I figured from your books list that you were doing some soul searching. I am glad you find your true self. My lessons for this year is a cliche but : I learned who my true friends are when I was at my lowest point.
Thanks for this video, Lia! Your words: "My body if for me" Made me stand up from my bed and to do abs exercise. And now it's clear I need my body be nice, lean and healthy only for me, cause i feel happy to see feel and exist in it this way! ❤❤❤
Like you, I am fascinated by people who are extreme minimalists and who seem to be able to be happy with very few items. However, even though it's a subject I'm very interested in, one thing I've learned this year is that this will never be me. I've gotten rid of a lot of things that I know I didn't want or need, and I still have some work to do, but I'll never be able to pare down to a point where I only own a few items, and that's ok. I've also learned that it's ok to allow yourself to not be perfect with minimalism. I have quite a few things from both my mother and grandmother, and although I've managed to get rid of some of the ones that don't mean as much to me, or pass some along to family members, I still have quite a few sentimental items from them that I just can't let go of, and I've decided that's ok too. I've talked to my children about it, and they understand that these are things that they're going to have to deal with when I'm gone, and they're ok with that. They never knew either my mother or my grandmother as they both passed away before my kids were born, so they won't have the sentimental attachment to these things. I've also made it very clear that I don't expect them to keep any of these things as I don't want to pass that burden on to them. I've managed to keep it to things that will fit into my mother's hope chest which I still have, and a couple of other items that I have out in my home. I'm trying to be very mindful of not bringing more items into my home and have done pretty well with not buying anything I don't need, and I consider that a win :).
Hello! Based on my experience and I am 50 years old, all of the things that matter to you now will not matter to you when you get older. Who you are, what you do, where you are going, existential questions, whether you feel more comfortable in this way or another. All things start to not matter much. They stop being useful and lose value compared to practicality, which becomes the first priority. Absolutely everything takes a backseat. I talk about this with people my age and older and we basically agree.😊
I’m happy for you 🥹 that you came out🎉 my son is gay and he still is my son no matter who he is or loves. He is a very loving person and I want him to be happy 😃 too. ❤
I think the switch is allowing your things to be purely functional. And I agree, you get weirdly more obsessed with it at the start of the minimalist journey because it's about growing your awareness to consuming intentionally, which requires more thought. But then again, all learning is unconscious, conscious effort, then back to unconscious once you're more comfortable with the new skill. So when it's just functional again is when you've fully incorporated the new minimalist "skill".
I always learn from your videos! Thank you for your honesty. For me people are people I try not to put them into slots in terms of sexuality or race or religion. Although I do have a bad attitude towards Christianity LOL. But I'm working on it. Anyway I really enjoy hearing about the lessons you learned this year because it challenges me to think about what I have learned this year.. I'm glad you're taking time off around the holidays. enjoy the season with those you love!
You always have such clarity in your thoughts and the way you express them! It's a real pleasure! We are continuously evolving and discovering ourselves... I like it very much when you say that you want to be in control of your body and aesthetics, not seeking approval of someone else ..I like your clean aesthetic very much, but I have to be honest that although I do, for example, whatever I want with my hair, deep inside, if I'm not in a good state of mind, I tend to feel that I might be left aside of, in my case, the men's appreciation... all bsht..i know... I also stopped wearing makeup a long time ago..also point out the topic about not needing things, very much agree with that.....take your time ...relax and keep being so authentic...Greetings from Buenos Aires!
I’m not surprised by your coming out as queer, seemed like you were heading in that direction…I’m very glad for you that you’ve discovered this new part of your identity and thanks for being brave and telling us all! Not easy. I really like your videos where you talk about decentering the male gaze, and how you are having your body be for you, I find it really helpful for my own thinking. I find it a difficult pivot to make!
