When Living Your Dream Makes You Miserable
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*Stupid of me* to say but if not too late y'all should consider having kids--wish I did, and you have ideal place to raise them very well.
Starting a farm from scratch is the hardest thing ive ever done. As one farmer told me: "It starts gettinf easier around year 5". It takes perseverance. Props to you from another city boy who moved to the boonies.
When you have a farm, decades worth of buried junk can and will come up year after year. It’s a never ending process of finding things that have been pushed up from depths from freezing, thawing and rain. A great metaphor for life, because when you are in the process of working on yourself, it becomes a process of recognizing and dealing with all the junk, trauma, and tons of repressed memories you’ve ignored for pretty much your entire life. They just keep exposing themselves more the further we get along in our journey. So it’s much the same, a never ending process. When you embark on the journey of self reflection and healing, it will never be a one and done thing, and you will never come to a point where you say, I’ve fixed and dealt with all my issues because we are constantly changing, and as we change, new issues arise. The point is to acknowledge these issues and deal with them instead of burying them or ignoring them for “later”, because they will always come back to haunt you until you do! Loved this video Morgan, thank you!
Well said bro
So true. Thanks for that!
Hey nothing is all roses but a balance of good and bad and what works for you. Just do your best with what you have and can create. Edit: A big part of you is to be a storyteller. Now you create your own stories instead of stories for a company.
Even roses have thorns & die! Great comment
My mom always told us “ you can’t run away from your problems “ life has proven that to be true. Best thing is to deal with them as best you can.
It's possible to bring one's strengths into a better context.
Can ran away from problems, but can't run away from you if that is causing the problems
@@HenryHarcsa The world we are in today is a zone, a region of using goodness to combat evil. A farm won't organize itself and forever has upkeep. We cannot escape this equation in this world -- that philosophically leaves the hereafter, but it would also be wrong to say this world counts for nothing at all. We can move to situations of better advantage in the equation.
Morgan, every time you speak about mental health and encourage people to get to therapy, all I wanna do is hug you. Your vibe sometimes reminds me Fred Rogers, in that you encourage kindness, emotional intelligence, and taking care of the earth. Thanks for being one of the good guys.
"Wherever you go, there you are." I've been learning this all my life, starting from life out of college, always assuming that changing my circumstances would lead to me feeling better. Once the initial disruption of situational change was past, I was always back struggling with my issues. Didn't need to pack them in boxes, I just kept holding onto them. But I'm not dead yet, and I've become more and more adept at managing my issues with ever-expanding self-awareness and an ever-improving toolbox of techniques. Thanks for being an example, Morgan!
Thanks Morgan. Really enjoyed this morning’s “lesson from Gold Shaw Farm.” Wise words with awesome critter accompaniment. Couldn’t ask for anything better to start off my morning.
I guess the question could be turned around to ask if/how moving to the farm helped you on your self-discovery process. I am sure being out of the rushing business world and into rural life affected your ability to look at yourself more clearly. It seems when there is a job that is a part of your identity, so is the stress, etc. Without that being an overwhelming part of who you are, you are likely to "dig deeper" into self-discovery. You're only a year or so out from completely quitting your "town job", it will be interesting to see how your self-discovery journey changes over time. Thank you for sharing these deeper thoughts with us, it is helpful.
That’s a really interesting thought exercise!
So true. We are not healed by changing locations. Doing the interior work is the hard work we have to do. But oh so worth it.
You have the wisdom and I hope it reaches everyone because theres sage advice in that wisdom.
I dont remember who said it first but "If you are running away from your problems you are taking the biggest part of them with you. That is you." In short the moral to the story is true happiness comes from within and shines out. It never was something you can search for and find outside in the world. I admire your desire to help others by sharing Morgan.
Thee olde saying, put a jackass in a box in Washington DC and ship it to Vermont and open the box. It's still a jackass. Geographical cures never work until you work on your inner self. Great life lesson Morgan. Great video!
Thanks Morgan, I was the exec in charge of production for both City Slickers. I was a young exec at the time but it means more to me each year I get older. Glad to hear a film we made still has some impact today. Some truths are eternal, always look for that one thing and once you find it look, for the next thing.
