For the people saying that he should have known because he's a PI, when you go home to your partner and family at the end of the day, you don't usually start profiling and investigating them. You put blinders on to the ones closest to you.
I don’t know. When you’re in that line of business usually your gut instinct tells you something is up. I think he knew more than he was letting on, I’m not saying he was involved, but he’s also smart enough to position the narrative that he is naive, which conveniently means he can not have to answer too many questions, he just “doesn’t know”. I’m not saying he was involved, just saying he’s smart enough to handle this situation with the easiest defence. Also smart enough to have a lawyer sitting next to him 😉
@@rob_m love man, love makes people do crazy things. Lol You’ve never had a buddy who was in love with a crazy chick? They totally ignore all the red flags, basically give the person benefit of doubt in every situation. Aka a mother learns her son murdered someone. “No I don’t believe it, my baby would never hurt a fly.” Cop - your son stabbed someone 20 times. 🤣 I’m not finished the video yet but I actually believe this guy. His blind trust in finances says a lot. I don’t think my wife would steal from me but I’m also not having her do things like pay for a deck. Too many dudes see a woman and think ok I can rip this lady off.
I am 52, lived an interesting life, and I believe that one of the most powerful forces on earth is the human ability to be in denial, particularly about those we love. Done it myself. It is an excruciatingly painful experience to learn that a person you love and trust is despicable and truly evil. And intelligence and life experience does not limit one's ability to be in denial.
His lack of details just strikes me as someone who was happy with his life, and felt no need to be suspicious of anything, since he felt everything was going just fine.
Too babied, he should know how much he is using a month and how much of a debt he is putting his family into. She did way to much for him financially (paying his child support, his truck, house renovations, ect) I don't care if you are content or not he should have known his fanatical situations but that's my opinion. Be that as it may murder is no way to fix fanatical issues
I’ve watched dozens of these and he was smart enough to bring his attorney in with him so he’s smarter than 99% of the people in his position. I feel bad for him
@@BokushingusKendoTV I just watched a police chief being interrogated and he invoked his right, but just continued to talk anyway. Seasoned police chief who knew he should have a lawyer, said he should probably talk to one but never committed and continued answering the questions anyway.
@@TBonerton ohhhh I saw that one!!! But to be fair that guy seemed a little bit off or drugged or something, but he didn’t seem to be mentally competent.
@Patricia Carole Von Dyche I believe you guys. I just remember a fellow Kendo teammate, who was an attorney, saying they had to pay him first. So i thought that was the case here since he seems to be financially stable.
There's quite a bit of "this" in true crime it just appears different depending on who is being interviewed & who is watching. This guy, just like anyone else will answer what is in his best interest - as he should
I often see comments from people wanting to see what an innocent person looks like when interrogated. I know that Zach is somewhat familiar with police techniques, but you can tell that his body language is completely different from the guilty suspects we usually see. He leans forward, he answers most of the questions quickly, and apart from the first couple of answers, he doesn't overshare. Yes, he was clueless, but he wasn't hiding anything.
I agree...he seems so forthcoming.. these detectives would have so many different lies of his to pull apart with how much information he is willingly given to them with every question so it seems weird to me to be this forthcoming if all of this is why... I kind of think he wasn't involved and.... very sad
He didnt love her, they had an open relationship and he had no idea what she was doing at any time, their marriage was dead but they just didnt want to seperate
I think he had a situation where he could just do whatever he wanted and she supported him, and sounds like facilitated him not having to have responsibility (likely to cover the shit she was doing). I think he did want to question a good deal and I'm sure just kept telling himself everything was fine.
In this man’s defense, regarding his wife’s handling of the finances, I 💯 believe him. My husband has NO IDEA, at any time, how much is coming in or going out of our account. Everything is direct deposited, most bills are auto drafted, and I handle everything. He knows where we bank, has access to all of it, but doesn’t WANT to deal with anything. I get it.
@@Flotter-Flo sometimes in a marriage certain care task fall to the responsibility of the best suited for the job, and then the spouses trust each other ..
Its safe to say that he had no idea what was going on with anyone anywhere at anytime.ever. And he came with his lawyer which seems to be the best decision he's ever made.
If you asked my dad about money or bills in our home he would have no idea. Mum’s always organised everything for the household and he could focus on working his butt off. No gatekeeping of funds, just defined responsibility that works. And so much trust. Worked just fine for 40+ years. Retired now and they manage fine so this definitely worked for them. I don’t think he’s a bad guy for not knowing. He trusted her with his life. So sad
I feel like that stuff stops when the child support office says you didn't pay A COUPLE TIMES. At that point , not looking into your fiances to see the problem, Which is depriving your daughter of support but not paying gets you a bench warrant from your case, which would probably do something to take away his license and yada. I MEAN, HELLO MR DETECTIVE, THERE IS SOMETHING TO DETECT HERE! I feel bad for Taylor, this mushroom keeps insulting her and calling her a "Scumbag" the whole while defending the person who killed her , who was buys motorcycles for her side piece with money stolen from her victim. THAT IS SAD! :( (Sorry about the rant, this interrogation kinda pissed me off a bit. . At least he love New Orleans so, he could be worse. )
He trusted his wife and that is all he made a mistake doing and she knew that it was going to work for that reason. Predators love trust and truthful people.
I was like this guy about finances. I trusted my husband completely, assuming he was much better with finances than I. After all, he was a CPA and was very tight with money. Then one day after 25 years of making payments on our $29,500 home he blurted out that we still owed $25,000 on our house. WHAT? ! I had to check into this. The banker told me that he had used our home on collateral on several large loans amounting to about $22,000. It didn’t add up. We didn’t have new furniture, cars, etc. Turns out he was spending all this money on some girl half our age. So…his girlfriend was getting massive boxes of chocolates, clothes from fancy stores where I wasn’t allowed, photos from an expensive portrait where the kids and I were not allowed, and a car. People are surprising. After that I wondered just how far he would go. I actually became afraid he might have me killed, as the trust was totally destroyed.
@@ursalaoutrageous9249 I hope you got rid of him and all that equity is yours! You and your children lived so long without, so you deserve that and much more!
I’ve been the person who found out their partner was the monster. Being disillusioned is a terrible feeling. Having your reality ripped out from under you and your world flipped upside down is a traumatic experience I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
So many comments like that here, so let me ask you: if out of the blue one day you found out it looks like your partner murdered their friend, would your reaction be something like at around 1:05:10 ? "I just can't imagine my partner doing such a sloppy job of covering up a murder"?
@@chikushodiz91 I understand that that's how he's intellectually maintaining denial, in itself not too weird. What IS odd is he skipped over the whole "she's really not the murdering type" reaction that I think you have if you're completely blindsided by this side of your partner. (Not for a moment questioning Rae Clair's experience here. But I'm questioning that that's what we're watching in this video.)
The reason he didn’t question anything is because he thought he had hit the jackpot with a wife letting him sleep with whomever he wanted and buy whatever he wanted. Also, she took care of everything for him. I once had an assistant like that, went above and beyond. Made my job a breeze. I loved it, until I found out she was robbing me blind! As the old adage goes: All that glitters is not gold.
I think he has an incredibly shallow relationship with that woman. I think he doesn’t ask her questions about finances, where she’s at etc, not because he’s clueless but because he doesn’t want the answers. She has all the leverage. Financial discussions bring him shame because he doesn’t make nearly as much as her. He doesn’t ask where she’s been because it brings him shame that she sleeps with others. He chooses to live in the fog so he doesn’t have to face the reality of his failed life, income and dysfunctional relationships.
This will be so traumatic for him for a long time because of his job and the pride he took in it. It's really heartbreaking, people close to you are an entirely different ballgame than strangers. People that you love can groom you for a long time before you get it.
Such a sad thing to find out someone close to you was capable of such. I'm certain this situation will force him to be more engaging in the next relationship.
@@traceymcdonald7949 it's very different when it comes to your spouse. You could be one of thebest officers with an outstanding record for spotting liars, and still be completely blind and oblivious to what your deceitful spouse is up to. You trust everything about your spouse and everything they tell you, or else you wouldn't have married them (unless, as in the case of this man's wife, you're a sociopath that obv groomed him from the beginning to be hands off)
Well, I've learned one thing from watching these, if you ever decide to kill anyone, don't take your phone with you. Makes you wonder how they caught murderers before cell phones because 80% of these cases involve somebody's cell phone
Weird how he constantly points out the dead girls addiction and how he doesn't associate with "those types of people" but his clean and sober wife was the real monster.. Go figure.
@@Apathina Doesn't even have to be that, personally I just dont want drugs around me or in my life and I think thats a perfectly reasonable stance to take.
You can be a good judge of character and not suspect the ones you love. We put on blinders to their actions. He probably did hear, see or just suspect something but it gets brushed off.
This is so true. I thought I was pretty savvy, but my wife developed a severe cocaine habit without me suspecting a thing for far too long. We're divorced and she lost everything.
When he said, "I reckon". Seems like a down to earth guy. I also love that he describes his trip by the food he ate, thats how i plan all trips and describe what we do.
In other interrogation videos that is classified as suspicious behavior: giving specific, unnecessary details about unimportant things (the details of food ordered and why) and going off into detailed tangents, but just not remembering any of the details the cops want about the case. Suspicious.
He is a victim of long term abuse, coercion and manipulation. I have seen other husbands who stop asking questions after a few years because they know they have to either do something about the lies, control and constant betrayal or give up. He gave up years ago as a coping mechanism.
When you're so oblivious you don't even know how much you contributed to a murder 😳 can't be good for business Mr PI! Cop: So what do you think happened ? **C'mon guys, are you paying attn?🤷♀️😆 Hub: I don't think she would do that, she's super smart.. **compared to who sir? You?🤔🤭
I'm sure Ashley was "dropping breadcrumbs" meaning she pointed out situations that guided her own narrative and made Taylor appear to be a drug addict or of questionable character. I say this because it's been done to me. I'm sure Ashley played her husband like a fiddle.
