How did you personally find this out? Asperger’s wasn’t a diagnosis until 1994 and SPD isn’t in the DSM. I’m now 27 trying to figure out everything about my life and it wasn’t until two hours ago I learned what SPD is and now I’m sobbing uncontrollably after watching your video from a mom’s perspective. I wish my mother would have known because you touched on everything I have struggled with (tip of the iceberg) until high school. I had 106/140 SPD symptoms on one website. I would argue SPD is really what makes us Autistic people seem “more Autistic” when it’s really been SPD all along, it’s so sad. We have to work so hard to get the medical community to recognize SPD as a diagnosis, and educate every parent, teacher, and pediatrician.
Sometimes SPD is called “sensory integration disorder “ but our Occupational Therapist ended up using different diagnoses for my kids to get their treatment. It isn’t easy
This comment broke my heart. My daughter was diagnosed with autism last year and she is 20. As a mom this just breaks my heart hearing the child side. Much blessings to you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I'm 34 with SPD and ADHD. I love your videos. My mom's funniest story about me as a "spirited" child: I had been attending a neighborhood preschool at age 4. My mom received a call shortly after I had arrived. Apparently, I had shown up without underwear on. 😂😂 I do have a vague memory of hiding behind the recliner and taking those horrible uncomfortable underwear (with tags!) off.
A Common Life I’m struggling to find underwear and socks for my 6 yr old daughter. Just today, she left to summer camp with no underwear, no socks on and begged me to take the tags off her pants... *SIGH* crying here!!
I’ve always loved rubbing silk/satin and playing with clothing labels. My mum used to wear a satin nighty when nursing me and I would grab it and rip it (without meaning to be naughty or anything), but I just wanted that feeling. To this day, even as an adult, I still very much love the texture of satin or any synthetic labels with a satin-like feel to them. I’ll play with them, rub them, stroke them, anything with a smooth texture, even velvet or Velour. I stil keep that nighty in my bed with me as a “ragged” at night although it’s now in tatters.
Oh, and I also love anything shiny, such as polished metal, shiny fabrics, crystals, foil etc. I’ve always loved things that rotate. When I was very young, I’d always sit in front of the washing machine when it was working and just watch it spin. It’s crazy when you think about these things.
Shame I so relate to all of this! My little grandson of 3 and a half is the same! Strangely, other uncomfortable garments he wears happily! Like an adults leather belt with buckles and studs which he wears over his naked self and parades all over, as happy as can be. Such a unique child who fascinates adults wherever he goes! Peers don’t appreciate him much though😥
This video is so amazing. My son was diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder a year ago, and the meltdowns have been next level lately. I have been feeling like a horrible mother. This video has reassured me that I've done at least an okay job of creating a safe place for him. Thank you!
My son is almost 5 and his meltdowns really kicked in once he started preschool to the point we took him out has your child’s meltdowns gotten better? His meltdowns are almost all about being a grown up he wants to do what I do and goes from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye it’s definitely not normal behavior we’re getting him assessed soon hopefully you see this thank you
You are very lucky if you meet a pediatricians who understand these problems. Most of them don't even want to know that. I have met some pediatrician who said that because SPD has not been accepted as a diagnostic entity in DSM V then it doesn't exist. So sad.
I love how you transition from the parenting point of view when the child is young, but start speaking to the young adult/adult about spd. Very informative video. Thank for sharing
Thank you so much for your advices. Recently my child just got the diagnosis of Sensory Modulation disorder and now I'm trying my best to do more research to understand her and your way of explaining make it very easy to understand and help me feel a lot better that I'm not alone.
It’s been so hard w/ my now 8yr old… she has explosive meltdowns over getting ready for school! I finally got her into OT this wk & they said she has moderate sensory processing issues. She has a psychiatrist & has ADHD & they say ODD (I think it more sensory though). She’s an angel at school & often a little devil at home & it’s very rough coping w/ it as a mother working 4-6 12hr midnight shifts per wk! She’s definitely my wild child & im so happy to finally be getting her the help she needs & deserves!!
Can I express her side a bit? I'm a 21 year old women who has SPD and I suspect ADHD. I was good at school because structure I knew what was happening when and I was actively (that turned into automatic) trying to be 'good' so I didn't get into trouble. I was also stuck in a desk for 7 hours and wanted freedom. When I got home every single emotion, and extra stuff often lead to outburst especially during meals. I have a big family and their LOUD I love them and I enjoy it but only for so long but when I was younger I couldn't leave the table whenever so I ended up yelling because I had trouble regulating my tone wich lead to adults thinking I was being disrespectful which led to screaming or spanking me which only made the break down worse. My advice? If she is upset talk to her (if she can because I have moments where I go non-verbal an physically can't speak) she might not realize whats triggering her it took me from about 8 to probably 16 or 17 to realize noise is my #1 trigger with light as a #2 and texture #3. I know it can be hard not to get upset at a child outburst but even as a teen to adult I still get overwhelmed and have outburst a lot less than when I was younger but they still happen. I guess what I'm trying to say is I hope you won't immediately punish your child for something that is insanely hard to control like my parents did. Instead of learning and helping me learn they were quick to punish instead of listen. I'm not saying EVERY outburst is justified or to not punish her. Mabey listen to her?
