I had a small gender reveal for my pregnancy. I cried from joy when I found out I was having a daughter. I'm so glad I have that memory. People trying to make it about genitals is perverse.
I didn't really understand your comment until that tiktok came on. What I can't fathom is how these people would prefer to teach their children that they're just one big question mark. Their own parent's can't figure out what they are for them. What children need is security and a strong base. I feel like these people are going to take pride in the fact that their children started soul searching before they were potty trained. What all these people have in common is narcism, everything revolves about them .
@Percilott There used to be stricter rules. You used to be required to go through years of therapy and living as the gender you identify with before receiving hormones or surgeries. As the years have gone on from 20-30 years ago, those requirements have been removed because people didn't want to wait or examine why they identify the way they do or feel they identify the way they do.
Actually, I don’t understand why genitals are so wrong in this context. Maybe it’s because I’m a doctor? Because genitals are very important in a newborn physical exam, an abnormal looking penis/vagina can be a sign of a systemic congenital anomaly. Or otherwise, it might impact the baby’s urinary function. So yes, genitals are important to babies, and I think people who are apparently conflating it with sexual stuff are disgusting.
@@ninalempicka2948 if you don’t believe blaire is a woman why do you even watch her??? obviously she isn’t a biological woman but it makes no sense to even call her he, she doesn’t look like a guy at all. apply this to real world situations, people are gonna be confused as fuck if you started calling someone who looks female “he”
“I don’t care what they [nephew/niece] call me, all I care is that I’m in their life and they love me” That’s true family love and support right there, all around with everyone. I’m glad you have that in your life!
There was a time the LGBT community detested labels, now they want to label EVERYTHING. And anything that is slightly different, needs their own label.
I’ve seen a feminine guy and a masculine girl couple on TikTok call themselves LGBT because they don’t act typically for their gender, they’re literally just straight lmao
It’s like the flag one flag for all no one left out now the flags been split up everyone has their own it’s heartbreaking we were all one unit but now divided thanks to fucking idiots like shown here
Can someone explain to me, whyyyyyyy do all these non-binary people ALL HAVE ATTITUDE PROBLEMS??? They ALWAYS try to force people to change how they speak. And when you don't change, they try to make you out as a bigot. Whyyyyyyy do they always have such big stuck-up mouths about their identities? Whyyyyyyy do they always act so up their own backsides like everything they say is just the word of God, so you better don't disagree. What's wrong with them? When gay was new, gays never had any of this attitude problem. They were just campaigning for rights. No more than that
LOL If they didn't have this no one would notice them. These people need attention much. Seriously a generation of people who won't grow up. They think that people should be subject to there rules. I don't scratch my head unless it itches i don't grab my stomach if i'm not hungry . I am not going to be intimidated.
This modern woke culture has really ruinined my preception of trans people. But I found you and I just cannot describe the amount of respect I felt for you.
Agreed. With all these cringey woke people I honestly turned off against a few movements. Mainly cuz they harm the cause their fighting for than do actual good.
Those are just the people in the community that yell the loudest. I know a few Trans people who honestly just want to live their life in peace and hope to pass for the gender they identify with, but definitely don't want to call attention to themselves.
@@nekomimi5861 non-binary aren't trans they don't transition! They want to feel like they are special for dying their hair and getting face piercings no participation trophies for you in life babies
The funny thing is that most of these people are hypocrites. They talk about how they don't want labels but ends up labelling every single sexuality, gender, feelings. They are putting themselves in a box.
It blows my mind how much people are willing and expecting to be labeled and put into specific categories nowadays. Growing up, I remember my generation, gen xer here, not wanting to be labeled or shoved into boxes. Now people want to be shoved into a box?
@@NotAdultingToday As an early Millennial (born in 1980), I completely agree with everything in your statement. (Please don’t tell my Gen Z daughter though, she would crucify me for this, or even for commenting on one of Blair’s ”complicated” UA-cam videos!😂)
"Uncle." That's putting your family first without even giving it a second thought. I bet your nieces and nephews give you lots of kisses and cuddles and love. Because that's what loving others brings. More power to you, Blaire.
It's just gonna confuse them when they get older. Idk why she doesn't gently correct them now while they're still young and have flexible minds. Little kids don't give a shit.
@@ross3015 As long as those kids are healthy, happy, well-adjusted members of society full of love for others, I'm good. I see no problem. I haven't taken a single step in Blaire's shoes, so I dare not presume how she should interact with her nieces and nephews.
@@time4jesus Agreed. Blaire is clearly a sensible, based person - AND I suspect she discussed how to approach this issue with the kids parents. I'd 100% trust her to act with tact and integrity. Some people just have to fault find, no matter what.
Imagine if all these people who spend so much time learning about new gender identities and pronouns that change and are added to daily, actually used that effort to learn something useful and productive 🤷♀️
So true, or used that time or energy to empower themselves to feel more confident from within and to come to terms with their place in the world in order to begin pursuing their goals.... Seems they are seeking to belong to “something”, as opposed to just being comfortable within their self. It may be more productive to channel that into just being who they are, without labels or rules to being accepted, or the desire to belong to something outside of themselves. But then again, maybe that’s just thinking about it in an overly simplistic way, and perhaps the issue or root of the problem goes deeper and is actually an affliction imposed by our parents or society as a whole and the design on which our social structure has been built....
Or just learn about themselves in a real way. They have no idea who they are actually. They’re all on a bandwagon and it’s desperately sad. They’re wasting their best years and will truly regret it in ten years. A wasted generation. This is exactly why parents need to parent and not indulge every whim your children have. Children need to learn what disappointment feels like and how to overcome it. They need to learn it’s more than ok to be just like everyone else. You find your happiness within yourself, not from faceless likes and shares on a screen. It is really depressing to think about. So glad I grew up before all of this.
It's sad because most of the people doing this have great potential for intelligence in other ways, yet they choose this route deemed by the internet. They have the capacity but not the direction. This is why it's important for parent to guide their children to learn in ways they are interested in before this happens. So much potential being lost because they have no direction other than things like tiktok.
Identity is a part of the ego. The more Self-absorbed you are the more you're going to care about what people think of you and how people interact with you. It's egotistical to think that everyone that comes into contact with you needs to adjust their vocabulary for an interaction with someone. Do you know how many times as a gay man I've heard ma'am in the drive thru or on the phone. I don't correct them, because it's not a big deal.
@@caitthecat yesss that's exactly what I've thought about this all too. If you have to define yourself so minisculy you are looking at gender roles or their perspective in what is feminine or masculine you are reinforcing those. Me and my husband had traits in each of us that could be by some culture or time masculine or feminine.
Okay, I HAVE to say this. I'm 50+ years old. As far as I know, I had never even met a trans person until about 7 years ago, and I didn't even know she was trans until she told me. I didn't even know what trans WAS until she told me. Now it seems everywhere I go there is trans politics, gender identity politics, non-binary, gender fluid, the list goes on, with new labels coming out every other day. If you people can't keep everything straight, how do you expect the rest of us to?!? I feel like my brain is imploding, melting and seeping out of my ears!!! If you look like a guy, sound like a guy, and act like a guy, my brain and my upbringing says 'guy' and that's what I call you. If you look like a girl, sound like a girl, and act like a girl, my brain and upbringing says 'girl' and the same applies. I don't believe in more than two genders. Science only sees 2 genders, male and female, except for certain species that are a-sexual, but that doesn't relate to homo-sapiens. I am a tough old 'tell it like I see it' B**** and I am not going to apologize for not erasing 50+ years of education and upbringing just to cater to the world's current hysteria.
@@313eve you are absolutely correct :). No one has attacked me, in THIS comment section. But believe me, I've been called everything under the sun in other places when I've made similar comments.
lady, i don’t like this gender nonsense either but how is your brain imploding and melting at neo genders lol i hope i don’t grow up to be that dumb when im older
@@naturalbornbabe I guess you don't understand metaphors. The fact that an ever-growing amount of the population are stupid enough to buy into this insane drivel blows my mind.
I remember about four years ago when I was working part-time at my community college, they had added a "gender neutral" bathroom in my building, which was around the time we started seeing people use all these different pronouns and stuff. When I asked my boss what she meant by "gender neutral", she told me that it was for people who identified as male, female, transgender, bisexual, etc. Then I realized that it was basically a unisex bathroom but with a different name 🤣
the entitlement to insist people remember you go by they/them, when most people use he and she based on a visual representation. its subconscious, no ones trying to insult you, you just dont occupy that much space in most peoples brains. i have a hard enough time remembering peoples names.
Not to mention the English-centrism. Lots of languages do not have a singular neutral term, and many others have a designated singular-neutral term. I bet in those languages, they would still come up with a new pronoun that they want people to use.
Exactly!! They are so obsessed with themselves they can't comprehend others not being even slightly interested in their lives. Like do whatever you want but don't expect me to know you go by moon frog princess as your gender 😐
Thank you!!! I’ve been saying this for some time now and it’s true. I’ve never heard of they/them till I got in my last college and god damn the times I mispronounced someone, I was getting eye rolled and pissed off looks from these bitches with a purple or green mullet. I can’t remember a name for the life of me, how am I suppose to remember what you go by when all I see is a born female with feminine features and tits standing before me.
@@ukallii Latinx grinds my gears. They try to implement thee gender neutral terms in LATIN LANGUAGES and it always pisses me off so much, people, why is it so important to you? Normal, functioning people don't get that upset when someone mistakes them for the opposite gender unless they're really insecure about themselves.
Most people who are non binary physically look like a woman/man which is ironically within the very binary they claim they dont relate to.vLike Demi Lovato who hasnt physically changed. No wonder people dont take it seriously.
Honestly, the misEHder person actually has the right idea. If people (especially strangers) don't automatically call you the exact way you want, just shrug and don't let it affect you.
Blaire’s light shines brightly! She’s beautiful, strong, independent, smart, intelligent, thoughtful, caring, and so much more. I think that bothers some people. Especially these days.
NO! NO! NO! Many people say I am sick in the head. NOOOO!!!! I don't believe them. But there are so many people commenting this stuff on my videos, that I have 1% doubt. So I have to ask you right now: Do you think I am sick in the head? Thanks for helping, my dear tra
@@santinocermelo7330 that person keeps commenting random, out-of-context things under many UA-camrs videos pretty sure they're a troll just ignore them lol
Im a straight 45yr old woman who’s been “accused” of being a homophobe/bigot. I ABSOLUTELY love your content! You’re leading the charge in getting “actual” trans folks to be taken seriously. Bc these crazy ass woke fakers are bringing “legitimate and true” trans folks down. Keep fighting the good fight! Peace and Love for all….!
Blaire is absolutely right, and these youngsters are super upset about that. Imagine being an “old” LGBT like the vast majority of us and having to put up with literal kids screeching about utter BS, when we just wanna live in peace. They’ve turned out community into a massive joke and it’s little wonder LGBT support has gone down for the first time in over a decade.
Reminds me of Dorian Corey in Paris is Burning. The paraphrase: If the only thing interesting about you is that you're gay, that's really sad and you need a hobby. You're in the gay community, everyone's gay. That's not special. Nowadays everyone wants an award for *just* being gay. Not gonna cut it.
i just want to say that i recently came out to my religious family & showing them channels/videos of people like blaire was so helpful. thank you for showing the world that not everyone within the lgbtq community thinks the same
Yes I hope Blare knows that not all trans people are against her haha. I don't agree with her 100% of the time (of course, I don't agree with anyone 100% of the time!) but I thought she made a lot of very reasonable points in this video, and I'm trans
Just wanted to shout you out, Alex. I am also a religious person in a religious family, and yeah, being out has led to some difficult conversations and situations, but it's worth it. It's not easy, but I'm honestly glad that my family is invested in being charitable, kind, forgiving and grateful because we are Christians. It makes a difficult situation easier. Best of luck on your journey, and God Bless!
It’s like people saying they are non-binary lesbian. Like, hello? If I am not mistaken, being lesbian is defined as a woman having attractions to other women.
@@kirinirlf yeahhh. i have some non-binary 'lesbian' friends. i have known them a long while and during the pandemic they cane out as enby. so..idk. i think the pandemic has made a lot of people confused.
This is my take on the baby gender reveal thing. At the time I found it I was pregnant I was still woke but becoming a bit weary of it. I had friends ask me if I was going to assign my baby a gender or if I was going to raise them gender neutral. I thought about it a lot and I realized. Raising your baby gender neutral is STILL assigning your baby a gender. It's just gender neutral. And I started realizing that if my baby grows up and identifies as the sex she was born as which but the bigger likelihood I would be stealing her chance at having a normal childhood AND her girlhood away from her. On the off chance that she did decide to be trans her life would not be over. We would still love and support them best we can but raising them in a very strange and unusual fashion that would make them the prime target for bullying on the very small chance of that happening wouldn't be doing them a service. It would be comparable to preemptively removing your child's appendix just in CASE they get appendicitis. Why would I do that to them? Lol.
