Keri Hilson Explains Why She Broke Up With Long Term Boyfriend Via Text
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- The panel ladies talk whether or not it's okay to break up with someone over text message.
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I feel Keri. I’ve done it via text. There’s just nothing left to fix when you’ve argued about the same things over and over.
kirstie bulosan I agree with Mrs Hilson Nothing Wrong with it Done thru a text especially if you have tried talking it out and that person didn’t want to listen or still acting clueless and like they didn’t care to work out the problem issues,ijs.
Who’s here after the kd & serg interview
Glocap me my g 😂 kd is still a snake for not knowing abt her
me 😂
me 😅😆
I didn’t even know they was dating before the interview 😀
I do not care how we break up (text or face to face)...when it's over it's over...just let me know so I can go about my business...and likewise!
Gemini Love exactly!!
Right
Same here
The only time I can't get closure is when someone up and disappears. If u text me then fine atleast I know.
@@dijauneaiymuan9834 your beautiful so you probably don't have that problem
keri hilson is soo pretty!
You are beautiful TOO 😊
Was about to say the same, ur soo geourgous!😍 mashaAllah
She’s drop dead gorgeous and she looks happy!
@@shhhshhh1071 bless ur heart!
@@salmalaks1996 mashallah thank u all praises to allah
Steve stop saying men don't do closure because plenty of them become stalker's after you have ended the relationship.
Hey Y'all All this could be avoided if y'all obey ya specific function what u was created for in the first place
Hey Y'all Which would, actually, further validate Steve's point that men don't do closure because stalking is exactly opposite of closure. Please do NOT help him spread antiquated generalizations. Rolls eyes... sigh... Many men do closure, Steve. Please note it's the 21st century now.
Hey Y'all exactly
Yeah like women don't
@Hey U revealin about yoself, sumn dark behavior, if u abandon some1, leave out the blue, that forces them 2 wonder it's a control tactic, if u got stalked u caused it don't play victim
Keri hilson is so beautiful.
Why does she not sing anymore
Yes she is. But she gives off a bitchy arrogant vibe.
I agree with Keri. I dealt with someone who was extremely childish. I was often interrupted, questions were deflected, or childish behavior was acted out when I brought up concerns. I broke up via text in order to avoid all the bull.
I accidentally on purpose broke up via email...🤷🏾♀️
Shaterica Jenkins 🤣🤣🤣 yassss I love a good ole accident on purpose situation those are the best...right up there with sorry not sorry
Shaterica Jenkins oh you dirty 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Those wigs!!!! Why????????
Mari lyne I mean literally that wig is taking up the whole forehead and that darn drag queen contouring I can't stand with my sisters do that they're so beautiful without that these women are particularly oh beautiful without that
Queen JKInc. Bruh! Those wigs definitely not suited for her face/head. She keeps wearing them though lol
Keri is natural
not keri's wig, the other lady. being natural is not an excuse for horrible wigs lol
She wears wigs probably b/c the heat used on her hair, white or black, break the hair.
I agree with the woman in the pink. It costs you nothing to say tell the person face to face.
lilian makori ...It causes you to own your decision and deal with the consequences face to face .
However , nowadays I guess most are cool with taking the cowardly route...
😐😐😐
I disagree.....as far as the cost? It depends on who you ask...
lilian makori exactly
lilian makori exactly...👍👍
lilian makori Steve is right women will not let go, they have to have to last word and we aint up for that, it's not being a coward, look it's over you aint got to go my house or meet me in the park men are far less emotional
Sometimes it's better to break up via text I've done it because I knew there was going to be a long argument had I done it face to face because it was in his character. He came to my house afterward and busted my windows out luckily my neighbors had my back, that could have been my head 😒 JS & he had never been violent towards me before this
OshiaBLACKirish wow. I hope your okay now❤ men can be so horrible and violent when they dont get their way or when youre no longer on good terms with them. Thank God your neighbours were around.
Tianna Miller thank you hun yes we no longer speak that was definitely the end for me he kept reaching out but I've moved on to a great man & very happy now
Wolf in sheeps clothing Im happy that you were not harmed and you are in a better relationship now
Breaking up in person prevents alot of things. It actually brings about closure. Hope the window is ok. You too
Lol. Even if that's true, you HAD to do something wrong as well. Nobody is innocent
Naw if you do me dirty you don't get the privilege of an in person break up. You get a text. And I'm a woman. I don't need or care about closure.