I am 55, just diagnosed as Asperger, SPD went insane because my Mom never knew and always just invalidated my needs. oh the fights we had because of how clothes felt and when I did find something, I wore it out, like thread bare.... Clothes need to be comfortable and everyone has their own comfort level. I like tight tanks and tight jean of tights for that reason as well. It helps me stay aware of where my body is as I am a natural clutz as well. I have had to learn about all of this sooo late in life that my body is disintegrating before my eyes. Food has it's issues as well. Taste is just one thing, smell is another and then there is the slimy vs crunchy. oh I could go on... just listen to her and allow her to validate her being different. It really is a joy seeing the world differently. We have super powers!
@@1centwiz You know I sometimes wonder if I have it too because I have always had bruises I dont remember getting, and as a teen I was always hitting my shoulders and arms, legs on doorframes and walls. But now I'm hyper aware of my surroundings. My daughter has been majority the opposite. Instead of the comfort of tight fitting clothing, she only wears mostly loose clothing. Lots of comfy hoodies and long sleeve soft shirts, sweats. When she was an infant, she sought extra sensory input. Now she avoids it. I guess it can fluctuate.
I have a now 13 year old who is hyposensitive. I knew something was going on from birth he was diagnosed with FTT (failure to thrive) he just wasn't interested in eating right out of the womb. It has been relatively easy to manage until now. Looking for ways to help him cope as he becomes more independent and keep him from being bullied at school and respecting others boundaries and realizing when he has to use the bathroom or dressing appropriately for the weather (not wearing tank top and shorts when its snow or wearing multiple warm layers when its 100)having concept of time.
You mention sounds and I go into rage mode wanting to murder the neighbors upstairs for the loud noise and they have even turned the music down but they blast music whenever they can. I do know that a lot of people in jail have ADHD so they need to start taking issues like this seriously instead of being like, "Well this person did a, b, c, d it's their fault." No something led them there which is why they need to do more brain scans instead of throwing meds at them it upsets me so much. I subscribed to your channel.
Omg I have Auditory processing Disorder and was reading about a child who has it and he reminded me so much of how I am now. I'm 38 years old and am struggling so hard with my disability it's so hard for me to even be around people I thought maybe it was due to my mental illness but I really think I have more of a sensory processing disorder. I don't like when people stand so close to me especially if I don't know them even if I do know someone without medication I am very quiet. I stay in doors most days, can't work, feel uncomfortable around people, the list goes on. My skin is very sensitive to and have contracted hives, have GERD, CDIFF, it's really bad. I also get addicted to certain foods like right now I love carrots and ranch and salsa and chips which I know salsa is bad for my GERD. My parents don't understand it and think I'm just manipulating and don't want to work but I have such a hard time because of my impulsiveness and they don't want to take the time to educate themselves which is their fault so I have shut them out and don't talk to them ever. I wish more parents would understand it's a life long thing it doesn't just go away when they turn 18 and my own parents have neglected me it's sad.
We have had issues with sensitivities since around age 4 in my daughter to food and clothing. She has an extremely limited diet but the most confusing to me lately is the weather changed and got colder so changing from short to long clothes and her sensitivities got 10x worse. We had three miserable weeks where I could barely get her to school on time because she was crying and say so many things were intolerable to her skin. Then, the last two weeks we implemented a reward program if she gets dressed and she is now wearing socks, pants, etc. The sensitivities are 90% better now. Have you noticed changes to this degree back and forth so quickly? We’ve gone through so many periods with so many different things she can’t tolerate and then all the sudden not an issue anymore.
I have definitely noticed changes due to weather, hormonal changes, schedule/routine changes, etc . And sometimes it is completely unexplainable from the outside looking in. You sound like such an amazing mom and you made changes that work well for your daughter!! Way to go. That is wonderful.
Because the therapists simply implemented retained primitive reflex integration excersises. If reflexes are not integrated they will create even more of disorders and delay development.
Thank you for the video - I've just heard about this disorder recently and am sure that my son has a form of it. He is nearly 3 and can be very challenging in different ways. I recognised a lot of what you said in this video, in him. We had a referral to a paediatrician months ago but have heard nothing due to coronavirus waiting lists and I just feel we are in limbo as I feel we really need a bit of help. Hopefully we will hear soon. Thanks again
Have you tried contacting regional center? My son has a speech therapist who comes to my house once a week. I contacted them July and it took a month or two but was definitely worth the wait! Hope that helps.
