As a stepmum myself, this absolutely angers me! I am an add on to the pre-existing family. Those girls are my children, even though they have their own mum. They were my children before I birthed my son and those girls will always be welcome in our home. I get that some stepmums get situations that they don’t necessarily sign up for, but ultimately you are signing up to those kids being in you and your partners life for life!!! There are so many toxic mum/stepmum groups where they just agree with all of the toxic BS the other mums/step mums come out with!!
yeah same here, i raised kids who are not my, it was my sister's kids, who ever had an issue with me spending time with kids who i got custody of, who i am raising, was gone just like that. who ever was not abel to undertand that my kids are number 1 priority, then comes them, then rest of my family, was gone so fast that door could slam them. also i always waited at least 6 months of dating to see how it will go, before introducing kids to that person, even thou kids knew i am seeing someone, also kids were always warned if any time anyone who i was dating in a time, comes to spend time with them, when i am not home and i did not inform the kids my date will come and wait for me, or that i am late from work or what ever, to call me imidiatly.. to me people who act like this, are narrsictis, control driven, manipulatiev and possesive. if you cant accept your partner children do not be with that person, find someone without a ''baggage''.... there is no sign up, if you date someone who is a parent, you did sign up for it. sorry but you did, you knew who you are dating.. btw i am speaking in general, not directly to you with the last statement about signing up..
@ to be fair that statement specifically was about mum having main custody and dad having visitation and then eventually getting full custody because the stepparent originally signed up for the visitation aspect, but I do agree that if things change then it should’ve been expected as a possibility when getting into a relationship with a parent
@@missaprilrose16 it does not matter who have custody, if you are dating a parent who is involved in their children's life, who is raising them, visitation rights parent also raises their kids, it is not important, you know the person is divorced and have one two 3 or hundred kids. you know it, you did sign up for anything what comes, ilness of that child, death, addiction what ever comes, you did sign up especialy after you married a parent, does not matter are kids at their place every 2 weeks, hollidays or once a year or 24/7... even if you dont marry a parent, you just dating them, what ever comes up with kids it affects the person you date, it affects then you two. thaz my opinion and every time i was with someone, at the start i said it loud and clear how things are. to avoid excatcly the situations like the one in video. i am generaly speaking again,
As a step mom as well, this saddens and angers me. I LONGED for the kind of relationship and love the SKs give this woman. I had nothing but drama and turmoil from my step kids and their mother... enough to take my marriage from the rocks to the very edge of the cliff. I'm glad I hung in there, but those years were absolutely miserable. I would check out step mom forums to see if any of that was normal, who was dealing with something similar, what could I do to alleviate things. The only thing that was there was toxic melodrama and down voting reasonable-ness to oblivion.
As a step mom I’ve been kicked out of too many groups for calling this behavior out 🙃 if you don’t want to be a bonus mom, don’t date someone with kids. She sucks and so many step parents do.
NOOO LIKE MISERY!!! It’s a thriller movie about this fan that “rescues” a writer from his car after he crashed in a snow storm. She ends up kiddnapping him and forcing him to write a better ending to her favorite book he writes. One of my favorite movies!
Unless she hid her horribleness from her husband, I’m not sure why parents jump into relationships with people who despise their kids. If your significant other can’t accept that your kids are part of the package deal, it’s a red flag and indicator to break it off. It should never get to marriage unless they are being deceptive with their intentions.
These people typically hide their true feelings until they groom their partner into doing what they want, or they think they can. His wife (not step mum that title is earned) was playing the long game!!!
If you meet someone with kids and you know deep down you can’t love them as your own and will judge everything a CHILD does, do everyone a favor and find someone else with no extra “baggage”. The amount of therapy I’ve gone through and money spent is unreal. I can’t stand people who can’t love and accept every innocent child they come across. Kids know when they’re not loved or treated the same as biological children and it does 100% change them..not always for the good. Here I am 20+ years later still putting up with it but I put my foot down and don’t let her get away with hateful comments and behavior especially towards my children who are not her biological grandchildren. If you have children of your own and get remarried the previous children should come first in a sense because they didn’t ask for a split family and they didn’t ask for a new one. They are equally important as your new wife and child. 🤷🏻♀️
When my dad and stepmom of 14 years broke up, she made it clear that she would never stop being a part of our lives. She wasn't a perfect step-mom (she is an alcoholic who only got sober a few years ago), but she was always there for us and has treated us like family since they got together when I was 7. When my dad was living on a friend's couch 6 months after the breakup and my mom was living in a new state that I had no interest moving to, my stepmom welcomed me to stay in my old room in her house for the summer before going back to college, and honestly, besides the fact that my dad wasn't there, it felt the exact same as before--I am still her step-kid. When I got a medical procedure this fall, she offered to pick me up after since I'd be out of it, and when our dog (the only child my dad and step-mom fully shared) was nearing the end of his life, my dad and I were the ones to go with her to the vet even tho she had both her sons and her mom living in her house. Hearing about this stepmother made me want to share my story, because even when mine had the perfect opportunity to cut me and my sibling out of her life, she still makes space, invites us to be a part of her life and wants to be in ours, all without trying to replace our mother, who is a massive part of both my and my sibling's lives. This is a reminder that not all stepmoms are evil.