I'd rather talk to them in person. You may not need closure, but let's not be selfish here.
Jireh A. It's self preservation. It's done AFTER they do me wrong or literally won't pick up the phone or respond for me to talk to them.
chris mit
I could understand if they don't answer the phone. Shoot... My ex did me wrong, but I had to see him in person, to get answers. It worked
Jireh A. I feel it. I just never needed closure. My exes actions gave me all the answers I needed.
chris mit
I feel you... I really do. I'm just glad I didn't end up like his baby mama. She has 2 kids...oh well
who are these stone age men Steve talks about? "Men don't do closure" wth!
Steve be pandering like Derrick Jaxn bruh. LOL
@@ojames1983 EXACTLY
UA-cam videos can teach you how to apply a lace front wig. Ole girl on the left ain't watched not one
Romelda Maynard that lace front is literally on her whole forehead terrible
😂😂😂😂
Romelda Maynard 😂😂😂😂
Romelda Maynard 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Romelda Maynard i think its a reg wig pulled up to her eyebrows
If you are in a long distance relationship then you have no choice but to break up with them with them either on the phone or via text
Princess Tatyanna
Why?
Jireh A. Because usually if it’s a long distance relationship no one has time or the money to fly out just to break up with someone
Mr R
FaceTime...hello? That's what it's for😂😂
Princess Tatyanna Do whatever you want. Itll only be done back to you. eventually. karma.
The young lady on the right is exceptionally beautiful and in her preppy modest outfit is the picture of elegance.
that young lady is famous pop singer Keri Hilson😂 and yes, she is one of the most beautiful women in the world
I didn't know her, merci Rosa :)
ringolo
Singer/songwriter Kerri Hilson of Atl ga
+ringolo je vous en prie!
ringolo that's Keri Gilson and she is far more beautiful without the wig. She has green eyes too.
Keri’s stunning like always❗️♥️
Yes she pretty
Serge Ibaka got dumped via text 😂😂😂
TrinMoze VEVO dang 😂😂😂
He’s a millionaire he’s winning
if you read the title, it says it was ''long term boyfriend'.. so, i bet he wasn't the guy referred to.
@@roxercita they were 3 years together
@@M.Đ-z4u she was with another boy before ibaka. That was the longest relationship, not serge
I disagree with Steve on men needing closure though. Lack of closure translates into every other relationship we engage in after that. The closure I've had helped me to NEVER repeat mistakes later. That's just me but change my mind
spoken like a grown & mature man. why I never meet your kind in real life? smh
Why thank you! Sadly because of because of hyper-masculinity, men front like they don't need closure, so any of us who are open about it are hard to find.
OR I just thought of this, often men say they don't need closure because they weren't emotionally engaged in the first place!
+Julian Grant your 1st reply : *Ameeennn* your second reply : *mic drop* sighhh honestly, I'v e come at peace with the fact that I may never find a genuine mature man to grow old with but men like you are worth of praise. You will make a woman happy one day. keep up the good work!
Julian Grant
That demonstrates maturity on your part. I think he may be speaking about men who lack YOUR levelnof maturity
I agree with keri, times are different. You can break up with someone via text if it's been obvious you've been having issues and arguments and your just done with the mess and drama.
Closure for me = reflection. How do you learn from anything without having reflection? Hearing from your partner how they felt about the relationship can teach you a lot about things you might’ve looked past and it can reach you what to avoid in your next relationship.
You can tell how much respect someone has for you from the way they break up with you. Don’t waste your time trying to find out “why”.
Thank you!!! I got dumped over text message, he could have respected our relationship the bare minimum man up about it and break up with me irl
I broke up with my ex by text ...I’m with Keri when you are having multiple conversations about the potential of it... I’m not going to wait around for you find time out of your schedule to stop avoiding me to tell you I’m done. I’m done
Texting is the best be it positive or negative because it's a great medium.
My mom taught me that I don't owe anyone anything. If you cut it off, they won't have the opportunity to manipulate me anymore.
