Black Men Are The Hardest To Date…
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- Black Men Are The Hardest To Date…. Here’s Why #datingadviceforblackwomen #blackgirldating #blackwomendatingtips #singleblackfemale #singleblackwoman #blackfemininity #femininityforblackwomen #bbwdating #bbwdatingproblems
Black men making $100k have the egos of millionaires, they are in their 40s 50s and 60s and still playing the field and want no commitment.
Im not sure if I'll ever remarry, but if I do, my heart will be open for a good man.
I love black men, i would prefer black men, but my nervous system cant handle the BS. ❤
But isn't that a good thing? Why should they settle down if they are not into marriage?
It’s an ego thing. There’s nothing wrong with not settling down but I’ve encountered many of these men who SAY they are ready but they never actually commit to one person. Heavy pockets has them feeling like they always have to have the next best thing, new upgraded this, new younger gf that. Then they turn 70 and wonder how they ended up with a 21 year old on their will. 😂
@blessedchild4941 Men from other communities and countries strive to make good money, so they can provide for a wife and family.
If you don't think non-committal men, lying to sleep with women is the greatest cause of single moms and fatherless homes, I don't kn9w what to tell you. If you don't think anything is wrong with it, do you.
@@newdawn1091Men of other communities strive to provide? You mean the communities where women are treated as property.
India and China got 3 billion people combined. You think thats from man being honest and not having a whole other family in a different city?
@Alumnikiid It's incredible how people can work overtime to make a point, however, when people think of irresponsible men and baby mamas, they don't think of China and India.
My point is my point, black men are egotistical and feel they are too "great" for one woman, they are therefore very noncommittal and make terrible partners. Not all, but too many.
Black men going to Columbia looking for “wives” and not making it back home is insane.
I seen one man say it’s worth keeping his peace to which I responded who is taking away your peace? Peace is a state of mind. These men are lost.
Naw they lookin for children, that’s why they’re being unalived.
They are not looking for wives.
They aren’t looking for wives. Those women they think they can get over on for cheap send their husbands to take care of business.
@@The1GeminII y'all looking for baby dads then complain later
I’d often reject them. I’m sorry. The ones I meet are annoying, overly direct, overly confident, aggressive and entitled. They just appear out of nowhere talking to me as if I know them.
OMG so this isn't just happening to me. OMG these black men scare tf outta me out here now. I literally go everywhere with my husband.
As a black woman this is sad. Ask yourself why you are having these interactions… because I do not! Stop projecting.
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Same here. I'm over it 💯
@@thebarbieinvestor5428 i encounter them while minding my own evwrlasting business. How dare you imply that its our fault that these men approach us aggressively.
Can you do a video explaining why they hurl passive aggressive insults at black women when we are minding our own business or don’t speak to them in the workplace etc?
This !!!!
It’s jealousy
I recommend watching Princella the Queenmaker to find out the true nature of men. She explains it all.
@@Goddess_Infinity why they jealous ?
@@nameunknown1519 can you recommend a specific video that explains this ??
Here is the million dollar secret: simply look at how you are treated in terms of ACTIONS and not just words. Don't be lustful. Have high standards for yourself and don't negotiate your values. Once you start accepting less, you will never get more.
Black men as a whole are who they are. Whoever wants to take offense to that is on them. More bw need to wake up and see the reality of things and stop enabling poor behaivor. Either you're gonna put up with bs or move on. You cant change anybody
I want the community to highly encourage them to change bc it’s getting pitiful and sad.
Especially with the level of violence many of them are so ready to wield against their own families.
@@Dannniellleeenah im good on that. Maybe if I had a son . Its better things to worry about that trying to encourage grown a## men to change
@@tashahall1855 bye u got 3 kids anyway u no addition to the tribe
@@tashahall1855 I definitely get it, but I meant the community as a whole. Not just one or a few of us. This ish is too ridiculous to ignore.
I’m also not breaking my neck, bank, or heart trying to encourage them. I’ve learned to model decent behavior and cut ppl off whenever necessary 💯
@@stayhighstayfly1691 umm… was that even necessary?
