Modesty Isn’t What You Think It Is | Alex Wilson
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As a teen girl this was so encouraging. its so hard to live in a society where trends are crop tops and short shorts. I am the only one I know who still wears a one piece swimsuit and have been struggling with wanting to fit in but feeling convicted at the same time. this was an encouragement to me and hopefully more girls who are also struggling like me.
Yesss! This was the first year I have tried to be modest in every aspect of my life. Summer has been hard, because family and friends don’t understand why I choose to wear one pieces with shorts since I’ve only wore bikinis in the past. It’s so hard to be modest in this world, but I’m so proudly you and every other girl that chooses the path of modesty and self preservation. You rock. God bless you!
We are on a team girls !! I want to try looking modest this next school year 🥺💕
The bible calls us to be set apart sister in Christ, don't worry about what will people think, Think of what will God think, we don't have to fit in in the world, in fact, we have to be set apart, holy, modest, kind, God-fearing, and with a godly heart and a child of God
@@temnit03 yesss!
dude, I totally get it xP yeah it's hard being different, but we aren't doing this for ourselves, but for God. He sees you, He sees your heart. You are beautifully and wonderfully made, girl! Have a great day!
God had just revealed to me that the lust I had was from me not knowing my true worth and thinking I needed that attention to feel beautiful. God really just kept reminding me of how beautiful I am and that attention is really worthless because looks don’t last and lust doesn’t satisfy. Great video, I love that you talked about this because a lot of people need it.
Me too girl I can relate
Amen.
@Tha Night Why are you commenting this under so many videos? And why are you twisting the truth?
Then why Lust in the first place?
Wow! Awesome sis💕
A lot of girls my age promote dressing immodestly to go against men, but like honestly I dress modestly because it makes me comfortable knowing that I’m pleasing God and not causing men to struggle even more than they have to. Of course guys need self control but we should work together with them to the best of our ability. Also I feel like when people wear more revealing clothes, it’s to attract the attention of others even if the intent is body positivity. I’m comfortable enough in my body to not feel like I have to prove to others that I am confident in it. Also ladies keep in mind that modesty varies from woman to woman. What my sister wears might be modest on her but when I wear it it becomes immodest, so that’s another thing to keep in mind.
Yes, because in the Bible, if a man lusts its the woman’s fault for making the man lust. I feel the same exact way
I’m the same way! It’s hard to even find clothes that fit my comfort level. I love what you said of not making guys struggle harder than they have to. That shows great compassion. I love your thought process. Continue to serve and love and respect!! God bless you man.
I can certainly agree on you with this, beautifully said sister!
totally my opinion! beautifully said!! 💕
Exactly! Well said.
This is gold ladies- when you advertise that your sexuality is the best thing about you, you will attract all the wrong “buyers”. Save yourself years of heartache and live in a way that attracts wholesome people to your life.
This was very eye opening, modesty starts in the heart and acknowledges community :)
@Tha Night if you believe modesty is a joke then that’s what you believe, being more modest is a conviction of mine please do respect that. God bless
@Tha Night thanks, im a female btw haha
You're a beautiful woman! This comment is awesome. Praise God, and God bless you!!!
Amen! 👏👏👏
True
Being modest is a beautiful thing, as a 18 year old young man, my friends(who are also in Christ) agree that there is nothing more attractive than a girl/woman who is wearing a non-sensual modest dress and/or something non-sexual, but it can really be anything that is not attention seeking like not wearing lipstick if you feel convicted to do so or not getting a certain hairdo, it may sound unromantic but there is something so pure about a woman who does not feel the need to showcase her body or who is not conformed to the way of the world but is instead changed by God’s renewal of her mind, so for any girls/woman who are modest, at just the right time a boy/man will be in your life and he will love you and encourage you, in such a way that you’ll be joyful that modesty was one of the ways that God has given you to glorify him. And the relationship will be 1000 times better if you were pure and waited for them, if you shared every bit of your intimacy with them alone. But even if you fall short, don’t be discouraged because God is a redeeming God who can use things planned for evil, for good. But this goes for guys as well, be as pure as possible making not practice of any sort of sensual or sexual immorality. But guys like my friend and I, who seek to acknowledge the Lord in all of our ways, who seek to cling to the wives of our youths and love them as we love ourselves, who have built their houses upon the rock of Christ, we are also the guys who will be patient, kind, loving, just, pure, lovely, humble, meek, and upright in all of our ways, and we will love you because Christ first loved us, we will love you because our love for you represents the love that God had for Israel and the love that Christ has for the church, and one of the reasons we would be with you would be because the first time we saw you, you were modest, you were pure. Seek after modesty in the hopes of not being a stumbling block to others(not to say that others aren’t responsible for their own actions even if there is a stumbling block) and seek after modesty to save guard your own purity. But also know that modest will attract those who have the same God-fearing mindset. So please never tire of doing good because we know that we serve a just God, who at just the right time will exalt you, and although guys like my friend and I are rare, so are girls like you, so we’ll find each other.
2 Corinthians 9:8- “And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things, at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work”
Romans 8:28- “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”
That is so encouraging. Thank you for sharing.
So encouraging! someone is cutting onions
I love this comment💜
This is so beautiful and encouraging!! Thank you for commenting this! 💕 This proves that good guys are out there!! 💪🏻
THAT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL 😭😭😭 May God bless you! God will bring all our partners at the right time
I’m naturally curvy and it’s so hard to to find modest videos for my body type . I can be fully covered and still looked at . I know that God is proud knowing that I am trying. I’ll work more on my character than trying to figure out if what I wear is modest or not . It doesn’t matter how much i try to wear something modest , if my heart posture is not right .
I have the same issue! I have found that wearing cardigans helps. Its hard in summer but there are certain cardigans that are more breathable and lightweight that work when it’s hot out.
@Tha Night you’re right on the first part, and that’s why we should be modest. Adam and Eve didn’t notice they were naked until they sinned, so now we should be more modest because people have sinful minds. That doesn’t mean what happened to someone is their fault because of what they were wearing though.