I definitely don't like the way raising your kid "gender neutral" is perceived today. Like, of course, let your kid be a girl or a boy but in my opinion raising kids neutral is simply just treating boys and girls the same. Which should not be ground breaking lol. I grew up with a conservative baby boomer dad and even he got it. I had 1 younger brother close in age and we were always treated the same. We got whatever toys we wanted and since we were siblings they often had to be the same ones or someone would get mad lol. We both had to mow the lawn, fold laundry, same curfews, rules etc. We dressed up and played princesses and then we'd pay football outside. Both of us identify as our assigned sexes. I just don't like it when people try to force kids to be a certain way just because of their sex. I feel like trying to enforce gender rules on kids could confuse them into thinking they're trans when they're not.
It's not our job as parents to decide who our kids are gunna be. That's up to them. We are there to teach a value system and moral code. Right vs wrong. Basic courtesy and life skills. Their identity is 100% all them. Idc if my son decides to be gay, Trans or anything else as long as he still handles his shit in life. Safely. It's not my choice either way.
Im listening to these people and I don’t understand why they don’t just live their life and not be so obsessed with it. It’s this word salad and forcing it on people that is putting people off and it’s actually hurting the lbtq community more than it helps it
Because they can’t get constant attention by just living their lives. And when they are constantly confrontational, they get attention and get to be victims. It’s all bs.
Never be sorry about what you mean. Stand by what you say! Even if it's not true, that doesn't matter. To you it is true and that should be more than enough ^^
I think it's really sweet that Blair would still let her neices and nephews call her "uncle" and still keep them in her life. She knows one day they might have to adapt to call her "Auntie" but instead of being mad she just loves them
They call him uncle , because they know he is a man no matter what he has done to look otherwise. No one can change that. I can put feathers on a dog , but it won't make him a chicken will it .
Does it ever feel like they’re conflating gender with personality traits and just naming them as a gender. Becoming Pokémon so to speak to appear even more unique than they actually are. New ones every year.
Yes! 🙄 they’re so focused on feminine and masculine traits and correlating them to “genders”, completely ignore the fact that being feminine doesn’t make you female, and being masculine doesn’t make you male. You can have more feminine traits and be male and have more masculine traits and be female.
@@deathhwishh3072 you're only 13 yo. You don't know what you will feel at 20 or 30. I just hope that you didn't get surgery or invasive meds. You're still a child, it's normal for teenagers and tweens to be lost and to dislike their body/genre. I don't understand the urge of being trans at such a young age but hey, you do you and I wish you happiness and balance in your life
The reference to your nieces and nephews was very endearing and shows how much you love them. They will change when they are ready, and good on you for being a wonderful auntie
Not actual trans people calling a sane actual transwoman transphobic. Ah wow. Well, if they won't accept you, a ton of us people will and have. I just met someone like you recently and I'm so happy you both exist. I'd gladly use your pronouns, but that's because of respect, nothing to do with validation or you seeking attention. You and my friend give respect to my opinions, biology and position. So you get mine in return. Thank you for being you! ❤🥰
I really like Blaire White. Mostly because she understands how hard it must be for me as a person to understand what she is going through and is willing to have an adult conversation about it. Other trans people tend to act like petulant children when they don't get their way. Massive difference and definitely a good way to win the hearts and minds of others with her wonderful self.
thank you so much, like deeply thank you because not everyone is willing to see the trans community as yes a community with a shared experience, but not as a monolith........ we do not alll think the same, we dont all act the same, and the same things dont offend us......
the children and most of the young adults on tiktok need a reality check. they’re SOOOO sensitive it’s honestly such a real issue for the future generations i’m concerned
@@shrekxreader17 yeah but you also need to take some personal responsibility for your own emotions. You can’t force people to conform to your ideals, that’s tryanny in all reality lol. Grow a thicker skin. Yeah people are assholes, but like don’t let them effect you? Move on. When did people start giving a shit about what every single person thought about them? Who cares. If your not someone’s cup of tea… move on… find people that are your cup of tea and vice versa. Everyone’s different and entitled to their own beliefs and feelings, gives you zero right to force someone to change their beliefs to yours and take responsibility over YOUR FEELINGS.
I’m a straight 48 year old woman who loves your channel. I consider myself a kind person who wants the best for everyone but sometimes trans advocates make my head spin. I want to understand and be an ally but sometimes it’s hard when what they are saying makes no sense. Especially when it comes to kids. Thank you for being a voice of reason.
@@scarwars in Polish there's a word "samopoczucie" which literally means self-feel. It describes one's general well-being, mood, mental state at the moment. Google translate suggests: fettle, fig, frame of mind. IDK which one of those is the closest to the Polish term, if any. But that's what they're confusing with gender.
@@Sylkis89 'Frame of Mind' is by far the better fit ... Many, if not most, have a pretty solid grasp of their 'Frame of Mind' when it comes to whom they are, who they see themselves as being, and their understanding of what their sexuality is. But that still leaves, statistically speaking, enough room for people like me who, in my case, experienced such severe trauma in my childhood all the way through to my early adulthood, that any 'reference frame' I have of myself is not 100% affixed, and, in many aspects, the boundaries are really blurry. It is, then, easy to point to people like these, and either call them clowns, or so boring, they have to make something up to make themselves interesting, especially to themselves. But that leaves out a huge number of people that went through trauma, in their childhood, that any sense of that 'frame' feels like it's almost broken. And no, that trauma need not be always sexual in nature. Since my mum died nearly two years ago, the thing that I have had being ignoring the most is her rôle in the mental, emotional, and psychological neglect of my sister and I, that almost gave permission to allow my dad to do what he did, over years, because of the co-dependant relationship they had, and especially her narcissistic personality. Our mum did way more to ruin my sister and I than our dad could ever do ... Hence, my gut instinct says that these people aren't crazy, per-se, but, if you take an especially Jungian approach to their childhood, you may find, in each individual case, just enough that, at least, that 'frame of mind' is tilted, to being totally non-existent; they they try to compensate for that, but then over-compensate, in trying, as I have done for so long, to anchor myself to something solid rather than just sand ... I don't want to denigrate anyone, especially anyone whom when through a truly horrific childhood, but, again going with my gut instinct, the reason why so much of this has cropped up recently is due, in part, to mental health care being even lower in many places, including here in the UK, where there is already a crisis in public health ... So, in other words, what we are seeing is the possible result of enough of at least the last two generations, feeling utterly detached from themselves, but, without a kind of bedrock beneath them, with the combination of a lack of a decent anchor, and left to their own devices, they are simply to 'muddle through', thus creating a system of deeply troubled logic, which, for us looking outside-in, makes no sense, whatsoever, but, for those within, makes sense, abet due to the deeply flawed logic created ... I'm not saying pity them, but don't judge them too harshly, either ...
@@nigelft I'm very sorry you had to go through that trauma. In my opinion, the best way to go about the skewed or unsureness of the frame of mind is to NOT try to label yourself. Instead, just BE. Do what makes you happy and comfortable without feeling the need to attach anything to it. And if someone asks your gender/sexuality, just say that you're testing the waters. It's okay to not know who you are. I have no idea about certain aspects of myself because of my own traumas. It took my until I was 20 to solidly confirm I was a woman, which was great for me because now I feel more comfortable in expressing myself... Which is exactly why I give this advice, had I not tried to label myself, I would have been able to feel this level of comfort before without questioning everything about myself. I'm still not entirely sure of my sexuality, but now I try to shrug it off and just say that I love whoever I love and whether I feel sexual attraction towards them doesn't matter.
@@blairewhiteradicalextremis7765 right, I'm bi, I will fight u if u call me queer. I appear straight, I will fight u if u call me queer. I've been argued with by "pansexuals" how bisexuality isn't real and I'm just queer or pansexual. These psycho gate keepers.
Sometimes it's honestly hard for people to not accidentally let a wrong pronoun slip even if they respect you and your transition. Before you told them about your pronoun change, they have likely said "she" or "he" a thousand times and it takes a huge mental effort to shift something that ingrained into our unconscious thoughts
ok but not really bro, if you see a person every single day it's really not hard to make that little change. you might slip up a couple times, but if you care about someone, youll put effort into learning their pronouns regardless of your stance on pronouns/transgender people
@@jenson7645 okay, but you don't see most people you know every single day unless you are in high-school. And if your at a bar a little tipsy I've seen friends make a slip without meaning too and I don't hold that against them. It's all about context
I’m not being funny. But I call my son by his dad’s name. And vice versa. My son is ASD and pronouns are a literal nightmare for him. He does speech therapy and knows pronouns but for the LIFE of him, he mistakes them in sentences daily. Hourly. He calls me HE and his dad SHE. Bless him.
@@jenson7645 ok, but yes really bro. Your brain is literally programmed to acknowledge to recognize secondary sexual traits and to think of that sex. It's basically a part of how we are hardwired to read body language to gauge if people are aggressive or not, you read sex as part of that subconscious assessment. It is how we are built and how our forms of communication has always needed it to be.
Welcome to Texas!! I just discovered your videos and absolutely love you! I see myself as a mostly conservative, Christian, female American. I've been watching your videos and I see so much compassion and wanted to say hello to you. I truly hope you find your happiness here in Texas. Good luck in your new home and God bless you, Sweetheart. You give me hope that more people have love in their heart and will not judge others based on their appearance but what's in their heart. You obviously have a lot of love in your heart. Love you, Gorgeous!
You guys are a joke. God doesn’t condone transgender people no matter how conservative they pretend to be. Don’t call yourself a Christian if you get fooled so easily.
I would date a trans person if I was physically attracted to them, But the kinds of trans people that preach "you're transphobic if you don't date me" usually have a certain look....
Oh my god Blair before you said “I swear this pronoun shit is literally just a way to feel special.” That is exactly what I was thinking. I have no idea why so many of these people are obsessed with labeling themselves and then talking about their labels incessantly. No one cares.
Thank youuuu, god it’s so difficult to say that to gen z and I hate the fact I’m even in this generation. Snowflakes, attention seekers, everything above. They’re just wack.
I do notice cis ppl get pretty mad if you use the wrong pronoun as well.... Men usually take being a man pretty serious, and it's usually very important to women that they are women
I can imagine it quietly irked her a bit at first but now it’s a meh thing. We all have relatives who do things that occasionally irk us but we love them all the same.
I really think Blaire is not as big of an exception as people think. I have been around other trans women for ages, and the weirdos were few and far between. The dilemma of the transsexual is that they want to integrate into normal society, not stand apart from in in obvious, weird ways. This crop of oddballs is a very new phenomenon among trans people, but because we live in this spectacle-oriented culture, it is the human spectacles who get all the attention. Look at the person @7:42. That's not a person any more, that's an exploded makeup case.
@Maria I'm so sorry about that. That must have been such a terrible thing to deal with. I don't understand why trans people feel like they are so entitled to the point where they call anyone transphobic who simply isn't attracted to them.
I've encountered a lot of people that say the want to get rid of the American flag and replace it with the Pride flag at their work, for example.....I take much happiness in telling them "one of those flags very likely wouldn't exist without the other."
The person with the green hair at the end is "Noxtelli." On TikTok, he rants and raves against white people, gay people, men, America and capitalism. IRL, he is a Starbuck's barista.
That second one is literally saying the world revolves around her. If one person asked people to refer to them with different pronouns, it’d be easy to remember. With a ton of people demanding literally a million different pronouns, it’s hard to remember. Especially under the stress of fearing that they will lash out the first time you forget or make a mistake. Not that I care enough to make the effort for anyone who isn’t in my immediate circle anyway.
Yup these are the people that are going off on employees too. I was reported and yelled at by different clients that I accidentally misgendered bc I couldn't remember what each person went by. I eventually just left being a front desk receptionist. I'm from the south, manners are taught at a young age to say sir and ma'am.
@@shananoni My grandparents were from the south. They instilled into my parents who instilled into me about human decency and respect. I also say "Sir" and "ma'am" depending on what I see. It's incredibly rude to ask someone "What are you're pronouns" especially when 99% of people don't know what the hell you're talking about.
her example about the knowledge of the Earth being round instead of flat is also wrong lol, people took years and years to actually have a general consensus that the Earth wasn't flat after it was discovered
absolutely agree. I can't keep up with all these identities. im old! ill accept being gay and what have you. I won't keep up coz I don't care. there's more worse things in the world to care or worry about!
Want to really trigger them? Tell them the term Transgender was coined for transvestites and Transsexual deals with someone that actually medically transitions as opposed to just cross dressing. They really hate it when I refer to myself as a Transsexual.
The person saying “if people really care about you, they’re going to get your pronouns right.” YET they freak out when someone they JUST met doesn’t use their “preferred pronouns”. How am I supposed to know what you prefer? I just met you!!
The personal story about your niece and nephew actually touched me. I could hear how much you care about them. Being able to put your ego aside to focus on the growth and emotional well-being of the next generation is admirable. You're allowing them to be kids. To do whatever feels right and comfortable FOR THEM and not just you. Everything is not about pushing a political agenda. Some things are wayy deeper. I wish the pronoun police on tiktok understood that.
