As someone who grew up in Kentucky, where bigotry is um... not hard to find, I love how she talks about bigotry not being as simple as hate or rage. If you're in the In Group (I'm a cis straight guy so I always am) bigots are often truly kind, generous people. It's so easy for folks to laugh off accusations of bigotry cuz it's like "What? Me? I get my ass up to go to church every Sunday morning so I can sit and listen to a guy preach about how important love is!" Most of the vilest bigotry I've heard is often so clearly coming from a place of fear, and it always shocks me the lengths people will go to cling to feeling terrified.
Hey, just wanted to say I absolutely love your videos! And yes it definitely is a complicated topic. My grandparents are wonderful people, but I sometimes wonder how would they behave if I was queer. They're very religious and progressive in a way, but they have a tendency to be like "poor people it's not their fault if God made them that way, they should be accepted". As if it was the christian thing to do to have pity for those "poor souls"
My mom is very open minded and actually even a good ally but damn did it take a lot of years and educating herself to get there. Different times where this kind of information we have now wasn't as easily and readily available and then also growing up around a bunch of bigoted assholes does that to a person. Even now she still isn't perfect but she tries and I have met people like you described too that were super friendly and warm until they found out that I'm non-binary and an atheist and about my very liberal views. It's strange to see someone turn from kind to monster with a kind face in less than 5 seconds.
This, I don't think people realize that most bigots aren't slathering imbeciles who spout hateful remarks every hour on the hour. Most of them come off as very kind, very generous people and might even be invested in trying to make the world a better place... But only for those whom, like you said, are in the 'In Group'. Casual bigotry and subconscious bigotry are even more prevalent and insidious than outright bigotry. Because when the loud bigots start screeching their hateful rhetoric, it's the rest of the 'In Group' who silently support and or allow them the right to the pedestal. It does not help that those in power have made it their mission to keep that casual bigotry alive through peripheral and subliminal messaging in our advertisements and media. For example whose pictures do you see in news reports and/or books that discuss crime? It's generally not gentrified, white-cis individuals but those of color. Growing up in the 90's-2000's I can certainly tell you that the rhetoric used in the news to differentiate a person of color who committed a crime was LEAGUES different from when a white man committed a similar offense. Likewise in regards to trans issues, the media has made it a huge habit of conflating the false narrative of men dressing up as women and 'invading' women's spaces and made it seem like an epidemic that is constantly occurring. I've seen that very plotline countless times in televised crime dramas across many different nationalities and networks. It subtly reinforces the gender binary and suggests to people that trans folks are to be feared and a direct danger to them. Regardless of whether or not it's true. (It's not, if a malicious person wants to hurt you they're almost never gonna take the time to 'dress up' to do it.) It's unfortunately why people like Rowling are so harmful to the trans community, because she HAS enough power to affect the media and drum up that fear amongst millions of her fans and beyond.
This is absolutely it!! The culture and community i grew up in is VERY anti-lgbt. I'm not out yet at all, but many of my friends ask me why I still feel anything for them and why I don't just say "fuck them, I don't care." Well, it's because the people who will disown me and vilify me for coming out are also the people who donate to charity regularly, who help strangers out on the street, who supported me through some of the worst points of my life, who always make a point of asking you how you're doing, if you need anything, to not hesitate to ask, and MEANING it. Does that mean they can't be bigoted? Does that mean they can't spend the weekends laughing with their friends about the "tr*nnies" or telling you to stop hanging out with your best friend because he seems "fruity?" No. Fuck no. People don't seem to understand that the same people who can spit on you for being a deviant can also talk you down from a ledge, sponsor your cancer treatment, hold your hair back when you're sick, hold you close while you sob, etc etc. Bigots can be absolutely fucking anyone. They don't have to walk around kicking puppies. They don't have to walk around with a pin on their lapel that reads "Hi! I disowned my granddaughter for being a f*ggot." They're just human like the rest of us, and if you're walking around looking for Westboro Church signs, you'll miss the people who pass you by with a grin on the streets, who hold the door for you, who pass bigoted words off with a "but that's just me." Bigotry is complicated, and if we want to get anywhere as a society, we can't afford to keep looking for neon signs while dogwhistles get dismissed as "just the wind" or "you're just hearing things."
Why not? Honoring the "soul" of a person (as a reflection of God) is the meaning of Namaste, right? Otherwise, physical birth defects would be the reflection of God's image and plunge us into some dark Calvanist God-shaming of bodies and claiming that it was a reflection of the state of one's soul.
Kinda obvious when you think about it in retrospect. Traditional gender roles for men and women are already so different from each other, so it's no surprise that the hate for homosexuality is aimed at different aspects for different genders.
@@Moonhermit- totally true, I just always seem to find myself arguing with gay men trying to explain how lesbians do in fact face a different (but related) type of homophobia. hearing someone blatantly say "these things are different" was so cathartic for me
When the first Harry Potter book came out, Ursula Le Guin commented that she thought it was fine, but the author came off a bit mean-spirited. She saw it before any of us did. Such a brilliant woman.
I always thought she was a bit meansprited when reading the books as a child but no one else had pointed it out so I didn't quite know why I thought that. Later figured it out, it's because all the overweight or "ugly" characters were made fun of by the main character and sometimes his friends who are supposed to be role models for kids. Also whenever she wanted to portray a female character as ugly she described them as "mannish", take of that what you will. The making fun of overweight people especially kinda got to me, I remember being as young as 5 years old thinking I was too fat even though for most of my life I've been pretty average sized. Definitely didn't help to read that as a 9 year old.
The neighbours probably called the cops after hearing me stand up and bellow at the screen during the 'pronouns are rohypnol' part. Being roofied is one of the most horrific violations imaginable, whereas the pure joy on my little brother's face when I asked how he'd feel if I started introducing him as 'he' and 'my brother' remains one of the most beautiful memories of my whole life. This is who she #StandsWith.
the best part about it is how they're willing to spit in the face of women who have ACTUALLY been roofied and drugged against their will.....just so they can step on them and use them as a pedestal to preach their hatred
My sister doesn't drink but will still go out with friends and more than once has she saved a friend from being drugged or was able to take them to the hospital when they were drugged at a club and kept the men away.
I have a question why you hypocrites radical leftists think gay marriage is okay but cousin marriage is NOT okay?? If a man loves his FEMALE cousin, it’s okay to marry her. Love is love
Being amazed at how this amazing video also has Chinese subtitles, let me say: The Chinese transliteration of Natalie, 娜塔莉, has 娜 which means graceful, elegant and delicate and 莉 which means sweet and pretty. All qualities that Natalie has ❤
@@psychic_beth it means pagoda or tower, and is often used as transliteration of the "ta" sound when translating from other languages, e.g. Names, place names, etc.
Jimmy is great, Telltale talks about cult's and cult mid-set's including mormons. I love TRHPS as well. I called the opening the dancing lips as A kid :)
"This is the most effort you're gonna get from me, this isn't Contrapoints." -Lindsay Ellis "I haven't researched this, who do you think I am? Lindsay Ellis?" -Contrapoints
"but what if i'm a gryffindor trapped in a hufflepuff's body? what then joanne?" i mean, that's literally .... harry potter. he puts on the sorting hat and it's like "wow i can tell you're a slytherin" and he's like "gryffindor, actually". and guess who has the final say in that decision?
"Hey, you know that part in _The Empire Strikes Back_ where Luke heads into a spooky cave and he sees Darth Vader, but then he kills Darth Vader, and he finds out that Darth Vader has his face because guess what, dickhead? You can't hate someone without carrying them within you! We hate most that which we cannot face within ourselves, dummy!" -Thought Slime, "How the Far-Right Weaponizes Nostalgia"
@@LeBonkJordanAh yes, the two sides of the 30 year old balding manchild millenial's brain. One is for arguing with people on twitter for 10 hours a day and the other is for analyzing marvel power scaling.
that hit hard, been there. You get so caught up judging others you forget to judge yourself, or you just assume you're too much of a good person to be doing anything wrong. It's an easy trap to fall into.
That's why it bothers me so much when people just assume criminals and predators are just unsavable evil people ("they're not like us", "they're amoral psychopaths, incapable of empathy", "they're a different breed", etc...) That may be true occasionally in some rare cases, but usually even serial killers are still people, and even most career criminals don't see themselves as evil. In my experience many of the most hateful and destructive people I've ever known often believe their actions are justified and/or moral. When folks assume evil doers are inherently different than themselves, what they're actually doing is reassuring themselves that they aren't capable of hurting others, or purposely blinding themselves to their own capacity for violence.
I am constantly blown away by Natalie's ability both to extend empathy and hold people accountable without compromising either. It's something we could all benefit from these days, I think
This is what I was going to say. She did a wonderful job of both showing empathy and understanding, while also calling out and condemning bad behavior without compromising. Its something that's very difficult to do well.
Yeah, it's something that I feel I could really learn from - there's actually a tonne of great insights, like the use of abstraction as a medium to synthesise theoretical problems that don't actually correspond to any real-world problems.
Nah. She rambles on philosophically without addressing real data. Comparisons of official MOJ statistics from March / April 2019 (most recent official count of transgender prisoners): 76 sex offenders out of 129 transwomen = 58.9% 125 sex offenders out of 3812 women in prison = 3.3% 13234 sex offenders out of 78781 men in prison = 16.8%
@@CharlieTalk Thank you, CharlieTalk, for giving her "youtubers can't read" joke an extra layer of comedy. Now finish your homework, there is clearly 5 pages left for you to read of that 6 page summary.
When you were talking about hypervigilance I remembered the comedian Richard Herring's bit about the the time his phone was snatched by a black teenager on a bike. Afterwards he became more wary and was alarmed when another black teeneager cycled past him some days later. His great anxiety was that the incident had turned him racist. Then he had a similar jumpy response when a white person cycled past him and his response was "thank god for that, I just hate cyclists!"
see, this happened to me. I got robbed by two black guys in a suv, and they snatched my phone and dragged me on the road. My biggest anxiety was similar to Richard Herring's in the fact that I actually accused a black guy on the sidewalk where I lost my phone again. It was the absolute worst racist thing I've ever done. While I know I have traumatic experience, it still doesn't give an excuse to look at a person of that race and expect the worse in them. My biggest take? I dunno, just put your phone in your backpack or sew deep pockets into your pants/skirts.
There is a king of the hill episode where hank's dog bites a black repair man and everyone accuses hank of being racist and passing it on to his dog but at the end its revealed that hank, and by extension his dog just hate repairmen
All roads lead back to the masterpiece that is "Cringe". Projection and perceived threats to one's own identity is often the driving force of this kind of obsession with other's identities.
I have a question why you hypocrites radical leftists think gay marriage is okay but cousin marriage is NOT okay?? If a man loves his FEMALE cousin, it’s okay to marry her. Love is love
@@saudiarabianman4196 i mean this is just a troll, right? given the name and all the spamming across several threads that aside, these two things are entirely unrelated and this troll is bad. quit it.
@@saudiarabianman4196 Cousin marriages far enough removed is not wrong. When the relation is too close, however, it is irresponsible to have children. No one is against cousins right to love each other, live with each other, even marry each other - the issue comes into play when they want to have children. That is literally the only reason incest is illegal. Cousins can fuck all they want, but having children massively increases the likelihood of incredibly averse effects, so it is seen as a not acceptable pairing. That said, the taboo is mainly cultural, as cousin marriage is legal in many places in the world, including the United States of America. So what are you having problem with understanding?
Really just wanted to say I wholeheartedly agree and I feel like I'm going to be saying "All roads lead back to the masterpiece that is Cringe" far too often
I wasn't out when this video first released, and the stuff about bathrooms- about how trans girls will often compromise their actual safety to protect cis women's "feelings" of safety really sticks out to me. After I came out- I had something I've since referred to as my "big trans night out". Me and a group of friends went out drinking with me presenting fem. I live in a conservative area, we have no gay bars or queer spaces- but there's this one bar that was always very welcoming to complete weirdos, people from alt scenes, etc- i had cross dressed there in the past. At the start of the night I said I would continue using the men's toilets. I looked good, but I didn't perfectly pass- i had internalised so much of this transphobia, and didn't want to make other girls feel threatened or scared. I was sexually assaulted several times in the men's bathroom- men grabbing at my ass and flat chest, trying to kick open the stall I was using, shouting and jeering at me- with the worst incident involving a man pinning me against the wall with his forearm, while trying to get his other hand up my dress far enough to go back down under my tights and into my underwear. My tights were pulled up past my navel, so I managed to throw him off before he could actually touch my genitals skin to skin, but he had managed to grab me through my clothes. I later discovered that he had actually seriously hurt me- I was aching for a few days, and without going into too much detail, I realised I was bleeding after sex. People around me were on pretty high alert from the start of the night, trying to make sure I was safe and having fun, so upon following me out of the bathroom- The guy was almost instantly thrown out of the bar by door staff. But I was really shaken by what had happened. So, 5 hours after declaring I was one of the good trannys! I'm not some cringe overeager gender activist! I would respect women's spaces until I passed perfectly and deserved to enter them!. I started using the womens toilets. Because I didn't just *feel* threatened. I was almost raped. And you know what? nobody cared. After all the rhetoric about the evil transes invading the sacred spaces of women. Real women in the real world? they welcomed me there. On the one occasion some other girls clocked me as trans in there- I immediately started drunkenly apologizing- trying to explain what had happened earlier. One of them just said "shh. It's okay. You are one of us." They didn't care. Because I'm a girl. I really am.
I’m so sorry about what happened to you. I’m so glad to hear you had people around you sticking up for you, who helped you recognise that you deserve the same safety and comfort as your friends 🏳️⚧️❤️
That shit is so horrifying. I wish you didn't have to go through that. But I'm happy that that other girl was there to tell you you're welcome. That just sounds so traumatizing, I hope you're ok and staying safe 💜💜
Terfs will claim till the end of the world that they're protecting women from assault and rape, while in practice they have zero care for anyone's safety but themselves. I'm glad you told your story, and I'm so happy for you for being your true self. I hope you only have good experiences from now on, though do know that if someone does get mad about you wanting to take a leak, it's on them and not on you.
I am horrified and so sorry to hear that you experienced this. There are some unbelievably cruel people in the world and no one deserves to have to go through this. I desperately wish that humans could just respects other humans not because of who or what they are but simply because they are human. Your stength and bravery to be who you truely are will always provail! Trans rights are human rights ✊❤❤❤
Yes exactly that! Humans aren't rational by nature, even if we tend to see ourselves as such. Understanding where bigotry stems from is the best way to avoid and escape from it.
I personally think it also helps to identify bigots in your life, a lot of people have this evil Disney caricature pure evil type of vision of whom a bigot is, and when they see they can actually be more complex people, that you might even have looked up to, they have a hard time accepting they are that.
Yes, this channel is awesome. I really wish it were easier to get people less explicitly invested in the types of topics covered here to watch such amazing, in-depth content in spite of the length of the videos, because I know so many people could be greatly bettered by doing so with an open mind.
