i said at work today when someone thanked me for letting them eat, sleep might be optional but food isn't. the phrases are, sleep is for the weak and i'll sleep when i'm dead. no one says that about food, food is non-negotiable.
Girls who like “girly” things like makeup, shopping and skirts shouldn’t be shamed and neither should girls who like boyish things! People should be encouraged to be themselves!
THANK YOU! I always feel like I'm pressured to either be feminine or masculine (especially while growing up in an African household), but whatever I choose always results in me being judged.
amber Yeah, my little brother loves Disney princesses and wearing dresses, crowns, and high heels. He’s pretty little, so for now people laugh but sometimes we get weird looks as we live in a very conservative area. Honestly even if he still likes it as an adult I don’t really care. He is who he is and it doesn’t make me love him any less.
+S.M. you mean Adam being not able to think for himself and just blindly following rules of a male he considered “his leader” regardless of the fact that that leader tried to keep him as ignorant as a child? Yeah, does sound legit tbh
My sister still acts as if she’s “not like other girls” and she literally reminds me of how I used to act... And I feel bad because she was probably influenced by my behavior towards others back then. I bought a nice t shirt the other day and she just looked at me weirdly like “since when do you care about how you look? Are you becoming like those popular girls?” And it does NOT help my mum encourages it. Whenever my sister talks about how she’s into anime she’s always like “some of us like anime in my class so we just sorta talk among ourselves away from the popular girls” and my mums all like “yeah forget those popular girls, just stick to the geeky lot” like noooo people shouldn’t be put into boxes like “the populars” and “the geeks” as if that’s their entire personalities. I love anime, but I still talk to what my family would call “popular basic girls” because they’re really nice.
well that is a masculine trait to put others down so it sort of makes you not like other girls if you do it. women are very collectivist and do not enjoy domination.
gractendo Nope, because a lot of acknowledge we were like this at one point in our lives, and how cringed it is when you look back on it. We hope to see this trope less or at least for authors to have the characters get some self-awareness. The characters in most of those kinds of books /shows/movies never out grow that phase.
When a guy gives you the "you're not like other girls" and then as an insult will say "wow I thought you were different" or "you're just like the other girls"
@The Earth Is Dying Because Of You i mean everyone is special in their own way and everyone wants a different kind of person... the problem here is the sexist assumption that a stereotypical cohort of "other girls" exists and that not liking typically feminine things makes you somewhat superior and to be taken more seriously than these "other girls"
lol the comments about uniqueness are just something that people happen to only say in a positive light. no one says "you're not like other girls, i fucking hate your guts!"
It is completely normal to do all these things that “typical girls” don’t do. Video games, books, sports, doesnt like makeup, hangs out with boys, ect. The things is, “not like other girls” girls act like its a personality trait.
Makeup is uncomfortable. I don't care who you are or where you're from. Makeup dries out skin, it's expensive, and takes hours to apply. If people don't like it I totally understand. If people do like it, I get that too. It feels good to feel gorgeous.
Yes exactly, and people also don't realize you can like multiple things at once Like for God's sake, you can play games and also like makeup and fashion One thing doesn't erase the other
I read somewhere once that when a woman says she likes a guy with a sense of humor, she means a guy who can make her laugh. When a guy says he likes a girl with a sense of humor, he means a girl who laughs at his jokes! The social expectation is very much that man should amuse and woman be amused. To be amusing is to capture the attention of the room, so a funny woman is threatening to the kind of men who are insecure.
Another problem I have is when things like cooking, sewing etc are portrayed as feminine. They have nothing to do with gender. These are basic, technical, practical life skills that everyone should have at a very basic level (no need to be a chef or master tailor, but you have no be able to mend your clothes and cook yourself a meal).
I always find it weird when people act like men are unable to do stuff like cooking/sewing/.., it really seems pretty degrading to me to assume that all men are unable to perform even the most basic practical skills that might even save them money. I'm pretty glad that my parents never really bought into these stereotypes; they can both cook, both can sew and both have also fix stuff in the house. It's really stupid that men "should" be dependent on their mothers/wives/girlfriends for really normal everyday tasks and the same is also true the other way around.
Yeah, even though my grandma did most of the sewing it was because she was a seamstress; my grandpa did a lot of the cooking. It’s stupid to assign genders to activities.
@@juanpablosaenz9037 Yea but "how did you loose to a girl" is used when a guy looses in something to a girl and its implies that girls are weak and bad at everything so if you loose to a girl you're REALLY bad at that thing. Nobody is gonna date someone they see inferior, not just girls and not just guys. I'd hope people value themselves more when compared to a junkie who doesn't do anything.
FRRR it's backhanded to women because it assumes they can only succeed by luck and not through hard work + it insults the capabilities of men and perpetrates toxic masculinity by making them feel emasculated
facts. thank goodness we are getting more woke about these issues and addressing these comments. As a Gen-Z sometimes I see these trends among us but then again theres so many young girls who are so woke and work on selflove and self approval not based on other factors
I'm a girl. I love dressing up, wearing make up, hanging out with my girls, dancing. I'm a nerd. I'm a fangirl. I play games. I love sports. I love to bake. I enjoy chicklit. I laugh at 'chickflicks'. I love math & physics. I'm a doctor. & on top of all that, I'm an introvert. Why do we have to fit into a stereotype? We're human beings. We're supposed to be different. Each & every one of us. & UA-cam, why do I find this video when it's already 1 year old?
Exactly. With maturity and growing out of the phase, I think I started to realize how complex people are and how they really can't be boiled down to interests or appearance. I don't think we as individuals can be defined. Especially since we are constantly changing, learning and acquiring new tastes, perspectives, etc. All people are so beautiful and have something to offer, I think. I am so glad I look at other girls with love now instead of judging them if their interests didn't match mine. Because it's beautiful to find interest and passion in something you love! And I love seeing other people doing that and being happy. In doing so, I've been able to heal my internalized misogyny and accept and love the feminine aspects of who I am. Frick yeah people are awesome, love the girls and guys and whoever else, we in this together heh. Bless you, sorry for the rant, lol. I hope you're finding happiness in whatever you pursue :))
@@avriebrown3652 thanks for the rant 😁 feels good to find like-minded people with maturity. Hope you have a peaceful life being your honest self, with all the diversity and imperfections and everything.
I had internalized misogyny for years, I always thought 'femininity=weakness' until I met one of my college professors, a wonderful and feminine (She wore a full face of makeup, acrylic nails, and traditional feminine clothing) civil engineer with 20 plus years of experience in concrete design and construction, who had her own company, she is driven and smart, but she also is very kind and loving. She is one of the people I admire the most.
My grandma's aunt told me since I was a little girl I didn't have the need to have a male by my side. She was a single mother, worked for a big company when she was young, always dressed like a top class lady, behaved properly and had a very magnetic personality. Being femenine isn't being weak. Being weak is being weak, having no energy, complaining constantly, being sad and having anxiety because there are bo more avocados to buy on the supermarket around the corner, being unable to take responsability of anything... None of that has to do with being feminine.
and there's this comic that has that same lyrics and some drawings of the girls and ends up being gay, what a pleasant plot twist pics.me.me/cheer-shes-hgh-heels-and-in-on-the-bleachers-dreaming-10866107.png
In some cartoons the "mean girl" is often represented as feminine but also superficial,stupid,selfish and stuff. This is probably one of many reasons why little girls(including me before tbh) think it's bad to be feminine.
I think it’s media being behind culture by about a decade. I am sure in the 80’s-90’s the girly cheerleader WAS the popular girl, and goth/masculine girls WERE bullied relentlessly. I think it’s important not to be overly judgmental so we can stop this dumb cycle of shame.
Not a cartoon but legally Blonde is a good example that's the opposite of that stereotype, Elle Woods was the definition of the feminine blonde girly girl In pink, but she was actually kind, nice to others while it was the law school students who were mean and judgmental to her
Whatever works to get a leg up 😂 because people don’t like to be ignored or invisible. If a gal can’t compete with girly girls, she’d wear the I Am Not Like Other Girls facade to get chummy with male sex as a form of acceptance and social recognition.
omg i've been telling one of my friends that for ages,,,, like girl,,, you're at an all-girl sleepover but you're gonna complain about how girls suck?? k
Or they need to admit their own character flaws that made every other female relationship fail. I’m like, “everybody can’t be wrong, sis. Maybe it was you.” 😂
Honestly when I was about 8 years old, I one day went to school and started being like -UGH I HATE PINK I actually liked it, I was just trying not to be like “other girls” Now I absolutely love it and understand how stupid i used to be, and how misogyny gets to young girls
Honestly I hate the "im not like other girls" or "you're not like other girls". Like my friend its the "girly" girl, wears make up, reveling clothes, small, blonde, everything. While I'm the "boyish" girl baggie clothes, short hair, no make up, likes sports. And we're often confronted with " how are you two friends?" like I'm supposed to hate her bc we're different?
You just described me and my best friend too :))) she is tall and blonde and likes sweet, designer clothes and makeup and perfume, im not even gonna go into shoes and bags, me im 160cm dark brown hair, and mostly just sneakers jeans and tshirt. It takes a special ocassion to make me put on bbcream and mascara.
mary downs I agree! And just like “not like other girls” being called a “nice guy” or “not like other guys” can have some positive or negative implications
I wish you would talk more about how toxic this ideology of "if you like anything that's not girly - you're automatically a pick me not like other girls" because if people even mention online on liking music or tv shows that aren't girly they're automatically categorized as a cringey "not like other girls" girl... even if they still like typically girly things like makeup or fashion.
@@KaterynaM_UA Categorized by people on the internet who are so indoctinated with the "not like other girls" meme, that they forget that not all girls who don't like all "girly" stuff are doing it to please men or to seem different. It's pushing a very sexist and misogynistic belief. Sure, some do it just to seem "cool" or "different," but when you're so indoctrinated with this ideology it's actually pushing towards the opposite direction you want your movement to go in. I don't know what the second question has to do with anything though, because people should care if they care about real feminism other than the "feminists" who post "not like other girls" crap instead of just ignoring it, and letting the problem get worse.
Yes definitely, I don’t like jewelry but I also don’t hate jewelry and don’t judge anyone for wearing it. But I never say it because I feel like people will call me a pick me girl or “not like other girls”
Yeah that also happens a lot. Although I feel I come off more as pretentious and annoying whenever I mention that I like opera and classical music rather than pick me 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well once a group of girls turned on me in school and said I'm trying to be special by being into boys music. I'm 27 and still listening and creating metal
yeah, like my hair is pink, and when i painted, the girls from my class always said stuff like “your hair looks pretty but would look better blue so won’t be too girly”
I hate when people think that being sensitive is a “women’s trait” and think of it negatively. Being sensitive is good! It allows you to understand situations better and get along with more people. Also that doesn’t blind you from seeing the truth or being objective in situations that require it.
Absolutely agree - it's not like you are either empathetic or rational - it's not either-or. And then there's the 'masculine' aggressive characteristics/ machoism that men are 'supposed' to have - except that that's just being sensitive and overreacting to things also! But in a violent way. It's actually very emotional behaviour when you think about it.
@@Elite_Sturmgewehr Sometimes but not always. Only if you can't control it. Being sensitive can help many things including understanding people and changing how you choose to treat someone because you anticipate how they will respond.
I’m not like other girls. In fact, I’m not like other people, bc I am not human, I’m an alien. Please come save me at Area 51. They have my family and I hostages and we are trapped. If you Naruto run, they won’t be able to catch you
Dude same 11/12 year old me was such a toxic advocate for that "all my friends are boys" shit (even though most of my friends were girls, I was just living in delusion). Thank God it wore off when I got to high school
I love how half of these “quirks” are about eating food. EATING FOOD IS SOMETHING EVERY SINGLE HUMAN ON EARTH DOES. IT IS EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE OF QUIRKY. COULD YOU NOT HAVE CHOSEN SOMETHING, SoMeThINg THAT YOU DONT HAVE TO DO TO SURVIVE....???
I had the same experience growing up. “I can’t like pink because it’s too girly” “I don’t go to parties because I’m not that *party girl*” “I’m going into STEM because I will be that girl among *the guys*”. These thoughts/actions were not red flags to me until 3 years ago. This was a great video to help me reflect more on this topic
I hope you still went to pursue STEM, not to be “one of the guys” but because it was fulfilling, well-paying, and a way of breaking patriarchal dominance in the field.
When I was little, I got teased by tomboys because I was too girly. While at the same time, I’m sure tomboys got teased because they were tomboys. Can’t please everyone so just be yourself.
I always hated the tomboy term, actually. It pretty much implies that wearing hoodies, liking sports or comic books is a defining "boy" trait, when it's really not. Every human being is allowed to wear whatever clothes make them comfortable, allowed to enjoy the feeling of adrenaline or to admire and relate to characters like Batman or Iron Man.
