My life with the ex: If neighbours do gardening on a saturday morning: drama If battery of remote control is low: drama If egg is boiled to long: drama If the black shirt is in the laundry: drama If you need longer than them to finish dinner: drama If its rainy: drama If its sunny: drama If you dont Look at them: drama If you Look at them the wrong way: drama If you buy the wrong toothpaste: drama If you dont wear the jewelry they bought for you: drama If you wear it when you go out with your female friends: drama If you want to go to bed earlier than them: double drama😂
We're with the same guy? Exactly! Spots on glasses, cans in cupboard not facing forward, spoons not organized in drawer. Then rage make a mess and walk off. Insanity. In the military if you act like that, your out. You are endangering the whole group.
@@karenkelly4196 thank you karen. Humor helps to get through those hard times and I feel happy to know that wherever we are on the Planet we have the Support of a loving community like this. Greetings and blessings from thousands of miles away (Germany)
They put your head in a blender. If you have just a few moments of peace to reflect, you can see that this situation just doesn’t add up. So thankful to be free!
It took time for me to put it all together, but I began to see patterns in his behavior. And anytime I want to began a project, he horns in and actually ruins it. I usually walk away. He will do the opposite of what I suggest, and refuse to listen or work as a team. It's never peaceful. Thanks again Andrew for your support and knowledge, don't know what I would have done without it.
There is no I in team, they will watch you bend over backwards to achieve what they want and then claim credit for it while undermining you all the time .
Once I was discarded, there was no more drama - such a relief! I had a hard time wrapping my mind around how someone could lie so much and be so evil - never met anyone like Mr. N and hope to never ever meet another one!
Did you find it hard at first ,I am old and the bills are a problem ,I kept him for 3 yrs then he said he was going back toAustralia for his sons wedding ,He said he fixed my car for me and would come back in 3 weeks. . Car was not fixed and I crashed. And he stayed in Australia. Sends me pictures but never messages .I blocked him .
you are so right Andrew! The drama the Narcissist creates never stops and never ends. They drain your energy and it makes them feel better. They love to see the confusion we end up in.
The drama and chaos gets worse and worse, so that it happens all the time. It sabootages every potentially pleasant interaction or event. It ends up making you feel so defeated and negative about your life. As soon as you get rid of them your life takes a positive new start, a sense of a fresh slate of happy expectations and outcomes. You can acheive your every day tasks and plans with out someone constantly throwing a spanner in the works!! It's damn liberating! 😂😂😂
Satan loves chaos and drama and LOVES Some fusion and likes to steal, kill and destroy. We fighting against dark principalities for sure it says in the Bible…. these narc behaviors are really dark. Thank you for your videos, Andrew From Cynthia in JANESVILLE, WI
They sure are demons, that’s why they like to move from place to place so they can separate and divide children family and friends , but in the end they end up alone
I decided to walk away from a narc parent because the DRAMA was a waste of time and resources. Without the drama, the family could have been healthy, financially stable, and doing well. But NO. The DRAMA was more important than making decisions that actually benefit all parties involved. Said narc parent is now broke and homeless. Staying involved with narcissistic people and their drama will SUCK YOU DRY. Walk, run, crawl, whatever you have to do, GET AWAY from them.
I’m still healing from the way I was discarded by the narc. Yes, the narc made sure that it was done with a lot of drama and that it was beyond his control. I actually felt bad for the narc at first but eventually I realized that it was all part of his calculation and that was the point that I had enough and blocked the narc out of my life.
Energy vampires (ev's) cleverly present their wants and needs. If you're not careful, you will think they are asking you for help. (But they aren't) This alleviates any need to reciprocate.... because they did NOT ask... you ended up offering. In their mind, your help was freely given, therefore they owe you nothing.❤
....yes they are masters of weaving the narrative to meet there needs. My ex Narc wife was a single child who loved playing the game- SIMS. I believe she thinks real life is controlling people like a video game
The lies omg. I am out and no contact now but my head is still spinning... he lied about his own name, for years. Failed to show up/ ruined every key event and invented crazy stories one time he was allegedly kidnapped, complete with a story involving the police another time he was in the ICU but recovered miraculously in two days.
Isn’t it funny how the poor narcissistic people always seem to have cars with regular flat 🛞 tyres, and so often their cell phone battery is dead when people try to contact them. Maybe they all buy these items from the same retailers 😂
Thank you so much for producing daily content. I also no longer watch TV or movies, I haven’t turned a TV on in my home in the entire 5 months we’ve been separated. That alone was such a source of peace.
Thank you Andrew ❤ They thrive on drama!!! They'll make something simple into a major catastrophe and it'll usually be OUR fault . Glad I'm no longer in that relationship, peace once more is much more enjoyable 😊❤
My N sister was already retired. I retired and we started spending more time together, talking on phone and walking for exercise. Her control started simply by saying which route she wanted to walk, what time to meet, not calling back when she said she would, and always wanting to know how much tip I was leaving at a lunch. I started calling her the tip police. Later I found out she counted my tip, and she took some of her tip back, bc she was the one to decide how much should be left for a table. Everything blew up one weekend our younger sister was in town, and N sister was just being an absolute jerk to me. I left and it has been no contact now for 8 months. She always has had DRAMA in her life, creating it. Not for me. My silence and peace is beautiful! Thank you Andrew! Blessings ❤
She probably was poisening your younger sis against you with lies, saying your emotional, cheap and drama, flipping it around and she needed you out of the situation so the younger would not figure her out. They spend a lifetime grooming their flying monkeys. Its demonic.Stay string its all about them. Such cheap behavior. ❤
Thanks, Andrew. Love and gratitude. I don’t understand, "the narc. needs drama." I'll never understand. I've heard “experts” say, assume that when the narcissist opens their mouth, they are lying. I have found this pessimistic projection to be mostly true, as the narc. lives in their “version" of reality.
Wishing you well and remember that you have truth on your side. And the truth will be seen. Stay calm....they will put on a show and no doubt there will be drama but they'll show their true colours. God bless, stay strong! 🙏
Great video Andrew... drama gets on my last raw nerve. I've endured a lifetime of it, and I'm not interested in getting embroiled in the narcissistic toxic lifestyle again. I used to watch movies and tv shows but unless it is a really good one based on real life people and events that has a meaningful message in it, i don't waste my time. Actually, I hardly ever turn my tv on. I have so many other things that I enjoy doing instead. The forest you filmed in is lush and green... very lovely. April showers, actually a deluge, were here again today, but It is good for the watertables and the plant life. Oh, I almost forgot, this morning I saw a hawk flying around, no doubt searching for food...🐇🐭🐿🐀🦔🙏✌️😊🌲🌳🌾🌿☘️🍀🐛🦋🐞🐦🕊🪺
Lord have mercy.Put a change in their narc heart and let your spirit Lord filled their heart.I feel pity for the narc for all they do is controlling .But Lord i Humble myself before you to restore everything that has been been broken in our life In Jesus mighty name Amen
Half truths, at best, always leaving out details that don't flatter them or will get them in trouble. On the other hand, stories made up about you, which are often really about themselves, in order to justify their own bad behavior. It's insanity. 😢
Totally agree! Walter Mitty springs to mind! They walk in the spotlight and we are in the shadows, having gone through the nightmare, trying to heal. No matter how long it takes, they eventually show themselves up, they reveal their true colours when they slip up.....their downfall was spreading their lies about us. The pit they dug for us, was the one they fell into and God always vindicates the ones who suffer.
