My Body Image Struggles In Pregnancy
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2022
- Hey Momo’s! I just want to say that I will be sharing actual numbers of where I started off weight wise and where I am now! If that is something that will effect you negatively, skip to minute 3:53 and I no longer talk numbers 😄. My hope is that this video will encourage you that you’re not alone in this health journey and you it’s okay go struggle a little. But we don’t have to let these negative thoughts overcome us! 💜
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Hey Momo's! So thankful for this community and how much encouragement you bring me! Drop a comment below on how you fight comparison! ❤️🙏🏼
i just limit social media. virtual reality is just tiring
Gained 47 pounds in my pregnancy but I struggled with an eating disorder for four years prior so I was so proud of myself for nourishing my body and my baby. My doctors didn’t mention anything about the weight gain and blood tests and blood pressure were all perfect
That sounds super healthy! I gained 50. Doctors will tell you that you should only gain 25-30, but that’s not how it is for everybody. I ate relatively healthy during my pregnancy and was somewhat active in the first half at least. I know my body gained what it needed for my baby to be healthy and she was/is super healthy!
I feel like it makes women feel worse when doctors put a limit on how much they should weigh while growing a human.
Body Image struggles consume wayyy to much of my time, and I think social media is a large reason why. I am terrified to get pregnant someday... eek, but also excited. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. It's good to know that I'm not alone in that struggle.
I just gave birth a few days ago and I got the shock of my life when I blew up like a balloon with postpartum edema. Before giving birth, I was really happy with my weight gain and now I'm staring in the mirror like, "what happened!". I'm thankful that my body brought my baby into this world and believing God that the discomfort from the edema will subside soon.
Congratulations! Feels unreal doesn’t it?? That’s another one of those things it seems like no one tells you or talks about 🤍 I couldn’t believe how swollen I was for weeks after I had my son. Postpartum is a journey in and of itself when it comes to body image but baby snuggles are an awesome remedy haha
I had the EXACT numbers as you-- starting at 125ish, seeing 140 on the scale for the first time, and getting up to 158 toward the end of pregnancy. I didn't think I'd ever be my "normal size" again, but at 6 months post partum, I weigh less than I did to begin with. It can shed pretty easily for some people. But don't fixate on it! Your body is GROWING A HUMAN! You look great. ☺️
I so appreciate your candidness in talking about this! 🙌🏼 I’m 35 weeks pregnant and I can so relate to going on Instagram and looking at all the girls I’ve followed that have ever been pregnant so I can compare my belly size to theirs at whatever week 😅 It got to be a super unhealthy habit and also made me so sad because I always thought I’d just love having a big pregnant belly.
When I woke up one morning before a midwife appointment and realized I was dreading going because I didn’t want to see the number on the scale, I had this realization that there’s really no reason for me to see it at all. My midwife would tell me if there’s an issue, and if I’m eating well and being active and treating my body right, I can trust that it’s doing what it needs to do to make a healthy baby. And so ever since then I just don’t look. It sounds almost silly but WOW the freedom it has given me! I literally felt like I was released from this mental jail of obsessing about a number every time I thought about eating a treat. I still have days when I struggle, but having no idea how much weight I’ve gained has been a complete game changer and something I’d totally recommend to anyone struggling!
I’m so near the end now that I’m just starting to care less and less and just feel like yep I’m super pregnant, obviously I’m big, who cares 🤣 it’s been nice to feel like I can embrace it more
I love your perspective on taking care of our bodies as women, especially when carrying a child. So important for our baby and ourselves 🙏🏼 Your bump is beautiful! 💕
Your so beautiful Morgan and pregnancy looks good on you! Enjoy this time and don't take to heart what people may say. Even tho I'm not going thru pregnancy right now, this has helped me in knowing that what I'm praying for may not always be what I've prayed for so I need to just be patient in the waiting and rejoice when others are walking in their answered prayers. So happy for you!💙
I gained 40 lbs during my pregnancy but then within the first month postpartum I lost all that plus some without even trying to diet or workout. Remember, some of that weight is the placenta, extra blood, water retention, the baby! Plus breastfeeding burns 500 extra calories 🙏 and also the first two weeks I didn’t have time to snack so I just ate whenever I had the chance but I usually chose sleep over eating sometimes lol
This was really open and honest of you to put out there and I hope it helps many people! However I do really hope you’re not too hard on yourself, having a child is a huge change in your life and so ofc your body will change. I’ve told myself the same thing as I’ve gotten older and just dealt with changes in my body from growth and events in my life. It’s really hard not to compare yourself to other but somehow it’s even harder to not compare to my past self. I hope you’re doing well 💜
I appreciate that you at least tried to put a TW to skip ahead… but at 3:53 you’re still definitely talking about numbers in a way that could trigger ED. I’m not sure what was skipped over because you immediately mentioned your weight again.