Rosemary Miranda we are in Scotland. A new speech and language therapist contacted me yesterday and spoke to dr about paediatrician appointment so hopefully things are moving on now. Thank you though!
My son has autism and SPD . Whenever he is three we took him to preschool . teacher always call me , your son like take socks off while he play on the slide . He like play play dough . And jumping, crash into person on couch .
Great video! Do any of your kids have a hard time with heat? Now that the weather finally turned here I figured out that heat is a big trigger for my daughter. It pushes her over the edge to where she just can't cope. Sometimes when we get in a hot car she starts crying immediately! I can't believe I never realized it before, now a lot of other triggers (like gym) are making more sense to me! I've been having her drink more ice water and take a shower as soon as we get in from outside. Any tips for handling heat?
We all seem to be sensitive to heat in our family. One of my tips would be to purchase some of those more breathable shirts made of fabric that keeps a person cooler. Those have REALLY helped our boys. Cold drinks help and you can also buy those little individual battery operated fans as well.
Erin Kimmel thanks for bringing this up because i cant get my 1 yo to sleep at night if its to hot...like i have found my self always removing layers at night all the time...if i open a window shes been calming down even in the winter...she doesnt like the blankets ...if u cover her up she wakes up
So, I came here because I’ve been suspecting since my son was about 18 months that something was going on with him. I think he has SPD and maybe ADHD. But wow, the more of these videos I watch I think I actually have SPD. I am pretty sure I have ADHD but all these sensory things are hitting home. I think I’ve always just really struggled internally with all of it so no one really notices. 🤪🤪
I think a lot of people struggle with it internally, but it will be helpful for both you and your son to be able to identify what is going on and adjust your life as you need. ❤️
I’m fighting for custody of my child who I just found out has this I didn’t really think anything of it because I was too overwhelmed with seeing my daughter and never heard of it. That being said I’m trying my best to co-parent with my ex which she’s refusing at all costs. I don’t find this doing my daughter any favors I believe we should get along and do things together for our daughter and push our differences aside. I believe that our fighting for custody will only make it worse for her. What our your thoughts on this?
How can I get the diagnos? my son has so much problem in school and when he comes home first thing he looks for is body scok and so many behavior issues in school ... Please help me
I live with my mum and she isn’t that supportive and now I’m moving to my dads they think I have spd from the many things I have for example I won’t touch metal because I don’t like the feeling and it basically gives me a mental breakdown , I haven’t liked tags since I was like 3 and I am sensitive to loud sounds :/
Check if primitive reflexes are retained, there are 8 of them.. If they are not integrated they can create all sorts of disorders. Start from starlet reflex, which integrates into softer version called Moro reflex. This is first reflex that must integrated as it influences the rest. I'm surprised that this mom of 5 kids does not talk about retaibed reflexes as they are the root cause of basically all learning and behavioral disorders as well as delay in development and mental health issues.
My sons did have retained reflexes, and I did talk about it in a video at one point, but since I am not a doctor, I didn't go into great detail. But you are right that they can be a huge issue and precursor to spd. Thanks!
@@ACommonLife Thank you for the video as it made me enthusiastic about my son's issues! I would add to my comment that, in my opinion, reflexes get retained so frequently in kids these days because they are too protected by parents, they never play in nature and never go through the process of survival amongst their peers. They are overcontrolled by adults and enduced too much fear about the society without being exposed to real life situations..They skip important stages of evolution because their space is limited by cods and arenas, they are growing inside plastic gadgets like walkers, jumpers, slides, etc instead of climbing trees, jumping into a river, sometimes, hurting, cutting themselves but getting stronger and balanced. They spend most of the childhood by the screen.... (Very convenient for adults ha?...) We interfere with natural process too much not letting kids to learn natural way...
My concern abut my 2 ASD children is how are they going to manage their sexuality because one them is 13 years old, he is transitioning into adolescence and now he doesn’t accept to be touched at all, he hates kisses and hugs, if you try to, he will push you away from him. He wasn’t that way before but since he was a baby, calming him down was a great challenge. I wonder how is that going to affect in their relationships and sexuality
Thank you Soo much . My daughter deals with sensory processing issues and I can't seem to get any help she is 9 yrs old. Any advice would be appreciated
A update my daughter go diagnosed with SPD and ASP at age 10 and 11. She received both OT and ST. She also was given a 504 E plan with the school system. She is doing well and we have learned from one another. For any parent just know never give up on getting services for your child.
I have SPD I was Diagnosed with it as a young child. I had to go to therapy for years to help with it. As a younger child when we went to the park if i saw a swing moving i would start screaming and we could not have a fan on if i was in the room i would start screaming.I remember having to leave school sometimes to go to therapy i have adapted over the years i get very sensitive now the later it gets as i get tired it gets worse i start to get irritated .
