Thanks for watching! What do you think? Is it inconsiderate to have a destination wedding, or totally okay as long as you have zero expectations for your guests? Let me know below!
As a European I find destination weddings wild. You'd have to upgrade your health insurance to world wide coverage; Have to make sure you have travel insurance and it covers where you are going; you'd have to save up to a €1000 or more for a destination wedding - that's something I would not spend on holidays let alone going to someone else's party. But what I find the most jarring about destination weddings is how taxing it is to be socialising for days on end with friends and family. As an introvert, that sounds like my personal hell. As someone who also has a chronic disease and very few "spoons" to use each day compared with a regular person - I'd be terrified I'd spend more money than I'd care for to come to a week long event I can barely attend half of because I'm that ill, and come back home completely stressed out of socialising too much. I really don't get multiple day wedding events at all.
I think unless 80% of the wedding attendees are financially well off, a destination wedding is an asshole move. I think if your wedding is going to have to be small due to the amount of people that can attend...elope. The mom was definitely hinting she didn't want a destination wedding. She was probably crying because it's not acceptable for her to not attend so now she has to no matter what. I think people forget how much of a hassle is it for someone to now have to plan this big thing in order to attend an event that lasts a few hours. This is what as a guest you'd have to deal with: Plane tickets to europe, currency change, making sure cellphone will work/getting temporary phone service, airbnb/hotel, child care if you have children, pet care/homing, wedding gift which now has to be added on top of all the expenses, time off work(which now has to be about 4 days, instead of 1-2 due to jetlag), spending money needed to be saved due to euro being worth more than the dollar...etc etc.
Absolutely a couple’s choice to have a destination wedding but they need to have zero expectations for guests. While I may be able to afford to travel, it’s entitled to believe that I should spend my money where you believe I should spend it.
My thoughts on this are complicated because most of my biological family lives in Europe (Poland) and we visit them often. For context, my parents, brother, maternal grandparents, and one aunt and her family live in Canada. The plane tickets from Canada to Europe are insanely expensive. Once you're there, it's not as expensive if you're frugal. Trains and busses and even flights are cheaper, hotel prices vary. We have family in Poland and, as a Catholic, I have sometimes stayed at monasteries. There is also an inexpensive bed and breakfast called Ibis that's in every major city (and they have air bnb). She's right, the cost is less than Disneyland, which is very expensive when you live in Canada, but, because of the airplane tickets ($1500-$2000 CDN/person for economy) its still not affordable for everyone. Also, the bride and groom (and, their families, if they are helping pay) will have a lot more extra expenses. If this family is Italian/has connections to/with Italy, this makes sense, but if they're not, this will be challenging to plan.
The bride is not the A-hole. The people who think it is inconsiderate are the A-holes and frankly, jealous. To label them as inconsiderate is just as bad as them labeling you cheap or uncaring for not going to their wedding. Both are wrong. I have been invited to a few weddings that required flying. I couldn't make one of them but never had any negative feelings toward the couple. Go if you can and don't go if you can't but lighten up Francis. It's ok for other people to make their dreams come true.
Thanks for watching! What do you think? Is it inconsiderate to have a destination wedding, or totally okay as long as you have zero expectations for your guests? Let me know below!
As a European I find destination weddings wild.
You'd have to upgrade your health insurance to world wide coverage; Have to make sure you have travel insurance and it covers where you are going; you'd have to save up to a €1000 or more for a destination wedding - that's something I would not spend on holidays let alone going to someone else's party.
But what I find the most jarring about destination weddings is how taxing it is to be socialising for days on end with friends and family. As an introvert, that sounds like my personal hell. As someone who also has a chronic disease and very few "spoons" to use each day compared with a regular person - I'd be terrified I'd spend more money than I'd care for to come to a week long event I can barely attend half of because I'm that ill, and come back home completely stressed out of socialising too much.
I really don't get multiple day wedding events at all.
I think unless 80% of the wedding attendees are financially well off, a destination wedding is an asshole move. I think if your wedding is going to have to be small due to the amount of people that can attend...elope. The mom was definitely hinting she didn't want a destination wedding. She was probably crying because it's not acceptable for her to not attend so now she has to no matter what. I think people forget how much of a hassle is it for someone to now have to plan this big thing in order to attend an event that lasts a few hours. This is what as a guest you'd have to deal with: Plane tickets to europe, currency change, making sure cellphone will work/getting temporary phone service, airbnb/hotel, child care if you have children, pet care/homing, wedding gift which now has to be added on top of all the expenses, time off work(which now has to be about 4 days, instead of 1-2 due to jetlag), spending money needed to be saved due to euro being worth more than the dollar...etc etc.
Absolutely a couple’s choice to have a destination wedding but they need to have zero expectations for guests. While I may be able to afford to travel, it’s entitled to believe that I should spend my money where you believe I should spend it.
My thoughts on this are complicated because most of my biological family lives in Europe (Poland) and we visit them often. For context, my parents, brother, maternal grandparents, and one aunt and her family live in Canada. The plane tickets from Canada to Europe are insanely expensive. Once you're there, it's not as expensive if you're frugal. Trains and busses and even flights are cheaper, hotel prices vary. We have family in Poland and, as a Catholic, I have sometimes stayed at monasteries. There is also an inexpensive bed and breakfast called Ibis that's in every major city (and they have air bnb). She's right, the cost is less than Disneyland, which is very expensive when you live in Canada, but, because of the airplane tickets ($1500-$2000 CDN/person for economy) its still not affordable for everyone. Also, the bride and groom (and, their families, if they are helping pay) will have a lot more extra expenses. If this family is Italian/has connections to/with Italy, this makes sense, but if they're not, this will be challenging to plan.
I only agree on destination wedding, if the happy couple pays from everyones flights and accomodations.
Why should ANYONE have to save up money for someone else's wedding?? That's true entitlement on the marrying couple's part.
The bride is not the A-hole. The people who think it is inconsiderate are the A-holes and frankly, jealous. To label them as inconsiderate is just as bad as them labeling you cheap or uncaring for not going to their wedding. Both are wrong. I have been invited to a few weddings that required flying. I couldn't make one of them but never had any negative feelings toward the couple. Go if you can and don't go if you can't but lighten up Francis. It's ok for other people to make their dreams come true.
"It's ok for people to make their dreams come true" - I love this.