Emotional Intelligence 101 - Woke Wednesdays

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  • @husseinjanmohamed3239
    @husseinjanmohamed3239 3 роки тому +219

    Seeing you two eat with your hands just made me so happy in a way I can’t explain. I guess this is the power of representation. But I guess always being made to feel like eating with ur hands is uncivilised leads to this. To see two people eat with their hands in a UA-cam video and just upload it online for millions to see. And then not even address it or mention it, like it’s the most normal thing in the world. Just made me feel good

  • @aliabdaal
    @aliabdaal 3 роки тому +469

    goood stuff

  • @avishi
    @avishi 3 роки тому +177

    this whole video looks like couples therapy but Sheen's the therapist and the spouse 😂

  • @thefoodcoma7021
    @thefoodcoma7021 3 роки тому +233

    Waiting for Ali's 'GOOD STUFF' comment😂

  • @kabirkhanna7845
    @kabirkhanna7845 3 роки тому +64

    I am not going to deny that part of the reason why I subscribed was because Sheen is Ali's roommate. But I am really liking her content, especially videos like these. :) Looking forward for more of Sheen!

  • @shanasbeautifulmess9826
    @shanasbeautifulmess9826 3 роки тому +61

    I love how Sheen highlights even the slightest flick of empathy/emotional relations in Ali and make him comfortable to open up more. I admire your patience Sheen. 😂😂😂

  • @niapranee
    @niapranee 3 роки тому +74

    I don't know why, the dynamics between you and Ali is just bomb! 😁 I feel soo entertained watching this video 😄

  • @JeremiahTang
    @JeremiahTang 3 роки тому +64

    I know they have their separate podcasts but....they need one together !!

  • @lifewithshreya7758
    @lifewithshreya7758 3 роки тому +19

    I would really want a friend like Sheen. She is so sweet and just empathetic and caring. Literally the best type of person to be around

  • @LM-gc2cf
    @LM-gc2cf 3 роки тому +79

    Being empathetic is quite draining emotionally. It's amazing when people are doing good, but I know i REALLY struggle being around my loved ones when they are down. As I feel completely sucked into the vortex of their unhappiness, I will often try to avoid/flee their presence. Sometimes, some distance is necessary to help people best (some! not like telling you you act like a 13 yr old lmao whatadick)

    • @tedlovejesus
      @tedlovejesus 3 роки тому +4

      Well... but the truth is, when you are empathetic, you can sense people who are actually hiding their sorrows/pain/depression, it’s not just FEELING, but the capacity to understand why people feel a certain way, that enriches us as human, that shared experience and sentiment made us understand each and closer, it’s not just feeling, but taking time to process and know why people process different emotions, it’s not OH I AM SAD, when people express emotions deliberately usually there’s a hidden meaning but, when you are willing to understand, is different, it’s not OH you have too much emotions and refusing to empathise with others’ feelings but,
      I am not willing to process others’ feelings and why people feel a certain way that’s alienating the world

  • @nidaa5819
    @nidaa5819 3 роки тому +47

    Loosing a child is one of the worst things that could ever happen to someone. I empathize with those people the most.

  • @mumbilebo5846
    @mumbilebo5846 3 роки тому +31

    I love your personality sheen. I love the type of content you put out as a woman myself. I also feel like Ali is more human in your videos.

  • @MalihaUlfat
    @MalihaUlfat 3 роки тому +7

    This is actually one of the best videos on Emotional Intelligence!

  • @elaschannel942
    @elaschannel942 3 роки тому +14

    One thing to add to you empathy conversation is how important books and fiction and learning is helpful toward understanding other people's feelings (even if you yourself have never experienced it).

  • @swapnenduhazra
    @swapnenduhazra 3 роки тому +13

    At 10:30 I feel how the food was getting dropped and the reaction of Sheen internally. Really love these talks while having food.

  • @suki7333
    @suki7333 3 роки тому +4

    What a lovely personality you have, Sheen. So glad I found you through Ali.

  • @neetib8094
    @neetib8094 3 роки тому +6

    Th last "Byeee" is soo cute... Ali's haircut is making him look even cuter❤️ And Sheen, I really relate to you A LOTTTT. Fell in love with your personality since the Relationships Q/A video came out❤️

  • @j.g2354
    @j.g2354 3 роки тому +13

    'I think praise is problematic.' Ali being influenced by Taimur too much from the podcast hahaha. As always, such awesome stuff from Sheen on this channel, love it!

