A message to all kind, sensible, empathic souls out there:"Don't be afraid anymore. Not of anyone. Not of anything. Nothing. Ever again. Listen to me: not ever again". Marguerite Duras
My former tenant used to tell me "You feel like home to me" It's because he lived in my home rent free for years under my roof faking boyfriend while living life as a single man in his parents neighborhood and surrounding areas. I was basically the second mom. His work as a musician made it easy for him.
what gets me is they can spend a full day doing unspeakably horrible things, then when the sun goes down they just hop into bed, out like a light, curled up like a little baby.
If it seems too good to be true, that’s because it is. People are so hung up on meeting their perfect partner, when there is no such thing. No one is perfect.
We have a dear friend currently in the victim slot with a narc partner who uses "ill health" all the time. There's nothing wrong with him physically, at all. HG's channel is helping we who care deeply about our friend to navigate this as best we can, to be supportive of her in ways which don't alienate her, and to cope with the miserable position of unhappy onlookers to an ongoing trainwreck.
The ex before me wrote a book called “Trapped”. (His ex wife had told me about it., once we’d eventually severed ties.) The ex gf had wanted to call it “Psycho Charming” but the publishers refused such. I read the book and contacted her. She had been careful to change some of the details, to avoid any obviousness, and potential libel etc., but the basic plot was EXACTLY the same; same storylines, same locations, same holidays, same lies and gaslighting, same love bombing, same invalidation, same mental, emotional, financial abuse, same name calling, same disappearing acts, same hoovering, same bread-crumbing. His modus operandi. It certainly seems to work for him; short term, and then repeat ad infinitum.
@@itsmemrsbusybee Maybe…? But they are all identical to their subset category of Narcissism. They are all the same, as indeed are their actions. Same old, same old. Move on to the next. And for us; GOSO!
Thank you HG ❤ I’m loving the real life examples, they really help me to go over past relationships and where I’ve gone wrong and not ended/escaped much sooner!
50 years Of narc abuse, I'm glad to be single. I can leave my dishes In the sink. I dont have to cook dinner due to their inability to do it for themselves. I dont have to feel guilty about doing nothing if i can't move with depression. Sure it gets lonely but it was lonely when attached. Yes i might talk a lot to my dogs which might look very strange i dont give a dam. I have no one torturing me for who i am. No opinion.of myself matters more than my own. Now i just have to move rhis skinny ass and do a bit of yoga and 8m all good. Here's to being free and single 🎉. I don't need you.
I can totally relate. I think a sign is the arts.They are grandiose as they see themselves as on the verge of greatness, it never dies until they do. They don’t want responsibility. So they come up with excuses. They are victims or sick mums etc…often with disabilities that keep them from steady work as they don’t want to do something they want to do especially for someone else. They are selfish and entitled. They feel entitled to use others as their only goal is their “ art.” They only love themselves. I am glad that you found out and have a support system. You are on your own financially with the child. Sometimes they come back after a break. They take breaks from responsibility. Since you exposed him, he might not. Good!
This made me smile, I admit it passed my mind to like to see how he managed to style it out when everyone starts asking about where’s your wife? , but I cut myself off from everyone who was him related as well as him. I feel ambivalent about him and I don’t care what he is doing and who with, what he did when we were married and didn’t know about, it wasn’t real so it wasn’t relevant and not worth my attention and time
In my opinion and as I have mentioned before, you would benefit from getting your autobiography published. More people need to be aware of the work you do.
The ex had a mother I nicknamed the terminator. She had leukaemia and was given the last rites on many occasions, only to come back strong. The only thing was, she had actually passed away before we had even met. The time I wasted discussing her daily activities and hospital visits blah Di blah.. Every day for 4 years, you have to admire the only thing he was consistent consistent about.
Every way is too risky. I'm going solo. Never bin happier. I think we run in a society run by and for narcs. What never ceases to amaze me is how people never go on the offensive against them. Because its like wrestling with an eel. Re libel. I was accused of libel 2 days ago by the narc. Group I told I knew were involved with human trafficking and modern day slavery. I found out later the sane day the guardian newspaper ran an article on itbin 2005 exposing this and much more. I wouldn't be surprised if they hounded that brave female reporter to the nth degree. Brave to write a book. You are freeze.😮
They were never jailed. Reason...er they have...their words...er very good working relationships with the local authorities and justice system. You mean you've cut a deal I replied. I call that corruption. Its a dark Web.
Mine vanished when my boys didn't want to see him again. Such a good father. He refused letter or phone call contact, because he wanted to more control over them. Not realising that refusing the letter or phone call contact , would go against him in the eys of the law. So he disappeared, didn't try to mend the relationship with his children, i suppose he couldn't be bothered. Mind you that was after he was discovered going through a 16 year old, girls Facebook, for photos. I dont think the courts liked that very much! We never heard from him again!
