6 Things To Look Out For During Court Battles With A Narcissist
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
- Facing a narcissist in court is terrifying… Because you know they will do anything in their power to punish you, discredit you and make your life a living hell.
Then there’s the mounting legal costs, the possibility of you losing everything you’ve worked your entire life for and they may even go after the custody of your children.
This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm in ways that will empower you.
I believe that a narcissist can be beaten in court… In fact I’ve seen time and time again, when you understand what I share in this Thriver TV episode, that the narcissist unravels, their lies fall flat and they get exposed for who they really are:
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Its funny how you divorce them to get away from the abuse, but they keep attacking you on any level. Does it EVER end? 😥
Hi ShanVanGogh,
Here is a resource that can help: blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-ignoring-a-narcissist-who-tries-to-punish-you/ Love and blessings xoxox
@@MelanieToniaEvans Thank you! ❤
Gosh i hope so 😭
Nope. You need to get special therapy and that way you can see it and handle it.
18 yrs and still paying lawyers/ going to court😩
they will always use the children and try to alienate them from you
Hi William, this may offer you some comfort hun blog.melanietoniaevans.com/what-to-do-when-youre-alienated-from-your-child/ xoxox
So messed up and evil. I would never do this to my son so it baffles me how my ex is doing this
Exactly right!
William my ex husband did this to me. He actually manipulated our daugter at 11 telling her the judge said she isn’t allowed to see . Lies! The judge yelled at him for saying “she doesn’t want to see her mom...” he got yelled at. Who’s the parent in your home!???
Gabriela Martinyuk :( hope it’s gotten better for you
COURT ORDERED CHILD ABUSE is at an all time high
I have been dealing with a narc in court for 10 years in 3 cases. Your spot on. Highly recommend this video.
I have ignored the narc even though he called . Then text trying to be nice . I never told him I was pressing charges .. Glad I ignored him . Sicko got served .. Never let them know what u going to do .
Treat life like it's a game of chess
💯👏
Classic narcissistic behavior. Never let the other party be informed of the truth 😅
Yes i learned my lesson in relationship did things different after break up cuz we have child he does know anything i got going on
Never letting them know what u going to do is what a narcissist does...only someone who is out to get someone does that non sense rather than try and work things out...
I am in a 4 year battle with this. My child is 5 and it has been so exhausting. Everything point she made in this video is what I'm going through and more! The judge said that my case is one of the worse cases they have seen in court history! I have to look for a therapist for my 5 year old. This is the worse experience I have encountered in my life.
I’m so happy my ex doesn’t know how to keep her mouth shut and doesn’t think things out properly. I have kept every text and calls my attorney also has documented things she has told him. While she digs herself deeper in the hole I’m just sitting here patiently waiting for our court date.
That's because they never think they will be held accountable.
Good luck! Same scenario here!
Ditto that...just when you thought you were screwed they act crazy and dig themselves into their own holes...it's really quite surprising...my narc made all of these insane videos online and then quickly deleted them after their lawyer I'm sure told them to...tooo late got all the evidence I need as well...
as a lawyer, but also a victim of narcissistic abuse from my ex wife, i must say that this is a very useful video. congratulations!
Wow! This is a timely message. I went through this and I'm Still going through this.
Me too! It's been 6 years since the divorce and STILL have legal issues weighing down on me.
@@lindapooh1970 hope things are improving x
@@Kate-vx7qh Thankyou!! After 7 yrs. STILL going to court on the 25th. Really praying for positive resolution.
And I bet you're still through it! These never end.
This is good advice but if you believe in God trust him you will win this wicked spirit in that person.Once you don't fight him fleshly you will win.This fight with this person is spiritual this person need to be delivered from that spirit that is using him to come up against you. know what is fighting you, and you will win.
A female narcopath can turn an application for a family violence protection order on its head - and make false accusations against her target to gain one herself - with all the legal advantages that entails for her, the supposed victim. :(
Yes. 100% yes.
Yup going through this right now! Files a petition with a domestic order, beats her daughter four days later 🙄😫! My ex is a narc and my husband's ex, omg our hands are full!!!🙏
@cray Smith so true, dealing with this now and my elderly father..she is manipulating and controlling him...using his memory loss as a tool to turn him against me in a legal battle.
This happened to me.