Completely. That’s exactly what manipulators do. The only way people can see through the bullshit is if you’ve have to deal with these chaotic people in you’re own life. My ex partner was one
Exactly. Which is why all these people need to stop saying it makes no sense that he didn't know her character was off, that he must have been bad at his job because he didn't know she was a bad person. Like the people who are making those comments have clearly never been in a manipulative relationship. There's plenty of PI s, detectives, even people who profile for a living for the darn fbi who wouldn't know if their partner was a murderer or a r@pi$t , ECT. Like you said. It's all about the manipulation. When you're manipulated into thinking your partner is somebody else. Love will blind you. I think it's ignorant all these people commenting saying he must have been a horrible private investigator because that makes no sense. Tons of people have been in terribly manipulative relationships but they are incredibly smart people and great at what they do. Like therapists for instance. People assume right away antherapist should know they're dating a narcissist and that's simply not true.
@@tatertot4208 Yes it is and indeed I've never been in a manipulative relationship. Why? Because I'm intelligent and naturally distrusting of people and this serves me well in life. Quit making excuses for yourself should be your starting point.
I find it weird when people, especially presenters/anchors talk in absolutes. Like, it would have been more accurate to say "as a former crime scene technician, McArther had some idea of how to cover her crime, but lacked awareness outside of the crime scene and was easily picked up on cameras. Lol Same pet peeve I have when presenters say things like "the perfect marriage", "the perfect family"
There's a reason why we hear about "conflict of interest" and "too close to the case" on every police show. We are blinded when it comes to the people close to us, either by our own emotions, projections of who they are or because we are so close to their manipulations. Not realising his wife is a murderer doesn't mean he wasn't a good officer/investigator - it's one thing to be focused on every little while on the job and another to do it every minute of the day in your personal relationships. "Trust" means not breaking down someone's every word, action and movement. He must've just enjoyed having an easy life where he did his thing, his wife did hers and obviously never considered that would mean that she would end up murdering someone and putting him at risk of being an accomplice/conspirator.
You spoke so many facts. I would add that easily trusting people you are friends with comes easier in your teens. If you don't have any remarkable issues occur early in childhood, you can literally think all people are truthful and just not give it a 2nd thought. I was really good friends with someone for 17 years. She was a great friend and we were there for each other. Even though I was married, she was the only female I trusted to come in my home when I wasn't there. My husband died in 98. About 15 years ago I decided to move from Florida to DC. She absolutely stopped talking to me and would not return my calls. I reached out so many times. Spoke with her about her behavior and never got a straight answer. Her sister later told me many important things she never told me she was involved with. I was so shocked. I'm still shocked. When I say we were close friends, I mean we could have been sisters. Been her 15 years and probably talked to her 5 times.i guess I never really knew her the way I thought.
@@Google_Does_Evil_Now while i was living down there her sister called me and told me she had moved in with some guy and his sister. the guys sister wanted her to move out and her sister says she tried talking to her about the guy being useless. they wanted me to talk to her about it. i explained to her sister that she was an adult…anyway, we were very close friends. plus i knew she had a habit of dating men that were absolute zeros but again, she’s an adult. we spoke daily on the phone, attended the same small church for 17 years. to this day she’s never told me that she was living with this guy and his sister. another time later on i found out by accident she had another guy living with her. she wasn’t at home when i stopped by one day and he answered the door. i never mentioned it because i figured she’d tell me when she wanted. she’s never told me. the church we attended taught no sex before marriage. now i understand why she never told me. she didn’t want me to think she was failing at living what we were taught. that’s 1 of the reasons why i stopped attending church. people can’t live their lives in peace for being afraid to be honest with a friend. i didn’t and still don’t want my friends to feel that way about our friendship. hopefully one day she will come around. i’ve certainly reached out to her.
This poor guy just found out the woman he loves is a cold blooded murderer, who pissed away his money on another man, lied about their finances, etc... I'm not sure how he's supposed to act but it seems to me there's a whole range of 'normal' emotions. Feeling like an idiot is probably pretty high on that list. I doubt anything would shock him at this point
The cops on the other hand are shocked af . Like damn, this dude (this PI) surely knows somethin more?! Just to find out- nope he really doesn't know anything... Anything about anything! I wonder how the job hunt went, yikes😳
My mom did all the shopping.. food clothing bathroom needs...everything.. so when dad retired and started going shopping with us man he was BLINDSIDED.. he never understood how mom was spending so much...til he started going. He truly was stunned.
My dad was the primary bread winner and my mom always balanced the checkbook and paid all the bills. When Dad learned computer skills and became a spreadsheet nerd he took over all that, he trusted Mom but just started keeping track of EVERYTHING on spreadsheets LOL. One day he was upset and incredulous that she went to Red Lobster twice in one week. She told him that once was taking her mother to lunch and the other was taking his mother to lunch. She asked if he wanted to take over THAT duty too. He shut his mouth and never questioned her expenses again. Edit: They’ve been married 65 years and I’ve only heard them argue about money 3 times. The Red Lobster incident, once when she spent $300 on glasses for me back in the 1980’s and once when he spent $80 on a toaster. Otherwise they were generally on the same page with money and what it could and couldn’t do for your life.
@@tangyjoe4326 That's hilarious! Of the 3 arguements... lol, he was in the wrong... who buys a toaster for $80?? It better butter the bread too! 😄 🤣 😂 😆 #PowerToYourMom lol
@@williamjktkd read the comment above mine... that's who I was talking to. And she didn't take her mom 2s. She took her mom 1s and his mom 1s. Could all be their fave restaurant. Who is her husband to judge? Lol
My husband was the same way until our daughter died and I was so depressed he had to take over paying some bills because ijust didn’t care about anything. There was nothing wrong,just he was shocked at how expensive things were such school taxes, real estate taxes, water bills, electric bills, etc.
It’s nice to see interrogation room cameras are slowly but surely getting upgraded to HD quality. It really helps to be able to see body language and the suspects eyes. Fascinating stuff! ✌️
This man had no idea how close he came to getting charged in this crime. If Ashley had simply lied and said he was involved that’s all it would have taken to put him in prison.
Sounds like his wife was his sugar mama and he was a kept man. That's why he didn't question anything and was ok with an open relationship. He was able to come and go as he pleased and had all kinds of boy toys. She had him conditioned to not ask questions. He sounded very happy with this set-up. As long as he had a roof over his head, food in his belly, his truck/jeep, a phone and a debit card he was content.
This was painful to watch. You can just see these detectives spoon-feeding this guy, waiting and waiting for him to FINALLY clue in to what is going on. Even his lawyer must have been rolling his eyes.
This is astonishing. A divorce attorney told a friend, decades ago- start looking at the money, for any that's being hidden. You should always know where the money is, where it's going. This guy is a lesson to us all. Jeez.
I completely understand those that absolutely trust their spouse and don't want the headache but also the attorney isn't wrong, it's going to best for everyone if both partners are aware, supportive, have a system that works so either spouse can take over supervising at any time.
I mean, it is technically crazy. But I was kind of the same way. Here’s my check pay all the bills and I would ask her. Hey do we have money for this? Just oblivious to all of it. So when he said that, I completely believe him because it’s like damn, I do the same damn thing not no more. Lol
A friend gave his wife every paycheck,to pay bills. He found that he had no money in the bank & the mortgage was overdue. His wife spent it at casinos.
There is such a thing as 'wilful ignorance,' the tacit acceptance that bad things are happening and active decision to both not question and make it clear to others that you don't want to know any worrying details.
This can happen to anyone. Regardless of intelligence, character traits etc. Because a person who is a very good manipulator can indeed have one totally fooled to believe the life they know is real.
As much as I'd love to have all the financial stuff taken care of without a chance of my messing it up, not checking your bank accounts? Not once? Not press one button on an ATM to see the balance on the debit account? Not notice a single suspicious pay-us-now envelope from Chattanooga? You don't have to be mistrustful of your wife to want to be mindful of your assets. This dude still has his umbilical cord. Guess he never got burned by a normal, everyday hellbeast. Must have been nice. The rest of us know the drill. Trust, but verify. At least once a damn year, man.
The fact he immediately started vilifying the victim and calling her a drug addict is fishy. Calling the victim a drug addict and insinuating she would disappear often without any proof when asked is him muddying the waters by implying she was involved in a dangerous lifestyle. He isn't guilty but he definitely knew or more than he admitted to in my opinion. He wasn't as clueless as the narrator is making him out to be imo.
@@tonysan4762 Ever think his wife groomed him to see a lot of bad too. Maybe she disappeared because her & Ashley were talking. Many scenarios. This dude just thought he had a happy life, happy wife. He's a good guy IMO.
@@GetCraftyLemons Fully agree, when you love and trust, and have been together for a while, then there is no reason to get suspicious all over sudden. This just shows how highly he thought of his wife. The awakening must have been disgustingly painful for him. Poor man....
I have no idea if the victim had a drug problem or not, but I laughed so hard at his description of her "little bag she guarded" because that's how I always am about my bag with makeup, tampons and pads. She could have just been diabetic, on her period, had IBS, etc.
I see what you're saying, but these days it's not so much of a big deal especially around people you know quite well. (Edit: "big deal" meaning, men or others seeing your personal feminine products.)
@@TJ-um8ce I gaurd my bags too lmao, not because I'm hiding anything, it's just a security thing for me, it makes me feel safe to hold it close, my backpack is important because it helps me carry things but also because I get a sense of security wearing it when i walk, but also putting it in my lap when I sit down, holding it close and wrapping my arms around it (social situations freak me out a lot)
@@alexb7092 I hear ya. Totally get what you mean. I hate being around people, just my kids and husband ,(sometimes when he's not being a dick 🤣🤣) but I avoid people most of the time. Not to be trusted
My old lady handles all of our finances too! She’s an accountant! It’s literally what she does for a living so I leave it to her because I suck at managing money. I feel for this guy!
I let my wife handle our money because I hate seeing the money I worked hard for every 2 weeks go straight to bills. So I can understand how he had that trust in her.
Thanks for that, l handle the money in our marriage. Hubby earns good income, but he is not good at money management. He likes his toys, and always wants the best. He doesn’t think twice about buying a product he wants, yet forgets that the bills have to be paid first.
I genuinely don't believe he lied about anything. The way he conducted himself was 100% believable. I feel bad for him that someone he devoted himself to and trusted betrayed him so horribly! I will say I'm surprised how clueless he was about their finances. I take care of everything in our house too but my husband always has an idea where we're at. Especially when he uses the ATM, it spits out the receipt with our balance on it. That's pretty standard so I don't know how he never saw that.