Wow! This help so much. I got to get out of Atlanta tho
There are some great men here and some bad men here. You will find that in any major city. All of my friends met their husbands here and they are all still in a healthy relationship except for 1. You will meet who you are supposed when you are supposed to. Stats are fine but you only need 1 good man not ALL the ones in the stats.
If you don’t know how to work with, live with, and cooperate with a man, this video did nothing except reinforce why you feel your past relationships have failed….translation…. _it’s not my fault_
Girl, its everywhere. There is no oasis for good men blk green or gold. If its in tnd cards it will happen for you
I hear there’s this Random man in Atlanta with like 6 babies by 6 mothers. No excusing the guy but why are the worst guys the most sought after?
@@AlwonDomzLook at the age group of the women he's attracting. Notice anything?? Like a lack of a fully formed frontal lobe. Y'all forget that young girls are indeed young girls.
Currently dating a bavarian . Even though I was born in Germany as a child of African immigrants it couldn't be more country 😂 I was doubtful in the beginning, I've never dated a German before but I was tired of myself making a black man the ideal person to date. And let me tell you this journey is full of surprises. I figured the security he had growing up, is what makes him an excellent man. Parents still married, raised him well, with a lot of love and no pressure for success. Which is why he doesn't have insecurities and knows what he wants. Straight forward with whatever he says and does. The lack of complication alone is what I had to get used to. Now, I'm not saying you can't have that with black men. I would've dated a black man like this anytime, I know they do exist. But let's be real the proportions are just completely different in the black community. It's simply harder to find
Whew, I think it's great you found love and have the easiness of a secure partner.
Bavarian...not baverian. May things go well for you. ❤️
@@MindBiz711 indeed. Thank you!
In German it's "bayerisch" for bavarian and "Bayern" for Bavaria. Thanks for reminding me.
That’s self hate anyway. That black man you’re criticising is your dad, brother, uncle, nephew etc. Black women you need to make your men countable for their actions in life. Also don’t forget that those white men can sometimes be racist
I just dated men at my level and status. Half black, half not.
Any luck with any of them??
All sounds like a bunch of excuses. Everyone has to deal with the hand that they were dealt. If most women are doing that, while not only living in a racist world, but also a misogynistic world, than so can most of the men. Problem is the hardest person to face is yourself.
I was manager at a corporate job one time & this guy I NEVER MET said to me “You took my job!” (In a room full of ppl at a meeting). The room went silent.
Then I said, “Did you even apply?” Sarcastically. The whole room began laughing. Then a couple days later the Manager above me, gave this guy an application in front of everyone. This was to prove that he never applied in front of everyone. Like I said hear dudes don’t realize that everyone sees this BS, which only makes them look like what the rumors say. They laughed that day because the knew he never applied for the position he says someone took from him. We ALL knew without even checking that he wasn’t ambitious enough to apply. But we never know so we checked & we were right. Last point, you don’t even have to be in a relationship with a dude for them to show malice.
They are just immature. Other races tend to mature faster. That’s why most ppl don’t take them serious
Your def on point about black men and their mothers. Explains everything.
This hits right on a lot of levels. I have often thought that the reason black women have such terrible stories and struggles with men is because they are dating black men. As a race black people are traumatized in a way and hurt people, hurt people. So if a man or a woman hasn't recognized or dealt with that pain they are only going to take it out on the closest person to them... each other. I support black love but it doesn't matter who you get with as long as you are loved the way you should be.
I am all for healthy love. No colors barred.
Facts! 100% my experience with my ex husband. Thank you sharing this! 🙏🏾
Yaaassss, queen. I’m sure you were perfect. How dare he not worship you. 😂😂😂
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@@Roccofanyou are exactly what he is talking about
This is very helpful. However, for those of us that do not want to date black men, how do we get other races of men to approach us? They look at us but never approach. 😔
Great Question!
Type in when non black men are flirting with you on his channel. Also he gives advice in every video. All men are the same, they just flirt a bit differently (more conservative). I hope this helps! 😊l
Initiate a conversation with them in a feminine way. It works for me.