Kinda reminds me when ppl questioned Kendall and Kylie calling Caitlyn dad still. It wasn't their (the publics) business but kylie and caitlyn explained their reasoning and it was really sweet
my kids call me Dad, "This is my Dad, her name is Kate" - when I came out to them they were 7-12yrs old and I gave them a choice and respect their choice. I don't have issues with Tranny - its a word, I've been called it on the street and respond, "hey! thanks for noticing!" - funny, it deflates any negative impact intended. Love your videos and glad to see there is another person in the trans spectrum that doesn't follow the "expected" :)
Im cis, but my brother is trans. It was really hard to start calling him a he, not because I had some opinion about the change, its just hard to change my vocabulary when I literally came out the womb being told this is your big sister and this is her name. Years of reffering to someone a certain way takes a lot of effort to change, really it mostly changed when I met new people that I could introduce him as a he
@@realityslidersmandelaeffec6594 short for cisgender. Just means that you identify with the biological sex you were born with, whereas transgender people dont
@@realityslidersmandelaeffec6594 it is a term for people who do not have gender dysphoria. It's like coming up with a term for people who are not autistic or a term for people who are not schizophrenic
@@Publiksquare personally I don't find it weird to have a special word for it, especially when you are discussing trans issues. Saying "normal" can sound pretty rude, regardless if it's trans, autistic or schizophrenic people
What I love about the "Uncle" thing is that you love them so much and just accept that they are just kids and kids tend to be uncomplicated and it has nothing to do with respect or disrespect. You love them enough to keep it uncomplicated and that you all love each other is all that matters
Exactly. Some trans women are still called dad by their kids because that's what they are and have been. Accepting that is the graceful way to go about it. Forcing your kids to call you their mother when you are the male parent is taking away from the fact that these kids already have a mother, the person who gave birth to them.
My mom transitioned after i turned 18. It feels wrong to call her "he, him, dad", especially since i have reconnected with my actual dad, but didn't have one until i was 28. I call my mom "he, him" and by her new male name when I'm around her new family and people who don't need to know about the transition, but when talking to my friends, it's "mom, she, her". I don't make friends with the types of people who wouldn't accept and respect my mom being trans, and would certainly never bring them around her, but that's a personality type thing, not exclusive to accepting LGBT people.
'Uncle blaire' is like calling your teacher 'mom', it's a combo of mixed wires, being young, and being comfortable with saying the one word for maternal/paternal figure. Eventually you stop, but it's never meant to be mean or rude.
My ex wifes father had the full sex change op and she still called him dad…..She was the only one who was allowed to refer to her father as male. If anyone who knew him before he had the operation and became a woman, let slip with the male name they knew him by, it was an instant flip out/aggression towards them……I can totally understand why the old male name would slip out sometimes, especially if you’d know the person as a male for decades.
What you said about being an uncle to your nieces and nephews is so relatable. I’m the oldest of my siblings & the youngest still call me their brother because that’s how they first knew me. It’s never out of hate, or not accepting me.
What should be relatable that you were born as one sex and you cannot change this fact. Blair can't either, yet he think he is a woman. Being woman/man is a biolohical fact, not a custom which you and Blair van pick and wear.
I love how the nb dad guy gave Blaire a headache just for the next person to talk what's the difference between libra/whatever gender to give her even bigger headache 😂
Anything beyond the "T" in LGBT is just one big migraine for normal people, definitely one of the reasons that acceptance is going *down* for the first time in several years. I don't even get the Queer thing; four years ago, there were leftists that would have you arrested for using that word, but now it's an identity? What even...
That Libra chick was a space cadet! Just do your drugs, honey, but stay off the internet. That's like millennial drunk dialing. Don't do it. Just stay the F away from social network platforms when your brain isn't working right! You can think that shit but just keep it inside your swirling head. Don't try to sell it on line to the masses.
@@cielizzy8860 I feel like if there was an honest poll taken at this point whether or not to include the T it would probably be 50/50.. Considering it's not an orientation I personally feel like they shouldn't be included. Tbh neither should bisexuals only because if you're truly bisexual it's such a rare occurrence there's not enough of them. I wish the entire alphabet thing would disappear.
@@yumyumbumblebee Why? How are bisexuals too rare to count? Here in my country (Finland), more than the equivalent of the lgbt acronym, we use the phrase 'gender and sexual minorities' or 'rainbow folk' and I like it better. It doesn't specify individual identities and leaves room for more privacy.
Imagine trying to bully someone into being sexually attracted to specific genitals by saying they are hateful because they don’t feel the same as you. That’s being discriminatory! You can be sexually attracted to only opposite genitals or only same genitals and still be supportive to everyone!
@@Patrick3183 ofc they are, but that doesn’t change the fact that most gay people want a guy with a dick. If you think otherwise you obliviously have never been on dating apps.
The weakest argument I’ve ever heard is trying to blame someone else’s “ignorance” for the reason why you won’t **can’t** win them over to your side with logical and concise evidence to support your claim or stance.
I find that a lot of the time, stubborn people refuse to even acknowledge the other person’s opinion and POV because of their huge pride and ego, so they’re not entirely wrong.
I don’t understand how anyone can not like Blaire? It’s thoroughly confusing and I don’t get it. I discovered Blaire only a couple of months ago and I adore her. She is so level headed and logical!! Logic is what this whole society is missing and I guess that answers my initial point of people not liking her. I feel comforted by Blaire honestly in so many ways. She fights for kids rights, basic human rights, goes against the psycho bullshjt that is actually evil and dividing and I am all for it. You are amazing girl
What you said about seeking validation from others was perfect. I am a part of the LGBT(G) and I am truly embarrassed when I hear people trying to find a way in because it is now trendy. It just screams ''I'm not like other girls''
I miss the days of middle school when a lot of girls were talking about how they were bi, but now they are claiming they are not just bi but, pansexual, trans, non binary, etc everything under the sun!
I know someone in discord who definitely use lgbt umbrella as their whole personality. 13yrs old pansexual bigender polyamory Like ok???? No need to freaking mention that every time like god you really have no other topic huh
@@graveraider1029 they could write a thesis on what they want to be called these days. I see most of the tiktok NBs as the wierd kids in school that sat at the back of the oval trying to do anime moves and running like naruto haha
Wow what a solid point that I never thought of. There are people in this video that think it is ok to bully a straight person into dating a transgender person but yet they used to complain about felling bullied into dating the sex they did not want to be with.
@@NekoBoyOfficial Yup they'll even shout people down saying "they don't know themselves". Like homie clothing ISN'T gendered anybody can put on anything that doesn't mean they are that. That's something y'all said. Yet these days they ignore the very things they said because "its not like that now" one year later and they're walking back their own logic. When it seems like they're getting lifestyles confused with genders again...
I'll give the "misEHndering" girl some credit. People are way too quick to get pissed and call you a bigot when you dare to accidentally use a term that you subconsciously register but that they don't like. I appreciate that she can just take it which is much more than you can say about most people who call themselves non-binary
Thats exactly what I was thinking. I love Blaire White. She's a beautiful , funny and great person. Many People who hate or dislike Blaire White because of jealousy and being triggered because she calls them out on their nonsense.
We used to call girls with masculine interests "tomboys." The feminine-male counterparts were sometimes referred to as "femboys." That's it; that's literally all there is. What's wrong with that?!
Yeah! And people who fell between were called "androgynous". There's nothing wrong with not being 100% a manic pixie dream girl or an alpha male (I'd actually consider both of those extremes to often be bad but that's a different conversation)
Right, for me personally I'm not offended by being misgendered on accident, especially if someone is using sir or ma'am, they just trying to be respectful 99.8% of the time, and are even embarrassed when they realize they got it wrong, I've been apologized to numerous times, not out of demand, but because they are genuinely didn't mean any offense. Of course when I was really young, I was embarrassed a few times, but then i started to notice the sincerity and realized they were just as embarrassed. And a pronoun is not who I am.
Blaire, you touched my heart in a way that rarely does. You touched on such an important point when you spoke about your nieces and nephews that I stopped what I was doing and really payed attention. It not only shows how sometimes mispronouning people isn’t always out of malicious intent but also shows how STRONG and simply down to earth you are, being able to remove yourself and your own struggles (because I’m sure it took something from you to be able to hear uncle) and simply be, love and enjoy. Wow sis, you inspire 🎉
I feel you Blaire. Even though as a feminist and think female bodied folks are too often taught and expected to just endure disrespect, I don't have the heart to tell my kids not to call me mom. They know I'm genderqueer and philosophically opposed to gender roles and the binary but they are allowed to call me whatever they want. So is everyone. If a new acquaintance were to ask me about my pronouns, then I will say they/them (no weird stuff) but it doesn't really matter. A word can't take away someone's identity.
Because you are a secure person, sure of what you are. These people on tik tok are trying desperately to affirm themselves through external validation. They need therapy and introspection to figure out themselves. Not constantly yelling at people over a pronoun
I get pronouns wrong all the time when the person doesn’t exactly present as the gender they wish to be identified as. It’s human nature and the way the human brain works. Female presentation = I will likely say she/her. I do not EVER do it in a malicious way but even if someone identifies as they/them I will slip up and use the pronouns that correspond with their typical gender presentation, or what we’ve been conditioned to see as a specific gender’s presentation. I don’t ever mean harm or malice, and I will correct myself once I realise, but sometimes people can be extremely hateful even once I apologise and explain my slip-up, other times people understand and we move on and I try my very best to remember how they want to be addressed, but yeah, some people have had reactions towards me that were genuinely so verbally aggressive and mean.
@@Noirkurls honestly if someone calls me transphobic it doesn’t hurt me either, because I know I’m not. I’m just a human like everyone else and pronouns can be confusing af 🤷🏼♀️ Blaire just says what everyone else (with more than 2 braincells) is thinking hahah
The kind of people that shame you for not wanting to have sex with them just because you’re not attracted to a certain genital sound like they only care about sex than an actual romantic relationship. If I’m telling you I’m a 100% okay with dating you, just not being intimate suddenly makes me transphobic, then honey you were never looking for an actual relationship in the first place. I’m bi so I have no problem dating a trans person or being intimate with them but even I understand how frustrating it must be for people who do.
Whatever happened to "my body my choice"? I guess it only applies to abortion or when a woman says no to a man and not when a trans person is trying to get with someone lol
@@deathlight4210 I’m talking about the “not dating a trans makes you transphobic” comments. Besides that still applies to sexual relationships, you can be attracted to trans but wouldn’t necessarily want to fuck them
I think it’s strange how self obsessed people are with how they are perceived. Good luck to anyone on their personal self discovery, however I’ve just never assumed the general population were that interested in how I view or categorise myself.
This is a teenager developmental phase, but I'm not sure about the adults who seem to still be stuck in that stage of self-discovering... I sort of wish something more interesting came their way, they seem bored.
True. OMG…the one who said people not being able to remember to use preferred specific pronouns…is equal to remembering how we view the WHOLE PLANET we live on (round vs flat). As though “they” are that much of a thought in ANY stranger’s head…ffs.
@@tarantulady8565 > That was a terrible argument, there are countless people who believe the Earth is flat and it’s all a conspiracy, they *refuse* to believe the Earth is a globe even though there are ressources and tutorials to check for yourself available for free online. People believe what they want to believe, why would you use flat-Earth to support your argument people are openminded and accepting of change lol
The ‘libra gender’ confuses me, mostly because Mercury is a gender neutral planet and Libra is ruled by the highly feminine Venus. What they should have gone for, if they insist on adding to their LGBTQ+ dictionary, is ‘Gemini gender’ 🤷🏻♀️
Bih I don’t know shit about signs 😂 I’m a Libra and that’s all I know cuz I was born on October 9, 1997. I don’t know about moon sign, sun sign, ass sign, tits signs, none of that. But I’m glad to know that I’m highly feminine even though I’m androgynous 😆 I love all things feminine and masculine too.
It is worse that they want to push it in schools to 1st graders. Give them time to learn to walk for crying out loud. They don't need to be sexualized ahead of time.
Blaire is one of the few individuals in the modern LGBT community I respect. Most of them allowed their ideas of equality and self love (which they have) and have taken it to the point of denying reality to be “happy.”
My 7 year old nephew has straight hair all the way down to his thighs and looks very much like his mother, very feminine. Anytime someone sees him someone always says "omg she's so cute and pretty!!" And he always has to correct them. The fact that our brains are naturally inclined to notice a feminine or female appearance is NOT OUR FAULT AS HUMAN BEINGS. if you LOOK male or LOOK female you cannot expect us to just automatically note your pronouns every single time we look at your or even think about you. Referring to the they/them at minute 4:00. I am so tired of people getting so butt hurt over pronouns like there are more important things in the world. Like we get it, do you but please stop berating people JUST because they miss label you. You cant force someone to do something. Accept what you get from them and just let the other shit roll off like everyone else in the world has to do.
blaire is genuinely trying to help these people understand how the world works imo, idk why so many people don't see that! i've been subbed for over 5 years and i really appreciate how she addresses these topics.