@Tha Night don’t try and justify sin, You never know someone’s actions or intentions of the reason why someone dresses the way they do. I myself am struggling with dressing better, you never know about the clothes that someone wears that makes a person sin. You do know after Adam and Eve ate from the tree they became in sin. And realized they were naked , us humans are not innocent anymore, after Adam and Eve ate from the tree it was all gone. Yes God made us naked but after they ate from the tree realize sin came in.
@Tha Night give me bible verses that support what you are saying because you cant .Jesus came in flesh to die for us. This is a fallen world.
@@crystalo9489 and what is sin exactly I'm so confused you said then sin came but what is sin?
I really appreciate this. Modesty is so much more than what people wear, it’s so much more than an amount of fabric. You can be immodest without any skin showing, you can be modest with more skin showing. And yes MODESTY IS NOT ONLY FOR GIRLS!! Thank you! Modesty is a mindset. The question you have to ask yourself is “am I glorifying God with this outfit, or is it getting in the way me glorifying God?” Not “am I showing to much skin?” Or “will people judge me for this?”
I think it does have a lot to do with preservation of yourself for your future husband or wife though!! Leaving as much unknown, only for your future spouse to see. But it definitely also reflects character, too. Like Alex said in this video, you it shows you have more to offer than good looks and sex appeal.
Exactly! 😊
Amen for this comment
Yessssaaa! And I know some people who attend church just to show off their clothes and complain about how everyone else is dressed down but that irks me. Like church is not a fashion show people
@@terrilynnb13 I have to disagree. It has nothing to do with any other person. Neither husband or wife. You shouldn’t be preserving yourself for anybody. Because you are a person and not a can of milk that needs to be preserved. You can’t go bad or rot or spoil because as long as you are alive the breath of God is still in you. So you are whole and wonderful. So the concept of preserving for, is trash. It’s just a talking point used by many pastors who talk out of their arses.
This morning I asked my husband what’s his favorite thing that I wear because I wanted to look nice for him on Father’s Day. He told me “I want you to wear your modesty. That’s my favorite”
Awww, he's a keeper💯
Wowsa....what a compliment to you as a wife
what a keeper girl! God bless you two !
I'm not a Christian, but this is a really clear and helpful definition of modesty that I never heard before. Thanks for sharing your insights.
I recommend watching other videos on this channel to explore Christianity more. Alex is a real Christian, a really good one, and he explains Christianity as it should be everywhere. I promise if you submit to Christ, you will be happier. True joy comes from God alone and you seem to be a respectful and reasonable person who could accept God. I wish you all the best.
He has awesome videos! Hopefully the more you watch the closer you’ll want to draw to Christ! He will give you a new life and you will live it more abundantly! ❤️✌🏾
10 months have past our dear friend and I believe God is still pursing you ☺️ I pray you take this comment as a confirmation that’s there’s a reason who have stumbled across a video of a humble God fearing man. That reason is not for the insight on modesty in general but that YOU are so valuable and loved by the Creator of the Universe take heart and know that God so loved you that He gave His one and only begotten Son up to die for you and all the things you may have ever done or gone through in this life!🤗 God bless you in Jesus name Amen!
I hope that over the course of the 10 months ago that you’ve watched this video that you are doing well and have got to know Christ more. I pray that you can see His love in your life. I wasn’t a Christian a few years ago, but Jesus rlly saved me and has given me love and joy that I never knew. I believe that this video came across your screen for a reason, and maybe it was to bring you closer to Jesus. May the Lord bless you, and have a wonderful day! 💞
I hope that over the course of the 10 months ago that you’ve watched this video that you are doing well and have got to know Christ more. I pray that you can see His love in your life. I wasn’t a Christian a few years ago, but Jesus rlly saved me and has given me love and joy that I never knew. I believe that this video came across your screen for a reason, and maybe it was to bring you closer to Jesus. May the Lord bless you, and have a wonderful day! 💞
"Modesty is the hands that protects the flame of intimacy." Such a powerful principle.
Lord help me to preserve my flame of sexual intimacy for my future wife. Forgive me if I my lack of moderation or boundaries may have been a stumbling block to your daughters in any form or fashion. Holy Spirit, grant me the wisdom and the discipline to not be excessive with my expressions or indulgent with my attractions. As I preserve myself I ask that You preserve my helpmate while were waiting to meet and Let my fire for the Lord be greater than any passion I have adopted from this world. In Jesus Name Amen
Amen Amen and Amen!
Amen
I encourage you to be modest for God, to live this way to be more like Christ.
Cause sometimes we don't aim to be righteous for God but to suppress our sexual nature until we find a spouse but that is not what God wants or expects of us. He wants a genuine change.
@@jasminespencer2872 thank you so much
Amen!!
that was beautiful! Amen! x100
you have helped me come over suicidal thoughts and lust
Thank you and may God bless your family.AMEN
God sent Amen
Amen you are loved by me by all of us and most importantly by God don’t listen to the lies of the devil Jesus loves you and will never leave you. You are amazing and beautiful, we all are. 😁✝️❤️
amen!! praise God!! lean in to Him and spend time with Him more, know Him for who He is, not who the world says He is, and you will never regret it. ohhh wow, you can never regret this ❤️
@@jcicrafters5724 ✝️❤️
Thank you Jesus!!!!!!!!!
I feel like dressing more modest is something God is tugging at my heart for me to do. It’s just a little tricky when you are a plus size or very very curvy girl. Sometimes I wear things that wouldn’t be immodest but can look that way cuz of my body. I feel like I’m going to start embarking on a journey of what modesty looks like for my body type. I believe modesty looks very different depending on your gender and body type. Therefore, find what types of outfit works for you. Because I know if I do the whole loose clothes or layering clothes that would make me feel and look bulky. And normally those are the types of outfits I have seen in modest fashion videos. But just food for thought... we need more conversation of different types of ways to dress modest.