Was just about to say this! A more accurate timestamp is 5:30
Yep, timestamp is wrong!
As amazing as pregnancy is, you just don’t feel like yourself. From morning sickness to being huge and uncomfortable… then postpartum 😅 oh man. I swear after my son was born last September, I had moments of considering only having one child after how rough pregnancy, birth, and post partum was… but now 9 months later I’m ready to do it again 😄
I loved my body during pregnancy. Watching it grow, the stretch marks, everything. But after has been a hard road. 😕 somehow without a baby in there i feel like my stretch marks and stretched tummy doesn't hold the same "value" 😞
I loved this! Praying for your little babe
My first pregnancy, I was 115 lbs when I got pregnant and gave birth at 165 lbs.
Currently 21 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and am at 148. Keeping a conscious effort to try and keep my weight under control.
My dad the other day told me when I'm done with this pregnancy I'm gonna be "chubsy ubsy" and it really hurt. And my mil commented on my weight when she saw me the other day and it really hurt. People need to keep their comments about pregnant bodies to themselves.
It's one thing to say "wow you're showing, it's going by so fast!" And another to intentionally make you feel fat when you're trying so hard to keep it under control.
You’re growing a human. Do they expect you to stay 115 pounds? People are something else 😕
im so proud of your inner strength ❤️💗💗Your doing great! Love you girl ❤️❤️💗Stay calm and enjoy every step of this journey 🙏
Brave for sharing and being so transparent and vulnerable! I struggled big time with this both pregnancies. The first time my body image issued did effect the health of my growing baby. The second time, though I mentally struggled still, I let my body lead the way. I ate way more but that’s what my body wanted. Lots and lots of protein and healthy fat. I felt like I was eating like two grown men! The awesome thing is… my second pregnancy could not have been healthier, my baby was more naturally and quickly with zero interventions, had amazing apgar scores, great eater, and my body is healing gradually but wonderfully now 5 weeks later. God designed each individual body to be intuitive about what it needs for healthy mom and baby. Don’t let satan ruin this dream of yours. Fight back. Never stop fighting. I regret every moment I wasted during both pregnancies being scared of food and weight gain and calories, whatever. When you’re baby is here, you realize all that matters is how awesome God is.
This was so good! I love your perspective Morgan.
You’re literally so cute pregnant!🥰 Thanks so much for sharing about your struggles with body image in pregnancy. Online you seem so confident in your body all the time, I never would have guessed it. I have so many insecurities about my body. Bad, painful acne, always having a bit of a tummy no matter what I eat, the list goes on! Not only do I feel badly about myself because of my insecurities, but when I see so many women confident about everything, I feel even more like I’m failing even in my attitude! Though I certainly don’t wish it on you, thanks for being vocal so some of us don’t feel so alone!🥲💖💖💖
Like you, I found myself comparing my belly size to women who were close in weeks to me. For me it was more like “why are they bigger than me? Is something wrong” and then I got to about 30 weeks and I started gaining more faster. I gained what was needed for my baby to be healthy. But it was kind of hurtful when people at my baby shower made comments about how big I was and that she was going to be a 10 pound baby (she wasn’t).
Overall in my pregnancy I felt more confident in my body than I did pre pregnancy. However, these past 9 months postpartum I’ve struggled more with body image. It’s rough especially when you’re a busy mama. I just had surgery but once I’m healed I finally feel ready to go for it when it comes to getting in the healthiest shape I can before I ever get pregnant again.