If most women had texted they would be alive today...some men can't take rejection and have killed women who try to leave them....ain't nothing wrong with texting....
Keshia Jaguar Im pretty sure they psychopaths you're talking about are the kind that won't stop because of a text
Keshia Jaguar true, but same could happen via text, that same dude coming to get you because its rude or he think he can change your mind
Goes both ways
Keshia Jaguar No they kill you people because you cheat on them. Theres a difference.
In homes girls aren't raised on morals and codes like boys are yal don't understand real life, if u abandon some1 or leave out the blue, thats hoe behavior, u are the CAUSE of what happens next
I'm with Keri...IF we have had previous conversations/or arguments leading up to us parting ways, then there's nothing else that needs to be discussed. I've texted a guy after just a 2nd date to let him know that the connection just isn't fully there and he flipped tf out as if we'd been dating for years..lol. Now imagine if I had told him via phone?? It would have been a 1hr argument back and forth.
time is the most valuable thing on earth. and people will waste your time period, breaking up with long term via text?? damn
AS R thats understandable but like the lady in the pink said you can at least allow the dignity of me hearing it verbally. with men we more so we value our respect. i don't need to hear a long saab story about why, just give me the respect of just telling me and not by text especially if years of my precious time and resources have been invested in you.
DJ APOCALYPTIC
I agree.
Who did her wig????WHYYYYYYYY BOO
So true Steve. I had to learn that. Sometimes you just have to accept it is what it was and move on.
Depends on the person.
If your dealing with a lying psychopath. GHOST THEM! Stop answering calls, stop taking to them. If they become aggressive, text them “stop calling and texting me” (for legal reasons) if they continue, take your phone and evidence of harassment to the police.
She’s A Savage
Who dates a psycho in the first place...
Jireh A. Huh? 🧐 A lot of people get into relationships/marriages with people who are sociopaths/psychopathic without knowing.
They never show themselves at first, and many books have been written about this. Read “the psychopath next door” for more insight.
A lot of people don’t understand APD (anti social personality disorders) so people tend to be judgmental and think it’s something you can SEE on a person. Usually, you have to experience these ppl over time, before you know what you’re dealing with. Once you do...
RUN! 🏃♀️ 🏃
I can understand that if you both know it has been going down that road, you would have that final conversation via text. However it is more socially acceptable to do it face to face. I personally don't need closure. That's something you build on by yourself.
u are probably the only woman who doesn't need closure after a breakup.lol And I applaud you for it tho
Adia Sinead me too . I dont need closure
Team Hilson. Same exact thing. I am not going to keep going in circles. Repeating the same thing.
I’ve had a girl tell me over a text that she didn’t want to date me again. I was like cool, and I kept it moving. Man sometimes that’s the closure you get, no point in asking “what did I do wrong?” Chances are you know what you did.
I'd rather face my problems in person, than run away through text. Everybody deserves answers in person. You can't hug through text. You can't cry through text, either. Alot of people spend more time in the bedroom, but wouldn't take time to break up face to face.
But "etiqWette" though, Mr. Harvey? No, Sir! Not here for it. No.
Loved what Steve said tbh (the first bit) 🤣🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
These are REAL conversations. Truth is if you LOVE yourself first, it ain’t going to be destructive as when you don’t and you love the other person more. Pinning over them 😭
Walk away from anyone who doesn’t respect you first OVER LOVE!
Love is Just a 4 letter word, let them show you with their actions.
It’s always the man fault 🤦🏾♂️ you have keri who just said she did it but it’s ok then it flip back on the man .. we gotta keep the same energy!!! For both sides.
I believe breaking up over text is cowardly. I would never do it. I've had it done to me and it was hurtful. There is no honor and respect in doing that and a person runs away from facing the other person when they do that.
NefertitiindaHouse11 ...
Exactly
And excepatable form of child like behavior....
NefertitiindaHouse11 true
It even leaves questions unanswered. Breaking up in person is more responsible.
Jireh A. The person breaking up with you owes you nothing
David Simmons
They owe an explanation. Nobody, especially a good person, deserves to be dumped without answers. If anything, those answers could shed light how one can improve, so they don't get dumped again. It's only fair to tell someone what they do wrong, so they can change.