Totally agree with you girl! Modesty through clothing looks different on everyone and varies person to person!
Yess!! I was thinking the same thing but didn't know how to describe it. Happy you were able to put it in words
@@liamino4358 Yessss! I noticed is not really talk about as much. Which is crazy because we are living in a society where thickness or curves are sexualize to the point where anything you wear people will say is inappropriate. Especially if you wear skinny jeans let’s say and you are curvy people might see that as not modest because it hugs your curves
So true. Some of these modest fashion are borderline boring and ugly. And when I look at myself and feel ugly I don't feel like I'm pleasing God. Everything God does is beautiful. So I've been looking into different cultures and ancient trends and adapting ways in which they dress because it is modest but very appealing to my eyes.
@@alliyahj.7341 yasssss exactly ! God doesn’t want us to look like a bum we can still dress modest and be cute and be creative with our outfits. We just need to make sure our outfits doesn’t cause someone to stumble.
“Modest is hottest” - my wife
I like that
I say that too! Lol amen
What you wear matters. Modesty matters. 1 Timothy 2:4 details how we should dress. Modestly and not attracting attention to yourself. Dressing I'm modestly or in expensive, elaborate hairdos draws undue attention to you. We are meant to be covered. That's in line with the Bible. Everything else is self justification, not Truth
@@starshine3141 The comment above answers your question, creeps won't stop but it'll stop others from doing so.
@@rebeccaloggs457 y'all waste so much time blaming women's existence for men's shortcomings instead of holding men accountable and not sexualizing the life out of women's mere existence, stop with this nonsense and wake up, and the fact that y'all only talk about modesty when it comes to women only as if men don't cause lust too is even more telling, misogyny is alive and thriving, y'all seem confused, I get y'all just wanna do the right thing but I don't think blaming women's existence for everything is a step in the right direction, more like a step back.
You have no idea how important this is for us gen z kids to hear. I don't usually comment on videos but I felt the need to this time to support you and what you're doing. God bless man you're really moving an entire generation closer to Christ
Hey Dwayne, could I as a brother in Christ ask you why it’s so important to here through your eyes ?
As a teenager, it can be discouraging to see the youth in this generation consumed with lust and immodesty, especially in my family, so this was really encouraging. The way you explained this was amazing, and I feel more equipped to help others who struggle with immodesty!!! Keep trusting in God, brothers and sisters and be encouraged (Philippians 2:1)
As a teen myself I completely agree
I don’t care for modesty
@@kianab1910 Jesus loves you!!!
@@tennehgarlimah6172 mmmm yes sky pappi😍😍 shoulders is a big no no😡😡
@@kianab1910 shoulders? huh? Also you can't fulfill yourself by being immodest it only takes away your respect for yourself, your dignity, and your purity. Whether you know or not God created you to be loved by him and to be obedient to him, so when you're not doing that you end up farther from God and farther from his love, joy peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (P.S. nothing can separate you from Gods love EVEN through trials but you CAN be far from receiving his love)
When you said that self-deprecating words are immodest, I felt that...
This video is highly appreciated. I do find it interesting that modesty's essence can remain in any age and culture when clothing styles change. But I'm so thankful to God that we can always find modest clothing (and attitudes) no matter which era and culture we live in.
amen!!! you’re so precious to Him Tobi, don’t ever forget that. He loves you so much, your value is Jesus. wow. He loves you
Me too! That struck me right in the heart because I am way too self deprecating. God definitely moved me to watch this video.
My parents taught me and my sisters to dress modestly. Modesty is attractive.
And oddly enough, there's a certain appeal to woman who dress modestly. Like there's something more to her than her clothes and figure
@Tha Night The word of God calls us to be modest. So if you think the idea is a joke, you don't have a problem with people as much as you have a problem with the Lord
@Tha Night 1 Timothy 2:9-10 "in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works."
@Tha Night and don't forget that after Adam and Eve sinned, they felt shame and covered themselves. So modesty was brought about because sin was introduced to the world
@Tha Night modest apparel is any items that you put on your body, from clothing to earrings to hair ornaments. Also no where in the letter does it imply that only in church should woman dress modestly. Since they are women of God everyday, Paul is saying they should present themselves as such always. And yes they felt shame but again, who made the clothes for them? Genesis 3:22 "Unto Adam and also to his wife did the Lord God make coats of skins and clothed them" Again, God brought in modesty because sin was introduced to humanity
@Tha Night I whole heartedly disagree with how you view the scriptures, I believe you are twisting God's Word to fit your world view rather than the other way around. But I see that neither of us are going to come to an agreement so I'll leave it at that. May the grace and wisdom of God abound in you and your family. Have a blessed day
I want to share my testimony in hopes it'll help women like me. Throughout my childhood, I was invisible. I mean, almost none of my peers knew my name. Whenever I tried to say something in a group, people kept talking like they hadn't heard me, so I just stopped trying. I was labeled "the quiet one" by everyone who knew me, even my family. Once when I was about 8, I almost drowned in a pond at a BBQ, and no one even noticed. That childhood developed in me a deeply-rooted core fear of never being *seen* or *known.*
Now, at 21, I'm a woman, and I "got my curves". I found I was blessed with a beautiful body; curvy hips and small waist, but I gain muscle really easily, so good muscular physique too. It was a major glow-up. All of a sudden, people noticed me -- and because of being invisible for so long, I didn't really care *why* they were noticing me, just that they were. It fed and satiated that fear of never being seen.
I was raised Christian, so I've never gone full-out Kardashian-dress, skin-tight everything and miniskirts and stuff. But in the last few months, I *have* been wearing crop tops as a favorite and very flattering outfit.
But God has been convicting me about it in just the last day or so, and your video helped even more! I knew deep down that I like wearing crop tops because I have a *nice* body, and I like feeling sexy and desirable, instead of invisible (especially to men; what girl isn't mortified by not even being given a single glance by *any men*?!)
God has been showing me that wanting to be seen and desired are NOT BAD things... but my heart still isn't in the right place.