Everytime im driving and the narc see's the police she panics as if we're doing something wrong lol this is wild. Another example, i remember recently putting a case of waters in our fridge and i did it ine by one on the left side of the fridge. I carry along with my day and i eventually go in the fridge for a water and notice that all the waters were moved to the opposite side of the fridge lol. I fought with myself to even ask about and when i did she admitted she moved them, i dont even remember her excuse but its just crazy how they operate. They're always sick or something is always wrong. I wish i would've seen it sooner. Now we have a child together and i cannot let her destroy our daughter with her bullshit
Best thing I ever did was leave the madness. Two and a half years later and he still refuses to adhere to the financial disclosure and has breached two court orders. His entire affidavit was false. Love you Andrew ❤
Good thing you got away from him. I have dealt my entire life with narcissists...esp. a narcissistic brother who tried to steal my inheritance!!! By the way, his is married to (supposedly separated) from a woman with your same name, "Kim Field." How ironic.
My narc mother and my narc brother have only caused drama their whole life’s. They terrorized our family, caused unnecessary fights, suffering and loss. It gives them pure joy when they can cause drama.
Thank you Andrew❤I appreciate you and your support with the videos. I am almost 2 years blocked the narcissist energy vampire Dramatic individual. Still waiting on final trial for this two year divorce and the only sad things is that my children are the ones sucking and suffering this drama from the narcissist which I hope it ends very soon and me and these kids will be able to start a new life together away from this horrible story of our lives. Thank you and I hope you make a video talking about the narcissist and the children. Love ya Andrew, Yes 🙌🏻 Beautiful Scenery in your surroundings. 🤍✨🤍
My narc used the natural drama he created in his life to draw me in and to soothe him. I’m gone now. I used to care about him so much but now see that when drama and turmoil were created by him (by him always provoking others in his life) then he actually wanted me to rescue him. Impossible. I wonder who he uses to save his bumbum now? Once we ran to them, now we run from them - tainted love, just like that song. Thank you, Andrew.
Drama is a narcissists middle name. Funny, one of the first things the narc said when I began talking with him was that they hate Drama. 😂🤣🙄 Guess that was 🚩number 1. You certainly have your little feathered friends 🐦 chattering up a storm. Beautiful to hear.
Yes!! It's definitely a red flag. Ex told me he hated drama, but then stated he wouldn't mind a reality tv series of himself mixed in with some drama...cognitive dissonance?
They hate drama...I remember he said that. Yet he WAS the drama! He didn't want anyone with any baggage...yet, he HAD more baggage than a cruise ship! All he voiced not wanting what he was! Exactly what he was. After too long, one day...I walked away and just left it all. Peace is so much better! The chaos and lies, cheating, drama...gone! Ahhh....freedom! The toxicity has cleared!
Why did you describe my last relationship perfectly. I was discarded right before Christmas when he was supposed to meet my family. He discarded me only after manufacturing drama in the relationship and refusing to solve conflict for a few days.
GREAT video! This was my life for five years… drama 24/7… his daughters also created so much drama and chaos as well…I’m so thankful that I can come home to peace and quiet now… and zero drama… Thank you for speaking on this topic!
It's like walking through treacle. The lies are truly amazing...' I'm taking a work colleague home ( the one I told you I hated) because they missed their bus' twice !! Of course they did. Interpret this ' I'm with the new supply ' 🤷. Too much detail I agree Andrew. Everything is drama...work was drama because he thought he was way too good to work in the commissary and nobody worked as hard as he did. The builders who hadn't completed their job.... and so it goes on and on. The common theme running through all of this...HIM, never ever satisfied!!! Run for the hills because they will have you jumping, walking, running, sitting, in out,out in. Exhausting and depleting. Endless abuse 🤦
This just sheds light on yo how Much I was Used and Misused , Unappreciated, Unwanted ,Silenced ,voice Taken and was fully groomed to accept abuse in all forms and mostly mental and psychological war that tore me inside out over the years
Another Excellent Video l like it when you give the examples cause everytime they are Right On !!! Very good one!! Reverse end is exactly what happened too me plus other examples in video are 💯 same thing
4 SURE Andrew.. 🙏, some times One Looks back, Zooming out... in Total Bewilderment..🤠.. but we Got Through it.. or we Will get through it! Perserverance always Pays Off! 🤠.. NO Contact is Paramount for Healing!
The triangulating flat tyre reminds me of many years ago when the narc would make random comments and say things such as “there’s a house nearby with three girls and there’s a room available for rent”.. i.e. for him.. heard things like this regularly as well as “too much detailed info” about other women he was encountering at his job at the time .. its all to create drama and chaos.. I feel like this video has almost summed up the past 15 yrs of my life.. I appreciate it.. it helps validate and motivate me.. thank you 💜💜🪻🪻
Try leaving a church where the head pastor is a narcissist.So much drama and accusation will follow you as they try to destroy you.Your action is taken very personally.
Andrew I am educating myself on the narcissist but your advice helps me with the image seeking, people pleasing, victim mentality people as well. I am using your narcissism advice to all other aspects of dysfunction. Thank you for giving me faith in humanity. Just a little but enough that I will not go crazy. hee hee
I can relate to everything in that video, there is certainly a constant need for drama, even though I didn’t realise it at the time. Since we separated every few days he’s still causing drama, and trying to get an emotional reaction from me. Last night he informed me he’d be moving back into the house this weekend . All I want is him out of my life and to move on, now this.
It’s definitely harassment but unfortunately as I’ve experienced there isn’t much help for this type (narcisstic) of abuse as there is no evidence. Unless there is physical violence or threats the police won’t do anything.
Stay safe! It's a very difficult situation....keep a date entry record of everything.......it will be evidence and it will show patterns of behaviour, should you need it. I hope you can find your own place....if you feel unsafe leave!!!! I wish you well and much happiness and peace. God bless you 🙏
@@d_ls.g It sounds to me like you have some pretty big desicions to make pretty quickly, your health is most important now and sadly leaving your home could be the only option if the house is in his name, if it is joint, speak to a lawyer and find out your options.. Whatever the case the grey rock can't go on forever it just hinders your healing so you have to plan something where you can be away from more of the same..friends? Family? In the interim would be advisable.. letting him know that you are not standing for his games anymore by not being there is a good start...sorry you have to go through this...🙏
They remind me of these pods that fall from trees... they appear to be solid but step on them and they pop and the only thing comes out looks like dry dust (really they're spores but you get my meaning).