Just get a close trustworthy female friend, our your sister (for you men) to beat the absolute shit out of her, like I did with my brothers ex, plant narcotics on her possession and lure her into believing you're on her side, once you got her cornered call the cops and tell them she's threatened your life, and subtly inform cops you feel like she's on drugs or something, because she never acts this way, and also inform them you believe she has drugs on her, by saying you saw an unfamiliar person come to your home uninvited, and she got in the car with this person and quickly got back out. Once the police hear those words she'll be searched however, you must inform the cops that she put you in great fear by having said person come to your home, and once they find the narcotics on her, it's good buy custody for her. The only way to defeat a narcissist is to play dirty, and the only way is to convince her that you're on her side and gain her trust. And that my friends is how my ex sister-in-law got 2 years in prison, but the most important thing was, she DIDN'T get custody of my nephews, my brother got sole legal and sole physical custody of the boys, and she only gets supervised visits, for one hour a week. You've got to play dirty and sneaky with a narcissist.
Outstanding advice. I’m dealing with this very thing as we speak and wow it’s been one helluva ride. Emotional roller coaster
Melania, I did your recovery program two years ago, months before my trial date for custody with a narcissist. He was self represented and was able to question me. He was not able to "hook" me in at all. I just wanted to let you know that the narcissists visitation was suspended and he hasn't been in our lives for two years. I owe this all to your wisdom and your program. I followed much of the content in this video. It was by far the best advice I've ever been given and self work I've been needing to do for years. Couldn't thank you enough, thank you so so much.
You are very, very welcome sweetheart. I'm so glad that I was able to help you through that very difficult time. I know so many in this community go through awful divorces. It's wonderful that you shared your experience here. Thank you so much for that. It helps people to know that others have been able to succeed. There is a way to do it. Congratulations Steph. Well done! Love and blessings Dear Lady xoxox
Wow. Listening to this 4 years after the video was out but still relevant! Bless your work Melanie! 💥💥💥
This is the BEST BEST advice I've gotten over the almost 3 years of court battle with my ex husband.
Thank you
Absolutely spot on information Melanie! Sharing on my channel to help the falsely accused everywhere. #SpeakTruth
Exactly where I'm at. Thank you for reminding us that we have the power to protect ourselves. It is very frustrating that he accuses me of abusing my child and holding my child from me despite having a custody arrangement in place. I'm just strengthening my self-respect, self-esteem, self-worth, emotional detachment so that I don't get carried away emotionally when he starts the manipulation in court. I find that ignoring them and no eye contact during court proceeding helps. Thank you very much Mel!
You are so welcome Angeli and a great tip for the court proceedings - no eye contact, give them no energy whatsoever! Much love to you and your child xoxox
This video made me feel 1000x better. Thank you so much.
You are awesome Melanie!
Excellent and very helpful solutions to this incredibly difficult relationship. I've experienced that when I'm able to be calm the narcissist often goes into a rage.
Hannah Brown, you are too precious to be with a narcissist!
Omg...my soul is finally healed!! And Yes!!! You are so very awesome!!
Thank You so very much!!!!!
You are very welcome sweetheart. I'm so happy this helps. Love and blessings xoxox
Having been married for 32 years to a professionally diagnosed spouse with NPD and in litigation for over 4 years - this video is the best advice I've ever seen on the matter.
You been married 32 years to a narcissist? How is that possible omg
If this didn't describe my daughter's mother, I don't know what could. She exhibited about every single point made. I'm glad I was already ahead of the curve before I even watched this. Thank you for helping me regain confidence in dealing with her and that you showed me I've been doing it the right way this whole time
Same
I'm going through the same now. My ex is a covert narcissist textbook case. Real evil. Trying to protect my toddler daughter.
You've helped me in so many ways within such a short time... Thank you once again for your wisdom!!
It is my absolute pleasure Usagi, I am happy to help. Love and blessings to you xoxox
This was hard to hear because it made me angry at how horrible narcissists can be and so ruthless ! I am going through everything mentioned in this video so thank you for the advice very smart points and advice
I'm so glad it helps Priscilla. Love and blessings sweetheart. xoxox
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I want to Thank you so much! After 34 year's I left and 10 years later, back in Court just weeks ago! Your Videos will be much appreciated!
I am sorry. I know what you are going through. I will say a prayer for you. Good luck.