@@aceash459 ikr It's always with the undertone of claiming a woman would be less of a woman if she does/likes x It's always about strangers trying to tell you how you have to be in order to be called a woman And even if these people call you a woman they automatically claim you wouldn't excel as good in man dominated areas. I could write essays about it as a woman in tech that's not typically "nerdy" looking (not that looking nerdy would be bad obviously, I just prefer a different clothing style for myself, I am neither better or worse than my nerdier dressing girl friends, clothes are supposed to be fun! ❤️)
@@aceash459 tomboy is not about wearing stupid hoodies or worshiping some capitalist propaganda merchandise. tomboy Is when you come back home all bruised and beaten with your clothes torn in pieces and threaten your mom with premature death because of neverending stress since she does not know if you will even come back in one piece today. This is because you are interested in explosives and guns and other deadly dangerous stuff. like real boys rather than playing safe like typical girls. Nobody cares to what characters you relate if you are a crybaby coward
@@prisle well when people refer to the woman they refer to female stereotype, if you are different then obviously you are not a stereotypical woman but maybe you more resemble a stereotypical man. The reason why this matter is because stereotypical man is only interested in stereotypical woman a man does not want to be in relationship with another man
I actually feel bad sometimes for being "too girly". I study software engineering, but I also like make up and fashion and other stereotypically girly things. I notice I have started dressing down more, because l fear being judged by other woman, who feel superior because they are "natural and low maintance" and whatever. It's kinda sad. I wish we could just accept one another, whether we dress in short skirts and high heels or a sweater and flats.
Cromwell The Wombat you do do!!!!! girly things are so fun!! i go to school for civil engineering but i get my acrylic nails refilled every two weeks!!
Omg i felt myself do this at university, majority of my classmates were guys and i felt really odd coming to class all cute. I felt like they wouldn't take me seriously. Long story short my self esteem plummeted and now im trying to build myself up again.
I *feeeel* this. My office is full of women who are all about constantly reminding everyone that they love comfy clothes and no makeup. I even was told by my ceo that I can no longer wear white work pants because “other women” think they’re inappropriate. And these women never tried to have a friendship or be kind with me whatsoever.
I've noticed that it does not matter if you're stereotypically girly or stereotypically a tomboy. I myself grew up with 2 brothers and am I not girly girl. Throughout my life I've felt just as insecure and afraid of being judged by other girls as my very girly friends. We all have to learn to value the strengths we have and realize that people will judge us no matter what we dress like. It also ties in with the "dumb blonde" trope as well. It's always appearance vs the brain. The whole "you can only have one" idea is ridiculous.
They always go back to "I'm friends with guys" which I suspect is a roundabout way of saying they can tell you might try to sleep with their boyfriend 🧐
@@i.b.640 Okay-first of all- it’s not sexist to make a legitimate observation about behavior that some women engage in. I am obviously a woman, and not against women. It’s fine to have guy friends and I’ve had many. I’ve even had many guy ‘best friends’ that I ended up dating. A lot of girls see friendship as a gateway to a relationship, and there isn’t even anything wrong with that. I’m specifically talking about the girls that a) take pride in the fact that other girls don’t like them b) have inappropriate boundaries with their male friends that are in relationships Girls like this make a lot of girls suspicious of female friends in general. That’s sad, and I’m sorry that you’ve lost friends over that. You should really let go of the idea that other women are commonly being sexist or personally attacking you, however. I also went through a period where I felt like that, and it doesn’t help you. There is real sexism and calling it out where it isn’t makes men take us less seriously when it does occur.
Also they're different ppl of mentioned society making sure to put down anyone for fitting in or not into a category... it's never the same group of ppl... So you'll feel like you can't satisfy everyone...ever.
@@blendingwitch6206 you can try to be different without bashing the others this is the topic of this video the pickme bash others and use that to "show" how they are different aka. better than the rest
I used to really want to be a “not like other girl” until I watched Parks and Rec. seeing a woman who loved her job, was good at it, respected but also very in touch with her feminity and female friends. Leslie Knope was smart, driven, determined, respected but also sweet, considerate, kind
"Not like other girls" is such a funny phrase. Like, yeah, you're not like other girls because you are a human and therefore a unique individual. Just like literally every other human. Congrats.
Women are not unique they are all prety similar and those who are not are shamed and bullied. guys are exactly opposite where you being average means fate close to death you must be different than everyone at all cost or else women will ignore you and you will be treated like shit.
Not that I only think like that I can observe that. as of course not everyone is the same, but women are extremely similar while men are way more diverse. and this is an absolutely evident fact because if you take any kind of deviance, no mater what kind you will find many times more men there than women. like a prison- majority of men, homeless- majority or men, scientists- the majority of men, businessmen- the same. people who dress in chicken costume then have sex with bicycles while barking like a dog -the absolute majority of men. You will have a super hard time to find some unique woman on earth because whatever deviance you will find there will be 10 times more men like that
@@chloechloe12345 How is that relevant to the topic? Although philosophically speaking no am not a man because of the extreme diversity of men we can't even define what is a man besides their genitalia. besides that I have very little common with most other men and even less common with women who are like beings from another planet
I feel like pretty much everyone around me is a “not like other girls” lately... Everyone I know wears hoodies constantly, eats pizza, goes around with no makeup... You know, typical stuff everyone does. It’s like everyone’s so obsessed with not being like “the other girls” that those other girls are just fading away. Ands it’s actually sad, sometimes I want to wear makeup but I feel awkward about it because everyone is so against girly girls. I’ve never worn makeup in my life because I grew up with the whole “not like other girls” mindset... but I actually want to be a bit more feminine now and it’s weird that I feel so... ashamed, and awkward about it? Like I feel like I’d be judged, that’s how much the mindset has kinda spread I guess
Right, like first wearing hoodies, sweat pants, no makeup, and eating junk food was looked down upon and now everyone wants to do it??!! Can't we just all be ourselves like dayum 😵
I’m a girl. My hair is super short and dyed. I like wearing more baggy clothing like hoodies and t-shirts. I like reading, writing, and playing videos games. I adore the color pink and think creating looks with makeup is a lot of fun. I like to dress up on occasion in more conventionally girly clothes, like dresses and skirts. I’m a girl.
Human beings naturally want to feel superior to others... So people label and put people in groups and find something in that group to put people down. There is something my English teacher in middle school said who probably gave the best advice... No one is actually unique lol 😂
It really annoys me that in order to be approved as “not like other girls” you still should be hot and thin, you just can’t be seen making any efforts to improve your appearance. This is an even more impossible standard to live up to.
When I was younger, boys would say that I was not like other girls. I would say duh, I’m autistic and have clinical depression, you probably haven’t met a lot of girls like me, but we exist.
Why do all of these “quirky girls” think loving food is a defining trait lmao Edit: Wow thanks everybody for the sociological analyses lmao. I know why girls feel the need to do it. It was a rhetorical question. I made the original comment because by claiming that loving food is “quirky” you are just reinforcing the ridiculous convention that girls should be skinny/eat very little. You are basically throwing other girls under the bus for the sake of saving face.
It might come from the fact that some girls limit their diets a lot or starve themselves to be skinny. It may be harmfully viewed as them being caught up in their looks instead of it being an eating disorder or that they need help. Liking food may be a way that they tell people that they’re not going to go such lengths to be “beautiful” unlike “other girls” who are said to worry too much about their looks.
I’m a woman in STEM, studying human bio and physiology, and was told by a male colleague that “bio isn’t really science” and it’s “easier, that’s why girls do it”. Oof. Last time I checked, we go to the same school my guy.
Historically, men have always said that about certain professions until women started being involved and productive in them. Etc; writing was thought to be only for the "intelligent, thoughtful man" until women began writing novels and now suddenly it's perceived as a simple, deadbeat career. :/ Same goes for art, and for biology - when more women began working as nurses and doctors. Ever since women started getting their rights and becoming educated and productive in certain professions, those were suddenly seen as "easy" or "not a real science". It's so gross.
@@nine-vi7rw Wow, that's so true. My dad wants me to go on a male-dominated field because they make more money and lack traits that women typically have. (So the field would benefit from more women) But I'm just so tired of this race of trying to prove men we're equal. They'll always find the next thing that women do and claim it's easy and lower the pay. Young women in Finland are high-achievers, work harder, put more effort to look better and have better social skills than young men, but still they are more represented in low-tier jobs, masters' that don't lead to a job, and female-dominated high education jobs have smaller salaries. Women have to be more experienced and proper for the same job. Young Finnish women take more antidepressants and have a higher suicide rating among European women, than men take or have among European men. We put so much effort in order to "make it". It feels like a fight we can't win. Men are just so dim that they don't realize we're equal even if we're way past that. It doesn't seem to matter what we do.
Nana I don’t think art has been a more profitable profession before our time. It’s been studied and admired post the artists’ death, but acting was seen as being equal to prostitution, painters, even masters like Rembrandt, died penniless and abused, writers were often censored, mostly singers and musicians were the ones taken most seriously, and even then, it was the select few. Painting lost its meaning when Picasso painted the shit he did and called it “Art”, spawning generations of people throwing colors on a canvas and calling themselves “artists”, until painting has stooped to such a ridiculous low, nobody takes a painter seriously until they see the work. Notice how nothing had much to do with genders. But never before have artists made the money they can make now, especially through popular media.
A lot of girls grow up being singled out as different by adults, too. If you were a “tomboy” you’d be familiar with the well-being anxiety of adults around you worrying when you were going to “grow out of it.” No wonder they thought they weren’t like other girls when their own parents and aunts were telling them just that.
Yes! "She's gonna change someday." That's something I heard a lot and I was so freaking annoyed and felt like they rejected my identity and invalidate my feelings. I didn't change and stay this way. Also, I thought I was a tomboy my whole life, but turns out I'm non-binary. It was pretty shocking.
There’s truth to this I used to be an “other girl” / “one of the boys”, so I acted like I hated pink cause it’s a girly color. I secretly loved it, and I now wear my love for pink on my sleeve.
It's still not my favorite color but I claimed to absolutely hate it when I was younger, wouldn't even wear it. Now I admit I look good in pink and will wear it semi-often
I was looked down on in 3rd grade because I was “girly” then in 7th I arm wrestled a boy and won and all of a sudden I’m a “man” and I have “man arms” they even went as far as to call me “transgender” scars me till this day 😀
Ironically, Notlikeothergirls culture was so prevalent in my high school I always felt weirdly singled out for liking traditionally feminine things. Also I 100% avoid women who say things like “I just don’t get along with girls! Boys are just less drama” Some of my deepest and most meaningful friendships and hardest times where weathered with other women by my side. It kind of feels like they’re insulting that :/
I have more guy friends but not because I don’t like female friends but because I had a horrible roommate experience in college so I spent time on my boyfriend’s floor (even when he wasn’t there so I could have a safe place to study) and thus met more boys just based on proximity. I’d LOVE to have more girl friends and am actively trying to reach out to other girls to make new friends
I was a hypocrite because I was always told from others that guys were less drama but I realized that my best friends have always been girls. Never guys because I just don’t Idk I just don’t have guy friends. But it’s all good.
Elizabeth Gatsby yeah I was like those girls but I’ve been wronged by everybody. I hated men and I hated women at some point in my life. Later I discovered I’m misanthrope. I just don’t like people. People suck
I used to think liking pink was not cool. I was a little 'tuff' and kind of sporty as a teen. But as an adult I know realize that I can be 'tuff' and 'sporty' and still like pink and be feminine.
Yes! Same! I was a very tomboy growing up, and never liked pink or dressing up. But now, I realized I can love pink and still be a tomboy and feminine. When I want too be, and there is nothing wrong with that at all.
I was very rejecting of the color pink and I didn’t know why for a while. Well, turns out I’m non-binary and that stereotype of girls liking pink made me dysphoric inside.
@@quasooon pink is my absolute favorite color now! After I went through my phase during 3rd to 5th grade. Because I wanted to be like my friend who was a tomboy and I thought it was cool. So I would stay away from everything feminine. But now look at me I love makeup and shopping for clothes and pink.
i honestly still don’t like pink and stuff bc it’s simply out of my comfort zone, i’m still a tomboy, but that doesn’t mean i’m not proud of being a girl. even though i have same interests as men i am still so proud of being a girl. so...can i be considered a feminist?
Or those "jokes" that are like: Girls: *insert misogynistic "All girl like is fashion and makeup" joke here* Boys: *Doing things that many women also enjoy* I hate those ones and I wish it'd die out.
@@manifestationsofasort or those memes of girl vs boys Example Girls wallpaper: flowers Boys wallpaper: that amog us meme Those memes are 1 of the reason why so many girls become nlog in the the first place
정대민 another electrical engineer here, the amount of times I've gotten the "you're so different you don't do a bA like every other girl". Like leave me alone we have an hour left in the lab and I have a lot of code to write
I'm doing a neuroscience degree, and my classes are overwhelmingly female. It's actually really awesome. I don't get any "not like other girls" bs from anyone there, probs cuse they know they're outnumbered lol
Ayyy I’m an electrical engineering student as well and I feel you 😂 my first day at university a guy told me I looked more like an art student then an engineering student (like tf??).
“It’s like telling a girl she doesn’t throw like a girl. You’re trying to compliment her throwing abilities, but you’re also perpetuating the harmful and false stereotype that girls generally can’t throw.” This was so extremely well put!
@@misstimetosleep we're talking about complementing a girl about her skill being so good that you feel like insulting her whole gender to make it clear '-' not physiological differences between men and women
My husband had an issue with this statement. He's a basketball player and he literally throws like a girl. That's the form he's most comfortable in. My thought is that most people use this as an insult and are not thinking of the type of form you're exhibiting. it's more like they are saying "you throw like a girl because you can't throw"
"My point is just men are better observers which leads them to more witty and logical conclusions. But it's cool if you don't agree." - Phill Cocklin This is even funnier considering it's usually male comedians who go around talking about how women tend to be more perceptive, observant, high-strung and detail oriented. But ofcourse, an incel would ignore that and insist that it's definitely men who come to more 'logical conclusions'.
