sensitive, I am very very creative and artistic, so to your point, I am more vulnerable to criticism , and I don't always take it well. I must say, there is no vantage point for me, I just recede and go into a shell. I am not proud of that, but I always look for the grain of truth, which doesn't teach me anything but self doubt
I LOVE THIS EPISODE ‘YO!!! This is beyond share-worthy!!! Bravisssssima!!!
I love criticism ! I love getting better at my craft
These videos are literally gold. Thank you, Marie!
Marie you are fabulous!!!! I love you and your videos!!! Keep shining!!!!!
Love this video Marie! Here's a little "criticism" from my side I've always wanted to get off my chest:
You're amazing! You are inspiring, smart, funny and wise! I absolutely love your videos and your great advice
on business AND life. It's soooo helpful and mind opening. This video really helped me to get another
perspective on criticism in general. Thank you!!
PS: You have amazing, natural beautiful hair--so amazing and perfect that people think it's fake
which is pretty awesome!:)
The best -dressed teacher out there !
I enjoyed your video so much! Especially the part when Greg comes out to comb your hair (hee hee). Hurray for you, your humor and your style!!
Wonderful! Such a positive girl!
Loved this video, and advice. Came in perfect timing for me. Thank you so much!
I'm an actor, and the first biggish project I ever booked garnered some hate comments about my appearance. It was completely out of left field. It certainly taught me how to deal with nonconstructive criticism, though!