This was a real goodie. As a successful single mother (of an adult child at the time), i told my exN “I don’t cook”..for obvious reasons I was completely burnt (!) on cooking. 6 months later I was practically a world class chef for this demon. I was promised a lifetime of security, which believe me that’s really something to hear as a single mother! When I asked for him to contribute to household expenses (he was very wealthy, and I was very hard working class), he said he would help if I put him on my deed. Thank the gods I was too smart for that. I’m nearing the end of my healing journey, practicing forgiveness and looking for ways to help others. I think single mothers are like a plate of caviar to narcissists. If you’re ever interested in adding this element to your videos, I would love to help. We are the most abused creatures on earth. We will believe or do ANYTHiNG to gain a sense of security, and we work twice as hard as anyone else. Namaste.
Same.. I am not sure if their personality was created just for me.? It started changing dramatically litterally and figuratively.. when he was serial cheating and finding new supply before the discard..
After the disgard I started dissecting everything looking for the lies. By the time I finished I was looking for the truths! And there wasn't many...Not the nicest rabbit hole in the bunch to go down..🙏
I thank every loud mouthed "Grandiose Narcissist."They advertise openly what's -a-comin'. The Covert is a Peter Lorre, film-noir drama. The climax of the later: "You what?? What do you mean he's just an old friend and classmate!!??"
True!!! 👍 It is an eye opener to study the different types & their patterns. The 2 that turned my life upside down were the Communal Narcissists. Sleep tight Joe 🌜 🌈🎀😘
Mine started taking over my personality traits, dressing style and hobbies like goth clubs.. He infiltrated and took over my friends and smeared me and started dating some of the ones I would talk about, serial cheating with most of them.. sick.. now I have to avoid my old hobbies just to not have a run in with him, but it was all I had and enjoyed. 😢
Always good to listen to you....sound words of advice! Reinforcing the message home really helps us all to overcome! Thanks for your time and effort in making your videos. You do so much to help others! And yes, DRAMA from them all the way and so much confusion....now there's peace! God bless. 🙏
This Drama thing fuels them for the Day,,,,always micro managing,,,or finding something /anything,,,and always playing the Victim,,,,👉🌟t.y. Andrew,,🕊️💖
Andrew, I heard the 4 month new supply is buying the narcissist and their kids expensive stuff. They really think they are not going to be discarded. They do not know its inevitable. I didn't hear this from a flying monkey, tho.
SO true! My narc dad is an anger addict. He seeks out conversations where he can pick a side, tell you why he’s right and you’re wrong, raise his voice, and if you ask him to quiet down (because maybe you have a splitting headache and didn’t get any sleep last night), he literally dismisses you, tells you you’re just trying to start an argument, and to go away. That right there sums up daily life with a narcissist. They do, in fact, LOVE to cause drama! EXCELLENT topic, Andrew! I mean Drama is at the HEART of the narcissistic relationship! Oh, and if you spiral into a depression due to the constant abuse of the narcissist, heh, they view YOUR depression as something YOU’RE doing to THEM. Just a little bonus note there. Hope y’all are having a WONDERFUL NARC-FREE day, Andrew and friends! 🙌☀️😇❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜
@@kennethkunz2449 sadly, even walking away sometimes does not end the abuse as I recently found out. Even though my door is a kind that locks, but is not UNLOCKED by a KEY, he just goes and gets a little tool he can fit inside the hole the knob on the other side has and can force his way in even with me holding it shut, which I do to try to keep him from following me in there when he’s angry and escalating a situation. He will do this to come in and make his point, whatever it happens to be 🙄 Anything short of sitting there SILENTLY and listening to it in it’s ENTIRETY results in MORE yelling and he’s been known to be physically abusive, which seems to become more frequent as he gets older. It’s something I don’t think I’ve ever shared in this community before, but I know many others here have suffered physical abuse at the hands of a narcissist, so I’m not unique in that respect.
@@kennethkunz2449 sadly, even walking away sometimes does not end the abuse as I recently found out. Even though my door is a kind that locks, but is not UNLOCKED by a KEY, he just goes and gets a little tool he can fit inside the hole the knob on the other side has and can force his way in even with me holding it shut, which I do to try to keep him from following me in there when he’s angry and escalating a situation. He will do this to come in and make his point, whatever it happens to be 🙄 Anything short of sitting there SILENTLY and listening to it in it’s ENTIRETY results in MORE yelling and he’s been known to be physically abusive, which seems to become more frequent as he gets older. It’s something I don’t think I’ve ever shared in this community before, but I know many others here have suffered physical abuse at the hands of a narcissist, so I’m not unique in that respect. And my apologies, I had responded hours ago, but it seems to have disappeared. Luckily I had copied and pasted it into my notes in case that happened as I’ve learned to start doing 😛 This happens frequently
@@kennethkunz2449 sadly, even walking away sometimes does not end the abuse as I recently found out. Even though my door is a kind that locks, but is not UNLOCKED by a KEY, he just goes and gets a little tool he can fit inside the hole the knob on the other side has and can force his way in even with me holding it shut, which I do to try to keep him from following me in there when he’s angry and escalating a situation. He will do this to come in and make his point, whatever it happens to be 🙄 Anything short of sitting there SILENTLY and listening to it in it’s ENTIRETY results in MORE yelling and he’s been known to be physically abusive, which seems to become more frequent as he gets older. It’s something I don’t think I’ve ever shared in this community before, but I know many others here have suffered physical abuse at the hands of a narcissist, so I’m not unique in that respect. And my apologies, I had responded hours ago, but it seems to have disappeared. Luckily I had copied and pasted it into my notes in case that happened as I’ve learned to start doing 😛 This happens frequently
Agree wholeheartedly Andrew. Caught the thing out in so many lies and then he blocked me after sending a full on blame game txt. It’s so drama free now. I look back and see so much abuse. Money was his only love tbh.
I use to raise my voice, good lungs 94% oxygen , yet ability to breath. Was not aware of problem, people would say calm down. In 2021 Cardiologist had me in heart surgery, three months wasa struggle to walk 100 feet. Now its like i was 16. , i am 70. Just a thought, my brain is functioning better, and calm.