Been there. And her father was a. Attorney. The judge bent me over and took my kids.
I am going through part of this battle too. Five of the kids are all grown up so it only one child to deal with. Let me say this they are of their father the devil and if you don't do this in the spiritual realm they will win this is spiritual this is not the person fighting you this is a spirit in them,so it make them coming up against you. These people are bitter.
Thanks for sharing ! I have been dealing with a sister that has been wildly abusive toward myself and our parents financially and psychologically.The strategy of filing a restrainning order against her is an excellent concept.
Melanie .. you are amazing .. I am going back to court yet again after 6 yrs he is a covert narcissist , his female lawyer overt .. .. I have been listening to this over and over ...
Thank you for your kind and supportive encouragement
Gracias, Thank you for this thoughtful and helpful video. Very kind of you to offer all of this important information so that a person who is dealing with this type of person can better protect him or herself. This is SO important, especially if a person is a parent.
Your videos are very informative and I appreciate the information that you are sharing with others
I love this lady she makes me feel comfortable with dealing with this narcissistic district attorney in Alameda County.
Thanks for this video Melanie. So helpful. I really appreciate your support.
It's my pleasure Butterfly. Blessings to you xoxox
Thank you for helping me understand.
Three years ago I found you as a result of an awakening prompted by intuition something was not quite right
I read an article you had authored.
Since then, devaluation, discard, deletion. Loss of home, children, job, family, everything except one very important belief. Me
Thank you for your for courage . I kept hearing this Australian voice in my thoughts assuring me I was not alone in this nightmare
Thank you, 'down under'
Heading into this Monday
Very timely
Thank you!
Perfect timing, as always! Thanks.
It is my absolute pleasure Angie and I'm pleased this is helpful for you and perfect timing. Good luck sweetheart you sound like you have 'got it'. Love and blessings to you and your child xoxox
👍❤much love to you Melanie. Thank you for sharing this insightful heads up. You are a wonderful mentor 😊
My pleasure sweetheart. I'm so glad this helps. My love to you too. xoxox
Here I am, watching this, Again. A year later.. Still dealing with this toxic person. Been gone from there for 13 years. Narc is remarried. Now it’s the constant MSA objections!... so far, 6+years of lawyers. They never stop. My mental cost from stress is profound. Thank you for your helpful support.
Beautiful woman, and what a great delivery of this matter. Someone give her an award. Ps: excellent advice!
As usual perfect advice. Another great educational video.
Thank you Chris xoxox
Wow thank you for sharing your knowledge and making this video for us❤️
Prior to the final custody hearing- i was given some very good advice- Stay calm & even key - no crying- raising of voice- or showing weakness. Only answer questions with facts- no heresay- if you can get printed copy of any conversations bring along. My goal was to always have my kids living in myhome. I succeeded
Jennifer Thom thank you!!!
How did you win?
@@teawtamarah ..Well..as i said before...try to be as calm as you can ..always in court...but also from the get go with spouse...I am not sure how it went with anyone else- but we had an " incident " which then he could not admit to the depth of- however it made him 100 percent opposite of the man I married & father of our kids. Within 30 days...he up & walked out of our home - & with another woman. That was first big deal...LEAVING HOME-FAMILY&RESPONSIBILITY - about 80 days later I was served with divorce papers. That gives a person usually 20-25 days to get a lawyer & respond to the temporary hearing- Our kids were 16 & 6 at the time-had basically kept away from us..til court..i made up my mind that nothing mattered except maximum time with the kids& I paid out on house..i kept the kids stable..in their home.going to school..their every care & need. Well court here is all about 50/50-
@@jenniferthom4066 how did you get full custody? I go to court this week with my psychopath husband
@@dc3011 document everything that you view as psychopath behavior... The guardian ad litem will tell the judge what is best for the child if she/he feels having sole custody is best for the child that's what she'll tell the judge and the judge normally goes with the flow
Absolutely 100% truth.
I destroyed 3 Attorneys and and a PhD in court using these skills. And they are skills.
Well how?
Thank you Melanie for this video,it was very helpful. Really appreciate all the video's you do.
I've been in court with 2 narcissists and one of the things they do in excess is lie lie lie. That's the one thing I would say stands out the most. One has to be prepared, as they twist everything. As the video suggests, in stating they have such a sense of entitlement, that I believe they have convinced themselves of their own lie and will put on an award winning performance before judge and legal aids.
