Covert Narcissist's "Humanization Trick" / Their Hidden Inner Darkness.
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- Опубліковано 13 лип 2022
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In this video, Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, gives the audience an inside look into the mind of a Covert Narcissist. Despite their overexaggerating of self-love, the covert narcissist actually severely lacks self-love, and often lives a life of self-hate and dissociation. Rarely, but sometimes, a "window" opens up where the narcissist shows their true self. This is often accompanied by a desperate display of emotions, such as crying, begging, making empty promises, etc. Ross has coined this as the "Humanization Trick."
This video is an excerpt from a full-length episode of The Covert Narcissism podcast with Renee Swanson.
Listen to it here: bit.do/covert-narc-podcast
ROSS ROSENBERG BIOGRAPHY
Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.
Ross's pioneering codependency contributions are responsible for the sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developing a treatment program that permanently resolves it.
Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops.
His global impact is best illustrated by his 22 million viewed/240,000 subscribed UA-cam channel and the sale of 150,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages.
In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.
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I lived through so many NAROPATHS..Cant. Change a alligator.unh
I was 100 percent against even talking to my narcissist and then somehow we got to talking and I was almost all in again after a few weeks of this. You fall under a spell when they start to give you what they deliberately withheld from you before, and the trauma bond begins to become reestablished. Before you know it you are serving the narc again like nothing ever happened and they haven't changed in the slightest. You can't even trust your resolve sometimes; go no contact and maintain it at all costs
😢 you are absolutely right. There is no way out of him especially if you loved him a lot. Omg he is soo clever to trick you very easily
My covert narcissistic sister did not suffer the kind of trauma that is noted here. For the first nine years of her life, she was the only child and the only grandchild, so she was over indulged. This is a type of abuse as the person remains a spoiled child for the rest of their lives.
Being spoiled is abuse
If you died right now are you a 100% sure you’d go to Heaven?
It's because you have sin all people have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
What is sin? Sin is essentially any bad thing we've ever done.
Because of sin this is is the punishment
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”
Revelation 21:8 KJV
Jesus who is God in heaven came down to Do u know why you have to be saved?
Do u know the story of Jesus? (If yes skip next step) if not do next step. God came down to earth as a man. Lived for 33 and a half years. He never sinned his whole life. Eventually some people got jealous of him and got him convicted of phony charges. He got crucified on the cross. Died. Was buried for 3 days then he was resurrected by his own power.
Do you know why Jesus went through all this bloody mess for us?
Remember how I said we can't go to heaven because of your sin?
The only thing that can wash away your sins in the blood of Jesus Christ
“But God shows his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”
Romans 5:8 KJV
God did all that to save us from hell
"Much more than, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him.”
Romans 5:9 KJV
Ephesians 2:8-9
“We’re saved by Grace through faith which is not of ourselves it is the gift of God not by works for fear any man should boast”
Salvation is not by good works like “water baptism, attending church, any good thing you do”
“For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.”
2 Corinthians 7:10 KJV
Feeling godly sorrow leads to salvation
“that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.”
Romans 10:9 KJV
All you gotta do is tell God out loud with your mouth you feel guilty and sorry for being a sinner. Then you just gotta tell him in a prayer.
“Dear God I repent as a sinner. I believe Jesus is God who died buried and resurrected I accept his sacrifice for my sins I accept him as my lord and savior”
But know just repeating these words won’t save you. You must genuinely mean them from your heart.
Narcs also have envy towards emotionally healthy people &/or partners
He even says he hates himself. One day around 12 he flipped a switch. He said he just didn't care anymore. I had a similar childhood but took the codependency path....im so exhausted. I have to get out of here.
The "Humanization Trick". I remember talking to my covert, narcissistic mother on occasions. I cried a lot in some of them. She was also gaslighting with memories that are true in some of them. She used this technique on me to keep me in this cycle of abuse she had me trapped in.
That makes things pretty clear. I hope I will stay strong as I have dumped 3 of those coverts. Thank you for all you are doing to help us understand what we are up against. Now on to healing my inner wounded child.
You are the BEST Ross Rosenberg!! The absolute BEST! Thank you thank you for all you do to help explain narcissism and practical ways to cope and to leave the Narcissist. I love your Surgeon General Warning and my favorite saying about not wrestling with pigs. You have helped me and I am reading your book “The Human Magnet Syndrome” EXCELLENT!!
My pleasure, Jan! I am so happy to hear that you are reading my book. I hope my work continues to make a positive impact on your life.
Agreed! Ross is THE BEST out here on the subjects of narcissism and codependency! He is an answer to my prayers of 43 years. I’m codependent and he is narcissistic. And my eyes are WIDE open now thanks to Ross. I’m so grateful. I can’t read enough of his books or listen enough to all his videos. They are soooo spot on! Thank you Mr. Rosenberg for saving my life.
@@RossRosenberg Ross Sir your the King of Narccisitic teachings next to Dr Less Carter !! your amazing , sir my name is Pedro I’m using my moms narcissistic Pentecostal mothers phone .. Please wish to know more about , how to break free , co dependency , and Mnay more topics , my story is long cause it also involves , Religious abuse by her and aswell my father , I’ve been Thru neglect , major sleep deprivation and such much .. any links to help me , I’ve taken too much notes … Do you think fasting and prayer can help ?