My ex 45 year old narc lived with his parents and had the audacity to tell me the shelf in my living room is dusty. And kept making jokes how I’m “dusty”. Meanwhile he didn’t even have a living room of his own. IYKYK
Yes 100% nudged out the way….i learned as he approached to move away, no nudging needed. I’d be in the bathroom, he’d walk in so I would walk out or be told how to brush my teeth, literally
I forgot to also mention that the past for a narc is 5 mins ago.. learned about this sometime ago.. you are right Andrew when you say they don’t care what you did yesterday etc all that matters is what you can do for them now in the moment (I think that’s what you said? Something along those lines).. i had watched your video a few hours ago while i was outside but had forgotten to write about the past for narcs too.. i have experienced this to be shockingly true in recent years.. do something nice and you’ll still get mistreated whether it’s 5 mins later, 30 mins later, an hour, a day etc.. thanks again 💜🪻
narcs - it’s all about the drama, themselves and joy it brings them making other people miserable who needs it? definitely not me… I’d rather listen to birds sing, be in a beautiful green forest and listen to a stream or waterfall in the background…so refreshing and restorative Thank you for the video and gorgeous Carolina forest, Andrew! ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️🪺🌿🌷🦋🌳🌲🌴🐠🌊🌊☀️😎✨💖✨
yup: dealing with DRAMA!!! NOW! dealing with NEW Narc drama now..the guy is a FRIEND ONLY! Came over to ask how I was? Yeah, right? And.... then said "I wanted to show you my ill brother's NEW NURSE! SHE is so wonderful! GORGEOUS! A few days later, NARC came back ALL GUSSIED Up hair combed, face shaved nice, best clothes, all GIDDDY! GIDDY! "GOTTA GO! GOTTA GO! Gotta go!!! see my ill brother in hospital. Yeah, the same brother he told me he was TIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRED OF CARING FOR! WANTED OUT OF THE ENTIRE SCENE! Then New NARC asked me if he looked nice enough for a new date?" While this ill brother has been in hospital the NEW NARC has been clearing out his room, refurbishments for the room. Brother not coming home to same home. "SOoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, now the NEW NARC is free to shimmy sham this gorgeous NURSE. But there is nothing in there. NOthing at all. NO feelings, no emotions, nothing. Then NEW NARC flew out of my house, ranting about being late for his meeting in a different town. This NEW NARC has been gaslighting, lying to me for (1) yr., and coming on to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee for a long time... now I am totally avoided. I bought into this drama for a while then I found your channel, and I have been following your lectures for some time. Andrew, you have helped me a lot though all this NEW NARC drama. This NOT the 1st time I have been through this mess long before this. It was soooooooooooooooooooooooo awful but you already know this. It was soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo awful then! Back many yrs. ago.. So when this new NARC came onto my scene. I believed for a bit and then I began to question things? Then I found you and your lectures and then my eyes opened up for real.WHen NEW NARC showed me photo of the NEW SUPPLY I shrugged. He turned away in frustration and disgust. Then hurried oout of my house boasting" I GOOOTA GO!!"
If Andrew doesn’t know you personally, this may frighten him. He’s a very private person from what I can tell, probably doesn’t want subscribers who recognize him in public to approach him, as he doesn’t know their intentions. Having someone move from an unknown location to be near him would likely be a very frightening thought for him. I know you like him, as do I and _many_ others on here. I simply write this so that you don’t unintentionally put fear in him. So that he doesn’t come to fear your intentions rather than appreciate your support. Please don’t take this comment the wrong way, it’s not meant to be confrontational, but instead helpful so that he continues to have positive interactions with you, me, and others who are attracted to him. 😊😊😊
@@jennifernewton4637 Wow, you have really revealed yourself on here! First off both of those states are big. 2nd, I don't know which one he's in, I know where I'm headed... 3rd, I'm not moving anywhere to stalk anybody, 4th, I was headed to the Carolinas way before I even found this channel. You, my dear are the PERFECT example of why people should Grey rock! And you seriously look desperate for a man! Take a bow 🙂
Yes, when they can no longer control you...they attempt to control how others view you.
Story of my life.
So far they're losing. 😊
So true. I expérienced that with children 's alienation.
@@PrettyMamaPatchwork you just be you and let their own behavior reveal themselves. 💙
@@01968Thanks for sharing....I've been thinking the same. 😊🙏🪷
Agree. I moved to Texas and moved back. My reputation just disappeared while I was gone!!!
It is madness. I found myself
Again.Yes!
They don't appreciate ANY thing...
Amen!
That’s a fact, not a damned thing, for me that is one of the most disgusting features of these monsters.
💯. I think they resent appreciating anything or anyone, because it makes them feel inferior, and when they feel inferior they get angry.
My life with the ex:
If neighbours do gardening on a saturday morning: drama
If battery of remote control is low: drama
If egg is boiled to long: drama
If the black shirt is in the laundry: drama
If you need longer than them to finish dinner: drama
If its rainy: drama
If its sunny: drama
If you dont Look at them: drama
If you Look at them the wrong way: drama
If you buy the wrong toothpaste: drama
If you dont wear the jewelry they bought for you: drama
If you wear it when you go out with your female friends: drama
If you want to go to bed earlier than them: double drama😂
YOU CANNOT WIN FOR LOSING,AHEAD OF TIME.
We're with the same guy? Exactly!
Spots on glasses, cans in cupboard not facing forward, spoons not organized in drawer. Then rage make a mess and walk off. Insanity. In the military if you act like that, your out. You are endangering the whole group.
If you don't read their minds and respond accordingly...😂
I so loved your down to earth words brilliant.. this is your poem your song your rap?? Make sure copy right that’s personal to you 🙏🙏🙏
@@karenkelly4196 thank you karen. Humor helps to get through those hard times and I feel happy to know that wherever we are on the Planet we have the Support of a loving community like this. Greetings and blessings from thousands of miles away (Germany)
They put your head in a blender. If you have just a few moments of peace to reflect, you can see that this situation just doesn’t add up.
So thankful to be free!
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They are toxic. It doesn't matter if they are getting what they want or not. Just a non stop relentless shit show
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It took time for me to put it all together, but I began to see patterns in his behavior. And anytime I want to began a project, he horns in and actually ruins it. I usually walk away. He will do the opposite of what I suggest, and refuse to listen or work as a team. It's never peaceful. Thanks again Andrew for your support and knowledge, don't know what I would have done without it.
There is no I in team, they will watch you bend over backwards to achieve what they want and then claim credit for it while undermining you all the time .
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Once I was discarded, there was no more drama - such a relief! I had a hard time wrapping my mind around how someone could lie so much and be so evil - never met anyone like Mr. N and hope to never ever meet another one!
Did you find it hard at first ,I am old and the bills are a problem ,I kept him for 3 yrs then he said he was going back toAustralia for his sons wedding ,He said he fixed my car for me and would come back in 3 weeks. . Car was not fixed and I crashed. And he stayed in Australia. Sends me pictures but never messages .I blocked him .
Excellent job, Andrew. Your description of the narc is spot on.
