How to Overcome Fear & Shyness with Josh Pais

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  • @kaysong4015
    @kaysong4015 10 років тому +22

    Marie, what an amazing show. I was moved to tears when your husband talked about shyness as something to feel rather than something to overcome. The love between you two is inspiring. Thanks for your shows!

  • @TheTiffanySquared
    @TheTiffanySquared 9 років тому +17

    Marie is the epitome of someone who has found her true purpose. what a gift. and on a side note with this video ...absolute relationship goals

  • @Ittybittysteph
    @Ittybittysteph 9 років тому +33

    This is so true, I dealt with anxiety and it wasn't until I stopped paying attention to the feeling and stooped associating my emotions with illness or having a heart attack, immediately I was able to focus on the moment and disregard the anxiety . I felt free. If everyone would do this I guarantee it would eliminate so much anxiety. Now when my heart beats faster I think to myself, wow I can feel my heart because I am alive , it's a good thing not bad! We can control so much with just the thought.

    • @julie5310
      @julie5310 7 років тому +2

      steph vega THANK YOU! I really appreciate it.

    • @lizlopez1745
      @lizlopez1745 5 років тому +1

      I agree, it is sooooooo true. I believe it, I'd be honest there was a time I didn't believe this could be true however when I'd put it into practice I came to realize how you really overcome so much, truly thankful and grateful for this major lesson learned☺

  • @coldspirit26
    @coldspirit26 7 років тому +15

    Loved the way he says "I love you"..it's was natural and authentic...a beautiful moment..makes me want to fall in love again❤️

  • @helfulvids
    @helfulvids 11 років тому +1

    I love that they did not try to hide their affection, which makes him totally relatable.

  • @morningglory3644
    @morningglory3644 7 років тому +17

    I love the idea of riding through the emotion, rather than trying to hide it.

  • @thtrnerd221
    @thtrnerd221 11 років тому +2

    I really like Josh's ideas. Emotions are just a flux of energy and calling them vibrations is just genius. I'm going to have to remember to use this.

  • @ImRichardShepherd
    @ImRichardShepherd 7 років тому +1

    This video has INSTANTLY changed my life. Thank u guys for sharing ur love and wisdom!

  • @nayinayi1
    @nayinayi1 11 років тому

    There is so true if you aware of your feelings and yet be yourself instead of trying to be someone else, you appear as genuine person.

  • @parkerday308
    @parkerday308 4 роки тому

    He's absolutely delightful and shared so much wisdom. What an amazing couple.

  • @effortlesslymish3458
    @effortlesslymish3458 9 років тому +7

    I experience shyness when it comes to public speaking, small talk during networking and when filming videos for my blog. I experience a disconnect between my thoughts and my words. The vibrations feel like a huge wave coming towards me and that complete breathlessness right before it crashes because it is going to crash me down. If I have to nickname my vibes, I would call it 'surfy!'. lol So I can remind myself to ride it! Thanks Josh and Marie. I needed this!

    • @shellbell8062
      @shellbell8062 7 років тому

      Ooooh you sound like me - right down to the name! And yes networking is when my anxiety rushes up in me too - and in making videos. I suddenly feel outside of my body as if someone just banged a pair of symbols against my head and I still need to act normal but I am suddenly clueless as to who I am in the moment. I think I'm going to call it Bunny - as I feel like a rabbit in the headlights. Bunny's here!

  • @Simplyresonate
    @Simplyresonate 8 років тому +3

    One of my favorite MarieTvs! The simplicity of energy - vibrating atoms constantly exchanging with other vibrations. It is the nuts 'n bolts of what we are. Thank you Einstein - E=mc2 for this simple truth.

  • @susannesullivan3926
    @susannesullivan3926 8 років тому +3

    I can totally see why you guys were/are drawn to each other You guys are awesome together.

  • @elizabethruse
    @elizabethruse 11 років тому +1

    I learnt this lesson recently when I had to give a speech at my sons wedding. I was terrified and thought I'd end up in a teary mess. Someone said to me 'Great! Use your shyness as an asset. People just love an emotional mum. So for the first time I considered my shyness as an asset rather than a sentence to doom. I shed
    a couple of tears but everyone thought that was a beautiful thing.