*Your* video revealed another new thing to me: you pointed out that I'm not only causing MEN to stumble by being a tease with my clothing... I'm also making my fellow WOMEN stumble, because those who don't have the hourglass waist and abs that I do may fall into envy, which is just as bad! I had *never thought about that before.* If I wasn't convicted before, I am now. Sure, I like looking beautiful, but not at the detriment of literally *everyone* around me.
Wow we could be the same person 😂😂 one thing that really helped me was realising the same God who made the stars and the sunrise thinks that I am beautiful- and He would know. What do I need others' approval for when the one who is most important and most powerful already thinks I am enough? ❤️
@@iola-meyer I'm so happy that you found encouragement and kinship in my story! And yes, I agree, I feel confident in wearing modest clothing because God and I know I'm sexy -- that's enough for me!
Woah, that's amazing. God bless you!
I guess i still dont get it. Im not the type to be lustful or envious of other people...i could care less what people are wearing as long as its clean. I also have an hourglass figure and live in florida so im mainly in crop tops and shorts because i think theyre cute and sweat too much to wear anything else. Sometimes i get approached by men but why is that a problem? Im not interested in them and just act kind and have a normal human conversation. Im not going to hide the body God gave me just because i wasnt born ugly. Like really? I think what matters most is whats in my heart, mind, and actions. I dont act provocatively but im not going to hide myself either.
@Nat C well, if you're a Christian, then the reason is that just because *you* don't get lustful or envious thoughts about other people's beautiful bodies, doesn't mean that other people don't. The Bible takes causing others to stumble *very* seriously, so that's why we do too. 🙂
You may not think of showing off your body as provocative of any lustful thoughts, but if you think that, you should ask some men who will be honest with you. They are very visually-stimulated creatures, and it's really hard for them to not think any desirous thoughts when a beautiful woman shows off her body. And in the Bible we're commanded to be serious about helping our brothers (and sisters) not stumble in the purity and holiness of their thoughts.
Hope this helps clear up the confusion! 🙂🤍
Only thing I want to be dripped out in is the blood of the Lamb ❤️
Right!😄👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
AMEN TO THAT
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Amen😂😂
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I teach my daughter how to dress modestly. She is 12. My girls will understand how much it means to the Lord to dress modestly. God bless you brother.
Now this is what I call true parenting
God bless you
I see that I crave to be lusted over I have more to give then my body. Thank you for helping the kingdom you’ve opened my eyes
amen 🙏🏾
So I got saved by Christ over a year ago from my five year struggle with pornography and lust so I think that we have some similarities about fighting and facing pornography and lust so I probably just need prayers and tips for combating lust and thank you for your videos this was a good video God bless ✝️. :-).
i relate and it's so hard to overcome cuz it's everywhere
If the flesh comes and you ignore it don't act on it it will have no more power and will go away. Demonic stuff fears the name of Jesus Christ remember
Me too!!!!
I struggle with the same I was addicted to porn for years since I was a very young girl maybe 8 years old and than I decided I was going to be a lesbian and became a slave to it. GLORY BE TO THE MOST HIGH JESUS I AM FREE!! Now I get tempted much with lustful thoughts but what I learned personally , we have 2 lions inside of us one the flesh and one the spirit whichever you feed more will be stronger , when I am in the word and prayer and I go somewhere that's essential, and see many women dressed inappropriately I give no attention to it I have the strength, why because I have the armor of GOD ON ITS SO IMPORTANT TO SEEK THE LORD AND ASK HIM HOW TO APPLY HIS WORD IN OUR LIFE AND KNOW HOW THE ENEMY WORKS THE BIBLE SAYS MY PEOPLE PERISH FOR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE ( hosea 4:6) we need to be alert 📢 BE ENCOURAGED CONSTANTLY SUBMIT TO GOD IN PRAYER, FASTING , READING AND APPLYING GODS WORD TO YOUR LIFE!! KILL YOUR FLESH EVERYDAY ON THE CROSS! STAND STRONG DEPENDING ON GOD TO FIGHT YOUR BATTLES NOT YOURSELF AND THE DEVIL WILL FLEE!!!
This is going to be long, my apologies 🙏😂 I have also been a slave to pornography and only rece have I been set free, this helped me to get through it and I pray that it will help you guys as well-
Sexual sin is always deceptive, it always overpromises but ends up underdelivering, it takes and takes and takes and everytime you say that you let Satan win, your own vulgar lust will end up KILLING YOU, you are sinning against yourself it is HARMING YOU, it gradually makes you kill YOU, it allows your lust to kill you spiritually and eventually physically, temptation comes from our own desires that entice you and drag you away, you need God to change those desires, the only way to be enticed is if there is a seed of that already in you, there is always a root, pornography is rooted in some unhealed pain, ask God to help you understand that unhealed pain, get LIVING WATER, God will fill you up but He can't if you aren't living in truth, what pornography leads to is more dangerous than pornography, it leads to perversion and it is the gateway to you living a PERVERTED AND TWISTED LIFE, the path may seem right but ultimately it will lead to DEATH!! When you see pornography you give yourself a pre-vision from a pervert, then you give the enemy PERMISSION to plant sexual immoral thoughts and images into you head, God wants you to Choose LIFE because He gave you the answer to the test already all you have to do is choose the correct answer, which is LIFE! When you look at pornography then you give it provision, you made time for it, you start to devote yourself to pornography, learn to clothe yourself with Jesus and make NO PROVISION FOR SEXUAL IMMORALITY, remember that FLESH IS NEVER SATISFIED!!!! When you open the door to perversion then everything is fair game, Romans 1:25-35, God will abandon you to your sin if you refuse to listen and choose another path, when there is no vision the people PERISH but blessed is the one who keeps the instructions of the Lord, see YOURSELF AS PURE, I SEE MYSELF AS PURE, I WILL BE PORN FREE THIS YEAR, THIS MONTH, THIS WEEK, THIS DAY, THIS HOUR, THIS MINUTE, THIS SECOND, BIND THE THOUGHTS AND IMAGES THAT ARE NOT OF GOD, THIS WON'T BE EASY, YOU WALKED INTO IT SO NOW YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO WALK OUT OF IT, ( read this everyday) Amen
I’m 25 and this is the first time I’ve received understanding of Modesty. I never learned in church, school, and my parents never really taught me. So thank you for bringing this word.