BM are so forward that I didn’t even realize when other men were approaching me. I just thought they were being nice or friendly. No, they just aren’t as direct. They approach you like you’re a human being instead of a conquest.
Be approachable. Smile (some of us have a default stank face). Start the convo. You got to keep in mind, various men like and are attracted to BW. They also don't have as much audacity as BM so if you look like you don't want to be bothered, they will just admire from afar. However, if you give distinct green lights(smile, conversation, light touching on the arm, winking,etc) they will pull up.
This is excellent. Very helpful without being accusatory or pejorative.
My ex has both his parents & raised right but still couldn’t keep a woman 🤷🏾♀️
Both parents being in the home doesn't guarantee that he'll be a stand-up guy. Maybe he was neglected emotionally, or his dad didn't teach him how to be a man. For example, I knew a guy who was raised with both parents. He was an insecure egotistical jerk who felt entitled to the women's bodies because he was a six-figure income earner. He really thought he was a millionaire. Come to find out, his dad didn't spend time with him growing up, although they were in the same household.
Something went wrong with his foundation.
2 parents doesn't mean anything.
Could be family or those around him that ruined him.
Like Anwar said.
I have no problem with the black men in my life as there are only 4 of them and they are all wonderful people. However, somehow it seems that every single time I meet a new man outside of my circle we get into strange conversations that show me how much they have fallen victim to illogical thinking regarding either black women or "modern western" women. For example, one man told me last week that black educated women are significantly more likely to get divorced than black women with a high school education. I don't even need to ask him to cite sources for this. The educated segment of the population is already significantly more likely to get married in the first place. Poor people aren't getting hitched to begin with. If you never get married then it stands to reason that you won't get a divorce. Education tends to coincide with higher income and the desire to protect assets via marriage.
Exactly! You can't have a DIVORCE statistic for someone who didn't get married in the first place.
@@CedarMountainsnow exactly
You are also less likely to find validation by saying "I have a man" even if the man adds zero value to your life since you probably get a lot of validation through your career. I know a black woman who is a judge. I have known her for 20 years and she bought her 3rd home here in South Florida partly based on my recommendation and to be near her friends. Since this is not only a riverfront mini mansion but also not a primary home (ie does not qualify for homestead tax exemption) she pays more on property tax for this Florida property than most Americans make all year for income. She constantly gets praise from her many charity and civic groups. Do you think she feels the need to get validated by saying "I have a man"? Nope. If that man stopped treating her well it would be over.
@RasheedahsWifeSchool this doesn't surprise me that a Homosexual and a white person would validate BW with material objects and discredit our unions.
If many of us were truly friends with people of other races then this material and separation of the gender BS being fed to us would be easily identified because many of us would see your groups aren't living the way you portray our relationships to be.
And when your "friend" dies who does this "mansion" goes to??? Her being single she has no one to pass this to so doesn't it goes back to the state of Florida. I'm pretty sure the new owners won't be black. It'll be one of you. So it's no wonder your kind have an interest in a say in our gender war. If BP and WP were truly friends then well see how you guys plan for generations ahead and our people are fooled by the here and now.
But no worries, God is on charge and your agenda will be exposed
What he said makes sense in a way..,. I don’t need a man to survive financially. A woman with little to nothing may have to settle just for shelter 🤷🏽♀️ Many cannot financially survive without a partner. We are solely talking money- nothing else.
Is he ridiculous to say that education causes higher divorce rates - why yes he is an idiot! But a woman with her own can def afford to walk on bs!
It's giving Diary of a Mad Black Man 😂
I am so conflicted and confused by this whole video. 🤷🏽♀️
“It”? He’s an “it”? Lol
From the perspective of a single black mom raising black sons it is extremely difficult to do it well. It requires a high level of emotional intelligence. Because the reality of the situation is that you are raising people who, on one end are told by society that they are entitled to ALL the things that they want because gender, and on the other end are told that they are not good enough to have anything because race.