My SPD daughter was "colicky" for 1 year. I gave her soy, etc too. Then she walked late- very late- 2 years. She would push me away when I'd cuddle her. But she ALSO sometimes banged her head on the crib side, and she rocked - FAST, whole body - until age 13. Still, every now and then rocks and hums herself to sleep. I later realized my older daughter's freak out about "socks not feeling right" was probably SPD too. She wouldnt wear socks for 3 years! I bought different pairs, etc, and she had a problem with them all. Tantrum daily over socks lol
Hi...I want to ask u ....after giving occupational therophy vl they normal or better than b4???pls let me know...my son is 2yr8months daigonised with spd
My son is almost 3 years old and has ADHD and SPD. He won't sit in a place for atleast five mins. How to develop his sitting tolerance ? He was watching rhymes but now if I play them he cries. He can't eat all types of foods fruits. It's been very difficult. Pls give more tips parenting.
My (now almost 7-year old) son has both ADHD and SPD as well. It was hard for him to sit still quietly at all for at least 5 years. He still struggles but is far better than he was. Have patience with his limitations. They will get better little by little. You can't "make them" sit still for any longer any sooner than they're able, but you can give them lots of opportunities to practice. :)
@@sowbhagyalokanath1567 He was verbal but delayed. He was very hard to understand, even for his dad and I, until we took him to speech therapy beginning at 4. It did wonders to help him!
My son is 13 months and wil only eat pureed food, any little tiny piece of food i dont blend he will gag and not swallow. He never liked the paci, he has never liked the baby puffs or anything like that. Wont hold things for too long in his hands. Could these be signs. He also has a speech therapist and occupational therapist that comes see him
Talk with your OT and see what they say. Some children are just developmentally delayed when they are young, but that doesn't mean they will continue to have problems as they grow up.
Great video..... I was wondering how can I get my child on the spectrum take baths because he really hates baths and always have a meltdown. He screams and cries and always trying to climb out the tub. Any suggestions on what i can do to help him feel more comfortable. I tried bath toys and fizzle color tabs that change the color of the water. I tried blowing bubbles around him but nothing works and it takes two people wash him but he really fights me and my husband. I just don't know what to do.
We have found that showers are easier for our kids on the spectrum. You can try that. I always had them "look up to the sky" when I washed their hair so that water did not go on their faces. I hope that helps!
I have no clue how old your child is but I will try showers and if he’s too young. I will try doing a little bit of water and then washing one body part at a time. My mom had it used to do that with me when I was a baby.
Suffering intensely from fluorescent lights *is* a problem. In a world where certain stimuli are ubiquitous, such things are disorders as far as psychological standards are concerned. You may have many gifts on the other side of it, but the pain you get from every day things, itself, is disordered. Saying this should have no bearing on whether society ought to accommodate such people whenever possible. Maybe longterm we can make the world substantially quiet and dim by default. At such a time, this is no longer a “disorder.”
How did you personally find this out? Asperger’s wasn’t a diagnosis until 1994 and SPD isn’t in the DSM. I’m now 27 trying to figure out everything about my life and it wasn’t until two hours ago I learned what SPD is and now I’m sobbing uncontrollably after watching your video from a mom’s perspective. I wish my mother would have known because you touched on everything I have struggled with (tip of the iceberg) until high school. I had 106/140 SPD symptoms on one website. I would argue SPD is really what makes us Autistic people seem “more Autistic” when it’s really been SPD all along, it’s so sad. We have to work so hard to get the medical community to recognize SPD as a diagnosis, and educate every parent, teacher, and pediatrician.
Sometimes SPD is called “sensory integration disorder “ but our Occupational Therapist ended up using different diagnoses for my kids to get their treatment. It isn’t easy
This comment broke my heart. My daughter was diagnosed with autism last year and she is 20. As a mom this just breaks my heart hearing the child side. Much blessings to you🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Was at losing my mind with my son who has spd now it all makes sense.
Thank you xx
I'm so glad this helped 💕
I'm 34 with SPD and ADHD. I love your videos. My mom's funniest story about me as a "spirited" child: I had been attending a neighborhood preschool at age 4. My mom received a call shortly after I had arrived. Apparently, I had shown up without underwear on. 😂😂 I do have a vague memory of hiding behind the recliner and taking those horrible uncomfortable underwear (with tags!) off.
I can totally relate. We have been there!
A Common Life I’m struggling to find underwear and socks for my 6 yr old daughter. Just today, she left to summer camp with no underwear, no socks on and begged me to take the tags off her pants... *SIGH* crying here!!
I’ve always loved rubbing silk/satin and playing with clothing labels. My mum used to wear a satin nighty when nursing me and I would grab it and rip it (without meaning to be naughty or anything), but I just wanted that feeling. To this day, even as an adult, I still very much love the texture of satin or any synthetic labels with a satin-like feel to them. I’ll play with them, rub them, stroke them, anything with a smooth texture, even velvet or Velour. I stil keep that nighty in my bed with me as a “ragged” at night although it’s now in tatters.