This was DEFINITELY NOT done in vain. So good
I’ve been actively trying to stop looking at women, but the way they dress does actually make it difficult. My aim is self control, cause we can’t control other people or what they do. I’m pretty close to being totally free of having to look! Working on being okay with not being looked at by others lustfully, it was my main source of attention and “love” before Christ showed me real love. Thanks for the video!
I want to encourage you in this. I am a 29yo woman married to a man who is 2 years clean from a 15 year porn addiction. Praise God, He changes people and renews minds if that is your desire. It can be such a struggle. I see my husband struggle every day, and other people just do not make it easy. But the Bible says this life is NOT easy, and I think we all have our "thorn in the side" or "cross to bear." For some it is lost, for other drugs, and still for others it is greed or pride.
Anyways, I am passionate about men getting out of sexual sin and trying to live a pure life. Men walking with God and seeking His will changes things like marriages and Dads' impact on their kids' lives and friendships/Discipleship. Keep it up, and pray for the renewing of your mind.
In Christ.
You got this! 🙏
U got this man!! ❤
As I look for summer outfits I’ll keep this in mind. Thank you!
I have been asking God about this subject for a while now. And I get this notification :) God is so good he gave me the answers to the question that I have been seeking!!
I appreciate that you took a well-rounded approach to modesty not just applying it to women and young girls but to men and boys as well. Culturally modesty usually tends to lean towards the feminine side which causes a complete rejection of the topic.
I think it's a hard topic because this goes against a lot of our lifestyles and we don't like to be called out. Keep preaching the word brother!
i believe in "dress based on occasion" cuz we certainly cannot demand a person living in place with the highest temperature and tell them to cover themselves with sleeves or jacket. Same way as, if u swim with ur clothes (pants and shirt) cuz u will definitely look inappropriate, same way as dressing low skirts in a church where ure supposed to be formal. ykwim?? and immodest is not in wearing jewelries or looking rich or standing out. There's some people even if they wear just enough, bc of their presence they stand out. One more thing, even God wants us to look nice. Remember the book of Matthews, Jesus talked about how beautiful lilies are that not even solomon can look that glorious, how much more does God wants to clothe us better than lilies?? and even in heaven they wear gold and breastplates and definitely jewelries. But some religious will look at u as "not being humble" just bc u look good and its insane how Christians demonized most of the things these days.
Are you sure you watched the video and really listened to what he said? Like actually listened?
Have you noticed how people in the desert dress? They cannot be shirtless or even sleeveless because they will burn and/or become dehydrated quickly.
I believe that professed Christians judge...A LOT! The "church" isn't a social club, but an evangelical training facility.
I saw a Muslim woman wearing a hijab made from swimsuit material and I thought it was such an honorable thing to wear, and an honorable action as well. It just goes to show that the things we think are valuable (or we aren't really living if we don't wear them) is a distraction from the fact that life is temporary. Who are we really trying to impress? And who are we honoring?
Modesty definitely begins in the heart. 🙏🏼
Finally someone said it 🙏🏻
@Jenny Rlly Amen Sister! As a girl who absolutely loves fashion and almost thought about being a fashion designer there is no way being dressed to the nines and cute is immodest.
Modesty, is everything the guy in this video has mentioned.
But everyone needs to remember
“Modesty is not black and white.”
Modesty is a heart’s condition and a will to behave like a Princess of God and not flaunt yourself but care for others.
To live and forgive, as Christ has forgiven you.
But has everyone forgotten Proverbs 31? I think everyone should read that again. The woman is not plain, spiritually, emotionally, or outwardly. She makes clothes for the rich and wears purple herself. Meaning she dresses nicely. But her “dress” does not exceed her character. The color and beautiful clothes are a symbol of what she is. It is God’s gift to her. There is nothing wrong with being beautiful, and making oneself up.
There is everything wrong with thinking you must show off your body because that is all you have and that is all men care about.
But everyone interprets scripture differently, and I believe everyone has it in there heart to do the right thing. We are all God’s children.
But I don’t want anyone to think we have to give up playing with fashion to be modest.
It is fun, exciting and being in a beautiful outfit can make my day.
God finds joy in the art his children make ( I think ) would a father hate the painting his child gives him?
Don’t they hang it on there office wall and tell there friends and coworkers how proud they are?
Well fashion is artwork.
It is a poor self image, which causes lack of self esteem so one might dress themselves like a piece of meat instead of creating something lovely.
Just remember this: God looks on the heart, men look on the outward appearance.
But this goes both ways, does it not?
Tell me, if one woman or even a man, dressed in all their jewelry and purples robes helped someone in need while another much more “modest” person passed by, who do you think God is more pleased with?
Now I’m not saying you should go around looking sleazy and hanging everything out. But with dignity and a good heart, if you have a care for it, do present yourself as you how you are in your heart. A royal princess clothes in purple, and a true princess knows it is not the clothes that make her a Princess. But because it is her right, she dresses in fine clothes.
They have long swim dresses. I have a swim skirt and leggings. I still feel uncomfortable even in that and I am more covered than anyone at the pool. I am investing in a long shirt swimwear and a t-shirt swim wear.
Why was I just sorting my closet getting rid of my in modest clothes. God is always on time.
As a young teen, I've been starting to question what's modest and what's not. This helps a lot, thank you.
I lowkey realized that I wanted to lose weight for the wrong motivations, just bcause I'm not secure with my actual appearance. I should definitely work on that, bcause that is another way of being immodest. Thank you for this video :)
Try focusing on the health aspect of it.