EXCELLENT....ya gotta peel away the layers of your life to figure out why you can't truly satisfied with your current life reality ❤
If your soul is content..then be happy. Morgan you are such a good story teller
thank you Morgan for this video. I grew up on a large dairy farm in upper Michigan, lots of work to do, but living there was the best time of my life. I often yearn for that life again, but realize you can't go back. Again, thank you for your videos, I appreciate them very much.
Yep. Wherever you go, you bring yourself. Thanks for sharing.
Love City Slickers! Saw in the theater first run... didn't see that many but did see that one. An absolute favorite. So many memorable scenes and lines.
We are kinda city slickers who bought farms... so there's that too.
Self awareness is a beautiful thing. We are always growing.
I identify strongly with today's sermon.
I lived that life.
A friend's dad used to tell us; " the two most disappointing things in life are not getting what you want, and getting what you want."
But your boy cattle are most assuredly not disappointed with the fresh grass.
I love that movie. Every job has it’s ⬆️ and downs. But if you have a passion for your work it makes it a lot easier during the hard times.
I have been told time and time again by several spiritual leaders, that the easiest way to true happiness, is to love yourself unconditionally. Just like you have to work on relationships with other people you should spend as much time working on the relationship within yourself. Yes, Morgan you are spot on when you stated you can change your environment but you are still you. Namaste.
It's either this or that and your commitment to that is just perfect when you get frustrated just take a moment step back close your eyes take a deep breath and enjoy your Blessings Love your videos It keeps me humble knowing we are all human on this planet Earth. Taking another breath is a gift itself.
Two things - great videos and thoughts about self improvement.
Second - you have a great wife wanting to support you all the way!
Wise and lucky - what more to ask!
BEWARE OF DESTINATION ADDICTION....
This has been my favorite saying for years to check myself to make sure I do some self reflection when I feel the way you are talking about . Definitely food for thought. 😊
I heard an 80 something Chinese Man once say; " There is No such thing as a human paradise " !
And I think that he was right !
You are my fave farm influencer
Yeah, there's no escaping ourselves. Learning how to spend time with ourselves, face what we don't like and why is the only way. It's hard work and can involve a serious identity shift, which can be unsettling. But, like you said, it makes all the difference, whatever your externals are. You look much happier now than in that photo you showed of you outside your house when you first bought it, so you're clearly doing something right. Love all your videos!
"You're running and you're running, but you can't run away from yourself" Bob Marley sings mildly, and I will dance to that!
When you catch the new video 41s after launch.
this is Frances Marks wife. i also have eating disorder. Man it ain't no fun. I'm gardening retired and have great peace and joy in my life, but this thing keeps showing up. Thanks for your honesty and sharing the hope. For me it has deeper search for relationship with my creator.
Wise advice Morgan. Living for the future is folly because it keeps us from living today. Be Here Now. We miss learning the important stuff. I commend your introspection and honesty about your journey pit falls & all! You are helping on such a deep level. We need to illuminate our dark stuff and suspend judgement & punishment around it. You are doing a good job as a farmer, teacher and human being. Watching you with the boys made me smile big time. I see you. Big Love ❣
So, who said life is a straight road with no detours, limits, or traffic lights. Does not exist. You are traveling on your road.
tbo if a life is all straight road with no detours, limits, or traffic lights? Sounds dull as anything, gime those scenic detours anyday :)
Your cattle, belly deep in the fresh green grass. What can be better than that? You are definitely one of the good guys,Morgan.
I find enjoying the simplest things in life makes the best therapy.
You are doing much more help to the world than you can think! Please keep it up! You are a hero to our souls! You are a role model! Please trust yourself!
Happiness is feeling at home and comfortable in yourself. Nudging has just lost its power to change people in spiritual directions. Lovely.
Morgan that was some excellent personal observations that I'm sure will help many others. Great to see the boys able to enjoy the fresh grass, I will never forget when you finally released the ladies and how they were literally kicking up their heals in celebration. Always a pleasure Morgan, all is well at Gold Shaw Farm. Thank you and see you soon!