It is a struggle to make sure that they are mentally and emotionally balanced. Meet the mother, have conversations with her about her world views and perspective. That will tell you whether the men that you are dating have been raised right.
You believe black males feel entitled to all things on the bases of being male? Who taught you this, How did you come to this conclusion
Coming from the mouth of a black man with actual facts. It's kinda like most of us should jut give us cause the odds are so dangerously against us that if we continue to date it will only result in our demise mentally and emotionally and it is happening each and every day
This is clearly not a man. Obviously, you have no idea what one actually looks like when you decide that this is a good place to get advice.
@@degrerickjenkins1617Then what is he may I ask? Even if you feel he plays for the other team, that is actually more of a reason to believe him, he definitely has first hand experience! Black men are the same no matter their sexuality.
He's a Homosexual with the wicked agenda of destroying our community. Just look at how they sabatoge our relationships but have you supporting thier marriags.
And if this is who our women are listening to then the problems you guys are going through are deserved
Yet in. PATRIARCHY STILL black women rise. EXCUSES and victimhood are your curse. OH WELL.
@@optimalscore y'all all whores y'all aren't different
I like you're videos. I'm one who dates black men for the most part but I'm tired. Your points you made makes me realize life for them and explains how shitty they are lol. It doesn't help to be their shoulder when they have to overcome that themselves.
Period!
Bye
Go fk a whyte man for his money already
You’re just not good at finding good ones
@@earlem9771good ones don't exist.
Im opening up my options this year, they starting to get on my nerves, im ready for a diffrent entree, without the sides of b.s, blameing everything and tried egos😂
A lot of them have been misguided by the manosphere and have really internalized those problematic beliefs. A lot of them think they're the price and think women are beneath them.
A lot of them are also programmed to be gay and on the DL. When you have people like Diddy being the face of the BC, well.....we see now the end results . Smh
Everything your saying applies to all men it was actually non bm who created the manosphere if im not mistaken so ye check your facts next time.
@@mangekyou0g872 but in this case he was talking about black men specifically, wasn't he? Also, I wasn't talking about who created the manosphere so, I don't know where you're trying to get at.
@@VirginiaJimenez-gs3px But what he's can easily be applied to all men don't try to take black men and place a negative belief on them when all races of men do it too. Why are you singling them out? Do you like it when people say black women are loud and have attitudes but say it's attractive when latina women do it? No right?Didn't think so.
@@VirginiaJimenez-gs3px Women who have their issues with men don't just target one specific race because they're intelligent to know all men are easily capable of negative behavior. But it's only rasist self hating black women who have a problem.
You told no lie. Great tips.
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I wonder if we’d have more success dating black men that are Latino, European, etc? 🤔 I keep thinking about how black men are all over the world…not just the US, Africa, and the Caribbean…
They are kind the same in general. The western ones are the worst though.
wtf is a black european?
Im not chasing a black man....I'm cool with being single
It's true.... if a bw has more than a bm... he can feel emasculated by this... handle their pride and ego with care
I didn't want to see what some of my black and European members were saying about not dating, or choosing to marry a black man, I even felt that they were being racist until I realized that everything that they've been saying about why I shouldn't ever settle or marry a black man came to past.
Yeah… the american black men.
No ALL the whole diaspora is in trash and they all have the highest femicide and grape rates in the world. BFF.
Especially them!
Nah black men all over the world...they are all the same...
The African man especially the Nigerian man when he gets his education level up and money up and becomes a professional he will think its his right to cheat on you as a "MAN". He'll cheat on you and have an entire other family on the side and never applogize for it. Just brining you all kinds of drama. Then hell look down on you because hes the "MAN" and you are just a "WOMAN" he is raised to feel that men are superior to women because that's how his parents raised him especially his mother.
I stay away from black men all together. Almost nothing good comes from being involved with them.
@@sarahbee7231 Only them.
I would say esp western bm. The thing is that their pathology is the same generally wide world
Height isn’t everything , it’s mainly about face. There are Incels who are 6 ft+ while they are non Incels who are under 6 ft
True.
