I can hear your 8 hour video playing through the wall. My son absolutely loves it Scott. I do too! ❤ I think you sent one of the panelists into a 16 hour hibernation. 😂 You're the best. 🙏🏴
And he loves talking about them. He likes it too much maybe we should keep a very close eye on him we might catch some bright red flags "around" how he acts. Look out Scott we are on to you. Lol
Thanks for answering my question. I asked because a person with Asperger's asked me to point out behaviors that were irritating people. She and I are friends, so I tried to help her. One day, I was rushing to get to class, and she just kept talking, even following me into the hallway. Since this was one of those behaviors that was driving people crazy, I stopped, gently put my hands on her shoulders, and said, "***, when someone is leaning away from you, trying to walk away, or walking away, it's time to stop talking." Her face lit up, and she said, "Oh, thank you!" - - It occurred to me that teaching people who are on the spectrum simple body language cues might help them socially. By the way, she is brilliant and is working on her doctorate. She is also one of the best people I know.
Some people with autism are excellent at pattern matching - crazy good at it but also experience difficulty with body language because people's body language often contradicts the words they speak. Your idea would have been very helpful for me when I was young because I couldn't figure out why people were lying so frequently.
@@catedempsey5707 Perhaps, you could find someone you trust who could point out behaviors to you - - kindly. It did help my friend. I loved her just the way she was, but others didn't understand. You are so right. She didn't understand when people lied.
@@elainetise4535 I am now 54 and have been a barrister (trial attorney) for a quarter of a century. Things are going well in terms of being able to spot liars and now I have insight as to motivations...
Hey Scott, East Tennessee English teacher here, linguistics track. Love, LOVE, your channel and The Behavior Panel. Here's the Question: when/if you analyze your own body language, what do you notice? I find that your tight, succinct hand gestures would definitely be part of your baseline. Their compact rhythmic movements are persuasive, without the sound! Funny, my major professor in 1998, when I was choosing my thesis topic, said body language "was dead," that there was nothing new to be said about it. Boy was he wrong!! So glad to have your spot on methods so available. You were especially helpful during COVID-19 teaching when I had to learn how to "read" my students behaviors via video conference. What a difference your tools and techniques made. Thank you!
I use body language during Zoom calls with clients and regulatory agencies. Specifically, I use mirroring and matching, and I also use body language and facial expressions to convey agreement, disagreement, confusion, etc. while others are speaking. I like to watch people when I’m out and about, and I’m always amazed how couples or groups of people match each other, even in things as basic as how they walk. Despite having followed you and TBP since Depp vs Heard, and even after reading your book and spending a couple of days with you all in Vegas, I still find it very difficult to “use “body language. Usually when I am speaking with someone, I am too busy either thinking about how to answer (e.g., a scientific question from a client) or feeling self-conscious to pay attention to the other person’s body language. Maybe someday it will become second nature. Thank you for sharing your super power and making me lol at least 3 times during every video. 😊 P. S. She’s an idiot. Your hat is awesome.
I close my eyes often when talking, but not due to smugness, sometimes it’s when I’m trying to focus. People with ADHD & Autism will often close their eyes or look away when talking to you (even when they’re masking they have to keep reminding themselves to look at you).
I think The Behavior Panel should do some sort of game show episode or some other "deceive me" challenge show to see who would win. That would be some entertainment right there!
I love that you are the go to expert on Psychopaths & thank you for sharing your knowledge so beautifully to help protect us 🥰🥰🥰& spot those evil things
Youre a good man, Scott Rouse. You're willing to sacrifice your time to help others and being willing to help the police is huge. You could save somebody's life and never realize it!
I noticed something that my therapist confirmed. When being over bearing, or being pleased by his manipulation he puffs all up and looks large. If you call them out they shrink into a much smaller slumped victim.
On airport security, I took pre-mission training at Aviano air base in southern Italy in early 2015. My wife travelled with me, and at Brindisi airport, I pointed out the airport security dressed in plain clothes. We're experienced travellers and speak in French. We were stopped, questioned, and released. So it's not just nervous people that risk being stopped. The observant are noticed as well. These people are professional !
The looking in the eyes thing reminds me of Curb Your Enthusiasm's recurring gag of Larry David staring deeply in someone's eyes while trying to determine if they're lying
I really enjoy listening to you guys! You are very Interesting and cover some very interesting topics as well as analyze some INTERESTING people!!! OMG!! Yeah, I agree with the comments above ...if I was guilty of something I wouldn't want to have u guys interrogate or analyze me!!! My father was a policeman, and as a teenager, I got away with NOTHING!!! 😮😂😮
Years ago, we had 7 teens in our blended family. At first, I would second-guess myself if I thought they were lying. I learned to trust my gut, and I would just say, "You're lying." My 47 year old stepson recently asked me how I knew he was lying. lol. I guess I just observed over my life. Now, I teach high school. I have one boy that seldom tells the truth but looks like an angel. One thing teen prevaricators do is point to someone else who "did it - not them." lol. Retiring in June. Also, learned from Judge Judy, keep them talking. They'll give themselves up.
To me, body language is most useful to spot how comfortable or uncomfortable people feel. That's when I realise at least that I notice it much more and try to intervene, for example in team meetings, when I see that someone feels misunderstood or is not satisfied with an answer. It's a very useful tool to me to detect, if someone's not feeling alright, but also if someone is putting on an act, trying to manipulate me or to see, what someone's thinking about my behavior.
The Harrison Ford finger! I've noticed a lot of people deal with interruptions by using what we called "broken record" in assertiveness training. You repeat exactly the words until they let you complete the sentence. I've seen this work well in TV interviews with many panelists.
I've seen the glee in their eyes and the twitch of a smile when I told them about something going wrong even though the words from their lips were sympathetic. Made my skin crawl.