I'm going through a separation and this IS my biggest fear for my kids. I would NEVER tolerate this behavior from a partner toward my children, they would be gone that day.
45:35 mark: To Kimberly Fine’s comment: I was the male seahorse 😆😂 I was like, “we-well damn…that was…that was very nice the way Sophia just read that poem.” 😆😂
Just a heads up, the Deaf and signing community, at least as far as those that I socialize with, dont sign Bullshit like that, and we usually laugh when hearing people do because its often a huge red flag that they only learned the swear words cause they thought it was funny. So its a reverse joke is on them situation lol. Sophia did pretty well assuming she only took a level 1 course. I love that you guys are talking about ASL and seeing Sophia do what she knows. Thats super cool.
I think the step mom is a terrible person. However, I will say as an amazing step mom to my daughter, it is not for the weak. You have to have some serious maternal instincts to take on a step child, let alone 3. Not every woman is cut out for it. This woman is evil for not telling her husband the truth.
Take it from someone who has been through this...the dad knows. She probably bitches about his kids all the time. That is what mine did and my dad didn't care. He just tuned her out. I was living with my father and he wanted me out of the house so bad, he bought me a small house.
Don't reflect your trauma and situation with the lives of others. The father of this story clearly didn't know, no one knew. There's a reason why he instantly ended the relationship
why is this SM acting like being with someone without kids from previous relationships is an option? but also the amount of energy it takes to be this evil is intense!
HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW WHAT THE 'MISERY' REFERENCE IS ??!! YOU NEED TO TAKE THE TIME TO FIND AND WATCH THAT MOVIE, BECAUSE THAT REFERENCE IS MADE FOR A LOT OF SITUATIONS, AND FOR YOU NOT TO KNOW WHAT IT IS, IS MONUMENTALLY LAME ! GO WATCH MISERY !!!
PLEASE tell me John has seen Dr Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, he absolutely reminded me of Capitan Hammer "I hate the homeless.......ness problem that plagues our city"
side note: props to OP's mom for letting her ex-husband and his kid from his second marriage stay with her what a mature grownup thing to do
If you don't want to be a stepmom or stepdad; then don't date or marry someone with children. Period.
They think they can groom their partner to leave the kids! It’s like a challenge for these people!
You know a subreddit is toxic when someone from the group tries to warn the SM to help cover her tracks.
As a stepmum myself, this absolutely angers me! I am an add on to the pre-existing family. Those girls are my children, even though they have their own mum. They were my children before I birthed my son and those girls will always be welcome in our home.
I get that some stepmums get situations that they don’t necessarily sign up for, but ultimately you are signing up to those kids being in you and your partners life for life!!!
There are so many toxic mum/stepmum groups where they just agree with all of the toxic BS the other mums/step mums come out with!!
yeah same here, i raised kids who are not my, it was my sister's kids, who ever had an issue with me spending time with kids who i got custody of, who i am raising, was gone just like that. who ever was not abel to undertand that my kids are number 1 priority, then comes them, then rest of my family, was gone so fast that door could slam them. also i always waited at least 6 months of dating to see how it will go, before introducing kids to that person, even thou kids knew i am seeing someone, also kids were always warned if any time anyone who i was dating in a time, comes to spend time with them, when i am not home and i did not inform the kids my date will come and wait for me, or that i am late from work or what ever, to call me imidiatly.. to me people who act like this, are narrsictis, control driven, manipulatiev and possesive. if you cant accept your partner children do not be with that person, find someone without a ''baggage''.... there is no sign up, if you date someone who is a parent, you did sign up for it. sorry but you did, you knew who you are dating.. btw i am speaking in general, not directly to you with the last statement about signing up..