It was the other way around in our house. Dad did everything and Mom was Mom. He even took us kids grocery shopping on Saturday to give Mom break. There's not many like him around today.
I know multiple married couples who have this same financial arrangement. When I got engaged my fiance said that she wanted a joint account so I could manage the finances and she would just come to me for money because she didn't want to worry about it. I'm not sure that this makes him irresponsible if it's the arrangement they agreed to upfront. My mom doesn't know how to do an oil change, does that make her irresponsible..
My husband also manages the finances. I get really anxious and overwhelmed with money and have some mental health components that play into it as well. So he takes care of paying 90% of the bills from his account and I couldn't tell you how much they are. However, I can see all of the accounts and do occasionally check plus check my credit score, etc. But this dude is a bit extreme
I’ve been looking after our finances for 42 yrs. my husband can’t be bothered. I want him to get online banking so if I die first he will know how to pay bills etc. He refuses to learn.
Kinda made me laugh when he kept saying I stay away from those types who mess with drugs, I don't associate with that lifestyle. Kind of ironic that he's married to a murderer.
@@coast5663 you can’t enable a narcissist. It’s not like it’s an addiction or something, they are just messed up in the head. Insinuating it’s enabling is putting blame on the victim, the person being manipulated is not at fault for trusting other humans.
It is amazing how blindly people will let someone just control finances. I have seen a number of people in trouble because their partner was handling all the money and being irresponsible or outright criminal. If your spouse or significant other is trying to block you out of your daily finances you should probably run.
Agreed. It's like if a pretty girl comes at you with a power of attorney contract. No thanks. I don't even let attorneys have power of attorney over me.
Most people are aware of domestic violence being physical abuse or emotional abuse, but financial abuse can be just as crippling. If your partner is financially abusive they might try to keep you from having a job (therefore no income at all). They might keep you from using any credit cards or cash and claim that YOU are the one that’s irresponsible with finances. They might run up your credit or ruin your credit so that you can’t purchase your own car, or be able to rent your own apartment or housing. And on and on …
Agreed. But in this case… was she trying to block his access or did she just suggest that she take over and pay the bills and he went along with it? That was the vibe I was getting; that he just didn’t care to do it so she did it.
@@dimitrilitovsk2372 unless you’re terminally Ill or elderly why would you ever need to give someone power of attorney? Maybe I’m unaware but I only see this with my elderly clients.
@@Randompotatoes-qs7bm power of attorney is sometimes suggested for people who are technically not a ward of the state, but they aren't fully there mentally. Or if you hire a company to scrub your emails from spammers, or other websites to reduce clutter. It exists but you gotta have the know how or hire a company and in my state they ask for power of attorney. Idk if they ask for that in other states but they prevent a bunch of fraud/scam emails and they won't contact the customer after the service is used
The irony is that he should have been more on top of things but the fact that he wasn’t made it unlikely she would kill him as he’s more useful to her alive. Whereas Taylor has “an inquiring mind” about her finances & represents a serious threat to Ashley’s ongoing criminal lifestyle.
He was smittens with her, because I am sure all the signs were there but he chose to ignore them. He knew his wife liked women and frequented gays bars hustling women that found her attractive; he agreed to the open relationship, which was his wife’s idea. The only thing I would say he wasn’t aware of was the wife buying the motorcycle for her male lover and that really hurt him. Remember this guy is a P.I.
Nailed. If she was skimming from the companies she was collecting from and used her friend's money and killed her, I'm just shocked she didn't go after the husband prior to any of that.
I think he was just happy to have a sugar momma and do what he wanted. He didn’t get declined so he didn’t care or feel the need to care/check. He just thought he hit the jackpot and was living his best life. Definitely oblivious to the situation
No. The dude was lying. Including lying about $. Cops asked him how he thought she paid everything on $45K and his “I don’t know, she had the business” answer is bogus. Then he says he didn’t know about her coke issue 🤣🇺🇸
can speak from personal experience my ex would just get his paychecks directly deposited into MY bank account, his name wasn’t even on it. i paid everything. he didn’t know what was due when or what was getting paid etc. it worked for us. made everything simple especially when he wasn’t working. like this guy says he wasn’t either 🤷♀️
@@JT0007 There are plenty of dopey dudes who let their wives run their world and just don't care. It's no different from back in the 40s, 50s, and 60s when the husband would usually be the breadwinner and the wife just stayed at home with the kids. Wives would usually have zero idea about their finances. This dude seemed like the typical guy that let his wife act like his mother and just do everything for him. It's not exactly weird or uncommon at all.
@@Jessica_Costantini he’s a moron. Any guy that would have his paycheck deposited into a woman’s account is beyond irresponsible. Women will just spend it on whatever they want
He keeps calling the victim "crazy", "weird", "a drug addict", basically someone not to like, but then it turned out his own wife is all those things. Seems he didn't know his wife very well at all...
Fascinating video for sure. Would recommend setting the stage for us a little better as far as what he knew or didn’t know going into this. I didn’t even know he knew she was dead until halfway through or “Ash” had been arrested unless I missed these things in the beginning. I really like the channel as a new listener.
I can't imagine being comfortable with letting my husband handle all of the finances. He's good with money but to have zero idea of what's going on or what we have in the bank is horrifying.
This is normal but just be sure u have some assets in your name as well . I have 50/50 assets and bank accounts in our names. We do share a lot and don’t really care about our finances and who is taking care of what . But we make sure we invest in assets 50/50 with our individual money so it doesn’t effect the other too much . Like if it’s a bad investment there’s still other assets separately and still be safe … never ever put all ur eggs in one basket
i don't even think it's shocking how he doesn't suspect his own wife... if you love and trust someone u don't question everything they do and you'd never think they'd be able to do something like that
To me it seems like he jumped on hints about Taylor's shady situation that were most probably spread by his own wife to begin with. She was most probably trying to cover her future crime by destroying Taylor's reputation around her first & giving the investigators other things to focus on 🙄
How did you come to that conclusion? All he said was "I didn't like her because of what my wife said," and referenced situations where he didn't trust her being around. Just think about it, if he knew a lot about Taylor and her life, he probably wouldn't be so confident she was a drug addict and bad person.
It’s wild when you understand the psychology of interrogation rooms. This is considered a hard interrogation room versus a soft one. You can see the size of the table versus the room. It’s made to subconsciously make the person feel like the walls are closing in on them. soft rooms have couches with teddy bears and things like that for victims to be interrogated.
I don't think we should be questioning his skills as a private detective. Denial is a hell of a thing. How could his wife (in same line of work), that doesn't like confrontation and he is in love with, how could she have killed someone. I can't imagine.
Agreed; There is a world of difference between the trust of a man and wife and your work life. Tough to have any sort of personal relationship without trust. I do think he could have been more present in his home life. It takes effort and attention to have a successful, long-term relationship. No way his sex life could be good without that attention either. I have been married over 40 years, and we both try not to take any aspect of our relationship for granted. The result being; I feel blessed to have the man I married in my life.
Yeah. Denial is a hell of a feeling. Speaking from guilt, I kept the woman I love in the dark for years about my addiction. She'd always see the signs but never could admit it to herself.
@Alex Mackie totally. I had some major surgeries when I was 18-19 and almost died after the first one was botched basically, the drs thew opiates at me. I was a teenager and in hs and only thing I ever did was drink so I was t well versed in drugs. For like 4 years I kept saying g that if I was taking my normal amount it wasn't taking pain away, they just said oh its a tolerance! Well give you more!! Eventually I was like k, this is a problem and I don't feel like anyone is listening to me. I had to essentially argue with my Dr to help me stop because I was withdrawing after 4 hrs after I took my last relatively high dose. I finally got help but apparently I kept it so well hidden my last year or so thay my mom dad and sister had no idea. Mom kind of saw but I was ashamed so I would say things to get her off my back and not find out. She knew, but sh didn't want to know and forced herself to ignore the signs.
I believe him 💯. I thought I knew everything about our finances and I still didn’t know what my ex was doing behind my back u til it was too late. The betrayal is a hard thing to live with let alone learning that someone you loved was capable of murder. I hope he gets his job back. He’s a good egg and deserves better!
Same here with my ex-wife. Looking back I can see how I just chose to trust because constantly suspecting another reality (the true one) was exhausting. I am also convinced that had I acted with more control in my own life, she still would have been just as dishonest. I just would have likely been where I am now sooner is all.
same here! i paid attention at one point but everything seemed to be in order with him taking care of it so i just used the credit card and assumed it was being paid like always. i stopped checking the statements and accounts for about 4 years until one day i went to use the card and it was declined. i was so confused standing at the register i said hang on there must be a mistake, called the cc company and theyre like youre over your limit... it was pretty shocking what was going on once i investigated. lots of transferring balances, settlements, loans. i really truly saw no signs until that moment.
It’s definitely interesting to see how different the interrogation goes when there is an attorney present. Without one they pressure people more , they are a lot different with questions etc. when there is one in the room
I’ve watched several vids and podcasts and I never got the feeling he was involved after he started talking. I assumed he was totally involved before that though
Yep and what little he knows he is either trying to help her by not incriminating her or like you said he is in denial and is hoping for the best that she did not do it. They have a very odd relationship and he is an odd fellow nonetheless. Prob hard for detectives to get a good read on him since he seems genuine but has such an odd relationship and personal life.
Exactly… I think so too. He didn’t want to believe it and who wouldn’t defend their spouse… also, your spouse is most likely to manipulate and misguide you. He wanted to believe her
Super ironic how he’s like “I’m never wrong judging people, I’m good at this job” Bro got swindled and she killed someone too but he was either too stupid to realise or too scared he’d be next lmaooo
Be fair. How many murderers have friends & loved ones who never ever would have guessed how evil they truly were? We all show different traits to different people. Our work, our parents, our partners, our church, our pub mates. I mean we all do it because we are self aware.
"So Ashley is your wife?" "Yes, but I've never seen her before in my life." "Ah okay, we'd best give you a lift home then. Thanks for coming in, former cop."