I had a coworker/boss that couldn’t look people in the eyes. He would always look at my chest area, like at my sternum. He wasn’t checking me out. He just had an issue looking people in the face. I think he may have been on the spectrum. Great guy, but could make people feel weird if they didn’t know him.
My ex husband would lie because he believed it was a game. He even bragged to me that he loved to lie to people just to see what they knew. I never knew where I stood with him after we got married. Before then, he was a perfect guy. Yes he had flaws but I accepted and loved him for who he was. I learned after we got married that those four years of dating were lies. He was giving me back what I was giving him. Recently I asked him why did he change right after we got married. He said because he wasn’t courting me anymore. Well we courted again for the divorce just a different kind of court.
Same here. Once we got married my husband suddenly couldn't do dishes, cook, clean. Do laundry, things he could do before the ring was on the finger. Then he tried CV to control me, food, work, reading material, tv watching. 4 years and only living together only 2 of those, the ring was off the finger and he was out the door.
I respect and appreciate what you guys do.. interrogators taking these predators off the streets..thus saving others lives.. you don't have to be nervous Scott.. another humble hero.. thank you for what you do ❤❤❤
Scott, so thrilled to have learned about you here and TBP. I’m relatively new to UA-cam, I gravitated to the site because of my life long fascination with the criminal mind. Found Grizzly True Crime, fell in deep like with Gisela and the way she handles her content … through Gisela, I heard about TBP, which led me here! I recently decided to further my studies, late in life at 55 years old, into the many facets of the criminal mind and behavior. Things are so different from when I graduated in 1991 with a MA in Psychology… I’m learning a ton of new stuff!! Essentially, and in a long winded manner, I am Thanking You… I’m reveling in the information you’re providing and look forward to participating in the offered coursework. Hope your days are kind to you!🌼
No Scott 😂😅 Mark, Greg, and Chase 😂 would definitely know if you fib with them.. it's fun with them ,the behavioral panel you are a big part of the panel.. you 'all are a great team 😊
😅 Hahaa that was hilarious! But it's a very good sign too. If he had already lied to them in the past and got away with it, he would have lots of confidence that he could do it once more. If he had tried but failed, then he would have too little confidence in not getting caught again. So, the fact he kept hesitating means he truly doesn't know how it would go because pretty much he's been honest to the guys. Lovely! 💖
I agree with your shudder when talking about Botox. I watched a movie last week that would have been good, except the main actress had used Botox to the point her face didn't move. It was unnerving, especially when she tried to express grief. When I talk to people in everyday life who have used Botox extensively, I find it distracting. With the emphasis that our culture places on staying young, I understand why people use it, but *in my opinion*, I think wrinkles look better. An expressive face holds a unique beauty. Good show!
I find actors and extreme botox a very strange combination. All that training on the subtleties of showing emotion and thoughts and undercurrents and what the character may be trying to hide...and then you paralyse the very muscles that you need!
My ex-husband was very controlling and was "going to fix me" , well i wasn't aware of that, but my roommate was. She didn't tell me because she asked if i would have believed her. Not sure, but she didn't want lose our friendship, and she was right, i wouldn't have believed her.
LOL the first question reminds me of when I was a kid. My sister swore that if I lied I would laugh. So when she was suspicious of something I say, it made me laugh even when I was telling the truth. Just this serious suspicious look on her face would crack me up. So she'd always believed that I was lying even though I wasn't. And the more suspicious she was, the more it made me laugh 😂😂
Would you say that learning body language is kind of like unlearning social niceties? I’m reading Joe Navarro’s book “what every body is saying” and it’s all stuff I know in my gut and could see and call out as a kid and teen, but I feel like the last decade or so of my life (30-40 years old) I’ve suddenly had those instincts conditioned out of me - I give the benefit of the doubt to people who definitely don’t deserve it. I’ve found that I’m projecting too much of my own issues - the desire for compassion, understanding, and the benefit of the doubt - onto others to the point that I talk myself out of what I’m seeing. It’s occurred to me that it was easier for me to call it out as a kid and teen because when you’re young you can be openly antisocial; teen angst insulated me from feeling bad about making judgment calls. At 40, I can’t quite bring myself to make those calls in the same way that I used to. As I’ve been learning more, it’s made me wonder - is learning body language really a sort of UNlearning?
Storytelling is a dying art. Scott you are great at it but you always edit yourself. PLEASE introduce some segments of yourself telling stories. It's obvious that you have a million stories to tell but you always shy back. Body language is great and all, .BUT REAL LIFE STORIES -from someone who actually has somethin' to say, and who can actually do it would be AWESOME!!.... : )
@judiday5316 I just started a cool story telling class from Casey Rosen. He is so kind, hysterical, and brilliant! I’m trying to track down his book “Your Story, Well Told” as I have a feeling it’s more of the same. ☺️ Thought I’d share. 💘
Awe, nice of you for helping up sheriff departments for nothing, it's so sweet n delightful. As always thanks for teaching a lot more about body language, and the 8 hour sleeping video that you provided is great too, I have difficulty in sleeping, after hearing the first one, I enjoyed a deep sleep. You should consider urself as a sleep specialist, too.❤
Scott, when I was a little boy I was very sensitive, and I think I started studying body language as long as I have been alive and can remember. Whenever I go against my gut feelings I get burned. How can you learn to trust your gut instinct??? However, as much as I think I know, I have learned a lot from you and your friends.