Actually, the joke seems funnier when considering that Lilith supposedly came before Eve and was not submissive enough. So by that Legend Eve was made to be the not like other girls in being more desirable.
“How dare you tell me ‘I am not like most girls’, when those 'girls’ you refer to are my sisters and mothers, my friends, the very solace and the kindness I have sought when the worst things in my life have happened? How dare you assume I should take that as a compliment, and beam at you like it is praise when you are alienating me from the very core of my proudly female being? There are a thousand ways to tell me you love me, and making my sisters small to make me big isn’t one of them. Tell me you love me, but not because I am different. Tell me you love me, just because you do.” ‘You Aren’t like Most Girls’ | Nikita Gill
I was bad about this in high school. In a cooking class, a girl in my group was crying over a breakup while another girl comforted her. To myself, I rolled my eyes and thought “we’re all too young to know what love is, now help me with this task we have for class.” I also felt “not like other girls” for not going to parties or dating. Turns out I’m introverted and anxious in such settings.
Ashley H. That’s how I honestly took always that “I’m not like other girls” statement and I embraced it because I was weird in an unattractive way because of certain parenting differences of me growing up and not being able to adapt with other girls... which I always wanted to fit in with them but couldn’t ;-; Now I can, true confidence and make up helped... But took a while to finally be able to be like other girls
TBH same. Honestly that's how I felt for a while, I thought something was innately wrong with me, I thought other people were just too good for me. And that got even worse when I started developing feelings for my best friend and then she rejected me. Which was totally understandable, but at that time I felt so heart broken and lonely.
I have always hated this so much. I grew up to be a feminine, pink-obsessed, woman, with my nails painted and my make up done every day. I love doing this for myself, it makes me feel pretty. And I also happen to be a PhD student, and a teacher, and somehow for lots of people in academia, these two aspects of me can't coexist. Either I'm too pretty or too "pink" to be really smart, or I'm trying too hard on things that don't really matter like makeup and other "feminine hobbies". Apparently, the idea of women in academia is for us to conform either to the specific stereotype of the "library-mouse" (as I like to call it) or we are expected to be vain, and fickle, and superficial if omg look she's got her nails painted pink. Ugh. I am exactly like other girls!
You are an inspiration ❤ I want to be you when I grow up. I'm the sort of girl who really likes to wear heels, makeup, dresses etc. I like to keep my nails long and I spend a lot of time buffing and painting them. Right now, I'm in 10th grade and I feel like people, boys especially, underestimate me because of my 'vanity'. They can't believe that someone who's first in her class could spend her lunchtime painting her nails 💅🏾
I was a huge girly girl growing up, and as a minority, I was really bullied for those reasons. I guess at that time it was more accepted to be a tomboy and to be girly (only if you were white). Oh well, eventually I shed that skin because I couldn’t take the teasing. A small part of me still likes pink & sparkles, but I try to repress that as much as I can now from fear
One thing that i think is also really important to this discussion is the intersection of queerness and being "not like other girls". I have seen SO many stories from people being like "i used to be so proud of myself for not being boy-obsessed like all those 'OTHER GIRLS🙄🙄' but i actually was just a lesbian/asexual lol" or the case that i also experienced of being a "tomboy" and hating girly things, and priding yourself on how not dainty and feminine you are and how you hate the color pink (which is a lovely color btw), and then ending up being trans!! And while the internalized misogyny is still FLAMING in this scenario, there's also the possibility of some of it also coming from what was probably unrealized gender dysphoria. And it definitely does originate from like you mentioned, growing up in a very cis-heteronormative society, where the answer is NEVER queerness and instead just an odd cishet girl who's "just a little different!!" and then feeling like you have to defend yourself for these inherent differences that maybe even YOU don't understand. I didn't realize I was trans until probably around two years after finally getting out of that toxic not like other girls mindset. And because you're a "girl" the only logical way to do that and to validate yourself in the eys of society is to be the ideal form of a girl. And to put down other girls is the only way to achieve that top position.
YES! I'm a trans guy, and back then the only way I could have verbalized that was by saying that "I'm not like other girls". However, I never related to the depictions of girls not being like other girls either, and was so scared people would take me as meaning the same things I saw when people talked about not being like other girls rather than trying to explore with me what that meant to me, so I just never talked about it.
There's also how ADHD or Autistic women often don't feel 'like other girls' and often are penalized and isolated in social and work settings for not being the right kind of feminine or whatever
I don’t like how they shame girls for trying to look presentable. Like just because a girl dresses up and wears makeup doesn’t mean she is trying to appease men and by belittling her you are in a weird way trying to appease men.
Now you seem to removed the misogyny but you’ve replaced it with ableism. We should not have to put something down to uplift another generally because we don’t know what enabling them physically and or mentally to why the clothing hasn’t been washed.
I also think there is a different between someone saying “you’re not like other girls” in a way that brings other girls down and someone saying something like “you’re really not like any other girl I’ve met” in a way that expresses that the girl is special and they really love them or something.
@Randall PaquetBecause one doesn't express the same amount of emotion that the other one does. "You're not like all the other girls I've met" and "You're unique" The second implies that the person is unique to them but doesn't describe how, the first goes to show how unique that person is to them.
I got really into sewing during lockdown and I'm trying to unlearn the idea that fashion is a vain or vapid thing to be interested in. I love fashion, and I've really enjoyed making my own clothes, I designed and made a dress all on my own! I'm proud of that! and I am never going to feel bad about that again :)
the phrase in itself only refers to boys doing stupid and silly things because they're boys, the toxicity comes from the people that use it to excuse terribe behavior
@@lau.cami2074 But I feel it still is at least pretty silly, even when not used to excuse really bad behaviour (I'm not a native English speaker so I don't really know to much about how the phrase is used but hearing it in Daniell Howell's "Basically, I'm Gay" video once honestly was enough for me to hate it). In the end girls also do most of the same "stupid and silly things" like boys do. I mean at least I can remember it pretty clearly from my childhood. So if you really want to use the phrase you could just say "kids will be kids" because that's what if is really about, if you use it in a non-toxic situation.
@@Tessa_Gr An example of this phrase's toxicity is bullying among boys - where someone needs to step in but no one does because "boys will be boys". This hurts the victim and the bullies who now believe that they can do whatever they want because they're excused by this phrase. Maybe the situation involves drugs or inappropriate comments towards girls, but in all cases it's dangerous.
I don't really have a problem with them but the fact that vsco girls are reducing plastic waste by drinking with metal straws from PLASTIC CUPS is hypocrisy!!!!!!!
@@yukiandkanamekuran You know, as a woman of color, I've really had to evaluate my use of the term "basic white girls." I think it for me honestly comes down to an evaluation of the inherent disparity in the power dynamics of white women & (in my case) black women. The term "basic white girl" was used not to separate myself from white girls as I am a woman, but to separate myself from them as I am a black woman. White women get away with a lot of shit there's no way black women could get away with. The "basic white girl" became a caricature of those differences. Becky and Shanice are two different people & society at large will not let us forget it. I've had to take a step back and reconsider my use of the term, though. No matter how I split it white women are like my cousins in the struggle. It's easy to poke fun but having actual conversations about our differences and the way we should interact with each other in light of them is much more constructive than making another "you don't season your food" joke.
I think you can't talk about this 'trend' without mentioning 'everyone hates teenage girls' thing. Basically anything that's popular with teenage girls gets hated on by literally anyone else. Think about it, there's: Justin B, 1D, Hunger games, and more recently the Vesco girl (is the sksksksk included in that?idk), E-girl and vegan/environmentalist girl. This could be a reason why girls say their aren't like other girls because of the widespread hatred of things teenage girls like so they feel as if being anything like that is wrong because they are being constantly subjected to bashing online because it's a trend.... (P.S i don't blame you for not talking about it, you covered ALOT and it's kinda niche in the sense of labeling things, most don't realize it until you tell em, (I didn't) and it does kinda fit within the self-deprecation point)
You had me until you mentioned vegan/environmentalist. That's one thing that is very far from being a teenage thing exclusively and the awareness is growing more and more amongst other generations very quickly. Being vegan and caring for the environment is not a bad thing in any shape or form and, unlike other examples you've mentioned, has a positive impact. Anyone who hates vegans and environmentalists need to do their research.
@@Schevelian First off this isn't about hating on those things specifically nor did i say they're bad just hated. You really did stop reading after that, didn't you? Second, don't make this about you, it about teenage girls not adult vegan/environmentalists so stop preaching about' how it isn't bad' or 'that more are moving towards it' because there is still a hatred towards teenage girls who are vegan/environmentalist because their teenage girls. NONE of these topics are specifically only teenage girls but is sometimes associated with them where usually the mocking is present, for example: 'save the turtles! use reusable straws!!'.
I used to be sooo afraid of being girly. I would wear baggy clothes and a just a little make up. Now I don't care. I like 'non girly things' and 'girly' things. I'm just gonna do what I want to
And "cool girl" in some people's dictionary is a girl who does everything a guy likes, whist being hot and pretty and satisfying every possible male fantasy
The cool girl trope would fit under the categorical umbrella that is "I'm not like other girls," with the quirky stereotype. All subdivisions of this trope are seen as more desirable to men who like seeing a girl who can be "one of the guys" while satisfying their attraction to feminine qualities. So basically a mix of feminine and masculine qualities where the masculine qualities are typically amplified by appearance.
i’ve never heard someone talk about how boys get laughs so much easier like this. i have been trying to bring awareness to that for ages. thank you omg!! there’s so many instances where guys can do physical humor too because their bodies aren’t sexualized. i don’t know if you see it but a boy on twitter can literally just be ass naked and it’s... funny? like ok great ur butt is out. men can bare their beer bellies and it’s silly, but women must conceal them. men can act sloppy and wiggle their body about, but women are looked at weird and shunned for the same thing. i’m so done with boys getting cheap laughs for things like that.
This really reminds me of a video from a French (female) UA-camr. In the video, one of her male friends farts and all the other male friends laugh, and then she farts and all the male friends look at her ass. (it’s from an old video from Natoo)
Yeah... anybody claiming that "men's bodies aren't sexualized" needs to take a long hard look at any movie starring Zac Efron from the last 5 years. I'm not saying what you commented is entirely invalid, but making a broad statement claiming that men's bodies aren't sexualized is flat-out untrue and ignorant.
I used to think it wasn’t real because extremist feminists would tell me I had it just because I disagreed with them on some things, but I’ve learned that it is real, it’s just not what I had. If that makes sense lol
@dil oreo they never said they hated feminists, just that they disagreed with them on something. i certainly disagree with feminists who believe women are superior, trans women aren't women, and that sex workers don't deserve rights. doesn't mean i hate myself
I was often told when I was younger, by boys and men, that I was so cool that I was not like other girls. Especially in online games where I played really well and competitively. Sometimes they would refuse to believe I was female. It used to make me feel proud and special. Now it makes me pissed of. It was not a compliment, they were actually saying that "we do not expect a female to be able to be good at "masculine" stuff". As a female I now realize that it's offending as frak. It's getting better, but I'm looking forward to the day when a person is judged from their actions alone, and not their genitalia. And no one expect anyone female or male to behave a certain way or be good at certain things. Stereotypes sucks. Just let people be.
Dharmadasa Why are games considered to be masculine though? Anybody can be good at games, it doesn’t matter what your gender is. It’s just a stereotype
And when you tell them you are in fact a girl and (Lord forbid) make your pfp of yourself - you’d automatically be called a trap have to and ‘prove’ that you are in fact a girl and the girl in the pic. It’s almost like people are perplexed by the fact that a human being can have many different hobbies/likes.
Dharmadasa what? Online games =\= masculine. Dude, anyone can be amazing or suck at online gaming no matter their gender. I’ve had teammates that are incredible and that sucked from both genders. 🤷🏻♀️
You put it so well! When I was in my teens in the early 2010’s I was such a huge ‘I’m not like other girls’ girl. I’m so grateful for the experience of unlearning and continuing to unlearn toxic ideologies. I’ve gained SO much in adopting the mindset that other women are these amazing, talented, wonderful goddesses that I aspire to be more like than I ever did thinking that girls are dramatic, superficial and competition. In the end, I think a strong sisterhood is way more valuable than the approval and attention from a few men.
@Liza Johnson Is it still seen as unusual for a woman/girl to enjoy video games? There’s so much variety in video games that it would be unusual for someone (not women but like people in general) to not find something they enjoyed unless they couldn’t afford a computer and/or a console and games, or they were actively trying to avoid video games for some reason.
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@@stolenrelic There are still alot of women that dont play video games. Statistics say otherwise. But I agree that we shouldn't judge people by their gender. They can play or do anything they want.
FujoshiPeanut I feel like even pale does that hahah I would understand “keeps natural skin color” or “doesn’t fake tan” since she was making fun of people who fake tan lol
Can you make a video talking about separating by sex in school systems. In ELEMENTARY school our gym classes were separated by boys and girls, ikr. I remember thinking as an 8 year old how this wasn't right, heck the entire class of 8-year-old girls felt similarly, kids aren't that dumb btw. The boys would get to play scooter soccer and other creative games, while the girls played musical hoops every day. This really opened my eyes at a young age to the different treatment we received and it definitely contributes to the "not like other girls" phenomenon by making girls feel inferior in some way.