@ to be fair that statement specifically was about mum having main custody and dad having visitation and then eventually getting full custody because the stepparent originally signed up for the visitation aspect, but I do agree that if things change then it should’ve been expected as a possibility when getting into a relationship with a parent
@@missaprilrose16 it does not matter who have custody, if you are dating a parent who is involved in their children's life, who is raising them, visitation rights parent also raises their kids, it is not important, you know the person is divorced and have one two 3 or hundred kids. you know it, you did sign up for anything what comes, ilness of that child, death, addiction what ever comes, you did sign up especialy after you married a parent, does not matter are kids at their place every 2 weeks, hollidays or once a year or 24/7... even if you dont marry a parent, you just dating them, what ever comes up with kids it affects the person you date, it affects then you two. thaz my opinion and every time i was with someone, at the start i said it loud and clear how things are. to avoid excatcly the situations like the one in video. i am generaly speaking again,
As a step mom as well, this saddens and angers me. I LONGED for the kind of relationship and love the SKs give this woman. I had nothing but drama and turmoil from my step kids and their mother... enough to take my marriage from the rocks to the very edge of the cliff. I'm glad I hung in there, but those years were absolutely miserable.
I would check out step mom forums to see if any of that was normal, who was dealing with something similar, what could I do to alleviate things. The only thing that was there was toxic melodrama and down voting reasonable-ness to oblivion.
They probably shouldn’t be with the dad if they don’t like their kids imo ..
As a step mom I’ve been kicked out of too many groups for calling this behavior out 🙃 if you don’t want to be a bonus mom, don’t date someone with kids. She sucks and so many step parents do.
I'm glad she exposed the stepmom to the dad. The level of duplicity of this SM is toxic AF.
5+ years, a marriage, a baby .....and she still doesn't consider them family?? Ops *not* the issue here
23:22 why couldn't stepmother just do it for dadddd 😂😂😂
Is there a subreddit called You’ve been caught Reddit handed? Where lying OPs get caught lying????
36:07 Riley shut Sophia down in the most adorable and complimentary way ever 😂❤
We were on a time crunch lmao - Riley
The husband should be the one most insulted. His now wife is portraying him as a barbarian with no moral compass.
NOOO LIKE MISERY!!! It’s a thriller movie about this fan that “rescues” a writer from his car after he crashed in a snow storm. She ends up kiddnapping him and forcing him to write a better ending to her favorite book he writes. One of my favorite movies!
It's actually a Steven King book made into a movie 😊. I highly recommend reading it since you like the movie 😊😊
Top tier Kathy Bates! That & Dolores Claiborne.
@@nataliepavlova14bg14Yes… if you like the hammer scene… the description of the axe scene is so much worse.
Young Kathy Bates, what a classic. I don't like the violence anymore so I can't watch it
As a newly divorced mother of 2, i pray they never have a step parent that's this much of a mind fuck.
I couldn't stay married to someone who hated my kid.
Sign language is fun. ASL is the form to speak in America. Also Sophia, you did a pretty good job.
We call it AUSLAN in Australia
Stepmom should remember that she and her kid coild end up in the same position as her stepkids ..... Seen as a nuisance and be hated
Unless she hid her horribleness from her husband, I’m not sure why parents jump into relationships with people who despise their kids. If your significant other can’t accept that your kids are part of the package deal, it’s a red flag and indicator to break it off. It should never get to marriage unless they are being deceptive with their intentions.
These people typically hide their true feelings until they groom their partner into doing what they want, or they think they can. His wife (not step mum that title is earned) was playing the long game!!!
If you meet someone with kids and you know deep down you can’t love them as your own and will judge everything a CHILD does, do everyone a favor and find someone else with no extra “baggage”. The amount of therapy I’ve gone through and money spent is unreal. I can’t stand people who can’t love and accept every innocent child they come across. Kids know when they’re not loved or treated the same as biological children and it does 100% change them..not always for the good. Here I am 20+ years later still putting up with it but I put my foot down and don’t let her get away with hateful comments and behavior especially towards my children who are not her biological grandchildren.
If you have children of your own and get remarried the previous children should come first in a sense because they didn’t ask for a split family and they didn’t ask for a new one. They are equally important as your new wife and child. 🤷🏻♀️
28:00 my mom also would've never allowed me to wear a bikini in front of my father and brother.