Hi Sassy Scott! I love your videos. I liked the question about comedians and enjoy learning about you. But yes, Martin Short is hilarious! I LOVE him in Father of the Bride! 😂 When I was little I would rewind his parts on the VCR just to watch them over and over again. Especially combined with Steve Martin's part, it just made it even funnier. Laughing is the best medicine, isn't it Scott???? Do you agree? 😊
Peter Hyatt is the only other person I will watch for this type of subject besides you, Chase, Greg and Mark. Yes he is statement anyslsis but combined with what you guys have taught me, with my intution, I'm the one my friends will come to for advice on other people in their lives bc they all have said to me more than once "you saw this coming." Anyways, In my head you 5 guys are the most respectable individuals on UA-cam by FAR. I've tried to watch some other channels, but after seeing every episode of your show and buying you guys books and stuff, when I watch other channels I catch myself thinking "Scott wouldn't say that" 😂 and I change it.
I also like Martin DeCoder for language analysis. He is so dry!!! Hilarious, and full of tips that have, along with you guys and intensive learning about how Narcissism really functions, completely transformed the way I see the world. I can't believe how NAIVE I have been until 3 years ago. Thanks for helping me save my life❤
I like what you have to say much of the time. Your tone is calm and engaging and your topics are interesting. Still... When I was being interviewed by the RCMP at 48 years of age to talk about an incident when I was 12, I had the exact same feelings I had with my mother when I tried to tell her back in the day about stepfather. I don't know whether they do it deliberately because they hate children, or, they forgot empathy, original communication source. You should be able to tell a 48-year-old woman isn't lying. When you have empathy you can read through anyone. When you do not have empathy you may be a psychopath projector...you see in victims something you want to kill. You have empathy for their abuser. Literally, the possessed want to kill the light. The light is the truth in case you don't know. The demons at large live-in human bodies and live amongst civilization. They are wolves in sheep's clothing and they are everywhere. I called them the educated authority Army. One has to have empathy to know who is who in the times coming. Do you know why people take the job they do? Does a doctor take a job because he wants to be a healer any more than a priest wants to? No.. that's not what they do. People have jobs and we forget what is under the costume? I just hope people are okay. I am afraid I can't trust anybody right now, since our imaginations are the manifestor of reality, God knows what people watch in Hollywood's graven images depicting all sorts of lifestyles and the sense of stimulation. Well, blessed be the poor in spirit who were never believed when they spoke the truth about the evil among Us. Artificial intelligence cannot sense emotional chaos coming to take down the simulation. Folks will be shorted out when they find out who is who when the masks come off. Fantasy of fun became a hideous Babylon. Most of the crime stories out there are CIA psychological terrorism. Media loves to have us imagine. Am I wrong about media? Cuz it feels to me they're trying to scare me everyday all day long. Be good to everybody you never know why people do what they do or for what reason. The only thing that matters at the end of the day is how we feel about how we conducted our lives in this ego simulation. Life is a lot simpler than people think.
This is the 2nd time I've fallen asleep listening to you!! Thanks for that...I have lifelong problems with insomnia. I did try listening to your guided meditation, but it didn't have the same effect...
Some men would be insulted if you told them you fall asleep listening to them, but Scott knows how soothing his voice is to a lot of us fans! I make up a playlist of his episodes, that total 15 or 20 hours, and use them to sleep. I have chronic pain, and have had trouble sleeping for decades. When I wear my big headphones to bed, and I have to get up a couple of times for pain meds thru the night, but then Scott's beautiful voice lulls me back to sleep. It's interesting to listen to everything he's saying, and I'm learning while I sleep, but his voice is soothing and is a perfect distraction while I fall asleep again. I love him so much! Amber is a lucky lady!!
Body language is most useful for me with my kids. I try and teach my daughter on things and she pretends she isnt in to it but i know she is. I love it. Also, good on you Scott for helping out the police force when you can, you're awesome.
Scott, I just got out of a narcissist relationship. We had been friends since High School so I thought I knew him. Question: Is love bombing how narcissist start out, and gradually start gaslighting and become meaner? Also wanted to add, they made their whole family hate me. I had no idea all the talk going on behind my back. 😢 Btw, just made BBQ short ribs. Love you Scott ❤
If he is a narcissist they all work from the same handbook, loving, devalue then discard, repeat. I find it weird that they all work from the same handbook regardless of culture and believes. Psychopaths dont do this for some reason they usually have someone they like.(my opinion). Peace, its a long and interesting hurtful journey, dont go back it gets worse.
I went through this a few times. The family is what is called their flying monkeys, they've been brainwashed to be on his side, and it works. Look into triangulation.
Hey, there was a great comic down in Houston, Sean Rouse. Brian Regan is a GREAT study in bidy and vice. Martin Short is the greatest of them. I caught some recent strange expressions on his face I caught at an awards show.
I just found this channel and was wondering if it would be weird to say that I wanted to add it to my fall asleep playlist, then found that you'd already made some. You guys have really got me a few times on your other channel, really informative not the best dreams x
I'm happy you've said you still want to learn & keep up to date. I've worked with junior docs in training, for 25+yrs. My old boss was the Dean of medicine. He was 65 when he retired. But he said its still important to keep the brain going, so after a full career in medicine, he went on and did 2 more degrees. He was an OBE too, but after retirement, would only tell people who asked, that he used to be a doctor. No more than that. Lovely man. One of his degrees afterwards, was law. At his age, he still went on to work voluntarily as a lawyer in a citizens advice bureau. Never stop learning -its a good thing! X
@@ScottRouse hoped you would like that. He lived & worked here in the UK, and had a holiday home in Florida. We thought he would retire there but nope-he wanted to carry on learning. The other degree he did was Art History. He was a delight to have as a boss-an encyclopaedic brain and a cheeky little sense of humour. He was funny.
Thank you Scott … peoples behavior has ALWAYS had me intrigued… thanks to you and this video I now know where to start. 😝I appreciate you sharing your knowledge 🙏🏻🥰
This was really interesting. Thank you. Especially the stuff about the different personalities and how specific personality types tend to do the same things. I have a narcissist in my family and have been able to understand and predict their behaviour a lot better just by understanding how narcissists in general behave. Would love to learn more about the different personality types, it's so interesting. Definitely gonna look for that book.