Problems follow you wherever you go. Once you face and work on them, the feeling of accomplishment and winning is awesome. On to the next one. You are doing an awesome job and have helped a lot of people, you speak up and we think. 🎉
The process is the goal, not one mood or another. The means are the same as the end. You were miserable and challenged yourself to change. You saved, prepared, researched, and moved. Your skill levels to research, implement and maintain your farm have sky rocketed through the years. Don't sell yourself short. You chose a gritty, challenging new way of life that is intimately connected to nature, life and death.
The criteria for success isn't non-stop happiness, it's trying and doing your best at the time, and then trying to do even better than that. That's your unique contribution, and you've reached out to other people in a way that countless people couldn't and wouldn't. And you are a success at being yourself, financially, physically and emotionally.
Those moments of savoring the weather, your animals, your wife, your home grown food, your videos and postings, your neighbors and friends are all giving you the moments of happiness that punctuate the continuum of life.
Thank you for sharing all this.
i had a Geography teacher in Junior High, who would say, "Wherever you go, there YOU are." So true. And eventually, you notice you there.
No matter where you go , there you are ❤❤
I’m loving the wise and heart felt words. Great direction keep your head up.
That's a thing, everybody has to do. Cleaning up yourself. I do since some years and it ist really worthwhile. Finding out, who I am, a lot of fun, work, tears and so satisfying.
"There are NO solutions in life, only trade offs." -Dr. Thomas Sowell
This is true about everything, and life is about the journey moving towards, we don't ever fully arrive. Being complete is largely being that way inside of yourself.
Great points, no matter where you go or what you do the person you will be with most often can be the most toxic and that person is you.
As we manifest our desires into this life's existence, as conscious creators, we are always evolving and therefore our desires and dreams will also evolve. It doesn't mean that your previous desires and dreams were wrong, but you will find yourself reaching for more. It's the journey where our happiness lies, for the end will never come, not even when we leave this physicality. If you make yourself miserable by focusing on the "end" that never results, you are missing out on the scenery that is your life from your train window. Become happy with yourself by diving in and getting to know "you" and always follow your bliss. You will empower and inspire others along the way and your happiness will lie within.
Brushing Joey is such a milestone with him lol. It makes handling him a lot better when the time comes. Also, I really liked the moved you did this time around where you just gently pushed them both up to the top of the pasture. It seemed so much easier for you and them.
Love this share. Thank you. Congratulations for making it through all those early years of building the farm. I believe in 12 step programs they refer to this concept as chasing after a geographical cure... you can move, but wherever you go, there YOU are. You can't outrun yourself and your own junk.
“If I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any further than my own back yard. Because if it isn't there, I never really lost it to begin with.” -Dorothy, The Wizard of Oz
I understand what you're going through. Your message is universal🙂
Always appreciate how introspective you are Morgan! Happiness is a journey with it's own challenges that we have to overcome. Each of our roads are different but in essence we're all chasing the same thing.
Absolutely loved City Slickers, was one of Billy’s best. I grew up wanting to flip houses, not money as much as making sad houses happy & helping people get nice home at decent price. But..I went for the secure career of engineering & never liked the job but always had job & made good living, now too old to do anything, so I really really advise young adults to go for what you love or want to do, the security of a career & $ is not going to make your life happy. Morgan I’m glad you are where you love & hope Allison is too. Thank you for moving the boys! Love to see the cows out of the cow yard! 🤗❤️
Another thing folks believe is that once happiness is achieved, it's a permanent state. It is not.
I have had a wildly varied life with all manner of hobbies I pursued with single-minded focus. I found that I really loved certain aspects of all of them. In the end, I think that despite what we've been taught to expect, we just need to be happy enough. Find something that doesn't suck your soul dry. If you're very fortunate, you can find something that feeds your soul. That's still not going to make your troubled marriage a happy one or make your troubled child perfect, etc.
Life is HARD. That's not a flaw, it's a feature of this "choose your own adventure" experience we call being alive as human beings. Find the space where you're happy enough. Give yourself entirely to the moments of joy that come your way and cherish those memories. Hold close those your love. That's all we can do through troubled times.