  • @riasb
    @riasb 7 років тому +1

    I have fear sometimes that tingle around my belly and when it gets a little worse I feel tightening in my chest. I learned to sit with it and meditation helps. The video reinforced me to stay within and feel what I feel without trying to change it. It does go away after I breath in and out several times and think about what the worse case scenario might be. I have an exam tomorrow so I was going through these feelings a few minutes ago. However, I feel more centred now and am instead focusing on what I can do to get ahead on my exam. Gotta stay calm and carry on. The video really helped, thank you!

  • @jepkoechcaroline5663
    @jepkoechcaroline5663 6 років тому +1

    I have been struggling with this for so long and today I came across this. Thanks alot Marie n Joshua.

  • @29wsani
    @29wsani 11 років тому

    Thanks Marie for bringing Josh and sharing your ways to overcome shyness...got to remember that it's all atoms and vibrations!

  • @creativityjenna
    @creativityjenna 6 років тому +1

    My favorite episode even after all these years! Love you Marie and Josh😘🤗

  • @brenda6315
    @brenda6315 6 років тому +7

    11:55 the way he looks at her ❤️Awwwwe

  • @Rally1ification
    @Rally1ification 8 років тому +56

    Does anyone else think it's cute when he says "my daddy" ? Awwwww.

  • @KarateNurseStacy
    @KarateNurseStacy 8 років тому +1

    This was SO GREAT! Totally gave me a new way to look at my shyness and fear.

  • @myjoyfulwealth
    @myjoyfulwealth Рік тому

    10 years since you did this and I loved it!

    • @TeamForleo
      @TeamForleo Рік тому

      Glad to have you in our community for 10 years Melanie! 💗 Thanks so much for watching! - Monauar, Team Forleo

  • @ambiliSM
    @ambiliSM 3 роки тому

    Being an anxious or shy person I've always felt that I have a drawback and that I have to overcome those tendencies in order to be normal like others. Thank you both of you Marie and Josh, to assure me the value of 'feeling' natural and 'being natural'.

  • @oozingcooleli
    @oozingcooleli 11 років тому

    God bless you both for sharing these three points. I needed this not as a business advice but as a personal advice that is helping me with a breakup. The sensation/vibe is a rush that i get when someone wants to talk to me about myself and my flaws or anything of concern and i burst into tears immediately. It's an automatic thing i do which is what i am trying to work on. The only way i try to deal with it is by avoiding the talk with that person. I am not dealing with it at all.

  • @SunWellBeing23
    @SunWellBeing23 11 років тому

    Yayyyyyyy....thank you for describing so beautifully what I am teaching people about sitting with their sensations and feelings with no judgement.....through my yoga and pt classes.......yayyyyyy.......am sharing this video........everybody so needs to be educated about this.......it is so important......have raised my children to embrace their feelings.......xx

  • @Kingofmyworld87
    @Kingofmyworld87 8 років тому +6

    wow this video helped me so much to get out of the drama in my own head and remind me of my truth.

  • @audragrady
    @audragrady 11 років тому

    My atoms get tight and hot! Around my heart center and my shoulders like to crowd forward to try and protect them. This was an awesome message today! Thank you Marie and Josh.

  • @Pathrissia
    @Pathrissia 9 років тому +2

    Just perfect.
    Alright. My fear is to be myself 100% by expressing feelings and sharing thoughts to people (usually doesn't matter how many, but the more, the worse the feeling is).
    Its always starting in my chest an stomach. Little vibrations and a nauseous feeling. Then dizziness in my head and "cold sweat". The vibrations then move to the rest of my body such as legs and hands and the chest feeling gets heavy and head feels very light/empty.
    I would call this bubbling :)

  • @AmyTV
    @AmyTV 11 років тому +3

    Love this video. Great pep talk on fears and I'll definitely keep this in mind should an emotion overwhelm me. I think I've been really good at embracing those feelings so far because it was as easy as being confident about what I do and the type of personality I have rather than emulate the way someone else may do the same thing. Just my thoughts. Thanks Marie!