Buddy, I'm proud of you! This is a great sign of growth! As long as you keep true to what your heart tells you, you are doing a great thing for yourself & that's all that matters :) Life changes & it's ok to accept that! & also w/ your business, you have to do what's right for you. Anyway, I'm cheering you on and wishing you the best :)
Some of my favourite people that I discovered in the last few years are Dr Gabor Mate and Dr Ramani. One is an expert on childhood trauma and addiction and the other is a clinical psychologist who specialises in narcissistic personality disorder. Dr Mate asserts that during childhood we suppress our authenticity in favour of attachment because sometimes by being our true selves, we risk losing the attachment/love of the parent. This can cause problems for us later in life because we keep repeating the suppression of our true selves in order to keep our relationships and this often leads to disease, like cancer. I discovered that I have spent most of my life suppressing my true self and my feelings in order to keep relationships both family and romantic and indeed I got cancer. I have learned a lot about myself by re-living my whole life and trying to figure out who I really am? I admire your courage in showing your authentic true self for the whole world to see. I have always admired you and now I just admire you more. I wish you and your loved ones happy holidays and I hope you will take some time out to relax. I just know that 2025 will be great for all of us. ❤🌹🌲
Hi Lia, thanks for being brave! I knew what you were going to say for lesson #3 before you said it. I'm glad that you're part of the rainbow community too! PS Did you see the LGBTQ book/movie recommendations that I posted on your previous video? 🌈
if you are traumatized by your partner coming out, you probably have some homophobia to unpack. don't put that on queer people, it is not fair or right.
I'm so happy for you!! I am a lover of all! I myself am pansexual🤍 I don't like the label, as I believe we should love everyone but sometimes that's all humans know is labels..
I figured from your books list that you were doing some soul searching. I am glad you find your true self. My lessons for this year is a cliche but : I learned who my true friends are when I was at my lowest point.
Thanks for this video, Lia! Your words: "My body if for me" Made me stand up from my bed and to do abs exercise. And now it's clear I need my body be nice, lean and healthy only for me, cause i feel happy to see feel and exist in it this way! ❤❤❤
Congrats on coming out! It’s so wonderful when you realize something feels so true. 💜✨
One of the best videos I've seen from u❤
Like you, I am fascinated by people who are extreme minimalists and who seem to be able to be happy with very few items. However, even though it's a subject I'm very interested in, one thing I've learned this year is that this will never be me. I've gotten rid of a lot of things that I know I didn't want or need, and I still have some work to do, but I'll never be able to pare down to a point where I only own a few items, and that's ok. I've also learned that it's ok to allow yourself to not be perfect with minimalism. I have quite a few things from both my mother and grandmother, and although I've managed to get rid of some of the ones that don't mean as much to me, or pass some along to family members, I still have quite a few sentimental items from them that I just can't let go of, and I've decided that's ok too. I've talked to my children about it, and they understand that these are things that they're going to have to deal with when I'm gone, and they're ok with that. They never knew either my mother or my grandmother as they both passed away before my kids were born, so they won't have the sentimental attachment to these things. I've also made it very clear that I don't expect them to keep any of these things as I don't want to pass that burden on to them. I've managed to keep it to things that will fit into my mother's hope chest which I still have, and a couple of other items that I have out in my home. I'm trying to be very mindful of not bringing more items into my home and have done pretty well with not buying anything I don't need, and I consider that a win :).
first time seeing this channel in my recommended, glad i clicked :) I hope your queer journey brings joy and comfort! queer joy is so important!
Leia thank you as ever. I need to give thought to my own year.
Hello! Based on my experience and I am 50 years old, all of the things that matter to you now will not matter to you when you get older. Who you are, what you do, where you are going, existential questions, whether you feel more comfortable in this way or another. All things start to not matter much. They stop being useful and lose value compared to practicality, which becomes the first priority. Absolutely everything takes a backseat. I talk about this with people my age and older and we basically agree.😊
Wow! Great insights 🤗 thanks for sharing
So glad you continue to share
I am so happy for you, you have the right to be who you are 🙂🎄🎄
I’m happy for you 🥹 that you came out🎉 my son is gay and he still is my son no matter who he is or loves. He is a very loving person and I want him to be happy 😃 too. ❤
I think the switch is allowing your things to be purely functional. And I agree, you get weirdly more obsessed with it at the start of the minimalist journey because it's about growing your awareness to consuming intentionally, which requires more thought. But then again, all learning is unconscious, conscious effort, then back to unconscious once you're more comfortable with the new skill. So when it's just functional again is when you've fully incorporated the new minimalist "skill".