I really, really appreciate that you never once shied away from the fact that the stuff JK has said is inexcusable, but also treated her like a human being at the same time. That is so important and relevant.
Hi, im ab out half way done with this video and uhh im crying a bit. I'm a trans man, and I've honestly never heard anyone defend or talk about the issues of trans men like they were so important. especially not someone with a platform. Especially calling out the fact that our issues aren't spoken about and that that's a problem. And then you go and grab at the heart of the transphobia i've experienced, and you've voiced it, and i feel less like i'm insane for throwing myself at the wall and screaming that something is wrong here and we are suffering. I dont really know what to say. Thank you.
@@incredibleWatty SAME!!! I was like, oh fuck, someone actually is paying attention to this shit outside our tiny microcosm of trans male experience?? What?? I was floored that a trans woman with this kind of platform actually gave enough of a shit to hold space for us, I had no idea that I was yearning for this kind of public recognition since so little of public trans discourse even acknowledges trans men and recognizes our struggles.
you gotta read the full deposition if you haven't. it's so good. the judge did an incredible job of walking the line between freedom of belief and expression in different groups, and ended it by perfectly navigating how destroying someone's dignity because of your beliefs isn't democratic and doesn't bode well for a business. maya was fired with good reason. she was mocking a bank director for months while working at a non-profit. like, holy fuck.
@@alexandrapedersen829so she was still ‘let go’. They just didn’t have a meeting with her to specifically say “you’re fired”. But she was obviously fired. You don’t have to say those exact two words to convey the same meaning
My fourteen year old daughter got me to watch this and am very glad I did. Was very enlightening and challenged some poorly thought ideas I had.. Thank you ... Also, Dark and Stormy’s are delicious.. Thank you for that enlightenment as well ... Cheers
Wtf. My mom acts like I'm telling her to sacrifice her soul to satan just to read a simple article on lgbt topics. Good on you, though. Wish more parents were that open minded
I've been told "the men's room is over there," so many times, I can't keep count. You're 100% right, it's about feminity, not chromosomes because I'm cis but butch.
Literally no one actually gives a shit about chromosomes, it's just transphobes trying to use "basic biology", but by "chromosomes" they just mean penis and vagina.
@@Jekyllstein_Gray are you joking? Literally the basics is having chromosomes. The reason we are even male and female is chromosomes so yes we always used chromosomes. Even for fetuses
The issue with "Joannes" is that they are upset they were never named "Jolene" and so they live their lives in fear and hatred of everything Dolly Parton stands for.
It might be a hot take but I disagree with Nathalie at 34:15... I wouldn't say she redistributed the rose petals, she rather increased the entropy of the bath by spreading the rose petals (rose petals representing energy, obviously) going from a heterogeneous distribution to an homogeneous one, where in the end she won't be able to extract any work from those petals anymore, forcing me to not do any work and just binge watch her videos.
@@lovelysan Not to diminish Lindsays researching skills, but Natalie already did a lot of research. I feel that was the biggest work she did for the video. I‘d rather wonder how Lindsay could work on a different aspect of the topic or go into one more deep.
@Dark Side’s Shadow Well, youtube age restricting a video isn't censorship at all. So, if she complains about her video getting age restricted, she isn't complaining about free speech or censorship, she's just complaining that youtube age restricted it.
@Dark Side’s Shadow Wow, you are really strawmanning her. She is not trying to ban Rowling from voicing her opinions, she is just saying that those opinions are wrong. Have you heard her telling Rowling to shut even 1 time in this video? Criticism is not the same as cancelling or banning. In fact, she has been a target of cancelling and opposes it even if it is done on people she doesn't like. She has also been pretty sympathetic to Rowling and has not attacked her even one time in this video, she has just debunked Rowling's harmful opinions. But I guess you came from that moron Tim Pool's video and didn't even watch this. I would advice you to watch something before commenting about it.
@@SD-zz4ov Of course they didn't. Tim Pool made a video about Natalie and he lied about how Natalie was trying to cancel Rowling for her opinions and also complaining about how youtube age-restricted her video. Her complaining about her video getting age-restricted is true but her cancelling Rowling isn't. But of course his fans ate it up and brigaded this video without even watching it. You can see Tim's fans' comments from 1-2 weeks ago.
No shade to you or anyone else and simply for the sake of spreading knowledge, this is actually an extremely old joke, probably from at least the middle of the last century.
The joke is way older, in fact. I saw it first in a Bloom County strip from the 80’s and I’m sure they stole it from someone else too. It’s a great one though. May every generation keep it going.
Also about lockers and showering in gyms. I always thought there was some element of lesbophobia in the "keep trans woman out of female bathrooms" discourse, since I heard the same things about lesbians in locker room. "I don't wanna change with her, she's a gross lesbian who will assault me!" shut the fuck up, Karen.
No matter how easily refuted some of her tweets and sentiments were, this is the response of empathy and information the Internet and JKR deserved. Thank you so much for taking the time and making the effort to actually dive into the points, engage with the subject, and foster peace. I hope you do not receive abuse for doing so but that’s probably naive. Cheers, you’re awesome and so is your St. Vodberry 🥂
With great power (or influence) comes great responsibility. If Rowling wants to be treated like just another person, like her actions don't cause harm on a massive scale, she needs to give up her power and influence. As long as she has global influence, she will rightfully be held to a higher standard than someone's bigoted drunken uncle. But if she's not willing to give up power, she needs to learn how to behave.
@@NotADood Where to begin? Different manifestations of bigotry; how trauma can have ugly and harmful manifestations, including bigotry, and the degree to which we should have compassion in these painful cases; Daniel Radcliffe as a mannequin; transphobic cultural tropes over the decades; the importance of not othering bigotry lest one ignore "the monster within"; the best things to put in a bath; problems with "cancelling"; why do people feel the need for cheesy orchestrations of Schubert songs; why do villains in movies like the Goldberg Variations; how are Anthony Hopkins and Jodie Foster so awesome; is Hannibal Lecter truscum - the list goes on, my dear.
“When you reduce bigotry to a caricature of pure hatred, you obscure that bigotry is a deeply human problem. You know sometimes people criticize me for ‘empathizing with bigots.’ But I believe that understanding bigots is the best defense against becoming one yourself. Because when you dehumanize the villains, you become unable to recognize the villain within.” -Natalie Wynn Brilliant line.
@@jasminehouston-burns1691 gender is a social construct lol, like this ship sailed so damn long ago, continuous denial of this fact makes you a bigot. I don't know why you people are so damn obsessed with people's genitals that you gotta be guessing what are people's genitals whenever you see a person. That's the only justification that y'all "gender is biological" people give. Creep.
@@jasminehouston-burns1691 please actually watch the video you are commenting on. If you would listen to some trans people for a little you might actually understand what it means
@@jasminehouston-burns1691 I’m not interested in debating but if you’re are not willing to listen to the arguments presented here I dont know why you then expect anyone to listen to you either
I feel this way about "born this way." It reduces queer rights to something we deserve because we can't help it that we're not "normal," not as something that we deserve because "normality" shouldn't have anything to do with deserving rights. Straight people don't deserve rights just because they can't help but be "normal," so it's ridiculous to say we deserve rights even though we're not.
holy shit, i knew “terf is a slur” is a thing, but “being called racist is like calling a black person the n word to me” literally made me lose my mind
@@SilverMoon459 Hey! As a white cis-normative heteroid, I just want to call you out for using a word that has, for generations, been used a vile slur to oppress my people. Shame!
@@nesquik1640 Schrödinger's douchebag-that’s a good one; I had to look it up. For a joke comment that obvious? Well at least I thought it was. Such is state of the internet.
The 'Bathroom Problem' hit me hard. I'm a cisgender dark skinned Black woman with a tall athletic build. I've often been questioned, intimidated and outright refused entry to women's bathrooms. While my hair length may change- from shaved head to down-to-my-ass wig- I'm ALWAYS very femme and present all the traditionally female associated signifiers - long nails, make-up, big tits, dresses etc. And yet I am often 'accused' of 'just being a boy in a dress', or 'a tran*y or a drag queen. All of which is grouped as "Not a REAL Woman" It's so fucked up that gender is so heavily policed! I've been physically blocked from entering a woman's bathroom by a security guard because he didn't think I was a 'Real' woman. So obviously, I support trans women and trans men and enbies for the right to go pee. Long story short, I'm not trans or enbie but I understand the struggle of just being a human that has to pee sometimes. Trans rights are human rights. Civil rights are human rights. And btw I'm all about the Trans Liberation Now slogan.
Damn, that sucks. Who gets off on denying people entry to the bathroom? I'm sorry you've been gender policed while just trying to go about your business.
Didn't happen to me, but I had a weird bathroom situation at work. I was going in the bathroom, and a customer approached me to tell me there was "a man" in the bathroom, while pointing at a stall. The "man" was a cis gender woman with a deeper voice. (It was one of my coworkers). While she was going on about how we shouldn't let men in the bathroom, my trans gendered coworker came out of the other stall, washed her hands and walked out. Like lady... you don't know who is trans and who is not, so why does that even matter to you?
@@stbananastein It's not just gender-policing. Mainstream culture in the US (assuming the OP is in the US) also has a long history of treating Black women as inherently and profoundly unattractive; and part of that narrative involved portraying them as "unfeminine". Depicting feminine-presenting Black women as "a man in a dress" or otherwise unattractively "masculine" is a common insult in much of the country; and can be seen in the (mostly) conservative attacks on women like Michelle Obama and Serena Williams. And it's not just the US; the racist trope is also distinctly present in most Anglosphere countries, like the UK and Europe. This goes well beyond transphobia, and into far older tropes rooted in white supremacism.
@@EphemeralTao thank you so much for elaborating on this. My post was already pretty long so I just described my physical appearance. And yes, I am in the USA.
@@EphemeralTao Oh yeah, absolute facts! I was just responding in particular to what OP discussed in her comment, but the added larger context is damned important. The issue goes waaaay beyond bathroom politics
I cant believe this is the first ContraPoints video ive ever seen. I hope they're all this good. I was big nerd in highschool like captain of the debate team , and the section about reframing the conversation to trans liberation got me so excited. That is such a good way to focus a conversation on what is actually important instead of getting distracted by the bullshit.
@@mxar2074 The books have almost no cohesive themes so it's easy to read almost any metaphor into them. I say this Not to lessen the strength or meaning of said metaphors to people but to give them full credit for creating them, no credit goes to the original author.
"Understanding bigots is the best defense against becoming one yourself. Because when you dehumanize the villain you become unable to recognize the villain within." this.
Bigotry definition according to Webster: Obstinate or intolerant devotion to one's own opinions and prejudices. I think the proper word to describe Rowling is "Boldly Veracious about the sufferage and victimization of women". Seeming as though she only speaks about the predators... It seems rather odd to defend sick people who are opportunistic predators, and jump at the opportunity to invade women's spaces and all progress for the liberty of womankind. All the voices of truth are silenced and ignored and "cancelled". Who are the real bigots? I wonder.
@@armin-senpai9194 "All the voices of truth" that is all subjective in a world of misinformation were a group of people have been marginalized by the patriarchy for centuries, the same patriarchy that has wanted to control females hates them just as much, Obviously you don't know any real trans individuals, didn't watch the video/ didn't want to understand, your minds are already made up, you already claim a victim narrative for all females. So in your mind every trans girl/woman is a predator against your rights and trans men are your misguided sisters who wanted to play with trucks instead of dollys and dresses.
@@raymond4218 don't forget GtS(Peter Pettigrew), HtS(Cursed Child Cedric Diggory, went full mazi after one loss), RtS(Quirrel), and StG(Snape). No one tries to become a hufflepuff apparently...
Study whatever you please. Call yourself whatever you like. Perform any legal magic you're capable of. Live your best life regardless of your parentage. But force wizards out of their jobs for stating that magical ability is inheritable? #IStandWithSalazar
@@allyli1718 Salazar technically didn’t mention blood purity but claimed Muggle borns couldn’t be trusted with magic witch at the time witch burnings were happening in Europe so his fear wasn’t unfounded however his basilisk scheme certainly proves he wasn’t a sane dude so it’s no wonder his decedents turned into inbred monsters!
@@iridescentdemon I'd say almost as good. A lot of people when they hear "trans rights" think of stuff like medical transition being covered by public healthcare, which I also support but might be a harder sell to somebody who hasn't yet realized that transpeople are in fact not sex demons. "Trans liberation now" might honestly have them perk up and wonder what you mean.. and then you can also talk about how we need to be liberated from the stigma that we are all sex demons.
Thinking about the scenes in Harry Potter where Ron, Harry, Hermione, and the ghost of a teenage girl were all able to be in the same bathroom together without this bathroom war debate coming up.
And the scene where said ghost got into the (either gender neutral or just for boys, I don't think the text specifies) prefects' bathroom and watched Harry bathe.
I have a question why you hypocrites radical leftists think gay marriage is okay but cousin marriage is NOT okay?? If a man loves his FEMALE cousin, it’s okay to marry her. Love is love
Let’s not forget the sorting hat nearly put Harry in Slytherin, but he-of his own autonomy-became a Gryffindor. Harry, who by some assumedly unchangeable force of nature(?) should’ve been categorized as one thing but doesn’t connect or identify with that and so changes his circumstance to become (through physical presentation, social connection, etc.) something else.... and yet no one is stating that Harry is Actually a Slytherin in Gryffindor robes! Interesting how that happens 🤔
This vid is painfully relevant when you realize that the guy who put forward the anti-trans bills in oklahoma LITERALLY quoted jk rowling on the floor as he did so
Hi, I wanted to say thank you for making this video. My 14 year old daughter has been asking me to watch it with her for awhile, and we finally sat down together this week and watched it. I found it to be so very moving, thoughtful, intelligent, funny, and compassionate. It made me cry, in a good way. Also, I learned a lot about the trans experience that I did not know before, and I think it will help me be a better person. Thanks for all the work you put into this, and all your videos.
(I don’t usually leave comments, I beg y’all to go easy on me) I’m a trans man and started the medical part of my transition over quarantine just before Rowling wrote her essay. Being a lifelong fan of her work it hit me pretty hard, and I’ve been stewing in quarantine for months processing these feelings of betrayal. I was initially really scared to click this thumbnail, because so far responses to her words on all sides have been pretty dismissive of trans men, but you did a stellar job taking apart how sensitive this situation is. It really means a lot to me that you’ve put a magnifying glass over that aspect of this conversation and I wanted to say thanks
That sounds really rough, i hope it's all turning out well for you though. I don't know all the magical detail of a transition but just kind of assume that nobody needs the added stress of a long loved celebrity stirring up prejudice at the same time. Good luck with it all!
I still vehemently remember that in 5th grade, I went to the bathroom and I was wearing boyish looking sneakers. Since I had feet bigger than most girls my age, that's all that would fit. One of the teachers entered after me, looked at my shoes from outside of the stall, and started shouting at me to get out. I rushed to get out and once she saw me face-to-face, all she mustered was a surprised 'oh!' when I got out. Not one apology. This experience always comes to my mind when I think of TERFs because they are the same women who claim hyper-femininity is a sexist aesthetic for transgender women to go after; meanwhile, they police and treat women who don't fit the demure standard like animals.