I like to think about all the energy and strength my body will have instead of how I look.
"Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32). ... Knowing the truth, then, is knowing God in some degree. Daily study and prayer to understand Him better are the best means to this end. He is and knows only good.
Amen
@Tha Night don't make your brother commit sin or anyone
Protecting each other’s intimacy/future inimacy, beautiful, totally agree. Also, yes, we don’t always realize that people can see our level of authenticity, which is majority internal, not just external.
This was really helpful because I am a young singer who performs at a lot of different places, and one Element of performing is picking out an outfit. I’ve always struggled with this, because I’m blind, therefore I have to have visual aid when picking out clothing. When I tell people that I want to dress modestly fore a performance, they laugh at me, But this video has made me realize the importance of standing firm in what Scripture says about modesty. My body is a temple, and I want to represent the Lord and everything I do, that includes how I appear on the outside. I wonder if their viewpoint would change if I started talking about scripture when they pressure me into wearing revealing clothing.
Don’t know you but I’m proud of you, keep going!
This helped so much because I never really understood modesty and I always thought it was some sort of strict set of rule thanks Alex and glory be to God
This guy is AMAZING thank you so much lord for having him send your message🙏❤️
As a Gen Z female I also think it’s important to know what you’re comfortable with. You can be modest and comfortable in shorts and a tank top and modest and comfortable in jeans and a sweater. It’s all based on your own personal feelings and convictions. ( i live in Florida so half the time I do leave when it’s not the few weeks out of the year when it’s under 80 I’m in shorts and a t shirt.) I also think it’s important to remember modesty is not just what you wear but how you act and behave as well as your thoughts and soul. Not just oh I can’t wear a tank top but it’s not modest but wear what you wear so that you’re pleasing God and not the world of other Christians to judge you. At great example would be the Duggars. The were told that the girls had to wear long skirts and have long hair so they wouldn’t distract the man, and the men had to look away when they passed a woman in less modest clothing ( to their standards). They weren’t taught to control their thoughts and desires because even with all the modest arrangements Josh ( the eldest son) still SA several of his siblings, a babysitter, cheated on his wife, had a porn addiction as well as his recent charges which are so horrible I don’t want to get into. All while representing Christians and family values.
They didn't dress that way and have long hair because of modesty, it was because that's what the Bible says is pleasing to God. There are scriptures for both of those convictions. Josh's behavior is not because of being taught the wrong way, it was because of that sin came into his life and he kept choosing to allow that to speak into his life.
@@yousefalnuman69 agreed
@@yousefalnuman69 How are shorts and a tank top not modest?
Thank you! @Daelyn Branch
I agree with you completely. It’s good to finally see a comment that’s not negative towards clothing. It’s about the heart. Thank you.
The problem here is, people think they are the authority on modesty, but they are surely not.
I have watched the video, and all I see are a whole lot of comments that have absolutely nothing to do with it.
@ Naive Introductions69 you are forgetting a very important part of this video “Modesty is not black and white.”
Someone else said this too. C. S. Lewis.
As a Muslim girl I totally agree with you. May God bless you brother for spreading awareness 💕👏🏼
I wear hijab sometimes when going to church. It is respectful to cover the head , both men and women when in the presence of God.
Bro, you've helped me grow so much in just 5 days it doesn't make since 😇 God is truly using you! 🙏🏾
I Love u brother!!
Wow, I really appreciate this point of view! My mom raised me to be very modest but since her passing I've definitely gone through phases where I wasn't as modest. Looking back, I realized the times when I dressed the least modestly were the times when I felt the most insecure. It's like you said, that's just showing the world that's all we have to offer and that is scarily accurate of my mindset during my more immodest seasons, during which I was not only insecure about my body, but about my gifts, talents, and skills.
Right now, God is calling me to a season of singleness and I’ve since committed myself to Him during this time AND abstinence. So watching this has been EXTREMELY encouraging, empowering , and even energizing! Thank you for doing this even though it was a hard topic to cover! It is very appreciated!
📌Will you grab people's attention with hair and jewerly and sexy clothes or will your presence in the room be unmistakable because of your Christlike character?
C'mon. Hallelujah ♡
Both!
I'm a former sex worker. Lately I've been feeling shameful of my past. I recently deleted all the photos on my social media that is inappropriate. It wasn't so much about myself it was I literally didn't want do seduce or influence or cast immoral thoughts on another person's mind. I'm changing the way I dress and carry myself. I really needed to hear this
This is so powerful. When I was younger I was bullied for not being as pretty as other girls. My friends (at the time) always complemented my curvy body and told me I’ll be more attractive if I wore more ‘fitting’ clothes. I started doing that but I later realised that wearing immodest clothing was not making me more attractive, at least not to the right people. I started my modesty journey this year and I’ve never felt more free, comfortable and I’ve developed more self respect.
You describing modesty reminded me of my wife and just thought of how blessed I am. Thanks Alex :)
Your work in putting this together is timely, and exactly what we need today. The way you explained the immodest dress being one hand that comes off, “protecting the fire of intimacy” a book could be written on just that sentence. It’s such a beautiful expression of union between a husband and wife. Thank you.
Crazy how I was just thinking about this earlier scrolling through Instagram!
Same my boyfriend and I talked about this topic yesterday
I love how you explained and broke this down. This makes so much sense. And I like the point about how immodesty is not just about being practically naked. But also flaunting what you have - being fully dripped out, drawing attention to your looks or talent or money, etc.
This is probably one of the most eye opening sermons on modesty and the best explanation of it, this talks about one of the most normalized sins of today’s day and age and it really opened my eyes on the topic!
Wise words brother, before, women would never think to be outside without a bra and now it's seen as empowerment. I hope as Christians we will uphold the standards of the word to set an example.