Well, it certainly brings up some questions. If it's easy to lie when there are no consequences, is that why people who have 'personality disorders' get away with lying? Because they don't really care and don't feel like they did anything wrong?
To answer your question, Scott: I find body language most useful to get an idea what people are all about. I once had a "friendship" with a covert narcissist and it was a really shocking experience when he turned on me, so I started to get into psychology and body language so that I got the tools to see them coming next time
I agree that when your nose is itchy it does not mean you are lying. Everyone knows that if your nose is itchy you are going to kiss a fool. Ha ha ha you have to use it to tell the future.
Love TBP, and you are my favorite! Could you please turn profile to show your nose? Love a great nose. Matt Craven has the best nose ever, unless your nose is better. Call this the great nose challenge! Thanks, Michael Ann 🤗
I am not as interested in spotting lies as I am in spotting the truth. I feel like I was colorblind before I started watching UA-cam videos about body language and behavior analysis now I see in technicolor. For instance when someone tells someone they love you and you can tell they are being truthful it is so beautiful and moving.
This'll be good! I know from TBP that you have a strong interest and understanding of psychopaths. I didn’t realise the importance of the info on such personalities until I recently read Without Conscience. Knowing the traits is very valuable. It helps to recognise them and avoid disasters. Interestingly, my (estranged) brother had most of the traits as a child. It explains a lot. I’m looking forward to what you have to say here.
Hi I enjoy your q and a videos. In one of them someone asked about recognizing expressions. LOOMIS' Fun with a Pencil ( ancient book) page 25 has drawings of 20 expressions. They are really clear, obvious and labeled. I practice drawing them a lot. Inadvertently, my grasp of morphing and micro expressions has greatly improved. Thanks again.
I was working at a health clinic and heard about the medical shows having x-rays upside down. I KIND OF watched them again afterwards but it would be a distraction LOL!
28:31 ❤ So insightful Thank you, Scott so grateful for your knowledge, being the catalyst of getting TBP, content and humor. CONGRATS ON MERRIT! Especially love your knowledge of psychopaths, narcissists, cluster Bs.
This was really fun and interesting! I'm also fascinated with psychopaths and narcissists. My favorite thing is the percentage of lying you could get away with! Ok we totally want to see you try to lie to the other guys during a show! Even a small itty-bitty lie that is inconsequential because they know you and so it doesn't have to be high stakes. Then we can come back here and see how it went! For bets I think Greg might know or be suspicious, but you might be able to get it past Mark and Chase lol.
Right with absolutes. Taught in basic psychology. There's ALWAYS an exception while mentally noting it just in case it's useful later on ..... I THINK.
I can hear your 8 hour video playing through the wall. My son absolutely loves it Scott. I do too! ❤ I think you sent one of the panelists into a 16 hour hibernation. 😂 You're the best. 🙏🏴
Michael Caine explained how he acts drunk. He said, I make it that I'm drunk and try to act as if I'm not drunk. Genius.
Nailed it. 👍
I love to hear you talk about psychopaths, Scott. 😆
Me too!
And he loves talking about them. He likes it too much maybe we should keep a very close eye on him we might catch some bright red flags "around" how he acts. Look out Scott we are on to you. Lol
Thanks for answering my question. I asked because a person with Asperger's asked me to point out behaviors that were irritating people. She and I are friends, so I tried to help her. One day, I was rushing to get to class, and she just kept talking, even following me into the hallway. Since this was one of those behaviors that was driving people crazy, I stopped, gently put my hands on her shoulders, and said, "***, when someone is leaning away from you, trying to walk away, or walking away, it's time to stop talking." Her face lit up, and she said, "Oh, thank you!" - - It occurred to me that teaching people who are on the spectrum simple body language cues might help them socially. By the way, she is brilliant and is working on her doctorate. She is also one of the best people I know.
Some people with autism are excellent at pattern matching - crazy good at it but also experience difficulty with body language because people's body language often contradicts the words they speak. Your idea would have been very helpful for me when I was young because I couldn't figure out why people were lying so frequently.
@@catedempsey5707 Perhaps, you could find someone you trust who could point out behaviors to you - - kindly. It did help my friend. I loved her just the way she was, but others didn't understand. You are so right. She didn't understand when people lied.
@@elainetise4535 I am now 54 and have been a barrister (trial attorney) for a quarter of a century. Things are going well in terms of being able to spot liars and now I have insight as to motivations...
Hey Scott, East Tennessee English teacher here, linguistics track. Love, LOVE, your channel and The Behavior Panel. Here's the Question: when/if you analyze your own body language, what do you notice? I find that your tight, succinct hand gestures would definitely be part of your baseline. Their compact rhythmic movements are persuasive, without the sound!
Funny, my major professor in 1998, when I was choosing my thesis topic, said body language "was dead," that there was nothing new to be said about it.
Boy was he wrong!! So glad to have your spot on methods so available. You were especially helpful during COVID-19 teaching when I had to learn how to "read" my students behaviors via video conference. What a difference your tools and techniques made. Thank you!
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I use body language during Zoom calls with clients and regulatory agencies. Specifically, I use mirroring and matching, and I also use body language and facial expressions to convey agreement, disagreement, confusion, etc. while others are speaking.
I like to watch people when I’m out and about, and I’m always amazed how couples or groups of people match each other, even in things as basic as how they walk.
Despite having followed you and TBP since Depp vs Heard, and even after reading your book and spending a couple of days with you all in Vegas, I still find it very difficult to “use “body language. Usually when I am speaking with someone, I am too busy either thinking about how to answer (e.g., a scientific question from a client) or feeling self-conscious to pay attention to the other person’s body language. Maybe someday it will become second nature.