There are so many emotions within pregnancy and postpartum. Your feelings are valid. Embracing the changes is so important too.
I've struggled with my weight my entire adult life and I've made some really great gains. And now I'm having to accept that I am going to get up to a weight I never wanted to reach again for the sake of our baby. And I'm so so grateful to finally be having a baby. But I am still really struggling emotionally with the weight gain.
I think your approach about focusing on the healthiest way to nourish your little boy is the best. Best for both of your physical health and your mental health, I'm sure.
Thanks for being open and honest. This was really informative,
I just wanna say you’re beautiful and you look very beautiful pregnant. I can’t believe it’s been that long already! So excited for you and Paul 😭 I’ll keep y’all in my prayers 💜💜
Like you mentioned, social media is influencing a lot and letting us fall into a trap of comparison. For me, it is the opposite of gaining weight: I lost about 12pounds in my first trimester due to hyperemesis being still tall(5‘10) and thin in my second trimester. People won‘t assume I am pregnant and I am worrying a lot about babys health (even that my doctor is checking on us a lot). At the same time, I am weak like a granny (no offense) and can just dream of being able to work out and prepare my body for labour. Now, I am learning to fully rely on Gods strength and be patient with myself and my body. Our journey as pregnant women might be different, but in the end, we want to praise the Lord for blessing our wombs with such a miracle and letting us become mothers 🙏🏽💃🏼☺️
It’s crazy, I am due the same day as you and I have gained about 17 pounds but I LOOK like I’m 40 weeks. People keep asking me if I’m due this month so I look huge 😂 it truly just shows how differently our bodies store everything while pregnant! There truly isn’t a normal.
This is some really good stuff! You have a beautiful perspective & I haven't struggled at all really with body image stuff (going on 14 weeks right now and looking like I'm halfway through haha!) But midwife just told me I only gained a pound in first trimester so not sure why I look like a balloon, but I love seeing the evidence of the life growing inside me and I love having a baby bump!!! The words you spoke and thoughts you had in this video though were empowering to hear, and it brings my heart joy to know that you are being reminded that this is a season of gratitude in the Lord!!
I have had a handful of family wondering already if there are twins in there haha! It doesn't bother me... It's fun to wonder if there could be two! I sometimes worry about why I seem so huge when I only gained a pound but I'm trusting in these insane changes that happen to carry a little one
There is truth to never getting your body back . Your body will never be the same after a pregnancy . Stretch marks , lose skin even after losing the weight . Wider hips even after losing the weight . I think woman mean it in that sense that you will never get it back o how it was . Even after losing weight and weighing the least amount of weight . I had to learn this with my first . I lost the weight but the damage done on my tummy sling was bad . I had to get a tummy tuck . Not to mention the stretch marks all over my body . Not even a tummy tuck took mine .
I’m not trying to scare anyone , just a heads up . I had to work a lot on myself to realize nope my body won’t ever be the same but it was all so so worth it and I’d give up my body as a living sacrifice all over again to have my babies . I now have 4 kids and after the first one you get over the body issues and you just embrace it .
You have such a great, Godly perspective about this!
Pregnancy is a beautiful time!
Enjoy Morgan and every pregnant women out there. The weight will go down . Now worries! Trying to walk and eating healthy will help go back !
I really enjoy this video I’m only in the first trimester and I compare ALL THE TIME to other people and it’s so hard I have to start putting a limit on the apps or something. Thank you 🙏
I'm not even pregnant yet but I'm really struggling with body image. The busy-ness of life prevents me from eating as healthy as I want to, but I'm hoping that changes soon. After college my metabolism slowed from a rapid river to molasses & I gained at least 50-60lbs. Wanting to get my stomach flatter so I can even see a belly bump progression from the beginning has been a struggle 😞 not planning on trying for a baby until next year but finding exercise & nutrition that actually works with a full time job suuuuccckkksssss. All that to say you are beautiful & are doing great girl 🤍 we can do this 💪🏼
Love your videos :)
I will be praying for you 🙏🏼
Keep up the great work, what you do is amazing!!
Question I am Catholic and my husband is saying carry my Cross, I’m having a very difficult pregnancy… It feels offensive to me when he says that. He says I don’t know the true meaning of that statement. He’s not vomiting 24 hours straight… What do I do?