I'm in a journey towards minimalism and mindful consumption.
I always learn from your videos! Thank you for your honesty. For me people are people I try not to put them into slots in terms of sexuality or race or religion. Although I do have a bad attitude towards Christianity LOL. But I'm working on it. Anyway I really enjoy hearing about the lessons you learned this year because it challenges me to think about what I have learned this year.. I'm glad you're taking time off around the holidays.
enjoy the season with those you love!
You always have such clarity in your thoughts and the way you express them! It's a real pleasure! We are continuously evolving and discovering ourselves... I like it very much when you say that you want to be in control of your body and aesthetics, not seeking approval of someone else ..I like your clean aesthetic very much, but I have to be honest that although I do, for example, whatever I want with my hair, deep inside, if I'm not in a good state of mind, I tend to feel that I might be left aside of, in my case, the men's appreciation... all bsht..i know... I also stopped wearing makeup a long time ago..also point out the topic about not needing things, very much agree with that.....take your time ...relax and keep being so authentic...Greetings from Buenos Aires!
I’m not surprised by your coming out as queer, seemed like you were heading in that direction…I’m very glad for you that you’ve discovered this new part of your identity and thanks for being brave and telling us all! Not easy. I really like your videos where you talk about decentering the male gaze, and how you are having your body be for you, I find it really helpful for my own thinking. I find it a difficult pivot to make!
I recently discovered, I can find joy in being dominant. I've been submissive for ten years, so this is a big learning experience for me :)
Buddy, I'm proud of you! This is a great sign of growth! As long as you keep true to what your heart tells you, you are doing a great thing for yourself & that's all that matters :) Life changes & it's ok to accept that! & also w/ your business, you have to do what's right for you. Anyway, I'm cheering you on and wishing you the best :)
Welcome to being out. I am so happy for you. My child is gay and this has expanded my world in wonderful ways.
Queer... bravo, that`s liberation and kind of obvious I can say it if I may.
Some of my favourite people that I discovered in the last few years are Dr Gabor Mate and Dr Ramani. One is an expert on childhood trauma and addiction and the other is a clinical psychologist who specialises in narcissistic personality disorder. Dr Mate asserts that during childhood we suppress our authenticity in favour of attachment because sometimes by being our true selves, we risk losing the attachment/love of the parent. This can cause problems for us later in life because we keep repeating the suppression of our true selves in order to keep our relationships and this often leads to disease, like cancer. I discovered that I have spent most of my life suppressing my true self and my feelings in order to keep relationships both family and romantic and indeed I got cancer. I have learned a lot about myself by re-living my whole life and trying to figure out who I really am? I admire your courage in showing your authentic true self for the whole world to see. I have always admired you and now I just admire you more. I wish you and your loved ones happy holidays and I hope you will take some time out to relax. I just know that 2025 will be great for all of us. ❤🌹🌲
I realised that I'm queer this year too! 2024, the year of the queers!
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I always appreciate your vids. Congrats on your queer realizations!
Hi Lia, thanks for being brave! I knew what you were going to say for lesson #3 before you said it. I'm glad that you're part of the rainbow community too! PS Did you see the LGBTQ book/movie recommendations that I posted on your previous video? 🌈
Thank you! I haven't because I never get notified about comment replies, but I'll go search for it! I think I remember which video it was 😊
Can I ask you about what do you mean by “I’m queer”? I really don’t understand this concept 😊
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As a straight spouse I hope your spouse knew this. If not, I hope you honor some major trauma he probably has.
if you are traumatized by your partner coming out, you probably have some homophobia to unpack. don't put that on queer people, it is not fair or right.
I'm so happy for you!! I am a lover of all! I myself am pansexual🤍
I don't like the label, as I believe we should love everyone but sometimes that's all humans know is labels..