Sometimes the prize is broke though!!
Jay Dontknowbetter emotion damages good sound about right.
I don't think you're any less man or woman breaking up via text. I think today's technology has given us more options when interacting with people. The biggest problem isn't how or the way you communicate your break up. The biggest problem is the fact that some people just want to have the last word, especially if ..... "It's Over" isn't the dialogue they want to hear.
DeAndre Baker
Back in the day, there was no texting. People faced the music
Jireh A. True, but back in the day doesn't exist anymore. You just gotta get with modern times!
DeAndre Baker
I refuse 😢😭
Today's technology is making people lazy. Ok...I'll FaceTime for a break up😂
Jireh A. Youve hit the nail dead on the head. Lazy is the world we live in!
DeAndre Baker
I saw a new Audi with hand motion features. This dude waved his hand, and the AC came on💀💀 I'm like... How many miles to the gallon does it have though?? I need more than 40 mpg...
Keri is so beautiful 😍
When two healthy minded adults ate in a relationship, break up via text, it’s just disrespectful. A definite exception would be If there is crazy/violence on one side or the other, then a text is safe way to go. Some people are just cowards and just want easy way out. You get what you give. When you treat people badly, at some point it will come back on you.
I broke up with someone via text because they stopped answering their phone, and they got mad. Not my fault! lol. Also the thought that women need closure is false. Maybe when I was younger, but now that I am older I already know the answer. He just wasn't into me, or we just had different values. That is all I need to know.
Keri Hilson looks better than Nicki Minaj and Beyonce my opinion.
Jared Jackson I personally prefer Beyonce over the other two.
Ashanti is better then all 3 in my opinion
Jared Jackson ..I think Kenya Moore looks better than Kari Hilson.
ManOfLeisure II lol shut up
Ciara is looks better than Keri Hilson.
I agree with the black lady, be a man and communicate, it's all about the character of a person. Breaking up via text is a coward way out be it male or female, which really says you avoid conversations that needs to be discussed, you rather hide, not good at all. If you plan on being in any type of relationship conflict, disagreements, etc will arise and if you run or avoid well you're not ready for a relationship. Grown mature adults should be able to communicate.
L Daniels whether you like it or not that is in fact communication just a new version of communicating (like first it was face to face then phone calls and now texting) ... a break up is a break up however it is done. I give the person credit for at least trying to resolve issues but if they are getting the same results then yes it is time to break up... now, it's a whole other subject if the two people in the relationship was based solely via text and I mean not once have they met physically and sexually... just mentally and emotionally and they're a few blocks away now that's disturbing and a whole other subject but yes just as it was okay to break up face to face... like you just sit them down and say whatever you need to say and it's over either way you look at it.. it is over nonetheless and it's the exact same concept via phone call or text... a break up is a break up... hard to take in but harsh truth plus it hurts the party getting broken up with whether it's face to face, phone call, or via text... just a harsh reality... at least an upside you get the chance to grieve (hopefully and my reccomendation) heal, and move on to someone once you've decided what is and isn't acceptable in your next relationship and to have a healthy thriving relationship and live happily ever after or you can live your happily ever after single whichever you choose it's your choice to move on just like it's there choice to break up whether you agree with it or not it's still their choice... I'm just gonna assume maybe they weren't happy which warrants anyone to breakup with someone they probably once cared deeply about... I'm sure otherwise it is pretty pathetic to be with someone you didn't care about during the course of that relationship and on that note be very glad they broke up with you.. they didn't choose you anyway and it's better to have known that then to think that they wanted you genuinely wanted you. I wanted to add that most people aren't upset about the actual way the break up was done but the rejection that comes with a break up and once people realize that it's just simple rejection the better off and the faster they can grieve, heal, and move on.
SuperSpecialk101, when two adults can't communicate via phone or face to face, then my only recourse woukd be, let it go. At 54 years, I wouldn't be texting nothing, but everyone is different.
If it's not working, he knows it and so do you. Text them Bye!