We had seperated sport class up until 10th grade and then sport was mostly shit because it was no fun playing with the girls who did not want to be there and they could not play. The boys also needed to be less agressiv when playing because the girls started crying all the time. Seperated sport is way better
Same in my school, but only on gym lessons - the ones in the swimming pool were divided by skill level and not sex. To be honest, I hated it at first but then grew to like, since girls' activities were much more varied (boys just played football every single time). Plus there were only six girls, and thus lessons were more individual.
Also a classic movie trope that perpetuates that the “not like other girls” girl always get the guy Guy: *says something nice to female love interest* Girl: I bet you say that to all the girls Guy: you’re not like the other girls, you’re *different*
Yeah that happens a lot in cheesy movies, but to be fair when you have a crush on someone, it genuinely feels like they're different from everyone else! So it's not really that bad, at least that's what I think
I’m a woman and I like all of these things: coding, Playing guitar, Lifting weights, Cooking, Reading, Politics, Yoga, Interior design, Art, Nicely decorated Smoothie bowls, Singing, Wearing makeup, Wearing no makeup, Men, Women, Getting my nails done, Gardening, Writing poetry, Long distance running, Activism, Animals, Traveling, Singing, Watching Netflix. The list goes on. Acknowledging and respecting each other’s differences is the first step towards equality. 💜 let’s be kind to one another.
I think you might have a skewed view of women, lesbians and bisexual people. Your gender and your sexual orientation do not dictate your intellect or your interests. That’s what this video is about. I would recommend reading up on feminism, those stereotypes that you describe are nothing more than that: stereotypes. Reality paints a very different picture. I encourage you to listen to more women (irl or on UA-cam) and question your own perception of them.
@@florentinefelicitas8598 don't even bother, he's probably a troll or just fucking dense. Either way he's not worth your time. Good luck with whatever you're doing and have an awesome day!
Growing up as someone with Autism I struggled with trying to fit in and make friends. So I really latched onto the "I'm not like other girls!" attitude as a defense mechanism and to try and fit in with the guys I thought were cool and the girls who also identified with that attitude. And it took years to unlearn that attitude and to realize how harmful it was to both me, and to other people. This was a really interesting video to watch and I'm so glad you talked about it!
Kellie Skywalker-Solo well you’re not like other girls. You are not like neurotypicals. Never will be and that’s okay. You’re different but don’t be narcissistic about it
For me, that was an external factor. The girls said I wasn't one of them, the boys said I wasn't one of them, so the only logical conclusion was that I was apparently neither. Come puberty, my biology disagreed with this assessment.
tkeyah jordana oh yeah it’s definitely that, but for many girls it’s also that they see how society treats more traditionally feminine girls and don’t want to be treated the same way; there’s many factors, and not bothering to look any deeper than internalized misogyny means that we aren’t getting the full story.
*ENJOYING FOOD IS NOT A PERSONALITY TRAIT*
i said at work today when someone thanked me for letting them eat, sleep might be optional but food isn't. the phrases are, sleep is for the weak and i'll sleep when i'm dead. no one says that about food, food is non-negotiable.
I think it is bc I just don't enjoy eating/food Actually friends remind me to eat something. I don't get hungry easily or cravings.
Yali Bravo you just aren’t qUiRkY enough! /s
It’s a thing because women are encouraged to not eat and skinny girls think it’s cute to eat like a pig publicly because they’re metabolism is good so
Yali Bravo wouldn’t that be your biology. Like you really think that’s part of your personality? I can almost promise you’re more interesting
Girls who like “girly” things like makeup, shopping and skirts shouldn’t be shamed and neither should girls who like boyish things! People should be encouraged to be themselves!
True
^^^This^^^
yeah and the same goes for guys who like feminine stuff
THANK YOU! I always feel like I'm pressured to either be feminine or masculine (especially while growing up in an African household), but whatever I choose always results in me being judged.
amber Yeah, my little brother loves Disney princesses and wearing dresses, crowns, and high heels. He’s pretty little, so for now people laugh but sometimes we get weird looks as we live in a very conservative area. Honestly even if he still likes it as an adult I don’t really care. He is who he is and it doesn’t make me love him any less.
People saying “boys don’t start drama” honestly never had a single History class
Lol amazing
Yeah but Eve made a deal with the devil so....checkmate
I’m not even religious and that story seems legit 🤣🤣
S.M. That’s probably because you clicked on this video to annoy people in the comments
+S.M. you mean Adam being not able to think for himself and just blindly following rules of a male he considered “his leader” regardless of the fact that that leader tried to keep him as ignorant as a child? Yeah, does sound legit tbh
sourgreendolly it’s a joke....
My sister still acts as if she’s “not like other girls” and she literally reminds me of how I used to act... And I feel bad because she was probably influenced by my behavior towards others back then. I bought a nice t shirt the other day and she just looked at me weirdly like “since when do you care about how you look? Are you becoming like those popular girls?” And it does NOT help my mum encourages it. Whenever my sister talks about how she’s into anime she’s always like “some of us like anime in my class so we just sorta talk among ourselves away from the popular girls” and my mums all like “yeah forget those popular girls, just stick to the geeky lot” like noooo people shouldn’t be put into boxes like “the populars” and “the geeks” as if that’s their entire personalities. I love anime, but I still talk to what my family would call “popular basic girls” because they’re really nice.
How does she act now
My sister is like that too. When she was young and now she is like i'm not liker other girls and MOMs. Its a bit strange sometimes
@@yanderellaflowerqueen1167 that is even worse since it not a phase but a lifestyle
Im 10, im none of these..im a sport girl and I mostly spend The time wiht bruh girls talking about memes
@@nojustauser9872 I was one of you!😯
It’s such a breath of fresh air when u mature and realise... it’s okay to be a girl that likes ‘basic’ things.
Especially when guys don't have the same expeditions... and they are all basic ass bitches haha 😂
This whole vsco girl thing, everyone's apparently "so over with stereotypes," yet we can't let a girl wear a scrunchy n feel cute?
Your username 😗💜
Relatable af
They’re widely appealing! That’s the whole deal!
*moral of the story: stop putting others down to make yourself feel better*
AMEN!
well that is a masculine trait to put others down so it sort of makes you not like other girls if you do it.
women are very collectivist and do not enjoy domination.
preach it!
I'm amazed this comment doesn't have more likes.
gractendo Nope, because a lot of acknowledge we were like this at one point in our lives, and how cringed it is when you look back on it. We hope to see this trope less or at least for authors to have the characters get some self-awareness. The characters in most of those kinds of books /shows/movies never out grow that phase.
When a guy gives you the "you're not like other girls" and then as an insult will say "wow I thought you were different" or "you're just like the other girls"
@The Earth Is Dying Because Of You i mean everyone is special in their own way and everyone wants a different kind of person... the problem here is the sexist assumption that a stereotypical cohort of "other girls" exists and that not liking typically feminine things makes you somewhat superior and to be taken more seriously than these "other girls"
Omg i got the "I thought you were different" insult last year and it really hurt! But i told him off and he retracted it.
Other girls are Queens and beautiful and the some of the strongest people I know so being "just like them" is self-improvement in my book
@The Earth Is Dying Because Of You foolish girls? ok dude
lol the comments about uniqueness are just something that people happen to only say in a positive light. no one says "you're not like other girls, i fucking hate your guts!"
It is completely normal to do all these things that “typical girls” don’t do. Video games, books, sports, doesnt like makeup, hangs out with boys, ect. The things is, “not like other girls” girls act like its a personality trait.
Makeup is uncomfortable. I don't care who you are or where you're from. Makeup dries out skin, it's expensive, and takes hours to apply. If people don't like it I totally understand. If people do like it, I get that too. It feels good to feel gorgeous.
Yes exactly, and people also don't realize you can like multiple things at once
Like for God's sake, you can play games and also like makeup and fashion
One thing doesn't erase the other
Funny thing is those activities areas basic as they can get
@@lais9670 yep. Sadly this reminds me of those workplaces where women wearing makeup is a necessity
etc.
I read somewhere once that when a woman says she likes a guy with a sense of humor, she means a guy who can make her laugh. When a guy says he likes a girl with a sense of humor, he means a girl who laughs at his jokes! The social expectation is very much that man should amuse and woman be amused. To be amusing is to capture the attention of the room, so a funny woman is threatening to the kind of men who are insecure.
K R
Yepppppp.
That is such an interesting point, I have never thought of it this way
That's why I just say I like girls who are funny to avoid the misconception
I cannot tell you how many times ive heard men say VERBATIM "women aren't funny"
K R it’s also important to have a SIMILAR sense of humor.
I used to say I don't get along with other girls but then I realized I'm just really bad at making friends.
MOOD
Haha! Same, then I realized I just didn't like people much.
That... that hit home hard
Me! I used to say that I hated everybody and then I realized my bad attitude made people not like me.
@@lunaredelvour2972 uh
Another problem I have is when things like cooking, sewing etc are portrayed as feminine. They have nothing to do with gender. These are basic, technical, practical life skills that everyone should have at a very basic level (no need to be a chef or master tailor, but you have no be able to mend your clothes and cook yourself a meal).
I always find it weird when people act like men are unable to do stuff like cooking/sewing/.., it really seems pretty degrading to me to assume that all men are unable to perform even the most basic practical skills that might even save them money. I'm pretty glad that my parents never really bought into these stereotypes; they can both cook, both can sew and both have also fix stuff in the house. It's really stupid that men "should" be dependent on their mothers/wives/girlfriends for really normal everyday tasks and the same is also true the other way around.
Ironically, chefs and tailors are associated as male proffesions
I know right? What’s bad about knowing how to mend your own clothes I will never know.
yeah!!!,like,just beacuse he's a guy doesn't mean he can't or shoudn't do things like that!
Yeah, even though my grandma did most of the sewing it was because she was a seamstress; my grandpa did a lot of the cooking. It’s stupid to assign genders to activities.
I hate the phrase “You lost to a girl” or “How did you lose to a girl” etc. like c’mon😐
I HATE THAT PHRASE TOOOO AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
its so loaded
Would a girl date a guy she perceived as inferior to her? Please be honest.
@@juanpablosaenz9037 Yea but "how did you loose to a girl" is used when a guy looses in something to a girl and its implies that girls are weak and bad at everything so if you loose to a girl you're REALLY bad at that thing. Nobody is gonna date someone they see inferior, not just girls and not just guys. I'd hope people value themselves more when compared to a junkie who doesn't do anything.
FRRR it's backhanded to women because it assumes they can only succeed by luck and not through hard work + it insults the capabilities of men and perpetrates toxic masculinity by making them feel emasculated
“It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry about.” -Amy Poehler
Edit: wow tysm for all the likes 😊
Audrey Zimmerman this is such a true, great quote tbh
facts. thank goodness we are getting more woke about these issues and addressing these comments. As a Gen-Z sometimes I see these trends among us but then again theres so many young girls who are so woke and work on selflove and self approval not based on other factors
I say sorry all the time sometimes people tell me to stop saying sorry then I reply with “sorry”
jrseahorse I can relate. Wish I could stop it for a second.
@gjaddajg easy for you to say, good sir
People aren't sims. You don't just have 3 traits that define you.
Damn. That was perfect.
Nailed it
sims 3 can't relate
Omg I love this
Sophie Scherk or they just don’t have SNAKE ARMS
“I’m not like most girls, I eat dirt.”
-Kurtis Conner
Same tbh
Fellow citizen of Kurtistown!!!
LuckyOrangeTabby08 Yee Yee 🤠🤟
gotta love him *folks*
Folks! Glad other people watch him!
I'm a girl. I love dressing up, wearing make up, hanging out with my girls, dancing. I'm a nerd. I'm a fangirl. I play games. I love sports. I love to bake. I enjoy chicklit. I laugh at 'chickflicks'. I love math & physics. I'm a doctor. & on top of all that, I'm an introvert. Why do we have to fit into a stereotype? We're human beings. We're supposed to be different. Each & every one of us.
& UA-cam, why do I find this video when it's already 1 year old?
Exactly. With maturity and growing out of the phase, I think I started to realize how complex people are and how they really can't be boiled down to interests or appearance. I don't think we as individuals can be defined. Especially since we are constantly changing, learning and acquiring new tastes, perspectives, etc. All people are so beautiful and have something to offer, I think. I am so glad I look at other girls with love now instead of judging them if their interests didn't match mine. Because it's beautiful to find interest and passion in something you love! And I love seeing other people doing that and being happy. In doing so, I've been able to heal my internalized misogyny and accept and love the feminine aspects of who I am. Frick yeah people are awesome, love the girls and guys and whoever else, we in this together heh. Bless you, sorry for the rant, lol. I hope you're finding happiness in whatever you pursue :))
@@avriebrown3652 thanks for the rant 😁 feels good to find like-minded people with maturity. Hope you have a peaceful life being your honest self, with all the diversity and imperfections and everything.
What does it matter if the video is a decade old, I seriously don't care about being "late" to a video.
