Girls do THIS when you're her backup option (Psychology of women)

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  • @Joyanima
    @Joyanima  8 місяців тому +18

    Have you ever been in a situation where you were always the one making plans or reaching out? How did you handle it, and what was the outcome? Sharing your story in the comments section could offer insights for others navigating these dynamics 🤔

    • @patrickdaigle5239
      @patrickdaigle5239 8 місяців тому +6

      I've been there several times. Being rejected/friendzoned/played/cheated... I am better at recognizing it and walking away now. I am worth it. Thanks Anna for your vidéos and advices. So Adorable🥰❤️🥰

    • @HivisoftheScale
      @HivisoftheScale 8 місяців тому +1

      Hmm... I suppose I have. I just kinda figured I was her "support plan". Like a friend to turn to when she is in trouble.
      I doubt there is anything there, but I'll keep my eyes open for these signs.
      Another good video. Are you like a professional doctor or something? You is smart!

    • @azharmunief491
      @azharmunief491 8 місяців тому

      by any chance do you have a coaching call or anything you do?

    • @gauge-vx4wq
      @gauge-vx4wq 5 місяців тому

      My GF has a BF

  • @tdrive398
    @tdrive398 8 місяців тому +30

    Men's Cliffs Notes version:
    1. She doesn't prioritize you.
    2. She disrespects you.

  • @zengine1913
    @zengine1913 8 місяців тому +12

    Been there, done that. At least I knew very early on so I wasn't shocked when she eventually walked away. I simply enjoyed the time we had and learned all I could about the situation as it unfolded.

  • @JohnADuerk
    @JohnADuerk 8 місяців тому +49

    If a person doesn't communicate and reciprocate, then it's time to find someone else.

  • @guyblew1733
    @guyblew1733 8 місяців тому +30

    If your feeling as though your op2, walk away. She doesn't what she wants or doesn't know a good thing when she has it.

  • @paulhynes170
    @paulhynes170 8 місяців тому +94

    You shouldn't really be anyone's back up option if your the not first option make sure your not an option anymore simple as

    • @Tae_Grixis
      @Tae_Grixis 8 місяців тому +7

      You're*

    • @Real-Name..Maqavoy
      @Real-Name..Maqavoy 8 місяців тому +3

      @@Tae_Grixis English isn't your 1st Language is it?

    • @paulhynes170
      @paulhynes170 8 місяців тому

      @@Real-Name..Maqavoy I think his name says it all

    • @Tae_Grixis
      @Tae_Grixis 8 місяців тому +5

      @@Real-Name..Maqavoy It is. It's you are (you're), not your as in ownership of something.

    • @Tae_Grixis
      @Tae_Grixis 8 місяців тому +3

      @@Real-Name..Maqavoy If you truly think you understand the language, supposedly being a native speaker, you have missed this and likely many more simple things that you fail to correct daily.

  • @shootingbricks8554
    @shootingbricks8554 8 місяців тому +17

    This is why it's important to keep busy especially as a guy. Also remember, relationships of all types are ALWAYS CONDITIONAL.

  • @BrickInMind
    @BrickInMind 8 місяців тому +10

    Some things are so obvious that it is very easy to ignore it.
    It may be ok, when the relationship is just being friends and accepting these terms. But when the time comes where one of two starts having feelings. Shit can go wrong.

  • @johnbrooke9948
    @johnbrooke9948 8 місяців тому +6

    Never be a 2nd option to anyone. Its all about self respect and you may get hurt if you are a backup plan. Do not allow yourself to fall into the trap.

  • @LUVninety
    @LUVninety 8 місяців тому +6

    That's the difference between men and women. Men who are clearly not interested in you are straight forward. To women you will always be an option because narcissism and insecurity don't let them clear the situation. Don't waste your time to someone who makes you feel unworth and move on.

  • @Thee_PinkPanther
    @Thee_PinkPanther 8 місяців тому +31

    If your anyones back up option then you can tell them to Fluff right off. 😂
    Back up option as if! Respect yourself.

  • @DesmondReed-y7e
    @DesmondReed-y7e 8 місяців тому +10

    Just don't care at all times. Never care.

  • @invinciblevettel5
    @invinciblevettel5 8 місяців тому +15

    if she treats you like this its time to move on. If you're her number two, she'll also cheat on you.