Yow Steve is PREAAACHING right now omg 😂😂😂.... We don't want to have that conversation anymore because it doesn't end there, it keeps going and going it never ends as peacefully as they make it seem
Why did the woman in pink assume it’s only men breaking up over text “We can’t allow them to do this to us” Ladyy.. her point was valid though and I would have done the same thing as Keri in that situation
What difference does it make? Would the phone call stop the pain? I honestly don't see how it is "more respectful" to break up via face to face or phone call.
Texting a break up s disrespectful!!!
No one owes you any explanation. If I dont want to deal with you I dont want to deal with you. the explanation is the bonus
Thank God that I have always broken up with everyone I dated...No closure needed hahaha
It could be safer to do it over text. But if it's not a safety issue just tell them
I did it. Similar situation as Keri... I blocked him and he still trying to contact me by e-mail 🙄.
Broke up with a man I'd dated for over 3 years via text. Idc for reasons. I'd put in all I could into it and it didnt work. No conversation was going to help us both find "closure" closure was me getting rid of a disrespectful mean spirited person. For good!
When things are over, and you need to leave, or want to leave the relationship, to keep face to face in it, just get you know where, one of you just don't want to let go!
This was three years ago. However once you are thinking clearly why try to get closure from someone who don’t want you. She just could not comprehend that concept.
I agree with you Keri. And besides, to the rest of the panel: you can want men to address a situation another way, hence 'not-texting' but you cannot make anyone do anything.
Keri is gorgeous and her hair looks so healthy! 😍
My first boyfriend (grown ass man) broke up with me via text. Broke my heart into a million pieces ....I was depressed for three days.
He said "texting eti-quate" instead of etiquette ...And this is a man who writes books lol
I ended a 5 month relationship via texting today actually. We were in different states and I mentioned my issues with him many times which included communication and him showing social media love more than getting back to me in a timely manner, very often. It was dying out anyways on his end. So, I ended it with an explanation that I knew he would understand. It was on him. I could’ve simply ghosted him but I paid respect to him even when I couldn’t even get him to call or FT me after my friend was murdered recently, until almost two weeks later I got a short call and I felt nothing at that point. Unacceptable. Peace out homeboy!
The difference was you tried and then did what you had to via text. I think that some people have issue with a text if that's the initial route you take, but that was not in your case.
Breaking up through text? Oh! It's definitely disrespectful. I think it's better to breake up with someone face to face and have a good closure where you can open up your feelings and why you don’t want the relationship anymore.
thank you Steve for these discussion they have open my eyes to a different level of knowledge and self worth.... it's hard I've been there seeking closure from a break up via text message it Hurted my so bad cause it was like bomb we had argument s but to do me like that just Hurted. it's been five years I haven't dated since that relationship.... but I'm trying. I'm believing that I'm the prize.
Keonanna Martin Just let it go & move on. Because he surely has.
Yes it is when you have a crazy boyfriend or girlfriend and they make chop your head off on site, if you break up with them in person
Handy April ...Or maybe that text will infuriate them and they'll show up at your front door.
A cell phone won't stop crazy.
You need the sheriff 😐😐😐
Why would anybody date a psycho😑😑😑in the first place 💀
'Texting etiqwete'
TheRealHarsjan lol
TheRealHarsjan 😂😂😂😂😂😂
No !!!
Its disrespectful and childish...
And any man worth a damn knows that 😐😐😐
See we as a generation have become so used to conducting most of our conversations via text ( which I think is weird and not healthy) that what used to be considered rude is now the norm. And that's sad....
Why are we normalizing this anti social behavior ???
Connection is important . There's something necessary about hearing someone's voice over the phone or conversing with a friend over coffee. Social Media, texting , etc..., is turning all of us into self obsessed , self important , narcissist.
It is not healthy , in fact I feel its becoming detrimental to us all.
But that's just me......😐😐😐
it's not just you. it's every grown folk with no time for juvenile mind games💯💯
Oh trust! Trust, women do it too or you just "ghost"
Being able to become happy for yourself is the prize. It means secure self-esteem with yourself and being able continue your life productively to accomplish your goals, while achieving satisfaction from your consistent efforts.
That is for both sides of the sex. Women are not the prize in life, they are sure needed inextra care and thought department.