@@blacksheep5821 ayeooo thank ya you as well. All the best 🫡
mrs girl really said all of the above /no hate tho
Some guy: wow you’re not like other girls
Me: I am an amalgamation of every single girl I have ever thought was cool
I will use this
i saw a tweet just like this ahaha
Jesse Stilwell HA! PERIOD
@@WildArtistsl guys/people talk to you?!
Brilliant
I had internalized misogyny for years, I always thought 'femininity=weakness' until I met one of my college professors, a wonderful and feminine (She wore a full face of makeup, acrylic nails, and traditional feminine clothing) civil engineer with 20 plus years of experience in concrete design and construction, who had her own company, she is driven and smart, but she also is very kind and loving. She is one of the people I admire the most.
Learning and being taught how powerful and awesome and diverse and special femininity is is life changing!!!!
That woman is powerful
My grandma's aunt told me since I was a little girl I didn't have the need to have a male by my side. She was a single mother, worked for a big company when she was young, always dressed like a top class lady, behaved properly and had a very magnetic personality. Being femenine isn't being weak. Being weak is being weak, having no energy, complaining constantly, being sad and having anxiety because there are bo more avocados to buy on the supermarket around the corner, being unable to take responsability of anything... None of that has to do with being feminine.
I agree!!!
@Reddead Redemtion read the end
“She wears high heels
I wear t-shirts
She’s cheer captain and
I’m on the bleachers”
Was that in a Taylor Swift song? I swear to God that it was in a Taylor Swift song.
@@goodolmeplant5809 yes that lyric is from You Belong With Me, the music video is very 'i'm not like other girls"
Technically it's the cheer captain who is more unique in this scenario lol
But it’s funny because she’s playing both parts in the music video. And also she’s hating on herself more
and there's this comic that has that same lyrics and some drawings of the girls and ends up being gay, what a pleasant plot twist pics.me.me/cheer-shes-hgh-heels-and-in-on-the-bleachers-dreaming-10866107.png
In some cartoons the "mean girl" is often represented as feminine but also superficial,stupid,selfish and stuff.
This is probably one of many reasons why little girls(including me before tbh) think it's bad to be feminine.
I tried to be more masculine because of my little shit of a brother.
I think it’s media being behind culture by about a decade. I am sure in the 80’s-90’s the girly cheerleader WAS the popular girl, and goth/masculine girls WERE bullied relentlessly. I think it’s important not to be overly judgmental so we can stop this dumb cycle of shame.
Not a cartoon but legally Blonde is a good example that's the opposite of that stereotype, Elle Woods was the definition of the feminine blonde girly girl
In pink, but she was actually kind, nice to others while it was the law school students who were mean and judgmental to her
“I’m not like other girls”
in other words
“I’m really likable to boys, boys like me better, please boys, like me”
So true
Whatever works to get a leg up 😂 because people don’t like to be ignored or invisible. If a gal can’t compete with girly girls, she’d wear the I Am Not Like Other Girls facade to get chummy with male sex as a form of acceptance and social recognition.
Tommy gibstain we aren’t saying that’s the problem it’s calling YOURSELF that
Tommy gibstain I didn't that if I wear makeup,I wont be more able to talk about a lot of things
pick me!!
The typical "I don't get along with girls! there's sooo much drama" sis just admit you had toxic friends and go
Or maybe she was the toxic one in the girl squad.
@@iloveyou-pm4tj true!
omg i've been telling one of my friends that for ages,,,, like girl,,, you're at an all-girl sleepover but you're gonna complain about how girls suck?? k
Or they need to admit their own character flaws that made every other female relationship fail. I’m like, “everybody can’t be wrong, sis. Maybe it was you.” 😂
Sometimes they're the toxic friend 😂😂😂😂
Back in the day people weren’t quirky they were “random”
XD
XD SO RANDOM
LOL I’m so random
Rawr... xD
Rawr XD so random
Honestly when I was about 8 years old, I one day went to school and started being like -UGH I HATE PINK
I actually liked it, I was just trying not to be like “other girls”
Now I absolutely love it and understand how stupid i used to be, and how misogyny gets to young girls
Im 9 years old and im proud to say that most of my room is pink
Same
same
I like the color pink just not when its burning my eyes. But other than that I like the color and it looks good when I wear it
@@ilovemycatthoughheisfat8968 I love ur name
You don't need to degrade my gender to compliment me as a person
❤️
Yes!
Emma Mohring PREACH
Well said
Emma Mohring I think it goes the same for girls that say this about themselves
Honestly I hate the "im not like other girls" or "you're not like other girls". Like my friend its the "girly" girl, wears make up, reveling clothes, small, blonde, everything. While I'm the "boyish" girl baggie clothes, short hair, no make up, likes sports. And we're often confronted with " how are you two friends?" like I'm supposed to hate her bc we're different?
underrated comment.
You just described me and my best friend too :))) she is tall and blonde and likes sweet, designer clothes and makeup and perfume, im not even gonna go into shoes and bags, me im 160cm dark brown hair, and mostly just sneakers jeans and tshirt. It takes a special ocassion to make me put on bbcream and mascara.
but what if she has SNAKE ARMS
Tyler McCaw what the hell is snake arms?
arroz ;; y brownies I’m disappointed
Have you heard of asdfmovie?
I feel like “not like other girls” is the “nice guys” of the women’s world
Underrated
Yet different from the "Nice Girls" tag… never thought about this, but it does make sense 🤔
I was just thinking this because both are cringy in similar ways. They both use these phrases to try to guilt the other party after getting rejected.
mary downs I agree! And just like “not like other girls” being called a “nice guy” or “not like other guys” can have some positive or negative implications
Poetic Progenitor true I think those labels can be positive, but only when coming from someone else, not usually when when said about oneself.
I wish you would talk more about how toxic this ideology of "if you like anything that's not girly - you're automatically a pick me not like other girls" because if people even mention online on liking music or tv shows that aren't girly they're automatically categorized as a cringey "not like other girls" girl... even if they still like typically girly things like makeup or fashion.
Categorised by whom? And would they care of that person’s opinion?
@@KaterynaM_UA Categorized by people on the internet who are so indoctinated with the "not like other girls" meme, that they forget that not all girls who don't like all "girly" stuff are doing it to please men or to seem different. It's pushing a very sexist and misogynistic belief. Sure, some do it just to seem "cool" or "different," but when you're so indoctrinated with this ideology it's actually pushing towards the opposite direction you want your movement to go in. I don't know what the second question has to do with anything though, because people should care if they care about real feminism other than the "feminists" who post "not like other girls" crap instead of just ignoring it, and letting the problem get worse.
Yes definitely, I don’t like jewelry but I also don’t hate jewelry and don’t judge anyone for wearing it. But I never say it because I feel like people will call me a pick me girl or “not like other girls”
Yeah that also happens a lot. Although I feel I come off more as pretentious and annoying whenever I mention that I like opera and classical music rather than pick me 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Well once a group of girls turned on me in school and said I'm trying to be special by being into boys music. I'm 27 and still listening and creating metal
Yes, love this. I used to “hate pink” for this reason, and as I got older, I love pink because I don’t care about the stereotype anymore
For me it was I use to be a tomboy now I just feel really feminine well not feminine but def more
I still don't care to wear it personally, but I definitely appreciate it a lot more too
yeah, like my hair is pink, and when i painted, the girls from my class always said stuff like “your hair looks pretty but would look better blue so won’t be too girly”
Same.
@Richa Priya Paradox lel.
I hate when people think that being sensitive is a “women’s trait” and think of it negatively. Being sensitive is good! It allows you to understand situations better and get along with more people. Also that doesn’t blind you from seeing the truth or being objective in situations that require it.
Yes!
Absolutely agree - it's not like you are either empathetic or rational - it's not either-or. And then there's the 'masculine' aggressive characteristics/ machoism that men are 'supposed' to have - except that that's just being sensitive and overreacting to things also! But in a violent way. It's actually very emotional behaviour when you think about it.
No, being sensitive is not good you'll overreact/ Overthink
@@Elite_Sturmgewehr Sometimes but not always. Only if you can't control it. Being sensitive can help many things including understanding people and changing how you choose to treat someone because you anticipate how they will respond.
@@Anna-2 Speak for yourself
I’m not like other girls. In fact, I’m not like other people, bc I am not human, I’m an alien. Please come save me at Area 51. They have my family and I hostages and we are trapped. If you Naruto run, they won’t be able to catch you
In 24 hours you will be set free sis. I gotchu! ✌🏾
Oof i'm not like other girls because i am an undercover guard, i think i saw you some time ago
And make sure once you get inside, to run around scooby doo style through multiple doors in a hall so you won't get caught during the rescue mission.
Now I'm thinking of the Key and Peele "Check that shit out" sketch.
I'm reptilian, I don't save aliens, I bring them to my underground free masons lair!
I literally don't understand what the society wants •́ ‿ ,•̀
society is just too indecisive, **insert pensive emoji**
I love the kaomoji :0
Right just be yourself at this point lmao let's stop trying to be something for society
They want everything but also nothing
Society can't want anything.
Only people can want something.
But how can my 27 year old self @ my 13 year old self
What language is this
HONESTLY THO LMAO
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
killer kieran pretty sure that they meant : how can my 27 year old self call out my 13 year old self
Dude same 11/12 year old me was such a toxic advocate for that "all my friends are boys" shit (even though most of my friends were girls, I was just living in delusion). Thank God it wore off when I got to high school
I love how half of these “quirks” are about eating food. EATING FOOD IS SOMETHING EVERY SINGLE HUMAN ON EARTH DOES. IT IS EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE OF QUIRKY. COULD YOU NOT HAVE CHOSEN SOMETHING, SoMeThINg THAT YOU DONT HAVE TO DO TO SURVIVE....???
Breathing is quirky
Mels everything is quirk now
Because other girls just breath air and eat lettuce.
HAHAHA love this
and the worst part is that they brag about eating a lot of things that is very bad for their health, as if it were somehow good
This video kinda quirky doh. It’s not like other videos
its funny cause it actually isnt hehehehe
😂😂😂😂
Nicholas Nelson 10/10 comment
LMAO
XD
I had the same experience growing up. “I can’t like pink because it’s too girly” “I don’t go to parties because I’m not that *party girl*” “I’m going into STEM because I will be that girl among *the guys*”. These thoughts/actions were not red flags to me until 3 years ago. This was a great video to help me reflect more on this topic
I hope you still went to pursue STEM, not to be “one of the guys” but because it was fulfilling, well-paying, and a way of breaking patriarchal dominance in the field.
When I was little, I got teased by tomboys because I was too girly. While at the same time, I’m sure tomboys got teased because they were tomboys. Can’t please everyone so just be yourself.
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I always hated the tomboy term, actually. It pretty much implies that wearing hoodies, liking sports or comic books is a defining "boy" trait, when it's really not. Every human being is allowed to wear whatever clothes make them comfortable, allowed to enjoy the feeling of adrenaline or to admire and relate to characters like Batman or Iron Man.
@@aceash459 ikr
It's always with the undertone of claiming a woman would be less of a woman if she does/likes x
It's always about strangers trying to tell you how you have to be in order to be called a woman
And even if these people call you a woman they automatically claim you wouldn't excel as good in man dominated areas.
I could write essays about it as a woman in tech that's not typically "nerdy" looking (not that looking nerdy would be bad obviously, I just prefer a different clothing style for myself, I am neither better or worse than my nerdier dressing girl friends, clothes are supposed to be fun! ❤️)
@@aceash459 tomboy is not about wearing stupid hoodies or worshiping some capitalist propaganda merchandise.
tomboy Is when you come back home all bruised and beaten with your clothes torn in pieces and threaten your mom with premature death because of neverending stress since she does not know if you will even come back in one piece today. This is because you are interested in explosives and guns and other deadly dangerous stuff. like real boys rather than playing safe like typical girls.
Nobody cares to what characters you relate if you are a crybaby coward
@@prisle
well when people refer to the woman they refer to female stereotype, if you are different then obviously you are not a stereotypical woman but maybe you more resemble a stereotypical man.
The reason why this matter is because stereotypical man is only interested in stereotypical woman a man does not want to be in relationship with another man
I actually feel bad sometimes for being "too girly". I study software engineering, but I also like make up and fashion and other stereotypically girly things. I notice I have started dressing down more, because l fear being judged by other woman, who feel superior because they are "natural and low maintance" and whatever.
It's kinda sad. I wish we could just accept one another, whether we dress in short skirts and high heels or a sweater and flats.
Cromwell The Wombat you do do!!!!! girly things are so fun!! i go to school for civil engineering but i get my acrylic nails refilled every two weeks!!
Same sometimes I feel like other girls see me as superficial becasue of my appearance
Omg i felt myself do this at university, majority of my classmates were guys and i felt really odd coming to class all cute. I felt like they wouldn't take me seriously. Long story short my self esteem plummeted and now im trying to build myself up again.
I *feeeel* this. My office is full of women who are all about constantly reminding everyone that they love comfy clothes and no makeup. I even was told by my ceo that I can no longer wear white work pants because “other women” think they’re inappropriate. And these women never tried to have a friendship or be kind with me whatsoever.