Not always the case. My parents are about the worst narcs I have known, but neither had serious childhood trauma - nothing like what they inflicted on their own children.
Neither have true remorse, but I saw my Father cry once after he almost killed us all. I remember comforting him - I was nine years old. I realize now that he was crying for himself not for what he did.
I thought the same about my father. The terrorism he did with his family was far beyond the terrorism he suffer from his family of origin I believed, but just after I got much older I discovered that his mom, my grandmother was in a mental hospital once, she was physically and psychologically violent with her children and she also was abused by her parents, although the rash parenting style was considered as something “normal” for their time. I do believe trauma is transgenerational when not recognised and treated.
@@timfaithfull9317 Agreed 👍💯
Honestly, trauma is less about what can be witnessed from the outside, and much more about how the child internalized their pain based on their own perceived experience. I learned this from Gabor Mate....look him up, he is amazing.
You claim they had no childhood trauma, yet it is impossible for you to know if that is true, unless you lived their lives foe them.
@@I-md6mq I said serious childhood trauma (as far as I know, of course)
I think you’re insights are so deep in this area. Among the best. This explanation is deep 👍
They don't go away when you leave they hoover" either online or in public
So now everyone can see I'm a one-person team. The person closest to me does not behave to my benefit if not doing harm which I doubt.
This is very helpful. I can really see the wisdom of this discovery of the”magnetic attraction.” How does one become healed enough as an SLD to attract a healthy individual; and perhaps be attracted to a different kind of person themselves?
I can’t wait for this episode!
The huminizing trick worked with me a good few times,glad to say i noticed the pattern, it took me 34 years though before i divorced him.
I believe there is hope for everyone HOWEVER as Richard Grannon calls it " toxic passivity".
For the SLD Co dependant to HOPE although we learn these facts about disordered people.
The single hardest things I've ever dealt with as I raised her child also.
Peace and love to ALL
This is going to be really good
All these behaviors are also those of the wounded people devoted to their relationships internally to the point their identity is enmeshed. These are the behaviors of the betrayed.
John Belushi 😂😂 omg so true 🤣
@♜ ʀᴏꜱꜱ ʀᴏꜱᴇɴʙᴇʀɢ nope 👎
Are the worst..Dont catch NO NO..FEELINGS FOR THOSE .AND GOD I MEAN...THOSE ..
I'm having a problem with figuring out what of those 2 types you explain. My father was an alcoholic but I cant remember him without either being affected by alcohol, drunk or grumpy when he didnt drink. Everybody else loved him. The only person I know he was mean to was me and my mother. Am I codependent or that other type ?
I think he's saying that codependence is the same as SLDD (Self Love Deficit Disorder) which is his term to both define and explain what co-dependence is. And then there are overt and covert narcissists who are also damaged but hurt others and try to trap people into loving them.
So you would most likely be co-dependent/sldd from your childhood unless you have now also become an abuser who doesn't mind hurting others to get whatever you want. (And usually narcs aren't trying to get help from sites like this because they don't think they have a problem...they get what they want out of their manipulations most of the time so they have no motive to change.)
@@ChristianOne I wish I had no fault of my own but not even close. I try my best not to hurt others but I know that I have issues that are difficult for others being in a relationship with me. Thank you ⚘️
@@msnorway79 Thank you for your honesty. Well, we have all been desperate sinners in one way or another. In my opinion, the ONLY hope is to Recieve Jesus as our savior, repent of the bad things you've done...renounce them, and try to keep the commandments from now on, repenting daily. There isn't much time left and I want all to be saved, the abusers and the abused if they are willing to be changed by God. The BIGGEST problem with narcissists is the pride that won't let them repent and receive a changed heart from Jesus. He can forgive and heal ANYTHING if you REALLY are sincere. You admitted you have flaws already, you're already partway there!
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Interesting Ross....so do they just get to pick and choose which human traits are human like drinking g or stealing or rape. I'm a survivor so I'd thought I'd ask
How would a covert narcicist react if you sent this to them?
by being victim and call you abuser
And the last one is… Replacement! What do you know?
Oh yeah, CV mother was psych nurse for years. Ya.
I'm sorry Ross, but I disagree. It has been my experience that these people love and worship themselves. It's God and anyone who comes against them that they hate. I have come late in life to learn to take my compassion hat off for these people. They belong in prison or, if a modicum of willingness and humility can be found, a lifetime of rehabilitation of character and education of spiritual principles. This CAN happen in a life in a flash and become permanent. It is rare, in my experience.
Ive NEVER met a npd who had any bad trauma! But I have! . I have horrible experiences and traumas. Amd I do not go around ruining other peoples inner core! Npd is genetic , not due to abuse! Thats a myth.. Ross have many good points but he is wrong here. Most npd have arressted development due to smothering from the mother and genetics that fit.
This is sick. "Humanization trick" ? These are humans. You speak out of two sides of your mouth when you say, "And they show you who they really are on the inside" and then in the same breath you say "its a trick."
Absolutely tremendous, Thank you Ross, You're absolutely beautiful, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe 🥰🛸👽🌈👁😃🌷⚘️🧿💞💎✨️😁💫🧝♀️🌌🤍🦄♾️⚘️😊