Thank you for sharing your super power and making me lol at least 3 times during every video. 😊
P. S. She’s an idiot. Your hat is awesome.
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I close my eyes often when talking, but not due to smugness, sometimes it’s when I’m trying to focus. People with ADHD & Autism will often close their eyes or look away when talking to you (even when they’re masking they have to keep reminding themselves to look at you).
My brother was on the autism spectrum, he never looked anyone in the eye when he talked to you.
Narrative, inflection, repetitive moves . . . a rocking chair, pendulous motion, like a lullaby.
I just realized my ex was a psychopath 😅
He checked all the boxes 🤦🏼♀️
Your heading made it click in my brain
I’ve had experience of people enjoying me being scared. It’s so freeing to let go of fear , it’s life changing x
That is so awesome that you donate personal training to your local law enforcement.
I think The Behavior Panel should do some sort of game show episode or some other "deceive me" challenge show to see who would win. That would be some entertainment right there!
I agree!
Awesome idea
If there's no stress or consequences to getting caught in a lie.............. you're probably playing the game wrong.
You are the coolest cat on UA-cam. Love your videos ❤
Thank you. 🙂
You shook your head "No" when you said you could lie straight to your buddies faces on TBP. Busted 😂
That was a confirmation nod. Ha! How’s that for struggling?
@@ScottRouse Hah! That's great. I'm geeking out that you replied. Thanks, Scott!
Love Martin Short in the Three Amigos! When he's riding round and round El Guapo, cackling and throwing his gun from hand to hand.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Scott, you are such a good guy❤
Thank you Julie. 🙂
I love that you are the go to expert on Psychopaths & thank you for sharing your knowledge so beautifully to help protect us 🥰🥰🥰& spot those evil things
Youre a good man, Scott Rouse. You're willing to sacrifice your time to help others and being willing to help the police is huge. You could save somebody's life and never realize it!
I love Scott eyes ❤️ he has kind beautiful eyes ❤
Thank you for sharing your time and knowledge with us.
I noticed something that my therapist confirmed. When being over bearing, or being pleased by his manipulation he puffs all up and looks large. If you call them out they shrink into a much smaller slumped victim.
On airport security, I took pre-mission training at Aviano air base in southern Italy in early 2015. My wife travelled with me, and at Brindisi airport, I pointed out the airport security dressed in plain clothes. We're experienced travellers and speak in French.
We were stopped, questioned, and released.
So it's not just nervous people that risk being stopped. The observant are noticed as well. These people are professional !
The looking in the eyes thing reminds me of Curb Your Enthusiasm's recurring gag of Larry David staring deeply in someone's eyes while trying to determine if they're lying
I WATCH BEHAVIOUR PANEL. Glad I found your chanel.
Thank you Leslie. I’m glad you found it too. 🙂
I really enjoy listening to you guys! You are very Interesting and cover some very interesting topics as well as analyze some INTERESTING people!!! OMG!! Yeah, I agree with the comments above ...if I was guilty of something I wouldn't want to have u guys interrogate or analyze me!!! My father was a policeman, and as a teenager, I got away with NOTHING!!!
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*I LOVE the psychopath content, they're so fascinating to me. Scott you're incredible at what you do, love the content 💕*
Thanks Claire. I’m having the best time doing these. Let me know if you have a question. 🙂👍
I love that you offer some of your time for free to train law enforcement.
If they need it and there’s no money for it, I’m there. 👍
@@ScottRouse ❤️
Years ago, we had 7 teens in our blended family. At first, I would second-guess myself if I thought they were lying. I learned to trust my gut, and I would just say, "You're lying." My 47 year old stepson recently asked me how I knew he was lying. lol. I guess I just observed over my life. Now, I teach high school. I have one boy that seldom tells the truth but looks like an angel. One thing teen prevaricators do is point to someone else who "did it - not them." lol. Retiring in June. Also, learned from Judge Judy, keep them talking. They'll give themselves up.
To me, body language is most useful to spot how comfortable or uncomfortable people feel. That's when I realise at least that I notice it much more and try to intervene, for example in team meetings, when I see that someone feels misunderstood or is not satisfied with an answer. It's a very useful tool to me to detect, if someone's not feeling alright, but also if someone is putting on an act, trying to manipulate me or to see, what someone's thinking about my behavior.
The Harrison Ford finger! I've noticed a lot of people deal with interruptions by using what we called "broken record" in assertiveness training. You repeat exactly the words until they let you complete the sentence. I've seen this work well in TV interviews with many panelists.
I've seen the glee in their eyes and the twitch of a smile when I told them about something going wrong even though the words from their lips were sympathetic. Made my skin crawl.
Once one of my parents started laughing when they made me cry. Made my skin crawl.
I had a coworker/boss that couldn’t look people in the eyes. He would always look at my chest area, like at my sternum. He wasn’t checking me out. He just had an issue looking people in the face. I think he may have been on the spectrum. Great guy, but could make people feel weird if they didn’t know him.
My ex husband would lie because he believed it was a game.
He even bragged to me that he loved to lie to people just to see what they knew.
I never knew where I stood with him after we got married. Before then, he was a perfect guy. Yes he had flaws but I accepted and loved him for who he was. I learned after we got married that those four years of dating were lies. He was giving me back what I was giving him. Recently I asked him why did he change right after we got married. He said because he wasn’t courting me anymore.
Well we courted again for the divorce just a different kind of court.
Same here. Once we got married my husband suddenly couldn't do dishes, cook, clean. Do laundry, things he could do before the ring was on the finger. Then he tried CV to control me, food, work, reading material, tv watching. 4 years and only living together only 2 of those, the ring was off the finger and he was out the door.