Go no contact. You have to mentally, physically and emotionally divorce them.
you are so right Andrew! The drama the Narcissist creates never stops and never ends. They drain your energy and it makes them feel better. They love to see the confusion we end up in.
The drama and chaos gets worse and worse, so that it happens all the time. It sabootages every potentially pleasant interaction or event. It ends up making you feel so defeated and negative about your life. As soon as you get rid of them your life takes a positive new start, a sense of a fresh slate of happy expectations and outcomes. You can acheive your every day tasks and plans with out someone constantly throwing a spanner in the works!! It's damn liberating! 😂😂😂
Sooo true! They thrive on drama and chaos. Ridiculous! Draining!
Saying no was like pushing the button on a bomb. 💣 so long drama 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Well said!!!
Satan loves chaos and drama and LOVES Some fusion and likes to steal, kill and destroy. We fighting against dark principalities for sure it says in the Bible…. these narc behaviors are really dark.
Thank you for your videos, Andrew
From Cynthia in JANESVILLE, WI
They sure are demons, that’s why they like to move from place to place so they can separate and divide children family and friends , but in the end they end up alone
I can’t wait to leave and live drama free in the second half of my life ❤❤❤
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Freedom and peace are priceless and all of you deserve both. Stay strong and get out as soon as you can so you can have freedom and peace!! 💕💕
I decided to walk away from a narc parent because the DRAMA was a waste of time and resources. Without the drama, the family could have been healthy, financially stable, and doing well. But NO. The DRAMA was more important than making decisions that actually benefit all parties involved. Said narc parent is now broke and homeless. Staying involved with narcissistic people and their drama will SUCK YOU DRY. Walk, run, crawl, whatever you have to do, GET AWAY from them.
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They like to triangulate. Create in fighting then claim to be the victim. 1:29
I’m still healing from the way I was discarded by the narc. Yes, the narc made sure that it was done with a lot of drama and that it was beyond his control. I actually felt bad for the narc at first but eventually I realized that it was all part of his calculation and that was the point that I had enough and blocked the narc out of my life.
Don't let him come back - because HE WILL, if he can.
Thank God that's all you had to do others are attached until someone turns 18..
Energy vampires (ev's) cleverly present their wants and needs.
If you're not careful, you will think they are asking you for help. (But they aren't)
This alleviates any need to reciprocate.... because they did NOT ask... you ended up offering.
In their mind, your help was freely given, therefore they owe you nothing.❤
....yes they are masters of weaving the narrative to meet there needs.
My ex Narc wife was a single child who loved playing the game- SIMS.
I believe she thinks real life is controlling people like a video game
wow those birds are something 😅 yes the scenery is so beautiful 🤩
Nice to see you again. 👍❤
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@@marieeakin8534always good to see you
Love the scenery and appreciate the daily strong message. I blocked the ex narc, his ppl and other toxic ppl in my life. Drama 🎭 free is my path!! ❤
The lies omg. I am out and no contact now but my head is still spinning... he lied about his own name, for years. Failed to show up/ ruined every key event and invented crazy stories one time he was allegedly kidnapped, complete with a story involving the police another time he was in the ICU but recovered miraculously in two days.
Isn’t it funny how the poor narcissistic people always seem to have cars with regular flat 🛞 tyres, and so often their cell phone battery is dead when people try to contact them. Maybe they all buy these items from the same retailers 😂
Peace and quiet in our lives are the best things for us. No more drama!!
Thanks again, Andrew! Have a beautiful weekend!! Prayers for you all for courage to leave the narcissists. 💕💕
How can a narcissist sleep at night knowing the path of destruction they've created ???? 🤯🤯 Completely heartless
Thank you so much for producing daily content. I also no longer watch TV or movies, I haven’t turned a TV on in my home in the entire 5 months we’ve been separated. That alone was such a source of peace.
Welcome..😌💜🙌
Thank you Andrew ❤
They thrive on drama!!! They'll make something simple into a major catastrophe and it'll usually be OUR fault .
Glad I'm no longer in that relationship, peace once more is much more enjoyable 😊❤
My N sister was already retired. I retired and we started spending more time together, talking on phone and walking for exercise. Her control started simply by saying which route she wanted to walk, what time to meet, not calling back when she said she would, and always wanting to know how much tip I was leaving at a lunch. I started calling her the tip police. Later I found out she counted my tip, and she took some of her tip back, bc she was the one to decide how much should be left for a table. Everything blew up one weekend our younger sister was in town, and N sister was just being an absolute jerk to me. I left and it has been no contact now for 8 months. She always has had DRAMA in her life, creating it. Not for me. My silence and peace is beautiful! Thank you Andrew! Blessings ❤
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She probably was poisening your younger sis against you with lies, saying your emotional, cheap and drama, flipping it around and she needed you out of the situation so the younger would not figure her out. They spend a lifetime grooming their flying monkeys. Its demonic.Stay string its all about them. Such cheap behavior. ❤
GOOD morning Andrew🌱🌿🌱🌿🙏🇫🇷🇺🇲🌿🌿🌳Drama, Drama & FAKE TEARS🙏so GLAD,,, IT STAYS ALL WITH HER!!🌿🌿🌿
God bless you, Andrew! Thank you for your daily "presents" and your presence. You are such a treasure ✨️😌🌸🌱🦅
This was my life!! ...I'm so glad I'm free now
Thanks, Andrew. Love and gratitude.
I don’t understand, "the narc. needs drama." I'll never understand.
I've heard “experts” say, assume that when the narcissist opens their mouth, they are lying. I have found this pessimistic projection to be mostly true, as the narc. lives in their “version" of reality.
Story of my life we have court Tuesday and it will be epic drama I'll be stoic
Wishing you well and remember that you have truth on your side. And the truth will be seen. Stay calm....they will put on a show and no doubt there will be drama but they'll show their true colours. God bless, stay strong! 🙏
When I said "NO" to adding his Debt on my mortgage, that was truly the day I was garbage to this person.
Great video Andrew... drama gets on my last raw nerve. I've endured a lifetime of it, and I'm not interested in getting embroiled in the narcissistic toxic lifestyle again. I used to watch movies and tv shows but unless it is a really good one based on real life people and events that has a meaningful message in it, i don't waste my time. Actually, I hardly ever turn my tv on. I have so many other things that I enjoy doing instead.