Someone on BuzzFeed even went as far as to say she “caters to the conservatives”. How about these are her actual views and there’s people who can’t handle them? I find her brilliant
6:16 that reminds, i watched this TikTok of this lesbian couple and the one recording said “this is my GIRLfriend” but continued with they/them pronouns and explained them as a non-binary, but that doesn’t make sense because the person recording said “girlfriend” idk i was confused lol
I've never seen anyone in trans community that is this self aware, I hope she never stops speaking her truth because it makes HUGE sense! I love the fact that instead of separating herself from people, she sees the reality as it is from outside the Lgbtq+ bubble.
@@nicoyclips9377 Because it's called not being a dick. Blaire may be genetically male, but due to dyshoria, she transitioned and took on the morphology and social role of being a woman to the best of her ability. It's easier on her mind and for society. It's very obvious, based on how she looks and acts, that she wants to be addressed as such. My god, its not that hard.
I have a younger sister who is saying she is trans and nonbinary. She got it from tiktok dude. That and a bunch of self diagnosed mental problems. Autism, depression, gender dysphoria, etc. I love her to death. She's just young and doesnt feel important unless she is "suffering" with something. It's a really sad phenomenon. I feel so sorry for these people who are obviously lost.
It is a phenomenon!! We should be really talking more about this but when we do is always meet with ‘people have always been that way, they were just imprisoned by society before’ and I really don’t think is that simple.. My aunt is a teacher and said things are drastically changing since 2014-ish (wich I _guess_ was the time social media was quite stablished/integrated in our society duo to being on the palm of our hands). She and all her colleagues say they barely have any kids who aren’t fluid in their class anymore. And that girls constantly say that they would ‘love to be straight’ but don’t want to risk being with a toxic man wich most are (these are 12 year olds max btw), so they rather be with each other (wich is something my young cousin also said to me once even though she thinks is a bit ‘disgusting’) And that the guys started to pick on that apparently and follow trends to be noticed, like paint their nails, listen to kpop, talk how open minded they are, and do whatever to show the girls they aren’t ‘toxic’ to gain attention from them.. and that suddenly most were behaving like that too and the ones that don’t are usually very silent, grumpy and sad..
It’s the same as in the early 2000s and 1990s when everyone was trying to put everyone else in some sort of archetype aka jock, nerd, geek, ditzy cheerleader, etc. It’s basically kids trying to make up identities cause they like to play around with who/what people are cause they absolutely have no clue about themselves. These names give kids a fun sense of identity/personality substitution to make them feel like they are a person. A lot of kids think they must fit in to a certain group otherwise they just don’t have an identity but usually by the time of college learn that life is way more complex than these shallow labels can ever hope to be. Only difference between then and now is that they’re misusing and misunderstanding psychological treatment to an absurd extent. Often these kids believe they’re hyper self aware and that humans can’t trick themselves into believing certain things like they have been doing to themselves. A lot of these kids you can see saying things like “your feelings are valid and therefore you are right.” It’s sad cause unlike in the 90s and early 2000s these kids tend not to “grow out” of their label because they’ve attached it to psychology and politics. So now we are seeing a huge amount of perma children and kids who are unfit for the basics of adulthood and it’s obviously not even their fault.
As I have gotten older I've cared less about pronouns. I never was that big in it anyway. To me I remember a saying "let it roll off like water on a ducks back." It does not mean it can't bother you or that you have to ignore it. Just have to remember that you can honor the feeling and still let it go. Buddhism is very good about recognizing thoughts, accepting them, and letting them pass. Hope this helps.
The entire situation is akin to someone wearing a shirt labeling everything that "triggers" then acting surprised people troll them. If you don't feed the troll he goes on to the next person as their is no incentive to push your buttons.
@@Cerberus984 very much so but I'm mouthy so sometimes I talk back but I'm aware of what I say. I'm not looking to give someone a reason to beat my ass.
My rule was always "whatever you see me as, call me" so if I spoke and dressed properly, people always defaulted to she. Just how it is in my life smile. I don't want to over exaggerate it, it's just a word.
Omg same! People literally are more upset than I am sometimes when someone refers to me as she instead of he. Like bruh, I don’t even care wtf are you going for?
It's like saying a straight person not wanting to date a gay person is homopfobic, and vise versa, imagine a homosexual being called heterophobic for not wanting to date straights.
It’s always felt weird to me that people are so concerned about how other people, even strangers, refer to them. I won’t waste time in my day trying to control how someone sees me, thats not possible & slightly controlling
somebody mistaking you for a different gender when they know what you identify with; is rude and disrespectful. if you can’t get that in your brain then you must get yourself fixed. like asap. that’s the most simplest thing to understand.
This video makes me so happy that my transgender husband isn’t weird for lack of better terms… and just wants to be seen as a male and he doesn’t feel the need to put emphasis on the fact that he is trans I think that would drive me crazy I’m so glad there are level headed people like you Blaire
Trans people who are not fortunate enough to be as passable as Blaire, have to deal with crap everyday, that's usually why they talk about it so much because they have to defend their gender every day, I'd say they'd LOVE to be as passable as Blaire, and be seen as women by EVERYONE, they'd probably never talk about it... But cis ppl talk about being cis too constantly, you just don't notice it b/c it's the norm
@@jonnaking3054 Blaire has also done A LOT of work over many years at great cost of both time & money to be as passable as she is- even her speech patterns & body language have been adapted. There's many people on social media claiming to be trans without having done more than the barest attempt at passing, if that. Don't be mad at Blaire because she's worked hard enough to actually be successful.
I feel like remembering pronouns is like when a friend changes their name. My brain naturally wants to call them by the name I’ve always known, but of course I make an effort to call them by what they want to be called. I might slip, but then I’ll correct myself. It just takes time.
For me my parents didn’t call me every nickname I came up with as a kid that I wanted to be called, they picked my name with strong intention and that’s what they called me by. After I used to be more into feminism and liberalism but I’m now more Republican and conservative, I have the same attitude I just call people by their names unless I feel like giving them a nickname but you just can’t pick your own nicknames that’s how I personally feel
Blair is a great example of a Trans person that is centered/grounded. Others hate her because they aren’t. That’s it. Nothing more.
interesting how she even appears normal (doesn't have colored hair, piercings or clown like makeup like all the people with extreme thoughts do)
@@EmilyPorter Leave me and my weirdly-coloured hair alone! 😭
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He is a man
Biological male why are you calling him a female
And because Blair is drop dead gorgeous and a lovely person.
She's beautiful, funny and so grounded!
I had a small gender reveal for my pregnancy. I cried from joy when I found out I was having a daughter. I'm so glad I have that memory. People trying to make it about genitals is perverse.
I didn't really understand your comment until that tiktok came on. What I can't fathom is how these people would prefer to teach their children that they're just one big question mark. Their own parent's can't figure out what they are for them. What children need is security and a strong base. I feel like these people are going to take pride in the fact that their children started soul searching before they were potty trained. What all these people have in common is narcism, everything revolves about them .
That's so weird too the gender is obviously only one 🤦
@Percilott yeah theirs a new law in Florida so that teachers can't interfere with these things bc it is none of their buisness
@Percilott There used to be stricter rules. You used to be required to go through years of therapy and living as the gender you identify with before receiving hormones or surgeries. As the years have gone on from 20-30 years ago, those requirements have been removed because people didn't want to wait or examine why they identify the way they do or feel they identify the way they do.
Actually, I don’t understand why genitals are so wrong in this context. Maybe it’s because I’m a doctor? Because genitals are very important in a newborn physical exam, an abnormal looking penis/vagina can be a sign of a systemic congenital anomaly. Or otherwise, it might impact the baby’s urinary function. So yes, genitals are important to babies, and I think people who are apparently conflating it with sexual stuff are disgusting.
I love how that person felt that coming out as nonbinary is as significant to humanity as finding out the earth is round.
Exactly . Off-the-charts narcissism
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Blaire is so lovely for not giving her nieces and nephew a hard time over them calling her uncle. She is such a sweet lady.
Lol that’s a whole dude. Of course he’s not gonna force children into calling him something he’s not.
@@ninalempicka2948 if you don’t believe blaire is a woman why do you even watch her??? obviously she isn’t a biological woman but it makes no sense to even call her he, she doesn’t look like a guy at all. apply this to real world situations, people are gonna be confused as fuck if you started calling someone who looks female “he”
@@ninalempicka2948 it’s not a dude tho…
@@tylerxxc1783 he has a whole wee-wee. it's a dude.
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*She
“I don’t care what they [nephew/niece] call me, all I care is that I’m in their life and they love me”
That’s true family love and support right there, all around with everyone. I’m glad you have that in your life!
These people really be like "gender reveal parties are sO wEiRd" as if they're not throwing a constant gender reveal party for THEMSELVES... Okay.
yep I can't believe that person kept pushing their genitals in my face, disgusting
@@antzooma oh sweetie, we don't give a dam
@@DEPORT_nonWhites_or_KILL_them oh dear
@@DEPORT_nonWhites_or_KILL_them ooh someone is triggered
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There was a time the LGBT community detested labels, now they want to label EVERYTHING. And anything that is slightly different, needs their own label.
Well except for straight 😂
I’ve seen a feminine guy and a masculine girl couple on TikTok call themselves LGBT because they don’t act typically for their gender, they’re literally just straight lmao
Pansexual vs Bisexual..
It’s like the flag one flag for all no one left out now the flags been split up everyone has their own it’s heartbreaking we were all one unit but now divided thanks to fucking idiots like shown here
Can someone explain to me, whyyyyyyy do all these non-binary people ALL HAVE ATTITUDE PROBLEMS??? They ALWAYS try to force people to change how they speak. And when you don't change, they try to make you out as a bigot.
Whyyyyyyy do they always have such big stuck-up mouths about their identities? Whyyyyyyy do they always act so up their own backsides like everything they say is just the word of God, so you better don't disagree. What's wrong with them?
When gay was new, gays never had any of this attitude problem. They were just campaigning for rights. No more than that
"It's literally a way for people to feel special."
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LOL If they didn't have this no one would notice them. These people need attention much. Seriously a generation of people who won't grow up. They think that people should be subject to there rules. I don't scratch my head unless it itches i don't grab my stomach if i'm not hungry . I am not going to be intimidated.
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This modern woke culture has really ruinined my preception of trans people. But I found you and I just cannot describe the amount of respect I felt for you.
Agreed. With all these cringey woke people I honestly turned off against a few movements. Mainly cuz they harm the cause their fighting for than do actual good.
Those are just the people in the community that yell the loudest. I know a few Trans people who honestly just want to live their life in peace and hope to pass for the gender they identify with, but definitely don't want to call attention to themselves.
These guys arw making people hate lgbtq community lol… good way to go
I agree. The more I watch the news, the more polarized I can feel myself becoming, so I like to watch moderate politics to clear my head.
@@nekomimi5861 non-binary aren't trans they don't transition! They want to feel like they are special for dying their hair and getting face piercings no participation trophies for you in life babies
The funny thing is that most of these people are hypocrites. They talk about how they don't want labels but ends up labelling every single sexuality, gender, feelings. They are putting themselves in a box.
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It blows my mind how much people are willing and expecting to be labeled and put into specific categories nowadays. Growing up, I remember my generation, gen xer here, not wanting to be labeled or shoved into boxes. Now people want to be shoved into a box?
YUP. "We don't want to be labeled. Now respect my labels or we'll get you fired from your job"
They want power. Making it the norm to "validate my identity or I'll get you fired and doxxed" gives people a lot to wield.
@@NotAdultingToday As an early Millennial (born in 1980), I completely agree with everything in your statement. (Please don’t tell my Gen Z daughter though, she would crucify me for this, or even for commenting on one of Blair’s ”complicated” UA-cam videos!😂)
"Uncle." That's putting your family first without even giving it a second thought. I bet your nieces and nephews give you lots of kisses and cuddles and love. Because that's what loving others brings. More power to you, Blaire.
It's just gonna confuse them when they get older. Idk why she doesn't gently correct them now while they're still young and have flexible minds. Little kids don't give a shit.
@@ross3015 As long as those kids are healthy, happy, well-adjusted members of society full of love for others, I'm good. I see no problem. I haven't taken a single step in Blaire's shoes, so I dare not presume how she should interact with her nieces and nephews.
@@time4jesus Agreed. Blaire is clearly a sensible, based person - AND I suspect she discussed how to approach this issue with the kids parents. I'd 100% trust her to act with tact and integrity. Some people just have to fault find, no matter what.
@@ross3015 correct what? She feels fine with THEM taking the decision to call her uncle or aunt. Stop this BS
@@ross3015 im pretty sure her nephew is like 15
You literally being “she who must not be named” is actually hard, that’s badass
Imagine if all these people who spend so much time learning about new gender identities and pronouns that change and are added to daily, actually used that effort to learn something useful and productive 🤷♀️
So true, or used that time or energy to empower themselves to feel more confident from within and to come to terms with their place in the world in order to begin pursuing their goals.... Seems they are seeking to belong to “something”, as opposed to just being comfortable within their self. It may be more productive to channel that into just being who they are, without labels or rules to being accepted, or the desire to belong to something outside of themselves. But then again, maybe that’s just thinking about it in an overly simplistic way, and perhaps the issue or root of the problem goes deeper and is actually an affliction imposed by our parents or society as a whole and the design on which our social structure has been built....