I would bring this up with him present at your next doctor/midwife appointment, or with your priest. This sounds like he's trying to help but you need an objective third party to help him understand how to best care for you right now. I'm Catholic too btw ;)
100% recommend avoiding comparison in life in general you will be more secure in yourself and in the person God made you to be, God is in control of it all you can gain whatever and still be beautiful!! Comparison steals joy away, just shift your focus on you and what you are doing or not doing! It’s really hard really really hard but staying away from social media helped me a lot I left it for like 10 weeks cold turkey and it was the most peaceful I have ever felt
Yessss this is so good! I love the honesty. I think everyone expects us to just be so thankful for our baby that we never notice or talk about any of the struggles, but some struggles do still exist! I can’t tell you how often I’ve looked up other pregnant women on social media to compare my size to them, when we were the same number of weeks🤦🏻♀️ Lol its so temporary though, and before we know it, our babies will be in our arms! And then at that point, we can ease up on the fudge rounds🤣
1st pregnancy body image didnt affect me much, at the end of that pregnancy it was weird to hit a number i never thought I would see... but it wasnt abnormal.
2nd pregnancy(current) I didnt get back to my prepregnancy weight yet... so ive been a lot more insecure this time around. I have been keeping up with my workouts and trying to ignore the random hurtful comments. Also two years ago I was in the same position now... and I am looking thee exact same when seeing memories pop up.
Learning all women are different in pregnancies and exactly what Morgan said about we are helping to create a little human being, striving for health... nothing else matters 🤰🙌💜
It’s funny because having been pregnant twice, I had wildly different experiences in weight and how I carried the baby. First pregnancy I would get “You’re so small! What a tiny belly!! You barely show at all, it makes me want to punch you in the face.”
And with my second baby it was “You’re huge!! You’re as big as a house!! You’re so big for how many weeks you are.” I don’t know what gets into people when you start having kids and become a mom, but they really just say whatever they want. It’s weird. 😅
I started at 154 and gained close to 32lbs during mine, my sister was bigger and gained only 12lbs, my super slim friend gained close to 45… I personally think if your eating healthily and in moderation things that are not ideal then your body will gain what it needs to to sustain the growth of your baby and to keep your body nourished! Our bodies are very intelligent if you put good into and it holds onto it then it’s for a good reason 💕💕💕
Also listening to your cravings is improving sometimes it’s something inside the food that your body really needs like magnesium or folic acid or something it’s wild how intelligent our bodies are 🥰🥰🥰
I gained 40lbs my whole pregnancy. But I lost all of it plus an extra 20lbs afterwards
All the joys of being pregnant. ❣️
This was great! I love your authenticity, your focus on balance, and your insight on the work God does in us through painful or challenging seasons. God has used motherhood to grow and change me in marvelous ways. Blessings to you, hubs, and sweet baby boy!! You are beautiful!! ❤️
Your weight gain is definitely appropriate!
If you’re above average height, your starting BMI was low end of normal anyways. The recommended weight gain charts always point to a tendency to put on more weight when BMI is lower. Plus if you’re tall, the weight has more ‘length’ to distribute itself over!
I keep reminding myself that if im staying active and fuelling well, I am creating a safe environment for my body to keep stress low and set myself up for a better breastfeeding and postpartum journey.
Loved this topic and how you gave specific numbers! Lots of girls don’t talk about it, but I get curious but of course am not going to just go ahead and ask! 😁
Every body and every pregnancy is different. This is my second pregnancy. My first one, I gained 55+ lbs total. And gained so much in my first trimester and it just consistently kept going up. This second pregnancy, I didn't gain anything first trimester. I am now in my 4th month of pregnancy and I have only gained 6lbs so far. My two pregnancies have been sooo drastically different from each other. Just give your body what it needs, try to make good choices with the bad cravings, and let your body do it's thing.
