If you’re divorced and remarrying, consider a “no-nuptial” agreement. It gives you rights, but “divorce” isn’t handled in family court MuslimMatters did a good article on it in 2020 For men getting married for the first time, insist on a prenup and set terms that suit you If she refuses, next…
@@NaveedHusainI’ve got a crazy story but I’ll say this… young men should have an abundance mentality and feel comfortable making their stipulations clear up front. And they shouldn’t be afraid of walking away. Acquiescing leads to resentment. Resentment leads to butter, ugly conflict.
Brother Naveed, I have a somehow close person who married her husband in Egypt while stipulating on the nikah contract that if he divorces her he must pay an x amount of money. I fully disagree on this for many reasons but he accepted it as his now father in law cornered him and made this “request”( demand?) on the last day before the nikah… I still think he could have stood up for himself and said no, but with all respect some men are silent and give in, which makes women disrespect them in the long haul:( Can you tell me if such a condition is allowed in islam?! Thank you very much 😊
Generally speaking, these types of clauses, usually known as muakhr are allowed if both parties agree. As for whether it would be enforceable under islamic law in the situation you outlined would be a better question for a scholar.
Generally minor kids that require full supervision are placed in the custody of the mother. After a certain age of maturity the kids are supposed to be placed in the custody of the father. Islam is quit elegant and straightforward and practical in recognizing the matching of the specific caretaker (mother versus father) to the growth phase of the child. Obviously both the father and the mother are crucial and ideal in the raring of children. Mother brings nurturing, father brings discipline. Unfortunately Feminism is continuing to spread the poison that men and women have absolutely equal rights, while at the same time evading absolutely equal responsibility and ownership of consequences from delinquent behavior. For example, the Feminist society laughs at a husband who gets slapped in the face by his wife. But turn that around with a Husband who barely slaps his wife in the face, and the Feminist society accuses him of being a monster who needs to be locked up!
I understand what you are saying. But at this point, wherein most people seem to believe that if a woman is saying the man is abuser she is most likely just saying to get leverage as opposed to speaking truth - from my personal experience it has been an uphill battle for me to convince imams of our community (who were at one point involved) to now standing in court in front of a male judge. Another important point, when a woman follows islamic traditional lifestyle and prioritizes her marriage and children for over a decade and then finally accepts that the man she married will not stop abusing her and is willing to kill her if he feels like it - she is the one who does not have any house to live in, anyone to pay for the lawyer, anyway to feed the kids until EBT kicks in. And talk about audacity, this woman is told she should have thought about it before she asked for khulah. Our community tortures a woman for doing right by her husband and her kids. Our community destroys the woman who tries to protect her children. No one believes until the father's abuse makes it to the news, and we have headlines of a muslim man murdering his wife and his kids. No freaking one stands by her, not even out muslim lawyers, who too need money for their kids' universities so they would knowingly take clients who have abused and attempted to kill their wives. They would stand in the court beside them and protect and support them like Firaun's supporters. So no sir, I have no sympathy towards our male focused society and an utterly oppressive community. "Muslim men" support each other in abuse and oppression of women. They protect each other at the expense of women of this ummah and their children. They cover up each other's nasty dust as though a day is not going to come when this earth is going to speak of each and every ounce of what was done on it.
Im sorry but i feel this discrimination in islam too. From the notion of 'qiwama' in marriages enabling emotional and physical abuse towards without them able to retreat, to the divorce and custody laws in the sharia, that kick a man out of a house he paid with years of work, and taking away his rights in seeing his chidlren, but yea, this discriminatory is not exclusive to the west sadly, we as men should evalute society's values before marching forward.
@@NaveedHusain The prenup may protect a husband's assessts on divorce but is not gonna help with child support and custudy (parenting) conflicts . Also, the prenup can not protect a husband from fake domestic violance claims by his wife, a common practice by women intending divorce. Yet, a well-written and well-excuted prenup is advised.
@@priusa8113 The red pill and blue pill are metaphorical terms that originated from the 1999 science fiction film The Matrix. In the movie, the main character Neo is offered a choice between taking the red pill or the blue pill. The red pill represents a difficult but transformative truth about reality, while the blue pill allows him to continue living in comfortable delusion.
@@priusa8113 it is about male/female relationships that is it. The blue is everything is okay and she can do no wrong. The red pill is understanding male/female nature. Your last comment was talked about in red pill terms you wanted to test your future husband to check if he has the ability to stand his own ground and it did not work. Many women do this is it is called testing his frame most men however are unaware of this behavior so they give in. The woman wants a man who is dominant and can not be controlled or swayed by manipulation. The blue pill of this was that your future husband didn't see this and most likely lives with the motto happy wife happy life but doesn't understand what you are attracted to. You wanted him to give you some push back but he didn't. If he negotiated it would have been a good sign but he would have recognized your behavior.
@NaveedHusain : Today non-Muslim wives who initiate, especially no-fault divorce, are enjoying general social support for walking away from their marriages: "You do you, girl!" Should we expect to see this trend in Muslim communities in the US?
Islamic Law does not allow women to abuse men. Important to know if you have four wives and 30 children. That is a large family to support ! Unfaithful women get what they have earned. Drug abusing women lose their children. There is Mercy & Justice for families. Islamic Law is much older than USA.
If you’re divorced and remarrying, consider a “no-nuptial” agreement. It gives you rights, but “divorce” isn’t handled in family court
MuslimMatters did a good article on it in 2020
For men getting married for the first time, insist on a prenup and set terms that suit you
If she refuses, next…
"no-nups" or cohabitation agreements may be a good idea in many states, but unfortunately, they are not binding in Illinois.