My ex did the same thing, woke up the next day with a different person🤦🏼♀️
I respect and appreciate what you guys do.. interrogators taking these predators off the streets..thus saving others lives.. you don't have to be nervous Scott.. another humble hero.. thank you for what you do ❤❤❤
It's the KOOLEST KAT in the Behavioral scene!! Much respect and even more appreciated Mr. Scott❤😊
Yay! Thank you. 🙂
Scott, so thrilled to have learned about you here and TBP. I’m relatively new to UA-cam, I gravitated to the site because of my life long fascination with the criminal mind. Found Grizzly True Crime, fell in deep like with Gisela and the way she handles her content … through Gisela, I heard about TBP, which led me here! I recently decided to further my studies, late in life at 55 years old, into the many facets of the criminal mind and behavior. Things are so different from when I graduated in 1991 with a MA in Psychology… I’m learning a ton of new stuff!! Essentially, and in a long winded manner, I am Thanking You… I’m reveling in the information you’re providing and look forward to participating in the offered coursework. Hope your days are kind to you!🌼
Where’s the psychopath fear bit? I must have missed it.
Hey scott, watching from my oncologist treatment
Ha! That’s awesome. Hang in there. The boredom fades slowly but surely. 👍🙂
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WOOOOOW ❤️ I think my question was read 🙋♀️thank you Scott ❤️
You sure are welcome.🙂
No Scott 😂😅 Mark, Greg, and Chase 😂 would definitely know if you fib with them.. it's fun with them ,the behavioral panel you are a big part of the panel.. you 'all are a great team 😊
You're so funny. You went from 100% confidence on lying to your TBP cohosts , to 80% then 75%. LOL
The more I think about it, the less confident I get.
😅 Hahaa that was hilarious! But it's a very good sign too. If he had already lied to them in the past and got away with it, he would have lots of confidence that he could do it once more. If he had tried but failed, then he would have too little confidence in not getting caught again. So, the fact he kept hesitating means he truly doesn't know how it would go because pretty much he's been honest to the guys. Lovely! 💖
I've been watching a reality show to practice and it really adds fun to it.
"I reckon I could lie to their Fayyce!" 😂😂
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@@ScottRouse 🤣... that's the appropriate emoji if you tried to lie to Chase and he just quietly locks onto you with his jedi stare. Then this one 💩
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I agree with your shudder when talking about Botox. I watched a movie last week that would have been good, except the main actress had used Botox to the point her face didn't move. It was unnerving, especially when she tried to express grief. When I talk to people in everyday life who have used Botox extensively, I find it distracting. With the emphasis that our culture places on staying young, I understand why people use it, but *in my opinion*, I think wrinkles look better. An expressive face holds a unique beauty. Good show!
I find actors and extreme botox a very strange combination. All that training on the subtleties of showing emotion and thoughts and undercurrents and what the character may be trying to hide...and then you paralyse the very muscles that you need!
@@jwsuicides8095 Well said
So agree 💯
Second City was the Bom!
Such Talent!❤
Yes it was. So sad it’s not anymore. 🙁
Your fair, impartial and nuanced explanation is appreciated.
My ex-husband was very controlling and was "going to fix me" , well i wasn't aware of that, but my roommate was. She didn't tell me because she asked if i would have believed her. Not sure, but she didn't want lose our friendship, and she was right, i wouldn't have believed her.
LOL the first question reminds me of when I was a kid. My sister swore that if I lied I would laugh. So when she was suspicious of something I say, it made me laugh even when I was telling the truth. Just this serious suspicious look on her face would crack me up. So she'd always believed that I was lying even though I wasn't. And the more suspicious she was, the more it made me laugh 😂😂
TY “tan daddy” :) pretty impressive. Remaining positive this is all for good.
Would you say that learning body language is kind of like unlearning social niceties? I’m reading Joe Navarro’s book “what every body is saying” and it’s all stuff I know in my gut and could see and call out as a kid and teen, but I feel like the last decade or so of my life (30-40 years old) I’ve suddenly had those instincts conditioned out of me - I give the benefit of the doubt to people who definitely don’t deserve it. I’ve found that I’m projecting too much of my own issues - the desire for compassion, understanding, and the benefit of the doubt - onto others to the point that I talk myself out of what I’m seeing. It’s occurred to me that it was easier for me to call it out as a kid and teen because when you’re young you can be openly antisocial; teen angst insulated me from feeling bad about making judgment calls. At 40, I can’t quite bring myself to make those calls in the same way that I used to. As I’ve been learning more, it’s made me wonder - is learning body language really a sort of UNlearning?
😄 They got a pretty dang good baseline on you ~
Storytelling is a dying art. Scott you are great at it but you always edit yourself. PLEASE introduce some segments of yourself telling stories. It's obvious that you have a million stories to tell but you always shy back. Body language is great and all, .BUT REAL LIFE STORIES -from someone who actually has somethin' to say, and who can actually do it would be AWESOME!!.... : )
Thank you. I’ll see what I can do. 🙂
@judiday5316 I just started a cool story telling class from Casey Rosen. He is so kind, hysterical, and brilliant! I’m trying to track down his book “Your Story, Well Told” as I have a feeling it’s more of the same. ☺️ Thought I’d share. 💘
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Awe, nice of you for helping up sheriff departments for nothing, it's so sweet n delightful. As always thanks for teaching a lot more about body language, and the 8 hour sleeping video that you provided is great too, I have difficulty in sleeping, after hearing the first one, I enjoyed a deep sleep. You should consider urself as a sleep specialist, too.❤
Scott, when I was a little boy I was very sensitive, and I think I started studying body language as long as I have been alive and can remember. Whenever I go against my gut feelings I get burned. How can you learn to trust your gut instinct??? However, as much as I think I know, I have learned a lot from you and your friends.