The forest you filmed in is lush and green... very lovely. April showers, actually a deluge, were here again today, but It is good for the watertables and the plant life. Oh, I almost forgot, this morning I saw a hawk flying around, no doubt searching for food...🐇🐭🐿🐀🦔🙏✌️😊🌲🌳🌾🌿☘️🍀🐛🦋🐞🐦🕊🪺
Lord have mercy.Put a change in their narc heart and let your spirit Lord filled their heart.I feel pity for the narc for all they do is controlling .But Lord i Humble myself before you to restore everything that has been been broken in our life In Jesus mighty name Amen
Half truths, at best, always leaving out details that don't flatter them or will get them in trouble. On the other hand, stories made up about you, which are often really about themselves, in order to justify their own bad behavior. It's insanity. 😢
Totally agree! Walter Mitty springs to mind! They walk in the spotlight and we are in the shadows, having gone through the nightmare, trying to heal. No matter how long it takes, they eventually show themselves up, they reveal their true colours when they slip up.....their downfall was spreading their lies about us. The pit they dug for us, was the one they fell into and God always vindicates the ones who suffer.
Everytime im driving and the narc see's the police she panics as if we're doing something wrong lol this is wild. Another example, i remember recently putting a case of waters in our fridge and i did it ine by one on the left side of the fridge. I carry along with my day and i eventually go in the fridge for a water and notice that all the waters were moved to the opposite side of the fridge lol. I fought with myself to even ask about and when i did she admitted she moved them, i dont even remember her excuse but its just crazy how they operate. They're always sick or something is always wrong. I wish i would've seen it sooner. Now we have a child together and i cannot let her destroy our daughter with her bullshit
Best thing I ever did was leave the madness. Two and a half years later and he still refuses to adhere to the financial disclosure and has breached two court orders. His entire affidavit was false. Love you Andrew ❤
Good thing you got away from him. I have dealt my entire life with narcissists...esp. a narcissistic brother who tried to steal my inheritance!!! By the way, his is married to (supposedly separated) from a woman with your same name, "Kim Field." How ironic.
The parents will tell the son to quit their job and move back home with there mommy so they don’t pay there ex wife child support
I loss my house behind this monster & he drained my bank account..
Nameste Andrew thanks for your wisdom and guidance
My narc mother and my narc brother have only caused drama their whole life’s. They terrorized our family, caused unnecessary fights, suffering and loss. It gives them pure joy when they can cause drama.
Same here unfortunately.😔
So true! I'm so happy now DRAMA FREE💪Thank you Andrew❤
Welcome..💜🙏😌
This is my mother and sister all over. Thank you Andrew you always say it as it is ❤
Welcome..🙏💜😌
💯 how they act and ARE……
Thank you Andrew❤I appreciate you and your support with the videos. I am almost 2 years blocked the narcissist energy vampire Dramatic individual. Still waiting on final trial for this two year divorce and the only sad things is that my children are the ones sucking and suffering this drama from the narcissist which I hope it ends very soon and me and these kids will be able to start a new life together away from this horrible story of our lives. Thank you and I hope you make a video talking about the narcissist and the children. Love ya Andrew, Yes 🙌🏻 Beautiful Scenery in your surroundings. 🤍✨🤍
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Shows how dull they've made life that they have to cause drama! to get 'off on'! Not useful to anyone!
"REVERSE DISCARD"!!!!😮😢 OMG thank you Andrew you just taught me a new glossary term and it's EXACTLY what happened
Damn your always spot on it’s crazy never need something or have a expression back toward them they will disregard and belittle you every time
My narc used the natural drama he created in his life to draw me in and to soothe him. I’m gone now. I used to care about him so much but now see that when drama and turmoil were created by him (by him always provoking others in his life) then he actually wanted me to rescue him. Impossible. I wonder who he uses to save his bumbum now? Once we ran to them, now we run from them - tainted love, just like that song. Thank you, Andrew.
Drama is a narcissists middle name. Funny, one of the first things the narc said when I began talking with him was that they hate Drama. 😂🤣🙄 Guess that was 🚩number 1.
You certainly have your little feathered friends 🐦 chattering up a storm. Beautiful to hear.
Disney prince😂
Omg YES. The "I hate drama" yet cause it 🙄
Yes!! It's definitely a red flag. Ex told me he hated drama, but then stated he wouldn't mind a reality tv series of himself mixed in with some drama...cognitive dissonance?
Hey he said the same "I don't like drama" first gazlightening
They hate drama...I remember he said that. Yet he WAS the drama! He didn't want anyone with any baggage...yet, he HAD more baggage than a cruise ship! All he voiced not wanting what he was! Exactly what he was. After too long, one day...I walked away and just left it all. Peace is so much better! The chaos and lies, cheating, drama...gone! Ahhh....freedom! The toxicity has cleared!
Why did you describe my last relationship perfectly. I was discarded right before Christmas when he was supposed to meet my family. He discarded me only after manufacturing drama in the relationship and refusing to solve conflict for a few days.
Very True Andrew. They can't go forward without drama. "All the world's a stage" ~ Shakespearean Reality
And every man and woman are merely Supply! 😉🙏☮️
GREAT video! This was my life for five years… drama 24/7… his daughters also created so much drama and chaos as well…I’m so thankful that I can come home to peace and quiet now… and zero drama… Thank you for speaking on this topic!
It's like walking through treacle. The lies are truly amazing...' I'm taking a work colleague home ( the one I told you I hated) because they missed their bus' twice !! Of course they did. Interpret this ' I'm with the new supply ' 🤷. Too much detail I agree Andrew. Everything is drama...work was drama because he thought he was way too good to work in the commissary and nobody worked as hard as he did. The builders who hadn't completed their job.... and so it goes on and on. The common theme running through all of this...HIM, never ever satisfied!!! Run for the hills because they will have you jumping, walking, running, sitting, in out,out in. Exhausting and depleting. Endless abuse 🤦
Andrew you are so right i lost my voice and my reality 😢❤
Narcissists drama make us feel like we don’t know where we are or who we are, if we are crazy or are they crazy, They only care about themselves!!❤
True video Andrew
This just sheds light on yo how Much I was Used and Misused , Unappreciated, Unwanted ,Silenced ,voice Taken and was fully groomed to accept abuse in all forms and mostly mental and psychological war that tore me inside out over the years
Another Excellent Video l like it when you give the examples cause everytime they are Right On !!! Very good one!! Reverse end is exactly what happened too me plus other examples in video are 💯 same thing
4 SURE Andrew.. 🙏, some times One Looks back, Zooming out... in Total Bewilderment..🤠.. but we Got Through it.. or we Will get through it! Perserverance always Pays Off! 🤠.. NO Contact is Paramount for Healing!
The triangulating flat tyre reminds me of many years ago when the narc would make random comments and say things such as “there’s a house nearby with three girls and there’s a room available for rent”.. i.e. for him.. heard things like this regularly as well as “too much detailed info” about other women he was encountering at his job at the time .. its all to create drama and chaos.. I feel like this video has almost summed up the past 15 yrs of my life.. I appreciate it.. it helps validate and motivate me.. thank you 💜💜🪻🪻
Narcs "mom,dad,gradma,2 uncles, 2 aunts, cousins" both sides
Theses ppl r hell to be around your videos help allot TY
away from them all for good
Sorry pal I have the same...its a lonely place to be.