It's the stupidity of the judges and solicitors that never ceases to stifle me. With all their education and credentials they fail miserably in basic human perception. I do believe those who are involved in law are themselves narcissists.
You are so welcome Em Beedee, I'm so glad this helps. Love and blessings xoxox
I noticed thats narcissists also like friends that are narcissist too.
Then they gang up on you stonewalling and devaluing you
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a permanent restraining order on your female partner.
The system is biased against you and you need to be especially careful at the manner in which females can play this well-known path of false allegations to your demise.
Placing a permanent restraining order for domestic violence on my female partner was the single best act for my safety and protection of my adult. No regrets!
I'm so glad I just listen to this. It was a gift the universe is working for me. My ex-boyfriend who I was on the web for six months and 16 years my senior was very persistent with me moving in with him. He's very wealthy and play the game really well. I left him five times in six months and he will come chasing after me. I would leave him after one of the episodes would happen and he would come chasing after me and be that wonderful incredible man that I fell right into it again. A month ago we were in East Hampton I have moved into his house right before
This is very useful,I wish I knew some of this before !
SAW THE TITLE. GOT EXCITED. Can't wait to see this video. Old GF narcissist stole my lifetime collection of movies on VHS, Laserdisc, DVD, and Blu-Ray worth over $20,000. I want to take her to court but got a gut feeling that I would be better off taking the $20K loss silently, than endure the anguish her lies and twisted story in court would bring in front of me to try to defend myself against. Really looking forward to the insight the video will give me.
The first 4 minutes answered my question . . . but I watched the rest of the video anyway. Very well done and packed full of truth.
Thank you first of all .
This is helping me so much .
God bless you.
beautiful beautiful advice! In our last mediation, i sat there as she accused me of sexual deviance, drug dealing, illegal tresspassing, among other allegations. So badly i wanted to defend myself vigourously. but I just sat there without interrupting her and calmly asked her what proof she had (she had none) of any of her allegations when it was my turn to speak. I let her go on and on and she dug her own hole, because she accused me of some really bizarre and physically impossible things proving to all there she was nutso! The mediation official later said when she interrupted me " Ms____,, please refrain from interrupting....this woman (me) remained quiet while you said your piece, and to tell you the truth, i don't know if even I could have remained quiet in the face of your allegations...." wow. Thing is, i was emotionally very raw and it took every ounce of emotional strenghth i had to sit there and endure her vile allegations without blowing my lid. I cried on and off for weeks afterward, so horrible it was. I agree that its important to be calm,and i really tried, but i could feel my hands and legs trembling under the table and i was so uspet, i simply could not think straight. Thank god I had practiced answers beforehand, like "I'm sorry you see it that way" "do you have any proof of any of your accusations?" "that is unsubstantiated" etc. We have another similar meeting coming up and i pray i can stay truly calm so that i can think! LISTEN to Melanie when she says DO NOT LOOK THE NARC IN THE EYES. I did and it really really made me more unsure, scared, and flustered. Whyi is it so hard to NOT look them in the eyes? In the future i will not, and instead will look at whichever offiicials are involved. Thanks for this. I'll be watching over and over till this is resolved.
Gosh I wish I would have known this years ago. I lost my children to they're narcissistic father because I completely freaked out in court. I was so scared and suffered PTSD. There is also a long story but I just want to say thank you for giving people this information
He is still ghosting & it's more than 4 months. I know it's the calm before the storm. I'm so tired of this!!
Oh how I love you Melanie. I swear all your videos recently have been speaking to what I have been going through. I'm going through a custody battle now for my son who I have been the primary caregiver of and the narcissist is trying to keep me away from him because I finally broke it off. I immediately got a restraining order the next day and filed for full custody the next day. I'm just waiting for the court date. When I tell you I have been doing my homework and doing the inner work I realize everything happens for a reason and I never realized how strong and powerful I am until now! Thank you for all you do you literally are speaking to my soul and I will live with this wisdom in court and beyond so that I get Justice for my son and myself. Peace and blessings HAPPY HEALING THRIVERS 😄🙌🙏✌️💖
Aww truly gorgeous gorgeousgoddess
I send you all my positive thoughts gorgeous goddess. It's true you do not know what you are capable of until you are out under extreme pressure. I lived with my family until was 30 then married this monster and lived with him for 8 years, I had never been independent for example paid rent or bills myself. Now I am stuck in Sweden away from all my family in London and learning the language in preparation for my court date next month.