Oh, and I also love anything shiny, such as polished metal, shiny fabrics, crystals, foil etc. I’ve always loved things that rotate. When I was very young, I’d always sit in front of the washing machine when it was working and just watch it spin. It’s crazy when you think about these things.
Shame I so relate to all of this! My little grandson of 3 and a half is the same! Strangely, other uncomfortable garments he wears happily! Like an adults leather belt with buckles and studs which he wears over his naked self and parades all over, as happy as can be. Such a unique child who fascinates adults wherever he goes! Peers don’t appreciate him much though😥
This video is so amazing. My son was diagnosed with a sensory processing disorder a year ago, and the meltdowns have been next level lately. I have been feeling like a horrible mother. This video has reassured me that I've done at least an okay job of creating a safe place for him. Thank you!
My son is almost 5 and his meltdowns really kicked in once he started preschool to the point we took him out has your child’s meltdowns gotten better? His meltdowns are almost all about being a grown up he wants to do what I do and goes from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye it’s definitely not normal behavior we’re getting him assessed soon hopefully you see this thank you
You are very lucky if you meet a pediatricians who understand these problems. Most of them don't even want to know that. I have met some pediatrician who said that because SPD has not been accepted as a diagnostic entity in DSM V then it doesn't exist. So sad.
I love how you transition from the parenting point of view when the child is young, but start speaking to the young adult/adult about spd. Very informative video. Thank for sharing
My 2 years old just was diagnosed with SPD. Thank you so much for share your experience and give a guide to us of what to expect.
You're welcome 💕
I have a 3 yo that i think has sensory seeking spd, how was it diagnosed in your child and what treatment is your child undergoing?
How is your child now
This is the best SPD video. Please make more. So informational and helpful!!!!
Thank you so much for your advices. Recently my child just got the diagnosis of Sensory Modulation disorder and now I'm trying my best to do more research to understand her and your way of explaining make it very easy to understand and help me feel a lot better that I'm not alone.
I think i have this.......I answered yes to almost everything you said was a problem......just wow
Your videos are still helping thank you for the time you put into making them
I'm 16 and at secondary school and I do keep it together at school then go made when I get home ! - so true
My son was the same way before we started homeschooling him. It was very hard to handle all of the stimuli at school. I wish you all the best! ♥️
A Common Life thanks , I'm on study leave now so I think it'll be better =)
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@@ACommonLife I pulled my son out of School when he was 9. He's 12 now and homeschooling. He's sleeping better and calmer
It’s been so hard w/ my now 8yr old… she has explosive meltdowns over getting ready for school! I finally got her into OT this wk & they said she has moderate sensory processing issues. She has a psychiatrist & has ADHD & they say ODD (I think it more sensory though). She’s an angel at school & often a little devil at home & it’s very rough coping w/ it as a mother working 4-6 12hr midnight shifts per wk! She’s definitely my wild child & im so happy to finally be getting her the help she needs & deserves!!
Can I express her side a bit? I'm a 21 year old women who has SPD and I suspect ADHD. I was good at school because structure I knew what was happening when and I was actively (that turned into automatic) trying to be 'good' so I didn't get into trouble. I was also stuck in a desk for 7 hours and wanted freedom. When I got home every single emotion, and extra stuff often lead to outburst especially during meals. I have a big family and their LOUD I love them and I enjoy it but only for so long but when I was younger I couldn't leave the table whenever so I ended up yelling because I had trouble regulating my tone wich lead to adults thinking I was being disrespectful which led to screaming or spanking me which only made the break down worse. My advice? If she is upset talk to her (if she can because I have moments where I go non-verbal an physically can't speak) she might not realize whats triggering her it took me from about 8 to probably 16 or 17 to realize noise is my #1 trigger with light as a #2 and texture #3. I know it can be hard not to get upset at a child outburst but even as a teen to adult I still get overwhelmed and have outburst a lot less than when I was younger but they still happen. I guess what I'm trying to say is I hope you won't immediately punish your child for something that is insanely hard to control like my parents did. Instead of learning and helping me learn they were quick to punish instead of listen. I'm not saying EVERY outburst is justified or to not punish her. Mabey listen to her?
Age 10-12 was the hardest for us so far. She is 14 now and its still a struggle but we all cope.
Anyone elses SPD child super intelligent?
Mine are. I'm not sure if it always goes hand-in-hand, but it is quite common for neuro-atypical people to also be intelligent.
I am 55, just diagnosed as Asperger, SPD went insane because my Mom never knew and always just invalidated my needs. oh the fights we had because of how clothes felt and when I did find something, I wore it out, like thread bare.... Clothes need to be comfortable and everyone has their own comfort level. I like tight tanks and tight jean of tights for that reason as well. It helps me stay aware of where my body is as I am a natural clutz as well. I have had to learn about all of this sooo late in life that my body is disintegrating before my eyes. Food has it's issues as well. Taste is just one thing, smell is another and then there is the slimy vs crunchy. oh I could go on... just listen to her and allow her to validate her being different. It really is a joy seeing the world differently. We have super powers!