Some of us are blessed with good brain chemistry and others are not. I've watched people who have the best brain chemistry destroy their happiness entirely by obsessing over their happiness and why they only have 90% of what they want. They cannot see what they have, only what they don't. I've seen people who wake up every day disappointed they didn't die in the night get up in the morning and, despite their struggles, grab what joy they can find and make the best of it. They leave their loved ones with cherished memories despite the fact that every single day is a day in which they have to choose over and over to appreciate what they have. A Catholic priest once told me that our struggles are blessings from God because they make us stronger, wiser, more compassionate... I hold to that. Sometimes I have to run it on loop in my mind, but I choose to believe it. And in the end, right or wrong, it is what works for me. Your mileage may vary.
Some of us never find that one thing. We look so long and hard for it that we miss the things that could have brought us enough happiness to want to wake up every morning. Some would say that this is wrong, that people should be more than just happy enough. Those folks must have better brain chemistry than I do.
I've been depressed since I was 9 years old. Moments of pure happiness or joy are so infrequent that each one stands out distinctly in my memory. Sometimes I feel like I am drowning and sometimes I feel like there's no point in the struggle. But I have found that I accomplish more by being willing to fail. So many folks are afraid of failure they never try. Try everything. Fail at many things. Find what makes you happy enough and what feeds your soul.
At the end of the day, what I have found is the absolute best gauge of what you're doing is this: are you a better person when you're doing it? If you were snatched up and your life judged by God/your Council of Elders/your Higher Power/etc, would that thing have made a difference in how well you had lived your life. I have told all my young family members the same thing: you can tell if you're in a good relationship if you're a better human being when you're with that person than without that person. It's truly a good way to gauge most things in life.
Best wishes to anyone who has read this comment to the end, lol 😂😂
You have learned a lot by trial and error. When you talk through some idea with us, it shows your vulnerability to know that you don't know it all by all means. Your humility is evident in your discussions on learning to run the farm -what a good job you and Allison do with that. Hoping you both continue to feel well and stay healthy😀
My family always says “wherever you go, there you are”. I think following your dreams also helps you learn more about yourself and who you want to be
Needed this video today - I'm moving somewhere new, in an attempt to get a sort of 'fresh start' and cultivate a space of my own where I feel more comfortable, and oh jeez having to confront the knowledge that that alone isn't the answer to an existential crisis can be a tough pill to swallow. This video is a nice thing to have to remind myself that other people go through the same thing - and can still find happiness.
It is so true, I also took all of my bad habits with me to my new life in the countryside. There are some things about yourself you can fix, some things you can stay on top of with constant effort, and some things you just won't change and eventually have to accept.
What we want in life looks good on paper but real happiness is found outside yourself. Faith Family Friends
Man, I really needed this message today. Thank you, Morgan!
I just started a new career and I found what you had to say very relevant to what I’m going through right now. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear. Your videos are truly getting better over time and your vulnerability is powerful.
Thank you for sharing your journey with us, I (and many people I love) are on our own journeys and I admire that you have shared with the world. Your vulnerability is definitely your strength!
We also ditched city for farm. It’s not all roses and nice weather but we just work through whatever pops up. My morning coffee on our deck, after doing morning chores is worth it all.
Keep on keeping on Morgan, I think it’s all worth it.
We moved from the city to the country 5 weeks ago and I am still in a little bit of shock. We only have 17 acres but it’s so different than living in a giant neighborhood. There are things I love AND things I miss. I’m a positive person by nature so I tend to look more at the good. The bad sticks out more obviously, but if you focus too much on it, it’ll drive you crazy.
"We only have 17 acres"
You are learning some great life lessons that some people never learn. Thanks for being willing to be transparent and for sharing. You may be helping a lot of other people who are struggling but haven’t yet figured out why. ❤️
I feel deeply for this episode. I have struggled for years with the fear of moving out of state to buy the farm ( connecticut is just too expensive for land of any size) and finding its not all green pastures somewhere else. I know there will be issues to deal with. I myself have struggled with depression, only self diagnosis. I do feel its so much about my job. Exactly as you describe, unhappy and unfulfilled. Its easy to think that changing my environment and life path will chamge my state of mind. But some part of me wonders, is that really it. Our lives truly are mysterious sagas
That was a very wise video. And it's nice to see the boys so happy.
Morgan, don’t be so hard on yourself. I am a person that is going through the life process of food addiction. It can be an emotional roller coaster. But it is a life long process. Sometimes you are up and sometimes you are down. I will keep praying for your success.