Or actually used that energy to fight for real change.
Or just learn about themselves in a real way. They have no idea who they are actually. They’re all on a bandwagon and it’s desperately sad. They’re wasting their best years and will truly regret it in ten years. A wasted generation. This is exactly why parents need to parent and not indulge every whim your children have. Children need to learn what disappointment feels like and how to overcome it. They need to learn it’s more than ok to be just like everyone else. You find your happiness within yourself, not from faceless likes and shares on a screen. It is really depressing to think about. So glad I grew up before all of this.
They are mostly marxists. Productivity is oppression.
It's sad because most of the people doing this have great potential for intelligence in other ways, yet they choose this route deemed by the internet. They have the capacity but not the direction. This is why it's important for parent to guide their children to learn in ways they are interested in before this happens. So much potential being lost because they have no direction other than things like tiktok.
Identity is a part of the ego. The more Self-absorbed you are the more you're going to care about what people think of you and how people interact with you. It's egotistical to think that everyone that comes into contact with you needs to adjust their vocabulary for an interaction with someone. Do you know how many times as a gay man I've heard ma'am in the drive thru or on the phone. I don't correct them, because it's not a big deal.
How about we call you a she then?
@@takke9830 Just don't call me Shirley
@@takke9830 Girl, I'm gay. People call me she / her / b*tch /F*g whatevs
This is the most privileged and obtuse--
.oh wait...A white cis gay man...Ok. checks out.
@@takke9830 You came. You tried. You failed.... owned 😂
I always feel like the “genders” they describe is just secretly means “personalities”
Yes. That's exactly it. They're accepting traditional gender roles while pretending they're not.
True, I don't think they get it tho 😂
100%. Look on the reddits around gender. It's probably 99% 10-17 year olds who seem to think gender is the same as personality... It's sad.
@@caitthecat yesss that's exactly what I've thought about this all too. If you have to define yourself so minisculy you are looking at gender roles or their perspective in what is feminine or masculine you are reinforcing those. Me and my husband had traits in each of us that could be by some culture or time masculine or feminine.
Or dress sense
Okay, I HAVE to say this. I'm 50+ years old. As far as I know, I had never even met a trans person until about 7 years ago, and I didn't even know she was trans until she told me. I didn't even know what trans WAS until she told me. Now it seems everywhere I go there is trans politics, gender identity politics, non-binary, gender fluid, the list goes on, with new labels coming out every other day. If you people can't keep everything straight, how do you expect the rest of us to?!? I feel like my brain is imploding, melting and seeping out of my ears!!!
If you look like a guy, sound like a guy, and act like a guy, my brain and my upbringing says 'guy' and that's what I call you. If you look like a girl, sound like a girl, and act like a girl, my brain and upbringing says 'girl' and the same applies. I don't believe in more than two genders. Science only sees 2 genders, male and female, except for certain species that are a-sexual, but that doesn't relate to homo-sapiens.
I am a tough old 'tell it like I see it' B**** and I am not going to apologize for not erasing 50+ years of education and upbringing just to cater to the world's current hysteria.
No one's asking you to apologize, you're not being attacked lol.
@@313eve you are absolutely correct :). No one has attacked me, in THIS comment section. But believe me, I've been called everything under the sun in other places when I've made similar comments.
lady, i don’t like this gender nonsense either but how is your brain imploding and melting at neo genders lol i hope i don’t grow up to be that dumb when im older
@@naturalbornbabe I guess you don't understand metaphors. The fact that an ever-growing amount of the population are stupid enough to buy into this insane drivel blows my mind.
I remember about four years ago when I was working part-time at my community college, they had added a "gender neutral" bathroom in my building, which was around the time we started seeing people use all these different pronouns and stuff. When I asked my boss what she meant by "gender neutral", she told me that it was for people who identified as male, female, transgender, bisexual, etc. Then I realized that it was basically a unisex bathroom but with a different name 🤣
the entitlement to insist people remember you go by they/them, when most people use he and she based on a visual representation. its subconscious, no ones trying to insult you, you just dont occupy that much space in most peoples brains. i have a hard enough time remembering peoples names.
Not to mention the English-centrism. Lots of languages do not have a singular neutral term, and many others have a designated singular-neutral term. I bet in those languages, they would still come up with a new pronoun that they want people to use.
Exactly!! They are so obsessed with themselves they can't comprehend others not being even slightly interested in their lives. Like do whatever you want but don't expect me to know you go by moon frog princess as your gender 😐
Thank you!!! I’ve been saying this for some time now and it’s true. I’ve never heard of they/them till I got in my last college and god damn the times I mispronounced someone, I was getting eye rolled and pissed off looks from these bitches with a purple or green mullet. I can’t remember a name for the life of me, how am I suppose to remember what you go by when all I see is a born female with feminine features and tits standing before me.
@@ukallii Latinx grinds my gears. They try to implement thee gender neutral terms in LATIN LANGUAGES and it always pisses me off so much, people, why is it so important to you? Normal, functioning people don't get that upset when someone mistakes them for the opposite gender unless they're really insecure about themselves.
Most people who are non binary physically look like a woman/man which is ironically within the very binary they claim they dont relate to.vLike Demi Lovato who hasnt physically changed. No wonder people dont take it seriously.
Honestly, the misEHder person actually has the right idea. If people (especially strangers) don't automatically call you the exact way you want, just shrug and don't let it affect you.
yeah I agree
Same, she/he/they (don’t know them) we’re really funny and I enjoyed their video clip.
But why make up a whole new word for it? Just seems attention seeking.
@@voodooprincess11 it's called 'joking'
Exactly. Offence is taken. Not given.
Blaire’s light shines brightly! She’s beautiful, strong, independent, smart, intelligent, thoughtful, caring, and so much more. I think that bothers some people. Especially these days.
NO! NO! NO! Many people say I am sick in the head. NOOOO!!!! I don't believe them. But there are so many people commenting this stuff on my videos, that I have 1% doubt. So I have to ask you right now: Do you think I am sick in the head? Thanks for helping, my dear tra
@@AxxLAfriku ???????
She also lacks a back bone lol
@@santinocermelo7330 that person keeps commenting random, out-of-context things under many UA-camrs videos pretty sure they're a troll just ignore them lol
Couldn't have said it any better myself. If only there were more people like her. Love you Blaire!
Im a straight 45yr old woman who’s been “accused” of being a homophobe/bigot.
I ABSOLUTELY love your content!
You’re leading the charge in getting “actual” trans folks to be taken seriously. Bc these crazy ass woke fakers are bringing “legitimate and true” trans folks down.
Keep fighting the good fight!
Peace and Love for all….!
Some one called me transphobic because I didn't use the right pronouns I just laughed at them
Blaire is absolutely right, and these youngsters are super upset about that. Imagine being an “old” LGBT like the vast majority of us and having to put up with literal kids screeching about utter BS, when we just wanna live in peace. They’ve turned out community into a massive joke and it’s little wonder LGBT support has gone down for the first time in over a decade.
Ikr it's ridiculous
Reminds me of Dorian Corey in Paris is Burning. The paraphrase: If the only thing interesting about you is that you're gay, that's really sad and you need a hobby. You're in the gay community, everyone's gay. That's not special.
Nowadays everyone wants an award for *just* being gay. Not gonna cut it.
They think it's a game, honestly. To most of them the community is just a fad.
On. Point. 👌
@@Benanov I disagree, since being gay isn't that special anymore, these people try to make new things up to feel more unique
i just want to say that i recently came out to my religious family & showing them channels/videos of people like blaire was so helpful. thank you for showing the world that not everyone within the lgbtq community thinks the same
😘
Yes I hope Blare knows that not all trans people are against her haha. I don't agree with her 100% of the time (of course, I don't agree with anyone 100% of the time!) but I thought she made a lot of very reasonable points in this video, and I'm trans
Just wanted to shout you out, Alex. I am also a religious person in a religious family, and yeah, being out has led to some difficult conversations and situations, but it's worth it. It's not easy, but I'm honestly glad that my family is invested in being charitable, kind, forgiving and grateful because we are Christians. It makes a difficult situation easier. Best of luck on your journey, and God Bless!
Yeah, I'd rather my kid came out as anything except leftist.
That would have me wondering where I went wrong.
@@rockguitar2012 nobody should agree with anyone 100%. If you do you're a cult follower, not an individual.
“You just said dad” lmfao. These people are impossible to reason with.
Do the even hear themselves, it's so funny
It’s like people saying they are non-binary lesbian. Like, hello? If I am not mistaken, being lesbian is defined as a woman having attractions to other women.
@@snipermonkey3269 lmaoo. so accurate
@@kirinirlf yeahhh. i have some non-binary 'lesbian' friends. i have known them a long while and during the pandemic they cane out as enby. so..idk. i think the pandemic has made a lot of people confused.
@@kirinirlf this!!!
This is my take on the baby gender reveal thing. At the time I found it I was pregnant I was still woke but becoming a bit weary of it. I had friends ask me if I was going to assign my baby a gender or if I was going to raise them gender neutral. I thought about it a lot and I realized. Raising your baby gender neutral is STILL assigning your baby a gender. It's just gender neutral. And I started realizing that if my baby grows up and identifies as the sex she was born as which but the bigger likelihood I would be stealing her chance at having a normal childhood AND her girlhood away from her. On the off chance that she did decide to be trans her life would not be over. We would still love and support them best we can but raising them in a very strange and unusual fashion that would make them the prime target for bullying on the very small chance of that happening wouldn't be doing them a service. It would be comparable to preemptively removing your child's appendix just in CASE they get appendicitis. Why would I do that to them? Lol.
Yep. Exactly. The chance of your daughter being transsexual is so rare.
I definitely don't like the way raising your kid "gender neutral" is perceived today. Like, of course, let your kid be a girl or a boy but in my opinion raising kids neutral is simply just treating boys and girls the same. Which should not be ground breaking lol. I grew up with a conservative baby boomer dad and even he got it. I had 1 younger brother close in age and we were always treated the same. We got whatever toys we wanted and since we were siblings they often had to be the same ones or someone would get mad lol. We both had to mow the lawn, fold laundry, same curfews, rules etc. We dressed up and played princesses and then we'd pay football outside. Both of us identify as our assigned sexes. I just don't like it when people try to force kids to be a certain way just because of their sex. I feel like trying to enforce gender rules on kids could confuse them into thinking they're trans when they're not.
It's not our job as parents to decide who our kids are gunna be. That's up to them. We are there to teach a value system and moral code. Right vs wrong. Basic courtesy and life skills. Their identity is 100% all them. Idc if my son decides to be gay, Trans or anything else as long as he still handles his shit in life. Safely. It's not my choice either way.
Im listening to these people and I don’t understand why they don’t just live their life and not be so obsessed with it. It’s this word salad and forcing it on people that is putting people off and it’s actually hurting the lbtq community more than it helps it
Exactly!
Word salad! lol. Never heard that term in this context and I love it.
Because their lifescene is talking about shit like this! Like fr.
Facts
Because they can’t get constant attention by just living their lives. And when they are constantly confrontational, they get attention and get to be victims. It’s all bs.
I just LOVE that you look 1000 times better than every one of these haters
Yes how very superficial of you
Pretty low bar, just sayin XD
That's probably half the reason they have an issue with her, lol.
Nair
@@littleceaser7268 ohhh ouch I was called superficial, how will i continue to live XDD
She’s just so brutally honest and I’m sorry but she is just saying what we are afraid to
Never be sorry about what you mean. Stand by what you say! Even if it's not true, that doesn't matter. To you it is true and that should be more than enough ^^
Blaires gotten much kinder over the years, to be honest. There's a gentle tone in this video that she hasn't always had.
Never be sorry hun!
And she doesn't do it in a way that's hateful or strawman-ish like most conservatives do.
@@minoruミノル九 🧐
I’m trans woman and i am not mad at Blaire at all. She is amazing. Ignore them all Blaire..
I think it's really sweet that Blair would still let her neices and nephews call her "uncle" and still keep them in her life. She knows one day they might have to adapt to call her "Auntie" but instead of being mad she just loves them
They call him uncle , because they know he is a man no matter what he has done to look otherwise. No one can change that. I can put feathers on a dog , but it won't make him a chicken will it .
@@AndresRodriguez-sm1fr you are part of the problem
Blair is awesome
@@MiataGarage no your part of the problem for throwing a hissy fit whenever someone doesnt agree with you
@@AndresRodriguez-sm1fr calm down ma'am. It's not that serious.
Does it ever feel like they’re conflating gender with personality traits and just naming them as a gender. Becoming Pokémon so to speak to appear even more unique than they actually are. New ones every year.
Yes! 🙄 they’re so focused on feminine and masculine traits and correlating them to “genders”, completely ignore the fact that being feminine doesn’t make you female, and being masculine doesn’t make you male. You can have more feminine traits and be male and have more masculine traits and be female.
exactly!
@@mystique592 *boy
@@deathhwishh3072 Good luck little one. Keep growing.