Also it's literally shoes lmao, like there are so many reasons that any adult aged person should immediately question before screaming at a child. Maybe you just like that design, or maybe you have an older brother, and you're poor so you just got his hand me downs, or maybe you wrecked your shoes and had to borrow a pair, or maybe you were running late and just grabbed the first pair on the rack before running out the door, either way no 5th grader is in the bathrooms creepin on people, so even if you were entirely a dude, like not even trans, a full cis dude, in the women's restroom, who tf cares, maybe all the stalls in the men's room were full and it was an emergency, or maybe you were distracted and went into the wrong one. Kids have done dumber things.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach Not to mention she was alone, clearly sitting on the toilet- you can tell from where a person’s shoes are and whether other shoes are in the same stall. The fact that clearly nothing untoward was happening, simple a toilet being used, means the adult woman KNEW she would be harassing a person currently sitting on a toilet. That would still be unacceptable even if it was a young boy. You can wait until they’re out of the bathroom and question them. Holy cow.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach No adult has a right to bust down a door when they know a child’s pants are down, regardless of the gender of the child. That is borderline sexual abuse.
@@kathleencove That too! It's obvious to anybody with even sub-brick intelligence, that they're not doing anything except using the restroom. Also first of all from the original comment, it seems like the teacher just yelled alot. But if they did, kick in the door, I'd say, it qualifies as full SA not just borderline, because presumably that adult _knew_ d*mn well that that there was a kid who was indisposed in there, and they barged in anyways. No adult should be accosting children in the bathroom at all regardless of intentions.
As a suspected-autistic transmasc, the infantilization and phrases such as "you just dont know what you want" and "soft boi uwu" boils my fucking blood
As someone who only had a casual glance at JKRs controversia tweets and did not understand much about why people were so upset, this is one of my favourite videos you did because you laid it all out so well! I also showed it to a wonderful trans friend of mine who is not usually on youtube and was very happy to have such great representation on here.
it's kinda tragic. many times the worst TERF's have actual been abused/raped by men and ended up hating everyone who has (or had) a penis. we should be understanding of their experience but never excuse toxic coping mechanisms that end up hurting some of the most oppressed social groups. just like many incels might have been treated like shit by a woman but their misogyny and bigotry should not be justified.
@@christrifinopoulos8639 it just boils down to "don't judge" but unfortunately we need judgement to guage the safety of certain situations and I don't see how to do both Maybe "don't assume" is a better rule of thumb
Christ, this Female Masculinity book is gosh darn eye opening to me. Need to read that, it seems. I'm a cis woman, but extremely masc looking, always have been, and ever since I was a toddler I've been mistaken as male. Even now in my 30s I get yelled at in public bathrooms, given dirty looks, and I've even been forcibly dragged out before, all because I've got a strong jaw and flat tits. I have huge anxieties about using public toilets because of it, and every dirty side glance I get smacks my self confidence down another peg. I don't *care* about being mistaken as male, but I just wanna piss in peace without having to argue about my body to total strangers. 'Womens' bathrooms are already ridiculously enforced by anyone who thinks they have the right to judge you on your appearance (aka basically everyone), JKR is completely blind to this, and ironically in her desperate blustering of claiming its for feminism, she's discounting a huge bunch of cis women too.
"J.K. Rowling is blind to this." J.K. Rowling has not been forced to use a public restroom for over a decade thanks to her wealth. In this essay, I will propose that all wealthy individuals should only be allowed access to public restrooms to remind them of the daily struggles of the proletariat.
The intersection between butchphobia and transmisoginy is REAL. And terfs refuse to aknowledge it, because it reveals that they don't truly care about women, at all.
This was randomly suggested to me on my UA-cam feed. I don't know any trans people nor do I have frequent conversations about the subject matter. This video however provided me with a lot of valuable insight and some good discourse to understand the issues you face and their origin. This has broadened my sense of understanding of how people work, which as someone interested in psychology, human well-being and harmony, I find invaluable, so thank you.
Thanks for watching this even though you don't (yet) know any trans people. I appreciate people like you listening to trans folks talk about their experiences and for you wanting to learn about us from us. Thanks, and I hope you have a good day!
@@andenp8233 Thanks, same to you :) Natalie is just so interesting to listen to, and so concise, insightful and eloquent, that I just couldn't stop watching. And most of all, so empathetic even towards people who she criticizes. I wish there were more people like her in the world.
I'm glad you stuck around for the entire video despite not knowing any trans people personally. As your awareness increases, you may find that a lot of people become more comfortable with coming out to someone who is already aware and some friends or colleagues you already have may be trans. I've recently been the "first" trans, nonbinary person people have known for several people in group therapy, including the therapist, and during a discussion on dating, people's mouths dropped when I said many of my potential suitors were more concerned with what is in my pants than knowing my last name, before even the briefest of introductions. Like before we've even said hello have the time. Like I have no problem putting "hey, I am nonbinary and trans, so asking what my genitals are will send you to The Shadow Realm, never to return." And I would still have straight cis men asking me what my genitals look like. Its the first words of my bio. It makes me concerned that literacy levels have dropped so substantially /s. And thus, many men were sent to the unfun Shadow Realm and blocked. (There is also an alternate, much better, fun Shadow realm, which is my house, cause Shadow, my cat, is the real ruler here. No man has entered that Shadow Realm, but several enbies and women have. Shadow demands the pets of many.) While there is a reason to disclose that info, mainly for safety, especially if an individual is stealth (aka passing as a cisgender person and not publically out as a trans person), personally I find this kind of statement weeds out people who care more about genitals than the person they belong to. I'm not into people who make a big deal about genitals, chasers, bigots, or the closed minded, so it gets rid of, imho, several unsavoury types of people I have no interest in dating.
I experienced the same thing. Now I have a brother in law that used to be my sister in law haha, it’s crazy how life changes. Contrapoints video on masculinity was my entrance video
A teacher in high school taught me that “evil is the corruption of good,” not the opposite of good. They think they’re doing a good thing, when in reality they’re harming people
Well, sometimes people do engage in entirely selfish acts with entirely selfish motives, but they often only acknowledge that after some serious introspection. I think a lot of the time, people work the other way around; they have a bad/selfish motive for doing bad/selfish things, and they look for some sort of justification to excuse it.
"It's a limitation of human empathy that sometimes when we're trying to understand what someone else is feeling, the best we can do is to project our feelings onto them." Wonderful quote.
sdrawkcabUK Equality of control over each other, equality over how existential needs of individuals are addressed by each others... you know, the principles from which we can deduce that oppression and exploitation are bad.
@sdrawkcabUK In the context of political movement, when people say 'equality,' they often mean legal equality. So what they want is to be treated equally by the government and to not be discriminated against in the form of laws that that disproportionally make life harder for the groups of people that they belong to.
@@cezarcatalin1406 So not equality then. You described equity. Equality would be people being treated the same and having equal rights. It's very simple. You described the deeply bigoted commie version of equality - where people are forced to be divided by class, sex, politics and race. Whether they want to or not.
Great points, Rowling’s internalized sexism and concerns about sexual assault are definitely being directed at the wrong group of people. Why get pressed over pronouns when you can advocate for more protections for assault survivors? And sadly I’m sure that there are many trans people who can relate to Rowling’s experiences of PTSD, and yet she’s demonizing them.
the six love languages: - word of affirmation - quality time - physical touch - pouring milk over naked lifeless torso with headshot affixed to face - acts of service - receiving gifts
@@vintheguy I've found songs by holding my headphones up to my phone and using shazam. If you're playing the video on your phone shazam seems to pick it up as well
My grandmother literally told me she thought that people were "persuaded" to be gay. As if someone could persuade me to feel anxiety throughout my entire adolescence at the fear of being ostracized and kicked out of my Christian family. They'd have to be pretty persuasive.
The lack of empathy is astounding; they never seem to equate same sex attraction with their own perspective on attraction... Like Grandma, are you telling me you know you could be convinced to willingly and eagerly dive face-first into pussy after a few conversations and two weeks at summer camp?
Same with my mom. She idolizes this one pop star, she's a huge fan of him, and then when he came out as gay and even said he's known he's gay since he was young, she was like "I don't think he's actually gay, he's been pressured to be gay because he's so pretty"... I was just flabbergasted
@@NeoDiscoBall so because one person won one gold medal it suddenly means that all those people who are still oppressed today are treated equally, right?
Even more disappointing that public opinion is starting to sway back in her direction. The Hogwarts Legacy fallout has done *so much damage*, and now she's successfully playing the victim on her personal podcast. It's gross to watch even liberal leftists starting to go, "Okay, hey now, let's not get TOO judgy here." It's just so frustrating.
@@Chaeley well there were 4chan posts about attacking/doxxing hogwarts legacy streamers to turn public opinion against the boycott this game has had one of the most successful astroturfing campaigns meant to increase sales from reactionaries, and i am guessing there will be more games marketed specifically through the lenses of "the other side dont like it/own the libs" with how well it worked
That's what you get for trying to make a person change her views out of shame, hate, name calling and extreme moral judgment. Its like the worst way to challenge individuals to reevaluate their ideas with an open mind. When people feel attacked and judged for something they honestly believe what do expect to happen? They double down on those beliefs.
@@francisco8345 "that's what you get"?? dude, no. firstly, just to be clear, i do not think that people sending jkr abuse or death threats is in any way acceptable behavior. i agree with you on that. but no one has *made* jkr do anything. her bigoted beliefs and actions are her own. it also ignores the many, many, MANY trans people and allies who have tried to reach out to her peacefully, respectfully, and in good faith. sometimes bigoted people across the aisle just refuse to be reached, and that's not anyone's fault but theirs.
11:05 As a gay person myself I had a breakdown after this moment starting from a timestamp above. Because no one ever said such a thing to me personally, it's so revealing and meaningful to the point when I start to cry. To say "being gay is more than what you do in the bedroom" is to clearly understand how it is to be gay. It is especially dazzling to me on a context of living a whole life in a homophobic country... Natalie, I have no choice but to stan :) And sorry, but you're a gay icon, just because of you being compassionate.
I remember during a march for marriage equality in my country a woman said "I am more then just my sexuality ..it gets tiring taking about all the time"...👍
My college aged son got me watching your videos a couple of years ago and I always learn something useful from you. I am a physician in a large hospital system, and as you know, healthcare isn’t always accesible or hospitable to trans people. You always give me great talking points to help educate my shall we say “non-woke” colleagues. Thank you. 🌹
This video is depressingly more relevant in 2023. The recent NYT, pro Joanne op-ed, sadly reinforces the fact writers, liberals, & the “Paper of Record” need to understand the nature of bigotry and transphobia specifically. That many continue to ignore the dog whistles in these seemingly innocuous statements is infuriating. Thank you Natalie for such a brilliant video ✌️
26:36 "I agree that a fact cannot be bigoted, but a fact on its own doesn't mean very much. Usually when we discuss facts, we're using those facts to tell a story, and facts can be used to tell bigoted stories." Bookmarking this point for future self-reference. Great stuff.
It's not great. It's blindingly obvious. The point is this - stories do not trump facts. Of course facts can be woven into all sorts of narratives - but those narratives, whether you agree with them or not, do not qualify as "true" just because they are woven together in a way that is "satisfying". Humans have always woven comforting narratives, but you don't think religions are true just because they are satisfying. The facts - or otherwise - that they contain are what we can reference between us with greater confidence than the story which has contained them.
"Statistics cannot lie, but liars use statistics." If someone said that hospitals are killing people because 90% of death happens there, they aren't *technically* wrong, but they are misusing stats.
There are some things about baths that I'm interested in learning, from a philosophical, political and historical perspective. Somebody really needs to address the BQ, someone based and bathpilled.
@@loreenasings tpi there is no such thing as a water 'proof' phone yet, only water resistant. you can still potentially permanently damage the cameras, speakers, microphone and potentially even the battery depending on the kind of water exposure, rendering it unusable unless repaired at the shop
My issue with JK Rowling’s trauma as justification for abuse is that…… most men don’t dress as women as a means to hurt people. Because they don’t need to. In fact, I would argue many abusive men are probably transphobic
Another issue is that she has zero concern for the trauma of others. Only her own. She liked comments mocking Katy Montgomery talking about being abused. She publicly sided with Marilyn Manson and has endorsed child abusers Gregg Ellis and Kaeley Triller, with no regard for their victims.
The fact that her iphone that costs four figures is constantly hovering milimeters above the surface of the water is definitive proof that Natalie is in fact completly free of human weaknesses.
@@DangerSquiggles modern iPhones fairly resistant to water. Thats one of the reasons the aux port was removed, after all. They'll survive immersion pretty often, if not most of the time now. Yet here I am using plastic bag with phone in it if I take a bath. Haha
i personally resent the narrative that bigots are “haters” because in my experience, all the people that have been homophobic to me were friends, family, and supporters first.
Nothing has been alright since Bruce Springsteen, Madonna, way before Nirvana. There was u2 and Blondie and music still on MTV. Her two kids, in high school, they tell her that she’s uncool. She’s still preoccupied with 1985.
So many good points. A sentence that stands out for me is "[we] tend to forget that the end goal of a political movement is not 'validity', but _equality_ "
@@emmarocheteau5788 It used to be, but they dropped it when we caught on. Funnily enough, Contrapoints also has a video on alt-right symbols and how they work. First video on the channel, I believe.
It's not something we can do on demand, sorry. I don't even know when I'm doing it sometimes - like the other day I was in Lidl and this guy glanced at me and before I know it, he made a jump for pickles and crazily started running around asking where he can learn bass guitar..OTOH when I try and transgenderify others (such as by giving out free 'hand santizer' that totes isn't estrogel) to that neighbour (the one who wears a muumuu) it doesn't work at all.
Remember when everyone including her best friends riduculed Hermione for wanting to end (elf) slavery and then rowling started hint that Hermione was black all along. So a black girl literally gets riduculed for being agaist slavery by her best friends. How did we not see these problems earlier is beyond me.