Try leaving a church where the head pastor is a narcissist.So much drama and accusation will follow you as they try to destroy you.Your action is taken very personally.
I am currently in that situation. Divisive and controlling pastors will lose eventually. Just wait....
Thank you, Andrew!
Welcome..🙏😌💜
Andrew I am educating myself on the narcissist but your advice helps me with the image seeking, people pleasing, victim mentality people as well. I am using your narcissism advice to all other aspects of dysfunction. Thank you for giving me faith in humanity. Just a little but enough that I will not go crazy. hee hee
P,s,the gas thing,,,he asked for gas money off my brother the first time he met him,!!!I couldn't believe it,,!!🕊️🕊️
I can relate to everything in that video, there is certainly a constant need for drama, even though I didn’t realise it at the time. Since we separated every few days he’s still causing drama, and trying to get an emotional reaction from me. Last night he informed me he’d be moving back into the house this weekend . All I want is him out of my life and to move on, now this.
@d_Is.g talk to the police and find out if you can get a restraining order on him...that just sounds like harassment...🙏
It’s definitely harassment but unfortunately as I’ve experienced there isn’t much help for this type (narcisstic) of abuse as there is no evidence. Unless there is physical violence or threats the police won’t do anything.
Stay safe! It's a very difficult situation....keep a date entry record of everything.......it will be evidence and it will show patterns of behaviour, should you need it. I hope you can find your own place....if you feel unsafe leave!!!! I wish you well and much happiness and peace. God bless you 🙏
@@d_ls.g It sounds to me like you have some pretty big desicions to make pretty quickly, your health is most important now and sadly leaving your home could be the only option if the house is in his name, if it is joint, speak to a lawyer and find out your options.. Whatever the case the grey rock can't go on forever it just hinders your healing so you have to plan something where you can be away from more of the same..friends? Family? In the interim would be advisable.. letting him know that you are not standing for his games anymore by not being there is a good start...sorry you have to go through this...🙏
They remind me of these pods that fall from trees... they appear to be solid but step on them and they pop and the only thing comes out looks like dry dust (really they're spores but you get my meaning).
This was a real goodie. As a successful single mother (of an adult child at the time), i told my exN “I don’t cook”..for obvious reasons I was completely burnt (!) on cooking. 6 months later I was practically a world class chef for this demon. I was promised a lifetime of security, which believe me that’s really something to hear as a single mother! When I asked for him to contribute to household expenses (he was very wealthy, and I was very hard working class), he said he would help if I put him on my deed. Thank the gods I was too smart for that.
I’m nearing the end of my healing journey, practicing forgiveness and looking for ways to help others. I think single mothers are like a plate of caviar to narcissists. If you’re ever interested in adding this element to your videos, I would love to help. We are the most abused creatures on earth. We will believe or do ANYTHiNG to gain a sense of security, and we work twice as hard as anyone else. Namaste.
As always just needed a pick up from ruminating and watching one of your videos remind me why I ended it . Thanks Andrew
Omg that flat tire example happened to me just as you described with the only difference that I was a two hour flight away when it happened 🙈
Looking back I'm not sure whether she told me anything truthful or was it a complete lie.
Guarantee you it was a mix. That way you can never really be sure what is true and what is a lie.
Same.. I am not sure if their personality was created just for me.? It started changing dramatically litterally and figuratively.. when he was serial cheating and finding new supply before the discard..
After the disgard I started dissecting everything looking for the lies. By the time I finished I was looking for the truths! And there wasn't many...Not the nicest rabbit hole in the bunch to go down..🙏
I thank every loud mouthed "Grandiose Narcissist."They advertise openly what's -a-comin'. The Covert
is a Peter Lorre, film-noir drama. The climax of the later: "You what?? What do you mean he's just an old friend and classmate!!??"
True!!! 👍
It is an eye opener to study the different types & their patterns.
The 2 that turned my life upside down were the
Communal Narcissists.
Sleep tight Joe 🌜
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I so enjoy those 1950s Film Noir movies. 👌
Mine started taking over my personality traits, dressing style and hobbies like goth clubs.. He infiltrated and took over my friends and smeared me and started dating some of the ones I would talk about, serial cheating with most of them.. sick.. now I have to avoid my old hobbies just to not have a run in with him, but it was all I had and enjoyed. 😢
Always good to listen to you....sound words of advice! Reinforcing the message home really helps us all to overcome! Thanks for your time and effort in making your videos. You do so much to help others! And yes, DRAMA from them all the way and so much confusion....now there's peace! God bless. 🙏
This Drama thing fuels them for the Day,,,,always micro managing,,,or finding something /anything,,,and always playing the Victim,,,,👉🌟t.y. Andrew,,🕊️💖
Andrew, I heard the 4 month new supply is buying the narcissist and their kids expensive stuff. They really think they are not going to be discarded. They do not know its inevitable. I didn't hear this from a flying monkey, tho.
SO true! My narc dad is an anger addict. He seeks out conversations where he can pick a side, tell you why he’s right and you’re wrong, raise his voice, and if you ask him to quiet down (because maybe you have a splitting headache and didn’t get any sleep last night), he literally dismisses you, tells you you’re just trying to start an argument, and to go away. That right there sums up daily life with a narcissist. They do, in fact, LOVE to cause drama! EXCELLENT topic, Andrew! I mean Drama is at the HEART of the narcissistic relationship! Oh, and if you spiral into a depression due to the constant abuse of the narcissist, heh, they view YOUR depression as something YOU’RE doing to THEM. Just a little bonus note there.
Hope y’all are having a WONDERFUL NARC-FREE day, Andrew and friends! 🙌☀️😇❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜
The only way yoiu can win... no, not win; the only way you can SURVIVE is to walk away.
Hope you are not an adult male,living with that narc,madness.
@@kennethkunz2449 sadly, even walking away sometimes does not end the abuse as I recently found out. Even though my door is a kind that locks, but is not UNLOCKED by a KEY, he just goes and gets a little tool he can fit inside the hole the knob on the other side has and can force his way in even with me holding it shut, which I do to try to keep him from following me in there when he’s angry and escalating a situation. He will do this to come in and make his point, whatever it happens to be 🙄 Anything short of sitting there SILENTLY and listening to it in it’s ENTIRETY results in MORE yelling and he’s been known to be physically abusive, which seems to become more frequent as he gets older. It’s something I don’t think I’ve ever shared in this community before, but I know many others here have suffered physical abuse at the hands of a narcissist, so I’m not unique in that respect.