Many blessings and positive thoughts/energy to you too Uzma. I'm holding the space for the best things that can happen for you. Much love xoxox
Uzma Ahmad thank you for your positive thoughts beautiful soul. I know you can get through this I can't imagine how hard it so to be in another country with no family but I know your angels and the higher power are with you. I'm praying for you now and I know the angels will protect you and guide. In the mean time FOCUS on what you can do and remain positive and forgive the evil narcissist not for him but for you. everything will play out in your favor trust the process and work on healing as well. Your story sounds similar to mine....I was with a demon for 8 years because I didn't know my worth and believe in myself. I relied on his income as well. Now I'm living on my own and God is opening doors for me. All you have to do is believe, continue to be a beautiful soul and work on healing yourself. I promise miracles will happen for you. God bless you and much love and healing I'm sending your way 💖✌️💝😘
Thankyou Melanie, at this stage I’m shifting to thoughts of ‘does it really matter’ for contentment and joy is from within and not from without. Love your work and encouragement…
I pass a bit of reading I’ve been doing and feel inspirational thoughts…
‘Higher consciousness by definition calls us to be vividly aware. Consciousness is to be more conscious of the full picture like seeing reality from the top of a tall building where you see the wider picture instead of down in the basement through a little window that’s all you see. At the top you see the full picture and that’s an example of shifting consciousness’s’. (Theodore Nottingham 2015).
So let’s bring that shifting consciousness to our situations.
Remember the expression: They can dish it out but cannot take it. Now congratulate yourselves for you have taken that that the other cannot do. Then truly I say to you who is the stronger of the two.
You are very welcome Dafydd. I'm so glad this helps. Love and blessings xoxox
It's like you are a fly on the wall in my house! I have a custody battle that has been going on for over a year. Everyone seems to believe him and not me, it's driving me crazy, this man keeps telling lies and is getting away with it. I am so scared of him and what he is capable of, like a curse you can't seem to escape from. I don't know what to do because I whatever I try to do doesn't work or it makes things worse. When will this all end, I just want to live with my two daughters in peace.
Uzma Ahmad sweetheart I can understand. That's the narcissist plan to keep you in FEAR. That is part of their supply as Melanie would say. Please meditate and only think positive thoughts and positive outcomes and get into that feeling like it's already there. There is NOTHING to be afraid of. It's an illusion. The universe has your back you just have to realize it. As Melanie says so within so without. What you feel on the inside is what will attract. Take your power back my dear. Work on all the things you can do to protect yourself and heal yourself and I promise you will see miracles. The narcissist is bound to fail because of their own deep traumas. Misery loves company. I'm speaking from experience, I was in absolute terror two weeks ago when I broke up with a narcissist and he tried to take my son away from me and when I calmed down and started thinking logically and not letting my emotions get to me the police intervened and now we have to exchange my son every two days! Now the next step is full custody. I believe in myself and you should too. You got this love 🙌 ✌️💝
Hi Uzma, gorgeousgoddess has really said it all sweetheart (thank you gorgeousgoddess
Uzma Ahmad. You're not alone. they're are others.
Been there done this!! God bless us!!🙏
Let Go My Ego I feel really bad for your son. I have a friend at school who has a narcissistic father and he was to go to house house some times in the week and he gets beaten and beer bottles thrown at him. I hope nothing like this is happening to your son.
I lost it in court I was blindsided and said why are you doing this to me.. After I was begged to go back and I went. So I got another charge in court because I said something in court.. I was totally set up and could never understand whyyyy
Brilliant Melanie! ❤️🕊
Good stuff shared with a friend who is going to court this week seems to get triggered emotionally by the Narcissist.
Wow let me know if its works out I wish I had restraining order on my ex narc
Very insightful ! I have a group of narcissist that will not stop ! IDK what to do about it
Hi Woodie, this may help hun blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-wont-the-narcissist-leave-me-alone/ xoxox
Thank you so very much for this advice
In my opinion in many cases usualy we do not stand single one chance against them in courts.