  • @esabkhan7901
    @esabkhan7901 3 роки тому +83

    Okay so this random thought came into mind that sheen is not using ali abdaal's name in her video titles to get more audience , and i think that it should be appreciated because i think she wants genuine audience that do not watch videos because jus because ali abdaal is in it.
    She wants audience that is interested in her stuff.

  • @katiewilkinson5593
    @katiewilkinson5593 3 роки тому +13

    Sheen, you have a wonderful heart and are so kind to others. I think more people should subscribe to your channel, it's beautiful to see and listen to how people respond/open up in your presence. Thank you for being you and sharing😊🙌

  • @immanuelkrokrant
    @immanuelkrokrant 3 роки тому +10

    I love woke Wednesdays with Ali! Your dynamic together is amazing:)

  • @jassimkoya
    @jassimkoya 3 роки тому +10

    It's just so wholesome watching the two of you eat and chat away... Kinda feel like a friend sitting with you and sharing your meal and thoughts! Looking forward to the next one Sheen! ❤️

    • @humerahumera5856
      @humerahumera5856 3 роки тому +1

      Yes this is so different and nice. Makes us feel that we are with them .

  • @immanuelkrokrant
    @immanuelkrokrant 3 роки тому +19

    *Clears throat*
    ..
    ..
    Good stuff

  • @jarrodsio
    @jarrodsio 3 роки тому +2

    this is very podcast-y. I listen to your banter via headphones around the house. The piano music in the background, plus the warmth of your relationship and vocal tones makes this very ASMR. Kudos.

  • @humerahumera5856
    @humerahumera5856 3 роки тому +1

    I just cannot tell you enough . How much I am in love with the conversation.
    That example Ali gave about Sheen being upset was so good. And their expressions and Sheen saying all this is hypothetical right was so good.

  • @mathabahassan3471
    @mathabahassan3471 3 роки тому +26

    Can you please teach us how we can be emotionally intelligent but not to the point where it drains us? Like caring too much for others has caused me so much pain in the past and I've invested so much time being the "therapist" to others to the point where I just forgot all about myself

    • @Amelia-ys2qy
      @Amelia-ys2qy 3 роки тому +2

      i couldn't relate more! Because of the same reason you mentioned, I've experienced such pain approx 2 years back in my third year of med school that now I want to be like Ali, i want to stop caring about people and going above and beyond my means to help them.

    • @HusnaReads
      @HusnaReads 3 роки тому +1

      It starts with knowing your limit. I’m also an empath, to the point I could cry listening to someone’s struggles. Worse if I've experienced the pain, I’d remember it for weeks... months.
      When you know you’ve reached your limit, or this is the conversation you shouldn’t involve in or the social group you shouldn’t be in, that’s when you politely say NO.
      Save your energy to serve another group of people that’s less draining your energy and benefits more from you. 😊

  • @thisisarika
    @thisisarika 3 роки тому +3

    I love this format of a casual chat while covering such deep topics! Love watching you guys communicate

  • @neetib8094
    @neetib8094 3 роки тому +14

    2:05- Ali's acting skills are cool
    No wait, Oh my God Ali, you act Soooooo welll ... That's Amaaazing😉

  • @ShirazChanawala
    @ShirazChanawala 3 роки тому +3

    Sheen is brilliant. So articulate and intelligent.

  • @AlexandraK712
    @AlexandraK712 3 роки тому +4

    I love these Woke Wednesdays with Ali; also I'm glad Sheen was able to eat in this episode unlike last week lol. You're awesome Sheen!

  • @GalsaTjarib
    @GalsaTjarib 3 роки тому +8

    We're In Ramadan and I'm so hungry while watching u guys.....
    Great video as expected

  • @simranrajian6276
    @simranrajian6276 3 роки тому +2

    I was smiling like an idiot throughout the whole video. It’s so good. More of this content pls. ❤️

  • @sokuntheaphork1066
    @sokuntheaphork1066 3 роки тому +4

    I guess to Ali empathy is more like a decision, he definitely recognizes or feels it, it’s just a matter of whether or not he wanna do sth about it, whereas for Sheen, being emphatic is sort of her natural or even default reaction to things.
    On a side note, I really enjoy this segment, hope you continue to do more of it ❤️ Thank you 💕

  • @lesluvlux
    @lesluvlux 3 роки тому +21

    That look when he says “the friends I care about”... as if he has friends he doesn’t care about?!?! LOL

  • @mariamelsayem
    @mariamelsayem 3 роки тому +2

    I love this friendship! You two need to start a podcast together 🙌🏻

  • @Lavender_flower9
    @Lavender_flower9 3 роки тому +1

    This video is so warm , I wish I can be surrounded by people have the same thoughts and personalities as yours one day .

