Story 2. OP was right to leave the cheating wife. Besides, it's not as if she's gonna lose a lot. House was hers, lots of other things were hers, she has a lover, yeah. If OP returned to her, she'd probably say that he should leave since she found someone new or something. She checked out, he checked out too.
That last story, those aren't friends. Cut all contact with that snake. Warn your friends before she starts slithering around their men. They can do whatever they want in their relationship, but you were clear it's hands off yours. She isn't respecting that and that's a HUGE RED FLAG.
“You’re being insecure.” Is the line of someone who shouldn’t be in a relationship. If you’re not going to do your part in securing the relationship by respecting your partner’s feelings and boundaries, you shouldn’t even be allowed to date people.
S3: at least the friend approached the op and didn't try to get her husband to cheat. But yeah, time to end the friendship. You can never look at the the same again.
S1: once the ultimatum was given, the relationship was at its death throes. I am in the camp that a spouse can not have an opposite sex friend who isn't your friend first.
I gotta know, did she tell Jake about their trip b4, bc I believe that she did. Think about it: she talks A LOT with Jake, in both, know doubt, good times and bad, so we all can figure it out that she did. So then the concert is a distraction from op's relationship. She chose the concert when the time came, the ultimatum came when Jake asked her to go.
2nd story never accept that cheating was a mistake it was a conscious choice made by somebody who claims to love you, to give what they promised only to you willingly to another person. The pain that is divorce is pale compared to the pain that is lack of self-respect. Beside do you really wanna sit through all the cliche Excuses That comes out of the cheater's handbook?? " it was a mistake, it didn't mean anything, It was only sex, I didn't love him." Well my dear it really sucks to know you destroyed our life together over something that meant nothing!! Find your path forward with the light from the bridges she set ablaze behind you.
STORY2 so it's okay for her to go cheat on her marriage without him knowing, where she will be using some of her money on the affair, but it's not OK for OP to leave without her knowing, taking his OWN hard earn money along with him. If she can choose to cheat, which will need some planning and some money on her end, then she can make some plans for taking care of responsibilities. As she cheats she Is not too worried about a heartbreak, but rather having a safe haven for herself. For OP its heartbreak. So, break my heart, lose ur safe haven. Sounds fair to me.
3rd story. Unless you wish to destroy your marriage it's time to walk away or set some serious boundries from those friends. I'm not condemning the open lifestyle, but unless this is something you and your significant. Other discussed in depth prior to marriage, opening a marriage after the fact is ninety nine point nine percent, a death knell for the marriage. There is a good reason why once you get married. You seem to drift away from your single friends. Because the two lifestyles are not mutually compatible..
Story 1: UPDATE 5:15
Story 2: 9:49
Story 3: 13:50
Sarah friend zoned Jake, he's the backup plan. GTFO of this mess.
People treat you the way you allow them to. Set inviolable boundaries or dump her.
If you reach a point where you need to deliver an ultimatum, it's time to leave.
Guy thinks he's second place but really the third.
Jake probably confessed, which is why the sudden change....
Story 2. OP was right to leave the cheating wife. Besides, it's not as if she's gonna lose a lot. House was hers, lots of other things were hers, she has a lover, yeah. If OP returned to her, she'd probably say that he should leave since she found someone new or something. She checked out, he checked out too.
pretty sure Jake cancelled on Sarah, and she ran to her backup before he left
That last story, those aren't friends. Cut all contact with that snake. Warn your friends before she starts slithering around their men. They can do whatever they want in their relationship, but you were clear it's hands off yours. She isn't respecting that and that's a HUGE RED FLAG.
“You’re being insecure.” Is the line of someone who shouldn’t be in a relationship. If you’re not going to do your part in securing the relationship by respecting your partner’s feelings and boundaries, you shouldn’t even be allowed to date people.
Dump any girl who has a male BFF.
She was super disrespectful. Dump her since she is not even your GF. She is his GF and he is actively sabotaging your relationship
Story 2: you don't owe her anything.
She didn't know these things
S1- Translation...Jake was the one keeping her on the burner. Sarah tried to get Jake to commit and he said no, so back to OP she went.
S3: at least the friend approached the op and didn't try to get her husband to cheat. But yeah, time to end the friendship. You can never look at the the same again.
S1: once the ultimatum was given, the relationship was at its death throes. I am in the camp that a spouse can not have an opposite sex friend who isn't your friend first.
12:10 NTA let the side guy pick up the slack.
I gotta know, did she tell Jake about their trip b4, bc I believe that she did. Think about it: she talks A LOT with Jake, in both, know doubt, good times and bad, so we all can figure it out that she did. So then the concert is a distraction from op's relationship. She chose the concert when the time came, the ultimatum came when Jake asked her to go.
2nd story never accept that cheating was a mistake it was a conscious choice made by somebody who claims to love you, to give what they promised only to you willingly to another person. The pain that is divorce is pale compared to the pain that is lack of self-respect. Beside do you really wanna sit through all the cliche Excuses That comes out of the cheater's handbook?? " it was a mistake, it didn't mean anything, It was only sex, I didn't love him." Well my dear it really sucks to know you destroyed our life together over something that meant nothing!! Find your path forward with the light from the bridges she set ablaze behind you.
STORY2 so it's okay for her to go cheat on her marriage without him knowing, where she will be using some of her money on the affair, but it's not OK for OP to leave without her knowing, taking his OWN hard earn money along with him. If she can choose to cheat, which will need some planning and some money on her end, then she can make some plans for taking care of responsibilities. As she cheats she Is not too worried about a heartbreak, but rather having a safe haven for herself. For OP its heartbreak. So, break my heart, lose ur safe haven. Sounds fair to me.
3rd story. Unless you wish to destroy your marriage it's time to walk away or set some serious boundries from those friends. I'm not condemning the open lifestyle, but unless this is something you and your significant. Other discussed in depth prior to marriage, opening a marriage after the fact is ninety nine point nine percent, a death knell for the marriage. There is a good reason why once you get married. You seem to drift away from your single friends. Because the two lifestyles are not mutually compatible..