    • @johnbrooke9948
      @johnbrooke9948 8 місяців тому +2

      If feel sorry for backup plan number 3 or number 4.

  • @PhilipDunn-w4d
    @PhilipDunn-w4d 8 місяців тому +5

    Love you and your advice but one thing ill never be is a backup option and they only use you when stuff falls through this has happened to me and my attention has change as no man should ever be made to feel second third forth or even further down that list to anyone

  • @akeemayeni156
    @akeemayeni156 8 місяців тому +6

    Just know your value. And all these situations will be handled with ease.

  • @cadenchurchill4296
    @cadenchurchill4296 8 місяців тому +15

    I’ve been the backup option before. Not a good time.

  • @Universal_exports87
    @Universal_exports87 8 місяців тому +3

    Get out of it. I know it's lonely but you're worth more than that immature childlike behavior.

  • @herr5262
    @herr5262 6 місяців тому +1

    Great job, Amy.

  • @crimsontyt
    @crimsontyt 8 місяців тому +2

    Yeah, being too busy, to bother reading or replying, even as a bad texter, but then skipping other ways of interaction, means they don't even care about you, equally as a friend, if you aren't interested in them more than that.
    You should just walk away, cause eventually you will burn out, if you are putting energy into multiple things in life, which you should. Instead of chasing unavailable women.

  • @DeltaVe
    @DeltaVe 8 місяців тому +3

    If I'm not good enough for her to be her first choice, do I really want to wait around to be her 2nd/4th/99th? I feel like if I'm doing that, then I'm degrading myself as opposed to respecting my value and moving on.

  • @patlacroix5111
    @patlacroix5111 8 місяців тому +7

    If you're the back up....forget about her.

  • @austinwaggoner3826
    @austinwaggoner3826 8 місяців тому +14

    I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. They're gross and they negatively affected some of my family members. I would like to be with a woman who also doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs. Is it possible to find a woman like that, or no?

    • @72dodge340
      @72dodge340 8 місяців тому +3

      Yes, absolutely. Granted, it may be hard to do, but don't give up. I found not only all that, but the perfect woman (my wife) in general.

    • @austinwaggoner3826
      @austinwaggoner3826 8 місяців тому +3

      @@72dodge340 That's great! Congratulations on that! I'll keep trying, but when I go outside every woman I see is already taken, and there aren't any singles events near me either.

    • @Totsy30
      @Totsy30 8 місяців тому

      I'm the same way and have had a gf like that in the past. Though things didn't pan out, she was for sure an incredible person, but girls like that are exceedingly rare.

    • @austinwaggoner3826
      @austinwaggoner3826 8 місяців тому

      @@Totsy30 Sorry your relationship didn't work out.

    • @Reocoker11
      @Reocoker11 8 місяців тому

      No doubt bro, whatever you don't do, you should be destined to match with a partner with similar qualities. Dont give up, not all women get high and drunk

  • @gabbchavez7331
    @gabbchavez7331 8 місяців тому +5

    I would rather walk away.

  • @Matt-mj2iv
    @Matt-mj2iv 8 місяців тому +7

    What about when she says I don't want to I don't want to lead you on

    • @mrnice7570
      @mrnice7570 8 місяців тому +1

      Not interested in you sexually

    • @salutoitoi
      @salutoitoi 29 днів тому

      If it’s not a clear yes, it’s a no

  • @Dman425
    @Dman425 8 місяців тому +5

    Everyone has backup options. It’s human nature

  • @jacob_massengale
    @jacob_massengale 8 місяців тому +2

    Whats the difference, if any, between a back up option and someone she settles for, even marries, because she thinks she cant get someone better?

  • @azharmunief491
    @azharmunief491 8 місяців тому +2

    Now what if she’s messages you first and tells you on a daily that she loves you?

    • @Totsy30
      @Totsy30 8 місяців тому +3

      In my experience, that's a really good sign. Usually a girl who isn't genuinely interested won't put that kind of effort in.

  • @joseburgos9654
    @joseburgos9654 8 місяців тому +4

    Everyone is an "option."

    • @DeltaVe
      @DeltaVe 8 місяців тому

      This is true. Western parents don't tend to arrange relationships anymore. The point is, don't be a backup option. If you're not good enough for her to be her first, then don't stick around to be her remaining option when she's run down her list.

  • @ffviifakeremake9997
    @ffviifakeremake9997 8 місяців тому +8

    I'm always the back up option, I don't know if this is a good thing?