Thanks for confirming alot of what I thought. I knew i wasn't that off.You made it clear for me to explain now. I get asked why Im not attracted to BM since I'm a BW.
Girl I'm jumping on your bandwagon, as much as I love my black men, my ex of 8 years broke me and now I will no longer date black men but trust me they don't care, black men "HATE" us (black females) anyways!! So IMO it's a win, win🤷🏾♀️
@trinese7 I used to date BM, struggle love, ride or die, and the " good woman." That was depressing. Like ever BM rich, poor, dumb or educated. They unhinged. I woke up real quick. There's a big difference. Men will be difficult at times, but definitely not as much as BM. I encourage dating outside the race. I even promote BM getting passports. Please leave BW alone and go abuse someone else instead of us.
I feel like you should keep to yourself and move in silence
Roaming the streets is right! Never thought of it that way. 🤔 interesting q
This is true, the amount of black men with criminal records, drug charges, no job no car and live with a relative. I done met two black men that beat murder charges. Another one went to jail for armed robbery. Some are on probation.
Yup, even when you think they don’t have some type of record they do😂 I stopped dating them about three years ago and never looked back
Nothing but TRUTH in this video! I have a son and everything you’re saying is true!!
Understood, and thank you
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This is very good information. Thank you for your videos. We all need advice & clarity from a good black man.❤
I have so much love and compassion for black people. We have so much generational trauma that needs to be healed. So many of us are told that we are bad, sinful, flawed evil but really all we need is love and to learn to love others. I know a lot of black men who have the purest hearts. Who constantly face adversity and pain. I know so many black women who try to be optimistic. Who try to keep themselves from drowning. What we need is to understand our past and to understand our current world as well. That will give us tools we need to really look at each other with love and support instead of seeing each other as enemies. So many of us just want to be happy. We think we have to run away from who we are to get what we want in life but the truth is that we just need to understand each other . When we understand each other it will be so much easier to love one another.
I agree whole hearted ❤️ ❤😂
Never heard someone break it down like this. Thanks
My parents stayed married 30yrs until my Dad died...and he was a provider.
It's big facts.
Thank you for your honesty ❤
This was GREAT info !!! ❤thanks Anwar
So very true 😂
Very good video!… Much of this also has to do with timing.
Leaving one major city and going to another won’t guarantee anything. When it’s your time , it will be.
You've hit some amazing points. Thank you!
The juice ain’t worth the squeeze.
I’d rather date out or stay single and get a dog😎
There is no excuse to be that way even if you do not have a mentor.
Where are those stats from? Ive never seen them
I found this video healing.
Mannnnnnnnn Listen this Man is doing the Lords work
Wow! We're truly fucked as a demographic...🤣. I laugh, but it's far from funny.
Good solid advice
I think we should break these racial barriers down. The Bible does not support the idea of individual races but it says we are apart of one race we just so happen to be different shades of brown. Let’s start looking at who the people are not what they look like. I’m black and the women that I fell for was half Indonesian and half white. People said I liked white girls cause of that but I didn’t even realize her appearance until much later. I saw a piece of me in her and that’s what’s important. Eve was fashioned from Adam making her a perfect physiological puzzle piece. Date everyone but most importantly become friends with people then choose who you want to date then make that choice of marriage. The person you marry should be as close to you as a sibling and that bond cannot be formed overnight.
It is what it is...I'm still sticking with my brothers💞
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Honestly I'm 44 years old I've been a very open communicative person and I've dated inside my race and men do not want to be better they don't want to benefit others they just want to be a problem because there's no situation there's no conclusion and so they just aren't adaptable and it's f****** annoying
Thanks 👍❤
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Hmmmmm, but then would other men outside of black men feel the same about us black women that black men do?
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All facts
Interesting. I always wanted to know why black guys carry themselves different...ty
they can not read or spell mentors
For me, at the end of the day, our experience as Black people across the African Diaspora is unique. With that said, we have to understand that many Black women aren't healed either, yet I don't see how we can be healed apart from each other. We need to heal together, not necessarily in romantic relationships, but just in shared AND SAFE spaces of conversation. And, yes, that includes men and women from the LGBTQ+ community.