Dude married someone without knowing what they do or how much they make and she also handled everything financially? That's what we call a honeypot lol dude was lost in that woman's.....charm.
@watchmejumpstart alright calm down KBW. You need to finish watching the video, they have found nothing on him. Just cause he doesn't know anything going on doesn't automatically imply He's "complicit" or however you put it. He just had a woman handle his business that's all. Some dudes are like that. I don't really care to argue when the video shows that so finish it up and have a good day.
For the people saying that he should have known because he's a PI, when you go home to your partner and family at the end of the day, you don't usually start profiling and investigating them. You put blinders on to the ones closest to you.
No, this guy is literally so distant from reality it's bizarre
I do, stay one step ahead
I don’t know. When you’re in that line of business usually your gut instinct tells you something is up. I think he knew more than he was letting on, I’m not saying he was involved, but he’s also smart enough to position the narrative that he is naive, which conveniently means he can not have to answer too many questions, he just “doesn’t know”. I’m not saying he was involved, just saying he’s smart enough to handle this situation with the easiest defence. Also smart enough to have a lawyer sitting next to him 😉
@@rob_m love man, love makes people do crazy things. Lol You’ve never had a buddy who was in love with a crazy chick? They totally ignore all the red flags, basically give the person benefit of doubt in every situation. Aka a mother learns her son murdered someone. “No I don’t believe it, my baby would never hurt a fly.” Cop - your son stabbed someone 20 times. 🤣 I’m not finished the video yet but I actually believe this guy. His blind trust in finances says a lot. I don’t think my wife would steal from me but I’m also not having her do things like pay for a deck. Too many dudes see a woman and think ok I can rip this lady off.
His wife obvs wasn't worried about his police-skills; he seems more concerned with drugs than murder..
I am 52, lived an interesting life, and I believe that one of the most powerful forces on earth is the human ability to be in denial, particularly about those we love. Done it myself. It is an excruciatingly painful experience to learn that a person you love and trust is despicable and truly evil. And intelligence and life experience does not limit one's ability to be in denial.
Well said I couldn’t agree more.
Extremely well said! ❤
100%
Mother in law - nailed her
Interesting. Good comment, I hadn’t heard this point of view before
He’s not guilty of anything but still brought his attorney. This man is already smarter than 98% of people in these videos
Problem is most people don't have one and they are costly. If you ask for one they have to pay for it I believe!! Especially if they arrest you.
because he knows the business this why.
It's common. The killers
tend to ignore their rights because
they're AFRAID that it'll make them
look guilty. So, yeah. 🤣
he’s a pig so he knows how to work the system
Yet the lawyer did nothing. There were several points he should've interjected but he just sat on his ass.
His lack of details just strikes me as someone who was happy with his life, and felt no need to be suspicious of anything, since he felt everything was going just fine.
Exactly what I thought. And it sounds like he was content with his financial situation.
Exactly this
Yup
Too babied, he should know how much he is using a month and how much of a debt he is putting his family into. She did way to much for him financially (paying his child support, his truck, house renovations, ect) I don't care if you are content or not he should have known his fanatical situations but that's my opinion. Be that as it may murder is no way to fix fanatical issues
@@Dinogal_123 you can’t even spell pipe down
Just a FYI. A person can be a good judge of character but be blind to those close to you. It is a common issue.
Absolutely 💯
No.
Facts you can Simple ignore the signs 😢
Absolutely not. If you a good judge of character that would definitely include your close family and friends. You tried it though lol.
@@demigodsinbad7225 lol if your ignoring signs, you're not a good judge of character, that is an absolute oxymoron, it makes no logical sense lol.
I’ve watched dozens of these and he was smart enough to bring his attorney in with him so he’s smarter than 99% of the people in his position. I feel bad for him
Well he is involved with law enforcement… and he’s financially able to acquire an attorney before going in.
@@BokushingusKendoTV I just watched a police chief being interrogated and he invoked his right, but just continued to talk anyway. Seasoned police chief who knew he should have a lawyer, said he should probably talk to one but never committed and continued answering the questions anyway.
@@TBonerton ohhhh I saw that one!!! But to be fair that guy seemed a little bit off or drugged or something, but he didn’t seem to be mentally competent.
This didn’t cost him upfront. @@BokushingusKendoTV connections.
@Patricia Carole Von Dyche I believe you guys.
I just remember a fellow Kendo teammate, who was an attorney, saying they had to pay him first. So i thought that was the case here since he seems to be financially stable.
This man trusted his wife more than I trust myself.
My wife keeps me out of trouble.
Ngl I chuckled reading this 😂
i trust my wife more than myself
LMAO,that CAT had him...lol
And look where that got him.
If you're guilty, you need an attorney. If you're innocent, YOU REALLY NEED AN ATTORNEY.
The police are not your friend ❤
The difference in how the police are treating him is amazing.
Why? If they are guilty they should admit to everything and deal with the consequences of their evil.
Yea no shit.
I mean this dude said everything he knew honestly before the lawyer even arrived. Not sure how a lawyer will impact in a significant way after this,.
I love observing the differences in an interrogation with someone who is cooperative, forthcoming and innocent. More of this in true crime please!!!
There's quite a bit of "this" in true crime it just appears different depending on who is being interviewed & who is watching. This guy, just like anyone else will answer what is in his best interest - as he should
You wanna watch innocent people get interrogated? That sounds boring as fuck.
dude let his wife get banged by men
@@isras6702 I like when they lie but get caught
There's tons but most people don't want to watch or bother to leak interrogations of anyone aside from the killer.
I often see comments from people wanting to see what an innocent person looks like when interrogated. I know that Zach is somewhat familiar with police techniques, but you can tell that his body language is completely different from the guilty suspects we usually see. He leans forward, he answers most of the questions quickly, and apart from the first couple of answers, he doesn't overshare. Yes, he was clueless, but he wasn't hiding anything.
Yes exactly this! It's so interesting to watch the differences.
That’s a good analysis , it’s just so different to most interrogations you watch,!!!! It should be shown to junior interrogators
It’s not his fault he was deceived by her. But yeah your right it’s a good example of an innocent interviewee .
And yet u say he knows popo and how they work... interesting...
@@donnaturner4795 and most officers get caught bc of their body language and the same things they watch others for.
Its crazy to see how different the detectives act when there's an attorney present. Always contact your attorney.
Also when they don't think he is the crim.
Unbelievable that he did not know.
Sometimes people who are innocent don't because I mean they're innocent 😂 but it turns iut so badly most of the time.
Just don't talk at all, it's not an emission of guilt. Court is when you plee your case.
I contacted my attorney just watching this
the only two things you need to know about this man is that he (1) doesn’t know anything and (2) doesn’t associate with people who do drugs
Love people that make the immorality of drugs their whole personality.
A man that trusts his spouse completely is not only rare, but shows just how much he loved her. Without trust love dies. My heart goes out to him.
Na he is a simp
I agree...he seems so forthcoming.. these detectives would have so many different lies of his to pull apart with how much information he is willingly given to them with every question so it seems weird to me to be this forthcoming if all of this is why... I kind of think he wasn't involved and.... very sad
He didnt love her, they had an open relationship and he had no idea what she was doing at any time, their marriage was dead but they just didnt want to seperate
I think the guy probably has ADHD lol. Like classic combination ADHD.
I think he had a situation where he could just do whatever he wanted and she supported him, and sounds like facilitated him not having to have responsibility (likely to cover the shit she was doing). I think he did want to question a good deal and I'm sure just kept telling himself everything was fine.
holy crap... theres actually a lawyer with him!! i'm so used to people waiving that right it's almost a shock to the system to see one lol
You can tell he is not a suspect doe at no point did they read him his miranda rights
He used to be a cop, he knows how dumb it is to talk without one...
It’s interesting to see the guilty ones usually talk without a lawyer. They can’t help themselves lol
@@davidklein521 did he tell you that
@@dougjohnson8610 if you watch the video he does say he was a cop in like the first 2 minutes
In this man’s defense, regarding his wife’s handling of the finances, I 💯 believe him. My husband has NO IDEA, at any time, how much is coming in or going out of our account. Everything is direct deposited, most bills are auto drafted, and I handle everything. He knows where we bank, has access to all of it, but doesn’t WANT to deal with anything. I get it.
Mine is the same.
Sounds like either your husband is using you or you're a control freak.
@@Flotter-Flo sometimes in a marriage certain care task fall to the responsibility of the best suited for the job, and then the spouses trust each other ..
@@lourose697 To me, complete trust over finances is insane. If true crime videos have taught us anything, it's that you can never truly know someone.
No one should ever let themselves become that dependant on anyone!
Its safe to say that he had no idea what was going on with anyone anywhere at anytime.ever. And he came with his lawyer which seems to be the best decision he's ever made.
If you asked my dad about money or bills in our home he would have no idea. Mum’s always organised everything for the household and he could focus on working his butt off. No gatekeeping of funds, just defined responsibility that works. And so much trust. Worked just fine for 40+ years. Retired now and they manage fine so this definitely worked for them. I don’t think he’s a bad guy for not knowing. He trusted her with his life. So sad
I feel like that stuff stops when the child support office says you didn't pay A COUPLE TIMES. At that point , not looking into your fiances to see the problem, Which is depriving your daughter of support but not paying gets you a bench warrant from your case, which would probably do something to take away his license and yada. I MEAN, HELLO MR DETECTIVE, THERE IS SOMETHING TO DETECT HERE!
I feel bad for Taylor, this mushroom keeps insulting her and calling her a "Scumbag" the whole while defending the person who killed her , who was buys motorcycles for her side piece with money stolen from her victim. THAT IS SAD! :(
(Sorry about the rant, this interrogation kinda pissed me off a bit. . At least he love New Orleans so, he could be worse. )
This is more common then ppl think!
@@NA-rb4zk Which part? The denial of his wife being a killer or never knowing about his financial state?
He trusted his wife and that is all he made a mistake doing and she knew that it was going to work for that reason. Predators love trust and truthful people.
Except this dude is an unemployed bum.