We were children who didn't know any better, I went back and reread those books as an adult, and with the adult lens that shit really sticks out, but children, (especially in America) are barely even taught what slavery is, we don't teach history in a way that is accurate. For example, I went to school in California and in fourth grade they took us on a field trip to the California missions, and told us all about how the Christians came over and did all this good, teaching the "ignorant natives" how to read and write. Which is so f*cked looking back, cuz they brought children to a monument of religious violence and told us that the genocide committed there was a good and necessary thing. Literally might as well have brought us to Auschwitz and told us "the Nazis did a ton of good teaching the Jewish people to work hard." I vividly remember being told I'd grow up to be a worthless loser by one of the parents on that trip, cuz I said sh*t, and I honestly wish I had caught how silly that was in the moment.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach Learning about slavery is a fundamental part of learning about American history, and is taught in virtually every 8th grade history class in America. You are really telling on yourself and just how exceptionally racist your upbringing was when you say stuff like "Americans don't learn what slavery is growing up." My history textbook had pictures of a former slave whose entire back was covered in scars from getting whipped so much. I learned that slaves had to pick over 30 pounds of cotten PER DAY. My history textbook had pictures of starving concentration camp prisoners and ditches filled with bodies from World War 2. You had to have had an exceptionally racist and sheltered upbringing to not see and learn about these things around the time you hit puberty.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach lmfao I just got the part where you literally admit that you were raised by a bunch of insanely racist Californians who openly teach white supremacist historical revisionism. I bet you're the type of person who tut tuts about how much better you are than "those darn racist southerners." I spent my whole life in Louisiana and clearly learned more about slavery and colonialism in public school than you have in your entire life.
@@Abcdefg-tf7cu Chaotic Detective Peach isn't telling on themself. They are telling on their school system, the curriculum, and the teachers. They were a child and weren't responsible for the racism around them or the degree to which they were sheltered. You sound upset with them, and I can't figure out what you think they've done wrong here. Should they not be reporting that they and all their peers were furnished with a skewed and deeply inadequate education? Also, sounds like the two of you were in 8th grade in different decades. You'd be surprised how different your education was from the generations that went through your school system before you. It's very possible Detective Peach got the standard degree of racism and shelteredness that the education system was serving up at the time.
Exactly this. Dehumanizing the other side isn't just an issue of "hurting people's feelings," it means you're ignoring *where those issues come from* and *how to effectively combat them.*
@@chrs-wltrs Yesss, I don't see the point in dehumanizing bad actors, they ARE human. And recognizing that human potential instead of ignoring it stops us from falling into the trap of 'us vs them' and urges us to recognize that, since we're human too, we're not immune to doing bad things or any "evilness".
"What I want to do in this video is take Joanne's pain seriously, and treat her like a complex human being, while also being critical of the things she said about 'the transgender question'." Instant subscribe. You've perfectly articulated my personal feelings toward a lot of people/groups who've behaved similarly.
41:33 “It’s a limitation of human empathy that sometimes when we’re trying to understand what someone else is feeling, the best we can do is project our feelings onto them.” Holy shit. It wasn’t until you said this that I truly understood how often I’ve done this in the past. Thank you so much Natalie. I’ll try to be a better person from now on.
We all do it to some extent. But, if you are aware of your thoughts/feelings, you can step back and ask yourself some questions. Why did I say that? What made me feel this way? Why did I react in such a way? What would have a more appropriate reaction? Self reflection can help us become better people. We will never perfect, but trying to always be better is the thing we should all do. Unfortunately, too many like Rowling and Maya have little to no self reflection going on. They just assume that their initial reaction to everything is the correct one!! And therefore blame some one else for their hate, fear, etc.
It’s a natural step in sympathising so I wouldn’t stop yourself from thinking that way. But follow up questions are allowed! You can always ask: “You’re telling me about X. I have experience of Y, is it like that?” And the person you’re conversing with can elaborate. And they may say “Y is totally different - you’re never going to understand!” This is fine: at least you both know now that you’re trying to listen.
@@justcomments Yeah, I agree with this. There are a lot of experiences that are somewhat similar, and often the easiest way to empathize does have to be based on your own experiences. However, we also have to acknowledge that our experiences are just that, our own experiences. Different people have different experience, and although there may be similarity there is always going to be difference, so we should listen to the person speaking when they say their experiences isn't the same.
This may sound insensitive, but: I find it lowkey grimy that Rowling chose to bring up her history with abuse for the first time ever in her great, big TERF essay. You know what I mean? Like she's been rich and famous for a decade or two at that point, she could have really been holding up a megaphone for domestic violence advocacy, but no .... she chose to use her own abuse as a cheap trump card and shield against criticism while targeting a vulnerable group that is ALSO at higher risk of domestic violence. I understand that's not ALL that's at play there and no one is owed access to that kind of personal information, but it feels underhanded to reveal it in the way that she did.
I agree. Nobody deserves DV and I am truly sorry that she went through that. At the same time, people who use their minority status or bad things that have happened to them as shields for their bigotry really make me mad. It’s not Trans people’s fault that she was abused by her Cis Gender husband. It’s also bizarre that she goes out of her way to suck up to Male abusers and Misogynists like Marilyn Manson and Elon Musk, while scapegoating Trans people
You’re the first non-FTM/NB UA-camr who I’ve heard say “trans men and NB people matter just as much, but you don’t often hear about their validity” and I thank you for seeing us
@@fuckamericanidiot Actually, I feel like you're probably higher on the list of unpleasant creatures on social media than any enbies I've met via similar means. Much higher.
I was a little hesitant at first to watch an hour and a half about J.K. Rowling, but this is honestly some of your best work. I really like your theory on the validity of trans people. It's been interesting to see how philosophy has evolved over the years.
There's at least a couple of fanfics where Harry realizes she's trans, and I would love to see J.K. Rowling's reaction to that, considering that she's been relatively supportive of fanfiction (compared to other big authors, at least).
First they came for the celebrities
Defending Natalie is bigotry.
@@Titanicsubmarine Begone, vile man. Begone from me! I am untethered and my rage knows no bounds!
And I did not speak out, because I have no mouth, and I must scream
and yet I'm living for your Stevie Nicks realness. #yasQueen
"They do evil to whom evil is done." W.H. Auden
As someone who grew up in Kentucky, where bigotry is um... not hard to find, I love how she talks about bigotry not being as simple as hate or rage. If you're in the In Group (I'm a cis straight guy so I always am) bigots are often truly kind, generous people. It's so easy for folks to laugh off accusations of bigotry cuz it's like "What? Me? I get my ass up to go to church every Sunday morning so I can sit and listen to a guy preach about how important love is!"
Most of the vilest bigotry I've heard is often so clearly coming from a place of fear, and it always shocks me the lengths people will go to cling to feeling terrified.
Hey, just wanted to say I absolutely love your videos! And yes it definitely is a complicated topic. My grandparents are wonderful people, but I sometimes wonder how would they behave if I was queer. They're very religious and progressive in a way, but they have a tendency to be like "poor people it's not their fault if God made them that way, they should be accepted". As if it was the christian thing to do to have pity for those "poor souls"
My mom is very open minded and actually even a good ally but damn did it take a lot of years and educating herself to get there. Different times where this kind of information we have now wasn't as easily and readily available and then also growing up around a bunch of bigoted assholes does that to a person.
Even now she still isn't perfect but she tries and I have met people like you described too that were super friendly and warm until they found out that I'm non-binary and an atheist and about my very liberal views.
It's strange to see someone turn from kind to monster with a kind face in less than 5 seconds.
This, I don't think people realize that most bigots aren't slathering imbeciles who spout hateful remarks every hour on the hour. Most of them come off as very kind, very generous people and might even be invested in trying to make the world a better place... But only for those whom, like you said, are in the 'In Group'. Casual bigotry and subconscious bigotry are even more prevalent and insidious than outright bigotry. Because when the loud bigots start screeching their hateful rhetoric, it's the rest of the 'In Group' who silently support and or allow them the right to the pedestal.
It does not help that those in power have made it their mission to keep that casual bigotry alive through peripheral and subliminal messaging in our advertisements and media. For example whose pictures do you see in news reports and/or books that discuss crime? It's generally not gentrified, white-cis individuals but those of color. Growing up in the 90's-2000's I can certainly tell you that the rhetoric used in the news to differentiate a person of color who committed a crime was LEAGUES different from when a white man committed a similar offense.
Likewise in regards to trans issues, the media has made it a huge habit of conflating the false narrative of men dressing up as women and 'invading' women's spaces and made it seem like an epidemic that is constantly occurring. I've seen that very plotline countless times in televised crime dramas across many different nationalities and networks. It subtly reinforces the gender binary and suggests to people that trans folks are to be feared and a direct danger to them. Regardless of whether or not it's true. (It's not, if a malicious person wants to hurt you they're almost never gonna take the time to 'dress up' to do it.)
It's unfortunately why people like Rowling are so harmful to the trans community, because she HAS enough power to affect the media and drum up that fear amongst millions of her fans and beyond.
This is absolutely it!! The culture and community i grew up in is VERY anti-lgbt. I'm not out yet at all, but many of my friends ask me why I still feel anything for them and why I don't just say "fuck them, I don't care." Well, it's because the people who will disown me and vilify me for coming out are also the people who donate to charity regularly, who help strangers out on the street, who supported me through some of the worst points of my life, who always make a point of asking you how you're doing, if you need anything, to not hesitate to ask, and MEANING it. Does that mean they can't be bigoted? Does that mean they can't spend the weekends laughing with their friends about the "tr*nnies" or telling you to stop hanging out with your best friend because he seems "fruity?" No. Fuck no. People don't seem to understand that the same people who can spit on you for being a deviant can also talk you down from a ledge, sponsor your cancer treatment, hold your hair back when you're sick, hold you close while you sob, etc etc. Bigots can be absolutely fucking anyone. They don't have to walk around kicking puppies. They don't have to walk around with a pin on their lapel that reads "Hi! I disowned my granddaughter for being a f*ggot." They're just human like the rest of us, and if you're walking around looking for Westboro Church signs, you'll miss the people who pass you by with a grin on the streets, who hold the door for you, who pass bigoted words off with a "but that's just me." Bigotry is complicated, and if we want to get anywhere as a society, we can't afford to keep looking for neon signs while dogwhistles get dismissed as "just the wind" or "you're just hearing things."
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"I'm honouring God with my sex-change" are you TRYING to kill Girl Defined
As a Christian, this is theologically correct.
I'm hope Attis, Adonis, Tammuz, Xochipilli/Xochiquetzal, Inari, Baphomet, Joan of Arc, and the rest of the gang feel appropriately honored.
Why not? Honoring the "soul" of a person (as a reflection of God) is the meaning of Namaste, right? Otherwise, physical birth defects would be the reflection of God's image and plunge us into some dark Calvanist God-shaming of bodies and claiming that it was a reflection of the state of one's soul.
their history and articles are doing that
Hey, so am I, but unironically lol
hearing someone say "lesbophobia is different from homophobia" made me feel so valid and i really wasn't expecting that from this video
Kinda obvious when you think about it in retrospect. Traditional gender roles for men and women are already so different from each other, so it's no surprise that the hate for homosexuality is aimed at different aspects for different genders.
@@Moonhermit- totally true, I just always seem to find myself arguing with gay men trying to explain how lesbians do in fact face a different (but related) type of homophobia. hearing someone blatantly say "these things are different" was so cathartic for me
@@Moonhermit- Yes, men are definitely more likely to be victims of violent homophobia than women.
When the first Harry Potter book came out, Ursula Le Guin commented that she thought it was fine, but the author came off a bit mean-spirited.
She saw it before any of us did. Such a brilliant woman.
I always thought she was a bit meansprited when reading the books as a child but no one else had pointed it out so I didn't quite know why I thought that. Later figured it out, it's because all the overweight or "ugly" characters were made fun of by the main character and sometimes his friends who are supposed to be role models for kids. Also whenever she wanted to portray a female character as ugly she described them as "mannish", take of that what you will.
The making fun of overweight people especially kinda got to me, I remember being as young as 5 years old thinking I was too fat even though for most of my life I've been pretty average sized. Definitely didn't help to read that as a 9 year old.
The trans echo chamber of doom
😮 Ursula Le Guin wrote one of my favourite books, the dispossessed
@@bluesuedeshoes801 Joanne Rowling is trans? I had no idea.
You will unexist yourself. @@bluesuedeshoes801
Buffalo Bill is a trender is by far the hottest take Natalie has had.
The neighbours probably called the cops after hearing me stand up and bellow at the screen during the 'pronouns are rohypnol' part. Being roofied is one of the most horrific violations imaginable, whereas the pure joy on my little brother's face when I asked how he'd feel if I started introducing him as 'he' and 'my brother' remains one of the most beautiful memories of my whole life. This is who she #StandsWith.
the best part about it is how they're willing to spit in the face of women who have ACTUALLY been roofied and drugged against their will.....just so they can step on them and use them as a pedestal to preach their hatred
My sister doesn't drink but will still go out with friends and more than once has she saved a friend from being drugged or was able to take them to the hospital when they were drugged at a club and kept the men away.
I have a question why you hypocrites radical leftists think gay marriage is okay but cousin marriage is NOT okay?? If a man loves his FEMALE cousin, it’s okay to marry her. Love is love
@@saudiarabianman4196 bruh, you ever heard of the Hapsburgs?
@@saudiarabianman4196 straw man of epic proportion.
WELL, I guess I'll have to research this
First
Please do!
hey you guys are great
Yes please!!
Oh please do!
Being amazed at how this amazing video also has Chinese subtitles, let me say:
The Chinese transliteration of Natalie, 娜塔莉, has 娜 which means graceful, elegant and delicate and 莉 which means sweet and pretty. All qualities that Natalie has ❤
what's the middle character then?
@@psychic_beth it means pagoda or tower, and is often used as transliteration of the "ta" sound when translating from other languages, e.g. Names, place names, etc.
Natalie is a man 😂
Awe, this is so cool and heart warming! Thank you for sharing that!
He’s a man
“I have friends who struggle with same sex attraction 😇” literally gave me war flashbacks to my Mormon upbringing
Same
Jimmy is great, Telltale talks about cult's and cult mid-set's including mormons. I love TRHPS as well. I called the opening the dancing lips as A kid :)
I assume you like it with that profile.
^^^^^^^^^ SAME
Saaaaammmeeee
"This is the most effort you're gonna get from me, this isn't Contrapoints."
-Lindsay Ellis
"I haven't researched this, who do you think I am? Lindsay Ellis?"
-Contrapoints
Mutual adoration 👏
WHAT IS THIS A CROSSOVER EPISODE?!?!
endless cycle of “go ask your other mom”
I love my two academic maternal figures
Wait, what video does LE say that in? :D
"but what if i'm a gryffindor trapped in a hufflepuff's body? what then joanne?" i mean, that's literally .... harry potter. he puts on the sorting hat and it's like "wow i can tell you're a slytherin" and he's like "gryffindor, actually".
and guess who has the final say in that decision?
and he turns out to be right in the end because he is a true gryffindor
Whoah
Weren't they all in the "wrong" house? Harry should have been a Slytherin, Ron a Hufflepuff, and Hermione a Ravenclaw?
@@ligernull Houses (at Hogwarts) are based on what you value, not necessarily what traits you have. This is why kids get to choose their house
...huh. I’m surprised so many people missed that.
"When you dehumanize the villains, you become unable to recognize the villain within"
I absolutely love this
"Hey, you know that part in _The Empire Strikes Back_ where Luke heads into a spooky cave and he sees Darth Vader, but then he kills Darth Vader, and he finds out that Darth Vader has his face because guess what, dickhead? You can't hate someone without carrying them within you! We hate most that which we cannot face within ourselves, dummy!"