Omg God is so good haha! Recently, I've been taking better care of my body and with that comes physical appearance alterations (such as a bit of weight loss). I'm feeling more confident and I'm grateful God has helped me along the way, however, I've been questioning if I should wear crop tops and all that jazz. I never have before and although I could now, I'm choosing not to. Before this small bit of weight loss, I knew I wanted to dress modestly (also to hide my body), but now, I want to dress modestly to respect both God and my future husband. I'm glad this was the very first video in my recommended. God always comes through, even in the little things like this. Thank you, God! And thank you, Alex. The messages you have to say are empowering and I love that they're backed up by scripture. Have an awesome day!
I once heard "the closer you are to Christ, the farther you are from culture" and that can be very real, especially with the way we express ourselves in our culture.
Love this!! Was literally talking to my friends about this, but they did not agree, I’m glad I stumbled upon this to be honest, it says so much. Thank you so much.
I love how you dissected this topic.
The Lord increases your wisdom.
So true
Fighting with all these struggles and I'm not alone, everyone's with each other.
You really put it into a deeper perspective,by choosing to be modest I let people know I have more to offer than what’s on the outside.I need to draw people in by my Christ-Like life instead of my external features.
I'm 19 years old, female. I've gone to a lot of classes on modesty throughout my years, and I've always enjoyed the discussion of finding the deeper meaning behind modesty. I think it's incredible important. I just what to say thank you for your time and effort into making this video, I felt very encourag watching it!
I love what was pointed out about having so much more to offer than what we have on. Thank you so much
Very well said “we have more to offer” and “we live in a community.”
“If you have no desire to avoid enticing others to sin…then you’re not a Christian. PREACH!
I heard this analogy once. Your body is like a gift for someone. You don't want to unwrap your gift for someone who it doesn't belong to. Or unwrap the gift for the right person before it is the right time. You are a gift, so treasure yourself and enjoy the anticipation and the surprise.
To see a man talking about this encourages my heart greatly. The way you discuss this touchy topic reminds me that we can speak with gentleness and peace, knowing we are worth more than just our bodies. We live to please the Lord.
Honestly, it can be hard not to overboard with a look that you love on yourself, but I like the way he says about helping others not to sin by, almost, leading by example 🧡🌸✨
This answered a lot of questions and thoughts that I’ve been having! Thank you !!!
When ever I watch your video I always learn something new, I never knew anything about MODESTY. But you made it understandable and something that’s very important to pay attention too
Thank you 🙏🏾
Sometimes, no matter how modestly you dress, men still lust...I used to shop in the boys section, and still got harrassed...I was 36-25-36, which...I hid so much...that when saw me in a dress, they gasped...some thought..I was fat and covering it up...
I was looking for this comment and yes your right men lust no matter what clothing we put on. I know that modesty is good but it doesn't still remove the amount of lust that people see on you. I am sorry for what happened in the men section. Your special no matter what 💖
@@noneofmybusiness1376
Thank You :)
Very true and that shouldn't be the intent for being modest.
It think if we took all the unrighteous embellishment and flipped the narrative, females will be able to understand and appreciate it more.
I like to think of it as this
I am attracted to muscular men, now if I was minding my business and out of nowhere I see a shirtless muscular guy 7/10 I am probably going to be tempted to lust and sometimes I may fall to it. However, I am trying and have been trying to have a pure view of guys, read scriptures to combat it, get advice, the whole works but lust is just a thorn in my side.
I would hope that if a guy knows this struggle of mine, would have compassion on me and avoid clothes that would reveal him like that.
Now it is still my responsibility to combat the mindset that has fueled this temptation but the efforts of the guy would help me fight and I should be very appreciative and remember that the sin is my fault.
So good pastor! Thank you for the more clear definition of modesty from a biblical view.🙌
You’re work is definitely not in vain. I grew up as a Christian but as time went on I slowly grew away from the church. Finding your channel has rekindled my love for Jesus and I throughly enjoy your videos!
Being reminded that modesty is kind not only towards others, but also towards ourselves is very encouraging. Thanks :)
This was so helpful to me! I'm a newborn believer and I've been feeling called to change the way I dress but this is the first time I've heard someone explain modesty like this. I appreciate your channel, blessings to you and your family
Wearing skimpy clothes will only attract creepy guys. Good decent men like their women classy and modest.
Yes definitely
Yeah no it’s not that simple. There are women who dressed modest and have still been attacked by creeps.
My problem with this is that you're blaming it on the woman. The problem is the creepy guys, not what the girl is wearing. No one should have to change their appearance FOR MEN.
Unfortunately sis , the reason God has required modesty of us is ac not about MEN. That’s not the main reason at all and it makes me sad that these cultural ideas are what pollutes people’s heads. This is why people don’t value modesty because people like to base it on invalid reasons like what men like . If a man loves you he’ll love you through anything and modest women are still subject to degrading and creepy behaviours of certain men . It’s really about knowing your self worth to the point where you don’t seek validation from others. Not leading others to mental sexual sin and as Christians we shouldn’t really be looking for attention through things of the such but through our kind behaviours .
@@maybe.yellow they should change for men and women. Cause of lust.
This is one of my favourite channels to follow! I've learned so much and still am learning. I'm so thankful to God that we have such platforms to connect with people virtually and be blessed by them and also be a blessing to them, even if you're from a totally different part of the world. Thank you Alex for your ministry, it's truly a blessing. I love the way you speak so openly and humbly and just as a friend. Your conversations are always seasoned with salt and full of grace! I love your whole family, even though I don't know you so well and I'll be praying for you. May many more people who hunger & thirst for righteousness, to be filled with the knowledge of the truth, be blessed by your ministry! Amen.
I am a Pastor and this was a breath of fresh air, keep up the good work, do the work of God and dont apologize
This really blessed me! I’m going through a season of isolation and to know that this video confirms may of my thoughts and feelings is refreshing !
I am praying for you! God bless you. Sending love ❤
Same here girl! Wishing you the best! 🙏🏻💞
I’m a teenage boy and I did actually need to see this. I recently got out of p0rn addiction so sometimes when I see how certain girls and women are dressed or I see certain images online I can get “flashbacks” to past p0rn sessions. It can be pretty tough not to stumble and fantasize or objectify people, and for a while I’ve been internally getting mad at women who dress or act a certain way. I get angry because they make me fear that I’ll fall back into p0rn.