I've noticed that it does not matter if you're stereotypically girly or stereotypically a tomboy. I myself grew up with 2 brothers and am I not girly girl. Throughout my life I've felt just as insecure and afraid of being judged by other girls as my very girly friends. We all have to learn to value the strengths we have and realize that people will judge us no matter what we dress like. It also ties in with the "dumb blonde" trope as well. It's always appearance vs the brain. The whole "you can only have one" idea is ridiculous.
When a guy says “you’re not like other girls” it clearly shows how little he thinks of other women.
@@QHaq-oh5oe why wouldn't it be?
when you expect less and think the worst, you can't be disappointed only pleasantly surprised
that goes for interactions with anyone, not just women
Rachel Carlin - women think even less about other women.
By that logic, Tiffany herself thinks little of men, given she told her boyfriend he's "not like other guys".
Robert Sander she did say that was wrong too. Nice try
This reminds me of the annoying “Introduce yourself as why girls hate you” Tiktok trend
They always go back to "I'm friends with guys" which I suspect is a roundabout way of saying they can tell you might try to sleep with their boyfriend 🧐
@@i.b.640 Okay-first of all- it’s not sexist to make a legitimate observation about behavior that some women engage in. I am obviously a woman, and not against women. It’s fine to have guy friends and I’ve had many. I’ve even had many guy ‘best friends’ that I ended up dating. A lot of girls see friendship as a gateway to a relationship, and there isn’t even anything wrong with that. I’m specifically talking about the girls that
a) take pride in the fact that other girls don’t like them
b) have inappropriate boundaries with their male friends that are in relationships
Girls like this make a lot of girls suspicious of female friends in general. That’s sad, and I’m sorry that you’ve lost friends over that. You should really let go of the idea that other women are commonly being sexist or personally attacking you, however. I also went through a period where I felt like that, and it doesn’t help you. There is real
sexism and calling it out where it isn’t makes men take us less seriously when it does occur.
Society: don’t be basic
Also society: what a loser she’s trying too hard to be different
dont ever go with what society says. go with you.
Also they're different ppl of mentioned society making sure to put down anyone for fitting in or not into a category... it's never the same group of ppl... So you'll feel like you can't satisfy everyone...ever.
Trying to be different or trying to feel superior than everybody else ?
@@GitanAnimex trying to stress that you're different because you've been conditioned that being similar is undesirable
@@blendingwitch6206 you can try to be different without bashing the others this is the topic of this video the pickme bash others and use that to "show" how they are different aka. better than the rest
I used to really want to be a “not like other girl” until I watched Parks and Rec. seeing a woman who loved her job, was good at it, respected but also very in touch with her feminity and female friends. Leslie Knope was smart, driven, determined, respected but also sweet, considerate, kind
Uhh so true 😭❤
She was such an amazing relatable role model
My mom is a successful scientist. She always said you can be a scientist AND love pink and Disney princesses, the two don't contradict
Yesss we stan parks and rec
I've always said leslie knope is an amazing role model. I love her.
"Not like other girls" is such a funny phrase. Like, yeah, you're not like other girls because you are a human and therefore a unique individual. Just like literally every other human. Congrats.
Women are not unique they are all prety similar and those who are not are shamed and bullied.
guys are exactly opposite where you being average means fate close to death you must be different than everyone at all cost or else women will ignore you and you will be treated like shit.
@@deltaxcd women are all similar. Okayyyy...
Not that I only think like that I can observe that. as of course not everyone is the same, but women are extremely similar while men are way more diverse.
and this is an absolutely evident fact because if you take any kind of deviance, no mater what kind you will find many times more men there than women.
like a prison- majority of men, homeless- majority or men, scientists- the majority of men, businessmen- the same. people who dress in chicken costume then have sex with bicycles while barking like a dog -the absolute majority of men.
You will have a super hard time to find some unique woman on earth because whatever deviance you will find there will be 10 times more men like that
@@deltaxcd are you a man
@@chloechloe12345
How is that relevant to the topic?
Although philosophically speaking no am not a man because of the extreme diversity of men we can't even define what is a man besides their genitalia. besides that I have very little common with most other men and even less common with women who are like beings from another planet
I feel like pretty much everyone around me is a “not like other girls” lately... Everyone I know wears hoodies constantly, eats pizza, goes around with no makeup... You know, typical stuff everyone does. It’s like everyone’s so obsessed with not being like “the other girls” that those other girls are just fading away. Ands it’s actually sad, sometimes I want to wear makeup but I feel awkward about it because everyone is so against girly girls. I’ve never worn makeup in my life because I grew up with the whole “not like other girls” mindset... but I actually want to be a bit more feminine now and it’s weird that I feel so... ashamed, and awkward about it? Like I feel like I’d be judged, that’s how much the mindset has kinda spread I guess
I feel you
I grew out of that mindset. Go and put on a skirt and just exist around the house. Trust me, it's awesome.
I went through this I like to put on make-up and I feel super weird because my friends talk about how they don't put on make-up
Dress = more airflow= way more happy day
Right, like first wearing hoodies, sweat pants, no makeup, and eating junk food was looked down upon and now everyone wants to do it??!! Can't we just all be ourselves like dayum 😵
I’m a girl.
My hair is super short and dyed.
I like wearing more baggy clothing like hoodies and t-shirts.
I like reading, writing, and playing videos games.
I adore the color pink and think creating looks with makeup is a lot of fun.
I like to dress up on occasion in more conventionally girly clothes, like dresses and skirts.
I’m a girl.
Natasel this dude got 2 brain cells
MEEE
Yay! You're a person
ironically you are doing the whole "im not like other girl" by describing yourself like that
No one cares
This annoys me so much. Bringing down other girls for wearing makeup, liking “basic” things and being themselves doesn’t make you quirky.
exactly!! there is nothing wrong with that.
Layla M like if half the population isn’t basic then they’re still basic statistically
Human beings naturally want to feel superior to others... So people label and put people in groups and find something in that group to put people down. There is something my English teacher in middle school said who probably gave the best advice... No one is actually unique lol 😂
@@greeneyesgirl467 that's some real words there.
She's not though...
It really annoys me that in order to be approved as “not like other girls” you still should be hot and thin, you just can’t be seen making any efforts to improve your appearance. This is an even more impossible standard to live up to.
That you can only be considered ‘not like other girls’ if you are hot basically🙄
When I was younger, boys would say that I was not like other girls. I would say duh, I’m autistic and have clinical depression, you probably haven’t met a lot of girls like me, but we exist.
I am an other girl and I am a neurodivergent person :D
Hahahahaha savage!!!
literally same with the autism and depression😭
I’m glad you grew out of that person
Why do all of these “quirky girls” think loving food is a defining trait lmao
Edit: Wow thanks everybody for the sociological analyses lmao. I know why girls feel the need to do it. It was a rhetorical question. I made the original comment because by claiming that loving food is “quirky” you are just reinforcing the ridiculous convention that girls should be skinny/eat very little. You are basically throwing other girls under the bus for the sake of saving face.
@@futuristiccat5636 wow you are so quirky
neptuneblissfish i cringed so hard while reading that
neptuneblissfish I hope you were being sarcastic
Right? Its actually the oposite. In reality there are more Girls who eat a lot than the oposite
It might come from the fact that some girls limit their diets a lot or starve themselves to be skinny. It may be harmfully viewed as them being caught up in their looks instead of it being an eating disorder or that they need help. Liking food may be a way that they tell people that they’re not going to go such lengths to be “beautiful” unlike “other girls” who are said to worry too much about their looks.
I’m a woman in STEM, studying human bio and physiology, and was told by a male colleague that “bio isn’t really science” and it’s “easier, that’s why girls do it”. Oof. Last time I checked, we go to the same school my guy.
Historically, men have always said that about certain professions until women started being involved and productive in them. Etc; writing was thought to be only for the "intelligent, thoughtful man" until women began writing novels and now suddenly it's perceived as a simple, deadbeat career. :/ Same goes for art, and for biology - when more women began working as nurses and doctors. Ever since women started getting their rights and becoming educated and productive in certain professions, those were suddenly seen as "easy" or "not a real science". It's so gross.
Damn what a prick
@@nine-vi7rw Wow, that's so true. My dad wants me to go on a male-dominated field because they make more money and lack traits that women typically have. (So the field would benefit from more women) But I'm just so tired of this race of trying to prove men we're equal. They'll always find the next thing that women do and claim it's easy and lower the pay.
Young women in Finland are high-achievers, work harder, put more effort to look better and have better social skills than young men, but still they are more represented in low-tier jobs, masters' that don't lead to a job, and female-dominated high education jobs have smaller salaries. Women have to be more experienced and proper for the same job. Young Finnish women take more antidepressants and have a higher suicide rating among European women, than men take or have among European men. We put so much effort in order to "make it". It feels like a fight we can't win. Men are just so dim that they don't realize we're equal even if we're way past that. It doesn't seem to matter what we do.
Nana I don’t think art has been a more profitable profession before our time. It’s been studied and admired post the artists’ death, but acting was seen as being equal to prostitution, painters, even masters like Rembrandt, died penniless and abused, writers were often censored, mostly singers and musicians were the ones taken most seriously, and even then, it was the select few. Painting lost its meaning when Picasso painted the shit he did and called it “Art”, spawning generations of people throwing colors on a canvas and calling themselves “artists”, until painting has stooped to such a ridiculous low, nobody takes a painter seriously until they see the work. Notice how nothing had much to do with genders. But never before have artists made the money they can make now, especially through popular media.
You tell me, I'm studying industrial engineering and it's my male professors who say women aren't made for engineering :/
"Me: REAL boobs! _white_ , natural, tumblr, just right, nerdy!"
Tiffany: "That's problematic for a number of reasons."
😂😂😂
post moddy that one was satire
As a black person, i am no longer a girl
A lot of girls grow up being singled out as different by adults, too. If you were a “tomboy” you’d be familiar with the well-being anxiety of adults around you worrying when you were going to “grow out of it.” No wonder they thought they weren’t like other girls when their own parents and aunts were telling them just that.
Yes! "She's gonna change someday." That's something I heard a lot and I was so freaking annoyed and felt like they rejected my identity and invalidate my feelings.
I didn't change and stay this way.
Also, I thought I was a tomboy my whole life, but turns out I'm non-binary. It was pretty shocking.
My teammates and I bonded over “not being like other girls”... all 45+ of us 😑
Lol did you notice the irony at the time?
I-
Lmfao well at least you realized
Goldie01 I think it dawned on me my Senior year when I was listening to my younger teammates lol
Omg 😂😂
Feminism is overcoming your hatred of pink and realising it’s a nice colour
Melissa Travers yess that’s kinda true though
There’s truth to this I used to be an “other girl” / “one of the boys”, so I acted like I hated pink cause it’s a girly color. I secretly loved it, and I now wear my love for pink on my sleeve.
It's still not my favorite color but I claimed to absolutely hate it when I was younger, wouldn't even wear it. Now I admit I look good in pink and will wear it semi-often
Yup. I realized I can be a badass and wear a shit ton of pink
YES.
y'all say boys aren't full of drama as if lord of the flies dropped off the face of the earth
lauren ! an underrated comment
I'm dead 😂😂
Oof, you just reminded me of Piggy.
omg YES
They are not full of drama honestly
I was looked down on in 3rd grade because I was “girly” then in 7th I arm wrestled a boy and won and all of a sudden I’m a “man” and I have “man arms” they even went as far as to call me “transgender” scars me till this day 😀
I was masculinized also.
As a boy, I can definitely say I’m not like other girls
😂
LMAO
Favourite comment 😂😂😂
I have achieved Pp
Based?
Ironically, Notlikeothergirls culture was so prevalent in my high school I always felt weirdly singled out for liking traditionally feminine things.
Also I 100% avoid women who say things like “I just don’t get along with girls! Boys are just less drama” Some of my deepest and most meaningful friendships and hardest times where weathered with other women by my side. It kind of feels like they’re insulting that :/
Don’t worry those types of girls normally thrive on and need male attention to feel validated
I have more guy friends but not because I don’t like female friends but because I had a horrible roommate experience in college so I spent time on my boyfriend’s floor (even when he wasn’t there so I could have a safe place to study) and thus met more boys just based on proximity. I’d LOVE to have more girl friends and am actively trying to reach out to other girls to make new friends
I was a hypocrite because I was always told from others that guys were less drama but I realized that my best friends have always been girls. Never guys because I just don’t Idk I just don’t have guy friends. But it’s all good.
Elizabeth Gatsby agree always avoid people that say that. Tends to be a big red flag lol
Elizabeth Gatsby yeah I was like those girls but I’ve been wronged by everybody. I hated men and I hated women at some point in my life. Later I discovered I’m misanthrope. I just don’t like people. People suck
I used to think liking pink was not cool. I was a little 'tuff' and kind of sporty as a teen. But as an adult I know realize that I can be 'tuff' and 'sporty' and still like pink and be feminine.
Yes! Same! I was a very tomboy growing up, and never liked pink or dressing up. But now, I realized I can love pink and still be a tomboy and feminine. When I want too be, and there is nothing wrong with that at all.
Omg sameee now I live and breathe pink but I’m NOT sporty at all anymore lmaoo 🤩 also, I’m really glad that you found balance and comfort🤩✨
I was very rejecting of the color pink and I didn’t know why for a while. Well, turns out I’m non-binary and that stereotype of girls liking pink made me dysphoric inside.