This story almost mirror's exactly like mine. Told me he hasn't been with anyone in years because God had gotten ahold of him. Asked to kiss me. Eager to help me out with little things around my house. Ect, ect, etc. He asked me to marry him after knowing each other only a month. After 4 and a half months of dating he dumped me for the new women he had met. He made sure to parade her around our mutual friends...or what I had thought was mutual friends because come to find out he had spent the previous month smearing me.
I know a few of these who waited for the right moment and then gone. But also I tend to vanish, not for narcissistic reasons. I regularly re-evaluate my circle of friends, and move on from those who are dragging me down. No announcement, no calls, I ignore every single one of them, as well as their calls and messages after I move on and am proud of it. I don’t keep people in my life who don’t have my best interest in mind, and I don’t need to take out an advertisement just to give everybody a “heads up” that I’ll be cutting off, they’ll do anything to stay. So I vanish and stick with my tribe . Everyone should do the same and not make vanishing only about narcissism. Vanishing is also about giving your time and energy to the people who are worth it. I don’t keep losers with no ambition in my life, you shouldn’t either.
This story reminded me of the similar tales of the other fakers, like Kyle Deschanel and the 'Ship's Captain' guy that HG did studies on. Really, the only red flag i spotted on this lady's date was when his friends referred to her as "his girl", that sounded creepy, when they had only just met. Sounds like the vanishing narcissist used his comedian shtick to find groupies as well as the dating site, perhaps.
HG, when will you begin the Katie Price series? She has made interesting comments today alleging that she was raped in a park when she was seven, that she has “severe ADHD,” that men have ruined her life etc. Is it just pity play? I’d especially like to know more about the differences between narcissism and ADHD. It’s the thing that confuses me the most about my father. I think that he’s a narcissist (liar, adulterer, smears people, triangulates, juvenile delinquent etc), but he also has traits of ADHD (fast-talker, inability to focus, terrible management of finances and his career)… and it makes me worried/sad that I’m misjudging him as a narcissist.
ADHD and narcissism aren’t mutually exclusive-one could have both. To know for sure, use HG’s narc detector. You’ll answer questions and he’ll assess whether your father is a narcissist, and if so what type, and the reasoning why (e.g. lack of accountability, sense of entitlement, manipulation, triangulation, etc.)
5:04 performed at a comedy club The monologue about how monogamous they are and old fashioned romantic They are hilarious ( if you escape the abuse and have a healthy support network and can laugh about it and realise how they pulled it off and how you know it won’t happen again).
With my ex, I didn’t know what I was dealing with until after the disengagement and learning from our glorious narrator. He would often disappear, saying it was from his emotional despair from his late wife’s suicide ( big story I won’t get into!). I believed this, but now knowing what he was, I can only imagine what he was actually doing while claiming he was spending all this time alone.
I refer to "targets," never "victims," because the latter implies weakness and helplessness. And I completely agree - a snake will never choose to hunt a hqre because it wants to be one. Also agree that no contact means no contact for more than one reason. Just assume he is doing fine, and let it go. Although I like the idea of recovering belongings. Ach! Please edit out the lip smack 0:13. Please, and thank you 🙏🏻
I always recognise my two exes in these. I believe I dated two narcs back to back. The second one only got a few weeks of my time because I spotted the signs and exited, going full no contact. When I know he’s in town (he doesn’t live in my city) via mutual friends, I don’t leave my house to avoid any chance of bumping into him.
Modus operandi? Fucking Sams club. I declined his obvious flirtations for 3 years while he was married. ((Wow. Sounds like you guys should go to counseling). But years later, turning 30, I had just broken up with a guy. And I was vulnerable. I guess taking me to Sam’s club seemed innocent. We married. 2 kids. Sams club trips all the time. A few weeks after he moved out (I asked for divorce) he’s there. With his girlfriend (that he denied having an affair with years and years prior), her kids and my kids. It was absolutely devastating. It was like I never existed. 14 year marriage. 2 children. And now she’s plugged into my place with her kids like I never existed. It was surreal. But yeah. Fucking sams club.
This is stalking and harrassment that these women are doing. If you had a bad relationship with someone it seems more logical to move on and avoid him. The rest should be dealt with by law enforcement. I would never stalk an ex and I'm a female. Females should respect legal boundaries.