@@NaveedHusainHow about a prenup in Illinois? Is that legally binding?
@@NaveedHusainI’ve got a crazy story but I’ll say this… young men should have an abundance mentality and feel comfortable making their stipulations clear up front.
And they shouldn’t be afraid of walking away.
Acquiescing leads to resentment. Resentment leads to butter, ugly conflict.
Yes, these can and usually are binding when done properly with a lawyer.
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Brother Naveed, I have a somehow close person who married her husband in Egypt while stipulating on the nikah contract that if he divorces her he must pay an x amount of money. I fully disagree on this for many reasons but he accepted it as his now father in law cornered him and made this “request”( demand?) on the last day before the nikah… I still think he could have stood up for himself and said no, but with all respect some men are silent and give in, which makes women disrespect them in the long haul:( Can you tell me if such a condition is allowed in islam?! Thank you very much 😊
Generally speaking, these types of clauses, usually known as muakhr are allowed if both parties agree. As for whether it would be enforceable under islamic law in the situation you outlined would be a better question for a scholar.
What’s the child custody like if we apply Islamic rulings ?
Generally minor kids that require full supervision are placed in the custody of the mother. After a certain age of maturity the kids are supposed to be placed in the custody of the father.
Islam is quit elegant and straightforward and practical in recognizing the matching of the specific caretaker (mother versus father) to the growth phase of the child.
Obviously both the father and the mother are crucial and ideal in the raring of children. Mother brings nurturing, father brings discipline.
Unfortunately Feminism is continuing to spread the poison that men and women have absolutely equal rights, while at the same time evading absolutely equal responsibility and ownership of consequences from delinquent behavior. For example, the Feminist society laughs at a husband who gets slapped in the face by his wife. But turn that around with a Husband who barely slaps his wife in the face, and the Feminist society accuses him of being a monster who needs to be locked up!
I understand what you are saying. But at this point, wherein most people seem to believe that if a woman is saying the man is abuser she is most likely just saying to get leverage as opposed to speaking truth - from my personal experience it has been an uphill battle for me to convince imams of our community (who were at one point involved) to now standing in court in front of a male judge. Another important point, when a woman follows islamic traditional lifestyle and prioritizes her marriage and children for over a decade and then finally accepts that the man she married will not stop abusing her and is willing to kill her if he feels like it - she is the one who does not have any house to live in, anyone to pay for the lawyer, anyway to feed the kids until EBT kicks in. And talk about audacity, this woman is told she should have thought about it before she asked for khulah. Our community tortures a woman for doing right by her husband and her kids. Our community destroys the woman who tries to protect her children. No one believes until the father's abuse makes it to the news, and we have headlines of a muslim man murdering his wife and his kids. No freaking one stands by her, not even out muslim lawyers, who too need money for their kids' universities so they would knowingly take clients who have abused and attempted to kill their wives. They would stand in the court beside them and protect and support them like Firaun's supporters. So no sir, I have no sympathy towards our male focused society and an utterly oppressive community. "Muslim men" support each other in abuse and oppression of women. They protect each other at the expense of women of this ummah and their children. They cover up each other's nasty dust as though a day is not going to come when this earth is going to speak of each and every ounce of what was done on it.
Im sorry but i feel this discrimination in islam too. From the notion of 'qiwama' in marriages enabling emotional and physical abuse towards without them able to retreat, to the divorce and custody laws in the sharia, that kick a man out of a house he paid with years of work, and taking away his rights in seeing his chidlren, but yea, this discriminatory is not exclusive to the west sadly, we as men should evalute society's values before marching forward.
Oh no the red pill is real 😮 should I become a passport bro now?
Or get a prenup
@@NaveedHusain The prenup may protect a husband's assessts on divorce but is not gonna help with child support and custudy (parenting) conflicts . Also, the prenup can not protect a husband from fake domestic violance claims by his wife, a common practice by women intending divorce. Yet, a well-written and well-excuted prenup is advised.
What does red/blue pill mean?! I honestly don’t get these terms lol
@@priusa8113 The red pill and blue pill are metaphorical terms that originated from the 1999 science fiction film The Matrix. In the movie, the main character Neo is offered a choice between taking the red pill or the blue pill. The red pill represents a difficult but transformative truth about reality, while the blue pill allows him to continue living in comfortable delusion.
@@priusa8113 it is about male/female relationships that is it. The blue is everything is okay and she can do no wrong. The red pill is understanding male/female nature. Your last comment was talked about in red pill terms you wanted to test your future husband to check if he has the ability to stand his own ground and it did not work. Many women do this is it is called testing his frame most men however are unaware of this behavior so they give in. The woman wants a man who is dominant and can not be controlled or swayed by manipulation. The blue pill of this was that your future husband didn't see this and most likely lives with the motto happy wife happy life but doesn't understand what you are attracted to. You wanted him to give you some push back but he didn't. If he negotiated it would have been a good sign but he would have recognized your behavior.
@NaveedHusain : Today non-Muslim wives who initiate, especially no-fault divorce, are enjoying general social support for walking away from their marriages: "You do you, girl!"
Should we expect to see this trend in Muslim communities in the US?
I think it's here already. It is not very different from the support women receive from taking off their hijab.
great message until you inserted your religion into it.
Islamic Law does not allow women to abuse men. Important to know if you have four wives and 30 children. That is a large family to support ! Unfaithful women get what they have earned. Drug abusing women lose their children. There is Mercy & Justice for families. Islamic Law is much older than USA.
RELIGION IS THE ANSWER TO ALL OF SOCIETIES MESS