My daughter is in a gifted program at school.
@@shantelb4192 =) so its quite common. They are such bright, amazing kids and truly a joy to know.
@@1centwiz You know I sometimes wonder if I have it too because I have always had bruises I dont remember getting, and as a teen I was always hitting my shoulders and arms, legs on doorframes and walls. But now I'm hyper aware of my surroundings.
My daughter has been majority the opposite. Instead of the comfort of tight fitting clothing, she only wears mostly loose clothing. Lots of comfy hoodies and long sleeve soft shirts, sweats. When she was an infant, she sought extra sensory input. Now she avoids it.
I guess it can fluctuate.
Thank you so much for this video! My son is almost 3. He has a speech delay and his psychologist just mentioned sensory processing disorder.
I hope these videos help!
Fernanda Medina052809 / stop calling it a disorder
@@BarbaraMerryGeng ma’am.. sooooooo what does the d in SPD stand for?🙄
Thank you for this video! I feel like it is helping me understand the behaviors of my son and his SPD.
I have a now 13 year old who is hyposensitive. I knew something was going on from birth he was diagnosed with FTT (failure to thrive) he just wasn't interested in eating right out of the womb. It has been relatively easy to manage until now. Looking for ways to help him cope as he becomes more independent and keep him from being bullied at school and respecting others boundaries and realizing when he has to use the bathroom or dressing appropriately for the weather (not wearing tank top and shorts when its snow or wearing multiple warm layers when its 100)having concept of time.
These things take longer with special needs children. Have you considered OT?
You mention sounds and I go into rage mode wanting to murder the neighbors upstairs for the loud noise and they have even turned the music down but they blast music whenever they can. I do know that a lot of people in jail have ADHD so they need to start taking issues like this seriously instead of being like, "Well this person did a, b, c, d it's their fault." No something led them there which is why they need to do more brain scans instead of throwing meds at them it upsets me so much. I subscribed to your channel.
Omg I have Auditory processing Disorder and was reading about a child who has it and he reminded me so much of how I am now. I'm 38 years old and am struggling so hard with my disability it's so hard for me to even be around people I thought maybe it was due to my mental illness but I really think I have more of a sensory processing disorder. I don't like when people stand so close to me especially if I don't know them even if I do know someone without medication I am very quiet. I stay in doors most days, can't work, feel uncomfortable around people, the list goes on. My skin is very sensitive to and have contracted hives, have GERD, CDIFF, it's really bad. I also get addicted to certain foods like right now I love carrots and ranch and salsa and chips which I know salsa is bad for my GERD. My parents don't understand it and think I'm just manipulating and don't want to work but I have such a hard time because of my impulsiveness and they don't want to take the time to educate themselves which is their fault so I have shut them out and don't talk to them ever. I wish more parents would understand it's a life long thing it doesn't just go away when they turn 18 and my own parents have neglected me it's sad.
We have had issues with sensitivities since around age 4 in my daughter to food and clothing. She has an extremely limited diet but the most confusing to me lately is the weather changed and got colder so changing from short to long clothes and her sensitivities got 10x worse. We had three miserable weeks where I could barely get her to school on time because she was crying and say so many things were intolerable to her skin. Then, the last two weeks we implemented a reward program if she gets dressed and she is now wearing socks, pants, etc. The sensitivities are 90% better now. Have you noticed changes to this degree back and forth so quickly? We’ve gone through so many periods with so many different things she can’t tolerate and then all the sudden not an issue anymore.
I have definitely noticed changes due to weather, hormonal changes, schedule/routine changes, etc . And sometimes it is completely unexplainable from the outside looking in. You sound like such an amazing mom and you made changes that work well for your daughter!! Way to go. That is wonderful.
Because the therapists simply implemented retained primitive reflex integration excersises. If reflexes are not integrated they will create even more of disorders and delay development.
Thank you for the video - I've just heard about this disorder recently and am sure that my son has a form of it. He is nearly 3 and can be very challenging in different ways. I recognised a lot of what you said in this video, in him. We had a referral to a paediatrician months ago but have heard nothing due to coronavirus waiting lists and I just feel we are in limbo as I feel we really need a bit of help. Hopefully we will hear soon. Thanks again
Wishing you all the best ❤️❤️
Have you tried contacting regional center? My son has a speech therapist who comes to my house once a week. I contacted them July and it took a month or two but was definitely worth the wait! Hope that helps.
Rosemary Miranda we are in Scotland. A new speech and language therapist contacted me yesterday and spoke to dr about paediatrician appointment so hopefully things are moving on now. Thank you though!
Marion B good luck 👍🏻
Thank you.....