  • @mattgen4000
    @mattgen4000 8 місяців тому +1

    Usually they ask me on a date

  • @Clicksystems
    @Clicksystems 8 місяців тому +2

    Doesn’t the saying go, leave the best till last? Suppose there’s 1 silver lining, if the previous men weren’t good enough to choose but you was then it makes you something better than the others.. hence saying “leave the best till last” 😅

  • @johnklin9383
    @johnklin9383 8 місяців тому +5

    Spot on ...

  • @Trad_chad1122
    @Trad_chad1122 8 місяців тому +1

    I don't get to this point because guess what? I'm not a second option. 😉

  • @gatortooth5928
    @gatortooth5928 10 днів тому

    I find it ironic, but I see this same behavior with married women in the workplace.

  • @Kumachanchan
    @Kumachanchan 8 місяців тому +3

    You never should be a backup. If you accept this role she actually loses respect for you. You become beta and that kills lust and desire and sets up friend zone

  • @jacobcutrer
    @jacobcutrer 8 місяців тому

    I’ve never been an option.

  • @mattgen4000
    @mattgen4000 8 місяців тому +1

    Well if u like each other u'll know

  • @bradmossman7201
    @bradmossman7201 8 місяців тому

    I am a back up husband. Just got to be single at the same time.

  • @AaronKelly-s8l
    @AaronKelly-s8l 2 місяці тому

    What I find very annoying with girls is 99% of girls out me as the back up guy BUT I only want a friendship with her and nothing more ..

  • @bozku8815
    @bozku8815 5 місяців тому

    Danke!

  • @JohnDudley-l7x
    @JohnDudley-l7x 6 місяців тому

    She stopped me from having bubble baths, so I said that's it booger off !

  • @nerifterafrnam4682
    @nerifterafrnam4682 8 місяців тому +5

    If she´s quick but never deep.

  • @tidestrike1043
    @tidestrike1043 5 місяців тому

    Sounds like a ChatGPT Script btw

  • @adamfindlay7091
    @adamfindlay7091 8 місяців тому +3

    Gimme some truth.

  • @mattgen4000
    @mattgen4000 8 місяців тому +1

    she read the book of fating but never actually been on one because she keep finding things that contradict each other so she makes these videos

  • @jcransome5616
    @jcransome5616 8 місяців тому +3

    YOURE ALWAYS A BACKUP
    HAVE YOU NOT SEEN DATING APP DATA??
    it’s hopeless

  • @mattgen4000
    @mattgen4000 8 місяців тому +1

    Perhaps not interact with others then

  • @grandrapidsboy
    @grandrapidsboy 8 місяців тому +1

    I have no problem being the backup option, with the hours I work I typically don’t have time, and when it’s time for me to go on vacation, guess who doesn’t go? Have had the pleasure to tell someone let her main squeeze take her 😂

  • @Mr-ms2qo
    @Mr-ms2qo 8 місяців тому +4

    I can't deal with the national geographic explanations.. we need solutions jo

  • @ampdrum1
    @ampdrum1 6 місяців тому +1

    Lip injections?

  • @lotharlundgren9509
    @lotharlundgren9509 8 місяців тому +2

    Are you real or an AI program?

    • @Joyanima
      @Joyanima  8 місяців тому

      Real 🤦‍♂️

  • @marknugent4469
    @marknugent4469 8 місяців тому +1

    They are all MAD, best off having a Sherman !!

  • @cinesoldiertelugu5057
    @cinesoldiertelugu5057 8 місяців тому +7

    Can I atleast become ur last option 😛

  • @hawk66100
    @hawk66100 8 місяців тому +2

    Second!

  • @Scubasteve22
    @Scubasteve22 8 місяців тому +3

    You have the most kissable lips ever.. Thx for keeping men headed in the right direction!

  • @handlename72
    @handlename72 8 місяців тому +2

    first.

  • @roymillsjnr5172
    @roymillsjnr5172 8 місяців тому

    🐻 that women on the bed she never talks to you dad 🤠 blow up dolly teddy 😂😂😂

  • @noturbo
    @noturbo 8 місяців тому +1

    i will be your back up lol

    • @mrnice7570
      @mrnice7570 8 місяців тому +7

      Thirsty 😂

    • @menaceDOA
      @menaceDOA 8 місяців тому +2

      down bad 🤦‍♂