There are many variables when it comes to pregnancy growth, as well as weight reduction after birth. My body completely changed during my first two weeks, and no mother or book I consulted ever dealt with something that dramatic that quickly. There were other symptoms I experienced that also weren't covered in pregnancy books. Hormonal shifts can cause many different reactions, some of which can make us scratch our heads, like a crusty line forming in the center of the tummy and other areas. I gained exactly thirty pounds with each pregnancy, almost exclusively in the abdominal region. I Loved being pregnant, especially feeling her move, but the growth was shocking, and I felt huge. These days, however, I would Love to be 145 pounds again (well, about 133), but I am heavier than I was at nine months pregnant, even though I don't look pregnant. It's so strange to have different perspectives on it. Another thing is that pre-pregnancy weight can often (but not always) be achieved, yet the pregnancy, labor, and delivery (and breastfeeding preparation and practice) does alter aspects of the body forever, such as widening the pelvis to allow birth to safely occur, and that is perfectly fine. It's just another beautiful feature God includes in us that make up who we are. Pregnancy is special, beautiful, miraculous, and wonderful. You are right to say to enjoy every minute.
When my grandma was pregnant with my mom, my grandma lost OVER 60 pounds. Yes... LOST! She was so sick and her doctor kept telling her to abort the baby, she didn't and she had a healthy baby in the end. My mom was very sick afterwards like in hers 40s and up .. we are unsure if that had to do with all those complications from my grandma, some think it had something to do with it and unfortunately my mom passed away 4 years ago but its crazy to think someone can lost THAT much weight while being pregnant.
I agree with you Morgan , I think when we are pregnant we are not suppose to indulge in just anything or just junk ! Ofcourse we should eat a bit more for the baby but make healthy choices it’s okay to have a donut 🍩 or two here and there but being healthy is very important specially pregnant because I have seen women who use pregnancy as an excuse to just eat everything and anything I was like that too 😂 but honestly your doing good by making healthy choices for you and your pregnancy because it will affect the baby
I got pregnant at 19 had my baby at 20 my problem was the weight after pregnancy. I lost all the weight I had gained in a week after having the baby which was around 30 pounds. After about 6 months I gained it all back. My baby wasn’t sleeping. Then when she did sleep she’d continually wake every hour and a half and it would take her 20 minutes to eat, 10 minutes of burping and holding, then diaper change for a few minutes, rocking, taking her in and out of the bassinet because she wouldn’t sleep in it and would just cry. I would have like 10 more minutes of sleep before she wanted to eat again lol the first 3 months. I felt a lot less sleep deprived after 9 months of her constantly waking. She only gets up once at night now and she is 12 months old. The weight gain was from being sleep deprived and not having time to exercise and being exausted all the time literally starves your body. I’m so glad I didn’t have twins or other kids in the house because it would’ve been hell I’d get a lot less sleep. I’m also like 175 pounds 🤣
I ate a lot in pregnancy! I was very hungry, and gained a fair bit, I have a history with anorexia so was surprised how my mindset shifted to eating for my baby. I gave birth prematurely so never made it to the third trimester, so my bump and baby were small. I was shocked at how quickly my bump disappeared though, I was fitting into my normal clothes and my normal weight within a month.
I've always been athletic, never overweight, have great self control when it comes to eating healthy and exercising but even maintaining all this during pregnancy, I gained 50 lbs. Splurging for me on a hungry day was an extra piece of whole wheat bread with peanut butter. Meanwhile other women were fully doing milkshakes and french fries "eating for two" and only gaining 30 lbs. My OBGYN, who was so chill and amazing reassured me I was healthy and that my body was doing what it needed to grow a healthy baby and get my body ready to produce milk. (Also, some women start their pregnancy underweight, which I did, and our bodies will make up for that to make sure baby is healthy.) She said she'd let me know if she was concerned about my weight. I didn't look overweight, not sure where all those pounds went on my petite 5' 5" frame but they were there! Anyway, gave birth via c-section bc girly was frank breech. Healthy 6.5 lb. baby, great milk production, and weight dropped off like melted butter once baby was out and nursing. Six years later and I'm about 7lbs. heavier than before pregnancy, but my body seems to think this is a good weight and so does my doctor. That's just how my body reacts to pregnancy. Like you said, every woman is different. But if we're truly being healthy and safe, I think our bodies know what they need to do.