I was like this guy about finances. I trusted my husband completely, assuming he was much better with finances than I. After all, he was a CPA and was very tight with money. Then one day after 25 years of making payments on our $29,500 home he blurted out that we still owed $25,000 on our house. WHAT? ! I had to check into this. The banker told me that he had used our home on collateral on several large loans amounting to about $22,000. It didn’t add up. We didn’t have new furniture, cars, etc. Turns out he was spending all this money on some girl half our age. So…his girlfriend was getting massive boxes of chocolates, clothes from fancy stores where I wasn’t allowed, photos from an expensive portrait where the kids and I were not allowed, and a car. People are surprising. After that I wondered just how far he would go. I actually became afraid he might have me killed, as the trust was totally destroyed.
Wow, in my country houses are 10x more expensive and people need at least 30 years to pay it off, but usually they die with a mortgage.
😢😮
$25,000 house? Where do you live, the North Pole? Lol
@@Simon1985_ that house was bought in 1974 for 29,500. It was appraised at 265,00 the other day.
@@ursalaoutrageous9249 I hope you got rid of him and all that equity is yours! You and your children lived so long without, so you deserve that and much more!
I’ve been the person who found out their partner was the monster. Being disillusioned is a terrible feeling. Having your reality ripped out from under you and your world flipped upside down is a traumatic experience I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
So many comments like that here, so let me ask you: if out of the blue one day you found out it looks like your partner murdered their friend, would your reaction be something like at around 1:05:10 ? "I just can't imagine my partner doing such a sloppy job of covering up a murder"?
what did he do? touch some kids? pushed a tute off a bridge?
Amen. ❤❤❤
@@Suzanne4415well he said that because of her background
@@chikushodiz91 I understand that that's how he's intellectually maintaining denial, in itself not too weird.
What IS odd is he skipped over the whole "she's really not the murdering type" reaction that I think you have if you're completely blindsided by this side of your partner.
(Not for a moment questioning Rae Clair's experience here. But I'm questioning that that's what we're watching in this video.)
Poor guy. When he says that he’s very good at judging people & is never wrong… while wife gets arrested for murder 😳
Great example of being blinded by love 😞
Was she actually found guilty?
Being SO clueless and gullible probably saved his life, and he was better able to prove his innocence
Chilling thought but I bet you're spot on. His not questioning his wife probably did save his life. shiver 😬
Also chilling, the clueless/gullible bafoon was a cop. Guess they'll take what they can, but these standards do not impress. 🤷
@@tadmikowsky7520 notice he was let go pretty quickly. Who knows the real reason, then he couldn't get another LE job because of the math. Kind of sad
He really is the definition of 'ignorance is bliss'
They Said he received 25k for a injury settlement. If I received 25k I wouldn't work for a few yeafs
"why do you need math in police work?"
To add up all the red flags that you've completely ignored with your wife.
How about home economics?
roast!
Ha ha! Very good, Melissa.
boom, roasted!
Would be a great private investigator. Doesn't miss a thing.
The reason he didn’t question anything is because he thought he had hit the jackpot with a wife letting him sleep with whomever he wanted and buy whatever he wanted. Also, she took care of everything for him. I once had an assistant like that, went above and beyond. Made my job a breeze. I loved it, until I found out she was robbing me blind! As the old adage goes: All that glitters is not gold.
Great spin on the Led Zeppelin lyric
@@randomlyfactual1943 Tolkien, from Shakespeare, from who knows before that...
👍
@@endokrin7897 oh wow, don't I feel like the uncultured swine now.
Thanks for the correction 😁
I had an assistant like that. A lot of work was taken off of me by her. I paid her very well, and still, she was stealing from me.
Oh no! Treat us well. We repay you with crap. Treat us like crap we worship you. Pew, this world.
Don't stop doing good though.😊😊
There's no way I just watched this for 2 hours waiting to see them tell him his wife actually definitely did this and it didn't happen....
I think he has an incredibly shallow relationship with that woman. I think he doesn’t ask her questions about finances, where she’s at etc, not because he’s clueless but because he doesn’t want the answers. She has all the leverage. Financial discussions bring him shame because he doesn’t make nearly as much as her. He doesn’t ask where she’s been because it brings him shame that she sleeps with others. He chooses to live in the fog so he doesn’t have to face the reality of his failed life, income and dysfunctional relationships.
It's like she is his mother.
Seems way too complex to call it shallow....
@@terrytarver690 she obviously lived a complex life, im just guessing that he didn’t involve himself much in specifics.
@@jedlee2194 Obviously....
@@terrytarver690 ellipsis…
This will be so traumatic for him for a long time because of his job and the pride he took in it. It's really heartbreaking, people close to you are an entirely different ballgame than strangers. People that you love can groom you for a long time before you get it.
Hence why I don't let people near me. They are disappointing.
He's a total IDIOT! Incapable of processing reality, so he won't be traumatized. PLEASE KEEP HIM AWAY FROM LAW ENFORCEMENT!
Such a sad thing to find out someone close to you was capable of such. I'm certain this situation will force him to be more engaging in the next relationship.
It shows he has absolutely no business in law enforcement nor private investigation being that oblivious
@@traceymcdonald7949 it's very different when it comes to your spouse. You could be one of thebest officers with an outstanding record for spotting liars, and still be completely blind and oblivious to what your deceitful spouse is up to. You trust everything about your spouse and everything they tell you, or else you wouldn't have married them (unless, as in the case of this man's wife, you're a sociopath that obv groomed him from the beginning to be hands off)
I believe him. When you have no Ill intentions towards people, it’s probably very hard to imagine others do. Especially if they are your spouse!
The “probably” implies you have ill intentions towards people… tell us more!
I know this to be true
Yeah it’s not that common, that someone you know. Let alone your partner. Is a murderer. It’s not like it’s common knowledge.
I smell everything, eyes are enough for me.
@watchmejumpstart Agreed. I think he's very good at playing gullible.
Foolish to believe that an open relationship with a spouse that hooks up with someone won't lead to a relationship ever.
Or on Dateline where the wife and the lover kill the husband for his insurance. Zack is lucky he's still walkin around.
Right?????
@@anothermonday5664 Exactly
Well, I've learned one thing from watching these, if you ever decide to kill anyone, don't take your phone with you. Makes you wonder how they caught murderers before cell phones because 80% of these cases involve somebody's cell phone
Your phone listens to you .... ever been talking about something then it pops up as ads the next day ~
@@ronniezr201 yea alll the time
dude let his wife get banged by men
@@ronniezr201 he’s talking about murders not ads
I don’t know sounds like it would be hard without a witness
I feel sorry for this guy. The worst thing is to find out the monster is the person you love.
Me too! It’s awful. And it’s awful to be so deceived by someone you truly loved
36:00 "I'm never wrong at judging people. Ever!"
Yeah, if he watches and listens to this interrogation at the parts he says how great his character judgment is, it's gonna dawn on him.
@@maverickstclare3756 yeah wow 😱
A murderer and adulterer. A wicked deceptive woman.
It’s sad because this man deserved better.
I'd really love to see the wife's interrogation.
I’ve watched the wife’s interrogation. I think they brought her in 2 or 3 times. She tried to make excuses for everything
It's excellent.
It's on UA-cam. Just type in interrogation of Ashley MacArthur. I'm watching it now.
It's there if you look at her name. I just watching. Is very very good from Tahiti
Maybe it will show up. Keep an eye out
Weird how he constantly points out the dead girls addiction and how he doesn't associate with "those types of people" but his clean and sober wife was the real monster.. Go figure.
@@Apathina Doesn't even have to be that, personally I just dont want drugs around me or in my life and I think thats a perfectly reasonable stance to take.
was thinking the same shit lol
I think Ashley fed him that about Taylor
Yea he seems pretty judgmental about ppl who use drugs yet this guy seems like a dopey bum whose wife wears the pants
@@user-di8hm2jl2uI think so, too. There wasn't evidence of drug use.
You can be a good judge of character and not suspect the ones you love. We put on blinders to their actions. He probably did hear, see or just suspect something but it gets brushed off.
nah he is literally a clueless moron who doesn't make a penny because his job requires a brain which he does not have. proof is in the puddin
If you put on blinders, you're neither a good judge of character or a good character
@@bestofa.q.p.1840 that’s like saying good swimmers can’t drown.
@@bestofa.q.p.1840 its a human trait and you are also 100% guilty
This is so true. I thought I was pretty savvy, but my wife developed a severe cocaine habit without me suspecting a thing for far too long. We're divorced and she lost everything.
When he said, "I reckon". Seems like a down to earth guy. I also love that he describes his trip by the food he ate, thats how i plan all trips and describe what we do.
In other interrogation videos that is classified as suspicious behavior: giving specific, unnecessary details about unimportant things (the details of food ordered and why) and going off into detailed tangents, but just not remembering any of the details the cops want about the case. Suspicious.
@@followme8238 I noticed the same thing. And he has a motive to frame his wife. And he was a cop. They protect there own.
😆😆🤣 that is true. The guy didn't forget what he ate.
@@followme8238 everything is "suspicious" lmfao
That is why your name is Gains!!! LOL.....Kidding with ya.!
He is a victim of long term abuse, coercion and manipulation. I have seen other husbands who stop asking questions after a few years because they know they have to either do something about the lies, control and constant betrayal or give up. He gave up years ago as a coping mechanism.
i agree with you
Same.
When you're so oblivious you don't even know how much you contributed to a murder 😳 can't be good for business Mr PI!
Cop: So what do you think happened ?
**C'mon guys, are you paying attn?🤷♀️😆
Hub: I don't think she would do that, she's super smart..
**compared to who sir? You?🤔🤭
Yup. Done it myself
Yep, she thoroughly broke him. He has zero self-respect and has as much responsibility as a child.
Poor dude. I would never trust my own judgement of people the same after going through something like this.
I'm sure Ashley was "dropping breadcrumbs" meaning she pointed out situations that guided her own narrative and made Taylor appear to be a drug addict or of questionable character. I say this because it's been done to me. I'm sure Ashley played her husband like a fiddle.
Completely. That’s exactly what manipulators do. The only way people can see through the bullshit is if you’ve have to deal with these chaotic people in you’re own life.