Sophia! I love you reading in Spanish! ❤❤
When my dad and stepmom of 14 years broke up, she made it clear that she would never stop being a part of our lives. She wasn't a perfect step-mom (she is an alcoholic who only got sober a few years ago), but she was always there for us and has treated us like family since they got together when I was 7. When my dad was living on a friend's couch 6 months after the breakup and my mom was living in a new state that I had no interest moving to, my stepmom welcomed me to stay in my old room in her house for the summer before going back to college, and honestly, besides the fact that my dad wasn't there, it felt the exact same as before--I am still her step-kid. When I got a medical procedure this fall, she offered to pick me up after since I'd be out of it, and when our dog (the only child my dad and step-mom fully shared) was nearing the end of his life, my dad and I were the ones to go with her to the vet even tho she had both her sons and her mom living in her house. Hearing about this stepmother made me want to share my story, because even when mine had the perfect opportunity to cut me and my sibling out of her life, she still makes space, invites us to be a part of her life and wants to be in ours, all without trying to replace our mother, who is a massive part of both my and my sibling's lives. This is a reminder that not all stepmoms are evil.
I'm going through a separation and this IS my biggest fear for my kids. I would NEVER tolerate this behavior from a partner toward my children, they would be gone that day.
45:35 mark:
To Kimberly Fine’s comment: I was the male seahorse 😆😂 I was like, “we-well damn…that was…that was very nice the way Sophia just read that poem.” 😆😂
Parents can’t kid nap unless there’s already a custody order
You frightened me with your Orc Cloud explanation.
When someone didn't watch "Misery" you lose all respect in him!
The world is full of evil step mothers.
I wonder if the first SM discouraged her toddler from learning sign language
Just a heads up, the Deaf and signing community, at least as far as those that I socialize with, dont sign Bullshit like that, and we usually laugh when hearing people do because its often a huge red flag that they only learned the swear words cause they thought it was funny. So its a reverse joke is on them situation lol. Sophia did pretty well assuming she only took a level 1 course. I love that you guys are talking about ASL and seeing Sophia do what she knows. Thats super cool.
Who are all these weirdos that don't hug their kids
SL is different in different languages btw. my friend had to learn english SL coz it is dofferent than his native one, when he moved abroad....
Dad should demand a paternity test as part of the divorce.
34:30 Narcissist don't change.
20:50 Good. I wanted bio mom to know. I would have suggested dad and bio mom at same time.
SM destroyed her marriage with lies but is going to spin it that her SDs ruined it
I think the step mom is a terrible person. However, I will say as an amazing step mom to my daughter, it is not for the weak. You have to have some serious maternal instincts to take on a step child, let alone 3. Not every woman is cut out for it. This woman is evil for not telling her husband the truth.
Id talk to my dad first just to get all the details for my siblings. Can’t go in with a half ass story!
Yo is this just my step mom as well wft😂
Ur dad is a pos if he stays with her. Having stepmoms like that is dangerous around ur family.
The Misery comment is about the movie Misery based off a Stephen King novel.
Everyone should at the bare minimum learn the sign language alphabet!
If you know the alphabet you can atleast communicate with deaf and or mute people!
46:35 Movie reference. Misery.
Take it from someone who has been through this...the dad knows. She probably bitches about his kids all the time. That is what mine did and my dad didn't care. He just tuned her out. I was living with my father and he wanted me out of the house so bad, he bought me a small house.
Don't reflect your trauma and situation with the lives of others. The father of this story clearly didn't know, no one knew. There's a reason why he instantly ended the relationship
The movie ‘Misery’ with Kathy Bates.
why is this SM acting like being with someone without kids from previous relationships is an option? but also the amount of energy it takes to be this evil is intense!
Step mom does not like the woman in his life smh
Me and my friends call it lieabetus but it’s a compulsive liar
What part of reddit are they on????
First story do it for dan 23:20
Awful stepmother.
SOME BRITH MOM's CAN BE JUST AS BAD TO THEIR KIDS. I KNOW, BIN THERE! JUST SOME PEOPLE SHOULD NEVER HAVE CHILDREN.
Step mom is abusive.
Misery scary Kathy Bates
You guys are severely annoying to listen to ! NEVER AGAIN ! SO MUCH DAMN BLABBING YOU INTERRUPT THE STORY 500 TIMES WITH STUPID FLAPPING BLABBER !
HOW DO YOU NOT KNOW WHAT THE 'MISERY' REFERENCE IS ??!! YOU NEED TO TAKE THE TIME TO FIND AND WATCH THAT MOVIE, BECAUSE THAT REFERENCE IS MADE FOR A LOT OF SITUATIONS, AND FOR YOU NOT TO KNOW WHAT IT IS, IS MONUMENTALLY LAME !
GO WATCH MISERY !!!
PLEASE tell me John has seen Dr Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, he absolutely reminded me of Capitan Hammer "I hate the homeless.......ness problem that plagues our city"
👨🦰🫶👩🦰
A bit unprofessional to eat during a podcast.