  • @sinemcelcius
    @sinemcelcius 3 роки тому +3

    Ohhh I am starting to enjoy this format, feels warm.

  • @a.b.haider304
    @a.b.haider304 3 роки тому +1

    The vibes in this video are unreal. Well done, Sheen and Ali!

  • @aliii_1184
    @aliii_1184 3 роки тому +2

    Very interesting video, Sheen, as always. Love your content. Lots of love from Spain!!!! 💕💕💕

  • @alihussain6432
    @alihussain6432 3 роки тому

    yes Sheen is a warm, empathetic person. I can get the vibes just from the screen. I wonder how great she must be in-person.
    Loving these conversations!

  • @nishthasinha1749
    @nishthasinha1749 3 роки тому +7

    I think from a young age, women are taught and rewarded for being more warm and empathetic and men to be more stoic. I noticed this in the 5000 subscriber video also, but again, women are taught to be under confident and also infantalise themselves.

  • @emanabumadi3813
    @emanabumadi3813 3 роки тому +49

    You guys should do the 16 personalities test.

    • @Fnndjkvlf
      @Fnndjkvlf 3 роки тому +2

      @irène Or an ENFJ. A lot of the stuff she described was dominant Fe.

  • @salehaiqbal9511
    @salehaiqbal9511 3 роки тому

    Ali takes criticism even on camera he is very humble It takes courage to even listen when someone straight up calls you mean and not a feeler ..

  • @gretchencanada495
    @gretchencanada495 2 роки тому

    Thank u for creating woke wednesday. I felt like i finally found that circle or friends and great conversations.

  • @hannahnygaard8404
    @hannahnygaard8404 3 роки тому +1

    Sheen, I love seeing your channel grow. I first subscribed to you because I liked your appearance on «not overthinking». I am looking forward to seeing more of you! I have watched every video of yours as of now, and I am becoming a bigger and bigger fan of you 😊

  • @madscarvalho
    @madscarvalho 3 роки тому +2

    Woke Wednesdays always make my day better

  • @nishitasuresh7756
    @nishitasuresh7756 3 роки тому

    This is super relatable Sheen! I'm just sitting here and feeling - YES! I KNOW RIGHT?

  • @SnehaSrik
    @SnehaSrik 3 роки тому +1

    You both have such a good dynamic, I feel like both of your EQ's are high but you just express and portray it in a different way. I would happily ask both of you for life advice and I trust that you both would actually listen to me and help me work through it (even though I don't know either of you in real life but if we were to be friends haha)
    I completely get the constantly monitoring of emotions as well. I actually work as a resident assistant at my university residence and whenever I see/hear of one of my residents feeling off I almost feel like its my fault (its a strength and weakness) I guess there is such a thing as over-empathetic

  • @AkachukwuMadueke
    @AkachukwuMadueke 3 роки тому +3

    I just love Sheen!!!!! 💛
    You're so adorable 🥰

  • @AfroLatinaPTY
    @AfroLatinaPTY 3 роки тому +1

    Minute 2:02. is so funny. In this I can sometimes relate to Ali, and sometimes to Sheen, depends on the day and situation. Good stuff guys, loved this video.

  • @vrd1978
    @vrd1978 3 роки тому +7

    The way Ali throws the Chapatis is stylish.

  • @candychebet896
    @candychebet896 3 роки тому +1

    If he doesn't think you gas him up, it means he has never doubted the things you compliment him about. Looool! :-)

  • @salemmalibary4194
    @salemmalibary4194 3 роки тому +42

    I think he learned that " good stuff" isnt passing the 101 class

  • @fairuseakter6990
    @fairuseakter6990 3 роки тому +5

    Ali's comment "Good stuff" is equal to "OH MY GOD!! I CAN"T... THANK YOU SO MUCH!! AH THIS IS ABSOLUTELY INCREDIBLE!!!" XD

  • @jessicac5301
    @jessicac5301 3 роки тому +2

    I wish I could decide if I want to turn my empathy on. Listening to this was so entertaining to see the differences in personalities. Logical mind vs. emotional mind. As someone who always has Empathy turned on like Sheen, it gets exhausting! lol

  • @shinydsouza6286
    @shinydsouza6286 3 роки тому

    Listening to it on a Thursday! Such good vibes ❤️😘 lovely Sheen :)

  • @Monalisa-ls5tt
    @Monalisa-ls5tt 3 роки тому +1

    This is a great conversation!