-Thought Slime, "How the Far-Right Weaponizes Nostalgia"
@@LeBonkJordanAh yes, the two sides of the 30 year old balding manchild millenial's brain. One is for arguing with people on twitter for 10 hours a day and the other is for analyzing marvel power scaling.
that hit hard, been there. You get so caught up judging others you forget to judge yourself, or you just assume you're too much of a good person to be doing anything wrong. It's an easy trap to fall into.
That's why it bothers me so much when people just assume criminals and predators are just unsavable evil people ("they're not like us", "they're amoral psychopaths, incapable of empathy", "they're a different breed", etc...)
That may be true occasionally in some rare cases, but usually even serial killers are still people, and even most career criminals don't see themselves as evil. In my experience many of the most hateful and destructive people I've ever known often believe their actions are justified and/or moral. When folks assume evil doers are inherently different than themselves, what they're actually doing is reassuring themselves that they aren't capable of hurting others, or purposely blinding themselves to their own capacity for violence.
@1lovesoni Yes but are pedophiles still human?
I am constantly blown away by Natalie's ability both to extend empathy and hold people accountable without compromising either. It's something we could all benefit from these days, I think
This is what I was going to say. She did a wonderful job of both showing empathy and understanding, while also calling out and condemning bad behavior without compromising. Its something that's very difficult to do well.
@@sardonic3348 SJWs of all types should be taking notes. Showing empathy and compassion gets people to listen.
Yeah, it's something that I feel I could really learn from - there's actually a tonne of great insights, like the use of abstraction as a medium to synthesise theoretical problems that don't actually correspond to any real-world problems.
Nah. She rambles on philosophically without addressing real data. Comparisons of official MOJ statistics from March / April 2019 (most recent official count of transgender prisoners):
76 sex offenders out of 129 transwomen = 58.9%
125 sex offenders out of 3812 women in prison = 3.3% 13234 sex offenders out of 78781 men in prison = 16.8%
@@CharlieTalk Thank you, CharlieTalk, for giving her "youtubers can't read" joke an extra layer of comedy. Now finish your homework, there is clearly 5 pages left for you to read of that 6 page summary.
When you were talking about hypervigilance I remembered the comedian Richard Herring's bit about the the time his phone was snatched by a black teenager on a bike. Afterwards he became more wary and was alarmed when another black teeneager cycled past him some days later. His great anxiety was that the incident had turned him racist. Then he had a similar jumpy response when a white person cycled past him and his response was "thank god for that, I just hate cyclists!"
see, this happened to me. I got robbed by two black guys in a suv, and they snatched my phone and dragged me on the road. My biggest anxiety was similar to Richard Herring's in the fact that I actually accused a black guy on the sidewalk where I lost my phone again. It was the absolute worst racist thing I've ever done. While I know I have traumatic experience, it still doesn't give an excuse to look at a person of that race and expect the worse in them. My biggest take? I dunno, just put your phone in your backpack or sew deep pockets into your pants/skirts.
See also: One Minute Racist by Caveh Zahedi
@@Whambow Hey I just saw the film. That was a good recommendation. Thanks!
You're very welcome!
There is a king of the hill episode where hank's dog bites a black repair man and everyone accuses hank of being racist and passing it on to his dog but at the end its revealed that hank, and by extension his dog just hate repairmen
All roads lead back to the masterpiece that is "Cringe". Projection and perceived threats to one's own identity is often the driving force of this kind of obsession with other's identities.
I have a question why you hypocrites radical leftists think gay marriage is okay but cousin marriage is NOT okay?? If a man loves his FEMALE cousin, it’s okay to marry her. Love is love
@@saudiarabianman4196 i mean this is just a troll, right? given the name and all the spamming across several threads
that aside, these two things are entirely unrelated and this troll is bad. quit it.
@@saudiarabianman4196 Cousin marriages far enough removed is not wrong. When the relation is too close, however, it is irresponsible to have children. No one is against cousins right to love each other, live with each other, even marry each other - the issue comes into play when they want to have children. That is literally the only reason incest is illegal. Cousins can fuck all they want, but having children massively increases the likelihood of incredibly averse effects, so it is seen as a not acceptable pairing. That said, the taboo is mainly cultural, as cousin marriage is legal in many places in the world, including the United States of America. So what are you having problem with understanding?
Really just wanted to say I wholeheartedly agree and I feel like I'm going to be saying "All roads lead back to the masterpiece that is Cringe" far too often
@@Barely_Edited
Just report them.
I wasn't out when this video first released, and the stuff about bathrooms- about how trans girls will often compromise their actual safety to protect cis women's "feelings" of safety really sticks out to me.
After I came out- I had something I've since referred to as my "big trans night out". Me and a group of friends went out drinking with me presenting fem. I live in a conservative area, we have no gay bars or queer spaces- but there's this one bar that was always very welcoming to complete weirdos, people from alt scenes, etc- i had cross dressed there in the past.
At the start of the night I said I would continue using the men's toilets. I looked good, but I didn't perfectly pass- i had internalised so much of this transphobia, and didn't want to make other girls feel threatened or scared.
I was sexually assaulted several times in the men's bathroom- men grabbing at my ass and flat chest, trying to kick open the stall I was using, shouting and jeering at me- with the worst incident involving a man pinning me against the wall with his forearm, while trying to get his other hand up my dress far enough to go back down under my tights and into my underwear. My tights were pulled up past my navel, so I managed to throw him off before he could actually touch my genitals skin to skin, but he had managed to grab me through my clothes. I later discovered that he had actually seriously hurt me- I was aching for a few days, and without going into too much detail, I realised I was bleeding after sex.
People around me were on pretty high alert from the start of the night, trying to make sure I was safe and having fun, so upon following me out of the bathroom- The guy was almost instantly thrown out of the bar by door staff. But I was really shaken by what had happened.
So, 5 hours after declaring I was one of the good trannys! I'm not some cringe overeager gender activist! I would respect women's spaces until I passed perfectly and deserved to enter them!. I started using the womens toilets.
Because I didn't just *feel* threatened. I was almost raped.
And you know what? nobody cared. After all the rhetoric about the evil transes invading the sacred spaces of women. Real women in the real world? they welcomed me there.
On the one occasion some other girls clocked me as trans in there- I immediately started drunkenly apologizing- trying to explain what had happened earlier.
One of them just said "shh. It's okay. You are one of us."
They didn't care. Because I'm a girl. I really am.
I’m so sorry about what happened to you.
I’m so glad to hear you had people around you sticking up for you, who helped you recognise that you deserve the same safety and comfort as your friends 🏳️⚧️❤️
That shit is so horrifying. I wish you didn't have to go through that. But I'm happy that that other girl was there to tell you you're welcome. That just sounds so traumatizing, I hope you're ok and staying safe 💜💜
Solidarity and strength to you
Terfs will claim till the end of the world that they're protecting women from assault and rape, while in practice they have zero care for anyone's safety but themselves. I'm glad you told your story, and I'm so happy for you for being your true self. I hope you only have good experiences from now on, though do know that if someone does get mad about you wanting to take a leak, it's on them and not on you.
I am horrified and so sorry to hear that you experienced this. There are some unbelievably cruel people in the world and no one deserves to have to go through this. I desperately wish that humans could just respects other humans not because of who or what they are but simply because they are human. Your stength and bravery to be who you truely are will always provail! Trans rights are human rights ✊❤❤❤
"Understanding bigots is the best defense against becoming one yourself"
I love coming to this channel. Thank you thank you thank you Natalie.
@Bia L But also where that irrationality can come from.
Yes exactly that! Humans aren't rational by nature, even if we tend to see ourselves as such. Understanding where bigotry stems from is the best way to avoid and escape from it.
@@wizzardman Completely agree.
I personally think it also helps to identify bigots in your life, a lot of people have this evil Disney caricature pure evil type of vision of whom a bigot is, and when they see they can actually be more complex people, that you might even have looked up to, they have a hard time accepting they are that.
Yes, this channel is awesome. I really wish it were easier to get people less explicitly invested in the types of topics covered here to watch such amazing, in-depth content in spite of the length of the videos, because I know so many people could be greatly bettered by doing so with an open mind.
I really, really appreciate that you never once shied away from the fact that the stuff JK has said is inexcusable, but also treated her like a human being at the same time. That is so important and relevant.
Hi, im ab out half way done with this video and uhh im crying a bit. I'm a trans man, and I've honestly never heard anyone defend or talk about the issues of trans men like they were so important. especially not someone with a platform. Especially calling out the fact that our issues aren't spoken about and that that's a problem. And then you go and grab at the heart of the transphobia i've experienced, and you've voiced it, and i feel less like i'm insane for throwing myself at the wall and screaming that something is wrong here and we are suffering. I dont really know what to say. Thank you.
I just want to say I'm hearing you, Jaymes.
You have a lot of allies and supporters 🤝🤝🤝
@@incredibleWatty SAME!!! I was like, oh fuck, someone actually is paying attention to this shit outside our tiny microcosm of trans male experience?? What?? I was floored that a trans woman with this kind of platform actually gave enough of a shit to hold space for us, I had no idea that I was yearning for this kind of public recognition since so little of public trans discourse even acknowledges trans men and recognizes our struggles.
I hear you friend. I don't know that I can help, but at least I can hear.
❤❤❤
you gotta read the full deposition if you haven't. it's so good. the judge did an incredible job of walking the line between freedom of belief and expression in different groups, and ended it by perfectly navigating how destroying someone's dignity because of your beliefs isn't democratic and doesn't bode well for a business.
maya was fired with good reason. she was mocking a bank director for months while working at a non-profit. like, holy fuck.
She wasn't even fired; the company she worked for declined to renew her contract when it expired.
My melted brain: femdom... of belief?? wait
@@alexandrapedersen829so she was still ‘let go’. They just didn’t have a meeting with her to specifically say “you’re fired”. But she was obviously fired. You don’t have to say those exact two words to convey the same meaning
@@Overseer2579 If your contract runs out, then you are no longer an employee, so no, she could not be fired, she just wasn't employed by them again.
@@rissaarei5336 still doesn’t negate that it was with good reason
My fourteen year old daughter got me to watch this and am very glad I did. Was very enlightening and challenged some poorly thought ideas I had.. Thank you ... Also, Dark and Stormy’s are delicious.. Thank you for that enlightenment as well ... Cheers
Very wholesome!
Is this for real? wish it were anyone in my family.
Wtf. My mom acts like I'm telling her to sacrifice her soul to satan just to read a simple article on lgbt topics. Good on you, though. Wish more parents were that open minded
thanks from all of us here john
"Came for the education, stayed for the recipes!"
I've been told "the men's room is over there," so many times, I can't keep count. You're 100% right, it's about feminity, not chromosomes because I'm cis but butch.
Literally no one actually gives a shit about chromosomes, it's just transphobes trying to use "basic biology", but by "chromosomes" they just mean penis and vagina.
Nobody used chromosomes to determine gender until trans people started getting rights.
I don’t think most transphobes could even define a chromosome. I don’t think most even knew what one was before.
@@Jekyllstein_Gray are you joking? Literally the basics is having chromosomes. The reason we are even male and female is chromosomes so yes we always used chromosomes. Even for fetuses
@@darkbirb6345 no they mean as an argument..
The issue with "Joannes" is that they are upset they were never named "Jolene" and so they live their lives in fear and hatred of everything Dolly Parton stands for.
💯
Dolly Parton ideology is superior
@@EvangelinaGrey facts
Song is so fire
Listen, I wasn't named Joanne. I wasn't named anything close to it.
But god damn do I wish I was named Jolene
It might be a hot take but I disagree with Nathalie at 34:15...
I wouldn't say she redistributed the rose petals, she rather increased the entropy of the bath by spreading the rose petals (rose petals representing energy, obviously) going from a heterogeneous distribution to an homogeneous one, where in the end she won't be able to extract any work from those petals anymore, forcing me to not do any work and just binge watch her videos.
this could be a paper, write it down
Lindsay Ellis: "I'm not contrapoints, this is as much effort as you're gonna get from me"
Contra: "Who do you think I am, Lindsay Ellis?"
My OTP ♥️♥️
dear gods. imagine the power of a Lindsay researched, Contra-produced uh... production. The world is not ready.
YT "friends" being actual friends, you love to see it
@@lovelysan Not to diminish Lindsays researching skills, but Natalie already did a lot of research. I feel that was the biggest work she did for the video.
I‘d rather wonder how Lindsay could work on a different aspect of the topic or go into one more deep.
Its like having lesbian parents and each time you ask for something they tell you "Go ask your mom"
If terf is a slur then why haven’t I heard it in a Xbox party
If it's not a category for COD Slur Speedrunning, it ain't a slur Jack
This is the BEST way to discover if it is a slur.
Because they’re too busy calling everyone fake and gay.
Omfg as a cod player this made me fucking die of laughter. So true.
brilliant
“Hugely sympathetic” dumbledore asked calmly
That's pure genius
@Dark Side’s Shadow Well, youtube age restricting a video isn't censorship at all. So, if she complains about her video getting age restricted, she isn't complaining about free speech or censorship, she's just complaining that youtube age restricted it.
@Dark Side’s Shadow Wow, you are really strawmanning her. She is not trying to ban Rowling from voicing her opinions, she is just saying that those opinions are wrong. Have you heard her telling Rowling to shut even 1 time in this video? Criticism is not the same as cancelling or banning. In fact, she has been a target of cancelling and opposes it even if it is done on people she doesn't like. She has also been pretty sympathetic to Rowling and has not attacked her even one time in this video, she has just debunked Rowling's harmful opinions. But I guess you came from that moron Tim Pool's video and didn't even watch this. I would advice you to watch something before commenting about it.
@Dark Side’s Shadow what a fucking strawman. did you even watch the video?
@@SD-zz4ov Of course they didn't. Tim Pool made a video about Natalie and he lied about how Natalie was trying to cancel Rowling for her opinions and also complaining about how youtube age-restricted her video. Her complaining about her video getting age-restricted is true but her cancelling Rowling isn't. But of course his fans ate it up and brigaded this video without even watching it. You can see Tim's fans' comments from 1-2 weeks ago.
"There are two things she can't stand: bigotry and the transsexuals!" is an extremely iconic line
It's an Austin Powers reference, if you're not familiar. In Goldmember, Michael Caine's character says it about "the Dutch."
@@themongoosedog There are only two things I can't stand in this world: People who are intolerant of other people's cultures, and the Dutch.
No shade to you or anyone else and simply for the sake of spreading knowledge, this is actually an extremely old joke, probably from at least the middle of the last century.
The joke is way older, in fact. I saw it first in a Bloom County strip from the 80’s and I’m sure they stole it from someone else too.
It’s a great one though. May every generation keep it going.
That's just another way of saying
"I'm not a bigot, but I can't stand transsexuals! 😡"
I remember the “Bathroom wars” being a thing focused on cis homosexuals when I was a kid in the 80’s.