Get you scott and your fancy editing. Love it ❤
“Throw it in the ‘Goog…” 🤣🤣🤣
Like Mark Normand's "give it a goog" (Normand's a great, young comic).
@@nacetroy I need to check him out! ☺️
He’s awesome.
8:00 i start to lose it... Thank you to whoever asked that question... 😂😂😂
Hi Sassy Scott! I love your videos. I liked the question about comedians and enjoy learning about you.
But yes, Martin Short is hilarious! I LOVE him in Father of the Bride! 😂 When I was little I would rewind his parts on the VCR just to watch them over and over again. Especially combined with Steve Martin's part, it just made it even funnier.
Laughing is the best medicine, isn't it Scott???? Do you agree? 😊
Peter Hyatt is the only other person I will watch for this type of subject besides you, Chase, Greg and Mark. Yes he is statement anyslsis but combined with what you guys have taught me, with my intution, I'm the one my friends will come to for advice on other people in their lives bc they all have said to me more than once "you saw this coming."
Anyways, In my head you 5 guys are the most respectable individuals on UA-cam by FAR.
I've tried to watch some other channels, but after seeing every episode of your show and buying you guys books and stuff, when I watch other channels I catch myself thinking "Scott wouldn't say that" 😂 and I change it.
I also like Martin DeCoder for language analysis. He is so dry!!! Hilarious, and full of tips that have, along with you guys and intensive learning about how Narcissism really functions, completely transformed the way I see the world. I can't believe how NAIVE I have been until 3 years ago. Thanks for helping me save my life❤
@@sunnyadams5842 omg silly me! 🤪 How could I forget Martin?! Yes he's dry but he comes up with some good ones 🤣
I like what you have to say much of the time. Your tone is calm and engaging and your topics are interesting. Still...
When I was being interviewed by the RCMP at 48 years of age to talk about an incident when I was 12, I had the exact same feelings I had with my mother when I tried to tell her back in the day about stepfather.
I don't know whether they do it deliberately because they hate children, or, they forgot empathy, original communication source. You should be able to tell a 48-year-old woman isn't lying.
When you have empathy you can read through anyone.
When you do not have empathy you may be a psychopath projector...you see in victims something you want to kill. You have empathy for their abuser.
Literally, the possessed want to kill the light. The light is the truth in case you don't know. The demons at large live-in human bodies and live amongst civilization. They are wolves in sheep's clothing and they are everywhere. I called them the educated authority Army.
One has to have empathy to know who is who in the times coming. Do you know why people take the job they do? Does a doctor take a job because he wants to be a healer any more than a priest wants to? No.. that's not what they do. People have jobs and we forget what is under the costume?
I just hope people are okay. I am afraid I can't trust anybody right now, since our imaginations are the manifestor of reality, God knows what people watch in Hollywood's graven images depicting all sorts of lifestyles and the sense of stimulation.
Well, blessed be the poor in spirit who were never believed when they spoke the truth about the evil among Us.
Artificial intelligence cannot sense emotional chaos coming to take down the simulation. Folks will be shorted out when they find out who is who when the masks come off.
Fantasy of fun became a hideous Babylon. Most of the crime stories out there are CIA psychological terrorism. Media loves to have us imagine.
Am I wrong about media? Cuz it feels to me they're trying to scare me everyday all day long.
Be good to everybody you never know why people do what they do or for what reason. The only thing that matters at the end of the day is how we feel about how we conducted our lives in this ego simulation.
Life is a lot simpler than people think.
It sure is. 👍
This is the 2nd time I've fallen asleep listening to you!! Thanks for that...I have lifelong problems with insomnia. I did try listening to your guided meditation, but it didn't have the same effect...
Yes!
Some men would be insulted if you told them you fall asleep listening to them, but Scott knows how soothing his voice is to a lot of us fans! I make up a playlist of his episodes, that total 15 or 20 hours, and use them to sleep. I have chronic pain, and have had trouble sleeping for decades. When I wear my big headphones to bed, and I have to get up a couple of times for pain meds thru the night, but then Scott's beautiful voice lulls me back to sleep. It's interesting to listen to everything he's saying, and I'm learning while I sleep, but his voice is soothing and is a perfect distraction while I fall asleep again. I love him so much! Amber is a lucky lady!!
Love peter hyate, he's amazing
80%-love it! 😄 I would love to watch you try to do it too! The best of the best in their element.
8:05 I think I could lie right to their FACES.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I❤U, Scott. You crack me up😘
Body language is most useful for me with my kids. I try and teach my daughter on things and she pretends she isnt in to it but i know she is. I love it. Also, good on you Scott for helping out the police force when you can, you're awesome.
Scott, I just got out of a narcissist relationship. We had been friends since High School so I thought I knew him. Question: Is love bombing how narcissist start out, and gradually start gaslighting and become meaner? Also wanted to add, they made their whole family hate me. I had no idea all the talk going on behind my back. 😢
Btw, just made BBQ short ribs. Love you Scott ❤
If he is a narcissist they all work from the same handbook, loving, devalue then discard, repeat. I find it weird that they all work from the same handbook regardless of culture and believes. Psychopaths dont do this for some reason they usually have someone they like.(my opinion). Peace, its a long and interesting hurtful journey, dont go back it gets worse.
I went through this a few times. The family is what is called their flying monkeys, they've been brainwashed to be on his side, and it works. Look into triangulation.
It is always fun to listen to you Scott. Give my best to your mother.
8.35 in Scotty 😂😂😂😂 your thinking hard cobber about lying to the boys, you had a little moment were you weren't sure 😂😂😂 funny as
Hey, there was a great comic down in Houston, Sean Rouse.
Brian Regan is a GREAT study in bidy and vice.
Martin Short is the greatest of them. I caught some recent strange expressions on his face I caught at an awards show.