I'd never share my image, in fact to trust someone now days privately with how multi-media is right now, can be highly dangerous, I knew on my 20's how it would be now online. To enjoy and take care is main. We humans have instincts and needs for sharing pleasures and eat from each other, we like to go out and hunt, is normal when you're younger, accepted on both parts, etc...however. I think adults accept what they call a 'predator' in advance because they need to have it.
Can you please separate your videos for every day people and those about celebrities? I like to watch a celebrity one here and there but there are hundreds of those for every real person example. Like your material but it’s exhausting trying to dig through them all
A message to all kind, sensible, empathic souls out there:"Don't be afraid anymore. Not of anyone. Not of anything. Nothing. Ever again. Listen to me: not ever again". Marguerite Duras
Thanks , you too
My former tenant used to tell me "You feel like home to me"
It's because he lived in my home rent free for years under my roof faking boyfriend while living life as a single man in his parents neighborhood and surrounding areas. I was basically the second mom. His work as a musician made it easy for him.
Yikes!
what gets me is they can spend a full day doing unspeakably horrible things, then when the sun goes down they just hop into bed, out like a light, curled up like a little baby.
If you don’t have a moral compass…
I’m just happy that I can’t relate. I’m probably no narc lol
Shockingly true!
YES!!!!
Yes stone wall you and then cuddle up to you in bed ewww
If it seems too good to be true, that’s because it is. People are so hung up on meeting their perfect partner, when there is no such thing. No one is perfect.
I’ve noticed how some narcissists use ill health as one or more of their manipulations. This was a very interesting case, thank you H.G.
We have a dear friend currently in the victim slot with a narc partner who uses "ill health" all the time. There's nothing wrong with him physically, at all. HG's channel is helping we who care deeply about our friend to navigate this as best we can, to be supportive of her in ways which don't alienate her, and to cope with the miserable position of unhappy onlookers to an ongoing trainwreck.
@@markingtime1024 H.G’s channel is the absolute best and I am pleased you are able to help your friend.
OMG so true! I know one who has been dying for a year but doesn’t know what he’s dying of! 😂
@@debbiehepler2007 that’s so like a narcissist! Probably a very long drawn out condition which miraculously is cured ?
@@Marcia_Toms exactly!!! 😂
The ex before me wrote a book called “Trapped”. (His ex wife had told me about it., once we’d eventually severed ties.) The ex gf had wanted to call it “Psycho Charming” but the publishers refused such. I read the book and contacted her. She had been careful to change some of the details, to avoid any obviousness, and potential libel etc., but the basic plot was EXACTLY the same; same storylines, same locations, same holidays, same lies and gaslighting, same love bombing, same invalidation, same mental, emotional, financial abuse, same name calling, same disappearing acts, same hoovering, same bread-crumbing. His modus operandi. It certainly seems to work for him; short term, and then repeat ad infinitum.
They’re not very creative, are they?
@@laurarominger2073 ha! Tis true! Very predictable. Textbook behaviours.
We might be talking about the same person 😂
@@itsmemrsbusybee Maybe…? But they are all identical to their subset category of Narcissism. They are all the same, as indeed are their actions. Same old, same old. Move on to the next. And for us; GOSO!
Names and addresses changed to protect the guilty 😂 typical
So many red flags, but it was the scratching of the mosquito bite that sealed it for me! 😂
Good point, I forgot about that part about the vanishing narcissist scratching her mosquito bite, creepy or what? Lack of boundary recognition much..
Yeah. That was fkg weird. Hahaha
Thank you HG ❤
I’m loving the real life examples, they really help me to go over past relationships and where I’ve gone wrong and not ended/escaped much sooner!
And, with that, he vanished.🧐
Nothing surprises me anymore!
I’m staying single 😊
I've joined that club as well and couldn't even imagine going on a date at this point in my life! 🙂
@@cyndigooch1162
I simply can’t be bothered.
So many great things to do in life!
Enjoy and stay safe 🙏🏼
Nah don’t do that. Get some boundaries, heal and choose more wisely. I’m saying this as someone who dated two back to back.
@@xiaomoogle
Thank you.
Yes, similar story.
Three within 10 years, one was a psychopath.
I’m in no rush to meet anyone as just enjoying my peace 😊
50 years Of narc abuse, I'm glad to be single. I can leave my dishes In the sink. I dont have to cook dinner due to their inability to do it for themselves.
I dont have to feel guilty about doing nothing if i can't move with depression.
Sure it gets lonely but it was lonely when attached.
Yes i might talk a lot to my dogs which might look very strange i dont give a dam.
I have no one torturing me for who i am.
No opinion.of myself matters more than my own.
Now i just have to move rhis skinny ass and do a bit of yoga and 8m all good. Here's to being free and single 🎉. I don't need you.