  • @princessvoiceover522
    @princessvoiceover522 10 років тому

    I'm going to be performing live improv acting in a month, and I am bubbles in my tummy when I think about it. I'm going to call it "I feel bubblay!" ready to rock!

  • @marg2711
    @marg2711 11 років тому

    Amazing! Here I was trying to change myself all these years! Josh you've articulated what I've always felt! Thanks for validating this,all the literature is about overcoming shyness. Shyness is such a noble trait,and so true about the wisdom of speaking from your heart no matter how your voice sounds. My struggle has always been about what other people think of me when I speak, I look too much into nonverbal gestures that it keeps me distracted. I get one mean stare and it shuts me right off!!!

  • @TheLexieWilson
    @TheLexieWilson 11 років тому

    THANK YOU! I was JUST saying a similar thought earlier to myself and then BOOM! I see this video and it solidified for me what steps I need to take in order to truly live the life I want! You guys are GREAT together and I truly TRULY loved the steps Josh gave! THANK YOU!

  • @rainbowintheclouds6811
    @rainbowintheclouds6811 9 років тому +6

    Feels like fight or flight when I feel like all eyes are on me or even just one set of eyes and I'm the center of attention and uncomfortable, I really can feel the vibration now that you mention it like heat creeping up my neck and poof instant red spots all up my neck and over my chest. It's like there's no hiding how I'm feeling. I can be outspoken if I need to be yet I'm actually timid in on the spot situations where I'm watched. I'll nickname it spritz because I just want to reach for a cool spray bottle to make those spots disappear.

  • @shannonmauraconway
    @shannonmauraconway 6 років тому

    There's something about your energy that is soooo great and comforting like I literally love you!!!

  • @tatianavalencia6286
    @tatianavalencia6286 7 років тому

    Wow. Amazing video. I am currently a Dance and Psychology major in NYC and have been struggling with performance anxiety both when I dance and when I publically speak. It may stem from some self-esteem issues and my habit of creating ideas around what people may be thinking about me. I can see how looking at this shyness and anxiety in a different light without labeling it as "good" or "bad" and instead ride it rather than resist can really help me. Now that finals, presentations and performances are coming up I am going to try to alter my mind into viewing these feelings as empowering energies that can propel me into doing, what really is, two things that I love. Teaching (informing people) and dancing! Thank you both so much, I really appreciate your openness and willingness to share! Subscribing right away!! :)

  • @samuelb1638
    @samuelb1638 2 роки тому

    I’m going through the roughest period of my life.
    So, thank you for sharing these powerful ways to help me to overcome life’s challenges. The video was funny, entertaining, and you and your husband shared a lot; definitely a channel worth investing my time into! Thanks 🙏

  • @jesslittleangel5
    @jesslittleangel5 11 років тому

    This was so helpful! I cannot wait to consciously put these tips to use! I'm struggling with trying to feel comfortable and easy going around a new guy I've been seeing. I like him so much that I'm like a deer caught in headlights, and I can't be myself. The anxiety is hurting my relationship.

  • @fearlesssoul9408
    @fearlesssoul9408 4 роки тому +1

    I'm really grateful for this incredible energy, thank you!

  • @annichristina5318
    @annichristina5318 11 років тому

    I'm going to work on these concepts for myself. AND with my 6.5 year old.
    Thanks Josh!! thanks Marie !!

  • @naeemahjade
    @naeemahjade 11 років тому

    Awwwww just that little snippet you could see all the BIG LOVE you guys have!! That is beautiful!!!! Made me happy inside.... AND those were awesome tips that I'm definitely going to put to use... I can't wait to try them. 7-12 seconds.. loooooveee that I know that now!

  • @mb7a4fmlg
    @mb7a4fmlg 7 років тому

    You Too are Awesome! God bless you Too,with lots more love and Happiness! Thank you So much for your help! Take care!

  • @ennvee1989
    @ennvee1989 2 роки тому +1

    Off topic but he's fantastic as Wade Miquelon on "The dropout"! Loved his role.

  • @MadameApolantTV
    @MadameApolantTV 9 років тому +15

    my emotion is anger and it feels like an explosion, fire, stop it and i am going to call it dragooon

  • @min0502y
    @min0502y 9 років тому +1

    This is so great!! Thank you very much for sharing this. Such a great conversation and so creative!