I just found this channel and was wondering if it would be weird to say that I wanted to add it to my fall asleep playlist, then found that you'd already made some. You guys have really got me a few times on your other channel, really informative not the best dreams x
A movie about poptarts?? LMAO!!!! I'd DEFINITELY watch it but WOOOOOOW, HAHA!
Kyle Dunnigan steals the show.
I'm happy you've said you still want to learn & keep up to date. I've worked with junior docs in training, for 25+yrs. My old boss was the Dean of medicine. He was 65 when he retired. But he said its still important to keep the brain going, so after a full career in medicine, he went on and did 2 more degrees. He was an OBE too, but after retirement, would only tell people who asked, that he used to be a doctor. No more than that. Lovely man. One of his degrees afterwards, was law. At his age, he still went on to work voluntarily as a lawyer in a citizens advice bureau.
Never stop learning -its a good thing! X
Yes!!!
@@ScottRouse hoped you would like that. He lived & worked here in the UK, and had a holiday home in Florida. We thought he would retire there but nope-he wanted to carry on learning. The other degree he did was Art History. He was a delight to have as a boss-an encyclopaedic brain and a cheeky little sense of humour. He was funny.
Thank you Scott … peoples behavior has ALWAYS had me intrigued… thanks to you and this video I now know where to start. 😝I appreciate you sharing your knowledge 🙏🏻🥰
I'm taking notes Scott😊thanks❤
This was really interesting. Thank you. Especially the stuff about the different personalities and how specific personality types tend to do the same things. I have a narcissist in my family and have been able to understand and predict their behaviour a lot better just by understanding how narcissists in general behave. Would love to learn more about the different personality types, it's so interesting. Definitely gonna look for that book.
Scott, I'm shocked. How did you find us? We would have invited you if you weren't staring at us through the bushes.
We need a video where the BP tries to deceive each other. That would be a good video.
Well, it certainly brings up some questions. If it's easy to lie when there are no consequences, is that why people who have 'personality disorders' get away with lying? Because they don't really care and don't feel like they did anything wrong?
To answer your question, Scott: I find body language most useful to get an idea what people are all about. I once had a "friendship" with a covert narcissist and it was a really shocking experience when he turned on me, so I started to get into psychology and body language so that I got the tools to see them coming next time
Oooooo -- I'm curious about the course you're mentioning and how much it would cost! THANK YOU for the link!
I agree that when your nose is itchy it does not mean you are lying. Everyone knows that if your nose is itchy you are going to kiss a fool. Ha ha ha you have to use it to tell the future.
15:17 Scott--did you just say, "throw it in the Goog." 😂😂😂
Oh yeah. 👍
"The Google God" not to shorten, but food for thought.
Second time watching this. So funny. Could Scott lie to TBP and get away with it? Can you say "QUALIFIERS"? 🤣
I still think I could do it. I might try that.
Martin Short in the Three Fugitives. Comedy perfection. 🤣 - beth Blume
Another great one! 👍🏼
Thanks for answering my question! ☺️
You sure are welcome. 🙂
Are u going to do a LIVE stream Scott? I love ur expertise + would love to catch a Live so we can interact w ya! Great Show 👍👍
Martin Short….. “Clifford” I’ll never not giggle. How does he not bust out laughing.?
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Love TBP, and you are my favorite! Could you please turn profile to show your nose? Love a great nose. Matt Craven has the best nose ever, unless your nose is better. Call this the great nose challenge! Thanks, Michael Ann 🤗
Big nose? You? I have watched you for so many hours and it has never, ever crossed my mind! 🤷♀️😅
I am not as interested in spotting lies as I am in spotting the truth. I feel like I was colorblind before I started watching UA-cam videos about body language and behavior analysis now I see in technicolor. For instance when someone tells someone they love you and you can tell they are being truthful it is so beautiful and moving.
I just really enjoy listening to you talk.
Your story-time video was excellent.
Thank you so much. 🙂👍
Double dare you to attempt to pass off a lie on TBP….😊
42:41 👏 😮 👏 ❤Jawdropping and SO true, haven't heard it put that way.. 👍
This'll be good! I know from TBP that you have a strong interest and understanding of psychopaths.
I didn’t realise the importance of the info on such personalities until I recently read Without Conscience. Knowing the traits is very valuable. It helps to recognise them and avoid disasters.
Interestingly, my (estranged) brother had most of the traits as a child. It explains a lot.
I’m looking forward to what you have to say here.
Glad I found your off shoot channel!!!! Love you guys!!!!
Hi I enjoy your q and a videos. In one of them someone asked about recognizing expressions. LOOMIS' Fun with a Pencil ( ancient book) page 25 has drawings of 20 expressions. They are really clear, obvious and labeled. I practice drawing them a lot.
Inadvertently, my grasp of morphing and micro expressions has greatly improved. Thanks again.
Thank you Sir.
You sure are welcome. 🙂
I was working at a health clinic and heard about the medical shows having x-rays upside down. I KIND OF watched them again afterwards but it would be a distraction LOL!
28:31 ❤ So insightful Thank you, Scott so grateful for your knowledge, being the catalyst of getting TBP, content and humor. CONGRATS ON MERRIT! Especially love your knowledge of psychopaths, narcissists, cluster Bs.
This was really fun and interesting! I'm also fascinated with psychopaths and narcissists. My favorite thing is the percentage of lying you could get away with! Ok we totally want to see you try to lie to the other guys during a show! Even a small itty-bitty lie that is inconsequential because they know you and so it doesn't have to be high stakes. Then we can come back here and see how it went! For bets I think Greg might know or be suspicious, but you might be able to get it past Mark and Chase lol.
Right with absolutes. Taught in basic psychology. There's ALWAYS an exception while mentally noting it just in case it's useful later on ..... I THINK.