Especially if you don't know u were with a narc!!😔
You gotta be smart
@@rogerr6322 be smart sis
Thank you, have two court cases with mine, family and criminal for his abuse, 9 months in and he is starting to unravel as I did not take up the Hoover attempts either, these videos are so empowering 🙏🏻🌈💫 thank you
I couldn't disguise my emotions during testimony, but that didn't count against me. Crying showed everyone that I'm a human being who has been hurt by everything entered into evidence. I documented the boundary crossing and abuse for months and made it clear in court that I endured the unthinkable rather than coming to court without enough evidence to ensure I would be believed.
Did it work vs the narcissist
That’s going to be me. Airtight documentation, in order to be credible in case I lose it emotionally during our court date.
Thank you for the information
I defeated the narc in court after I prosecuted him after an assault (one of many). Mel is spot on so do heed her advice. The narc knew way more than I did about the legal system and I still won cause I did what Mel speaks about in the video. Try to seek support from close ones who understand, those who dont understand avoid. The narc initially convinced the Police I assaulted him even tho I was injured not him! Thankfully, an independent witness came forward at the scene who confirmed what had really happened. Just stay within whilst they play these games. In the UK, for domestic abuse related cases, you can request special measures which includes a screen in court so the defendent cannot see you. Reiterate repeatedly to legal agencies including your Solicitor, esp CPS ones, you want a restraining order as the request is not usually shared with them and they have to make the request to the Judge. You can do it just remain True to you! Xx
So easy to say, What if you have no one for support.?
Good advice tks! In my personal case, an experienced lawyer was what gave me, finally, a real chance to win over this N in the courtroom, after fourteen years, Good luck!
I've got a better way, get a trustworthy friend or relative, (in my situation it was my brother that I helped) to lure the narcissist into believing you're on thier side, and you're willing to testify against the other person. Once you've gained thier trust, lure them to your place always! Try to stir up an argument, but do so In a manner that he/she won't just storm out of your house, excuse yourself to "cool dowm" call the police, and inform them that this person is in your home threatening you, and you believe they are on drugs because thier behaviour is not normal, and that the narcissist had an unknown person come to your home in an unrecognized vehicle, inform police that you saw the narcissist before the argument, get into the unknown person's vehicle and promptly get back out, and that you're afraid for your safety, once they come give them permission to enter your home and politely ask them to search the narcissist, you must do this step away from the other person as to not be heard. Once the police find what you planted in thier possession, it's all over for the narcissist, and they can kiss thier custody goodbye. Pleas note; you must plant enough narcotics on the narcissist to get an arrest and a felony conviction for possession with the intent to resale, you must also do this as close to the custody hearing as possible. Good luck.
Currently going through hell with ex/father of child. For a while there's been nothing on paper, no child maintenance it's all been cash in hand control. My daughter is 7 she went to her dad's at weekend. His girlfriend took a naked bath with my 7 year old. I bought this up tried to set a boundary and it's turned into a full blown battle I'm getting all sorts thrown at me all manner of threats. All because I tried to set a boundary of inappropriate behaviour. I feel sick can't sleep and still can't believe his twisted mind what his reality of situations is. This guy has been in and out of our lives for years when he's in discard mode. As the years go on it gets worse to deal with him and its starting to break me down. Thankyou for your videos/book and the fantastic information x much love
I should've listened to this before court yesterday. I definitely failed to not engage his lawyer or him.
You didn’t have a lawyer ?
The narcissist knows what triggers you. They always have
Thanks. Court this morning 🙏
Currently going to court with evil narcisstic in-laws and they used my addiction to say im unfit even though I’ve been sober 3 years. The judge completely ignored why we asked for time away. They drink daily and being in revovery I don’t want them around for a while but now the courts believe them so I need help/advice so thanks for the video ! Makes sense.
Get medical evidence where you can - provide evidence of being sober, maybe photographic evidence of your place showing it is well looked after and good for family. Discredit in-laws who lie. Watch other UA-cam videos on how to handle narcissists eg Rebecca Chung and
Dr Ramani.