hey I gained 39lbs with my first and I was just on the line of being overweight at the start ( I had preeclampsia which made me really nice full of fluid) and then not long after I dropped all of it from breastfeeding and ended up being 13 lbs lighter than my prepregnancy weight. As soon as breastfeeding tapered off I gained back 16 ish so I was right back where I started. Then with my second I am 36 weeks and have so far gained 22 pounds but like I said started just above overweight. I probably will gain 25 in the end barring I don't get preeclampsia again
Something I think so many people forget is that the majority of the weight is baby, uterus, placenta, fluid, not to mention all the extra blood and water volume in your body when pregnant. Less of it is actually "you" gain than people think. It makes me feel better at least when I keep reminding myself of that. Makes sense! And so much of it you will lose postpartum especially if you're breastfeeding exclusively
Dealing with pregnancy body image is so hard. But I try not to let the comments get to me about my body. Had an older lady at church tell me she had dresses like I was wearing but would never wear them outside the house but it was fine that I was doing it cause I have an excuse to look fat :)
great talk! i thought the same thing - i gained at least 50lbs and i managed to get back into all my clothes - but it takes hard work, consistency & dont give up when it seems like its not happening fast enough! might take 6months etc...
Any kind of talk about weight is always dependent on your body composition and every woman is different. I am a lifter so I have always been heavier but I do not look it. I am 5'3 and I havent been 125 since I was in 9th grade and my weight when I got pregnant was 170lbs. I am currently 165lbs and I am 14 weeks pregnant. Im just guessing that my body already has a lot of that weight and is now just replacing it with the baby haha. Im sure I will reach just under 200lbs and im noy incredibly worried because as long as you live a healthy lifestyle and have a good amount of muscle on your body and high number on the scale is out the window because you are doing good regardless.
hey girl. post partum right here ✋ I'm back to pre pregnancy weight but it's funny how i don't care... my baby loves my body. my arms hold him when he cries. my hands change his stinky diapers. my breasts feed him. my belly is a gentle place to lay on while he naps. it's an incredible journey, I'm a first time mom and you'll see soon enough how you're meeting yourself for the first time as a mom, as well as your new baby boy ❣️ enjoy every moment, even the hard ones where you cry. push on girl!!! 💕 also, I had two songs stuck in my head the whole time in labor, delivery, and recovery. a little tip!
ps I'm sure you can find healthy donut recipes and enjoy it guilt free lol!
How tall are you?
5’8 😊
I so much want have a baby one-day, but I am really scared to gain excess weight during the process.
I think you look exactly the same!
The stink face you made at the train 😂😂
I think it’s average to gain 15-35 pounds during pregnancy. Of course smaller women are supposed to gain more. Larger women are expected to gain 15 or less for health reasons.
I gained 65 with my 1st; 20 with my 2nd and I refused to look at the scale with the 3rd. Unfortunately I still have 50 pounds of weight that I haven’t lost to get back to my pre-mom weight.
My mom uses to say "ooh there you are fatty!!" When I was pregnant. In a 'funny' way but damn... Why 🙃
Can a woman still have a healthy pregnancy in her 30s and do y’all think it’s a blessing? I might be 32 or so when I have a baby
I’m 34 and currently pregnant. God encourages me in His word that this is a miracle. And it will be for you too love 💕
Over skewed body image - We have overcome by the blood of the Lamb🎶
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Thanks for being so transparent 🤍 I think it really helps to hear from other women because it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking we’re alone in our experiences. My son is turning ONE in a MONTH 😭 which is wild to me- and I haven’t lost all of my pregnancy weight which has been a battle. BUT we also ran into a lot of things that I never anticipated and I’ve had to give myself a lot of grace. I’m one that actually held onto weight while breastfeeding 🤷🏻♀️ and it also didn’t help that there were months of times where I felt like all we did was breastfeed and contact nap which really hindered my activity level. There’s so many things that are hard to anticipate but you just look to the Lord and ask “what are you teaching me and where might I be resisting?” Motherhood is so, SO sanctifying and such a gift. I feel that women have such a privilege that we get to experience pregnancy and motherhood, but it is also challenging 🤍
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, we hear you and see you!