Excellent video! You're absolutely correct. Happiness comes from within no matter our circumstances, and it's something we have to work at.
@ 0:11 " Those Horns " in " This Film " as in Every one " Crack me up " !
ive been in a deep rut for about six years now. flunked out of college from a program i was encouraged to go into but didnt know if i wanted to deal with it (turns out i didnt lmao). i got some soul searching to do but ive learned a lot about myself and what i like. honestly, thanks for sharing that message. youre absolutely right in that you gotta work on what's inside first before trying to establish a good foundation
It's so nice to see the boys running around and eating grass in the big paddock.
Such a great episode - keep healing and growing brother. I've recently did a ayahuasca and bufo retreat and feel like i've been reborn at my healthy mid life age.
Always enjoy seeing Roy's Mountain and Harvey's Mountain in the background ...
Morgan, you are absolutely right.
We love the clip, also with yours and your wife's interview (she is so supportive btw, we love her) although it was too short, this video by far explained Your story better. Thank you for making it clearer, more transparent, and very relatable. As a regular viewer and fan, we saw how this channel started and we are delighted to see it highlighted and appreciated on TV. Just be Yourself(with the t-shirts, and all the fun and natural things you do, continue the great work with all the animals. We love to see some more trees and how the garden is growing, little gooselings running🖒👏🖒👏🖒micro closeups of insects and bees, molly and ginny cameras, abby and toby videos. Thanks a lot😀😀😀
You are so profound. Thanks for becoming out philospher farmer. Bless.
One does not find happiness. It cannot be given. Happiness is Chosen. Do your best. Be happy. Position yourself and dependents properly. Conserve energy, aka money. Seek inspiration. Give yourself to others.
The boys look so cute, those tiny horns are precious!!
No matter where you go, there you are.
This is amazing! After much dodging and weaving around, I was just beginning to tackle the possibility, that my disabilitating symptoms of weakness and migraines might not budge until I dare work away my traumas... along comes sweet, dear Morgan saying: "yupp, gotta do do that."
Thanks. Another attempt to finding psychiatric help will be undertaken!
😊😊No matter where YOU run, YOU will still be there.❤❤
I truly hope you find happiness and all you deserve you sure give alot in your videos ❤
You speak a lot of truth.
I just found your channel on yesterday I have been binge-watching it since. The content is excellent and something that can be related to. Thank you for the wonderful postings please continue you cannot imagine how much you help others bless you your wife the dogs and your farm
If following your dreams was easy, everyone would do it. The struggle is what makes it worth it. I'm sure you've grown stronger as a person!
I feel really bad for his cows having to reach under the fence so far just to get grass.
Thanks for sharing the wisdom, I understand what you were saying. Keep up the great work. Thanks for always giving advice, it does help.
Like Buckaroo Banzai said, no matter where you go, there you are.
Also, when did Amanda get pregnant? The new calfs name should definitely be Betty White.
Working in any capacity in Washington D.C. would make me miserable.
I just had a baby so I'm super late to everything so 1) Morgan did you lose weight?? 2) I'm feeling this so hard....I don't think I want to start a farm but I need passion back in my life and this comes at a perfect time where I'm questioning what changes I need to make.
Pet all the animals for me....ALL THE ANIMALS! Leave no noggin unpatted! (unless they don't want it - we respect boundaries overhere.)
@Amanda Troutman 1) was addressed in a recent video 2)yes! Must pet!
3) best wishes to you and your new baby!!
Yes! Totally agree. Also, being out in the country can really trigger a lot of self introspection! It's good to move forward though and not be that cranky older person 😉!
Love cattle updates
I found Tony Robbins helped me with my internal issues. I listened to his free podcast every day.
Good morning everyone! ✌
And exactly everyone needs to follow their own dreams
TRUTHS: Love yourself first (and if you don't, figure out why and fix it so you do). Life isn't fair (it never was, as children we're often sheltered from the unfairness). You make your own luck (by who you associate with and keep in touch with). Don't become an island, for that is how you become lost. (This is a short version of "No Man is an Island" by John Donne.)
Thank you, Morton.
Your videos are so insightful, I just love them so much. Your herd is looking fab, I can't wait to see the next update about Abby and that little calf! 🥰🥰🥰🥰