Obviously, some women are actually immodest and ungodly, but others are perfectly fine and I was blaming them for no reason. Before I saw this video, I thought that lust could only be cause entirely by me or entirely by the person being lusted after. I think this helped me see a middle ground between the two.
So this video really helped me sort out my thoughts on modesty and lust and all that, so thanks and God bless.
Brother, this was such an encouraging word. So edifying and challenging.
What a refreshing message! It’s so important for us all to hear, especially those trying to raise up young women and men in a culture that misconstrues inappropriate dress for power.
8:19 bruh I started cracking up when he transitioned into a full stretch haha awesome video though much love
I’ve just entered a new season with a relationship with my friend and this video is such a fantastic reminder of what is and isn’t important in this relationship. Thank you very much, Alex.
Awe thanks man but I don’t like you like that............
@@Ransompie1 wrong friend 😑
Name twinnn ❤️❤️
Yes! I completely agree and my friend and I were talking about this the other day. One thing I really like that you said was that “We are not completely constricted to older cultures and what they wear, we are allowed to express ourselves but in a way that is healthy and humble” I grew up thinking that I had to dress more leaning to the older culture because my mom was very hard on us growing up with what we wore to church and our everyday lives sometimes. recently she has been showing me that I don’t need to be supper strick and that I don’t not need to dress like a little kid either but that I can dress nicely and more like my age but that I can’t be too revealing and to be mindful of what I wear, which is what she was been teaching me for almost 20 years now. I really related to that statement. Thanks for sharing with us
Congrats on 60k guys!! Y’all have helped so many people recently, including me ❤️
I agree with what Alex said. We can still be modest while wearing clothes that do t look bad. Thank you Jesus for using Alex to reach out to people
My brother breaking it down 💪🏽
I agree with everything you Said Brother Alex. ♥️ thank you and God bless you.
Amen! Reposting. Literally nothing more needs to be added. This was beautiful. ❤️✝️🌃
I had a conversation with my sister and we realized that we can't name a person who doesn't wear shorts or mini shirts (i don't live in country with crazy high temperatures) . I thought i was too strict about that but after this video and after reading this comments I'm happy because i know I'm on the right path. THANKS to you all
I’ve been wrestling with the definition of modesty recently, and then God puts this video as the first video on my timeline. God spoke through you directly to me and others, so all of your effort put into this video is definitely not wasted :) It was so informing and eye opening!
Amen! You did an amazing job explaining this! THANK YOU! This teaching was so needed!
This was 2 years old but I am so grateful for it. Im a bigger girl and i can admit that being insecure i have dressed in ways that would grab attention and even without me trying i get the wrong attention. I know im working on getting healthy and losing weight but i dont want that to change the fact i still need to be more aware of the attention i get, remembering that my value isnt my body my value is in Christ.
Modesty. What it IS: the hottest
Alisha Childers says modesty is a trigger word. She leads with "dignity" instead.
You put it so plainly and beautifully. Thank you for your videos !
Thank you so much for this message, it was very encouraging!!
Thank you alex, I’m kinda young so your words were kinda advance for me but the Holy Spirit took lead and helped me understand. I felt the spirit of God in my presence throughout the video so you did excellent🙏🏽. I love fashion if I have to be honest and I’ve never been the type of person to want to show off anything that appeals sexually. But I do love making outfits and getting noticed by how well I make the outfit. I don’t really think that’s a modest thing but it’s definitely prideful. This video taught me a lot. Being modest has never really been a problem for me, but what do I say to people around me who aren’t very modest with their appearance?
I try not to convince them with words, but actions. Show them that you can love yourself without boasting and gloating. Invite them to church with you and show them how happy people who do embrace modesty are. Showing, like Alex said , that you have more to offer than good looks. God bless u man!
Ain't we judging by what people choose to wear? Whether ppl dress modest or immodest?
He never said you have to judge other people. You could spread the word of the lord and lead people to the right path without judging them. Because it’s understandable why people live the way they do these days. It’s hard to live righteously when the world your surround by isn’t. With no example in life for what is good in a world surround by evil, u will know nothing but evil.
yeah this video is literally judging people who dress immodest. In the frist few seconds of the video he says that people who dress immodest are arrogant, prideful and self deprecating which is just not true. I hate that most christians make these assumptions about atheists and other people solely from the bible instead of getting to know the person or maybe ASKING the person. Instead, they'll assign all these character traits to people they don't even know only because their book describes them that way. You can be humble and not self deprecating AND dress immodest. It's NOT about wanting attention or other people to lust after you. This way of thinking is just ignorant and dangerous. It's literally the same logic all these victim blamers use when they say "a woman who dressed immodest wanted the attention in the first place, she WANTED to get lusted after, now she shouldn't be surprised that she got harassed". Like no, women. don't. dress. immodest. because. of. attention. Just leave women alone ffs. And it's so stupid to say that a woman who dresses immodest has nothing else to offer. Like bruh, I'm not the one reducing myself to my body, YOU ARE and the people who say that are. I HAVE a whole lot more to offer, it's ignorant of people to assume that people dress immodest cause they have no personality....There's so much more wrong about this video that I could point out but that was just a brief summary. I truly think this man isn't a bad person and that he's full of love but that is just brainwashing...
@@xletix69 LOUDER FOR EVERYONE TO HEAR! THANK YOU!
so touched. so so touched by this. thank you for having the courage to speak about this. modesty is something i have both felt passionate about and struggled with as i long to be accepted many times. thank you for this encouragement
Just saw a video tester where a guy was literally harassing a woman at the beach . Lol literally had a sign saying for women to be modest and that they need to repent . 😭 and I began to think about how God truly meant it to be ! Stumbled across your video and it honestly explained it just fine. Thank you so much for the enlightenment . In Jesus’ name , Amen 🙏🏾