Good grief...never-ending lies. All telling the same thing.
My narc recycled and upcycled his stories too.
HG: you are my favorite Depeche Mode song - "I just can't get Enough" ❤❤❤
I can totally relate. I think a sign is the arts.They are grandiose as they see themselves as on the verge of greatness, it never dies until they do. They don’t want responsibility. So they come up with excuses. They are victims or sick mums etc…often with disabilities that keep them from steady work as they don’t want to do something they want to do especially for someone else. They are selfish and entitled. They feel entitled to use others as their only goal is their “ art.” They only love themselves. I am glad that you found out and have a support system. You are on your own financially with the child. Sometimes they come back after a break. They take breaks from responsibility. Since you exposed him, he might not. Good!
This made me smile, I admit it passed my mind to like to see how he managed to style it out when everyone starts asking about where’s your wife? , but I cut myself off from everyone who was him related as well as him. I feel ambivalent about him and I don’t care what he is doing and who with, what he did when we were married and didn’t know about, it wasn’t real so it wasn’t relevant and not worth my attention and time
(What a voice)
There is much tension in the air with this eclipse, the waters always come to calm among changing seasons. Best for the very best, always!
In my opinion and as I have mentioned before, you would benefit from getting your autobiography published. More people need to be aware of the work you do.
We are drowning without you.
Thank you for the premieres HG. This video sounds interesting & I look forward to hearing more about it 💟
so good this one, thanx
The ex had a mother I nicknamed the terminator. She had leukaemia and was given the last rites on many occasions, only to come back strong. The only thing was, she had actually passed away before we had even met. The time I wasted discussing her daily activities and hospital visits blah Di blah.. Every day for 4 years, you have to admire the only thing he was consistent consistent about.
Dating sites are just too risky. The old fashioned way is safer. Can't fail at a work conference! Errr...
Every way is too risky. I'm going solo. Never bin happier. I think we run in a society run by and for narcs. What never ceases to amaze me is how people never go on the offensive against them. Because its like wrestling with an eel. Re libel. I was accused of libel 2 days ago by the narc. Group I told I knew were involved with human trafficking and modern day slavery. I found out later the sane day the guardian newspaper ran an article on itbin 2005 exposing this and much more. I wouldn't be surprised if they hounded that brave female reporter to the nth degree. Brave to write a book. You are freeze.😮
They were never jailed. Reason...er they have...their words...er very good working relationships with the local authorities and justice system. You mean you've cut a deal I replied. I call that corruption. Its a dark Web.
Very interesting story, showcases why no contact is such good advice.
My sister just got married to a narcissist. Oh lord.
We are here HG … Yeeeeehaw
How well do I know this . I had too many narcs in my life, and they are all the same. Thank you HG for teaching us about how narcs behave.
Mine vanished when my boys didn't want to see him again. Such a good father. He refused letter or phone call contact, because he wanted to more control over them. Not realising that refusing the letter or phone call contact , would go against him in the eys of the law. So he disappeared, didn't try to mend the relationship with his children, i suppose he couldn't be bothered. Mind you that was after he was discovered going through a 16 year old, girls Facebook, for photos. I dont think the courts liked that very much! We never heard from him again!
Hello HG❤
This is an interesting case.
Sounds like a whole catalog of women who could have used the counsel of HG Tudor but never found it.
This story almost mirror's exactly like mine. Told me he hasn't been with anyone in years because God had gotten ahold of him. Asked to kiss me. Eager to help me out with little things around my house. Ect, ect, etc. He asked me to marry him after knowing each other only a month. After 4 and a half months of dating he dumped me for the new women he had met. He made sure to parade her around our mutual friends...or what I had thought was mutual friends because come to find out he had spent the previous month smearing me.
This looks interesting ...
I know a few of these who waited for the right moment and then gone. But also I tend to vanish, not for narcissistic reasons. I regularly re-evaluate my circle of friends, and move on from those who are dragging me down. No announcement, no calls, I ignore every single one of them, as well as their calls and messages after I move on and am proud of it. I don’t keep people in my life who don’t have my best interest in mind, and I don’t need to take out an advertisement just to give everybody a “heads up” that I’ll be cutting off, they’ll do anything to stay. So I vanish and stick with my tribe . Everyone should do the same and not make vanishing only about narcissism. Vanishing is also about giving your time and energy to the people who are worth it. I don’t keep losers with no ambition in my life, you shouldn’t either.
This story reminded me of the similar tales of the other fakers, like Kyle Deschanel and the 'Ship's Captain' guy that HG did studies on.
Really, the only red flag i spotted on this lady's date was when his friends referred to her as "his girl", that sounded creepy, when they had only just met.