@@deathhwishh3072 you're only 13 yo. You don't know what you will feel at 20 or 30. I just hope that you didn't get surgery or invasive meds. You're still a child, it's normal for teenagers and tweens to be lost and to dislike their body/genre. I don't understand the urge of being trans at such a young age but hey, you do you and I wish you happiness and balance in your life
The reference to your nieces and nephews was very endearing and shows how much you love them. They will change when they are ready, and good on you for being a wonderful auntie
Not actual trans people calling a sane actual transwoman transphobic. Ah wow.
Well, if they won't accept you, a ton of us people will and have.
I just met someone like you recently and I'm so happy you both exist. I'd gladly use your pronouns, but that's because of respect, nothing to do with validation or you seeking attention. You and my friend give respect to my opinions, biology and position. So you get mine in return. Thank you for being you! ❤🥰
I really like Blaire White. Mostly because she understands how hard it must be for me as a person to understand what she is going through and is willing to have an adult conversation about it. Other trans people tend to act like petulant children when they don't get their way. Massive difference and definitely a good way to win the hearts and minds of others with her wonderful self.
Well said ! So true.
Agreed , been watching Blaire for years and she’s a different breed. Awesome all the same :)
Gosh, trans online spaces 100%.
I fucking hate it.
thank you so much, like deeply thank you because not everyone is willing to see the trans community as yes a community with a shared experience, but not as a monolith........ we do not alll think the same, we dont all act the same, and the same things dont offend us......
When she said she doesn't care there her niece and nephew call her uncle, I legit cried.
the children and most of the young adults on tiktok need a reality check. they’re SOOOO sensitive it’s honestly such a real issue for the future generations i’m concerned
I know right
This is why I cannot download the tiktok app, it’s a trainwreck all around
I think it’s because they’re so sick and tired of people misgendering, using incorrect pronouns, and just not treating them with basic human rights.
that and twitter.
@@shrekxreader17 yeah but you also need to take some personal responsibility for your own emotions. You can’t force people to conform to your ideals, that’s tryanny in all reality lol. Grow a thicker skin. Yeah people are assholes, but like don’t let them effect you? Move on. When did people start giving a shit about what every single person thought about them? Who cares. If your not someone’s cup of tea… move on… find people that are your cup of tea and vice versa. Everyone’s different and entitled to their own beliefs and feelings, gives you zero right to force someone to change their beliefs to yours and take responsibility over YOUR FEELINGS.
I love the "uncle" part. It's really wholesome. And it puts things into perspective!
I’m a straight 48 year old woman who loves your channel. I consider myself a kind person who wants the best for everyone but sometimes trans advocates make my head spin. I want to understand and be an ally but sometimes it’s hard when what they are saying makes no sense. Especially when it comes to kids. Thank you for being a voice of reason.
People who say they have "fluid" genders just confuse genders with stereotypical personality traits and mood
Yep
@@scarwars in Polish there's a word "samopoczucie" which literally means self-feel. It describes one's general well-being, mood, mental state at the moment. Google translate suggests: fettle, fig, frame of mind. IDK which one of those is the closest to the Polish term, if any. But that's what they're confusing with gender.
@@Sylkis89
'Frame of Mind' is by far the better fit ...
Many, if not most, have a pretty solid grasp of their 'Frame of Mind' when it comes to whom they are, who they see themselves as being, and their understanding of what their sexuality is.
But that still leaves, statistically speaking, enough room for people like me who, in my case, experienced such severe trauma in my childhood all the way through to my early adulthood, that any 'reference frame' I have of myself is not 100% affixed, and, in many aspects, the boundaries are really blurry.
It is, then, easy to point to people like these, and either call them clowns, or so boring, they have to make something up to make themselves interesting, especially to themselves.
But that leaves out a huge number of people that went through trauma, in their childhood, that any sense of that 'frame' feels like it's almost broken.
And no, that trauma need not be always sexual in nature. Since my mum died nearly two years ago, the thing that I have had being ignoring the most is her rôle in the mental, emotional, and psychological neglect of my sister and I, that almost gave permission to allow my dad to do what he did, over years, because of the co-dependant relationship they had, and especially her narcissistic personality. Our mum did way more to ruin my sister and I than our dad could ever do ...
Hence, my gut instinct says that these people aren't crazy, per-se, but, if you take an especially Jungian approach to their childhood, you may find, in each individual case, just enough that, at least, that 'frame of mind' is tilted, to being totally non-existent; they they try to compensate for that, but then over-compensate, in trying, as I have done for so long, to anchor myself to something solid rather than just sand ...
I don't want to denigrate anyone, especially anyone whom when through a truly horrific childhood, but, again going with my gut instinct, the reason why so much of this has cropped up recently is due, in part, to mental health care being even lower in many places, including here in the UK, where there is already a crisis in public health ...
So, in other words, what we are seeing is the possible result of enough of at least the last two generations, feeling utterly detached from themselves, but, without a kind of bedrock beneath them, with the combination of a lack of a decent anchor, and left to their own devices, they are simply to 'muddle through', thus creating a system of deeply troubled logic, which, for us looking outside-in, makes no sense, whatsoever, but, for those within, makes sense, abet due to the deeply flawed logic created ...
I'm not saying pity them, but don't judge them too harshly, either ...
Couldn't have said it better myself
@@nigelft I'm very sorry you had to go through that trauma. In my opinion, the best way to go about the skewed or unsureness of the frame of mind is to NOT try to label yourself. Instead, just BE. Do what makes you happy and comfortable without feeling the need to attach anything to it. And if someone asks your gender/sexuality, just say that you're testing the waters. It's okay to not know who you are. I have no idea about certain aspects of myself because of my own traumas. It took my until I was 20 to solidly confirm I was a woman, which was great for me because now I feel more comfortable in expressing myself... Which is exactly why I give this advice, had I not tried to label myself, I would have been able to feel this level of comfort before without questioning everything about myself.
I'm still not entirely sure of my sexuality, but now I try to shrug it off and just say that I love whoever I love and whether I feel sexual attraction towards them doesn't matter.
I'm transgender woman and I love your videos and im glad you stand up for LGBTQ people
No q tho
Preach!!
@@blairewhiteradicalextremis7765 right, I'm bi, I will fight u if u call me queer. I appear straight, I will fight u if u call me queer. I've been argued with by "pansexuals" how bisexuality isn't real and I'm just queer or pansexual. These psycho gate keepers.
@Gucci Pane IKR. Before the Q joined the LGBT it just meant gay didn't it? ...even if it was kind of derogatory for the most part.
@@Turtletoots3 it's a term used for all LGBT people indiscriminately.
Sometimes it's honestly hard for people to not accidentally let a wrong pronoun slip even if they respect you and your transition.
Before you told them about your pronoun change, they have likely said "she" or "he" a thousand times and it takes a huge mental effort to shift something that ingrained into our unconscious thoughts
ok but not really bro, if you see a person every single day it's really not hard to make that little change. you might slip up a couple times, but if you care about someone, youll put effort into learning their pronouns regardless of your stance on pronouns/transgender people
@@jenson7645 okay, but you don't see most people you know every single day unless you are in high-school. And if your at a bar a little tipsy I've seen friends make a slip without meaning too and I don't hold that against them. It's all about context
I’m not being funny. But I call my son by his dad’s name. And vice versa. My son is ASD and pronouns are a literal nightmare for him. He does speech therapy and knows pronouns but for the LIFE of him, he mistakes them in sentences daily. Hourly. He calls me HE and his dad SHE. Bless him.
@@jenson7645 I mean it’s pretty hard to not slip up when some people don’t even look like they’re trying to transition.
@@jenson7645 ok, but yes really bro. Your brain is literally programmed to acknowledge to recognize secondary sexual traits and to think of that sex. It's basically a part of how we are hardwired to read body language to gauge if people are aggressive or not, you read sex as part of that subconscious assessment. It is how we are built and how our forms of communication has always needed it to be.
Welcome to Texas!!
I just discovered your videos and absolutely love you! I see myself as a mostly conservative, Christian, female American.
I've been watching your videos and I see so much compassion and wanted to say hello to you. I truly hope you find your happiness here in Texas. Good luck in your new home and God bless you, Sweetheart. You give me hope that more people have love in their heart and will not judge others based on their appearance but what's in their heart. You obviously have a lot of love in your heart.
Love you, Gorgeous!
Conservative Christian American Woman here to say me too!
You guys are a joke. God doesn’t condone transgender people no matter how conservative they pretend to be. Don’t call yourself a Christian if you get fooled so easily.
Same
I’m Australian and if I could live anywhere in America it’d be Texas probably Houston
“The trans community is mad at me” in other news the sky is blue.
This just in: Water is WET!!
Upcoming news: Grass grows, birds sing and the Scout hurts people.
"I feel like the whole pronoun thing is just a way for people to feel special"
Seemed pretty obvious to me.
I would date a trans person if I was physically attracted to them, But the kinds of trans people that preach "you're transphobic if you don't date me" usually have a certain look....
With that guys logic every gay man is femalephobic and every lesbian is malephobic🤣
It's called preference it doesn't = hate or phobia.
They have incel vibes...
Once I started seeing pronouns on LinkedIn and resumes I just wanted to shove my head into the ground and forget the world.
Oh my god Blair before you said “I swear this pronoun shit is literally just a way to feel special.”
That is exactly what I was thinking. I have no idea why so many of these people are obsessed with labeling themselves and then talking about their labels incessantly. No one cares.
The ridiculous hair, make up and outfits they all have scream LOOK AT ME I'M SPECIAL
Thank youuuu, god it’s so difficult to say that to gen z and I hate the fact I’m even in this generation. Snowflakes, attention seekers, everything above. They’re just wack.
I do notice cis ppl get pretty mad if you use the wrong pronoun as well.... Men usually take being a man pretty serious, and it's usually very important to women that they are women
Right?! Like, it’s so confusing. When I was in HS it was “don’t put a label on it”… now it seems like it’s nothing but labels 🤦🏻♀️
(3rd person) pronouns are mostly used out of earshot of these saddos anyway. Doesn't that just scream narcissism?!
The uncle thing is very cool.
That shows a lot of maturity and actual empathy.
Having nieces and nephews is the best.
I can imagine it quietly irked her a bit at first but now it’s a meh thing. We all have relatives who do things that occasionally irk us but we love them all the same.
@@durkin9664 i'm gonna go ahead and just take her at her word
So glad to see someone with common sense in the trans community.
I really think Blaire is not as big of an exception as people think. I have been around other trans women for ages, and the weirdos were few and far between. The dilemma of the transsexual is that they want to integrate into normal society, not stand apart from in in obvious, weird ways. This crop of oddballs is a very new phenomenon among trans people, but because we live in this spectacle-oriented culture, it is the human spectacles who get all the attention. Look at the person @7:42. That's not a person any more, that's an exploded makeup case.
Fr
Agreed, really changed my view
@Maria yep
@Maria I'm so sorry about that. That must have been such a terrible thing to deal with. I don't understand why trans people feel like they are so entitled to the point where they call anyone transphobic who simply isn't attracted to them.
Gen Z is ruining the LGBT+ community and they don't even realise it.
Blossom isn't gen Z.... But that dude is definitely helping ruin that community.
Gen z and some millennials.
You can tell these people have never lived in third world country where the last worry will be your “pronouns”.
I've encountered a lot of people that say the want to get rid of the American flag and replace it with the Pride flag at their work, for example.....I take much happiness in telling them "one of those flags very likely wouldn't exist without the other."
The person with the green hair at the end is "Noxtelli." On TikTok, he rants and raves against white people, gay people, men, America and capitalism. IRL, he is a Starbuck's barista.
Wow if that isn’t hypocritical..
lol Damn!
It’s soo sad to see
So he/she "tweets that capitalism is dumb while he stares at an I phone and sips on a starbucks?"
Bastardizing a Tom mcdonald song lol
So he’s communist. Imagine my shock.
When are they not mad at you Blaire? I wouldn't pay it no mind
People trying to explain all these genders feels like listening to a breakdown of the omegaverse
Don't you DARE disrespect the omegaverse like that 😂😂
(Some) trans people:
Complain about bullying.
Also (some) trans people:
Bully people into being attracted to them and having sex with them.
Yes! & if you don’t want to date them at all your transphobic
That second one is literally saying the world revolves around her. If one person asked people to refer to them with different pronouns, it’d be easy to remember. With a ton of people demanding literally a million different pronouns, it’s hard to remember. Especially under the stress of fearing that they will lash out the first time you forget or make a mistake.
Not that I care enough to make the effort for anyone who isn’t in my immediate circle anyway.
Reason #1 why I don't associate with nonbinaries/trenders.
Yup these are the people that are going off on employees too. I was reported and yelled at by different clients that I accidentally misgendered bc I couldn't remember what each person went by. I eventually just left being a front desk receptionist. I'm from the south, manners are taught at a young age to say sir and ma'am.