My ex partner was one
My exact thought
Exactly. Which is why all these people need to stop saying it makes no sense that he didn't know her character was off, that he must have been bad at his job because he didn't know she was a bad person. Like the people who are making those comments have clearly never been in a manipulative relationship. There's plenty of PI s, detectives, even people who profile for a living for the darn fbi who wouldn't know if their partner was a murderer or a r@pi$t , ECT. Like you said. It's all about the manipulation. When you're manipulated into thinking your partner is somebody else. Love will blind you. I think it's ignorant all these people commenting saying he must have been a horrible private investigator because that makes no sense. Tons of people have been in terribly manipulative relationships but they are incredibly smart people and great at what they do. Like therapists for instance. People assume right away antherapist should know they're dating a narcissist and that's simply not true.
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@@tatertot4208 Yes it is and indeed I've never been in a manipulative relationship. Why? Because I'm intelligent and naturally distrusting of people and this serves me well in life. Quit making excuses for yourself should be your starting point.
His wife played him through & through. Spending his money on some other guy….what!! He’s honestly lucky she didn’t get rid of him🔫😳
Yeah, in retrospect, he should be both incredibly humbled AND terrified by his own obliviousness to everything.
I bet he pays attention these days…probably trusts nobody
Being so clueless probably is the only reason he wasn't whacked
That's total bullshit
He lived off her money for years. He was unemployed.
“As a former crime scene technician, McArthur knew exactly what to do to cover up her crime”. Well if that was true, she would never have been caught!
Exactly. She was at Home Depot buying cement, etc. in full view of the cameras.
The universe always finds a way.
I find it weird when people, especially presenters/anchors talk in absolutes. Like, it would have been more accurate to say "as a former crime scene technician, McArther had some idea of how to cover her crime, but lacked awareness outside of the crime scene and was easily picked up on cameras. Lol
Same pet peeve I have when presenters say things like "the perfect marriage", "the perfect family"
@@veryverte I agree with you.
@@veryverte exactly. Hyperbole drives UA-cam
He’s not guilty of anything but naivety, laziness, and stupidity. He didn’t WANT to know anything…made his life easier. That’s dangerous.
There's a reason why we hear about "conflict of interest" and "too close to the case" on every police show. We are blinded when it comes to the people close to us, either by our own emotions, projections of who they are or because we are so close to their manipulations. Not realising his wife is a murderer doesn't mean he wasn't a good officer/investigator - it's one thing to be focused on every little while on the job and another to do it every minute of the day in your personal relationships. "Trust" means not breaking down someone's every word, action and movement. He must've just enjoyed having an easy life where he did his thing, his wife did hers and obviously never considered that would mean that she would end up murdering someone and putting him at risk of being an accomplice/conspirator.
You spoke so many facts. I would add that easily trusting people you are friends with comes easier in your teens. If you don't have any remarkable issues occur early in childhood, you can literally think all people are truthful and just not give it a 2nd thought. I was really good friends with someone for 17 years. She was a great friend and we were there for each other. Even though I was married, she was the only female I trusted to come in my home when I wasn't there. My husband died in 98. About 15 years ago I decided to move from Florida to DC. She absolutely stopped talking to me and would not return my calls. I reached out so many times. Spoke with her about her behavior and never got a straight answer. Her sister later told me many important things she never told me she was involved with. I was so shocked. I'm still shocked. When I say we were close friends, I mean we could have been sisters. Been her 15 years and probably talked to her 5 times.i guess I never really knew her the way I thought.
I agree with you.
@@CyberWorld999 what were the things about her behaviour that her sister told you? The more we tell each other, the more we learn.
@@Google_Does_Evil_Now while i was living down there her sister called me and told me she had moved in with some guy and his sister. the guys sister wanted her to move out and her sister says she tried talking to her about the guy being useless. they wanted me to talk to her about it. i explained to her sister that she was an adult…anyway, we were very close friends. plus i knew she had a habit of dating men that were absolute zeros but again, she’s an adult. we spoke daily on the phone, attended the same small church for 17 years. to this day she’s never told me that she was living with this guy and his sister. another time later on i found out by accident she had another guy living with her. she wasn’t at home when i stopped by one day and he answered the door. i never mentioned it because i figured she’d tell me when she wanted. she’s never told me. the church we attended taught no sex before marriage. now i understand why she never told me. she didn’t want me to think she was failing at living what we were taught. that’s 1 of the reasons why i stopped attending church. people can’t live their lives in peace for being afraid to be honest with a friend. i didn’t and still don’t want my friends to feel that way about our friendship. hopefully one day she will come around. i’ve certainly reached out to her.
dude let his wife get banged by men
This poor guy just found out the woman he loves is a cold blooded murderer, who pissed away his money on another man, lied about their finances, etc... I'm not sure how he's supposed to act but it seems to me there's a whole range of 'normal' emotions. Feeling like an idiot is probably pretty high on that list. I doubt anything would shock him at this point
possibly a DNA test on their child?
@@betsyvanek9275 The child isn’t his. He even says he loves her like his own.
The cops on the other hand are shocked af . Like damn, this dude (this PI) surely knows somethin more?! Just to find out- nope he really doesn't know anything... Anything about anything! I wonder how the job hunt went, yikes😳
Go watch the first one of her
@@Hope8x28 that's a good point. Also he didn't mind her sleeping with other people so... it definitely wasn't a healthy relationship
He took "Happy wife happy life" to the extreme.
He seems as dense as lead
NAILED IT and that happy wife, happy life is just pure evil.
lmao
Happy wife, happy life...in prison.
Talk about 2birds 1 stone……. Some guys have all the luck…
If she had gotten away with this murder she would be collecting his LIFE INSURANCE soon😮
My mom did all the shopping.. food clothing bathroom needs...everything.. so when dad retired and started going shopping with us man he was BLINDSIDED.. he never understood how mom was spending so much...til he started going. He truly was stunned.
My dad was the primary bread winner and my mom always balanced the checkbook and paid all the bills. When Dad learned computer skills and became a spreadsheet nerd he took over all that, he trusted Mom but just started keeping track of EVERYTHING on spreadsheets LOL. One day he was upset and incredulous that she went to Red Lobster twice in one week. She told him that once was taking her mother to lunch and the other was taking his mother to lunch. She asked if he wanted to take over THAT duty too. He shut his mouth and never questioned her expenses again.
Edit: They’ve been married 65 years and I’ve only heard them argue about money 3 times. The Red Lobster incident, once when she spent $300 on glasses for me back in the 1980’s and once when he spent $80 on a toaster. Otherwise they were generally on the same page with money and what it could and couldn’t do for your life.
@@tangyjoe4326 That's hilarious! Of the 3 arguements... lol, he was in the wrong... who buys a toaster for $80?? It better butter the bread too! 😄 🤣 😂 😆 #PowerToYourMom lol
@@9babyblu idk the red lobster story... you dont take your mom there twice in all honesty.
@@williamjktkd read the comment above mine... that's who I was talking to. And she didn't take her mom 2s. She took her mom 1s and his mom 1s. Could all be their fave restaurant. Who is her husband to judge? Lol
My husband was the same way until our daughter died and I was so depressed he had to take over paying some bills because ijust didn’t care about anything. There was nothing wrong,just he was shocked at how expensive things were such school taxes, real estate taxes, water bills, electric bills, etc.
It’s nice to see interrogation room cameras are slowly but surely getting upgraded to HD quality. It really helps to be able to see body language and the suspects eyes. Fascinating stuff! ✌️
And hear clearly too.
@@Ellen-hs7zb the audio on this is really quiet… not too good
@@anublsunder
Gee, mine is loud and clear throughout.
Hes not a suspect
@@Ellen-hs7zb Yes. Oftentimes videos like these I know the person being interrogated was not THAT numbly. LOL 😂
This man had no idea how close he came to getting charged in this crime. If Ashley had simply lied and said he was involved that’s all it would have taken to put him in prison.
So true
False.
@the KC dot how is that false? Everyone is supposed to believe ALL WOMEN right? Because women never lie right?
@@thekcdot
Hey, great input! Very insightful, the way elaborated so in depth.
@@karenamyx2205 I agree with him but still 😭😭😭
Sounds like his wife was his sugar mama and he was a kept man. That's why he didn't question anything and was ok with an open relationship. He was able to come and go as he pleased and had all kinds of boy toys. She had him conditioned to not ask questions. He sounded very happy with this set-up. As long as he had a roof over his head, food in his belly, his truck/jeep, a phone and a debit card he was content.
😂 IKR!!!
And got to watch his wife with another girl once in a while.
The guys that are making fun of him are secretly jealous 😂
Spot on lol 💯
This was painful to watch. You can just see these detectives spoon-feeding this guy, waiting and waiting for him to FINALLY clue in to what is going on. Even his lawyer must have been rolling his eyes.
Hes playing dumb
This is astonishing. A divorce attorney told a friend, decades ago- start looking at the money, for any that's being hidden. You should always know where the money is, where it's going.
This guy is a lesson to us all.
Jeez.
I completely understand those that absolutely trust their spouse and don't want the headache but also the attorney isn't wrong, it's going to best for everyone if both partners are aware, supportive, have a system that works so either spouse can take over supervising at any time.
I mean, it is technically crazy. But I was kind of the same way. Here’s my check pay all the bills and I would ask her. Hey do we have money for this? Just oblivious to all of it. So when he said that, I completely believe him because it’s like damn, I do the same damn thing not no more. Lol
DEFINITELY !!
Yep. Anything worth knowing is connected to a dollar sign. Doesn’t have to be much .. but free gets no one in trouble..
A friend gave his wife every paycheck,to pay bills. He found that he had no money in the bank & the mortgage was overdue. His wife spent it at casinos.
There is such a thing as 'wilful ignorance,' the tacit acceptance that bad things are happening and active decision to both not question and make it clear to others that you don't want to know any worrying details.
simply by his body language alone throughout this video, you can tell he was innocent. he sat in the confession pose the entire time !
😂
This can happen to anyone. Regardless of intelligence, character traits etc. Because a person who is a very good manipulator can indeed have one totally fooled to believe the life they know is real.
Exactly... easy to judge from outside
As much as I'd love to have all the financial stuff taken care of without a chance of my messing it up, not checking your bank accounts? Not once? Not press one button on an ATM to see the balance on the debit account? Not notice a single suspicious pay-us-now envelope from Chattanooga? You don't have to be mistrustful of your wife to want to be mindful of your assets. This dude still has his umbilical cord. Guess he never got burned by a normal, everyday hellbeast. Must have been nice. The rest of us know the drill. Trust, but verify. At least once a damn year, man.