  • @saeedanasir
    @saeedanasir 3 роки тому

    Awesome choice of topic for Woke Wednesdays Sheen. Love your conversations with Ali and gotta say being a person who has desi silky hair, I LOOOOOOVE your hair. They are so kool.

  • @haseena1001
    @haseena1001 3 роки тому +2

    Hi Sheen - It is through conversations that we can explore and discover a deeper understanding and alternative perspectives of people. Interesting topic for sure! 😊💛

  • @Poojachahar0101
    @Poojachahar0101 3 роки тому

    Love love love . Just love your vibe . Honestly jealous of Ali ! U are a great person to share a home with

  • @noura7151
    @noura7151 3 роки тому +1

    I love these talks so much waiting for part 2

  • @muhammadatif25
    @muhammadatif25 3 роки тому +2

    Listening to all this stuff, it makes me feel that real partners do not notice each other that much deeper than Sheen and Ali lol. Btw I loved how Ali talked about stuttering coz I am one of those people who do stutter.

  • @tinestudios
    @tinestudios 3 роки тому

    I was similar to Ali. I realise some of it is from my past. Feeling secure would probably free you up to care and think about others. Being a perfectionist is also thinking you’re not good enough. When you feel worthy and enough you wouldn’t be thinking about what’s wrong with you. Sheen you’re so awesome! Ali too!

  • @AydinNasirzadeAZE
    @AydinNasirzadeAZE 3 роки тому +6

    Guys, i am obsessed with you. Today I saw you two in my dream. 😐
    Food sharing was absolutely cute at 17:51. When am getting a friend like you guys 😭

  • @flex391
    @flex391 3 роки тому

    I can sit and watch your videos for HOURS Sheen! God I can’t wait for school to end so I can binge your videos for hours without the constant worry of exams haha!

  • @rizwanakhan2982
    @rizwanakhan2982 3 роки тому +9

    Watching this while fasting and I think I watched the food more than the video😂. But great video though

  • @fieldofdreams7771
    @fieldofdreams7771 3 роки тому +4

    Watching while I just break my fasting.

  • @Esxae
    @Esxae 3 роки тому

    Hope you both continue making videos together because they’re so interesting to watch; love your personalities and this friendship.

  • @saravananvelayudham772
    @saravananvelayudham772 3 роки тому +25

    Ali it’s better to say goodbye to your gym shark athlete dream!! Haha😂😂😂😂

  • @kaykhan4100
    @kaykhan4100 3 роки тому

    I am so glad I have been introduced to you, Sheen, through Ali's videos. I love the format and the focus of your channel. Looking forward to going through your older videos and watching your upcoming ones. :) This was a great session! It was eye opening on so many levels.

  • @farjanaprodhani9326
    @farjanaprodhani9326 3 роки тому +6

    They are just adorable..❤❤❤

  • @tanviranjumahmed4091
    @tanviranjumahmed4091 3 роки тому +1

    Great stuff Sheen!!! I hope you hit 100k subs milestone soon!!! 😀

  • @asmitasaha8097
    @asmitasaha8097 3 роки тому

    Loved every bit of this, Sheen! The way you talk about empathy and all the examples are so on point💕

  • @hyacinthzia9892
    @hyacinthzia9892 3 роки тому +1

    Sheen I love Woke Wednesday’s!
    Btw loving your curls! Would love to watch a vlog on your hair routine.

  • @jashra1
    @jashra1 3 роки тому

    You guys really are an exemplar of how one can learn, even while building our own brands, and behind tons of work, especially how flatmates or roommates could act as a catalyst in it!

  • @fatennaseha
    @fatennaseha 3 роки тому

    For some reason, I would get ready for your video by finding something to eat first. So it would feel as if we are all eating together, while me listening you two having conversations. Good stuff.