@@shananoni My grandparents were from the south. They instilled into my parents who instilled into me about human decency and respect. I also say "Sir" and "ma'am" depending on what I see. It's incredibly rude to ask someone "What are you're pronouns" especially when 99% of people don't know what the hell you're talking about.
her example about the knowledge of the Earth being round instead of flat is also wrong lol, people took years and years to actually have a general consensus that the Earth wasn't flat after it was discovered
absolutely agree. I can't keep up with all these identities. im old! ill accept being gay and what have you. I won't keep up coz I don't care. there's more worse things in the world to care or worry about!
Want to really trigger them? Tell them the term Transgender was coined for transvestites and Transsexual deals with someone that actually medically transitions as opposed to just cross dressing. They really hate it when I refer to myself as a Transsexual.
They must hate Rocky Horror Picture Show then it's got a whole song in there about that
yooo Tatiana speaking straight facts over here
Ok I'm confused lol
you must have been absent the day they decided its transphobic to correlate being trans with transitioning medically 😂
@@stella251 the song was literally playing in my head as I read the OPs comment.
The person saying “if people really care about you, they’re going to get your pronouns right.” YET they freak out when someone they JUST met doesn’t use their “preferred pronouns”. How am I supposed to know what you prefer? I just met you!!
The personal story about your niece and nephew actually touched me. I could hear how much you care about them. Being able to put your ego aside to focus on the growth and emotional well-being of the next generation is admirable. You're allowing them to be kids. To do whatever feels right and comfortable FOR THEM and not just you. Everything is not about pushing a political agenda. Some things are wayy deeper. I wish the pronoun police on tiktok understood that.
That’s what an adult does. They act like an adult.
Kinda reminds me when ppl questioned Kendall and Kylie calling Caitlyn dad still. It wasn't their (the publics) business but kylie and caitlyn explained their reasoning and it was really sweet
You expect too much common sense from people who actively use tiktok
Hope Blaire becomes a parent, you can tell she'd be stellar at it.
@@EmmaxoOCE it reminded me of that too.
You’re just so frigging reasonable, it’s refreshing.
literally
"Frigging" What are you, seven?
SO refreshing
Why is buffalo bill on my suggestion feed?
she isnt.
I agree with you! I'm trans and I don't think it's transphobic if you don't want to date me. It's a preference and that's that.
I was banned from a Discord server the other day for posting one of Blaire's recent Tweets in the politics channel. This is insanity.
it’s a politics channel yet you can’t talk about politics? that’s just unreal
my kids call me Dad, "This is my Dad, her name is Kate" - when I came out to them they were 7-12yrs old and I gave them a choice and respect their choice. I don't have issues with Tranny - its a word, I've been called it on the street and respond, "hey! thanks for noticing!" - funny, it deflates any negative impact intended. Love your videos and glad to see there is another person in the trans spectrum that doesn't follow the "expected" :)
I love that reaction! Just spread the positivity
That's a great response. It has no power in it if you don't take offense
Won't it be "his name is kate" because they introduce you as dad. Please fix the grammer skills
@@xijinping3317 no, sorry, it's 2021, my name is Kate and I use she/her pronouns, and yes I'm still my children's Dad
@@xijinping3317 Says the person who doesn't know how to use question marks.
Im cis, but my brother is trans. It was really hard to start calling him a he, not because I had some opinion about the change, its just hard to change my vocabulary when I literally came out the womb being told this is your big sister and this is her name. Years of reffering to someone a certain way takes a lot of effort to change, really it mostly changed when I met new people that I could introduce him as a he
Hello 😊 I hope you don't mind me asking but what is cis?
@@realityslidersmandelaeffec6594 short for cisgender. Just means that you identify with the biological sex you were born with, whereas transgender people dont
@@realityslidersmandelaeffec6594 it is a term for people who do not have gender dysphoria. It's like coming up with a term for people who are not autistic or a term for people who are not schizophrenic
@@Publiksquare personally I don't find it weird to have a special word for it, especially when you are discussing trans issues. Saying "normal" can sound pretty rude, regardless if it's trans, autistic or schizophrenic people
@@Coppergasm you are SOOOO misguided ,I pity you
What I love about the "Uncle" thing is that you love them so much and just accept that they are just kids and kids tend to be uncomplicated and it has nothing to do with respect or disrespect. You love them enough to keep it uncomplicated and that you all love each other is all that matters
Exactly. Some trans women are still called dad by their kids because that's what they are and have been. Accepting that is the graceful way to go about it. Forcing your kids to call you their mother when you are the male parent is taking away from the fact that these kids already have a mother, the person who gave birth to them.
My mom transitioned after i turned 18. It feels wrong to call her "he, him, dad", especially since i have reconnected with my actual dad, but didn't have one until i was 28. I call my mom "he, him" and by her new male name when I'm around her new family and people who don't need to know about the transition, but when talking to my friends, it's "mom, she, her". I don't make friends with the types of people who wouldn't accept and respect my mom being trans, and would certainly never bring them around her, but that's a personality type thing, not exclusive to accepting LGBT people.
'Uncle blaire' is like calling your teacher 'mom', it's a combo of mixed wires, being young, and being comfortable with saying the one word for maternal/paternal figure. Eventually you stop, but it's never meant to be mean or rude.
My ex wifes father had the full sex change op and she still called him dad…..She was the only one who was allowed to refer to her father as male.
If anyone who knew him before he had the operation and became a woman, let slip with the male name they knew him by, it was an instant flip out/aggression towards them……I can totally understand why the old male name would slip out sometimes, especially if you’d know the person as a male for decades.
What you said about being an uncle to your nieces and nephews is so relatable. I’m the oldest of my siblings & the youngest still call me their brother because that’s how they first knew me. It’s never out of hate, or not accepting me.
What should be relatable that you were born as one sex and you cannot change this fact. Blair can't either, yet he think he is a woman. Being woman/man is a biolohical fact, not a custom which you and Blair van pick and wear.
I love how the nb dad guy gave Blaire a headache just for the next person to talk what's the difference between libra/whatever gender to give her even bigger headache 😂
These people are gonna give Blaire an ulcer.
Anything beyond the "T" in LGBT is just one big migraine for normal people, definitely one of the reasons that acceptance is going *down* for the first time in several years. I don't even get the Queer thing; four years ago, there were leftists that would have you arrested for using that word, but now it's an identity? What even...
That Libra chick was a space cadet! Just do your drugs, honey, but stay off the internet. That's like millennial drunk dialing. Don't do it. Just stay the F away from social network platforms when your brain isn't working right! You can think that shit but just keep it inside your swirling head. Don't try to sell it on line to the masses.
@@cielizzy8860 I feel like if there was an honest poll taken at this point whether or not to include the T it would probably be 50/50..
Considering it's not an orientation I personally feel like they shouldn't be included. Tbh neither should bisexuals only because if you're truly bisexual it's such a rare occurrence there's not enough of them. I wish the entire alphabet thing would disappear.
@@yumyumbumblebee Why? How are bisexuals too rare to count?
Here in my country (Finland), more than the equivalent of the lgbt acronym, we use the phrase 'gender and sexual minorities' or 'rainbow folk' and I like it better. It doesn't specify individual identities and leaves room for more privacy.
Imagine trying to bully someone into being sexually attracted to specific genitals by saying they are hateful because they don’t feel the same as you. That’s being discriminatory! You can be sexually attracted to only opposite genitals or only same genitals and still be supportive to everyone!
Fr, like ultimately most gay people want someone which has the same genitals as them.
I think people need to realize there’s a difference between “ew transpeople” and “I’m not attracted to transpeople”
People are more than genitalia
@@Patrick3183 ofc they are, but that doesn’t change the fact that most gay people want a guy with a dick. If you think otherwise you obliviously have never been on dating apps.
@@Patrick3183 Nobody reduces people to a trait when they say they're turned off by that trait fyi
The weakest argument I’ve ever heard is trying to blame someone else’s “ignorance” for the reason why you won’t **can’t** win them over to your side with logical and concise evidence to support your claim or stance.
I find that a lot of the time, stubborn people refuse to even acknowledge the other person’s opinion and POV because of their huge pride and ego, so they’re not entirely wrong.
They always claim people are uneducated, but no. Some people just see through the bs.
There are people who don’t know anything about the topic though.
I don’t understand how anyone can not like Blaire? It’s thoroughly confusing and I don’t get it. I discovered Blaire only a couple of months ago and I adore her. She is so level headed and logical!! Logic is what this whole society is missing and I guess that answers my initial point of people not liking her. I feel comforted by Blaire honestly in so many ways. She fights for kids rights, basic human rights, goes against the psycho bullshjt that is actually evil and dividing and I am all for it. You are amazing girl
What you said about seeking validation from others was perfect. I am a part of the LGBT(G) and I am truly embarrassed when I hear people trying to find a way in because it is now trendy. It just screams ''I'm not like other girls''
Remember when the “I’m not like other girls” girls were still girls?
Literally the best way to put it
I miss the days of middle school when a lot of girls were talking about how they were bi, but now they are claiming they are not just bi but, pansexual, trans, non binary, etc everything under the sun!
I know someone in discord who definitely use lgbt umbrella as their whole personality. 13yrs old pansexual bigender polyamory
Like ok???? No need to freaking mention that every time like god you really have no other topic huh
@@graveraider1029 they could write a thesis on what they want to be called these days. I see most of the tiktok NBs as the wierd kids in school that sat at the back of the oval trying to do anime moves and running like naruto haha
Wow what a solid point that I never thought of. There are people in this video that think it is ok to bully a straight person into dating a transgender person but yet they used to complain about felling bullied into dating the sex they did not want to be with.
People seem to think that when they feel like dressing more masculine one day, they have to label themselves a new gender identity.
They're basically erasing tomboys and femboys.
@@NekoBoyOfficial Yup they'll even shout people down saying "they don't know themselves". Like homie clothing ISN'T gendered anybody can put on anything that doesn't mean they are that. That's something y'all said. Yet these days they ignore the very things they said because "its not like that now" one year later and they're walking back their own logic. When it seems like they're getting lifestyles confused with genders again...
No ❤
!!!!!!!!!!!
What about people who genuinely are trans...........You are basically invalidating them
I'll give the "misEHndering" girl some credit. People are way too quick to get pissed and call you a bigot when you dare to accidentally use a term that you subconsciously register but that they don't like. I appreciate that she can just take it which is much more than you can say about most people who call themselves non-binary
Honestly I don’t understand why so many people don’t like Blaire like she’s really funny and I agree with most of the stuff she says.
you should watch the The Right Opinions documentary vid about her
Tbh the majority of ppl that don't like blair is because she calls out the sh*t ppl like to ignore
I think more people like her than dislike her.
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Thats exactly what I was thinking. I love Blaire White. She's a beautiful , funny and great person. Many People who hate or dislike Blaire White because of jealousy and being triggered because she calls them out on their nonsense.
The entire world is on a gender spectrum but most people don't feel the need to lable it. No one is 100% masculine or 100% feminine!!
We used to call girls with masculine interests "tomboys." The feminine-male counterparts were sometimes referred to as "femboys." That's it; that's literally all there is. What's wrong with that?!
Yeah! And people who fell between were called "androgynous". There's nothing wrong with not being 100% a manic pixie dream girl or an alpha male (I'd actually consider both of those extremes to often be bad but that's a different conversation)
Exactly!!! This is what I’ve been saying!! It’s just straight people wanting to be in the lgbt
The uncle thing about her niece and nephew was raw and real. I'm glad she shared that with us
Right, for me personally I'm not offended by being misgendered on accident, especially if someone is using sir or ma'am, they just trying to be respectful 99.8% of the time, and are even embarrassed when they realize they got it wrong, I've been apologized to numerous times, not out of demand, but because they are genuinely didn't mean any offense. Of course when I was really young, I was embarrassed a few times, but then i started to notice the sincerity and realized they were just as embarrassed. And a pronoun is not who I am.
Blaire, you touched my heart in a way that rarely does. You touched on such an important point when you spoke about your nieces and nephews that I stopped what I was doing and really payed attention. It not only shows how sometimes mispronouning people isn’t always out of malicious intent but also shows how STRONG and simply down to earth you are, being able to remove yourself and your own struggles (because I’m sure it took something from you to be able to hear uncle) and simply be, love and enjoy. Wow sis, you inspire 🎉
Trans here and I absolutely adore you. You’ve actually given me a lot of hope and have been an inspiration in many ways.
They always dramaticize her narrative to play self righteous all the while their favs do the same thing. It's selective blindness
@Maria favorite
As much as I hate this overused term, these are literally the BIGGEST Karens 😂
trans-karens 😂
I feel you Blaire. Even though as a feminist and think female bodied folks are too often taught and expected to just endure disrespect, I don't have the heart to tell my kids not to call me mom.
They know I'm genderqueer and philosophically opposed to gender roles and the binary but they are allowed to call me whatever they want. So is everyone.
If a new acquaintance were to ask me about my pronouns, then I will say they/them (no weird stuff) but it doesn't really matter. A word can't take away someone's identity.
Because you are a secure person, sure of what you are.