Also about lockers and showering in gyms. I always thought there was some element of lesbophobia in the "keep trans woman out of female bathrooms" discourse, since I heard the same things about lesbians in locker room. "I don't wanna change with her, she's a gross lesbian who will assault me!" shut the fuck up, Karen.
And anti-abortion talking points are exactly the same as anti-contraception talking points. I'm a little surprised they dont call it sOcIaLisM too.
also for arguments against desegregation - segregated bathrooms were very important to white ppl
@@morganday3471 Same tired script over and over again
@@morganday3471 note to self: bigots feel their most vulnerable while taking a crap.
Your videos are so ridiculously articulate, informative, and thought-provoking. Thank you so much! 💜
You wrote the comment I wanted to post
No matter how easily refuted some of her tweets and sentiments were, this is the response of empathy and information the Internet and JKR deserved. Thank you so much for taking the time and making the effort to actually dive into the points, engage with the subject, and foster peace. I hope you do not receive abuse for doing so but that’s probably naive. Cheers, you’re awesome and so is your St. Vodberry 🥂
With great power (or influence) comes great responsibility. If Rowling wants to be treated like just another person, like her actions don't cause harm on a massive scale, she needs to give up her power and influence. As long as she has global influence, she will rightfully be held to a higher standard than someone's bigoted drunken uncle. But if she's not willing to give up power, she needs to learn how to behave.
What thoughts were provoked exactly?
@@NotADood Where to begin? Different manifestations of bigotry; how trauma can have ugly and harmful manifestations, including bigotry, and the degree to which we should have compassion in these painful cases; Daniel Radcliffe as a mannequin; transphobic cultural tropes over the decades; the importance of not othering bigotry lest one ignore "the monster within"; the best things to put in a bath; problems with "cancelling"; why do people feel the need for cheesy orchestrations of Schubert songs; why do villains in movies like the Goldberg Variations; how are Anthony Hopkins and Jodie Foster so awesome; is Hannibal Lecter truscum - the list goes on, my dear.
“When you reduce bigotry to a caricature of pure hatred, you obscure that bigotry is a deeply human problem. You know sometimes people criticize me for ‘empathizing with bigots.’ But I believe that understanding bigots is the best defense against becoming one yourself. Because when you dehumanize the villains, you become unable to recognize the villain within.” -Natalie Wynn
Brilliant line.
Yeah, but saying gender is biological is actually not bigotry.
@@jasminehouston-burns1691 gender is a social construct lol, like this ship sailed so damn long ago, continuous denial of this fact makes you a bigot.
I don't know why you people are so damn obsessed with people's genitals that you gotta be guessing what are people's genitals whenever you see a person. That's the only justification that y'all "gender is biological" people give. Creep.
@@conancat No ship has sailed anywhere and the only people obsessed with genitals are the ones getting them cut up and cut off.
@@jasminehouston-burns1691 please actually watch the video you are commenting on. If you would listen to some trans people for a little you might actually understand what it means
@@jasminehouston-burns1691 I’m not interested in debating but if you’re are not willing to listen to the arguments presented here I dont know why you then expect anyone to listen to you either
The point about the “trans women are women” slogan and the idea of swapping it for “trans liberation now” is so on the money.
I feel this way about "born this way." It reduces queer rights to something we deserve because we can't help it that we're not "normal," not as something that we deserve because "normality" shouldn't have anything to do with deserving rights. Straight people don't deserve rights just because they can't help but be "normal," so it's ridiculous to say we deserve rights even though we're not.
holy shit, i knew “terf is a slur” is a thing, but “being called racist is like calling a black person the n word to me” literally made me lose my mind
RACIST !
@@SilverMoon459 Hey! As a white cis-normative heteroid, I just want to call you out for using a word that has, for generations, been used a vile slur to oppress my people. Shame!
@@nesquik1640
Zoom.
@@nesquik1640 That scoldqueen who takes the joke comment seriously.
@@nesquik1640 Schrödinger's douchebag-that’s a good one; I had to look it up. For a joke comment that obvious? Well at least I thought it was. Such is state of the internet.
The 'Bathroom Problem' hit me hard. I'm a cisgender dark skinned Black woman with a tall athletic build. I've often been questioned, intimidated and outright refused entry to women's bathrooms. While my hair length may change- from shaved head to down-to-my-ass wig- I'm ALWAYS very femme and present all the traditionally female associated signifiers - long nails, make-up, big tits, dresses etc. And yet I am often 'accused' of 'just being a boy in a dress', or 'a tran*y or a drag queen. All of which is grouped as "Not a REAL Woman" It's so fucked up that gender is so heavily policed! I've been physically blocked from entering a woman's bathroom by a security guard because he didn't think I was a 'Real' woman. So obviously, I support trans women and trans men and enbies for the right to go pee. Long story short, I'm not trans or enbie but I understand the struggle of just being a human that has to pee sometimes. Trans rights are human rights. Civil rights are human rights. And btw I'm all about the Trans Liberation Now slogan.
Damn, that sucks. Who gets off on denying people entry to the bathroom? I'm sorry you've been gender policed while just trying to go about your business.
Didn't happen to me, but I had a weird bathroom situation at work. I was going in the bathroom, and a customer approached me to tell me there was "a man" in the bathroom, while pointing at a stall. The "man" was a cis gender woman with a deeper voice. (It was one of my coworkers). While she was going on about how we shouldn't let men in the bathroom, my trans gendered coworker came out of the other stall, washed her hands and walked out.
Like lady... you don't know who is trans and who is not, so why does that even matter to you?
@@stbananastein It's not just gender-policing. Mainstream culture in the US (assuming the OP is in the US) also has a long history of treating Black women as inherently and profoundly unattractive; and part of that narrative involved portraying them as "unfeminine". Depicting feminine-presenting Black women as "a man in a dress" or otherwise unattractively "masculine" is a common insult in much of the country; and can be seen in the (mostly) conservative attacks on women like Michelle Obama and Serena Williams. And it's not just the US; the racist trope is also distinctly present in most Anglosphere countries, like the UK and Europe. This goes well beyond transphobia, and into far older tropes rooted in white supremacism.
@@EphemeralTao thank you so much for elaborating on this. My post was already pretty long so I just described my physical appearance. And yes, I am in the USA.
@@EphemeralTao Oh yeah, absolute facts! I was just responding in particular to what OP discussed in her comment, but the added larger context is damned important. The issue goes waaaay beyond bathroom politics
"My body is a temple...currently under renovation."
people who whinge about bodies being an inviolable temple apparently never heard of the sistine chapel
Hardware update lol
I cant believe this is the first ContraPoints video ive ever seen. I hope they're all this good. I was big nerd in highschool like captain of the debate team , and the section about reframing the conversation to trans liberation got me so excited. That is such a good way to focus a conversation on what is actually important instead of getting distracted by the bullshit.
She kicks ass. Watch all the videos, especially the newer one about JKR
they're all phenomenal
They're all amazing, I'd say this one is more "middle of the road" which should tell you how good her best work is.
They’re all this good. Check out “the hunger”, that’s a personal favorite of mine
Someone needs to try it on Matt Walsh.
harry: * is assigned slytherin at parent-murder but knows he is a gryffindor *
sorting hat: "valid"
TRUE
Unfortunately, that could be misconstrued as JK's bias and favoritism of Gryffindor, and her constant distaste of Slytherin. :'(
@@abigailfowler1843 ALSO FUCKING TRUEEEEE
That's a great metaphor tbh
@@mxar2074 The books have almost no cohesive themes so it's easy to read almost any metaphor into them. I say this Not to lessen the strength or meaning of said metaphors to people but to give them full credit for creating them, no credit goes to the original author.
Thanks for talking about Jowling Kowling Rowling
Oh damn I always thought it stood for Jorts Khaki Rowling.
In case she ever retracts her statements, she can also be Just Kidding Rowling.
my two queens hi
I'M EARLY
I love your vids btw
"Understanding bigots is the best defense against becoming one yourself. Because when you dehumanize the villain you become unable to recognize the villain within." this.
Truly brilliant. Many people become what they fight against.
Bigotry definition according to Webster: Obstinate or intolerant devotion to one's own opinions and prejudices.
I think the proper word to describe Rowling is "Boldly Veracious about the sufferage and victimization of women". Seeming as though she only speaks about the predators... It seems rather odd to defend sick people who are opportunistic predators, and jump at the opportunity to invade women's spaces and all progress for the liberty of womankind.
All the voices of truth are silenced and ignored and "cancelled". Who are the real bigots? I wonder.
@@armin-senpai9194 "All the voices of truth" that is all subjective in a world of misinformation were a group of people have been marginalized by the patriarchy for centuries, the same patriarchy that has wanted to control females hates them just as much, Obviously you don't know any real trans individuals, didn't watch the video/ didn't want to understand, your minds are already made up, you already claim a victim narrative for all females.
So in your mind every trans girl/woman is a predator against your rights and trans men are your misguided sisters who wanted to play with trucks instead of dollys and dresses.
@@armin-senpai9194 Excuse me, what are you talking about.
@@maschaorsomething The same people who advocate for the destruction of women are the ones who are incapable of digesting a comment lol.
"What if I'm a Gryffindor trapped in a Hufflepuff's body?"
Then you're Neville Longbottom, obviously.
UNDERRATED
Great to see JKR including HtG representation in her books (RtG as well, in Hermione’s case) 🏳️⚧️✨
Glad I'm not the only one to think of that
@@raymond4218 don't forget GtS(Peter Pettigrew), HtS(Cursed Child Cedric Diggory, went full mazi after one loss), RtS(Quirrel), and StG(Snape).
No one tries to become a hufflepuff apparently...
Vomit.
Study whatever you please.
Call yourself whatever you like.
Perform any legal magic you're capable of.
Live your best life regardless of your parentage.
But force wizards out of their jobs for stating that magical ability is inheritable?
#IStandWithSalazar
This comment is amazing!
Was Salazar a blood purist? I thought the Founders were violent but not bigoted. Amazing analogy btw!
@@allyli1718 Yes, IIRC it was the whole reason they split up into different houses and he created the Chamber of Secrets.
@@allyli1718 That's why Salazar put a monster in the sewers of the castle so it could eat muggleborn children.
@@allyli1718 Salazar technically didn’t mention blood purity but claimed Muggle borns couldn’t be trusted with magic witch at the time witch burnings were happening in Europe so his fear wasn’t unfounded however his basilisk scheme certainly proves he wasn’t a sane dude so it’s no wonder his decedents turned into inbred monsters!
The talking point about changing the conversation from semantics to politics is brilliant.
That’s why she is queen
I also hear "trans rights are human rights" a lot, how abt that one?
I love discussing gender philosophy, but its important to keep it separate from the political discourse.
@@iridescentdemon I'd say almost as good.
A lot of people when they hear "trans rights" think of stuff like medical transition being covered by public healthcare, which I also support but might be a harder sell to somebody who hasn't yet realized that transpeople are in fact not sex demons.
"Trans liberation now" might honestly have them perk up and wonder what you mean.. and then you can also talk about how we need to be liberated from the stigma that we are all sex demons.
I hate when someone’s tryna argue semantics when I’m trying to be like “human rights”
Thinking about the scenes in Harry Potter where Ron, Harry, Hermione, and the ghost of a teenage girl were all able to be in the same bathroom together without this bathroom war debate coming up.
underrated comment
BOOOOOOM!
And the scene where said ghost got into the (either gender neutral or just for boys, I don't think the text specifies) prefects' bathroom and watched Harry bathe.
@@SomeoneBeginingWithI And the entire thing was played for laughs. Trans people using the right bathroom bad, ghosts creeping on teenaged boys good!
I have a question why you hypocrites radical leftists think gay marriage is okay but cousin marriage is NOT okay?? If a man loves his FEMALE cousin, it’s okay to marry her. Love is love
It’s sad that after 2 years this is still so current 😢 thanks for being smart, funny and explain it all perfectly.
"Casual misogynists" implies the existence of Ranked competitive misogynists
It's called the alt-right
The Rnc duhh
This is a really funny joke oml I wish I had a cookie or something to give you so I could steal the joke without feeling bad
Fathers
or Smart, Business and Cocktail misogynists
Let’s not forget the sorting hat nearly put Harry in Slytherin, but he-of his own autonomy-became a Gryffindor.
Harry, who by some assumedly unchangeable force of nature(?) should’ve been categorized as one thing but doesn’t connect or identify with that and so changes his circumstance to become (through physical presentation, social connection, etc.) something else.... and yet no one is stating that Harry is Actually a Slytherin in Gryffindor robes! Interesting how that happens 🤔
Harry Potter and the Autohousephile Complex
That's because he's really good at hiding his snake in his robe.
Please tell me you've sent this comment to JK!
Omg that’s such a good point
Nah he is a Gryfindor by nature. He just has a part of Voldemort soul inside him, that, is why the hat was confused in the beginning.
Natalie's nonchalant grip on her phone above all that water gives me anxiety...
iPhones are waterproof, thankfully
Not to mention the book. Though, considering the contents I suppose I could care less about the condition of the pages
They withstand 30 minutes at 6 feet deep or something like that
I was bugged and scared during that whole part because of the phone.
Most triggering part of the entire video
This vid is painfully relevant when you realize that the guy who put forward the anti-trans bills in oklahoma LITERALLY quoted jk rowling on the floor as he did so
Ad hominem detected. Opinion rejected.
@@LLewliet-pz6ve Facts hurt, huh?
@@LLewliet-pz6ve no opinion was stated. no ad hominem occured.
@@LLewliet-pz6ve UM AKTSCHUALLY...
Hi, I wanted to say thank you for making this video. My 14 year old daughter has been asking me to watch it with her for awhile, and we finally sat down together this week and watched it. I found it to be so very moving, thoughtful, intelligent, funny, and compassionate. It made me cry, in a good way. Also, I learned a lot about the trans experience that I did not know before, and I think it will help me be a better person. Thanks for all the work you put into this, and all your videos.
This is so wholesome. It's become an event to watch Natalie's videos with my parents and they are very informative 💖
but if JK Rowling is wrong on trans issues, why does Dave Chappelle support her? he even said he is team terf.
@@anthonylilpump1522 how does that even prove anything
This is so touching… glad to know all kinds of people are moved by her content!
not a lot of things make me produce random weird wholesome sounds :'d
(I don’t usually leave comments, I beg y’all to go easy on me)
I’m a trans man and started the medical part of my transition over quarantine just before Rowling wrote her essay. Being a lifelong fan of her work it hit me pretty hard, and I’ve been stewing in quarantine for months processing these feelings of betrayal. I was initially really scared to click this thumbnail, because so far responses to her words on all sides have been pretty dismissive of trans men, but you did a stellar job taking apart how sensitive this situation is. It really means a lot to me that you’ve put a magnifying glass over that aspect of this conversation and I wanted to say thanks
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Same. A lot of people assumed JK's "whats the word? wumbum?" Tweet was about trans women but it was about trans men. We're always overlooked
That sounds really rough, i hope it's all turning out well for you though. I don't know all the magical detail of a transition but just kind of assume that nobody needs the added stress of a long loved celebrity stirring up prejudice at the same time. Good luck with it all!