@@quasooon pink is my absolute favorite color now! After I went through my phase during 3rd to 5th grade. Because I wanted to be like my friend who was a tomboy and I thought it was cool. So I would stay away from everything feminine. But now look at me I love makeup and shopping for clothes and pink.
i honestly still don’t like pink and stuff bc it’s simply out of my comfort zone, i’m still a tomboy, but that doesn’t mean i’m not proud of being a girl. even though i have same interests as men i am still so proud of being a girl. so...can i be considered a feminist?
all the insta comments like 'girls arent funny' literally makes me RAGE
Or those "jokes" that are like:
Girls: *insert misogynistic "All girl like is fashion and makeup" joke here*
Boys: *Doing things that many women also enjoy*
I hate those ones and I wish it'd die out.
@@manifestationsofasort or those memes of girl vs boys
Example
Girls wallpaper: flowers
Boys wallpaper: that amog us meme
Those memes are 1 of the reason why so many girls become nlog in the the first place
They haven't met so many women!
Tiffany (4:22): “For example there are apparently two kinds of girls. You can be basic or you can be...”
My brain: “...acidic?”
This make me laugh!
yea no I'm for sure acidic
I'm not like other girls... I'm sour and corrosive✌🏼
Science at its best
@@razzledazzle9723 cannot a girl be alkaline?
I’m not like other girls
I snort Flintstone Vitamins and I’m sexually attracted to clouds
...........
IM A CLOUD
You too?!?!
Them clouds thicc af idgaf
ⓑⓐⓢⓘⓒⓐⓛⓛⓨ ⓣⓗⓘⓢ ⓘⓢ ⓣⓗⓔ ⓑⓔⓢⓣ ⓒⓞⓜⓜⓔⓝⓣ ⓔⓥⓔⓡ
this is SO relatable
Whenever men at my university (electrical engineering) say that "you're not like other girls here", I want to slap them.
Stop comparing us and study.
정대민 another electrical engineer here, the amount of times I've gotten the "you're so different you don't do a bA like every other girl". Like leave me alone we have an hour left in the lab and I have a lot of code to write
I'm doing a neuroscience degree, and my classes are overwhelmingly female. It's actually really awesome. I don't get any "not like other girls" bs from anyone there, probs cuse they know they're outnumbered lol
Ayyy I’m an electrical engineering student as well and I feel you 😂 my first day at university a guy told me I looked more like an art student then an engineering student (like tf??).
Danielle Spargo I’m pharmaceutical science and it’s slot of females as well
Mech eng major with masculine interests I get it homie
I’m not like other girls
_I have committed several war crime in Russia_
Wow 😂 my favorite 😻 definitely isnt like other girls thats some next level s***
**W A R C R I M E S I N R U S S I A S K Y R O C K E T**
*Oh no I've done it again*
@Yay Yay **chugs vodka**
Rasputin?
“It’s like telling a girl she doesn’t throw like a girl. You’re trying to compliment her throwing abilities, but you’re also perpetuating the harmful and false stereotype that girls generally can’t throw.” This was so extremely well put!
Yes, it’s so true
Sort of, except with throwing there is a literal physical difference in the structure of the shoulder between m and f
Yup... it's still an insult 0 _ 0
@@misstimetosleep we're talking about complementing a girl about her skill being so good that you feel like insulting her whole gender to make it clear '-' not physiological differences between men and women
My husband had an issue with this statement. He's a basketball player and he literally throws like a girl. That's the form he's most comfortable in. My thought is that most people use this as an insult and are not thinking of the type of form you're exhibiting. it's more like they are saying "you throw like a girl because you can't throw"
Eve: “I’m not like other girls.”
Adam: “like what?!”
He would be like, there are other girls?
@@phillconklin382 I disagree with your reasoning, but appreciate your compliment nonetheless. 🙏
@@joefernandez8008 My point is just men are better observers which leads them to more witty and logical conclusions. But it's cool if you don't agree.
"My point is just men are better observers which leads them to more witty and logical conclusions. But it's cool if you don't agree." - Phill Cocklin
This is even funnier considering it's usually male comedians who go around talking about how women tend to be more perceptive, observant, high-strung and detail oriented. But ofcourse, an incel would ignore that and insist that it's definitely men who come to more 'logical conclusions'.
Actually, the joke seems funnier when considering that Lilith supposedly came before Eve and was not submissive enough. So by that Legend Eve was made to be the not like other girls in being more desirable.
“How dare you tell me ‘I am not like most girls’,
when those 'girls’ you refer to
are my sisters and mothers, my friends,
the very solace and the kindness I have sought
when the worst things in my life have happened?
How dare you assume
I should take that as a compliment,
and beam at you like it is praise
when you are alienating me
from the very core
of my proudly female being?
There are a thousand ways
to tell me you love me,
and making my sisters small
to make me big
isn’t one of them.
Tell me you love me, but not because I am different.
Tell me you love me, just because you do.”
‘You Aren’t like Most Girls’ | Nikita Gill
mean poutine yessss I love this.
oh wow this is extremely powerful and touches at the heart of what I was feeling exactly. Thanks for sharing it.
I love her poems. 💙
That is beautiful
I was bad about this in high school. In a cooking class, a girl in my group was crying over a breakup while another girl comforted her. To myself, I rolled my eyes and thought “we’re all too young to know what love is, now help me with this task we have for class.”
I also felt “not like other girls” for not going to parties or dating. Turns out I’m introverted and anxious in such settings.
Lets be honest, we were a "not like other girl" at some point in our lives
Then we realised how toxic being like that is and stopped
I was looking for this comment! I mean yeah it doesn't make us more special or more acceptable than others. we're just humans
Same, and then I realized, “Wow, Im being a dick. And this isnt right at all, why am I judging others? And bringing them down.” Society.
@@caleahrose7204 same, i Wanna slap my younger self
I swear I used to say I’m not like other girls I hate past me good thing is I know how toxic it was
YESSSSS
“I’m not like other girls, I’m worse!” Hahaha I lost it 🤣🤣
Ashley H. That’s how I honestly took always that “I’m not like other girls” statement and I embraced it because I was weird in an unattractive way because of certain parenting differences of me growing up and not being able to adapt with other girls... which I always wanted to fit in with them but couldn’t ;-;
Now I can, true confidence and make up helped... But took a while to finally be able to be like other girls
TBH same. Honestly that's how I felt for a while, I thought something was innately wrong with me, I thought other people were just too good for me. And that got even worse when I started developing feelings for my best friend and then she rejected me. Which was totally understandable, but at that time I felt so heart broken and lonely.
I have always hated this so much. I grew up to be a feminine, pink-obsessed, woman, with my nails painted and my make up done every day. I love doing this for myself, it makes me feel pretty. And I also happen to be a PhD student, and a teacher, and somehow for lots of people in academia, these two aspects of me can't coexist. Either I'm too pretty or too "pink" to be really smart, or I'm trying too hard on things that don't really matter like makeup and other "feminine hobbies". Apparently, the idea of women in academia is for us to conform either to the specific stereotype of the "library-mouse" (as I like to call it) or we are expected to be vain, and fickle, and superficial if omg look she's got her nails painted pink. Ugh.
I am exactly like other girls!
You are an inspiration ❤ I want to be you when I grow up. I'm the sort of girl who really likes to wear heels, makeup, dresses etc. I like to keep my nails long and I spend a lot of time buffing and painting them. Right now, I'm in 10th grade and I feel like people, boys especially, underestimate me because of my 'vanity'. They can't believe that someone who's first in her class could spend her lunchtime painting her nails 💅🏾
Same. I relate to this so much 🥺❤️
babyjenks93 I relate so so much and I feel like I’m never respected because of how I dress
Yeah, youre like other girls, and thats absolutely fine!❤
I was a huge girly girl growing up, and as a minority, I was really bullied for those reasons. I guess at that time it was more accepted to be a tomboy and to be girly (only if you were white). Oh well, eventually I shed that skin because I couldn’t take the teasing. A small part of me still likes pink & sparkles, but I try to repress that as much as I can now from fear
One thing that i think is also really important to this discussion is the intersection of queerness and being "not like other girls". I have seen SO many stories from people being like "i used to be so proud of myself for not being boy-obsessed like all those 'OTHER GIRLS🙄🙄' but i actually was just a lesbian/asexual lol" or the case that i also experienced of being a "tomboy" and hating girly things, and priding yourself on how not dainty and feminine you are and how you hate the color pink (which is a lovely color btw), and then ending up being trans!! And while the internalized misogyny is still FLAMING in this scenario, there's also the possibility of some of it also coming from what was probably unrealized gender dysphoria. And it definitely does originate from like you mentioned, growing up in a very cis-heteronormative society, where the answer is NEVER queerness and instead just an odd cishet girl who's "just a little different!!" and then feeling like you have to defend yourself for these inherent differences that maybe even YOU don't understand. I didn't realize I was trans until probably around two years after finally getting out of that toxic not like other girls mindset. And because you're a "girl" the only logical way to do that and to validate yourself in the eys of society is to be the ideal form of a girl. And to put down other girls is the only way to achieve that top position.
YES! I'm a trans guy, and back then the only way I could have verbalized that was by saying that "I'm not like other girls". However, I never related to the depictions of girls not being like other girls either, and was so scared people would take me as meaning the same things I saw when people talked about not being like other girls rather than trying to explore with me what that meant to me, so I just never talked about it.
Mine was gender dysphoria as well. Soon as I came out non binary I felt okay with pink and 'girly' things mixed with my dorky 'boy' hobbies.
There's also how ADHD or Autistic women often don't feel 'like other girls' and often are penalized and isolated in social and work settings for not being the right kind of feminine or whatever
I don’t like how they shame girls for trying to look presentable. Like just because a girl dresses up and wears makeup doesn’t mean she is trying to appease men and by belittling her you are in a weird way trying to appease men.
hey don't bring bums into this...as a matter of fact dont bring them into anywhere.
tharbk01 what should I say then?
tharbk01 lmao
Now you seem to removed the misogyny but you’ve replaced it with ableism. We should not have to put something down to uplift another generally because we don’t know what enabling them physically and or mentally to why the clothing hasn’t been washed.
Oh true I’m sorry I’ll edit it
"You're not like other girls."
"Thank you, every girl is and therefore no girl is. It's a paradox, as are most girls. In this essay I will..."
I also think there is a different between someone saying “you’re not like other girls” in a way that brings other girls down and someone saying something like “you’re really not like any other girl I’ve met” in a way that expresses that the girl is special and they really love them or something.
Tallulah Luna yup
@Randall PaquetBecause one doesn't express the same amount of emotion that the other one does. "You're not like all the other girls I've met" and "You're unique"
The second implies that the person is unique to them but doesn't describe how, the first goes to show how unique that person is to them.
I got really into sewing during lockdown and I'm trying to unlearn the idea that fashion is a vain or vapid thing to be interested in. I love fashion, and I've really enjoyed making my own clothes, I designed and made a dress all on my own! I'm proud of that! and I am never going to feel bad about that again :)
can you do a video about like “boys will be boys” and the toxic connotations of this phrase
Claire Gibbles as good of a video it would be it would prob be flooded w dislikes
She's a girl... Men will attack her
the phrase in itself only refers to boys doing stupid and silly things because they're boys, the toxicity comes from the people that use it to excuse terribe behavior
@@lau.cami2074 But I feel it still is at least pretty silly, even when not used to excuse really bad behaviour (I'm not a native English speaker so I don't really know to much about how the phrase is used but hearing it in Daniell Howell's "Basically, I'm Gay" video once honestly was enough for me to hate it). In the end girls also do most of the same "stupid and silly things" like boys do. I mean at least I can remember it pretty clearly from my childhood. So if you really want to use the phrase you could just say "kids will be kids" because that's what if is really about, if you use it in a non-toxic situation.
@@Tessa_Gr An example of this phrase's toxicity is bullying among boys - where someone needs to step in but no one does because "boys will be boys". This hurts the victim and the bullies who now believe that they can do whatever they want because they're excused by this phrase. Maybe the situation involves drugs or inappropriate comments towards girls, but in all cases it's dangerous.
I think there’s a lot of internalized misogyny in making fun of vsco girls and e girls
isn't it the same when like last year where people kept making fun of hypebeast and now eboys???
Genuine question.
@@thatoneperson8154 When you are making fun of the hegemonic group vs the marginalized group, it is inherently different due to power dynamics.
I don't really have a problem with them but the fact that vsco girls are reducing plastic waste by drinking with metal straws from PLASTIC CUPS is hypocrisy!!!!!!!
100% !!!!! all the way. "basic white girls" .... all that is definitely misogyny.
@@yukiandkanamekuran You know, as a woman of color, I've really had to evaluate my use of the term "basic white girls." I think it for me honestly comes down to an evaluation of the inherent disparity in the power dynamics of white women & (in my case) black women.
The term "basic white girl" was used not to separate myself from white girls as I am a woman, but to separate myself from them as I am a black woman.
White women get away with a lot of shit there's no way black women could get away with. The "basic white girl" became a caricature of those differences. Becky and Shanice are two different people & society at large will not let us forget it.
I've had to take a step back and reconsider my use of the term, though. No matter how I split it white women are like my cousins in the struggle. It's easy to poke fun but having actual conversations about our differences and the way we should interact with each other in light of them is much more constructive than making another "you don't season your food" joke.
I think you can't talk about this 'trend' without mentioning 'everyone hates teenage girls' thing.