The fact he immediately started vilifying the victim and calling her a drug addict is fishy. Calling the victim a drug addict and insinuating she would disappear often without any proof when asked is him muddying the waters by implying she was involved in a dangerous lifestyle. He isn't guilty but he definitely knew or more than he admitted to in my opinion. He wasn't as clueless as the narrator is making him out to be imo.
@@tonysan4762 Ever think his wife groomed him to see a lot of bad too. Maybe she disappeared because her & Ashley were talking. Many scenarios. This dude just thought he had a happy life, happy wife. He's a good guy IMO.
@@GetCraftyLemons Fully agree, when you love and trust, and have been together for a while, then there is no reason to get suspicious all over sudden. This just shows how highly he thought of his wife. The awakening must have been disgustingly painful for him. Poor man....
I have no idea if the victim had a drug problem or not, but I laughed so hard at his description of her "little bag she guarded" because that's how I always am about my bag with makeup, tampons and pads. She could have just been diabetic, on her period, had IBS, etc.
Same!
I see what you're saying, but these days it's not so much of a big deal especially around people you know quite well.
(Edit: "big deal" meaning, men or others seeing your personal feminine products.)
As a previous addict I had a little make up bad I guarded with my life 😂 10000% drugs when it came to me lol
@@TJ-um8ce I gaurd my bags too lmao, not because I'm hiding anything, it's just a security thing for me, it makes me feel safe to hold it close, my backpack is important because it helps me carry things but also because I get a sense of security wearing it when i walk, but also putting it in my lap when I sit down, holding it close and wrapping my arms around it (social situations freak me out a lot)
@@alexb7092 I hear ya. Totally get what you mean. I hate being around people, just my kids and husband ,(sometimes when he's not being a dick 🤣🤣) but I avoid people most of the time. Not to be trusted
My old lady handles all of our finances too! She’s an accountant! It’s literally what she does for a living so I leave it to her because I suck at managing money. I feel for this guy!
Me too 😔
me too 🤔
Yeah accountants never steal money......
dude let his wife get banged by men
@@AC-mp7cx If that’s what they’re into, what does it matter? I swear, Puritan asswipes are insufferable .
Love the fact that this guy remembers things, dates, and times by where he ate 😂 He’s my kind of people 🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I let my wife handle our money because I hate seeing the money I worked hard for every 2 weeks go straight to bills. So I can understand how he had that trust in her.
that’s the economy tho… get the money pass it on…still have bills ya can’t quite pay-or car repairs put off for a year or two..
Trust but verify. This guy was clueless.
Thanks for that, l handle the money in our marriage. Hubby earns good income, but he is not good at money management.
He likes his toys, and always wants the best. He doesn’t think twice about buying a product he wants, yet forgets that the bills have to be paid first.
Its a very common dynamic.
@jessicabrown6604 which makes me wonder why women have 2 3rds of the worlds debt?
I genuinely don't believe he lied about anything. The way he conducted himself was 100% believable. I feel bad for him that someone he devoted himself to and trusted betrayed him so horribly!
I will say I'm surprised how clueless he was about their finances. I take care of everything in our house too but my husband always has an idea where we're at. Especially when he uses the ATM, it spits out the receipt with our balance on it. That's pretty standard so I don't know how he never saw that.
It was the other way around in our house. Dad did everything and Mom was Mom. He even took us kids grocery shopping on Saturday to give Mom break. There's not many like him around today.
Random, but I love your profile pic. It reminds of something special from my childhood.
I'm sure he said he only ever went to the ATM when he had to sort out a new card (which wasn't often)?
I know multiple married couples who have this same financial arrangement. When I got engaged my fiance said that she wanted a joint account so I could manage the finances and she would just come to me for money because she didn't want to worry about it. I'm not sure that this makes him irresponsible if it's the arrangement they agreed to upfront. My mom doesn't know how to do an oil change, does that make her irresponsible..
About her car? Yes
My husband also manages the finances. I get really anxious and overwhelmed with money and have some mental health components that play into it as well. So he takes care of paying 90% of the bills from his account and I couldn't tell you how much they are. However, I can see all of the accounts and do occasionally check plus check my credit score, etc. But this dude is a bit extreme
My parents arrangement is the same way. I see no problem with it
I’ve been looking after our finances for 42 yrs. my husband can’t be bothered. I want him to get online banking so if I die first he will know how to pay bills etc. He refuses to learn.
Yes.
Kinda made me laugh when he kept saying I stay away from those types who mess with drugs, I don't associate with that lifestyle. Kind of ironic that he's married to a murderer.
Denial is survival when you live with a narcissist.
Wow……….now that’s a new one to me…..and I’m keeping it…
It's actually enabling
@@coast5663 you can’t enable a narcissist. It’s not like it’s an addiction or something, they are just messed up in the head. Insinuating it’s enabling is putting blame on the victim, the person being manipulated is not at fault for trusting other humans.
Truer words have never been said! All abuse results in survival and blocking things out is a natural thing to do!
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TRUTH
It is amazing how blindly people will let someone just control finances. I have seen a number of people in trouble because their partner was handling all the money and being irresponsible or outright criminal.
If your spouse or significant other is trying to block you out of your daily finances you should probably run.
Agreed. It's like if a pretty girl comes at you with a power of attorney contract. No thanks. I don't even let attorneys have power of attorney over me.
Most people are aware of domestic violence being physical abuse or emotional abuse, but financial abuse can be just as crippling. If your partner is financially abusive they might try to keep you from having a job (therefore no income at all). They might keep you from using any credit cards or cash and claim that YOU are the one that’s irresponsible with finances. They might run up your credit or ruin your credit so that you can’t purchase your own car, or be able to rent your own apartment or housing. And on and on …
Agreed. But in this case… was she trying to block his access or did she just suggest that she take over and pay the bills and he went along with it? That was the vibe I was getting; that he just didn’t care to do it so she did it.
@@dimitrilitovsk2372 unless you’re terminally Ill or elderly why would you ever need to give someone power of attorney? Maybe I’m unaware but I only see this with my elderly clients.
@@Randompotatoes-qs7bm power of attorney is sometimes suggested for people who are technically not a ward of the state, but they aren't fully there mentally. Or if you hire a company to scrub your emails from spammers, or other websites to reduce clutter. It exists but you gotta have the know how or hire a company and in my state they ask for power of attorney. Idk if they ask for that in other states but they prevent a bunch of fraud/scam emails and they won't contact the customer after the service is used
He is the most uninterested husband ever. He knows like nothing about his wife 😅😅
This guy is definitely guilty of being extremely gullible.
we're allexperts from our chair.
He was whipped...
@@babstarr9775 just like Chris watts was whipped and bankrupted by scheming and scamming woman.
Oblivious
@@kevinb9830 did you see the super hero on South Park. He was called Captain Hindsight.
The irony is that he should have been more on top of things but the fact that he wasn’t made it unlikely she would kill him as he’s more useful to her alive. Whereas Taylor has “an inquiring mind” about her finances & represents a serious threat to Ashley’s ongoing criminal lifestyle.
Open marriage, blind trust, and one spouse handles all the finances? That's a recipe for total disaster
Definitely
He was smittens with her, because I am sure all the signs were there but he chose to ignore them. He knew his wife liked women and frequented gays bars hustling women that found her attractive; he agreed to the open relationship, which was his wife’s idea. The only thing I would say he wasn’t aware of was the wife buying the motorcycle for her male lover and that really hurt him. Remember this guy is a P.I.
This guy is one of a kind! Very rare is a man this oblivious, and completely blinded by love! Wow!
I wonder does he realize just how close he might have been to being the next victim if she had life insurance on him.
I said same thing mister clueless what's a P.I
@@34rebelde Private investigator
Nailed. If she was skimming from the companies she was collecting from and used her friend's money and killed her, I'm just shocked she didn't go after the husband prior to any of that.
Exactly what I thought. Ashley would have killed her husband next, no doubt.
My thoughts too!
I think he was just happy to have a sugar momma and do what he wanted. He didn’t get declined so he didn’t care or feel the need to care/check. He just thought he hit the jackpot and was living his best life. Definitely oblivious to the situation
Exactly
Here's what happens when you give somebody the keys to your life. Dude doesn't even know how his child support gets paid.
No one's honking their horn so he'll continue to sleep at the wheel until they do.
No. The dude was lying. Including lying about $. Cops asked him how he thought she paid everything on $45K and his “I don’t know, she had the business” answer is bogus.
Then he says he didn’t know about her coke issue 🤣🇺🇸
can speak from personal experience my ex would just get his paychecks directly deposited into MY bank account, his name wasn’t even on it. i paid everything. he didn’t know what was due when or what was getting paid etc. it worked for us. made everything simple especially when he wasn’t working. like this guy says he wasn’t either 🤷♀️
@@JT0007 There are plenty of dopey dudes who let their wives run their world and just don't care. It's no different from back in the 40s, 50s, and 60s when the husband would usually be the breadwinner and the wife just stayed at home with the kids. Wives would usually have zero idea about their finances. This dude seemed like the typical guy that let his wife act like his mother and just do everything for him. It's not exactly weird or uncommon at all.
@@Jessica_Costantini he’s a moron. Any guy that would have his paycheck deposited into a woman’s account is beyond irresponsible. Women will just spend it on whatever they want
He keeps calling the victim "crazy", "weird", "a drug addict", basically someone not to like, but then it turned out his own wife is all those things. Seems he didn't know his wife very well at all...
He doesn't even know the brand of cigarettes, until the Detective mentioned several! Does he even know his wife??
Seriously !!!
I mean she is a liar - she didn’t tell him anything either -
It’s as if they live separate lives. It’s bizarre to me. The whole, I knew they were hooking up but a relationship...hell no! 😳
@@Shiftinguzi
Not saying things isn't lying.
He also thinks she's super intelligent but doesn't know what education she has...
A masters? A Bachelors?
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“Ash doesn’t like confrontation.” I guess that’s why she shot Taylor in the back.