I think we take a lot of cues from the dominant white/Euro society, but, honestly, the answer or solution will not be found there, and that's why I think our relationships keep floundering and feel like a burden in many cases.
We need to create spaces to heal together and it's almost as if we have to build that healing pathway from scratch because I really don't think that it will be found within the auspices of white-dominated spaces or inquiry.
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The earth was stolen from black ppl n Hispanics of Negro descent are The real n only Jews. The Arameans; The Luminaries; Children of the Sun 🌞
Enoch 72:2
1John 1:5
Gen 1:27
1thess 5:5
Psalm 84:11 - #Af•ram is The Sun 🌞 n he gives grace n doesn't withhold Good things to those who walk uprightly
Any Negro who is Allergic to the Sun, has leprosy, or flushes turning red, or pinkish in the face *{lighting* *up}* has European blood running through their veins they are mixed breeds, called *(tares)* in #The -bible- #Tanah tares are not pure *wheat/Negro* n is not accepted
*Matt* 13:30-48
Europeans/colonizers are offspring of confusion; Narcs, sociopaths, etc..etc.. unrighteous (Prov 26:25,)
Sirach 12:10-12
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Deut 32:39 - It is I, #A•ram, I kill, I make alive, I wound n I #heal n there is none that can deliver out my hand.
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Job 30:30 - My #skin is *black* upon me..etc..etc..
Talks like "Jessica " from the valley! Yt chicks
Helpful video I’m not interested in dating everyone though
I don't date them
Your right on the money, I hope my kings can start getting the help and support they need. So they can become the best version of themselves...I love my black men
This is a very targeted point of view. But everyone has their own experiences 🤷🏿♂️
At the way he talks, he's trying to free up more for himself 🤨🤨
Sorry but we can't take a man that sounds like someone's auntys perspective about straight men seriously
At the end of the day he’s still a man
Girl
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Gurl
WTF❓
No Thank you
I know some black men with no good examples of a father and are great. America as a country is terrible.
This dude bring up false stats 😂😂😂. These mofos get mad when we generalize Blk Women but they have no problem generalizing Blk Men.
That man has a Degree and speaking factual stats... Y’all just hate the truth and until y’all get it right.. y’all will be controlled for another 400yrs. While BW move on... smh!!!
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Dont even bother 😅 just forget about them
#sysbm
no his stats are correct stats, if not find the stats that says differently. Bm have challenges no other group has mostly due to their own behavior so it's not out of the realm of possibility that the stats are correct.
@@RonnieMyers777 #sysbm........yess maybe the black femicide, sa, segg trafficking rates will decrease if bm save themselves and go their own way........the black community would be much safe....that's for damn sure. Please go to Columbia.....they want yall so bad.
Bro, you're one of us, you're a black man I'm not sure how you don't realize this
He is a maggot lots of them make comments and videos like this.
You do realize that he's gay, right? He has FIRSTHAND experience as a fellow MAN nonetheless.
What this is is denial on your part cause now OTHER BM are confirming what BW have been saying for generations.
@@s.s.ss.4848he's speaking about black straight men and black straight women, he's discussing his clients who are women who want men
Could we see black women are the hardest to date
Dating advice from saucey santana!.😂😂😂😂😂💯🎯...he should stay in his lane, and speak on L.G.B.T.Q issues!.😡💯🎯
I'm like "oh look another expert"... But you truly are. My apologies, lbvs. I love your content. 🤎
Haha Excellent points made here. I been saying this and now I know I’m not tripping or “crazy”. Arrested Growth Development Much 🫣✌🏾 & it’s NOT all black men because SOME are excellent leaders for the community. However, for the mass majority that this do apply to ✌🏾👋🏾👉🏾🥾🚪
Wow all of this is so true! Great insight. Thats quite a few boxes to get checked off. A black man with all of those things together 🤏🏾. Keep options open ladies