Basically anything that's popular with teenage girls gets hated on by literally anyone else. Think about it, there's: Justin B, 1D, Hunger games, and more recently the Vesco girl (is the sksksksk included in that?idk), E-girl and vegan/environmentalist girl. This could be a reason why girls say their aren't like other girls because of the widespread hatred of things teenage girls like so they feel as if being anything like that is wrong because they are being constantly subjected to bashing online because it's a trend....
(P.S i don't blame you for not talking about it, you covered ALOT and it's kinda niche in the sense of labeling things, most don't realize it until you tell em, (I didn't) and it does kinda fit within the self-deprecation point)
Kyoskii men love putting down children and teenage girls and it’s a fact
Yes! Lindsay Ellis makes a rly good point abt this in her “dear Stephanie Meyers” vid
You had me until you mentioned vegan/environmentalist. That's one thing that is very far from being a teenage thing exclusively and the awareness is growing more and more amongst other generations very quickly. Being vegan and caring for the environment is not a bad thing in any shape or form and, unlike other examples you've mentioned, has a positive impact. Anyone who hates vegans and environmentalists need to do their research.
@@Schevelian First off this isn't about hating on those things specifically nor did i say they're bad just hated. You really did stop reading after that, didn't you? Second, don't make this about you, it about teenage girls not adult vegan/environmentalists so stop preaching about' how it isn't bad' or 'that more are moving towards it' because there is still a hatred towards teenage girls who are vegan/environmentalist because their teenage girls. NONE of these topics are specifically only teenage girls but is sometimes associated with them where usually the mocking is present, for example: 'save the turtles! use reusable straws!!'.
Being vegan or enviromentalist isnt just a trend!
I used to be sooo afraid of being girly. I would wear baggy clothes and a just a little make up. Now I don't care. I like 'non girly things' and 'girly' things. I'm just gonna do what I want to
Hailee Steinfield’s song “Most Girls” really reminds me of this and she really turns it around in that song to praise women and I really love it
Eleanor Moloney YES
I love that song
I hated that song
i love that song ever since it came out
Yes I just listened to it today, so good!
I feel like "not like other girls" is another way to label the "cool girl."
It's a way to do so by lowering other girls, rather than elevating a person for whatever makes them stand out.
And "cool girl" in some people's dictionary is a girl who does everything a guy likes, whist being hot and pretty and satisfying every possible male fantasy
The cool girl trope would fit under the categorical umbrella that is "I'm not like other girls," with the quirky stereotype. All subdivisions of this trope are seen as more desirable to men who like seeing a girl who can be "one of the guys" while satisfying their attraction to feminine qualities. So basically a mix of feminine and masculine qualities where the masculine qualities are typically amplified by appearance.
All of this is assuming that girls generally are primarily "feminine" and that "feminine" traits aren't cool.
Hell yes, the monologue from gone girl explained everything about it
According to that one post I'm not like other girls because I'm black.
I appreciate your profile picture
LOL SAME
I think when she said "white" she meant "pale," opposing herself to the orange girl on the left. But that's beside the point.
@Emily Stein yeah it is, it’s not like either state applies to us anyway.
Same also nice pic
at this point the stereotypical feminine girls are more “not like other girls”
i’ve never heard someone talk about how boys get laughs so much easier like this. i have been trying to bring awareness to that for ages. thank you omg!! there’s so many instances where guys can do physical humor too because their bodies aren’t sexualized. i don’t know if you see it but a boy on twitter can literally just be ass naked and it’s... funny? like ok great ur butt is out. men can bare their beer bellies and it’s silly, but women must conceal them. men can act sloppy and wiggle their body about, but women are looked at weird and shunned for the same thing. i’m so done with boys getting cheap laughs for things like that.
More like women should be able to get laughs for doing the same
This really reminds me of a video from a French (female) UA-camr. In the video, one of her male friends farts and all the other male friends laugh, and then she farts and all the male friends look at her ass. (it’s from an old video from Natoo)
Yeah... anybody claiming that "men's bodies aren't sexualized" needs to take a long hard look at any movie starring Zac Efron from the last 5 years. I'm not saying what you commented is entirely invalid, but making a broad statement claiming that men's bodies aren't sexualized is flat-out untrue and ignorant.
@ethan H3H3 klein lmaooo i love him tho
@@guadgoncalves1544 gotta love Natoo
And some people really think there's no such thing as internalized misogyny.
Riot Grrrl It astonishes me.
I used to think it wasn’t real because extremist feminists would tell me I had it just because I disagreed with them on some things, but I’ve learned that it is real, it’s just not what I had. If that makes sense lol
@dil oreo they never said they hated feminists, just that they disagreed with them on something. i certainly disagree with feminists who believe women are superior, trans women aren't women, and that sex workers don't deserve rights. doesn't mean i hate myself
omg fellow riot grrrl in the comments!!! hi!!!
@@sunlightnskulls2060 Hi :) What bands do you like? :)
I was often told when I was younger, by boys and men, that I was so cool that I was not like other girls. Especially in online games where I played really well and competitively. Sometimes they would refuse to believe I was female. It used to make me feel proud and special.
Now it makes me pissed of. It was not a compliment, they were actually saying that "we do not expect a female to be able to be good at "masculine" stuff". As a female I now realize that it's offending as frak.
It's getting better, but I'm looking forward to the day when a person is judged from their actions alone, and not their genitalia. And no one expect anyone female or male to behave a certain way or be good at certain things. Stereotypes sucks. Just let people be.
yes!!!
Dharmadasa
Why are games considered to be masculine though? Anybody can be good at games, it doesn’t matter what your gender is. It’s just a stereotype
And when you tell them you are in fact a girl and (Lord forbid) make your pfp of yourself - you’d automatically be called a trap have to and ‘prove’ that you are in fact a girl and the girl in the pic.
It’s almost like people are perplexed by the fact that a human being can have many different hobbies/likes.
Dharmadasa what? Online games =\= masculine. Dude, anyone can be amazing or suck at online gaming no matter their gender. I’ve had teammates that are incredible and that sucked from both genders. 🤷🏻♀️
You put it so well! When I was in my teens in the early 2010’s I was such a huge ‘I’m not like other girls’ girl. I’m so grateful for the experience of unlearning and continuing to unlearn toxic ideologies. I’ve gained SO much in adopting the mindset that other women are these amazing, talented, wonderful goddesses that I aspire to be more like than I ever did thinking that girls are dramatic, superficial and competition. In the end, I think a strong sisterhood is way more valuable than the approval and attention from a few men.
"I'm not like other girls" = "Hey look men! I'm mysognistic too!"
"I'm not like other girls" = "I have SNAKE ARMS"
I’m not like other girls= boys chose me! (Which is pick-me behaviour)
Liza Johnson I hate it 😭😭
@Liza Johnson Is it still seen as unusual for a woman/girl to enjoy video games?
There’s so much variety in video games that it would be unusual for someone (not women but like people in general) to not find something they enjoyed unless they couldn’t afford a computer and/or a console and games, or they were actively trying to avoid video games for some reason.
@@stolenrelic There are still alot of women that dont play video games. Statistics say otherwise. But I agree that we shouldn't judge people by their gender. They can play or do anything they want.
uses “white” in her reasoning as to why she’s better than other girls😂😂she’s bold
Lol, pale I'd understand, but going as far as praising her whiteness 😅😅 haha okay 😅😅😅😅😅
FujoshiPeanut I feel like even pale does that hahah I would understand “keeps natural skin color” or “doesn’t fake tan” since she was making fun of people who fake tan lol
"non-orange" was probably just too much for her brain to comprehend
Lol I know I was like oop- she really went there
lol i think it was just a numbnut 14 year old who made it and thought 'white' was an ok interchangeable word for 'natural pale' skin
Boy class clowns aren’t funny, they’re annoying most of the time imo
BLSDF EXACTLY all they would do is moan and the back of the class and everyone thought it was the greatest thing ever 💀
@@sophiad5608 uhhhhhh~~~ oh yeah~~~~
And the amount of NERVE they have to just lean over and ask you really intrusive and random questions is annoying asf
emilyyy like stick to posing like “ 🐟🧍🏼 🎣 “ 😼
Well...they are the real clowns. Joker is more real and relateble than them. (In a good sense, not tolerating his bad actions of course)
Can you make a video talking about separating by sex in school systems. In ELEMENTARY school our gym classes were separated by boys and girls, ikr. I remember thinking as an 8 year old how this wasn't right, heck the entire class of 8-year-old girls felt similarly, kids aren't that dumb btw. The boys would get to play scooter soccer and other creative games, while the girls played musical hoops every day. This really opened my eyes at a young age to the different treatment we received and it definitely contributes to the "not like other girls" phenomenon by making girls feel inferior in some way.
We had seperated sport class up until 10th grade and then sport was mostly shit because it was no fun playing with the girls who did not want to be there and they could not play. The boys also needed to be less agressiv when playing because the girls started crying all the time. Seperated sport is way better
Same in my school, but only on gym lessons - the ones in the swimming pool were divided by skill level and not sex. To be honest, I hated it at first but then grew to like, since girls' activities were much more varied (boys just played football every single time). Plus there were only six girls, and thus lessons were more individual.
To be honest saying “I’m like other girls” is more quirky. The “not like other girls” is the new basic.
God Jihyo yeah cause apparently most of the girls can’t understand that everybody is different hah
Yeah well but if you ask 50 people what mean I'm not like other girls they will tell you it sounds like a pick up line and badass line
I didn't expect God Jihyo to be here
Taebin X she's everywhere.
Also a classic movie trope that perpetuates that the “not like other girls” girl always get the guy
Guy: *says something nice to female love interest*
Girl: I bet you say that to all the girls
Guy: you’re not like the other girls, you’re *different*
Insert the biggest eye roll you’ve ever seen here.
Yeah that happens a lot in cheesy movies, but to be fair when you have a crush on someone, it genuinely feels like they're different from everyone else! So it's not really that bad, at least that's what I think
@@zozzetta trust me when I say you're right
CONFIRMED.. not like other girls is the result of years of PUA culture!
__Lowkey CrayZ__ * rolls eyes so hard that I see my nonexistent brain *
guys i wore my hair in a messy bun today. i’m sO qUiRkY rIgHt?
quirky is being cute or rebelious in another language
i bet you looked homeless 😩
Y/n???
@@isabellapadron787 i aim for J pop punk for a rebelious side and a total cutiepie for a cutesy side
Haruhi Suzumiya what does that have to do with my comment
Best ones I’ve heard recently is variations on “I’m not like other girls, I’m actually three raccoons in a trench coat.”
I’m a woman and I like all of these things:
coding,
Playing guitar,
Lifting weights,
Cooking,
Reading,
Politics,
Yoga,
Interior design,
Art,
Nicely decorated Smoothie bowls,
Singing,
Wearing makeup,
Wearing no makeup,
Men,
Women,
Getting my nails done,
Gardening,
Writing poetry,
Long distance running,
Activism,
Animals,
Traveling,
Singing,
Watching Netflix.
The list goes on. Acknowledging and respecting each other’s differences is the first step towards equality. 💜 let’s be kind to one another.
Natasel mainly JavaScript and Python, I‘m a front end developer hoping to transition to full stack.
I think you might have a skewed view of women, lesbians and bisexual people. Your gender and your sexual orientation do not dictate your intellect or your interests. That’s what this video is about. I would recommend reading up on feminism, those stereotypes that you describe are nothing more than that: stereotypes. Reality paints a very different picture. I encourage you to listen to more women (irl or on UA-cam) and question your own perception of them.
NOW THIS IS NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS THIS SHOULD BE WHAT IT MEANS
@Natasel you really just missed the whole point of the video huh?
@@florentinefelicitas8598 don't even bother, he's probably a troll or just fucking dense. Either way he's not worth your time.
Good luck with whatever you're doing and have an awesome day!
Growing up as someone with Autism I struggled with trying to fit in and make friends. So I really latched onto the "I'm not like other girls!" attitude as a defense mechanism and to try and fit in with the guys I thought were cool and the girls who also identified with that attitude. And it took years to unlearn that attitude and to realize how harmful it was to both me, and to other people.
This was a really interesting video to watch and I'm so glad you talked about it!
Couldn't agree more. It was so bad that I literally thought I wasn't a girl and that I was non-binary
My autism temporarily made me think I was non binary too
Kellie Skywalker-Solo well you’re not like other girls. You are not like neurotypicals. Never will be and that’s okay. You’re different but don’t be narcissistic about it
For me, that was an external factor. The girls said I wasn't one of them, the boys said I wasn't one of them, so the only logical conclusion was that I was apparently neither. Come puberty, my biology disagreed with this assessment.
FujoshiPeanut saaaame oh god how many people go through that?
as a wise internet person once said, when girls say “they’re not like other girls” what they mean is “don’t treat me like you treat other girls”
This is really true. It's like " I won't let femininity get on the way of being heard and treated like a tridimensional person"
ok still misogynistic..
yea no. it's just internally misogynistic
tkeyah jordana oh yeah it’s definitely that, but for many girls it’s also that they see how society treats more traditionally feminine girls and don’t want to be treated the same way; there’s many factors, and not bothering to look any deeper than internalized misogyny means that we aren’t getting the full story.
@@josieerin505 said what I said then ig