  • @tamanresa
    @tamanresa 7 років тому

    Absolutely love the advice given in this episode. So true.

  • @jennboyermusic
    @jennboyermusic 5 років тому

    Not only was this an amazing video and SUPER useful to dealing with my stage fright, but the "I love you"'s at the end of the interview literally made me "awwwww" out loud.

  • @LovedHappy
    @LovedHappy 8 років тому +16

    This is so simple but so profound and empowering! What a powerful duo you two make 😘

    • @lizlopez1745
      @lizlopez1745 5 років тому

      Sooooo true, i agree you really have to change your mind set. I think that the reason you don't receive and practice this SIMPLE lesson (as it happened to me) is because if you are raised or come to realize or learn in the world (as I was) that you have to work hard to get anything in life and nothing comes easy, then in your mind set you dont believe nothing is easy and things in life are not that simple, however practicing this simple lesson first really empowers you more to take action confidently which causes you to overcome major hurdles and accomplish greater things and things don't look as hard as they once were😉Be blessed😊

  • @tiffanynapier6361
    @tiffanynapier6361 3 роки тому

    I’m New I love this video. My shyness And self doubt is making me feel like can I do it. I get tongue-tied And gets jumbled up . It doesn’t come out the way I want. I’m a call it sparks.

  • @AmySatori
    @AmySatori 11 років тому

    Marie, this is so BEAUTIFUL. I love it. What a fantastic gift you've given us here. Thank you for sharing this great shortcut to dis-attaching from fear. Love you guys!

  • @littleelfBC
    @littleelfBC 11 років тому

    I found you videos yesterday and I adore you...you make me feel so excited about life in general...

  • @ElenaLipson
    @ElenaLipson 11 років тому

    I love that tip...if you just FEEL the feeling it will move through in 7-10 seconds.

  • @ulsonn18
    @ulsonn18 8 років тому

    Thank you so much for this episode! Extremely priceless for me in this very moment! Sending love and gratitude to all of you that made it possible

  • @tammylombard
    @tammylombard 4 роки тому

    That helped a lot! Thanks to Josh! Thank you Marie.

  • @natalieaojvan
    @natalieaojvan 5 років тому

    I absolutely love love love this perspective and reframing of the emotions we feel! So many times these vibrations act as triggers where we spiral into the negative thought process of what we have experienced with this emotion before that it can seem out of control. But this approach brings back a sense of control and is such an amazing tool to reshape your relationship with your "negative" emotions into something more loving. SO AWESOME! so helpful, thank you guys so so much

  • @rifa502
    @rifa502 8 років тому

    Great talk, especialy the point just ride it instead of hide it. That was excactly what is was avoiding that people see my anxiety when speaking which made me just more anxious. I wil try to just ride it and be open about it.

  • @misspede
    @misspede 7 років тому

    I absolutely love this reframing!!!! Practiced it for anxiety and after reframing, I just felt sooooo calm!!!! :D

  • @DarkBlueNutrition
    @DarkBlueNutrition 7 років тому

    Preparing for a big presentation in grad school this week ❤ this helped so much! I struggle the most with fear of feeling "stupid" or "not good enough". I worry that people are judging me. When I reflect on it, it sounds so silly! But it feels so real in the moment.

  • @Fabieisthebest
    @Fabieisthebest 11 років тому

    He is amazing! Shyness is not bad :) He is a great balance for you!!!

  • @TheSerennaSpring
    @TheSerennaSpring 11 років тому

    Thank you Marie! Im one of those people that are fighting with shyness, I'll try for sure this advices

  • @ginarose3571
    @ginarose3571 11 років тому +1

    Thanks for posting! Never looked at my fear in this way. I'm gonna try to roll with the feelings next presentation :)

  • @semt9
    @semt9 11 років тому

    I love the little bits of affection seeping through the professional-ness :)

  • @Flamingobear
    @Flamingobear 6 років тому +2

    You guys are an adorable couple!

  • @denak1034
    @denak1034 4 роки тому

    Such great timing that this one came up. Going to be a presenter on webinar for first time this week & this helped to reframe nervousness to excitement!