She was shot in the back of the head just thought you should know that she was not shot in her back
@@danielbell7855 What he said doesn't overrule what you said. In the back of the head still in the back side
@@danielbell7855 I do know that, actually. Should have said, while her back was turned.
Great comment! Just brilliant!!!
@@danielbell7855 fx
The irony in the husband saying that he’s never wrong about people, yet he married a murderer.
Drugs can change you, she wasn’t a murderer when they met, she went through some stuff to her her to that point.
Well they do say love is blind
He allowed her to be the greater light in his life; and was blinded by that light.
😂
I thought the same! I thought the detective was gonna say that 😂
The household spent $11k for a deck and the husband didn’t know it? Wow, just wow.
Fascinating video for sure. Would recommend setting the stage for us a little better as far as what he knew or didn’t know going into this. I didn’t even know he knew she was dead until halfway through or “Ash” had been arrested unless I missed these things in the beginning. I really like the channel as a new listener.
I think there was a 48 hours or similar type show on this case that would get you up to speed.
Definitely agree! I enjoy seeing these interrogations, but I prefer it when channels give viewers a little more context first.
I think That Chspter did the story too.
Agree
I can't imagine being comfortable with letting my husband handle all of the finances. He's good with money but to have zero idea of what's going on or what we have in the bank is horrifying.
That’s funny
I live like this every day
Not everybody’s relationship is same
Some people trust their spouse
This is normal but just be sure u have some assets in your name as well . I have 50/50 assets and bank accounts in our names. We do share a lot and don’t really care about our finances and who is taking care of what . But we make sure we invest in assets 50/50 with our individual money so it doesn’t effect the other too much . Like if it’s a bad investment there’s still other assets separately and still be safe … never ever put all ur eggs in one basket
Some people just aren't good with the budget and finances. And if you are good at that, you help them out
I knew more about my 5th grade girlfriends than this guy did about his wife 😂
He knew about his and her open relationship.
@@Harley08 that and guns 😂
@@DerekMantei You’re right ! 🤣🤣
Stop it. You’re cracking me up.
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i don't even think it's shocking how he doesn't suspect his own wife... if you love and trust someone u don't question everything they do and you'd never think they'd be able to do something like that
He seemed to know more about Taylor and her life than he did his own wife or his own.
No,he didn't...he just thought she used drugs...
To me it seems like he jumped on hints about Taylor's shady situation that were most probably spread by his own wife to begin with. She was most probably trying to cover her future crime by destroying Taylor's reputation around her first & giving the investigators other things to focus on 🙄
How did you come to that conclusion? All he said was "I didn't like her because of what my wife said," and referenced situations where he didn't trust her being around. Just think about it, if he knew a lot about Taylor and her life, he probably wouldn't be so confident she was a drug addict and bad person.
@@Lou-bj9tk yes i agree😊
@@DisDatK9 My friend, it’s an exaggeration.
He couldn’t find a clue if it slapped him in the face.
I think that’s why she preyed on him .
I'm surprised he knows his own name, this guy doesn't know anything, Lord forbid they ask him the current year or president
Your comment gave me a good laugh😅
“I don’t know what year it is, lemme text my wife and ask her” I could see him saying this
It’s wild when you understand the psychology of interrogation rooms. This is considered a hard interrogation room versus a soft one. You can see the size of the table versus the room. It’s made to subconsciously make the person feel like the walls are closing in on them. soft rooms have couches with teddy bears and things like that for victims to be interrogated.
He’s so completely checked out of his life - I’m am not surprised that he’s oblivious to this as well.
“i’m a cop through and through!”
“i’m always right about those things.”
*was nonchalantly living under the same roof as a murderer
I mean not like she was a serial killer
hey I made the same observational post lol
@@JohnDoe-tu8ky 🤭😄😂
No different than wives of mobsters, really. See no evil, hear no evil. I don't know where the money comes from, business must be doing well.
Ya derr you have to wait till someone's a serial killer before you notice their clearly suspicious behavior
“I’m never wrong judging people.” Poor fella.
Well when you're in love, I guess it does cloud one's judgement. Fortunately it doesn't with me. Always be alert even with your spouse. 🧐🧐🧐
@@stardustdreams234 you sound like a catch. ☠️
I don't think we should be questioning his skills as a private detective. Denial is a hell of a thing. How could his wife (in same line of work), that doesn't like confrontation and he is in love with, how could she have killed someone. I can't imagine.
Agreed; There is a world of difference between the trust of a man and wife and your work life. Tough to have any sort of personal relationship without trust. I do think he could have been more present in his home life. It takes effort and attention to have a successful, long-term relationship. No way his sex life could be good without that attention either. I have been married over 40 years, and we both try not to take any aspect of our relationship for granted. The result being; I feel blessed to have the man I married in my life.
I agree
Yeah. Denial is a hell of a feeling. Speaking from guilt, I kept the woman I love in the dark for years about my addiction. She'd always see the signs but never could admit it to herself.
As the saying goes love is blind! I feel so sorry for him
@Alex Mackie totally. I had some major surgeries when I was 18-19 and almost died after the first one was botched basically, the drs thew opiates at me. I was a teenager and in hs and only thing I ever did was drink so I was t well versed in drugs. For like 4 years I kept saying g that if I was taking my normal amount it wasn't taking pain away, they just said oh its a tolerance! Well give you more!! Eventually I was like k, this is a problem and I don't feel like anyone is listening to me. I had to essentially argue with my Dr to help me stop because I was withdrawing after 4 hrs after I took my last relatively high dose. I finally got help but apparently I kept it so well hidden my last year or so thay my mom dad and sister had no idea. Mom kind of saw but I was ashamed so I would say things to get her off my back and not find out. She knew, but sh didn't want to know and forced herself to ignore the signs.
I believe him 💯. I thought I knew everything about our finances and I still didn’t know what my ex was doing behind my back u til it was too late. The betrayal is a hard thing to live with let alone learning that someone you loved was capable of murder. I hope he gets his job back. He’s a good egg and deserves better!
Same here with my ex-wife. Looking back I can see how I just chose to trust because constantly suspecting another reality (the true one) was exhausting. I am also convinced that had I acted with more control in my own life, she still would have been just as dishonest. I just would have likely been where I am now sooner is all.
same here! i paid attention at one point but everything seemed to be in order with him taking care of it so i just used the credit card and assumed it was being paid like always. i stopped checking the statements and accounts for about 4 years until one day i went to use the card and it was declined. i was so confused standing at the register i said hang on there must be a mistake, called the cc company and theyre like youre over your limit... it was pretty shocking what was going on once i investigated. lots of transferring balances, settlements, loans. i really truly saw no signs until that moment.
You have to be delusional to hire this man I see why he can’t get his job back blind loyalty isn’t a good quality
"I'm never wrong judging people...never!" lol 😂
It’s definitely interesting to see how different the interrogation goes when there is an attorney present. Without one they pressure people more , they are a lot different with questions etc. when there is one in the room
I feel that deep down he knows. He’s in denial and feels dumb, especially being in the career that he’s in.
If he knew, he wouldn't be talking.
This is sad. Feel bad for the fella.
I’ve watched several vids and podcasts and I never got the feeling he was involved after he started talking. I assumed he was totally involved before that though
Yep and what little he knows he is either trying to help her by not incriminating her or like you said he is in denial and is hoping for the best that she did not do it. They have a very odd relationship and he is an odd fellow nonetheless. Prob hard for detectives to get a good read on him since he seems genuine but has such an odd relationship and personal life.
Exactly… I think so too. He didn’t want to believe it and who wouldn’t defend their spouse… also, your spouse is most likely to manipulate and misguide you. He wanted to believe her
Yep. We always know. We don't want to disrupt our own lives.
This guy was so worried about other people’s lives he forgot to pay attention to his own
You are foolish to hand someone that kind of money and expect it to be there when you need it. Best to give it to your mother or father.
36:01 "I'm never wrong judging people."
How can you say that?
Your wife stole all your money behind your back and murdered someone.
he thinks hes smarter than he actually is!
Super ironic how he’s like “I’m never wrong judging people, I’m good at this job”
Bro got swindled and she killed someone too but he was either too stupid to realise or too scared he’d be next lmaooo
Be fair. How many murderers have friends & loved ones who never ever would have guessed how evil they truly were? We all show different traits to different people. Our work, our parents, our partners, our church, our pub mates. I mean we all do it because we are self aware.
he currently looking for a job...
Evil has no prejudice. It comes in all shapes sizes n colors n backgrounds too
"So Ashley is your wife?"
"Yes, but I've never seen her before in my life."
"Ah okay, we'd best give you a lift home then. Thanks for coming in, former cop."
LMFAO 🤣🤣🤣😭👏💯
Sounds like tRump and his knowledge of the people around him!😅😅😅
@@abelis644 TDS much?
@@abelis644 the world doesn’t revolve around politics. Normal people rarely bring it up.
@@abelis644 you support laundering money through Ukraine I see...
This might be the best audio from an interrogation video I’ve ever heard.
It’s practically ASMR. I can hear the man rub his pants!!
It must be devastating to learn that your spouse is a murderer, and has wiped you out, financially.
Can tou imagine having to rely on this guy as a witness in court??
😂😂😂
Definitely lacked depth and the ability to communicate well.
i might be just as gullible as he is, but to me he appears entirely truthful and believable.
I agree with you, it's also my feeling
Make sure your wife hasn't blown somebody away then.
sounds like he 100% trusts his wife to me 🤷♀️ i don’t see why everyone’s trashing him. yeah hindsight is 20/20…
Dude married someone without knowing what they do or how much they make and she also handled everything financially? That's what we call a honeypot lol dude was lost in that woman's.....charm.
@watchmejumpstart are you replying to me or someone else? Cause he's innocent, the wife's the murderer. It's in the title.
And the puss
He's guilty bcs his wife become murderer
@watchmejumpstart alright calm down KBW. You need to finish watching the video, they have found nothing on him. Just cause he doesn't know anything going on doesn't automatically imply He's "complicit" or however you put it. He just had a woman handle his business that's all. Some dudes are like that. I don't really care to argue when the video shows that so finish it up and have a good day.
@@ZlyJaszczomp damn, guess I'm guilty of not walking the dog cause my girlfriend didn't do it this morning. Idk man was that a joke?