@@kennethkunz2449 sadly, even walking away sometimes does not end the abuse as I recently found out. Even though my door is a kind that locks, but is not UNLOCKED by a KEY, he just goes and gets a little tool he can fit inside the hole the knob on the other side has and can force his way in even with me holding it shut, which I do to try to keep him from following me in there when he’s angry and escalating a situation. He will do this to come in and make his point, whatever it happens to be 🙄 Anything short of sitting there SILENTLY and listening to it in it’s ENTIRETY results in MORE yelling and he’s been known to be physically abusive, which seems to become more frequent as he gets older. It’s something I don’t think I’ve ever shared in this community before, but I know many others here have suffered physical abuse at the hands of a narcissist, so I’m not unique in that respect. And my apologies, I had responded hours ago, but it seems to have disappeared. Luckily I had copied and pasted it into my notes in case that happened as I’ve learned to start doing 😛 This happens frequently
@@kennethkunz2449 sadly, even walking away sometimes does not end the abuse as I recently found out. Even though my door is a kind that locks, but is not UNLOCKED by a KEY, he just goes and gets a little tool he can fit inside the hole the knob on the other side has and can force his way in even with me holding it shut, which I do to try to keep him from following me in there when he’s angry and escalating a situation. He will do this to come in and make his point, whatever it happens to be 🙄 Anything short of sitting there SILENTLY and listening to it in it’s ENTIRETY results in MORE yelling and he’s been known to be physically abusive, which seems to become more frequent as he gets older. It’s something I don’t think I’ve ever shared in this community before, but I know many others here have suffered physical abuse at the hands of a narcissist, so I’m not unique in that respect. And my apologies, I had responded hours ago, but it seems to have disappeared. Luckily I had copied and pasted it into my notes in case that happened as I’ve learned to start doing 😛 This happens frequently
Agree wholeheartedly Andrew. Caught the thing out in so many lies and then he blocked me after sending a full on blame game txt. It’s so drama free now. I look back and see so much abuse. Money was his only love tbh.
Beautiful Spring there.😘
Holy Crap 🤯😊
Mine had 2 blown out tires that he blamed on vandalism and portrayed himself a victim. Later realized it was one of the multiple supplies.
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I'm not talking to the covert narcissist but he definitely put me in the fog all week. I couldn't concentrate. I hate that!
I use to raise my voice, good lungs 94% oxygen , yet ability to breath. Was not aware of problem, people would say calm down.
In 2021 Cardiologist had me in heart surgery, three months wasa struggle to walk 100 feet.
Now its like i was 16. , i am 70.
Just a thought, my brain is functioning better, and calm.
Spot on!!!
My ex 45 year old narc lived with his parents and had the audacity to tell me the shelf in my living room is dusty. And kept making jokes how I’m “dusty”. Meanwhile he didn’t even have a living room of his own.
IYKYK
Nailed it again Andrew. Nameste
Thank you..😌💜🙏
I listen to Andrew everyday ,,thumbs ⬆️for you Andy thank you
Yes 100% nudged out the way….i learned as he approached to move away, no nudging needed. I’d be in the bathroom, he’d walk in so I would walk out or be told how to brush my teeth, literally
I forgot to also mention that the past for a narc is 5 mins ago.. learned about this sometime ago.. you are right Andrew when you say they don’t care what you did yesterday etc all that matters is what you can do for them now in the moment (I think that’s what you said? Something along those lines).. i had watched your video a few hours ago while i was outside but had forgotten to write about the past for narcs too.. i have experienced this to be shockingly true in recent years.. do something nice and you’ll still get mistreated whether it’s 5 mins later, 30 mins later, an hour, a day etc.. thanks again 💜🪻
narcs - it’s all about the drama, themselves and joy it brings them making other people miserable
who needs it?
definitely not me…
I’d rather listen to birds sing, be in a beautiful green forest and listen to a stream or waterfall in the background…so refreshing and restorative Thank you for the video and gorgeous Carolina forest, Andrew!
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yup: dealing with DRAMA!!! NOW! dealing with NEW Narc drama now..the guy is a FRIEND ONLY! Came over to ask how I was? Yeah, right? And.... then said "I wanted to show you my ill brother's NEW NURSE! SHE is so wonderful! GORGEOUS!
A few days later, NARC came back ALL GUSSIED Up hair combed, face shaved nice, best clothes, all GIDDDY! GIDDY! "GOTTA GO! GOTTA GO! Gotta go!!! see my ill brother in hospital. Yeah, the same brother he told me he was TIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRED OF CARING FOR! WANTED OUT OF THE ENTIRE SCENE! Then New NARC asked me if he looked nice enough for a new date?" While this ill brother has been in hospital the NEW NARC has been clearing out his room, refurbishments for the room. Brother not coming home to same home. "SOoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, now the NEW NARC is free to shimmy sham this gorgeous NURSE. But there is nothing in there. NOthing at all. NO feelings, no emotions, nothing. Then NEW NARC flew out of my house, ranting about being late for his meeting in a different town. This NEW NARC has been gaslighting, lying to me for (1) yr., and coming on to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee for a long time... now I am totally avoided. I bought into this drama for a while then I found your channel, and I have been following your lectures for some time. Andrew, you have helped me a lot though all this NEW NARC drama. This NOT the 1st time I have been through this mess long before this. It was soooooooooooooooooooooooo awful but you already know this. It was soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo awful then! Back many yrs. ago.. So when this new NARC came onto my scene. I believed for a bit and then I began to question things? Then I found you and your lectures and then my eyes opened up for real.WHen NEW NARC showed me photo of the NEW SUPPLY I shrugged. He turned away in frustration and disgust.
Then hurried oout of my house boasting" I GOOOTA GO!!"
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Thanks Andrew for your information
Well wouldn’t mind being America right now bless you xx
Beautiful! I can't wait to move there! 🌸
If Andrew doesn’t know you personally, this may frighten him. He’s a very private person from what I can tell, probably doesn’t want subscribers who recognize him in public to approach him, as he doesn’t know their intentions. Having someone move from an unknown location to be near him would likely be a very frightening thought for him. I know you like him, as do I and _many_ others on here. I simply write this so that you don’t unintentionally put fear in him. So that he doesn’t come to fear your intentions rather than appreciate your support. Please don’t take this comment the wrong way, it’s not meant to be confrontational, but instead helpful so that he continues to have positive interactions with you, me, and others who are attracted to him. 😊😊😊
@@jennifernewton4637 Wow, you have really revealed yourself on here!
First off both of those states are big. 2nd, I don't know which one he's in, I know where I'm headed... 3rd, I'm not moving anywhere to stalk anybody, 4th, I was headed to the Carolinas way before I even found this channel. You, my dear are the PERFECT example of why people should Grey rock! And you seriously look desperate for a man!
Take a bow 🙂
Thats so true in all its details...
❤Thank you Andrew ❤you help me realize what the narcissist is really like 👍 it helps me to recover 😘Your the BEST !!
Excellent video Andrew !!! thank you so much❤