@@nellgwyn2723 Things are feeling better than they did a few months ago, I'm mostly glad we can talk about this stuff now. Thanks for the kind words!
the only bad thing about Contrapoints videos is when they are over and you realize it's gonna be so long until she's done with the next one.
I still vehemently remember that in 5th grade, I went to the bathroom and I was wearing boyish looking sneakers. Since I had feet bigger than most girls my age, that's all that would fit. One of the teachers entered after me, looked at my shoes from outside of the stall, and started shouting at me to get out. I rushed to get out and once she saw me face-to-face, all she mustered was a surprised 'oh!' when I got out. Not one apology. This experience always comes to my mind when I think of TERFs because they are the same women who claim hyper-femininity is a sexist aesthetic for transgender women to go after; meanwhile, they police and treat women who don't fit the demure standard like animals.
Also it's literally shoes lmao, like there are so many reasons that any adult aged person should immediately question before screaming at a child. Maybe you just like that design, or maybe you have an older brother, and you're poor so you just got his hand me downs, or maybe you wrecked your shoes and had to borrow a pair, or maybe you were running late and just grabbed the first pair on the rack before running out the door, either way no 5th grader is in the bathrooms creepin on people, so even if you were entirely a dude, like not even trans, a full cis dude, in the women's restroom, who tf cares, maybe all the stalls in the men's room were full and it was an emergency, or maybe you were distracted and went into the wrong one. Kids have done dumber things.
As a size 9.5 / 10 (US) shoe woman…. This hits deep. I’ve been made fun of for my feet my whole fricken life.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach Not to mention she was alone, clearly sitting on the toilet- you can tell from where a person’s shoes are and whether other shoes are in the same stall. The fact that clearly nothing untoward was happening, simple a toilet being used, means the adult woman KNEW she would be harassing a person currently sitting on a toilet. That would still be unacceptable even if it was a young boy. You can wait until they’re out of the bathroom and question them. Holy cow.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach No adult has a right to bust down a door when they know a child’s pants are down, regardless of the gender of the child. That is borderline sexual abuse.
@@kathleencove That too! It's obvious to anybody with even sub-brick intelligence, that they're not doing anything except using the restroom. Also first of all from the original comment, it seems like the teacher just yelled alot. But if they did, kick in the door, I'd say, it qualifies as full SA not just borderline, because presumably that adult _knew_ d*mn well that that there was a kid who was indisposed in there, and they barged in anyways. No adult should be accosting children in the bathroom at all regardless of intentions.
Then Natalie stretched her hand over the bathwater, redistributed the petals, and led us on the path towards a socialist utopia. The power she has :'(
Broey you’re great! Please talk about degrssi
Woah it's Broey deschanel
the infantilizing masculine/androgynous AFAB people thing hit hard for me. I'm not a confused poor little girl.
And autistic people. We get enough infantilisation as it is
As a suspected-autistic transmasc, the infantilization and phrases such as "you just dont know what you want" and "soft boi uwu" boils my fucking blood
@@Brynwyn123 yess!
"You're not less of a bigot because your bigotry has a tragic backstory. In fact, bigotry often has a tragic backstory." Omg, Natalie! ❤️
Natalie is projecting
@@danthelambboy how?
@@audriacostello6648 Natalie is a woman
@@audriacostello6648 still don't understand how "he's" a dude? What makes you think that?
@@mothh7600 a man is what natalie is.
As someone who only had a casual glance at JKRs controversia tweets and did not understand much about why people were so upset, this is one of my favourite videos you did because you laid it all out so well! I also showed it to a wonderful trans friend of mine who is not usually on youtube and was very happy to have such great representation on here.
"You're not less of a bigot because your bigotry has a tragic backstory" oof I felt that one
it's kinda tragic. many times the worst TERF's have actual been abused/raped by men and ended up hating everyone who has (or had) a penis. we should be understanding of their experience but never excuse toxic coping mechanisms that end up hurting some of the most oppressed social groups. just like many incels might have been treated like shit by a woman but their misogyny and bigotry should not be justified.
@@christrifinopoulos8639 it just boils down to "don't judge" but unfortunately we need judgement to guage the safety of certain situations and I don't see how to do both
Maybe "don't assume" is a better rule of thumb
Does this also tie back to the theory that bigots need to place themselves in a victimized role?
Oofy woofy big yikesy poopers
Christ, this Female Masculinity book is gosh darn eye opening to me. Need to read that, it seems. I'm a cis woman, but extremely masc looking, always have been, and ever since I was a toddler I've been mistaken as male. Even now in my 30s I get yelled at in public bathrooms, given dirty looks, and I've even been forcibly dragged out before, all because I've got a strong jaw and flat tits. I have huge anxieties about using public toilets because of it, and every dirty side glance I get smacks my self confidence down another peg. I don't *care* about being mistaken as male, but I just wanna piss in peace without having to argue about my body to total strangers. 'Womens' bathrooms are already ridiculously enforced by anyone who thinks they have the right to judge you on your appearance (aka basically everyone), JKR is completely blind to this, and ironically in her desperate blustering of claiming its for feminism, she's discounting a huge bunch of cis women too.
"J.K. Rowling is blind to this."
J.K. Rowling has not been forced to use a public restroom for over a decade thanks to her wealth. In this essay, I will propose that all wealthy individuals should only be allowed access to public restrooms to remind them of the daily struggles of the proletariat.
Is she though? Most terfs I've seen talking about it consider masc women and butches being harmed is a necessary evil.
@@Brynwyn123 thats so heartbreaking.
The intersection between butchphobia and transmisoginy is REAL. And terfs refuse to aknowledge it, because it reveals that they don't truly care about women, at all.
You’d definitely like Halberstam. They speak to what you’ve experienced in really compelling (though really academic) ways.
"You're not less of a bigot because your bigotry has a tragic backstory"
*Severus Snape has entered the chat*
She really created a character whose trauma justified forcing bigotry and abuse onto others and never reflected on why OMFG
*Thanos has become chat moderator*
@@lcardwell640 i think that's why he's her favorite character lmaooooo
Oh fuck no wonder the whole goddamn series ended with the narrative asking me to forgive that man
@@Rikku147 Harry didn't need a wand, Harry needed a sledge-o-matic
Its nice to rewatch this video for no particular reason whatsoever and theres no coincidental timing.
"Life is too short for metaphysics."
Ludwig Wittgenstein: Gay Icon
This was randomly suggested to me on my UA-cam feed. I don't know any trans people nor do I have frequent conversations about the subject matter. This video however provided me with a lot of valuable insight and some good discourse to understand the issues you face and their origin. This has broadened my sense of understanding of how people work, which as someone interested in psychology, human well-being and harmony, I find invaluable, so thank you.
Thanks for watching this even though you don't (yet) know any trans people. I appreciate people like you listening to trans folks talk about their experiences and for you wanting to learn about us from us. Thanks, and I hope you have a good day!
@@andenp8233 Thanks, same to you :) Natalie is just so interesting to listen to, and so concise, insightful and eloquent, that I just couldn't stop watching. And most of all, so empathetic even towards people who she criticizes. I wish there were more people like her in the world.
I'm glad you stuck around for the entire video despite not knowing any trans people personally. As your awareness increases, you may find that a lot of people become more comfortable with coming out to someone who is already aware and some friends or colleagues you already have may be trans.
I've recently been the "first" trans, nonbinary person people have known for several people in group therapy, including the therapist, and during a discussion on dating, people's mouths dropped when I said many of my potential suitors were more concerned with what is in my pants than knowing my last name, before even the briefest of introductions. Like before we've even said hello have the time.
Like I have no problem putting "hey, I am nonbinary and trans, so asking what my genitals are will send you to The Shadow Realm, never to return." And I would still have straight cis men asking me what my genitals look like. Its the first words of my bio. It makes me concerned that literacy levels have dropped so substantially /s. And thus, many men were sent to the unfun Shadow Realm and blocked. (There is also an alternate, much better, fun Shadow realm, which is my house, cause Shadow, my cat, is the real ruler here. No man has entered that Shadow Realm, but several enbies and women have. Shadow demands the pets of many.)
While there is a reason to disclose that info, mainly for safety, especially if an individual is stealth (aka passing as a cisgender person and not publically out as a trans person), personally I find this kind of statement weeds out people who care more about genitals than the person they belong to. I'm not into people who make a big deal about genitals, chasers, bigots, or the closed minded, so it gets rid of, imho, several unsavoury types of people I have no interest in dating.
She's got a lot of other good videos, not all of them are super serious. I'd recommend checking some out!
I experienced the same thing. Now I have a brother in law that used to be my sister in law haha, it’s crazy how life changes. Contrapoints video on masculinity was my entrance video
A teacher in high school taught me that “evil is the corruption of good,” not the opposite of good. They think they’re doing a good thing, when in reality they’re harming people
That's really smart, I'm going to try to remember that one
See also: the banality of evil.
Well, sometimes people do engage in entirely selfish acts with entirely selfish motives, but they often only acknowledge that after some serious introspection. I think a lot of the time, people work the other way around; they have a bad/selfish motive for doing bad/selfish things, and they look for some sort of justification to excuse it.
@@dragonslair951167 Not all selfish acts are evil so that's not a good analogy.
Some are just....selfish.
@@fuckamericanidiot Even if that was true, I don't see how that really undermines my analogy at all.
"Joanne, JOANNE, this is madness Joanne" i lose it everytime
“I’ve redistributed the petals” *Soviet national anthem plays*
Natalie you’re a goddamn comic genius.
Yeah I actually laughed out loud to that
I cackled at that. out loud.
Same, had to pause to look at the comments for anyone else who laughed at this
"It's a limitation of human empathy
that sometimes when we're trying to understand what someone else is feeling, the best we can do is to project our feelings onto them." Wonderful quote.
"The end goal of a movement is not validity, but rather equality."
Fracking Facts. Spot on.
sdrawkcabUK
Equality of control over each other, equality over how existential needs of individuals are addressed by each others... you know, the principles from which we can deduce that oppression and exploitation are bad.
@sdrawkcabUK In the context of political movement, when people say 'equality,' they often mean legal equality. So what they want is to be treated equally by the government and to not be discriminated against in the form of laws that that disproportionally make life harder for the groups of people that they belong to.
@@cezarcatalin1406 So not equality then. You described equity.
Equality would be people being treated the same and having equal rights. It's very simple.
You described the deeply bigoted commie version of equality - where people are forced to be divided by class, sex, politics and race. Whether they want to or not.
Great points, Rowling’s internalized sexism and concerns about sexual assault are definitely being directed at the wrong group of people. Why get pressed over pronouns when you can advocate for more protections for assault survivors? And sadly I’m sure that there are many trans people who can relate to Rowling’s experiences of PTSD, and yet she’s demonizing them.
the six love languages:
- word of affirmation
- quality time
- physical touch
- pouring milk over naked lifeless torso with headshot affixed to face
- acts of service
- receiving gifts
The best comment
im am hijacking this thread to ask what is the name of the song that played at 1:15:23
sorry in advance
@@vintheguy I've found songs by holding my headphones up to my phone and using shazam.
If you're playing the video on your phone shazam seems to pick it up as well
@@apocalyptosoldier5527
I know what shazam is
This was a weird and creepy comment... UNTILL I got to the part about the Daniel mannequin LOL
My grandmother literally told me she thought that people were "persuaded" to be gay. As if someone could persuade me to feel anxiety throughout my entire adolescence at the fear of being ostracized and kicked out of my Christian family. They'd have to be pretty persuasive.
The lack of empathy is astounding; they never seem to equate same sex attraction with their own perspective on attraction... Like Grandma, are you telling me you know you could be convinced to willingly and eagerly dive face-first into pussy after a few conversations and two weeks at summer camp?
Same with my mom. She idolizes this one pop star, she's a huge fan of him, and then when he came out as gay and even said he's known he's gay since he was young, she was like "I don't think he's actually gay, he's been pressured to be gay because he's so pretty"... I was just flabbergasted
@@MissPoplarLeaf is it ok if i ask who the pop star in question is?
@@HN-kr1nf My guess would be Ricky Martin.
I mean, they really make one hell of a case /s
"The end goal is not validity .. it's equality"
chef's kiss, Nat
@FutaRoon ...what?
Caitlyn Jenner won gold in men's sports - where's the inequality there?
@@NeoDiscoBall so because one person won one gold medal it suddenly means that all those people who are still oppressed today are treated equally, right?
What does equality mean?
@@sunny-he2yi lol are you stupid? I'm making fun of the fact that you think "inequality" is winning gold in MEN'S sports.
It's very disappointing that in the years since this video was uploaded, J.K. Rowling has doubled, tripled, and quadrupled down on her bigotry.
Even more disappointing that public opinion is starting to sway back in her direction. The Hogwarts Legacy fallout has done *so much damage*, and now she's successfully playing the victim on her personal podcast. It's gross to watch even liberal leftists starting to go, "Okay, hey now, let's not get TOO judgy here." It's just so frustrating.
@@Chaeley well there were 4chan posts about attacking/doxxing hogwarts legacy streamers to turn public opinion against the boycott
this game has had one of the most successful astroturfing campaigns meant to increase sales from reactionaries, and i am guessing there will be more games marketed specifically through the lenses of "the other side dont like it/own the libs" with how well it worked
That's what you get for trying to make a person change her views out of shame, hate, name calling and extreme moral judgment. Its like the worst way to challenge individuals to reevaluate their ideas with an open mind. When people feel attacked and judged for something they honestly believe what do expect to happen? They double down on those beliefs.
Yes, she’s become unrecognisable.
@@francisco8345 "that's what you get"?? dude, no. firstly, just to be clear, i do not think that people sending jkr abuse or death threats is in any way acceptable behavior. i agree with you on that. but no one has *made* jkr do anything. her bigoted beliefs and actions are her own. it also ignores the many, many, MANY trans people and allies who have tried to reach out to her peacefully, respectfully, and in good faith. sometimes bigoted people across the aisle just refuse to be reached, and that's not anyone's fault but theirs.
11:05
As a gay person myself I had a breakdown after this moment starting from a timestamp above. Because no one ever said such a thing to me personally, it's so revealing and meaningful to the point when I start to cry. To say "being gay is more than what you do in the bedroom" is to clearly understand how it is to be gay. It is especially dazzling to me on a context of living a whole life in a homophobic country...
Natalie, I have no choice but to stan :)
And sorry, but you're a gay icon, just because of you being compassionate.
I remember during a march for marriage equality in my country a woman said "I am more then just my sexuality ..it gets tiring taking about all the time"...👍
Look into CS Lewis and George MacDonald.
“You’re not less of a bigot just because your bigotry has a tragic backstory”
Content.
In fact you are probably a bigot because of that tragic backstory.
This has big “cool motive, still murder” energy
Yeah, your trauma is meaningless if it means you have boundaries I don’t like.