Good luck from England. 🙂🕉️☯️🙏✝️
Thanks Mel. You said a big thing Dr Les Carter said "narcissistic supply" - after 11 years of vexatious litigation, stalking, cyberattacks, et cetera. I'm no longer reading, replying, or attending court to defend myself. I've been the sole custodial parent of my sons for their entire lives. But, my ex keeps taking himself to court since I won't respond and then "winning" as he "needs" to. Let's hope he'll find peace when he gets everything he wants. I pray he finds his own purpose once he realizes I am in firm in not fighting him anymore and he can feel what it's like to lose all contact with me when/if I lose custody and leave the country. Only 6 more years until the eldest is 18 - he already knows his dad lies to him, even about him (the 11 year old). Woe to the rest of the women in the world that have endured even 10% of what this man has put me thru. Why god has allowed it I'll never know. A man can rape a woman, stalker her, hack her, hack her bank accounts, make her lose employment over and over and over, abuse her, threaten to kill her, abuse her children, and then gain custody. What a truly horrific fact that God has signed off on.
My manager's ex emigrated to Oz with their 2 children in order to escape the narc. Couldn't get away far enough.
The manager remarried and continues to spread toxic control but I sussed them !
Thank you very much Melanie for this video. I am going to have few court trials with my terrible psychopath ex wife. She did so many dirty sins and crimes on me topping with the fact, she came home 6 months pregnant with a black man while my son was 20, daughter 18.5, and still blaming me for her terrible sins. Since she is obese 170 kg I was so disquieted of it beside multiple man cheating.
Thanks for advice
Thank you so much .. Jane
I wish I had your information before my situation. It wasn’t a case of custody but I bought a house with a man I was engaged to - this was a long time ago. When the relationship ended- I had to accept I’d been discharged . He went abroad and said I could not live there as it was his house! The upshot of this was he threatened me with court and eventually I got so intimidatedI gave in. How stupid. Nobody could understand. Thanks for listening
Great video! The cat is sweet.
Hi Mel, thank you as always, for the great advice!
Question: What is the "family wizard"?
Hi Denise,
I'm happy to help. Here is the link to this internationally accessible, practical and highly valued service. www.ourfamilywizard.com/product-features
I can't recommend this enough for people who are experiencing abuse or manipulation in their correspondence with a narcissist. I hope this helps you. Love and blessings xoxox
Thanks for this advice, im currently going through the divorce with the covert coward
Already having a written statement prepared will help with staying calm and not going off the rails . I'm dealing with my mom ....
Thank you abundantly
Okay Melanie I'm starting to get a little freaked out because I literally have a court date with my ex narc two weeks from tomorrow to reverse a restraining order he got against me for false claims of stalking etc LOL like I'd want to stalk him. He only did this because I was trying to RUN from him. I'm nervous about what might happen but I take your video as a sign. thank you so much for your help, you're a guardian angel!!!❤🙏😇😘😘❤❤❤❤
Kate Grace me too. My hair is standing because my Narc did this and still is doing this. The judge is unbelievable falling for his manipulation and charm
Tracy Williams make sure you have lots of concrete evidence... not even charm can reverse concrete evidence that proves and SHOWS the truth of who he really is.
You are SO welcome Kate and good luck with the court date. If you would like to take the healing journey further I would love you to join me in the free healing workshop in which you will experience two healings which may help to calm you a little before the court date. You can access the workshop here sweetheart www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Love and blessings to you xoxox
Melanie Tonia Evans thanks so much Melanie xoxo ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
sg2011 Thanks so much, sending you light & love ❤🙏
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Lulling you into a false sense of security is so right. Nice behavior is only a set up for their main goal which is ulterior motives of their own selfish agenda. Scary thoughts are their undisclosed information. You know there is something wrong, but often you can't come close to to seeing what it is, & yet want to fight.
But how do you fight an invisible problem of only getting half truths?
Dig, listen, & remind yourself you're never going to get the full truth. Don't believe every word that comes out of their mouth. Soon you will note the contradictions between what they say now & do latter.
Get to the bottom yourself. We want to trust our spouse, but if they're a perpetual liar, it will never happen.
So trust in what you discover & know your in charge of your beliefs. Don't let them put words into your mouth or confusing ideas in your head. The time will come when you can make your move. Until then yes, write your observations down. Go out of your way to have a secure place to store them; preferably outside your home, & probably outside the car. Any place he can gain access somehow is the wrong place. They are sneaky & have no qualms about searching through your personal items.
Lastly. PRAY! You are going to need all the help you can get.
This is great! Me and my attorneys are looking for information like this. Are you a licensed professional? I hope so. I didn’t see anything on your links... please respond. Either way you are full of great information! Thanks so much!