    • @marieforleo
      @marieforleo  4 роки тому

      You'll do great, Dena! So glad this popped up at the right time for you. 😊-Team Forleo

  • @kennynguyen2318
    @kennynguyen2318 11 років тому

    Thank you Josh and Marie! Def a game changer! Feelin' all the love "vibrating" from you guys... :)

  • @Itsgorgejess
    @Itsgorgejess 11 років тому

    If this video wasn't inspirational enough.... The ending with you all dancing was the kicker!!! Thanks for sharing this tip! I'm thinking up a nick name for my emotion right now

  • @SaraKanwal28
    @SaraKanwal28 9 років тому

    Amazing! I have been stuck in this one. I had a real rough patch of time and during that period I had an interview to attend. First time ever in my life, I stuttered there in front of the whole panel and I was literally literally paralyzed in my chair Marie! I could not hear what next questions were asked, I could feel a loud buzzing in my ears. And since then I always have been stuttering during interviews (one of the biggest reasons of why I try to avoid them). But I am practicing this advice now (AT THIS MOMENT) and I am really feeling the "shiZAAM" effect :)

  • @DeniseOBerry
    @DeniseOBerry 11 років тому

    Amazing ideas. Thank you for sharing Josh with us. There is so much energy between the two of you. You bring the world good things.

  • @fotofemme1
    @fotofemme1 11 років тому

    Never thought of things that way. Public speaking is a necessity - might as well face it and call it by name! You might just like it - I know I did once I overcame it!

  • @manishagupta7593
    @manishagupta7593 5 років тому

    This video gives great solution, overcome the feeling of shyness.

  • @biggernadz
    @biggernadz 11 років тому

    This theory needs more attention.. It is powerful for anxiety and fear

  • @kimiuse
    @kimiuse 10 років тому +11

    i want to try to consider the vidration of shyness as buzz to push me forward. i'm gonna nickname it Buzzy! :-)

  • @adiroxstr
    @adiroxstr 7 років тому

    I've ALWAYS had this feeling of fear and shyness, My father always tried pushing it out of me, but I wasn't able to overcome it in my youth and early 20's. It isn't until now that I'm 30 that I find myself becoming more and more fearless and less shy! I assume this comes with growth and age...but I feel like that feeling affected me and my opportunities. I do like the steps explained here because there are times that I get hit with these emotions and it just shuts me down completely. Thanks for another great video, I'll call my shyness and fear: Googly & Googly (this reminded me of a part in one of my favorite movies called The Fall)

  • @hectorsmith1308
    @hectorsmith1308 10 років тому

    Awsome! The most helpful words of wisdom I ever heard besides the scriptures! Love you both!

  • @sharkypowerr
    @sharkypowerr 9 років тому

    thank you so much! I have been struggling with this for years..

  • @staceem
    @staceem 8 років тому +4

    What a wonderful, wonderful video. Thank you Maire and Josh! I agree 1000% with what Josh said, and I love the way he explained it. I've learned over the years that if I just let that intense energy flow and don't try to block it (calm myself down) - but just feel it flowing through me, I feel 100% better and can focus on what I want to say or do clearly.

  • @jogaserca
    @jogaserca 11 років тому

    Fantastic. Thank you Marie, you're both amazing!!

  • @dottiegrantcohen172
    @dottiegrantcohen172 11 років тому

    Great video! Thank you Josh and Marie! I get nervous and talk too fast. It feels like the atoms in my body are playing keep away and running amok in my body. I think I'll call it my Atomic Buzz!

  • @kgstiles
    @kgstiles 11 років тому

    Beautfiul discussion about embodiment of the truth. Thank you!

  • @alami6758
    @alami6758 8 років тому +6

    I struggle most with anxiety, fear when I speak in front of people my hands are shakeing extremely I fell tightness of the chest and in my throat. I'm going to call it gone with the wind.

  • @LydiaTheLadybug
    @LydiaTheLadybug 11 років тому

    This is brilliant. My favorite episode of marieTV so far! :)

  • @MeelisMatt
    @MeelisMatt 5 років тому

    Good content!! im thankful for everything you give Marie!