My son has autism and SPD . Whenever he is three we took him to preschool . teacher always call me , your son like take socks off while he play on the slide . He like play play dough . And jumping, crash into person on couch .
Thank you very much for sharing your experience
You're welcome!
Great video! Do any of your kids have a hard time with heat? Now that the weather finally turned here I figured out that heat is a big trigger for my daughter. It pushes her over the edge to where she just can't cope. Sometimes when we get in a hot car she starts crying immediately! I can't believe I never realized it before, now a lot of other triggers (like gym) are making more sense to me! I've been having her drink more ice water and take a shower as soon as we get in from outside. Any tips for handling heat?
We all seem to be sensitive to heat in our family. One of my tips would be to purchase some of those more breathable shirts made of fabric that keeps a person cooler. Those have REALLY helped our boys. Cold drinks help and you can also buy those little individual battery operated fans as well.
A Common Life same... Everyone in our family is sensitive to heat! Thanks for the ideas! :)
Erin Kimmel thanks for bringing this up because i cant get my 1 yo to sleep at night if its to hot...like i have found my self always removing layers at night all the time...if i open a window shes been calming down even in the winter...she doesnt like the blankets ...if u cover her up she wakes up
Very well explained. Thank you .
im 14 and im good at sports and i have spd
So, I came here because I’ve been suspecting since my son was about 18 months that something was going on with him. I think he has SPD and maybe ADHD. But wow, the more of these videos I watch I think I actually have SPD. I am pretty sure I have ADHD but all these sensory things are hitting home. I think I’ve always just really struggled internally with all of it so no one really notices. 🤪🤪
I think a lot of people struggle with it internally, but it will be helpful for both you and your son to be able to identify what is going on and adjust your life as you need. ❤️
I’m fighting for custody of my child who I just found out has this I didn’t really think anything of it because I was too overwhelmed with seeing my daughter and never heard of it. That being said I’m trying my best to co-parent with my ex which she’s refusing at all costs. I don’t find this doing my daughter any favors I believe we should get along and do things together for our daughter and push our differences aside. I believe that our fighting for custody will only make it worse for her. What our your thoughts on this?
I don't have any advice to offer on this topic. You need to do what would be best for your child.
How can I get the diagnos? my son has so much problem in school and when he comes home first thing he looks for is body scok and so many behavior issues in school ... Please help me
Talk with your pediatrician
I live with my mum and she isn’t that supportive and now I’m moving to my dads they think I have spd from the many things I have for example I won’t touch metal because I don’t like the feeling and it basically gives me a mental breakdown , I haven’t liked tags since I was like 3 and I am sensitive to loud sounds :/
No one said anything till I’m 12 but I have had these problems for years
Would it really effect a child with this if you moved house!! Would it trigger a meltdown as such? Or anxiety?
Any things can trigger it, but it depends on the person
I think moving definitely would effect any child but maybe more so a child who has spd ((:
This is wonderful, thank you 🙏🏻
Check if primitive reflexes are retained, there are 8 of them.. If they are not integrated they can create all sorts of disorders. Start from starlet reflex, which integrates into softer version called Moro reflex. This is first reflex that must integrated as it influences the rest.
I'm surprised that this mom of 5 kids does not talk about retaibed reflexes as they are the root cause of basically all learning and behavioral disorders as well as delay in development and mental health issues.
My sons did have retained reflexes, and I did talk about it in a video at one point, but since I am not a doctor, I didn't go into great detail. But you are right that they can be a huge issue and precursor to spd. Thanks!
@@ACommonLife Thank you for the video as it made me enthusiastic about my son's issues!
I would add to my comment that, in my opinion, reflexes get retained so frequently in kids these days because they are too protected by parents, they never play in nature and never go through the process of survival amongst their peers.
They are overcontrolled by adults and enduced too much fear about the society without being exposed to real life situations..They skip important stages of evolution because their space is limited by cods and arenas, they are growing inside plastic gadgets like walkers, jumpers, slides, etc instead of climbing trees, jumping into a river, sometimes, hurting, cutting themselves but getting stronger and balanced.
They spend most of the childhood by the screen.... (Very convenient for adults ha?...)
We interfere with natural process too much not letting kids to learn natural way...
@@nataliadagon Hello can i talk to you about my daughter?
Omg I love your tips
My concern abut my 2 ASD children is how are they going to manage their sexuality because one them is 13 years old, he is transitioning into adolescence and now he doesn’t accept to be touched at all, he hates kisses and hugs, if you try to, he will push you away from him. He wasn’t that way before but since he was a baby, calming him down was a great challenge. I wonder how is that going to affect in their relationships and sexuality
Thank you Soo much . My daughter deals with sensory processing issues and I can't seem to get any help she is 9 yrs old. Any advice would be appreciated
A update my daughter go diagnosed with SPD and ASP at age 10 and 11. She received both OT and ST. She also was given a 504 E plan with the school system. She is doing well and we have learned from one another. For any parent just know never give up on getting services for your child.