Sounds like the vanishing narcissist used his comedian shtick to find groupies as well as the dating site, perhaps.
Thank you HG, this was very interesting, also great learning Analysis. ❤️🌻
For people who don’t like drama they cause all of it and project it on to the primary in my case
HG, when will you begin the Katie Price series? She has made interesting comments today alleging that she was raped in a park when she was seven, that she has “severe ADHD,” that men have ruined her life etc. Is it just pity play? I’d especially like to know more about the differences between narcissism and ADHD. It’s the thing that confuses me the most about my father. I think that he’s a narcissist (liar, adulterer, smears people, triangulates, juvenile delinquent etc), but he also has traits of ADHD (fast-talker, inability to focus, terrible management of finances and his career)… and it makes me worried/sad that I’m misjudging him as a narcissist.
ADHD and narcissism aren’t mutually exclusive-one could have both. To know for sure, use HG’s narc detector. You’ll answer questions and he’ll assess whether your father is a narcissist, and if so what type, and the reasoning why (e.g. lack of accountability, sense of entitlement, manipulation, triangulation, etc.)
This is unbelievable.
5:04 performed at a comedy club
The monologue about how monogamous they are and old fashioned romantic
They are hilarious ( if you escape the abuse and have a healthy support network and can laugh about it and realise how they pulled it off and how you know it won’t happen again).
Good day HG. It’s Wednesday no videos today ? Hope all is well
I see what you have done here. 😂
With my ex, I didn’t know what I was dealing with until after the disengagement and learning from our glorious narrator.
He would often disappear, saying it was from his emotional despair from his late wife’s suicide ( big story I won’t get into!). I believed this, but now knowing what he was, I can only imagine what he was actually doing while claiming he was spending all this time alone.
He case stay f’in hidden
I refer to "targets," never "victims," because the latter implies weakness and helplessness. And I completely agree - a snake will never choose to hunt a hqre because it wants to be one. Also agree that no contact means no contact for more than one reason. Just assume he is doing fine, and let it go. Although I like the idea of recovering belongings.
Ach! Please edit out the lip smack 0:13. Please, and thank you 🙏🏻
The lip smack is an indication that HG has been munching on the bodies of his victims. I'm sure he'd agree. 😂
Standard for them
I don’t understand how women can give men money I can’t understand that.
That which you can't accept you HAVE to try to change...Live Fae💞🍄🧚♀️⚜️
Wonderful story - true I imagine.
I always recognise my two exes in these. I believe I dated two narcs back to back. The second one only got a few weeks of my time because I spotted the signs and exited, going full no contact. When I know he’s in town (he doesn’t live in my city) via mutual friends, I don’t leave my house to avoid any chance of bumping into him.
Tinder yuk, only did it once, met a stupid weak narc, never again
Blocked for 2 years, new life, independent and very happy
Modus operandi? Fucking Sams club. I declined his obvious flirtations for 3 years while he was married. ((Wow. Sounds like you guys should go to counseling). But years later, turning 30, I had just broken up with a guy. And I was vulnerable. I guess taking me to Sam’s club seemed innocent. We married. 2 kids. Sams club trips all the time. A few weeks after he moved out (I asked for divorce) he’s there. With his girlfriend (that he denied having an affair with years and years prior), her kids and my kids. It was absolutely devastating. It was like I never existed. 14 year marriage. 2 children. And now she’s plugged into my place with her kids like I never existed. It was surreal. But yeah. Fucking sams club.
This is stalking and harrassment that these women are doing. If you had a bad relationship with someone it seems more logical to move on and avoid him. The rest should be dealt with by law enforcement. I would never stalk an ex and I'm a female. Females should respect legal boundaries.
I'd never share my image, in fact to trust someone now days privately with how multi-media is right now, can be highly dangerous, I knew on my 20's how it would be now online. To enjoy and take care is main.
We humans have instincts and needs for sharing pleasures and eat from each other, we like to go out and hunt, is normal when you're younger, accepted on both parts, etc...however. I think adults accept what they call a 'predator' in advance because they need to have it.
💯❤
HG, do narcissists, know they are narcissists? And if they do, then do they realise that they manipulate and that what they do , is wrong?
So glad I never ran into one of these guys. I’m a dumbass.
These narcissist are demon spirits.
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Can you please separate your videos for every day people and those about celebrities? I like to watch a celebrity one here and there but there are hundreds of those for every real person example. Like your material but it’s exhausting trying to dig through them all
Mummy. Does Ms ilsa Koch’s tattooed lamp shades match the curtains?. 🦘
Is this inspired by the piece that just came out about Andrew Huberman?