  • @BrendanrBrownify
    @BrendanrBrownify 11 років тому

    This video came at a great time! Been giving a lot more workshops as of late.

  • @tspacefullstop4161
    @tspacefullstop4161 10 років тому

    I loved seeing the two of you together..Big love.
    I feel a fuzzy sensation in my throat and my body seems to shrink, when I speak out, share my opinion. I want to to shout just to be heard but I know that if I do that, then people will look at me and then I will crumble and stutter and stop speaking.

  • @Charlotte_5612
    @Charlotte_5612 11 років тому +1

    Such great advice! Thank you for sharing

  • @cindyrodriguez1594
    @cindyrodriguez1594 5 років тому

    Thank you Marie !! This was really helpful! Love this

  • @Happy_Stuff
    @Happy_Stuff 10 років тому

    Love this... Thank you MAMA MARIE XOXO You Rock!

  • @lesalgado1
    @lesalgado1 7 років тому +2

    So Josh, how's it like to win the lottery? Great job folks, thanks for providing actionable insights!

  • @GabrielleDtmTV
    @GabrielleDtmTV 11 років тому

    Thank you so much to both of you!! Josh, you have to write a book on that subject, would be fantastic and so helpful :)

  • @VeggieMagnifique
    @VeggieMagnifique 7 років тому

    These tips are genius! Thanks Josh and Marie - a power couple if ever I saw one

  • @TheExMuslima
    @TheExMuslima 10 років тому +3

    What you resist, persists. :)

  • @shantishaharazade9463
    @shantishaharazade9463 11 років тому

    Wow amazing concepts! Über grateful! Paying this forward!!! Namaste!

  • @michaelgilbert6779
    @michaelgilbert6779 10 років тому

    This one may sound a bit weird. When trying to make a video for my coaching business, find it very difficult to focus, talk about coaching and my program. Yet I truly feel it is a great program and will be very successful, and the people who have had some coaching very much agree. It seems like my nervousness is more in being a success then my video and coaching not working out. And this is what would like to learn to ride the vibration of.

  • @EllenAllard
    @EllenAllard 11 років тому

    Great video. Lots of valuable info (3 great tips) to share with clients. Thanks!

  • @RosePetal17
    @RosePetal17 9 років тому

    This is such amazing insight!!! Thank You Josh and Maria!

  • @katiehorrell3589
    @katiehorrell3589 8 років тому

    This is amazing! I just discovered your videos and they are everything to me right now ❤️

    • @LovedHappy
      @LovedHappy 8 років тому +2

      Katie Horrell sameeee💕💕💕💕💕 I am eating them all up!

    • @katiehorrell3589
      @katiehorrell3589 8 років тому

      So great to have such a wonderful resource :)

  • @VitoriaFCastro
    @VitoriaFCastro 11 років тому

    AWESOME and amazing info as always mari! I shake my behind of and my stomach hurts badly!

  • @smooth235
    @smooth235 11 років тому

    Great stuff guys. Simple yet effective advise.

  • @Freedomheart888
    @Freedomheart888 9 років тому

    So great! Thank you much!!

  • @roshanrahealer
    @roshanrahealer 2 роки тому

    I love this video! :) A little late, but whatevs. :)
    Riding through the emotion is great! I do my best writing and art after I've processed an emotion, as the weight lifts and I feel freer.
    I struggle with a lot of emotions. They send me messages. The depression is like sulfur springs, where the scent pulls down the joy of the moment, into the sulfur springs of my gut. Anxiety is like uranium, which causes the split in my mind and compartmentalizes memories until they're ready to explode from me. Fear links with anxiety, and becomes neon, sending my cognition out the door so the hyperactive side of me appears manic because of the identity confusions. Anger is like the oxygen and silicon in volcanos. It remains dormant until I explode, just like the memories explode. The way I ride the emotions is through my multi-character writing, singing, researching, and practicing new skills. Like the video on perfectionism that I've been struggling to do because of perfectionism. So, researching psychological skills to enhance my me-ness is another atom, necessary for life. Curiosity is carbon. The building block of life.
    (I took atoms seriously. lol)

  • @smd81404
    @smd81404 11 років тому

    This is the best video you've ever done! Awesome information. xo