I have SPD I was Diagnosed with it as a young child. I had to go to therapy for years to help with it. As a younger child when we went to the park if i saw a swing moving i would start screaming and we could not have a fan on if i was in the room i would start screaming.I remember having to leave school sometimes to go to therapy i have adapted over the years i get very sensitive now the later it gets as i get tired it gets worse i start to get irritated .
Thank you for sharing your experience- I know it will be so helpful to others who read the comments 💜
My SPD daughter was "colicky" for 1 year. I gave her soy, etc too. Then she walked late- very late- 2 years.
She would push me away when I'd cuddle her. But she ALSO sometimes banged her head on the crib side, and she rocked - FAST, whole body - until age 13. Still, every now and then rocks and hums herself to sleep.
I later realized my older daughter's freak out about "socks not feeling right" was probably SPD too. She wouldnt wear socks for 3 years! I bought different pairs, etc, and she had a problem with them all. Tantrum daily over socks lol
Cori Wood ya that is her sensory issues. Shoes were mine. lol
same and when the socks problem disappeared now I can't stand t shirts with collar 😂😂😅 so irritating 🙄
Hi...I want to ask u ....after giving occupational therophy vl they normal or better than b4???pls let me know...my son is 2yr8months daigonised with spd
I think it did help a lot. Learning how to regulate themselves is very helpful!
My son is almost 3 years old and has ADHD and SPD. He won't sit in a place for atleast five mins. How to develop his sitting tolerance ?
He was watching rhymes but now if I play them he cries. He can't eat all types of foods fruits. It's been very difficult. Pls give more tips parenting.
He's 3. All 3 year olds are wiggly, maybe interact with him instead of dumping Cocomelon.
My (now almost 7-year old) son has both ADHD and SPD as well. It was hard for him to sit still quietly at all for at least 5 years. He still struggles but is far better than he was. Have patience with his limitations. They will get better little by little. You can't "make them" sit still for any longer any sooner than they're able, but you can give them lots of opportunities to practice. :)
@@Chanju84 Is he verbal ? My son is still nonverbal. We are taking him for therapy now.
@@sowbhagyalokanath1567 He was verbal but delayed. He was very hard to understand, even for his dad and I, until we took him to speech therapy beginning at 4. It did wonders to help him!
@@Chanju84 I wanted to ask one more thing is Autism n ADHD SPD are inter related ? Having one of these causes another ?
My son is 13 months and wil only eat pureed food, any little tiny piece of food i dont blend he will gag and not swallow. He never liked the paci, he has never liked the baby puffs or anything like that. Wont hold things for too long in his hands. Could these be signs. He also has a speech therapist and occupational therapist that comes see him
Talk with your OT and see what they say. Some children are just developmentally delayed when they are young, but that doesn't mean they will continue to have problems as they grow up.
Oh, I was only eating pureed food until I was 3 or 4. I was diagnosed with FTT but now I'm 15th percentile :)
Great video..... I was wondering how can I get my child on the spectrum take baths because he really hates baths and always have a meltdown. He screams and cries and always trying to climb out the tub. Any suggestions on what i can do to help him feel more comfortable. I tried bath toys and fizzle color tabs that change the color of the water. I tried blowing bubbles around him but nothing works and it takes two people wash him but he really fights me and my husband. I just don't know what to do.
We have found that showers are easier for our kids on the spectrum. You can try that. I always had them "look up to the sky" when I washed their hair so that water did not go on their faces. I hope that helps!
I have no clue how old your child is but I will try showers and if he’s too young. I will try doing a little bit of water and then washing one body part at a time. My mom had it used to do that with me when I was a baby.
Great video :)
Thank you!
Yes we had your experience with the baby from 😊non sleep land with screaming
So is dyspraxia, autism without special interests and repetition?? Is that accurate?
I do not know enough about dyspraxia to answer that question.
Describes both my boys to a T!
Thanks for watching, Crystal 💕
How are your boys now
The OT said it was too late to bring real change since my child is already 8yo.
Find a new OT. I do not believe that to be true at all. ❤️
i wasnt dianogst til my 5th grade year
I have spd
I used to love lasagna. But I can’t stand it now. And spaghetti is on and off
Stop process foods and sweets
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STOP calling it a disorder !!!!!!!!
That is the medical term for it.
That is how it is medically diagnosed. That is the term used for it. It IS a disorder
Relax, breath... no need to scream, it’s just the proper term to use, sheshh.
Suffering intensely from fluorescent lights *is* a problem. In a world where certain stimuli are ubiquitous, such things are disorders as far as psychological standards are concerned. You may have many gifts on the other side of it, but the pain you get from every day things, itself, is disordered.
Saying this should have no bearing on whether society ought to accommodate such people whenever possible. Maybe longterm we can make the world substantially quiet and dim by default. At such a time, this is no longer a “disorder.”