These people on tik tok are trying desperately to affirm themselves through external validation. They need therapy and introspection to figure out themselves. Not constantly yelling at people over a pronoun
I get pronouns wrong all the time when the person doesn’t exactly present as the gender they wish to be identified as. It’s human nature and the way the human brain works. Female presentation = I will likely say she/her. I do not EVER do it in a malicious way but even if someone identifies as they/them I will slip up and use the pronouns that correspond with their typical gender presentation, or what we’ve been conditioned to see as a specific gender’s presentation. I don’t ever mean harm or malice, and I will correct myself once I realise, but sometimes people can be extremely hateful even once I apologise and explain my slip-up, other times people understand and we move on and I try my very best to remember how they want to be addressed, but yeah, some people have had reactions towards me that were genuinely so verbally aggressive and mean.
Exactly but now I just let them call me transphobic 🤣 I love Blair because she has common sense
@@Noirkurls honestly if someone calls me transphobic it doesn’t hurt me either, because I know I’m not. I’m just a human like everyone else and pronouns can be confusing af 🤷🏼♀️
Blaire just says what everyone else (with more than 2 braincells) is thinking hahah
The kind of people that shame you for not wanting to have sex with them just because you’re not attracted to a certain genital sound like they only care about sex than an actual romantic relationship. If I’m telling you I’m a 100% okay with dating you, just not being intimate suddenly makes me transphobic, then honey you were never looking for an actual relationship in the first place. I’m bi so I have no problem dating a trans person or being intimate with them but even I understand how frustrating it must be for people who do.
Yea and that's your choice. Some people don't want to be involved with trans people whether is sexually or romantically and that's OK
Whatever happened to "my body my choice"? I guess it only applies to abortion or when a woman says no to a man and not when a trans person is trying to get with someone lol
People can’t just pretend like sexual needs aren’t a thing people want their partner to meet either. Sex is a part of most relationships.
Sexual relationships exists.
@@deathlight4210 I’m talking about the “not dating a trans makes you transphobic” comments. Besides that still applies to sexual relationships, you can be attracted to trans but wouldn’t necessarily want to fuck them
I think it’s strange how self obsessed people are with how they are perceived. Good luck to anyone on their personal self discovery, however I’ve just never assumed the general population were that interested in how I view or categorise myself.
This is a teenager developmental phase, but I'm not sure about the adults who seem to still be stuck in that stage of self-discovering... I sort of wish something more interesting came their way, they seem bored.
True. OMG…the one who said people not being able to remember to use preferred specific pronouns…is equal to remembering how we view the WHOLE PLANET we live on (round vs flat). As though “they” are that much of a thought in ANY stranger’s head…ffs.
@@tarantulady8565 > That was a terrible argument, there are countless people who believe the Earth is flat and it’s all a conspiracy, they *refuse* to believe the Earth is a globe even though there are ressources and tutorials to check for yourself available for free online. People believe what they want to believe, why would you use flat-Earth to support your argument people are openminded and accepting of change lol
@@yumichiru2099 feel free to believe that lol
And they use Blaire to project their insecurities
11:00 so since I’m a gay man, does that make me a misogynist for not wanting to sleep with women? 😂😂😂 I can’t
Ikr
Obviously it does😱😱🙄🙄🙄 (Dw I’m lesbian LMAO)
The ‘libra gender’ confuses me, mostly because Mercury is a gender neutral planet and Libra is ruled by the highly feminine Venus. What they should have gone for, if they insist on adding to their LGBTQ+ dictionary, is ‘Gemini gender’ 🤷🏻♀️
Bih I don’t know shit about signs 😂 I’m a Libra and that’s all I know cuz I was born on October 9, 1997. I don’t know about moon sign, sun sign, ass sign, tits signs, none of that. But I’m glad to know that I’m highly feminine even though I’m androgynous 😆 I love all things feminine and masculine too.
As if these people ever made any sense lol
@@tiffanygutierrez4559 birthday twins! i was born Oct 9, 2002 🥳
It's like they trynna find random things to label themselves now
@@WhiteOreoCookiez ahh!!! That’s crazy that we meet through a channel like this 😂 when our birthday comes, I’ll be thinking of you 😆
Love you Blaire. I 100% agree that the pronoun crap is just a way for insecure people to feel special and get attention.
It is worse that they want to push it in schools to 1st graders. Give them time to learn to walk for crying out loud. They don't need to be sexualized ahead of time.
They're on a power trip. They want to make everyone around them call them unreasonable pronouns that make no sense just to feel in charge.
💯
@@NM-jd9ck Yes, all about narcissism and power trips.
@@vikibanaszak4881 it’s not being sexualised hahaha, everyone has pronouns, cis people have pronouns.
Blaire is one of the few individuals in the modern LGBT community I respect.
Most of them allowed their ideas of equality and self love (which they have) and have taken it to the point of denying reality to be “happy.”
You said it
Exactly
You’re just being rude now.. lgbt isn’t just trans its many other groups too? Are you saying being gay or bi isn’t reality and it’s made up??
My 7 year old nephew has straight hair all the way down to his thighs and looks very much like his mother, very feminine. Anytime someone sees him someone always says "omg she's so cute and pretty!!" And he always has to correct them.
The fact that our brains are naturally inclined to notice a feminine or female appearance is NOT OUR FAULT AS HUMAN BEINGS. if you LOOK male or LOOK female you cannot expect us to just automatically note your pronouns every single time we look at your or even think about you.
Referring to the they/them at minute 4:00.
I am so tired of people getting so butt hurt over pronouns like there are more important things in the world. Like we get it, do you but please stop berating people JUST because they miss label you.
You cant force someone to do something. Accept what you get from them and just let the other shit roll off like everyone else in the world has to do.
blaire is genuinely trying to help these people understand how the world works imo, idk why so many people don't see that! i've been subbed for over 5 years and i really appreciate how she addresses these topics.
They're only mad at Blaire White, because she speaks the truth.
And she’s beautiful. That’s what really makes them mad. That she totally passes as female and is super attractive.
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@@jupiterisaak1004 Facts. They're jealous because she blends in as a woman and they want to be perceived as a woman.
L-OH-fucken L
Someone on BuzzFeed even went as far as to say she “caters to the conservatives”. How about these are her actual views and there’s people who can’t handle them? I find her brilliant
I love you Aunt Blaire. The world is 1000x better because you're in it.
Fucking agree!!!!
Ha ha awwww ,aunty
You mean Uncle Robert lol, Blair doesn’t exist
@@ninalempicka2948 omg! Guess what? You didn’t have to say that! Spreading hate isn’t fun! You aren’t cool and people like you ruin lives!
@@ninalempicka2948 if you hate Blair so much why do you comment so much on this channel 😆.
6:16 that reminds, i watched this TikTok of this lesbian couple and the one recording said “this is my GIRLfriend” but continued with they/them pronouns and explained them as a non-binary, but that doesn’t make sense because the person recording said “girlfriend” idk i was confused lol
I've never seen anyone in trans community that is this self aware, I hope she never stops speaking her truth because it makes HUGE sense! I love the fact that instead of separating herself from people, she sees the reality as it is from outside the Lgbtq+ bubble.
Shut up
Why tf you using "her" he's a fucking he genetically!
@@nicoyclips9377 The only way I justify pronouncing is when someone transitioned to opposite sex and is identifying themselves that way too.
@@curiositykilledthecat133 noo
@@nicoyclips9377 Because it's called not being a dick. Blaire may be genetically male, but due to dyshoria, she transitioned and took on the morphology and social role of being a woman to the best of her ability. It's easier on her mind and for society. It's very obvious, based on how she looks and acts, that she wants to be addressed as such.
My god, its not that hard.
I have a younger sister who is saying she is trans and nonbinary. She got it from tiktok dude. That and a bunch of self diagnosed mental problems. Autism, depression, gender dysphoria, etc.
I love her to death. She's just young and doesnt feel important unless she is "suffering" with something. It's a really sad phenomenon. I feel so sorry for these people who are obviously lost.
@Mr. Demon obviously we've talked about it. I don't need advice thanks
It is a phenomenon!! We should be really talking more about this but when we do is always meet with ‘people have always been that way, they were just imprisoned by society before’ and I really don’t think is that simple..
My aunt is a teacher and said things are drastically changing since 2014-ish (wich I _guess_ was the time social media was quite stablished/integrated in our society duo to being on the palm of our hands).
She and all her colleagues say they barely have any kids who aren’t fluid in their class anymore. And that girls constantly say that they would ‘love to be straight’ but don’t want to risk being with a toxic man wich most are (these are 12 year olds max btw), so they rather be with each other (wich is something my young cousin also said to me once even though she thinks is a bit ‘disgusting’)
And that the guys started to pick on that apparently and follow trends to be noticed, like paint their nails, listen to kpop, talk how open minded they are, and do whatever to show the girls they aren’t ‘toxic’ to gain attention from them.. and that suddenly most were behaving like that too and the ones that don’t are usually very silent, grumpy and sad..
@@carleyfries9804 damn, the person above was just trying to help. I get refusing help but my god what's so hard being nice about it
It’s the same as in the early 2000s and 1990s when everyone was trying to put everyone else in some sort of archetype aka jock, nerd, geek, ditzy cheerleader, etc. It’s basically kids trying to make up identities cause they like to play around with who/what people are cause they absolutely have no clue about themselves. These names give kids a fun sense of identity/personality substitution to make them feel like they are a person. A lot of kids think they must fit in to a certain group otherwise they just don’t have an identity but usually by the time of college learn that life is way more complex than these shallow labels can ever hope to be. Only difference between then and now is that they’re misusing and misunderstanding psychological treatment to an absurd extent. Often these kids believe they’re hyper self aware and that humans can’t trick themselves into believing certain things like they have been doing to themselves. A lot of these kids you can see saying things like “your feelings are valid and therefore you are right.” It’s sad cause unlike in the 90s and early 2000s these kids tend not to “grow out” of their label because they’ve attached it to psychology and politics. So now we are seeing a huge amount of perma children and kids who are unfit for the basics of adulthood and it’s obviously not even their fault.
Maybe talk to them and ask them if they genuinely feel it or not? Maybe they are actually non binary or trans?
As I have gotten older I've cared less about pronouns. I never was that big in it anyway. To me I remember a saying "let it roll off like water on a ducks back." It does not mean it can't bother you or that you have to ignore it. Just have to remember that you can honor the feeling and still let it go. Buddhism is very good about recognizing thoughts, accepting them, and letting them pass. Hope this helps.
The entire situation is akin to someone wearing a shirt labeling everything that "triggers" then acting surprised people troll them. If you don't feed the troll he goes on to the next person as their is no incentive to push your buttons.
@@Cerberus984 very much so but I'm mouthy so sometimes I talk back but I'm aware of what I say. I'm not looking to give someone a reason to beat my ass.
Yessss Buddhism is 💯
My rule was always "whatever you see me as, call me" so if I spoke and dressed properly, people always defaulted to she. Just how it is in my life smile. I don't want to over exaggerate it, it's just a word.
Omg same! People literally are more upset than I am sometimes when someone refers to me as she instead of he. Like bruh, I don’t even care wtf are you going for?
It's like saying a straight person not wanting to date a gay person is homopfobic, and vise versa, imagine a homosexual being called heterophobic for not wanting to date straights.
It’s always felt weird to me that people are so concerned about how other people, even strangers, refer to them. I won’t waste time in my day trying to control how someone sees me, thats not possible & slightly controlling
mega controlling to try micro-managing how people talk *about* you, not *to* you. its super weird imo
somebody mistaking you for a different gender when they know what you identify with; is rude and disrespectful. if you can’t get that in your brain then you must get yourself fixed. like asap. that’s the most simplest thing to understand.
It's valid to change your name and pronouns.
This video makes me so happy that my transgender husband isn’t weird for lack of better terms… and just wants to be seen as a male and he doesn’t feel the need to put emphasis on the fact that he is trans I think that would drive me crazy I’m so glad there are level headed people like you Blaire
Trans people who are not fortunate enough to be as passable as Blaire, have to deal with crap everyday, that's usually why they talk about it so much because they have to defend their gender every day, I'd say they'd LOVE to be as passable as Blaire, and be seen as women by EVERYONE, they'd probably never talk about it... But cis ppl talk about being cis too constantly, you just don't notice it b/c it's the norm
@@jonnaking3054 Blaire has also done A LOT of work over many years at great cost of both time & money to be as passable as she is- even her speech patterns & body language have been adapted. There's many people on social media claiming to be trans without having done more than the barest attempt at passing, if that. Don't be mad at Blaire because she's worked hard enough to actually be successful.
I identify as a toaster, Because absolutely everyone wants to take a bath with me😆
Ayo
Does that means I’m gonna get fried alive?
You ain't wrong there Shannon
I feel like remembering pronouns is like when a friend changes their name. My brain naturally wants to call them by the name I’ve always known, but of course I make an effort to call them by what they want to be called. I might slip, but then I’ll correct myself. It just takes time.
For me my parents didn’t call me every nickname I came up with as a kid that I wanted to be called, they picked my name with strong intention and that’s what they called me by. After I used to be more into feminism and liberalism but I’m now more Republican and conservative, I have the same attitude I just call people by their names unless I feel like giving them a nickname but you just can’t pick your own nicknames that’s how I personally feel
@@LifeDiaryGedi you absolutely can pick your own nickname