  • @anubhavchakravarty1894
    @anubhavchakravarty1894 3 роки тому +1

    Don’t know if you’ve noticed, you have around 5000 views and 5000 Subcribers. Everyone is watching your videos. Keep them going we love them. Gonna support you throughout your UA-cam journey. Also say hi to Ali from me :)

  • @agataadino1322
    @agataadino1322 3 роки тому +4

    Something ealse came to mind as well: a big part of this emotional intelligence dynamic is also the way people are socialized or the expectations put onto them by their Enviroment. I know from home and from most of my friends with immigrant parents, partly rooted in patriarchy, is that women are forced more to be empathetic and socialized to be that way which is why ppl say we have "soft power". Men on the other hand are not made to fulfuill these roles and usually take less notice of others feelings. Just a thought

    • @agataadino1322
      @agataadino1322 3 роки тому

      Women are made to be constantly be aware of our surroundings for various reasons (safety etc) and we are socialized to not make anyone uncomfortable, to not cause problems, be passive, not take space up. This makes us generally more emotionally intelligent and read feelings better.
      This is a generalization and obviously cultures and situations vary greatly

  • @sarasadeghi1628
    @sarasadeghi1628 3 роки тому +2

    I think when we develop a deeper relationship with people that we love or love hanging out with or spend time together empathy becomes easier and unconscious. you don't have to actively consider people's feelings.

  • @mlxlmewq7733
    @mlxlmewq7733 3 роки тому +3

    I don’t know why I started laughing so much when he said he qualified in communication skills from Cambridge 🤣

  • @ranganayakivenkatraman6352
    @ranganayakivenkatraman6352 3 роки тому

    I've watched all your videos and I love your content ! Ali is lucky to have you in his life. Please keep the content coming ❤️

  • @padminisivakumar8274
    @padminisivakumar8274 3 роки тому +2

    hii, amazing video- Ali and Sheen, looking forward to more :)

  • @hereissaba7619
    @hereissaba7619 3 роки тому +9

    "Ali take the bloody hint and do something special for my birthday" was the clear message I got out of this video. LOL 😂

  • @Dr.anisatariq
    @Dr.anisatariq 3 роки тому +27

    Sheen after this video checking to see if her birthday is saved on Ali's calender. 😂

  • @valeriacabanavillegas2300
    @valeriacabanavillegas2300 2 роки тому

    Me encanta este tipo de videos porque hablan con tanta naturalidad sin exagerar nada siendo ustedes mismos, siempre me recuerda el tipo de amistad que quiero tener.

  • @lisama2748
    @lisama2748 3 роки тому

    Love the vibe and the topic!! I was here becuz of Ali but Sheen really sparkles! So guess I’m sticking to the channel really ♥️

  • @usefulthings518
    @usefulthings518 3 роки тому +9

    The video title should be “how my flat mate eat my meal productively “
    Nice pair

  • @AyashaAbbasy
    @AyashaAbbasy 3 роки тому

    I love Sheen’s vibe 🙆🏻‍♀️♥️

  • @aishwaryasathyam4393
    @aishwaryasathyam4393 3 роки тому

    No no , there is nothing to change(regarding empathy) with Ali. He is perfect.

  • @dannyyip
    @dannyyip 3 роки тому +1

    I love the banter you guys have 🤣

  • @solabomioyebiyi131
    @solabomioyebiyi131 3 роки тому

    Having a conversation with two of you would be the funniest thing ever to happen I'd just keep laughing and just watch two of you talk

  • @tulmajok3562
    @tulmajok3562 3 роки тому +1

    This was my next video plan LOL 🤣
    But I like both of you so much...
    Nice video ❤✌🏾

  • @wr7817
    @wr7817 3 роки тому +2

    You are an absolute legend 💪🏽

  • @laurenzojames
    @laurenzojames 3 роки тому +1

    sheen's personality ❣️✨✨

  • @shotsndocs
    @shotsndocs 3 роки тому

    keep em coming. i loved this one, sheen!

  • @SerenaShah
    @SerenaShah 3 роки тому +1

    Haha I love that you guys both eat your food with your hands!! So wholesome

  • @ariaalarie828
    @ariaalarie828 3 роки тому +2

    Sheen's facial expressions are priceless 😂

  • @siquanwu3131
    @siquanwu3131 3 роки тому

    Love the idea of ‘it’s not worth of my time now’

  • @jarudhirathod8572
    @jarudhirathod8572 3 роки тому

    Your conversation is amazing love to hear from you. ❤

  • @vaneezahamid5389
    @vaneezahamid5389 3 роки тому

    I really love these episodes
    Always have something to learn
    Thanks for woke Wednesday