That doesn't mean you make them entitled to niceness to be received everytime. One thing i notice along with other characteristics with women they take your niceness before you can give it. That exudes entitlement if you feel that from a woman you are interested in, you best to play it smart and think your words through she might be using you later if you are not aware of social behavior and body expression or languages. Just watch out.
Guys you have be the one to say no and stop feeling helpless with anger when she says no.
"Men, dont do closure."
Steve Harvey-2018
"Steve! You CLEARLY dont know how men operate anymore!"
Ajax Johnson-also 2018
Steve was spot on👍🏽
i never wanted to end a relationship on a bad note. so i just said " it was fun. i hope you find the one someday"
KERI - Drop Dead Gorgeous😍
Nobody:
Steve Harvey: Text ettiquit 😂😂😂😂
If it’s a toxic relationship, then you may have no choice but to break up via text.
Steve.... it’s etiquette “eh-tih-ket” 😂
And what about if you are having one international relationship? Or one of them has an accident and ended up hospitalised for a month?
if u dont say goodbyeor excuse yourself before u leave, it's not only a question of manner, but also a matter of respinsibilty and accounbility!
I agree with Kerry hilson! I'm going through that right now some men are crazy and they will get upset if you try to break up with them! That's why some situations it is better through text because your life could be in danger
I don’t care text or in person when it’s over it’s over.
I’m a woman that “does NOT do closure”...I’m honest while we’re dating so I don’t need to discuss what I’ve ALREADY said. I broke up with my ex via email,& then blocked him immediately🤷🏾♀️
Texting Etta-Quit!!! 😂🤣😂🤣😂
my ex gf of 2 years broke up with me out of the blue after i asked her what we were doing that weekend. sure we were having a lot of problems but i was just sitting there drinking my coffee one day and BOOM. no one deserves that.
Texting with a breakup is cowardly
I’ve done it but we were in two different states, and I knew I wasn’t going back home anytime soon!
I agree with Keri. I caught my person cheating. I called him the next day to arrange a closure discussion, and he didn't return my call. So, I texted him the following day and laid out my case and I left it at that.
Aliyah and Keri Hilson are the most beautiful r&b female artists.
I wish I wouldn't seen this for my last breakup. I was dating the guy for almost a month then one day I saw him and everything was good and the next day we were supposed to go on a date and he never called or anything and blocked me . I blew up his social media and phone with different numbers just needing to know why so bad and beating myself up so bad for it. But now I see it was his loss and instead of begging why I should say what did he do wrong and I don't want a man who would do that to me. He eventually emailed me saying brief message why but he never really told me.
I like the “we are done 1234567...” thing
Steve, What happened to "What'chu Waitin' On" 😂
I dated a man for 8 months and he broke up with me over text. People that do that are cowards and it showed me that he was never really worth it if that's how he behaved
I prefer to be broken up via text. I can't face the hurt in person that was my take years ago, younger in my teens . Sometimes the relationship is long distance that you have to do it via text anyway, happens to me.
But my second ( current bf) of 4 years plus 7 years friendships, now as I'm older, if we broke up ( never gonna happen lol) I would want a conversation in person or I'd at least owe it to him seeing we have so much history.
She's talking about serge ibaka
Who cares. Just break up already. Do what works for you. If there is closure you need, go to God and seek closure through prayer. Focus your attentions not on what he or she thought of you or didn't think of you, but rather find purpose in the break up. 9 times out of 10 you dodged a bullet anyway. That person isn't the one!! After a quick mourning session; of a few hours or a couple of days you'll be just fine. Evaluate YOU and Move On my dear sweet sweeties. 😍
Agreed 👍
Keri is stunning
Nobody owes anybody anything. Not even an explanation. That is just courtesy and that is not owed.
It's not just women are the prize.. MEN AND WOMEN BOTH ARE...zi need a woman and a woman needs me PERIOD we both play integral roles in the relationship...Steve you got all the game in the world you should know better than to pump their heads with that false reality FURTHER PERPETUATING THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT
yh Keri did the same thing too
If it's over, why does it need to be face to face or a phone call?
My boyfriend broke up with me via text from my balcony while I was in my room getting ready for bed. We’d been dating for 2 years smh. It’s very disrespectful.