I am a healer, 'licensed' by life experience and Source Stephanie! xoxo
Melanie Tonia Evans I know life is a great teacher. In court I need “professionals” they will give credence to. I’ll send this video to my attorney but I’m sure he’ll doubt stuff. He always wants drs and licensed professionals etc. I really appreciate you though. This is so hard. It’s been 14 years of hell. I walk away with nothing but it’s worth it to get out and no more violence or control. I’ll actually be able to see my granddaughters more than once a year. Dinners with my kids. Girls night out with friends. Freedom.... thank you.
@@stephaniespring9779 hope you are not with a narcissist cause you are too precious!
I wish I had seen this before my court case. My ex did ALL of these things. He convinced everyone in court including my own lawyer that he was golden and now my son lives 700 miles away with my ex. I have lost my faith in the court system and have a hard time trusting others. The only thing that has helped me begin to heal is that I am finally free of fear and have had time to work on myself now that I don't have to care for my son on a daily basis.
Cheryl Carle,you are too precious to be with a narcissist!
Well the narcissist used the restraining order and harassment on me trying to work out during our custody battle
I am about to battle against a narcissist.. I’m so scared
Hun, I'd love you to take my free 16 Day course, a narcissist will absolutely feed on that fear- but you can seal up those gaps and sail powerfully through the process and I'd love to show you how. www.youcanthriveprogram.com/freecourse Love and blessings xoxox
Same. Sending Love.
You have a beautiful home. A really beautiful home.
Now you tell me.. Mine lied to get an order... Then lured me in set me up after I was begged to go back with them and I did then after I felt safe again my ex set me up.. Turned in text and phone calls and sent me to jail then became relentless... Who does that to someone. Playing on emotions and feelings is so messed up
Am going through this now, so far six court appearances and still not divorced.
THANK YOU
Thank you
They are constantly looking for an opportunity to con...Dont get angry, dont get emotional ..Control yourself and stay calm...be emotionless...be quiet..
🌈🙏💜thank you! You are beautiful
Thank you 😎
"she's crazy or on drugs" that's my x's mantra in court
1: before court he tried to convince me he wanted to make promises and get "along"
2: said i was a drug addict, prostitute, and borderline disorder in court.... it was without evidence he won because of my reactions
3: omgsh... him and his mother. the constant threat is to lose my children; and amen on truths you are speaking
4: he lied over 20 times in court. i just stood there and cried. so now... we are going back. me much smarter and with transcripts
5: is desperately attempting to take custody and before court he tried to force me into signing away my rights
6: he uses his mom, xs, and his gf. i have been attacked by everyone but him so he looks innocent
7: HUGE mistake I made; I tried to placate and speak truth
I just want to be free and raise my children in peace.
I hope you're in a better place now
Also, its important to realize that at least 70% of people either wont understand, or simply wont be smart enough to wrap their heads around what you just went through -- and YES, police, lawyers, and JUDGES are high on that list. So be prepared to be disbelieved, assumed crazy, or heavily scrutinized. It's not like you havent been to hell and back with the narc (or many) anyway. Be strong.
I am going through this now. To make matters worse, her lawyer enables her. If you are in this situation, please find a lawyer that will believe you.
Most lawyers are incompetent, corrupt, and think they know best.
The lawyer I am facing is an unethical practitioner and should be disbarred.
Bless You
Lawyers are instructed and paid by their clients. Lawyers pretend to believe their clients are honest and truthful. Lawyers in the UK will say, write and do anything for money, even if it's harming families, communities, society, the country
They are not governed properly, they're unaccountable. They are instructed by CEOs, who are the lawyers' employer. Company laws govern lawyers, jurisprudence allows them to interpret and reinterpret rules for their own benefit - financial benefit.
There are no checks and balances. Guilty until proven innocent.
Cah.
Lawyers at h althcare regulators are notoriously dishonest about front line workers - under the instruction of the whistleblowers' former 'managwrs'
Deceit. D
sold their s to D
My narc baby dad is gonna try and grab custody of our daughter just to keep from paying child support... he refuses to get a job or an income of any kind apart from bumming off family.... I already thought ahead.
This is what my baby daddy is doing right now! He makes 68,000 a year
My Narc is perfect and will never expose herself.