@@JoJoFishFish it's meaningful but it's not an excuse to dehumanize a whole category of people 🤷♀️
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My college aged son got me watching your videos a couple of years ago and I always learn something useful from you. I am a physician in a large hospital system, and as you know, healthcare isn’t always accesible or hospitable to trans people. You always give me great talking points to help educate my shall we say “non-woke” colleagues.
Thank you. 🌹
it makes me so happy there are people like you out there. Keep doing the good work
how are you holding up during COVID?
This video is depressingly more relevant in 2023. The recent NYT, pro Joanne op-ed, sadly reinforces the fact writers, liberals, & the “Paper of Record” need to understand the nature of bigotry and transphobia specifically. That many continue to ignore the dog whistles in these seemingly innocuous statements is infuriating. Thank you Natalie for such a brilliant video ✌️
NYT is well-known for being transphobic, just like the BBC.
26:36 "I agree that a fact cannot be bigoted,
but a fact on its own doesn't mean very much.
Usually when we discuss facts,
we're using those facts to tell a story,
and facts can be used to tell bigoted stories."
Bookmarking this point for future self-reference. Great stuff.
As a far right winger I understand this as well
@@promoteroflibertyfromgloba8225 Too bad you don't understand what "globalist" means lol
It's not great. It's blindingly obvious. The point is this - stories do not trump facts. Of course facts can be woven into all sorts of narratives - but those narratives, whether you agree with them or not, do not qualify as "true" just because they are woven together in a way that is "satisfying". Humans have always woven comforting narratives, but you don't think religions are true just because they are satisfying. The facts - or otherwise - that they contain are what we can reference between us with greater confidence than the story which has contained them.
"Statistics cannot lie, but liars use statistics."
If someone said that hospitals are killing people because 90% of death happens there, they aren't *technically* wrong, but they are misusing stats.
@@Lucy-cl2qk where did you get your degree in political science and history, chief?
but now i want a video of you talking about baths please
Seconded!!
(Also, Sophie is the best of cats & we hope she's getting all the pets and scritches. 🤗)
Bath videos are valid
There are some things about baths that I'm interested in learning, from a philosophical, political and historical perspective. Somebody really needs to address the BQ, someone based and bathpilled.
Yeah, can we get a second channel of shorter fluffier hangout videos with Natalie? :P
Yes!
My anxiety while watching Natalie hold her phone in the tub: 📈📈📉📈📈📈📉📈📉📈📈📈📈
Why is no one talking about this omg it hurt to watch her hold her phone so close to the water so casually
Isn’t the iPhone 12 waterproof, why are so many people so concerned?
@@loreenasings tpi there is no such thing as a water 'proof' phone yet, only water resistant. you can still potentially permanently damage the cameras, speakers, microphone and potentially even the battery depending on the kind of water exposure, rendering it unusable unless repaired at the shop
I want to see the iPhone 12 girgly test
I'm so glad I'm not alone. Seriously distressing watching that. Also with the book.
My issue with JK Rowling’s trauma as justification for abuse is that…… most men don’t dress as women as a means to hurt people. Because they don’t need to. In fact, I would argue many abusive men are probably transphobic
Another issue is that she has zero concern for the trauma of others. Only her own. She liked comments mocking Katy Montgomery talking about being abused. She publicly sided with Marilyn Manson and has endorsed child abusers Gregg Ellis and Kaeley Triller, with no regard for their victims.
I have so much respect for Natalie. The fact that she can stand being in a bathtub while clothed is incredible.
The fact that her iphone that costs four figures is constantly hovering milimeters above the surface of the water is definitive proof that Natalie is in fact completly free of human weaknesses.
@@DangerSquiggles also the fact that people still buy apple products even tho they knowingly used child labor is beyond my comprehension
@@deepstariaenigmatica2601 That's true. Do you know of any accessible alternatives?
I couldn’t stop getting anxiety about the phone LOL
@@DangerSquiggles modern iPhones fairly resistant to water.
Thats one of the reasons the aux port was removed, after all.
They'll survive immersion pretty often, if not most of the time now.
Yet here I am using plastic bag with phone in it if I take a bath. Haha
i personally resent the narrative that bigots are “haters” because in my experience, all the people that have been homophobic to me were friends, family, and supporters first.
Yes! I'm glad she talked about that.
AS AN AUTISTIC MAN, I can say that almost all the bigotry I experience is from seemingly well-meaning people who think I'm "sick."
Truth. Misguided yes, haters nope.
Hate can be a form of bigotry though.
@@santiagocandela354 Hater has hate as a root word, but they don't have the same meaning.
This is literally 1987. Just like Animal Crossing by George Orville
Our society has turned into Animal Collective by Orwell Scott Card 😰
can’t believe we’re stuck in 1984: a space oddity by orson welles 😫😫😫
Nothing has been alright since Bruce Springsteen, Madonna, way before Nirvana. There was u2 and Blondie and music still on MTV. Her two kids, in high school, they tell her that she’s uncool. She’s still preoccupied with 1985.
This made me laugh out loud. Bravo
😂😂
So many good points. A sentence that stands out for me is "[we] tend to forget that the end goal of a political movement is not 'validity', but _equality_ "
The clarity of this being about equality and not an intellectual debate on gender 👌👌
That’s an alt right hand symbol you know.
I’m just kidding. I support you.
@@achinthmurali5207 I panicked then!
@@achinthmurali5207 is it actually an alt right symbol?
@@emmarocheteau5788 It used to be, but they dropped it when we caught on. Funnily enough, Contrapoints also has a video on alt-right symbols and how they work. First video on the channel, I believe.
Natalie you have the long slender hands of a real biological pianist.
TRUUUU
She might be a trans guitarist... whose to say!?!
I mean, she went to Berklee go study piano...
Thank you.
And the broad shoulders and jaw of a real biological man
I feel cheated that no one has ever tried to trans me.
Same tbh its a lot of work for one person
*That’s why I’m here buddy*
It's not something we can do on demand, sorry. I don't even know when I'm doing it sometimes - like the other day I was in Lidl and this guy glanced at me and before I know it, he made a jump for pickles and crazily started running around asking where he can learn bass guitar..OTOH when I try and transgenderify others (such as by giving out free 'hand santizer' that totes isn't estrogel) to that neighbour (the one who wears a muumuu) it doesn't work at all.
The real trans-ing was the youtube comments you've made along the way
I feel cheated...never got sold drugs never got taken in by a gender non-conforming cabal...what am I not doing right?
Remember when everyone including her best friends riduculed Hermione for wanting to end (elf) slavery and then rowling started hint that Hermione was black all along.
So a black girl literally gets riduculed for being agaist slavery by her best friends.
How did we not see these problems earlier is beyond me.
Are you aware that adults are dressing in sexual attire and dancing sexually in front of little children at drag shows all over America?
We were children who didn't know any better, I went back and reread those books as an adult, and with the adult lens that shit really sticks out, but children, (especially in America) are barely even taught what slavery is, we don't teach history in a way that is accurate. For example, I went to school in California and in fourth grade they took us on a field trip to the California missions, and told us all about how the Christians came over and did all this good, teaching the "ignorant natives" how to read and write. Which is so f*cked looking back, cuz they brought children to a monument of religious violence and told us that the genocide committed there was a good and necessary thing. Literally might as well have brought us to Auschwitz and told us "the Nazis did a ton of good teaching the Jewish people to work hard." I vividly remember being told I'd grow up to be a worthless loser by one of the parents on that trip, cuz I said sh*t, and I honestly wish I had caught how silly that was in the moment.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach Learning about slavery is a fundamental part of learning about American history, and is taught in virtually every 8th grade history class in America. You are really telling on yourself and just how exceptionally racist your upbringing was when you say stuff like "Americans don't learn what slavery is growing up." My history textbook had pictures of a former slave whose entire back was covered in scars from getting whipped so much. I learned that slaves had to pick over 30 pounds of cotten PER DAY. My history textbook had pictures of starving concentration camp prisoners and ditches filled with bodies from World War 2. You had to have had an exceptionally racist and sheltered upbringing to not see and learn about these things around the time you hit puberty.
@@chaoticdetectivepeach lmfao I just got the part where you literally admit that you were raised by a bunch of insanely racist Californians who openly teach white supremacist historical revisionism. I bet you're the type of person who tut tuts about how much better you are than "those darn racist southerners." I spent my whole life in Louisiana and clearly learned more about slavery and colonialism in public school than you have in your entire life.
@@Abcdefg-tf7cu Chaotic Detective Peach isn't telling on themself. They are telling on their school system, the curriculum, and the teachers. They were a child and weren't responsible for the racism around them or the degree to which they were sheltered. You sound upset with them, and I can't figure out what you think they've done wrong here. Should they not be reporting that they and all their peers were furnished with a skewed and deeply inadequate education?
Also, sounds like the two of you were in 8th grade in different decades. You'd be surprised how different your education was from the generations that went through your school system before you. It's very possible Detective Peach got the standard degree of racism and shelteredness that the education system was serving up at the time.
Favorite quote: "When you reduce bigotry to a caricature of pure hatred, you obscure that bigotry is a deeply human problem."
Exactly this. Dehumanizing the other side isn't just an issue of "hurting people's feelings," it means you're ignoring *where those issues come from* and *how to effectively combat them.*
@@chrs-wltrs Yesss, I don't see the point in dehumanizing bad actors, they ARE human. And recognizing that human potential instead of ignoring it stops us from falling into the trap of 'us vs them' and urges us to recognize that, since we're human too, we're not immune to doing bad things or any "evilness".
This is an amazingly concise way of saying something that I have been struggling to express for years...
That's why no good movies or TV shows have been made in the last 4-5 years, and comedy has been killed stone dead.
Todd In The Shadows kinda made the same point reviewing Taylor's song.
The anxiety of Natalie’s phone in the bath is unmeasurable
I had to switch to another tab while the video played in the background because I COULDN'T STAND IT. I'm sorry, Mother.
I'm right there with you.
YES. And the book too, but geez, that phone tho.
The newer iPhones can survive a quick dip, I think.
Trying to focus on the video but my brain is just going “oh god oh god oh god oh god please lift your hand further from the water oh god oh god.”
"What I want to do in this video is take Joanne's pain seriously, and treat her like a complex human being, while also being critical of the things she said about 'the transgender question'."
Instant subscribe. You've perfectly articulated my personal feelings toward a lot of people/groups who've behaved similarly.
It's so sad. I don't believe Rowling didn't watch this back when. The fact that she doubled down, and Natalie had to make a sequel...
The way Natalie holds a phone and a book that close to bathwater is proof she has no fear
Or she just has an iPhone 11 like the boujee trash queen she is.
I'm more terrified of holding a book in a tub like that - even "the Infinite Jest of TERFery."
@Domi B I know! And it looks like she bought it new.
@Bella Jones I know...at first I thought that book was a digital clock (when it was just sitting on the side of the tub) and I was really worried.
@@felixthehuman 😂 Yup, I thought it was a red face alarm clock, thinking "ok, this bitch is officially crazy".
"A lot of trans people, *the literate ones* , have called this book transphobic" no one throws shade like this anymore except Nathalie we stan
Ahhhh yes gotta love the shade on blaire white
(The one who claimed she read that monstrosity of a book AND did an analysis of said book in... a few hours after it came out 😂)
@@mitsukikosan You mean the one who couldn't decide if she had the book express-shipped or if she read the e-book? xD
@@occupyvenus4868 I nearly screamed when I heard that contradiction, how anyone takes her seriously is beyond me
it's natalie
41:33 “It’s a limitation of human empathy that sometimes when we’re trying to understand what someone else is feeling, the best we can do is project our feelings onto them.”
Holy shit. It wasn’t until you said this that I truly understood how often I’ve done this in the past. Thank you so much Natalie. I’ll try to be a better person from now on.
We all do it to some extent. But, if you are aware of your thoughts/feelings, you can step back and ask yourself some questions. Why did I say that? What made me feel this way? Why did I react in such a way? What would have a more appropriate reaction? Self reflection can help us become better people. We will never perfect, but trying to always be better is the thing we should all do. Unfortunately, too many like Rowling and Maya have little to no self reflection going on. They just assume that their initial reaction to everything is the correct one!! And therefore blame some one else for their hate, fear, etc.
It’s a natural step in sympathising so I wouldn’t stop yourself from thinking that way. But follow up questions are allowed! You can always ask: “You’re telling me about X. I have experience of Y, is it like that?” And the person you’re conversing with can elaborate.
And they may say “Y is totally different - you’re never going to understand!”
This is fine: at least you both know now that you’re trying to listen.
@@justcomments Yeah, I agree with this. There are a lot of experiences that are somewhat similar, and often the easiest way to empathize does have to be based on your own experiences. However, we also have to acknowledge that our experiences are just that, our own experiences. Different people have different experience, and although there may be similarity there is always going to be difference, so we should listen to the person speaking when they say their experiences isn't the same.
This may sound insensitive, but: I find it lowkey grimy that Rowling chose to bring up her history with abuse for the first time ever in her great, big TERF essay. You know what I mean? Like she's been rich and famous for a decade or two at that point, she could have really been holding up a megaphone for domestic violence advocacy, but no .... she chose to use her own abuse as a cheap trump card and shield against criticism while targeting a vulnerable group that is ALSO at higher risk of domestic violence. I understand that's not ALL that's at play there and no one is owed access to that kind of personal information, but it feels underhanded to reveal it in the way that she did.
I agree. Nobody deserves DV and I am truly sorry that she went through that. At the same time, people who use their minority status or bad things that have happened to them as shields for their bigotry really make me mad.
It’s not Trans people’s fault that she was abused by her Cis Gender husband. It’s also bizarre that she goes out of her way to suck up to Male abusers and Misogynists like Marilyn Manson and Elon Musk, while scapegoating Trans people
@@Lilyanna298 Exactly!
You’re the first non-FTM/NB UA-camr who I’ve heard say “trans men and NB people matter just as much, but you don’t often hear about their validity” and I thank you for seeing us
My thoughts too, tbh.
You matter. You are valid and you are important. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
NB's have none. They also happen to be the most unpleasant creatures on social media.
@@fuckamericanidiot Actually, I feel like you're probably higher on the list of unpleasant creatures on social media than any enbies I've met via similar means. Much higher.
@@fuckamericanidiot classy reply. Really classy
I was a little hesitant at first to watch an hour and a half about J.K. Rowling, but this is honestly some of your best work. I really like your theory on the validity of trans people. It's been interesting to see how philosophy has evolved over the years.
....what?
Wait... do you mean the bit about arguing for equality not validity?
You're a wizard Harry, but don't go getting any other strange ideas about what you are, that could be dangerous Harry. You're a Harry, Harry.
Excellent. ^^
I'm a WHAT?
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There's at least a couple of fanfics where Harry realizes she's trans, and I would love to see J.K. Rowling's reaction to that, considering that she's been relatively supportive of fanfiction (compared to other big authors, at least).
What a whimsical misunderstanding!